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Battling birthday blues, how do you cope?

So I have a birthday coming up this month, which means I will probably go through a period of “woe is me” my life isn’t where I want it to be yet.  I always treat birthdays like some kind of weird deadline that I somehow missed.  As if I have gone an entire year accomplishing nothing.  I know it’s completely ridiculous, but in my head, that’s how I perceive it sometimes.

Thankfully I have wonderful friends and family that always make a big deal of my birthday.  Even when I try to avoid everyone and pretend the birthday isn’t happening. They don’t let me wallow in self-pity for long.

It sounds so silly, but I admit that being single (with no real prospects) on my birthday is far worse then rolling solo any other time of the year.  Believe it or not, I handle the holidays without lamenting about my singlehood. I relish in it, even; but when my birthday approaches I almost have to fight off a case of the birthday blues .

Does being single during your birthday ever bother you?  Do you have moments when you wish that you had someone special in your life? Does it happen randomly or during a special time? How do you handle it?

What is the best way to celebrate your birthday when you are single and ready to mingle?

What is your most memorable birthday? I would love to hear about it!

423 comments Add your comment

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:58 am

Never say never…I do my best to stay away from late night meals.

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 9th, 2010
11:59 am

Just skipped a workout this morning. Dernit! (said with a satisfied smile.) :)

Charlie Wax

June 9th, 2010
12:01 pm

@leggs your fine

@red…you cool…

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 9th, 2010
12:01 pm

Taz – On the website to complete the 5K registation right now.

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
12:02 pm

@SexyC ~ BMW would finish your moniker off by saying “and most of all BELLY DANCE!”

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
12:02 pm

catching up a bit…

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
12:03 pm

Cool, CharlieWax, cuz I don’t want to come off as a hypocrite (LOL)!

Reason?

June 9th, 2010
12:03 pm

I just experienced my tenth straight birthday being single, not for lack of trying. It does suck, I’ll admit. When you reach a certain age, at least where I’m from, and you’re still single you start to get funny looks. I’ve even been asked, on my birthday, what was wrong with me for still being single. Apparently if you reach 28 and you aren’t married or at least in a committed relationship you have to explain yourself.

Jeff

June 9th, 2010
12:04 pm

Luvbug, that is a legitimate question but we sold it and split the money. I should’ve kept it. That’s one heck of a ride.

And yes the other women flirting with me in front of her was quite funny. What did they think I was going to do right there in front of my wife: Hey baby, give me your number, I’ll call you later when I’m not with the wife?

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
12:04 pm

Okay, I’ll do my part in respecting Wise Diva’s wishes…no more lewd remarks to Dreams on the blog…rest in peace nasty girl comments…rest in peace. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mrs. Tazzee the Newlywed

June 9th, 2010
12:05 pm

SCool – YAY! Don’t know if you saw on FB but a recently slimmed down TOS member is running with us too (can’t think of his online moniker for the life of me!)

Professor

June 9th, 2010
12:05 pm

@Kimmie,

LURKER is up there with the rest of the potty mouth bloggers in my book I cannot say he is any worst than the average women included. This is the home of PSH and others. I agree we do not have to go to the gutter to have fun that is why I fail to see why some of the gutter talk is accepted and other gutter talk is forbidden. If we are going to have a policy with no gutter talk it should be fair and consistent with a some “teeth” to it (they should not be allowed to blog). Some of those lurking would probably join us as well.

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 9th, 2010
12:06 pm

Um, Um, I’m thinking. TopShelf.

It's me....lurker

June 9th, 2010
12:07 pm

Apparently if you reach 28 and you aren’t married or at least in a committed relationship you have to explain yourself.

Reach? Apparently, you worry to much about what others think.

Beautiful

June 9th, 2010
12:08 pm

@WISE
how come i can’t *see all* fans on your FB page? can you fix that? thanks!

@Prof
thank you! that was so nice of you.

AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!

June 9th, 2010
12:08 pm

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
12:09 pm

#sigh lmbao!

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
12:09 pm

Hey baby, give me your number, I’ll call you later when I’m not with the wife?

Jeff – Sadly, stranger things have happened. Those women probably do it because it’s worked before.

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
12:10 pm

dag did dreams not open the blog bar heck i need the texas margarita now buddy! lol where is swiss for a good laugh! lmbao!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
12:12 pm

@Jeff ~ they were probably hoping you might be one of those many disrespectful husbands that would try to slip another his number on the sly even though he’s with his wife.

It's me....lurker

June 9th, 2010
12:12 pm

Yaaaah, my manager won’t be flying in Friday as scheduled….conflict with scheduling. Yaaaah!

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 9th, 2010
12:12 pm

Apparently if you reach 28 and you aren’t married or at least in a committed relationship you have to explain yourself.

From experience I can truthfully say you’re gonna have to get used to it b/c they will continue to ask….maybe it’s a cultural/societal thing…IDK. So I’m single w/o children and when folks(fam and strangers) here that I ALWAYS get the :shock:

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 9th, 2010
12:13 pm

should’ve been “hear”…mia culpa

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
12:14 pm

Yep the :shock:

Sassy – If you had to guess, what percentage of those :shock: looks are from raggedy folks?

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
12:15 pm

Hell, when I was 28 I don’t recall anyone asking me why I wasn’t married. Either a different generation and we didn’t care, or my memory is fading….

Charlie Wax

June 9th, 2010
12:18 pm

for those skipping workouts..sex burn 300 calories per hour session

if you skip a workout..cut your carb intake for the rest of the day

nothing but meat, veggies, and water….that is all..means no breads, pasta’s or sweets…that way you balance everything out

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
12:19 pm

#random this 4 day summer work week is great wish it was year round with mondays off vs friday lol

Professor

June 9th, 2010
12:19 pm

Leggs according to my mama back then they called you an old maid behind your back. They were a little more prim and proper back then now they get in your face and ask you. Oh yea they would also say, “Are you co-ting that means courting anyone?”

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
12:23 pm

Damn, Prof, I’m not that old were we used the word “courting” when dating. Well, not in NYC anyway!

kimmie

June 9th, 2010
12:24 pm

Professor – A little can be cute & fun, but lately it has gotten disgusting, to me anyway.

I’m glad Wise addressed it.

Professor

June 9th, 2010
12:37 pm

@Leggs did they use old maid in NYC? I know about courting Leggs? My grandma asked me if I was courting one time :shock: …I did not have a clue :???: . My daddy told her I was too young! :grin:

@Kimmie I’ve been blogging a year and it has been a bit much my entire tenure on the blog.

czBrat

June 9th, 2010
12:39 pm

Leggs, better the gentlemen should be loving on themselves than on each other :shock:
nevermind, i’ll just go sit in the corner with Sassy now.

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
12:46 pm

@ Melo: Hey!!! I must have accidently overlooked your post. As far as the pics, YOU are NOT ready!!!

Trevor0529

June 9th, 2010
12:52 pm

Good Afternoon,

I have not been truly single so I cant answer the first question. My last two birthdays I did not celebrate them with my wife but I was thankful nonetheless for simple reason of just being blessed to see another year pass so all of my birthdays are special.

The best way to celebrate your birthday when you are single and ready to mingle is doing what you want to do. Only you can define what that is. It may be a lot or a little but it is what you want to do.

LadyJ, congrats on passing your midterm and truly vibing with you.
:)

Trevor0529

June 9th, 2010
12:54 pm

czBrat and Sassy,

Please write on the blog chalk board 100 times, “I will keep it classy on the blog because WD said to.”
:)

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
12:54 pm

Thanks Trevor!!!!! ;)

Melo

June 9th, 2010
12:56 pm

@Ms Moni..ready over here….

as i am chopping on these left over cow bull balls,green veggies with fufu! gonnna have some red bull to send it all down there to the belly bottom.

Hey Wisey!!

Kym-They don't teach us the ABC's..

June 9th, 2010
12:58 pm

So are we still talking birthdays???

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
12:59 pm

“I will keep it classy on the blog because WD said to.”

:lol:

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
1:00 pm

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
1:03 pm

ya’ll i am so ready to go home, i am having the hardest time adjusting to our summer hours!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
1:07 pm

@Prof ~ they probably did use the term in NYC. I just don’t ever recall hearing it in my circle of friends. You’re more than likely on point, it was said behind our backs. Oh well, I was happy to be an old maid at 28 w/no chillin, than a welfare recipient with 4 babies tugging at me every which a way!!!! (Sorry, that wasn’t nice).

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
1:08 pm

@ PrincessNik: Summer hours, tell me more. . .I’m on a 8 to 5.

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
1:08 pm

I am eating the messiest Rueben sandwich ever made. I can’t even enjoy it, it’s so messy!

czBrat

June 9th, 2010
1:09 pm

Trevor, i’d rather throw a temper tantrum and act up until they call my mama to take me home. that’s why i’m a brat.

AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!

June 9th, 2010
1:09 pm

ya’ll i am so ready to go home, i am having the hardest time adjusting to our summer hours!

:shock: Our summer hours mean we get to go home early. I have NO trouble adjusting to that! :lol:

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
1:10 pm

Leggs!!!!!!!!!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
1:11 pm

Hola, Trevor0529 ~ you have the right attitude re: celebrating b-days!

@Kym ~ speaking of b-days, you have any plans for your big day????

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
1:11 pm

@ Miss Moni

Normally we have a crew that works 6:30 to 3:30 and a crew that works 7:00 t0 4:00, well they decided for the summer to bring us all in at 6:30, cut our lunch from 1 hr to half an hour and ship us out at 3:00

:( i’on like it! (said in my two year old voice)

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
1:11 pm

ARed, my sentiments EXACTLY!!!