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Battling birthday blues, how do you cope?

So I have a birthday coming up this month, which means I will probably go through a period of “woe is me” my life isn’t where I want it to be yet.  I always treat birthdays like some kind of weird deadline that I somehow missed.  As if I have gone an entire year accomplishing nothing.  I know it’s completely ridiculous, but in my head, that’s how I perceive it sometimes.

Thankfully I have wonderful friends and family that always make a big deal of my birthday.  Even when I try to avoid everyone and pretend the birthday isn’t happening. They don’t let me wallow in self-pity for long.

It sounds so silly, but I admit that being single (with no real prospects) on my birthday is far worse then rolling solo any other time of the year.  Believe it or not, I handle the holidays without lamenting about my singlehood. I relish in it, even; but when my birthday approaches I almost have to fight off a case of the birthday blues .

Does being single during your birthday ever bother you?  Do you have moments when you wish that you had someone special in your life? Does it happen randomly or during a special time? How do you handle it?

What is the best way to celebrate your birthday when you are single and ready to mingle?

What is your most memorable birthday? I would love to hear about it!

423 comments Add your comment

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 9th, 2010
11:11 am

Taz – I got you down. :)

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:11 am

yes ma’am mrs tazzee!!!!!! thanks!

Charlie Wax

June 9th, 2010
11:13 am

all of my bdays in atlanta have been at one or more of the strip clubs/sex clubs…and there is sex in the champagne room….lol…i have never went to a strip club on my bday and not sampled the wet wet..either inside or out of the club…its normal now..lol

this year i want to do something different…maybe buy myself an escort..yeah…a nice big booty latina :-)

Professor

June 9th, 2010
11:14 am

@Lady in Red Leggs I bought a red dress Memorial Day! I need to put that baby on!

Mama Wise, cleaned up the playground so the other kid could comeback and play :grin:

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:16 am

One of my best b-days was turning 28. House Party, good friends, and good sex afterwards (just keeping it real). We partied the entire week even though it was cold as heck!

czBrat

June 9th, 2010
11:18 am

I need to borrow Leggs’ dress
yeah you do! that dress is just callin em. :lol: :lol:

ditto on Leggs’ 11:10. my thoughts exactly!

AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!

June 9th, 2010
11:19 am

Ahhh…SCool…you got you a youngin! Since you’re not 40 yet, you qualify for “Puma” status. :lol:

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:20 am

@Prof ~ whip that dress out and put it on!

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:20 am

LOLOLOLOLOL!

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
11:21 am

Taking notes from Mrs. Taz!!! :-D

:-D @ Leggs 11:16

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:25 am

Tazzee girl that maybe my 35th while you talking that TJMS Cruise!!!! Chile please I love parties and all but that is the ultimate party and I wanna catch one before it ends! still would have to save it is not cheap although it is a tax write off! LOL

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 9th, 2010
11:25 am

Quite true. Not quite *cougar*. LOL!

Professor

June 9th, 2010
11:26 am

@Leggs you know I am!

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:27 am

the men are low key today….hmmmmm they not coming out to play????!!!???? LOL

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:27 am

Ladies, it’s quite empowering with you get sexied up just FOR YOU. Do it for yourself, the men will appreciate the visual.

Charlie Wax

June 9th, 2010
11:27 am

World cup 2014 will be my parties to end all parties…..that is the goal and mission..the world cup in 2014 is in BRAZIL!!!!!!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:29 am

quite empowering WHEN you….

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:29 am

you right ms leggs!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:30 am

So, you’re going to go all the way to Brazil to wind up in another strip joint???

Charlie Wax

June 9th, 2010
11:31 am

@leggs..i love women who are confident enough to get sexy for them….like its a way of life for them…i dont like women that just “put on” to get on….eventually the show will be over and you are left with all the things you missed when you were under her “spell”….what i have found out recently that alot of women regardless of the roar…are still the same insecure girl from back in the day…nothing has changed..they just learned to speak a different script

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:31 am

hot mess leggs lmbao!

Professor

June 9th, 2010
11:32 am

@Lady J, Charlie is here…LOL I could not resist. Dan, Melo, Swiss, PG, Trevor,Elijah and my main man MR LURKER YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :grin: are MIA

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:32 am

hmmmmmm roar….funny

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
11:32 am

Getting SEXIED up just FOR YOU. . . definitely WORTH IT!

Beautiful

June 9th, 2010
11:33 am

i don’t celebrate my birthday! haven’t in a long long while. the only ppl who remembers is my mama and my ex. i don’t broadcast it and tell folks. a week b4 i will delete my b-date from my FB page. i hope i remember. if someone finds out, i will say thanks and keep it movin’.

i can’t believe i’ll be 42 this month!!! what? LOL!

lemme go see if there are any new faces on MIA’s page. hehe . . . the young lady in the profile pic of me is my ex’s daughter. i dated her dad when i was like 17 yrs old. i just found out about two months ago that he passed in 2000. :o (

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:33 am

girl smh @ him too but he likes what he likes! LMBAO!

Beautiful

June 9th, 2010
11:34 am

ugh! didn’t mean happy face!!! grrrrr . . .

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:35 am

Hmmm, don’t think I’v ever been insecure…nervous about a few things, but not insecure. Hell, I was a fiesty little firecracker growing up. Spunky and inquisitive. Insecure, naw I don’t think so.

@ARed ~ were you insecure growing up? I doubt it in your case as well.

kimmie

June 9th, 2010
11:35 am

Taz, my SO went on the TJ cruise some years ago and he has not stopped talking about it! He showed me the dvd from it and we are SO going, maybe next year! I can’t wait!

Funny that birthdays are the topic today. On Q100 one of the interns is about to turn 25 and she was reflecting on her life. She said things are not quite how she planned them to be at this point and she was a little sad. She said she is grateful because she has a great career and a nice boyfriend and all, but she sees a lot of her friends have accomplished more at this stage of the game and she thought she would have too. Some folks were calling in telling her to quit whining, but most said that was natural. Everyone doesn’t have it all figured out and most folks lives don’t go exactly as how they planned.

Mrs. Tazzee the Newlywed

June 9th, 2010
11:36 am

Miss Moni – I love the beach, so if I can incorporate the beach into my b-day celebration, I’m good.

Lady J – that cruise was worth it to me. I complained about the price initially but they got me by saying we were going to celebrate another friend’s 40th and since I’m willing to do a little extra for a birthday… The thing is, I don’t want to cruise anymore if it’s not that cruise. The cruise I went on the following year was so ‘blah’ after going on the TJMS cruise. You definitely should go if you can.

Professor

June 9th, 2010
11:38 am

@Beautiful is there a reason you don’t celebrate your birthday like religion etc.?

@Lady J I feel you :grin:

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
11:38 am

Tazzee you put it on my radar I have to do some research and will plan it out!!! I promise it can be my 35th plus I will be helping my ALma Mater by going so you know I am down!

Beautiful

June 9th, 2010
11:38 am

Congratulations Taz! :~)

happy hump day ev1!!! half way there. be good!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:39 am

@Ms Moni ~ I have told many women not to let themselves go just because they aren’t dating. You have to love yourself before any form of love will find you. Not many will take a second look at a dour looking woman.

Beautiful

June 9th, 2010
11:40 am

@Prof
honestly . . . i think because i’m a selfless person and don’t want ppl to go out their way to please me. can’t think of any other reason.

Mrs. Tazzee the Newlywed

June 9th, 2010
11:42 am

kimmie – I want to go on the cruise next year so bad, but it’s even more expensive when you look at it in terms of two people going, LOL.

Charlie Wax

June 9th, 2010
11:42 am

no pun intended on the roar part…..no shots going to the leo women…i love leo women…but i know its cool to hate on charlie wax….lol….tho i had the pleasure to encounter my number one hater…i was just too faded to do anything other than wave….lol….right hater..hi

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
11:42 am

…DK, Willie D, 4Real, Diggy

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
11:43 am

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:44 am

Perhaps the men aren’t loving on themselves this morning like we are???

Professor

June 9th, 2010
11:44 am

@Beautiful~gotcha, but you know you are worth them going out of their way for just one day :wink:

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:45 am

Oops, shouldn’t have said “loving on themselves..” cuz Melo will jump on that one.

Better to say “aren’t loving themselves…”

czBrat

June 9th, 2010
11:47 am

Leggs, funny thing with me is that i’m at my best when single. s/o and i were talking about this just the other day. i fall into the habit of skipping workouts to hang with him and eating/drinking late in the evening, sleeping in on weekends and so forth. when i’m single i’m strict with no eating after 6 and i don’t drink alcohol because i just don’t. my weekend mornings are usually very active and my workout routine stays paramount. we have now agreed to spend more of our time together being active and watching what and when we eat. he will no longer pressure me to join him in the late night meals and snacking. he is very muscular and works out every day at noon, so he can do 3000 cals a day and burn it in no time. me? ….. no so much :mad:

AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!

June 9th, 2010
11:47 am

@ARed ~ were you insecure growing up? I doubt it in your case as well.

Leggs – I had my insecurities. I was skinny, flat chested, I had braces and a big nose. I remember crying over it.

My mom had us in dance and self esteem workshops. That made a big difference. Then one day she told me that God made me and loved me the way I was. And the sooner I accepted myself, the easier life was gonna be. For some reason I took that to heart. So from age 15 on I was good.

Cuz I’m still skinny, flat chested and have a big nose. But it all seems to work out for me! :lol:

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 9th, 2010
11:47 am

Perhaps the men aren’t loving on themselves this morning like we are

Maybe they’re :oops: ….never mind it’s too early….

Professor

June 9th, 2010
11:52 am

@Sassy—–> corner…LOL :grin:

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:55 am

@czB ~ I never do late night meals.

@ARed ~ dagnabit. I forgot about the flat chested part. Ok, I was insecure about having itty bitty hazel nuts. Ok, Charlie Wax, I lied (but didn’t mean to). I proudly sport what I have now!!!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
11:56 am

Pray tell, SassyMe, maybe they’re all still getting some loving and we’re stuck here by ourselves with Charlie Wax????

Mrs. Tazzee the Newlywed

June 9th, 2010
11:56 am

czBrat – I am so >>>here<<< with this: i fall into the habit of skipping workouts to hang with him and eating/drinking late in the evening, sleeping in on weekends and so forth.

I’m trying to get us into a better routine but it is SO hard to crawl out of bed from the warmth of one another to hit the gym in the mornings. After work – I’m rushing home to see him instead of going to the gym. Thankfully I have a home gym, but my workouts aren’t as intense and when I go to the gym. But it’s a lovely thing when we make it to the gym together.

kimmie

June 9th, 2010
11:58 am

Sassy/others – Please don’t say anything to get them riled up because really, like Wise Diva said, things have gotten a bit out of hand lately on here. I’m not a prude, but some of the talk has made me a bit uncomfortable.

Professor – I know it’s all in fun, but that LURKER dude has said some of the more offensive stuff, in my opinion.

Just not necessary to go to the gutter to have fun.

There, I’ve said my peace!