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Battling birthday blues, how do you cope?

So I have a birthday coming up this month, which means I will probably go through a period of “woe is me” my life isn’t where I want it to be yet.  I always treat birthdays like some kind of weird deadline that I somehow missed.  As if I have gone an entire year accomplishing nothing.  I know it’s completely ridiculous, but in my head, that’s how I perceive it sometimes.

Thankfully I have wonderful friends and family that always make a big deal of my birthday.  Even when I try to avoid everyone and pretend the birthday isn’t happening. They don’t let me wallow in self-pity for long.

It sounds so silly, but I admit that being single (with no real prospects) on my birthday is far worse then rolling solo any other time of the year.  Believe it or not, I handle the holidays without lamenting about my singlehood. I relish in it, even; but when my birthday approaches I almost have to fight off a case of the birthday blues .

Does being single during your birthday ever bother you?  Do you have moments when you wish that you had someone special in your life? Does it happen randomly or during a special time? How do you handle it?

What is the best way to celebrate your birthday when you are single and ready to mingle?

What is your most memorable birthday? I would love to hear about it!

423 comments Add your comment

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:37 am

Thanks DreamsM!!!!!

YAY czBrat!!!! ITS A CELEBRATION!!!!!!!!! I was so happy last night!!!! I am in a happy place and that doesn’t mean the surface definition!!! I am vibing with me! LOL

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
9:37 am

Being single typically never bothers me, but there are times when it’s just inconvenient.

Isn’t that the truth!

I just really believe that when you are happy with who you are and you can embrace yourself…man or no man you will find a way to celebrate and enjoy life.

^5 Professor

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:38 am

ummmm open the blog bar please sir! lol shhhhh quietly that is! Chardonnay and lets taost crew! LOL! ;)

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:39 am

meant toast! LOL

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
9:39 am

Professor/Sassy – Yeah, an in-house gathering can be just as rewarding as going out. You get to wind down. Sometimes, going out can feel more like winding up.

Wise Diva

June 9th, 2010
9:39 am

You guys, I know I have been in serious lurk mode with my office being a madhouse but I STILL monitor this blog and the comments are getting waaay over the line. Let’s clean it up a bit. Oh and changing the spelling in your profanity doesn’t make it ok either! I don’t want anyone getting hung up in spam or banned for offensive posting. It’s PG on the blog, please and thank you!

Professor

June 9th, 2010
9:39 am

@Lady J I’ve learn everyone is not worthy enough to be in my space. I am not saying that with an ego or anything, but I know what works for me. If I am chilling at my house I want laughs and a good time. Not some fakers and pretenders sitting on my couch being in the way. I am NOT going to do it. Like most folks I do not have a lot of free time, so I am very protective of the time I do have.

livinglife

June 9th, 2010
9:40 am

@Professor – You are so right. I have never been one to keep up with the Jonses. I have my own clock and when you plan everything else comes together. Trust me I didn’t want to move home, but I had a plan and had to stick to it and in the end it is definitely paying off.

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
9:40 am

Lady j Let’s toast:

To Growing, Glowing and Knowing your worth :mrgreen:

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
9:40 am

WOW, great posts. LadyJ, when you said something about the flame burning, I rode into work thinking along those lines. I’m on fire myself today. Feeling good about errthang. Looking fierce in all my red and loving me all day, everyday!

Leggs

June 9th, 2010
9:42 am

I with you, czB~ I see nothing to get bummed out about!!!

AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!

June 9th, 2010
9:42 am

After reading you for the last year I know he was dealt the hand as in bye-bye.

Professor – He indeed was. And the flaking thing became a common theme of our brief courtship. Boy, folks be telling on themselves…. :lol:

Ironically, the current forgot about my birthday. But I knew his heart was in the right place. Someone else however did remember and I made plans with that person. Mama didn’t raise no fool. :lol:

Wise Diva

June 9th, 2010
9:43 am

maybe I will shake things up and finally go do the skydiving adventure! That’s more exhilarating then falling in love right? LOL. Who has tried it?

Wise Diva

June 9th, 2010
9:43 am

oh and thanks Lady J! that Miami idea sounds like a WINNER

Kym

June 9th, 2010
9:45 am

@Wisey..well all I can say is… C–U–T I–T O–U–T!! Girl you better celebrate you. Come in hear with all this Debbie Downer stuff. Girl what’s your favorite dessert? Buy two.. invite some friends over and share one and then next day throw on your sweat pants..and sit on the couch and eat the other one. Honey just celebrate you!

Congrats on your midterms Lady J!

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:46 am

any time WD!!!! It is on my radar seriously!

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:46 am

thanks Kym!!!!

PK you ROCK honey!

Professor

June 9th, 2010
9:47 am

I will toast and drink to that…here here :grin:

@ARed I already knew! :grin:

Kym-Lackeys you got one..don't count on anymore.

June 9th, 2010
9:47 am

Or..play your pick me up playlist..that gets me going.

DreamsMaterialize

June 9th, 2010
9:48 am

the comments are getting waaay over the line.
Have recent comments been more over the line than for the last 3 years? Where is the line actually? ;-)

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
9:50 am

Good Morning Blog Fam!!!

SN to the Ladies: You all are really KNOW how to CELEBRATE YOU, GREAT job!!!

I LOVE BIRTHDAYS, especially my own! I make a BIG DEAL of my birthday and treat it as a HOLIDAY!!! As my girl Whitney said a long time ago, “Learning to LOVE yourself is the GREATEST LOVE of all”

What is your most memorable birthday?
Last year when I turned 30! I had a HOUSE PARTY, complete with a DJ, Bartender, Decorations & Fluorescent Souvenir ink pens for party favors. The theme was 30 NEVER LOOKED SO GOOD!!! :-D

Professor

June 9th, 2010
9:50 am

@DreamsM, I would answer that for you, but I think I will decline.

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:50 am

Leggs I never understood why some folk shout in church but I do now!!! you just want to shout and give thanks no matter where you are @!!!! I do it occassionally when the spirit hits and I know where he brought me from and trust I haven’t been through the half of some folks not even my mother so I know I have much to be thankful for!!! I try not to lok back back and wonder bc the future is bright for me but again I am in control of my ship and will determine the outcome! ~All in love~

Professor

June 9th, 2010
9:52 am

Miss Moni! I love it!

@Sassy we need to take a page from Miss Moni book and add party favors!!!

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
9:55 am

Thanks Professor! I’m glad I stashed a couple of pens for myself, they were all gone by the end of the night, LOL!

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
9:55 am

Being single typically never bothers me, but there are times when it’s just inconvenient.

ARed – I see the helicopter lights shining on me. I’ve just jump over the fence, am being chased by dogs (sound effects: errr grrrrrr)…now attempting to break and enter through the rear patio of some stranger’s house. LOL

That’s me all the way. I don’t think it’s healthy in my case. I like the convenient part of relationships, but if you stay around too long, Medusa is sure to pop out like a jack-in-the-box.

Examples of past real life internal dialogue…Didn’t I see you yesterday? How long you gone be here? Will this end soon? I can’t breathe!

I miss them when they’re gone especially when I need/want them around, but any other time…hmmm…well.

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
9:56 am

Miss Moni did that!!!! I bet that 30th ROCKED honey!!!!!! Do it honey!!!!!!

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 9th, 2010
9:57 am

Yeah, an in-house gathering can be just as rewarding as going out.

Yeah something real smooth right Luvbug? Nothing complicated just nice.

Hey cz..how you ,mami?

abc

June 9th, 2010
9:59 am

You know, you shouldn’t beat yourself up about goals not yet attained, whether personal or professional. Just keep chipping away at whatever it is, and it’ll happen soon enough. Focus not on the result, but on the process, and enjoy yourself. Life’s too short for hassling over that which you can’t really control.

Whether you go paint the town, or stay home and watch a couple of Netflix, have a Happy Birthday!

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
10:00 am

skydiving

That sounds fun!!

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
10:00 am

@ Lady J: The pics from the party are PRICELESS!!! Did I mention that I ordered a custom made PIMP CUP that was all BLINGED out. . . It simply said DIVA. The DIVA cup has become my signature birthday cup!!!! :-D

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:00 am

I think it will be a milestone for me to embrace Miami……lol well I am doing Essence let me see how that trip goes…..lol

My prayer is Delta don’t eff with me coming back!!! I am so ready for the 4th of July cookout with my main crew buddy! I am leaving NO @ 8am on the 4th dammit it best to be smooth sailin! I will be there @ 6am READY TO GO! LOL

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:02 am

and abc no lie I didn’t list the last option but being in my bed with peace of mind is an option too!!! That is a great post~

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 9th, 2010
10:02 am

we need to take a page from Miss Moni book and add party favors!!!

We shole do…Professor!!

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:02 am

Miss Moni honey you out did yourself!!! I will keep in touch with you so I can get ideas for my 35th baby! I will get a seperate account for that!!!! GIRL!!!!!! LOL!!!!

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
10:03 am

Miss Moni,

That party sounds like it was the bomb! I’m taking notes ;)

Morrus

June 9th, 2010
10:03 am

Curiously, in a supposed anti-incumbent year, most of the departing are not retiring but seeking higher office. We may recycle more than we replace. The bad news is that a frustrating 114 seats still have but one contestant. Two of them aren’t even incumbents, meaning they will affect state policy without being vetted by voters. And I have to think that we’d be better off if many had run instead for the Legislature — and cut down on the number running unopposed. Georgia’s problems are numerous. They aren’t going away. There’s too much stale thinking at the Capitol, on both sides of the aisle. New voices would be welcome.

Luvbug

June 9th, 2010
10:04 am

abc – I must say….that is the sweetest post ever!!

Professor

June 9th, 2010
10:05 am

Miss Moni~ Girl not the DIVA cup I love it! You know how to party if I do something around NYE for my b-day I will hit you up for some ideas to put the special touches on my par-tay

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:06 am

Luvbug it was a sweet post!!! ABC ROCKS for that one!!!! just PRICELESS! brought another tear!

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
10:07 am

@ Lady J & PrincessNik: I told you I LOVE BIRTHDAYS!!! :-D

BTW did someone mention SKYDIVING??? That is on my things to do list, eventhough I’m afraid of heights. . .

Kym-Lackeys you got one..don't count on anymore.

June 9th, 2010
10:09 am

@Wisey..if you want to skydive then go for it. It’s your birthday!! It’s your thang..do what you want to do!!..(song on my pep me-playlist)

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
10:09 am

@ Professor: IF??? Get READY & I’m already working on ideas, LOL!!!

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:09 am

Miss Moni I swear moving to Atlanta brought on this birthday craze I turly never stressed it and not all into it but the last three years besides the obvious truth were great adventures I can’t lie!! so now I do look forward to doing something…I just can’t get over these grown folks celebrating for a month and it is even rubbing off on me! Hot mess! LOL

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:10 am

I will skydive, jetski, parasail, etc any day of the week! birthday isn’t special for that just a great mate will make it even better! and yes I will do it alone too! LOL

PrincessNik...7/27 LEO ALL DAY ERY DAY

June 9th, 2010
10:12 am

@Miss Moni

I love my birthdays too, so much so that sometimes i’ll celebrate the entire month LOL Also i tend to go all out for a s/o on their bday. I can deal with a lacking V-day as long as its all about me on my bday :lol:

Lady J-Leo-Lioness

June 9th, 2010
10:12 am

@Morrus I can’t believe SC may get a woman governor and yes I heard she has mess with her too (2 affairs) like I said we all have our mess but SC and a woman governor….as a former resident I am like WOW!

ok that is that LMAO!!!

Professor

June 9th, 2010
10:12 am

Miss Moni you are right I should have said WHEN I need to execute that one!

Miss Moni

June 9th, 2010
10:13 am

@ Lady J: It is something aweful. I KNOW real ppl who take off the WHOLE WEEK for their birthday. I know another person who did a countdown called 30 days to 30 & did something FUN on purpose everyday during that time. I must confess that I have been known to CELEBRATE for the WHOLE birthday month. :-D

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 9th, 2010
10:13 am

Love to all the ladies growing, progressing, and handling their business. I see you all growing into your crowns, and I’m with that all day.

Thank you Dreams. abc< your 9:59 was all warm n fuzzy