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Most attractive quality?

One of the best parts of dating someone new is finding out more about them.  It’s really fun when you ask questions and get answers that please you and make you even more hopeful.  At the same time, it can also dash your hopes of going to the next level.

I’m the type that would rather know early if we have good potential or not so I tend to ask a lot of questions.  Not in the investigative journalist kind of way, though.  I just try to include questions in general discussions and pay attention to the response.

Once you get past their outer layer and stop marveling about how great they look, you can learn a lot about a person if you actually listen to them speak. This is why I think people become more attractive as we get more acquainted with them.

What do you think is the most attractive quality?  Other than their looks, what trait do you think really makes someone stand out?  How often do you meet someone with that quality?  Do you feel that you possess it?

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Professor

June 8th, 2010
1:41 pm

A guy she’s in love with has said to her “I love you, but I don’t think you’re the one God has in store for me

I’ve heard stories of guys using this line, and several of my male friends have told me although they love (insert name) they knew she was not the one. My reply has always been stop using her as a substitute until you find the one. Stop using her companionship. Stop using her goodies. Stop using her conversation. Stop using her as a passenger in your car. Stop using HER! If a man tells a woman this…stop waiting. Stop hoping. Stop lingering. Stop telling yourself the lies. Stop thinking he will come around. Stop!

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
1:41 pm

@Melo ~ you made a fine point…we are tired of leading by example…we want you guys to lead by example…haven’t we been talking about the natural order of things in a relationship forever and a day now???

Melo

June 8th, 2010
1:42 pm

Wait, I already was
@Ared/Its me??

If u dont disclose ur skeletons ,u know abc will be on ur case! -:)

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
1:42 pm

Just because you said doesn’t make it so.

True…but I certainly would have no reason to lie. Not only that, it’s never wise to brand “all” to an entire group of people. I don’t see why it’s so far fetched that some folks don’t carry skeleton’s around.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
1:43 pm

@Prof ~ yes indeed STOP!

PrincessNik...I'm every woman, its all in me

June 8th, 2010
1:44 pm

@ Melo

Luther Campbell
Two Live Crew
Jermaine Dupri
Master P
J-Prince
Timbaland
Organized Noise

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
1:44 pm

If u dont disclose ur skeletons ,u know abc will be on ur case! -:)

melo – If I had some, I would admit that I would. Not like disclosing details would be required.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
1:46 pm

@ARed ~ girl, I know…was making a point. I immediately thought of a woman telling a guy she can’t get pregnant and he takes her at face value. 9 months later, {{{wail, wail wailing}}}.

Guess it’s the skeptic in me.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
1:46 pm

that is a good point ared it is no need to blast some folk like me doesn’t mind revealing and others choose not too I look @ them no less bc no matter what and not measuring dirt but we all have it in siome way….we have misadventures and I just respect others privacy and when they tell I respect that too…..lol

but you will have many that group dirt and measure you to it as a person and that is wrong…….dirt is dirt and we all are dirty..to me whenyou know better do better and not keep doing the samething for the same results…..lol

For Real

June 8th, 2010
1:47 pm

What up Blog Fam!

On topic: Most attractive quality…. PEACE!!!!!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
1:49 pm

PSA: KOBE IS A CLOSER AND THE LAKERS BEST TO WIN DAGGIT!!!!! ;)

GO LAKERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Professor

June 8th, 2010
1:49 pm

Melo tell us another story like you did yesterday at 4:22.

czBrat

June 8th, 2010
1:50 pm

this confession is for Leggs & Melo, i’ve never stuck a crayon up my nose (eeewwww and ouch!), but i used to hide from the school bus to get a day out of school. i’d duck behind shrubbery and wait for the driver to pull off. then i’d go back home and tell my nanny i missed the bus. we didn’t have a phone way out in the panama countryside, so there was nothing she could do until my mother got home. even my mum doesn’t know this. (i think)

Melo

June 8th, 2010
1:53 pm

we want you guys to lead by example…haven’t we been talking about the natural order of things in a relationship forever and a day now???

@Leggs..us men leading dont mean u females have no expectations of us in the honest arena.

Leasd us by telling the truth urselves(since u insist on truf) to clear the air. Either I luv u regardless of ur sordid past or I walk……….why not just be proactive and tell ALL. :lol:

@Ared……melo – If I had some, I would admit that I would.

I really doubt that the Pope,all the priests who signed onto roman catholic preisthood in their easry teens nor any other righteous person u can ever think of, has no skeletons in their cupboard. I dont buy it,neva mind their protestations to the contrary,if any.

I will gladly bet their record against urs anytime!!

all i will need is u to give me the correctf irst and last names of ur last 2 boyfriends..not even ur best friends! :lol:

Melo

June 8th, 2010
1:55 pm

dirt is dirt and we all are dirty..to me whenyou know better do better and not keep doing the samething for the same results…..lol

@Lady J??

im fanning my nose hard at that, ur subliminal skeleton confession! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
1:56 pm

but you will have many that group dirt and measure you to it as a person and that is wrong…….dirt is dirt and we all are dirty..to me whenyou know better do better and not keep doing the samething for the same results…..lol

Lady J – I agree. But typically, there is at least one person you can trust enough to confide in. I absolutely agree that not all of your business is meant to be told to everyone.

There are some tho, that will be taking stuff to the grave. Either because they feel shame or embarrassment or feel they can’t trust anyone with that information. That’s what I mean by skeletons. Stuff you feel you can’t tell anyone about or stuff you purposely try to hide and cover up.

For Real

June 8th, 2010
1:57 pm

Ared: “that some folks don’t carry skeleton’s around” – I agree cause I ain’t got none either too.

Prof: “My reply has always been stop using her as a substitute until you find the one. Stop using her companionship. Stop using her goodies. Stop using her conversation. Stop using her as a passenger in your car. Stop using HER!” – No person on this planet except the ones that have never been in a relationship can say they have not “USED” someone if you use your context. Every ex that one has is a “substitute” until they find the “one”. I mean she used his companionship. She used his goodies. She used his conversation. She used him a passenger in her car. Why does it always have to be the man is taking away something from chick? Why isn’t it a willing exchange of mind, body and time?

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
1:58 pm

melo – I didn’t understand what you’re talking about in your 1:53.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
1:58 pm

@czB ~ that was funny. Never took a school bus to school, but have stuck a crayon up my nose.

For Real

June 8th, 2010
2:00 pm

Melo: define “skeltons”

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:01 pm

yes indeed and I am grateful my Father is a Forgiving father and he knows what is going to my grave in perfect peace! these others can KICK ROCKS with their assessment of my dirt! Thank ya Jesus! LOL

Glenn

June 8th, 2010
2:02 pm

feet with emphasis on toes

For Real

June 8th, 2010
2:02 pm

czBrat: Imma tell yo momma if you buy me a box of Alexander the Grape and a Red Freezie Cup.

czBrat

June 8th, 2010
2:02 pm

mama will be here for the summer. i’ve just decided it’s time to come clean with that. and probably find out that she already knew :shock:

once again, i thank the blog for helping me grow to be a better person and handle my relationships with maturity. you all get a standing O today!

kimmie

June 8th, 2010
2:03 pm

Melo – I used to sneak beer & champagne from my parent’s bar when I was a teenager.

There you have it! LOL!!!

For Real

June 8th, 2010
2:04 pm

“you all get a standing O today!” – Dayum you selfish!

PREACHER

June 8th, 2010
2:04 pm

a HOLY MAN OR WOMAN THAT REFLECT THE LIFE OF JESUS WHO BY ALL ACCOUNTS WAS PERFECT, BUT AGAIN THE WORLD TURNS TO THE BACHELOR OR THE BACHELORETTE TO GAGE WHAT IS LOVE AND THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP…VERY SAD
:(

czBrat

June 8th, 2010
2:04 pm

For Real, bribery will backfire on you everytime with me. i’ll tell her my dang self first :lol:

off for my daily jog. catch up with yas later.

For Real

June 8th, 2010
2:05 pm

“I used to sneak beer & champagne from my parent’s bar when I was a teenager.” – Now we know what’s in her Sangria.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:05 pm

“Man In The Mirror”

I’m Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It’s Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin’ My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer’s Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man’s Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya’ Know
‘Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That’s Why I Want You To
Know

I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)

I’ve Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It’s Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They’re Not
Alone?

A Willow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody’s Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya’ See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That’s Why I’m Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!)

I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Ooh!)
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)

I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I’m Asking Him To Change His
Ways
(Change His Ways-Ooh!)
And No Message Could’ve
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .)
Change!

I’m Starting With The Man In
The Mirror,
(Man In The Mirror-Oh
Yeah!)
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make The Change)
(You Gotta Get It Right, While
You Got The Time)
(’Cause When You Close Your
Heart)
You Can’t Close Your . . .Your
Mind!
(Then You Close Your . . .
Mind!)
That Man, That Man, That
Man, That Man
With That Man In The Mirror
(Man In The Mirror, Oh Yeah!)
That Man, That Man, That Man
I’m Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
You Know . . .That Man
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Oh Yeah!)
Gonna Feel Real Good Now!
Yeah Yeah! Yeah Yeah!
Yeah Yeah!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Ooooh . . .)
Oh No, No No . . .
I’m Gonna Make A Change
It’s Gonna Feel Real Good!
Come On!
(Change . . .)
Just Lift Yourself
You Know
You’ve Got To Stop It.
Yourself!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
I’ve Got To Make That Change,
Today!
Hoo!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Got To
You Got To Not Let Yourself . . .
Brother . . .
Hoo!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
You Know-I’ve Got To Get
That Man, That Man . . .
(Man In The Mirror)
You’ve Got To
You’ve Got To Move! Come
On! Come On!
You Got To . . .
Stand Up! Stand Up!
Stand Up!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Stand Up And Lift
Yourself, Now!
(Man In The Mirror)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Aaow!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Gonna Make That Change . . .
Come On!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know . . .
(Change . . .)
Make That Change.

REST IN PERFECT PEACE MICHAEL JACKSON!!!! ;)

For Real

June 8th, 2010
2:08 pm

“bribery will backfire on you everytime with me.” – When I finish telling on you, yo momma gon beat yo azz for cutting school, drinking with Kimmie, playing spin the bottle with Melo and for taking a picture of your hands caught inside my zipper. That’s right I said HANDS!

Melo

June 8th, 2010
2:09 pm

Melo tell us another story like you did yesterday at 4:22.

@Proff??

it is trick related! and its a skeleton,long forgotten.

I was on audit assignment 4 about a month, in another city tgether with an office buddy. At nite we wld go hang out that the hotel pub.
One nite,we found some tricks in there so after some dancing and dranking and stuff,we each grabbed one trick and headed upstairs to our respective rooms.

per fetish, I had this long,slim,dark chococlate..phine zulu sister… dont know why she signed onto this profession……..

I pay my dues,she puts the cash inside her shoes and goes on to disrobe…..Im taking notes :-)

I put her to work soon after and she quickly goes to sleep,snoring on my hotel bed….in the middle of the nite, i sneak outa bed and steal take the $10.00 I had paid her.

Next morning, I quickly usher her outta the room without showering,lying and muttering to her about some I cant remember, so she wldnt stand to hang around and figure thangs out……. :lol:

I presume my friend had a really nice time with his trick coz the next time we went to that same pub and met those 2 tricks, he attempted to get an encore presentation and his trick denied him,telling him :

Go clear some stuffwith ur friend! :lol:

I aint proud of that ish!

Melo

June 8th, 2010
2:10 pm

melo – I didn’t understand what you’re talking about in your 1:53.

@Ared..just saying u have them..u may not call them that.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
2:11 pm

@LadyJ ~ you’re walking around with the Scarlett Letter for all those lyrics…WD doesn’t like us to post the entire song.

PrincessNik...I'm every woman, its all in me

June 8th, 2010
2:11 pm

Lady J

please take this $1,000 blog money citation for the long song lyrics!

For Real

June 8th, 2010
2:11 pm

A $10.00 Ho!!!! I ain’t buying that one Melo.

PrincessNik...I'm every woman, its all in me

June 8th, 2010
2:13 pm

For real

me either i was thinking maybe he left off a zero before the decimal

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
2:13 pm

@Ared..just saying u have them..u may not call them that.

As For Real said then…define it.

Cuz you really need to stop telling me what I have. I know what I’ve done in my life, especially the stupid stuf.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:13 pm

Midtown Buidling update: 3 faberge eggs were found wrapped in cloth! It had a post mark frm Vegas. Thank u lord for ur protection! We r back in the bldg.

SoulGloSLim

June 8th, 2010
2:14 pm

I almost thought I just got caught in a lyrical tornado nightmare…lol My mind can only absorb and decipher three 4-letter words at a time lol

Melo

June 8th, 2010
2:15 pm

but that aint the point…For Real..and it wasnt in america, so

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:15 pm

grrrrr guys ok ok and hmmmmm leggs I don’t think so……lol

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
2:16 pm

WD doesn’t like us to post the entire song.

Nor do the REST of us. Egads! :evil:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:16 pm

my point is just focus on you………..

Melo

June 8th, 2010
2:16 pm

Melo: define “skeltons”

thatngs u arent proud to share!

secrets

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:18 pm

daggit ok on lyrics probation I will walk away with a smile! ha! :)

It's me....lurker

June 8th, 2010
2:18 pm

Melo: define “skeltons”

I think it would be fun to do a day of story telling…that part I agree with but I don’t necessarily believe all will be skeletons. Learning better and doing better is not the same as skeletons: knowingly doing something shameful because you knew better but decided against it.

SoulGloSLim

June 8th, 2010
2:20 pm

Lady J – you must now post “I will not post long azz lyrics that folks won’t read anyway because our ADHD won’t allow us to comprehend anything that takes more than 10seconds to read on the blog every again”, 9,834,543,330 times. GO! :lol:

PrincessNik...I'm every woman, its all in me

June 8th, 2010
2:21 pm

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
2:21 pm

great breakdown lurker!