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Most attractive quality?

One of the best parts of dating someone new is finding out more about them.  It’s really fun when you ask questions and get answers that please you and make you even more hopeful.  At the same time, it can also dash your hopes of going to the next level.

I’m the type that would rather know early if we have good potential or not so I tend to ask a lot of questions.  Not in the investigative journalist kind of way, though.  I just try to include questions in general discussions and pay attention to the response.

Once you get past their outer layer and stop marveling about how great they look, you can learn a lot about a person if you actually listen to them speak. This is why I think people become more attractive as we get more acquainted with them.

What do you think is the most attractive quality?  Other than their looks, what trait do you think really makes someone stand out?  How often do you meet someone with that quality?  Do you feel that you possess it?

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Professor

June 8th, 2010
8:23 am

Me, first!

Hola

Professor

June 8th, 2010
8:25 am

Hmmmmmmmm

The most attractive quality me is someone that is REAL. I like the “real deal” so I typically find myself loving honesty as a quality.

Stepping out I will check in later.

sexyCOOL

June 8th, 2010
8:32 am

Three Words Daily – Wisdom. Courage. Serenity.

sexyCOOL

June 8th, 2010
8:36 am

The most attractive quality – the ability to show love.

(It was hard to pick just one and it may change depending on changing personal needs at different times and based on shifting priorities.)

Lori

June 8th, 2010
8:43 am

Self confidence, without arrogance.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
8:43 am

most attractive quality to me is being open to explore a real friendship/partnership……..letting the guards down…………

morning crew!

Reason?

June 8th, 2010
8:47 am

I look for a good personality, sincerity, intelligence, and humor. I know it sounds like a lot, but it really isn’t. Of course, I’ve been told that I have all those qualities, but I keep hearing the old line of “I wish I could find a guy LIKE you.” Apparently I’m just not good enough, but someone like me is. Oh well.

This is hard!

June 8th, 2010
8:53 am

I think the most attractive quality for me is just being down to earth. I can’t stand a materialistic person or a person who is not open minded to different points of view and who is not willing to try different things. A person like this tends to come off stuck up and snobbish; this is definetely not a down to earth person!

free to be (F2B)

June 8th, 2010
8:53 am

good morning all!:) have a great morning. i’m off to volunteer.:)

Jo Ann O'Malley

June 8th, 2010
8:54 am

Integrity. That informs everything else.

DreamsMaterialize

June 8th, 2010
9:02 am

Morning
It’s too hard to pick just one. Give me someone who gets along well with others.

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
9:05 am

Good Morning Blog Fam!!!

Honestly, the initial MOST attractive quality is that the man is easy on my eyes. Now add to that honesty, confidence & the ability to openly express his feelings and I’m most certainly turned ON!!! :-D

czBrat

June 8th, 2010
9:10 am

GM All!! good for you F2B!

other than the physical, sincerity and a great sense of humor are most important to me. i like that Miss Moni threw confidence in there too. good one! and please know the difference between confidence and arrogance.

off to play in traffic. i’ll catch up in a few.

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
9:15 am

Thanks czBrat! YES, knowing the difference between CONFIDENCE and ARROGANCE is a must & can make it or break it.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
9:29 am

honesty is key lying about the basics makes me wonder why waste that energy and time……

Mike P

June 8th, 2010
9:29 am

The most attractive quality that I like in a women is outwardly submissiveness. There is nothing more feminine than a woman who is naturally submissive (not just to her mate, but she’s submissive in her natural personality) and isn’t afraid to be herself publicly. She doesn’t buy into the independent(angry) women garbage. She is comfortable, sensual, feminine, soft, and a rare gem indeed :D

Women who “have it all” are, in MOST cases, are way too competitive, too combative, and independent. These women have proven themselves to be successful as a MAN; they can handle living in a man’s world. Unfortunately they sacrifice their submissiveness to the point of losing their femininity, thus most aspect of being an attractive woman. Real men want real women, not a man for a mate.

These independent, “gotta have it all” types ain’t got nothing on a real submissive woman.

Good Morning peoples

SoulGloSLim

June 8th, 2010
9:29 am

Guuuuuuud morning folks!

I like openness, personality, HUMOR, and ability to let guard down…i’m pretty laid back and good-hearted, no matter what you all would like to think, so I just like a guy who APPRECIATES that about me.

PrincessNik...I'm every woman, its all in me

June 8th, 2010
9:31 am

Hey Everyone!

Beyond the physical, I have to go with Confidence and honesty.

SoulGloSLim

June 8th, 2010
9:36 am

Mike P – as crazy as what you said sounds (borderline anyway) I see your point. I went to a forum on dating, relationships etc and that whole, ‘Real men want real women, not a man for a mate’ came up quite a bit. They said women need to bring that original softness of a woman back.

Melo

June 8th, 2010
9:43 am

Other than their looks, what trait do you think really makes someone stand out?

Gmorning folks!

Ofcourse dark chocolate(i know, u said other than looks) … :lol:

.not high on herself, yes Real,not phony and hung on latest this or that.,can speak proper english,is worldly(meaning can reasonably guestimate(sp) the location of some Nato country on the map,can hold down an intelligent convo and not necessarily about the latest reality tv…some college education wld help.
And if she can tone down her volume and frequency of speaking..that helps…..

A woman that knows how to SHET IT UP is so sexxy! :lol: :lol: That calm lady demeanour is so poweful in its silence!

Howdee pple!

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
9:45 am

Good Morning Melo!!! :-D

It's me....lurker

June 8th, 2010
9:49 am

Honesty…that will cover and alleviate a multitude

Melo

June 8th, 2010
9:51 am

how u doing Miss Sexxy Moni?

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
9:53 am

I’m DOING just FINE. . . ;-D

kimmie

June 8th, 2010
10:01 am

Morning gang!

I like confidence. A confident man is, usually, at ease with himself and the world. He is good at what he does and can speak intelligently about most anything. A confident man is not intimidated by anything or anyone else because he’s out there, doing the dang thing. His confidence in his ability to take care of business puts others around him at ease.

Yeah, confidence is hot to me!

It's me....lurker

June 8th, 2010
10:15 am

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Leggs

June 8th, 2010
10:15 am

Good morning to all!

“Apparently I’m just not good enough, but someone like me is. Oh well.” Sorry, but that was funny and sad at the same time.

I respect those that are “real” all the time. I love and warm up to a sincere person with a kind heart, respectful in nature, with a great sense of humor.

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
10:18 am

@ Kimmie: I so agree with your post. There is definitely SOMETHING about a CONFIDENT MAN!!!

Kym

June 8th, 2010
10:19 am

Good Morning All,

Most attractive qualities too me..responsiblity and respect. If I meet a guy who is handling this life’s challenges in a upright manner, who is not negative about every aspect of his life..who is not blaming “the man” for all his troubles..is attractive. A guy who respects the women in his life..be it his mother, sister, mother of his children, if he is showing these women respect and care..then I know he is capable of doing the same with me.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
10:24 am

@Kym ~ I would sit on the sidelines watching a married couple I knew. It was very rewarding mentally to see such a strong man take care of HIS!

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
10:26 am

@ Leggs: Time is a true measure of a person’s REALNESS, because they can only PRETEND for so long. Although it is amazing just how many ppl make PRETENDING an actual LIFESTYLE.

@ Kym: EXCELLENT point! RESPECT is a MUST.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
10:32 am

@Miss Moni ~ EXACTLY. All the effort one puts into pretending is laughable when it comes to light. Be real at the gate, and you more than likely will win the race!

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
10:33 am

Just wanted to say Van Der Sloot is a walking, talking IDIOT!!!

kimmie

June 8th, 2010
10:35 am

Miss Moni – Your 10:26 reminds me of the Strawberry Letter this morning on the Steve Harvey show. The dude this lady wrote in about PRETENDED to have a condo, nice furnishings for the condo, a nice car & full-time steady employment.

Kym – Love what you said about responsibility. I respect it when men, well all ADULTS, handle theirs without excuses!

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
10:36 am

@ Leggs: LAUGHABLE is a great word to describe the FOOLISHNESS that ppl lie about! LOL!!!

abc

June 8th, 2010
10:36 am

The most attractive qualities are a calm demeanor, conservative in opinion, generous in spirit. These are things I require. Excitable (thrill seeking, short tempered), liberal (entitlement-minded, excessive tolerance, impractical), and selfish are definite deal breakers, no matter what you look like.

Melo

June 8th, 2010
10:37 am

This is too daaaamn slow….

we need some shyytt starter in dis camp!

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
10:39 am

@ Kimmie: I don’t get to hear the Strawberry Letter anymore since I have to be in the office by 8. :-( I suppose SOME ppl just aren’t interested in telling the TRUTH.

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
10:39 am

@kimmie ~ what I laughed at was him saying he had a 52″ tv and she was impressed only to find out it was rented. I hollered!

SoulGloSLim

June 8th, 2010
10:40 am

Melo I’m sure you’ll come up with something. Feels like everyone is moving in slow motion today…is it the rainy, dreary, gloomy weather?

(In my best Spike Lee voice) WAAAKKKKEEEE UUUUPPPPPP!!! :-D

Mike P

June 8th, 2010
10:41 am

SoulGloSLim,
If you all only knew, boy let me tell you…
Real men (those that are ready for “the one”) will move heaven and earth to get to you if your personality was like what I mentioned above. There wouldn’t be any “faults” you have that wouldn’t be overlooked, work on, struggle to overcome, because you’d be well worth the effort; therefore, you would not “hide” from him. He would work tirelessly to fulfill your needs and fulfill his promises to you. He would be the masculine fit to your feminine being, he wouldn’t give a second thought about sacrificing himself to save you. There wouldn’t be ANY games, no disappearing acts, no lies, half truths, or deceptions, No cheating, and would never ever break your heart because he understands you, he understands that if he hurts you, he’s hurting himself.

He’d give you his 100% all day every day.

kimmie

June 8th, 2010
10:42 am

Leggs – That’s what stupid gets for moving a dude in, with her & her CHILDREN, that she’s only been aquainted with, not KNOWN, for 3 months!

Miss Moni

June 8th, 2010
10:42 am

@ Melo: Is the Blog Bar open for drinks yet??? :-D

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

June 8th, 2010
10:45 am

MikeP great post 10:41!

Leggs

June 8th, 2010
10:49 am

Stupid is as stupid does….that woman reeked of thirst and she made herself look like a fool in front of her children. Now, she has a man in her home who won’t leave because she sold his clothes/stuff that have been in storage for $900. She loses all the way around, and he may walk away, if he walks, with $900. Just dumb. As Steve Harvey said, a lot of women need to stop walking around with “I hope this and I hope that…” and start taking the time and turn that hope into “I know this, I know that….” Have you noticed that the more an animal is thirsty the more bugs are buzzing around him….same with humans!

SoulGloSLim

June 8th, 2010
10:51 am

Mike P: In regards to your 10:41, I think you forgot to add, “In a perfect world” as a disclaimer to your post :roll:

PrincessNik...I'm every woman, its all in me

June 8th, 2010
10:51 am

great post leggs!

hey lady j!

Melo

June 8th, 2010
10:51 am

Mike P??

10.41..seems u know all the qualities that women seek in a man..are u that urself and are u finding it easy(hard) to find the one??

@Miss Moni?? Dreamz works the bar,and stocks all ur favorite dranks…

I was recently promoted to the VVIP area so i supervise the crew that cleans the towels and replenishes the area supplies..ur x-rated dvds,gloves,towels,upkeep of massage area,creams,feathers,cuffs,female leather boots,mouf wash,soap etc..that type stuff. :lol: :lol:

Run4Life

June 8th, 2010
10:52 am

Perhaps what you say is true. However, I believe that if a man cannot handle this strong, black woman with my independent streak, then perhaps he is not the man for me.

Because I need a man that is quick-witted and strong in his own right where he doesn’t need to compete with my strenghts or weaknesses. I will respect him as the head of the household, as long as he is strong enough (physically, intellectually and mentally {after all you guys have issues too}) to be in charge.

What I am finding is that men want us to be weak so that they can feel strong. However, I have been independent for a long time (even while I was married), and I know how to take my car for a service, add oil to my car, read a map, etc. without pretending to be ‘feminine’.

Don’t be offended…I’m just saying….we are all that. But we want and need you too but by our side, not in charge of us.

AmazonRed™ - We're coming for Beantown. Go Lakers!

June 8th, 2010
10:52 am

Morning all –

The most attractive quality: CHARACTER.

I had brunch with a friend who is going thru a divorce. The thing she learned most about her experience is that she was with a man who chose his own self interests over his family’s. They were married less than 2 years. That’s heavy.

That’s one of the reason I’m so into this man of mine. No he’s not perfect, but he makes some solid azz decisions. In addition, he totally believes a happy woman is the key to a peaceful home.