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Let’s Wait A While – Are You Worth The Wait?

I am excited about getting new voices on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog. Variety is the spice of life! I decided to recruit more people to be featured on our corner of AJC.COM so if you are interested in being part of the Sizzling Summer’s Love Squad blog panel let me know!

Today I asked KP from Chat Kafe (http://www.chatkafeonline.com, http://chatkafe.blogspot.com), a reader and occasional commenter on Misadventures in Atlanta blog to guest blog for me.  If you are not familiar with him, he is a relationship coach.  I know some of you are fans of his and others, not so much.  His perspective is refreshing to me.

Whatever you feel about him, I hope you will welcome him and be open to what he has to say.  We can always agree to disagree but it’s important to listen!

In 1986, Janet Jackson came out with a popular hit titled “Let’s Wait A While” that took the country by storm. The words of the hit song used to epitomize the approach that ‘quality’ women took when dealing with men in dating and relationships. Unfortunately, things have shifted from “Let’s Wait A While” to a “have-to-have it” mentality.

The modern day approach is pretty predictable and standard. Man meets woman. They exchange information. They go out. Man taps into the mind of the woman. Proper mind tapping results in an open heart and open body experience. It’s usually that easy. Tupac stated it best in his song “I Get Around” when he said, “I don’t want it if that’s easy!” This can be better translated as “I won’t want YOU if it’s that easy!”

Now there is nothing wrong with the above formula as long as it’s with the person you are destined to spend your life with. However, the above equation has gone from a Hollywood fairytale experience, to a merry-go-round experience with the flavor of the week. Would you share your retirement account with someone who isn’t vested? Well, why treat your personal treasure with someone who isn’t licensed? Hmmm…

Women: Have women taken on a more male-minded mentality when it comes to sex? Do women have a ‘probation’ period before they release themselves physically to someone they’re dating? Why NOT make men wait for the prize if you believe it’s worth it?

Men: Why don’t men take a “Let’s Wait A While” approach when dealing with women? Do men not respect women who make a commitment to saving their treasure for marriage?

390 comments Add your comment

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
4:04 pm

but seriously chk ur email we just sent ya something

Melo

June 4th, 2010
4:05 pm

Melo, it’s only annoying when it comes from you.

@Iam..thats okay!

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:08 pm

I believe having a child, or being married makes it harder. I believe Erykah Badu said she cried every night after she put her son to bed due to her break up with Andre 3000

@Melo I agree depending on the reason for the breakup. Usually if it is the ego and the love is strong enough someone will make a move.

@Lady J~ WAKE UPPPPPPPPPPPPPP! IN MY SCHOOL DAZE VOICE.

@I am…don’t forget it is freaky friday so melo might be getting his booty talkin on

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
4:08 pm

@I am ~ most of them try, stupid or not. Whether it happens or not doesn’t prevent them from trying.

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
4:09 pm

LMBAO Pofessor!!!!!!! I am trying! yawn! LOL

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:18 pm

Lady J you forgot the disclaimer on that 4:03

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:21 pm

“…I believe having a child, or being married makes it harder. I believe Erykah Badu said she cried every night after she put her son to bed due to her break up with Andre 3000….”

That was not the case with me.
I cried until I told him it is over. For the past 2 years, I have never been happier.

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
4:23 pm

what disclaimer all errors take in love lol

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:23 pm

Lady J, i’ll see if I can bring little dude tomorrow.
Not sure though because I want him to get his pictures taken
Also, need to make sure that the event is suitable for a 2 year old that thinks he’s 5.

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:23 pm

@I am~ You are one tough cookie. I was thinking the connection with the child would make it difficult. I guess when it is time to go it is time to go.

It's me....lurker

June 4th, 2010
4:27 pm

I AM…you’re going to be okay

free to be (F2B)

June 4th, 2010
4:28 pm

hey you guys!!!:))

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:31 pm

@Lady J you left off MR LURKER YEAHHHHHHHHHHH :grin: :wink: The blog ladies will share our picnic with him if he promise to say YEAH, but that’s only if he says YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :grin:

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:33 pm

Hey Free 2 Be! :grin:

free to be (F2B)

June 4th, 2010
4:37 pm

@professor…are you coming to happy hour tonite?

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:43 pm

It will depend on the weather, but I will try to make it…that menu really encouraged me to make it happen. The weather over here is really bad right now, though…hopefully it will not last long.

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:44 pm

Where is Purple Rain

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
4:45 pm

YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ;) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

f2b see ya in a few honey

Trevor0529

June 4th, 2010
4:46 pm

How will I know the group when I get to Cafe Circa?

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:46 pm

thanks Lurker

Melo: Not for nothin’….it would be cool if you came out

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:47 pm

Trevor: If I’m there before you, I have on a pink top that looks ruffly arond the color and blue jeans.
I have short hair.

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:48 pm

typo: around

free to be (F2B)

June 4th, 2010
4:48 pm

oh wow…it’s just cloudy over here. hope the storm passes where you are. i am curious about circa…the menu does have some promising sounding appetizers.:) i’ll make it out to try one.

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:48 pm

typo: collar

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:48 pm

<—–just looking to get my drink on….negative on food

free to be (F2B)

June 4th, 2010
4:50 pm

see you soon lady j!:)

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
4:51 pm

I have on white shorts with black stripes.

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
4:51 pm

That’s all…won’t be too hard to find me!

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
4:52 pm

I’ll be walking down the street singing Erykah Badau’s Window Seat….

Professor

June 4th, 2010
4:52 pm

F2B I have some clothes laid out already, plus I want to meet you and I am…

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
4:53 pm

just spoke with CC we are still on folks see ya there or be square! ;)

have a great weekend folks!

don’t let the storm scare ya either! lol

Trevor0529

June 4th, 2010
4:53 pm

Ok. See everybody there.

Melo

June 4th, 2010
4:53 pm

Melo: Not for nothin’….it would be cool if you came out

@I am…

awwwww,now thats some class!

I know I like u for a reason!

yeah the weather is getting phluccked up!

@Trvevor0529…Go get them buddie!

good week-end pple!

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:55 pm

ALOL @ Leggs

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:56 pm

so Melo are you coming?

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
4:57 pm

Enjoy the weekend, everyone!

Never live in the past, but make better future decisions based on past lessons ~ our very own KP (said earlier today)!

Nite!

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:58 pm

I’m Audi 5000

Deuces!

I am whatever you say I am

June 4th, 2010
4:59 pm

My motto:

Focus on the present but don’t shut the door on the past.

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
5:00 pm

Some of those doors need to be welded shut!!

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
5:10 pm

Hey, I took a nap :)

No, I won’t be making any advertised blog meet and greets :) If it is at a game, I will. :)