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Let’s Wait A While – Are You Worth The Wait?

I am excited about getting new voices on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog. Variety is the spice of life! I decided to recruit more people to be featured on our corner of AJC.COM so if you are interested in being part of the Sizzling Summer’s Love Squad blog panel let me know!

Today I asked KP from Chat Kafe (http://www.chatkafeonline.com, http://chatkafe.blogspot.com), a reader and occasional commenter on Misadventures in Atlanta blog to guest blog for me.  If you are not familiar with him, he is a relationship coach.  I know some of you are fans of his and others, not so much.  His perspective is refreshing to me.

Whatever you feel about him, I hope you will welcome him and be open to what he has to say.  We can always agree to disagree but it’s important to listen!

In 1986, Janet Jackson came out with a popular hit titled “Let’s Wait A While” that took the country by storm. The words of the hit song used to epitomize the approach that ‘quality’ women took when dealing with men in dating and relationships. Unfortunately, things have shifted from “Let’s Wait A While” to a “have-to-have it” mentality.

The modern day approach is pretty predictable and standard. Man meets woman. They exchange information. They go out. Man taps into the mind of the woman. Proper mind tapping results in an open heart and open body experience. It’s usually that easy. Tupac stated it best in his song “I Get Around” when he said, “I don’t want it if that’s easy!” This can be better translated as “I won’t want YOU if it’s that easy!”

Now there is nothing wrong with the above formula as long as it’s with the person you are destined to spend your life with. However, the above equation has gone from a Hollywood fairytale experience, to a merry-go-round experience with the flavor of the week. Would you share your retirement account with someone who isn’t vested? Well, why treat your personal treasure with someone who isn’t licensed? Hmmm…

Women: Have women taken on a more male-minded mentality when it comes to sex? Do women have a ‘probation’ period before they release themselves physically to someone they’re dating? Why NOT make men wait for the prize if you believe it’s worth it?

Men: Why don’t men take a “Let’s Wait A While” approach when dealing with women? Do men not respect women who make a commitment to saving their treasure for marriage?

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Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:28 pm

where are the afternoon funnies…..lol

SlimPhatty

June 4th, 2010
1:28 pm

‘For Real is now dropping his mic, fondling Slim itties’

For Real – babe you need to come down a little lower…those are my ear lobes lol

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:29 pm

I guess you could say she was a sex fiend

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:29 pm

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
1:29 pm

LMAO@ Purple Rain..no you didn’t break out Run DMC…LOL

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:29 pm

I met her in a hotel lobby

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:30 pm

Masterbating with a magazine

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:30 pm

She said, “how’d you like to waste some time?”

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:31 pm

and I could not resist when I say little nikki grind

Raqi

June 4th, 2010
1:31 pm

Kym, topic change???
Well two of my best girlfriend’s and I are loading up the bambinos and driving to the Mall of Georgia tomorrow. While there I am going to go to the Apple Store and check out the iPad. I have been wanting to get to Perimeter but haven’t gotten around to it so I will check it out tomorrow. Someone made a suggestion to it being a good Father’s Day gift.

With Macy’s, The Childrens’ Place, Norstrom, Dillards, Penny’s, Belks, Eddie Bauer, Ann Taylor, Gymboree, Banana Republic, Old Navy, NineWest, Brookstone, Pottery Barn, Victoria Secret, Coach…yeah we gone be there all day. LOL

KP (www.chatkafeonline.com)

June 4th, 2010
1:32 pm

@For Real…Where have you been? I’ve been waiting on your input…LOL.

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
1:34 pm

Ironically, listening to Lauren Hill’s “That Thing…girls you know you better watch out….that thing, that thing, that thing….

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:34 pm

I need to borrow some kids for a week or two. See how that works out. May plan on some in a few years or so.

Raqi

June 4th, 2010
1:35 pm

We want marriage to include friendship, sexual satisfaction and an interesting give-and-take between equals.

Okay, it may be just me but what good is a marriage without those things? Yes providing and keeping house are very important but those other things are just as important.

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:35 pm

…”A fine cigar is like a fine woman. They come in all shapes & sizes. Treat them tenderly & lovingly. Caress their skin, admire their beauty, fondle them with reverence. Bring them slowly to your lips, enjoy their flavor, their aroma. Contemplate their essence, their dependability & forgive them their weaknesses – if there be any.

SlimPhatty

June 4th, 2010
1:36 pm

PRain – I was just listening to your Purple Rain CD last night and this morning. My name is Nikki, have we met? :mrgreen:

@Lady J (afternoon funnies)

The economy is so bad that:

I got a pre-declined credit card in the mail.

I ordered a burger at McDonald’s and the kid behind the counter asked, “Can you afford fries with that?”

CEO’s are now playing miniature golf.

If the bank returns your check marked “Insufficient Funds,” you call them and ask if they meant you or them

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
1:37 pm

@Raqi that stuck out with me to..here is the whole opinion piece..

http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/06/04/coontz.gore.marriage/index.html?hpt=C2

Raqi

June 4th, 2010
1:38 pm

Leggs, I firmly believe that married couples should not be “friending” the opposite sex. Friends that were there prior to the union are welcomed to stay but seeking out and making new friends of the opposite sex after the fact is not cool at all.

A married man or woman has no business “hanging out” alone with the opposite sex in the faux name of being just friends. Especially newly formed friendships.

Melo

June 4th, 2010
1:38 pm

We want marriage to include friendship, sexual satisfaction and an interesting give-and-take between equals.

That reminds me of last nite….

No we didnt have sex sex…just the Bill Clinton!

Daamn that felt good, after that Boston loss! :lol:

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:38 pm

lmbao Slim honey keep them coming! LOL

ummmm Purple Rain I will lend my 4yr old!~lol

Dig That

June 4th, 2010
1:38 pm

I need to borrow some kids for a week or two. See how that works out.

@Purple- That is one way to make sure you never have any.

SlimPhatty

June 4th, 2010
1:39 pm

Funnies cont’d

The economy is so bad that:

Parents in Beverly Hills fired their nannies and learned their children’s names.

A truckload of Americans was caught sneaking into Mexico .

Dick Cheney took his stockbroker hunting.

Motel Six won’t leave the light on anymore.

The Mafia is laying off judges.

Exxon-Mobil laid off 25 Congressmen.

Congress says they are looking into this Bernard Madoff scandal. Oh Great!! The guy who made $50 Billion disappear is being investigated by the people who made $1.5 Trillion disappear!

And, finally…

I was so depressed last night thinking about the economy, wars, jobs, my savings, Social Security, retirement funds, etc., I called the Suicide Lifeline. I got a call center in Pakistan , and when I told them I was suicidal, they got all excited, and asked if I could drive a truck!

@lady j – I tried…lol

Dig That

June 4th, 2010
1:39 pm

<—Hugging LadyJ

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:39 pm

Lady J, that is from Prince Sined Yar Maharg. Here is the part you left off “Revel in the rituals, their simplicity and their enduring meanings. Do these things, my son, and the blessings of life shall always be upon you.”

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
1:40 pm

Purple Rain..you can borrow today for the low low.. one teenager..one tween..one elementary schooler, one preschooler, and a one year-old. I will throw in the dog for free.

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:41 pm

Dig That, :)

SlimOne, hello Nikki. LOL

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:43 pm

Kym, I have dogs already. LOL

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:43 pm

hugging you back dig that!

slim you are a live wire riot lmbao!!!!

ok purple rain! lol you and prince! lol

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
1:45 pm

Okay well then the kids are yours..where you want me to drop them off??

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:46 pm

Kym, your eagerness is causing me to have reservations. LOL :)

SlimPhatty

June 4th, 2010
1:46 pm

Lady J & PRain – PRain is Prince formerly known as Prince. LMAO!!!!!!

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:47 pm

LOLOLOL slim lol I like carlito better! LOL

Raqi

June 4th, 2010
1:50 pm

…the two simply grew apart. It leads couples to wonder: “Could this happen to us?” and “Could it already be happening to us?”

Okay stop right there. If there is no this “friendship, sexual satisfaction and an interesting give-and-take between equals” then yeah it more than likely could happen to us.

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:51 pm

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:52 pm

I feel like doing something wild tonight, I feel it brewing.

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:52 pm

Panty Juice Time :)

SexyCool13

June 4th, 2010
1:52 pm

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
1:53 pm

LOL @ Purple Rain..they are not that bad..(I wonder if he sense that lie) anywhoo..you don’t know what you are missing..the joys of broken furniture..and sticky counters cause someone made pb and j and didnt clean up, or spilling soap bubbles all over the floor..or my favorite..aiming the showerhead at the sink..just to see if the water will go..or finding your underwear chewed up..these..these joys are priceless.

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
1:53 pm

Dagnabit LadyJ ~ you had my mind wandering with your 1:35. Worth reading again.

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
1:54 pm

@Raqi,..yeah the older folks took the Gore breakup hard..seriously 40 years is a long time to just call it quits.

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
1:55 pm

yep it is leggs….lol copy and paste to and save! lol

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:56 pm

Kym, I will pass :)

SlimPhatty

June 4th, 2010
1:56 pm

Random Thoughts:

Bad decisions make good stories

I think part of a best friend’s job should be to immediately clear your
computer history if you die

How the hayo are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?

Map Quest really needs to start their directions on #5. Pretty sure I know
how to get out of my neighborhood

I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday
night more kisses begin with Miller Lite than Kay

Dig That

June 4th, 2010
1:57 pm

40 years is a long time to just call it quits.

I wonder what is so bad after 40 years that it comes to that.

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:59 pm

Leggs, Lady J, You two should read his writings they are nice.

“A fine cigar is like a fine woman. They come in all shapes and sizes. Treat them tenderly and lovingly. Caress their skin, admire their beauty, fondle them with reverence. Bring them slowly to your lips, enjoy their flavor, their aroma. Contemplate their essence, their dependability, and forgive them their weaknesses — if there be any. Revel in the rituals, their simplicity and their enduring meanings. Do these things, my son, and the blessings of life shall always be upon you.” — From the writings of Prince Sined Yar Maharg.

Purple Rain

June 4th, 2010
1:59 pm

“There are five things, above all else, that make life worth living: a good relationship with God, a good woman, good health, good friends, and a good cigar.” — From the writings of Prince Sined Yar Maharg.

Lady J-J's parties ROCK-Be there or be square!

June 4th, 2010
2:01 pm

LMBAO @ YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kym-Singing and Swing and getting Merry like Christmas

June 4th, 2010
2:02 pm

@Dig they said they grew apart..he is off saving the world from global warming..Tip is just walking around the house..I guess..who knows. But like the lady said..stop working so hard on the marriage and start maybe playing more.

Raqi

June 4th, 2010
2:04 pm

One woman called in to a radio show I was on and said plaintively, “I thought I could count on my marriage after 22 years. You mean we have to keep working at this for the rest of our lives?”

22 years is not a long time especially when you marry in your 20s. At 45 and 50 you are still young and vibrant. The blood is still running quite lively thru your veins. It’s not time to retire yet so you have to stay on the job I would think. My mom was 62 when she passed and before then she and my dad were still a very lively couple. Traveling and enjoying the time they had together as empty nesters. Still holding hands and being “cute” with each other.

I love when I see older couples out still loving to be with each other, holding hands and smiling. The only reason you grow apart is you want to. You stop wanting to be with that person.

My friend Doc and her husband have been together for over 20 years and if you didn’t know them you would think they just got married. They went thru a rough patch but found their way back 16 or so years ago.

Leggs

June 4th, 2010
2:04 pm

@Purple Rain ~ having money along with those five help to make life beautiful!