You are right, the brighter a man is, the more appealing he is. The best way to get to me is definitely through my brain.

I once dated the nicest, kindest, most thoughtful man around. He also had mad skilz in the boudoir. Unfortunately, he just wasn’t all that bright, and I ditched him for that reason, but never had the heart to tell him why. I know he wondered what went wrong, but there wasn’t anything he could do to change his lack of brainpower.

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So you ain’t romancing the bros

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Good Morning All,

I have this same condition Wisey. I love Geeky, quirky, smart guys. Not so super geeky..but someone I can have an intelligent conversation with..world events, politics, history, sports..just be able to converse on something other than American Idol.

How important do you think it is to be intellectually matched with someone?

Hmmm while the person doesn’t have to be super smart. I would like to date someone who again..has a higher IQ than cheese. If I ask him about politics..know enough not to say..”Yeah Obeezzy is putting them haters down.”(shout out to the Boondocks) Be willing to embrass learning and know that it is a lifetime process.

How long could you last dating someone just on looks?
To quote one of my favorite comedians..”Stupid is forever!!!”

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You are difficult to please! Looks are not enough but must have brain power to please you. I can not wait when money does not mean anything. I guess when you get educated love and sex takes on a massive shift.

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spellcheck embrace..learning..my disclaimer..I have been up since 4am.

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Simple Answer…Homey don’t do dumb, no way no how. If it is a beautiful shell, but no light behind the eyes, I don’t need her. Intelligent conversation is just as important as “bumping uglies”.

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I’ll answer this one for some of the guys. It’s not intimidation of a woman’s brain power. It’s the ego and all that comes with it that some women have when they have a degree and a great paying job. Women tell THEMSELVES that men are intimidated, but that’s so they don’t have to look at their own flaws.

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@Jeff

Just like guys tell THEMSELVES that women don’t like ‘nice’ men….

Let’s agree that self-delusion isn’t limited to gender.

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I just got out of a dating match with someone that could not carry on a conversation to save his life. They were empty and thin at best. Engaging conversation is a must for me. You have to keep my interest and stimulate my mind and in return I will do the same. Doesn’t work with only one person at bat.

To the person that asked about the degrees, I have always had more then any man I’ve ever dated. I think it only bothered one person, the rest didn’t probably think about it past the time of the conversation. What I am lacking to find is someone that is college educated. I think I might have had one. Actually, ya, I had one.

It’s difficult finding exactly what you want if your single. Dating isn’t exactly like going to the grocery store to pick some items up for dinner, it’s more like a menu of ingredients you need to make the perfect meal, finding those ingredients, and then combining them for the perfect recipe!

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@ Dan and Jeff, you are both right…sometimes. One size does not fit all, so always best to evaluate each on their own individual merits (and demerits

Three things DO come out quuickly in the investigation phase, 1) is the self absorbed, 2) is she bright, 3) does she have a good heart (tied to #1…or actually untied). Then it is time to stay or time to go.

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I have a question for the guys: Are guys intimidated by a women that has more degrees than the guy and a lot of goals on her plate that she is actively trying to accomplish?

@I am whatever ??

Why do u ask??……..just for infor sake or u got some that u noticed??

Good morning folks!!

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but if I meet a guy that doesn’t hold a degree or a house it doesn’t mean he ranks low on the totem pole.

^^^I agree with I am on the above. I also like a guy who is intelligent, but intelligence is not limited to “book smart”.

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Morning
I like a woman who has broad interests and can discuss them. I like to see that she has some books on the shelf, from Zane to Carter G. Woodson or Marimba Ani. Throw in some math and physics books, and I might have a “hallelujah” moment. lol

(shout out to the Boondocks)
I love this show. I wish this weren’t the last season.

Morning yall..coffee please Dreams.
No problem. How do you like your coffee?

I tell them that I am a science geek with a Biotechnology masters degree.
Question Wise. Your degree is very specialized, and realistically only a few people can really understand what you’ve studied. Most people would need two semesters of coursework just to understand your dumbed-down explanations of biotechnology. Do you find yourself avoiding talking about that, or do you just try to keep it light when you get on the topic of biotechnology?

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Dreams M,

You have any red bull behind the bar?!?

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hmmmnnnn@ Dan

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better to be a smart ass than a dumb ass

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My homeboy told me that mena are turned off by a woman that has a laundry list of things she is trying to accomplish
Why would dudes be turned off by this? I don’t know any dudes who would see that as a minus. The only thing that might turn a guy off about a woman like that is if she was incapable of merging that lifestyle with you when you all got together. We should be trying to accomplish the laundry list together now.

You have any red bull behind the bar?!?
Coming right up.

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DReams Mat: Perhaps I should be praying for GOD to bring me secure guys

Princess: Only two other guys besides my son’s father have been around my son.
The first guy knew me for years before my son was even conceived.
The second guy really showed me that he was looking for something serious and long term
I trusted my judgement in introducing him to my son and I still have no regrets.

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as long a broad’s big brain can be matched with equally raunchy sluttiness, she’s fine.

but just intelligence and average sex – boring!

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@Iam whatever??

intimidated and turned off are two(2) different thangs.

If u blarb on AND ON about ur home and degree(s), two minutes after ur meeting somebody, or as u trying to consumate the relationship and go on and on about how ur high office stressess the heck outta u,yada yada yada…most men will be turned off…..not intimidated per see.

Leave ur degree certificates at home and not pin them on ur forehead and just talk about what we gon do….and when we gon phluckk..

U be just fine!

If degrees/jobs etc have to come up,it has to be in the course of a relevant discourse..not outta the blue just because …

However,check this..some females who are bookish..multiple degrees types may fail to relate and lack street smarts coz they are too removed from the street happenings. Some dudes may avoid them coz such pple tend to be naive smtimes and bringing themk up to speed may not appeal to those guys coz oif how uneducated those chics are on some street aspects of dating etc……they are also easily taken advantage of……

They are likely to peddle the “intimadating” point without realizing the real truf….

Educated chics do intimidate some Dumb dudes tho,thats for sure!!

Hey folks!!

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I am, I was just curious, I wasn’t trying to be judgemental or anything. As a single mom myself i’m always curious about other single parents and how much they allow their s/o to interact with their children prior to the strong possiblity of a serious longterm/lifetime relationship.

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‘How do you like your coffee?’

Dreams – nearly black (only a few drops of cream) with about 4 sugars…

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How Crazy is it that I speak with a lot of intellect and I get the Phrase that I act white, WTF…?

Just because I throw out the book smarts and don’t hang my pants off my ass…

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Morning all –

WiseDiva does a great job, but this topic is a frequent repeat. Nothing more for me to say on it.

Can’t wait to hit the movies tonight!!!!

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If your romantic interest is not as smart as you think you are, and that’s a major determining factor for a long term relationship with you, then who can blame you for not staying. Do what you think is best.

But as it relates to relationships (on average…who’s chosen and not chosen)…keep in mind that a lot of “dumb” people are successfully connecting with other folks and a lot of “superiorly smart” folks are not.

Now, maybe their intelligence is too supreme to match…or maybe smart and dumb (or trash and treasure) are not as concrete as some might think.

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Extremely career-driven women aren’t intimidating to men. They’re just not that attractive. I’d imagine that an extremely career-driven man would be somewhat the same for the discerning woman: how much fun is life going to be with a person like that? A man doesn’t necessarily want an accomplished and bread-winning woman. That’s not what men want women for.

I’m a patient guy, but unintelligent women tax my patience. They tend to be difficult to get along with — I find the less intelligent, the more emotional and unreasonable.

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How many ways can we say:

Different people have different applications of intelligence?

The degrees and importance of the spectrum of intellect are not as relevant to dating, as we sometimes make it out to be. Is it nice to be able to have a conversation about issues that you feel are relevant? Yes.

But as Raqi pwned yesterday, being able to say nothing and enjoy one another matters more.

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Malik – people like your girl tend to have lives that are dramatic, chaotic and unsettled.

I wish you all the best should you decide to sign up for that program for the long haul. You’ll need it.

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Princess, going foward , I prefer to have a guy meet my son upfront.
I don’t want to get into a situation where after months of dating and we become serious and then he meets my son and realizes he doesn’t want to move forward.
If he meets my son upfront he knows what he is getting into.

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random thought: why am I so horny?
Ugh!!!!

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That’s a better gauge of chemistry for me than societally accepted attractiveness… An intelligent man can usually find many ways to stimulate you, more than just visually. Important if u like the mind f***

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Whatever luvbug

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Male history PhD student here. Smart, tall, handsome.

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One of our american lady friends’ dad died and shes outa state for the funeral…

What wld be an appropriate american way to show sympathy for her?

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@Subrational

PhD student here. Smart, tall, handsome But with no Time for sex with his girlfriend coz of his busy schedule….

ENTER Melo

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@Melo

Why are you typing brother?!? No time like the present!

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It’s not just how smart he is that interests me, but his level of intellectual curiosity that I find fascinating. Men who think they know everything are almost as much of a bore as the ones who don’t know much and don’t care to learn anything else.

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Unfortunately, intelligence does not always lead to honesty, good morals, financial success, or a thoughtful caring mate.

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Are guys intimidated by a women that has more degrees than the guy and a lot of goals on her plate that she is actively trying to accomplish?

Some might be, but the men who are managing their own accomplishments are not. Some women in this position will use their accomplishments as a mechanism to emasculate or belittle men whom she may exceed in education and income level. But it’s also probably used as her rationalization when she can’t deal with her insecurities because he might have rejected her
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Intelligence is an essential component for a meaningful relationship (for me). If I can’t conjure up any intellectual respect for a woman, then the relationship will not grow past friendship or fwb status. Dating attractive ditzy women is like chewing gum; at the first the taste is really good but after a while the flavor is lost and I end up spitting it out. Our assessments of an intelligent person is subjective, but to me it means the ability to conduct conversation across a spectrum of topics and have the ability to generate interesting questions regarding topics you’re not knowledgeable about.

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Princess, going foward , I prefer to have a guy meet my son upfront

@ I am, I have to disagree on this at least as far as a formal introduction.

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@CS

The grammar was fine

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Hey Gang!

Yall know I love smart men, I’ve said it 1000+ times before on here. No, it does not mean they will have everything else together, but I just can’t handle an airhead. I have more fun talking to children that are bright than a intelletualy-challenged adult.

Nerds are always hot to me!

As for the whole intimidation factor, go on somewhere with that. I’m not intimidated by a smart guy, I can hold my own. So he ought to be able to deal with me. I’m not the kind that has to throw it in your face all the time. That’s low-class. An empty wagon usually makes the most noise!

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Here’s my take on the whole “Are men intimidated by my success routine” and I’ll use last night as an example. I attended my first speed dating event and one of the 30-something ladies’ had on a business suit and clearly engaged her end of the conversation as if she were a hiring manager and I was interviewing for a position lol. “So what do you do for a profession”, hard eye contact etc etc. So obviously she believed she was in a position of authority- which is the downfall for many of the SexandTheCity types. It was not her attire or background but the arrogance and failure to realize that it is the MAN who decides whether to ask for number, call, etc. A woman has zero power unless a man gives her some ladies and you MUST acknowledge that. And I’m not saying anyone needs to kiss my Converses, but pretty much on a daily basis, women give me cause NOT to approach them and then you get to choose from the lesser guys who choose you.

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Err lurker..did someone give you spoiled milk with your cheerios?

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“It’s not just how smart he is that interests me, but his level of intellectual curiosity that I find fascinating. Men who think they know everything are almost as much of a bore as the ones who don’t know much and don’t care to learn anything else.”

@lovelyliz-Great distinction. I totally agree! Someone who is interested in learning is always growing in some way. Keeps conversations new and exciting, too, instead of talking about the same old same old day in and day out.

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It’s me….lurker??

email me right quick!

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Why was he quoting scriptures and telling me I need to learn to submit.

LOL

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Back to the blog topic…not tryna hijack

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Why was he quoting scriptures and telling me I need to learn to submit.

Sometimes some men slay me with that ish….they get all holy and selctively qoute scripture when it suits their purpose. If they want a woman to submit then according to the same word men should provide and protect and they don’t always do that…but they want you to bow down just cause…chile puhleaze.

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<——trying real hard not to sex text my ex.

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Sassy – Sometimes some men slay me with that ish….they get all holy and selctively qoute scripture when it suits their purpose. If they want a woman to submit then according to the same word men should provide and protect and they don’t always do that…but they want you to bow down just cause…chile puhleaze.

YES, quoting scriptures, pulling up the ebible. You are sooo right. How bout you submit (cause there are tons of scriptures) on work ethics. How bout you not be out and about all day doing seminars and stuff. The calls from the road asking if I have anything for him. Ummm, not his freaking secretary. Well a new chick comes in next week, maybe she’ll divert some of this…lol But I digress.

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@Dan – wish it was otherwise, but no. More times than not, in the first 30 min of conversation the finances question comes up. It seems that there’s more interest in security than compatibility nowadays.

BTW, calling someone out on making an assumption is in itself an assumption – might want to remember that.

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shut up already….

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Okay, leggs I won’t do it.

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I Am – There are other good ones. You’re gonna be so happy when you’re truly over this one and another one comes along waaay better. He’ll be good in the bedroom and good to you as a woman. That’s way better any day

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Good post, it’s me…lurker. I am, take heed.

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Double Co-sign, High-Five, Fist Bump and Two Snaps Up on that 1147a, IML.

I am a living testimony of that very thing!

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SCool – Make that 2 Snaps and a Twist, so am I!

I am – You have nowhere to go but up!

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kimmie – let’s add in a hair toss, just for good measure. LOL!

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How about a middle finga to him for making her feel the way she’s feeling…

All of you who say he didn’t make her feel anything…keep it!

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Hey Ya’ll…..to join on the bandwagon….I have to remind myself every now and then that what I now is 100% better than what I had before. You can’t help but smile when you think about it!!!

@ I AM..you just need to move on and stop looking back!! My motto was always to “Never look back, Only Forward”. You know there is nothing back there for you that is worth going back. (not even THAT, cause it is only temporary) and then you will end up more hurt than you were before.

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Sometimes some men slay me with that ish….they get all holy and selctively qoute scripture when it suits their purpose

That mess drives me crazy!! Why do people assume everybody is a Christian? I know we in the Bible Belt, but still, there are many other belief systems out there.

So how ’bout you SHOW what you believe, rather than quote some book?

Not trying to offend anybody, but dayyym, that gets on my nerves

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The intern is bring me back something from Cami Cakes. I’ve heard good things. Anyone ever tried em before?

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One day I am will look back on this and think WTF was I thinking/doing?… but it’s her road to travel…she’ll get through it just fine but she has to LET IT GO….cause dude has her power right now…and he knows it.

Sassy you ain’t neva lied. What’s funny is they know (especially if they ain’t worth a wooden nickel) that you’re the only one in awe of them….especially if NOTHING was good but the sex. When you wake up, it’s like an ut oh moment for them.

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ARed – Love Cami Cakes! They have a mint choco-chip cupcake that is delectable! (Well if you like mint choco-chip)

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cuz the ex used to do that stuff all the time. Like, i should
’submit’ as in OT, but he didn’t have to provide because he’s in grace per the NT. he could screw around because king david did and was still favored in the OT, even though the NT commands otherwise. and on and on it went.

okay,done with the rant now.

apologies to those offended, no intent to do that

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okay, now I’m REALLY done with the rant. im gonna get some food, that should calm my a** down

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@it’s me….don’t give him the Power. Ignore anything he says that’s not work related but stay professional which I know you’re doing. And, don’t let your eyes do any of the talking for you!!!

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@Ladies!!

i think I am and uall ladies giving her advice to Not think about ex(s) gives us guys much reason to pop our collars…..

Aint we right guys…????????????????????????

uall have had it real good and take pains and some tylenol/advil pills to try to forget us..

Sounds juyst greeeeeeeaaaaaat!

HAHAHAHAHAHA !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Leggs & Sassy, THIS has been a true test. Ooh, is ya’ll could see him…he just makes me sooo freaking sick. In our meeting yesterday, some of the things I’d prev coached him on..purely work..are some things he mentioned to my manager cause frankly, him not knowing what to do was making messes that I was having to clean. Well, what do you know, he says IML, do you want to take the floor and just explained to the group some of the things you and I have been working on. HUH? You told my manager something completely different and pushed back when I tried to help…saying you don’t want a woman doing this that and the other…ohhhh, the power of prayer, the power of prayer, the power of prayer

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not about dude as much as they are about her

@SexxyCool??

in ur very objective mind,u dont think ex made an impression,sex wise?? reading what she wrote just today leaves me with the impression that dude handles bizz real good….

good dycck is a hell of a drugg Sexxy..u know that!!

I am needs to regain strength (laugh) rise again and take a strong step(another laugh)

But its hard!

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WD – Am I the only one thinking that when Playa Playa finally gets his hands on Lurker its gon be a sho nuff head-board banging session from both sides. Shall I say Grudge-fugg perhaps. j/k lurker bnr

As mad as I am, that was funny….umm, that ain’t happening though. I only been this mad one other time in my life (well not quite at that point) but when I get “there” it’s no holds barred. He might want to fall back just a tad.

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SexyC13 ~ thank you! Right on point.

@Melo ~ put that dang collar down!

@it’s me….that’s a power move called “delegation” and “deflating anything that could go wrong off him” He’s letting it appear as though the two of you are really working together and then acquiesces the floor to you demonstrating that he supports you and has confidence in your ability. He’s “shamming” those around him. Is that word “shamming?”

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Yeah…I’ll take shamming. I’m sure ya’ll can tell as I’m letting it all out today but I have been mad FOR DAYS!! But ya’ll are right, I’m taking the high road.

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He’s “shamming” those around him. Is that word “shamming?”

Yeah he’s just tryna save face…phk ‘em.

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Okay a treadmill at the gym wants me and I hate to disappoint…read y’all in a bit.

lurker I know you wanna bust his azz but don’t…stay walking on the high road…

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SEXXXY…COOL…Hot…and Bothered? Are you working at your desk like a good girl or somewhere sexting like a bad girl? Hmmm?

Are yall still entertaining I AM’s death grip on utterly foolish behavior?

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Lurker: That’s all he gon be wearing except for that big azz grin of his.

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Are yall still entertaining I AM’s death grip on utterly foolish behavior?

It’s a slow day with not much else to do….lol @ death grip, I thought it was more like a choke hold or head lock.

Side note: Why is it as soon as you get ready to go or do something the boos wants to talk?

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I’m so sick of these teacher/student sex stories. I don’t care if he’s 17. I don’t care if he’s not a virgin. They’re still children and their in school. They should be safe and protected from these adults.

These stories turn my stomach.

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For Real…not happening

Melo – Although I feel you poking for an opening, I’ll give you this.. I never mentioned looks cause never had a reason to. Not feeling him, not attracted to him, not my type/kind. Other thing that was a HUGE no no, when he drove on the most recent client visit his car was not urum, the cleanest. He could have cleaned and vaccumed before loading up in.

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I’m tried of talking about this so I’m done….

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My recollection of teachers were middle aged, with their hands on their hips, threatening to call your mama if you didn’t say in line. We need a better hiring/screening process for teachers now.

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We need a better hiring/screening process for teachers now.

It’s me….lurker – Absolutely!!!

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Lurker – I’m sitting here thinking the same thing. When I was coming up I never thought any of my teachers were hot enough to hit or even fantasize over. Now when I go to my kids school i’m like dayum!!! I would definitely have a hard time (no pun intended) maintaining focus on Schoolwork.

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Okay I know ya’ll didnt throw down the topic change card..and shift to the thirsty teacher story? I was going to play that card. Anywhoo. that chick was beyond thirty–she was flat out nuts. What 29 year old in their right minds want to have a baby by a boy(yes boy) 17 years old? Do you know what teenagers are like? Trust me fellows..ya’ll not the brightest stars at that age. Atleast he had sense to say NO!!! And then she is paying for cab rides and hotels, cellphones, screwing in the classroom and at other folks house. Crazyyyyy..then her mama talking about she was stressed out by the kids. No she was stressed out cause she got caught!

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Oh what it do people?

It has absolutely no affect when dating an older women when I was a teenager. I thoroughly enjoyed to humping good experience puddy! YEAH it was so good!

I am go you already let him hit it! That is why you are so horny. Can I hit it?

Women Lurker I see yousa dealing with a fool. Don’t try to save his azz you need to let ole boy get fired so you can get that gig! Now you need to document a papertrail and tape some conversations to keep some ammo in your back pockets.

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uall remember this morning I am whatever talking about her degree and impending sign on fo graduate school and dudes who get intimidated by educted chics….right..??

any body looking in wld say,”YEAH..now thats a chic to hit up! right??……

and then 6 posts later,she wants to text ex coz his baked and spiky brown to blackmamba like sausage gives her hallucinations….. and wet dreams!

that tells u,education and degrees(if she got them for sho) got nothing to do with how dyckk and men makes that educated brain function….

so ladies,the moral……..?

Ur degrees aint Jack!!

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Willie D – You’ve got a point…maybe some massive personality/profile type test. Something that may pin point flaws or potential flaws in your character… or maybe they can plug you up to some machine and show you pictures of little kids and monitor if you become aroused. (j/k)

I don’t know.

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Wait what the heck did I stumble back into?

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Kym – Sorry we started without you. I was waiting for you to come back and kick it off.

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@ARed/all ~ what I don’t understand is why these teachers don’t think of the consequences because they’re going to get caught. Do they really believe the other person will not tell. They can’t. And the teacher who thought she’s too pretty to go to jail should have gone to jail and met up up Bubbaette for the morning’s lesson plan. This is sickening!

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Wait is this the same Lurker from back in the day..who was all high profile..styling and profiling..international lover dude? Now he is reduce to sexy suggestions to strangers like Craigslist or is this some new dude?

Ya’ll lurker folks need numbers or something..Wrestler #2 from back in the day.

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Woman lurker I would luv to (lick you, spank you)

Well alrighty then….

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@Leggs..but the best part was when he was giving up the dinga linga..he was getting a A. ..but when he said no to the whole “relationship and baby plan” she dropped his grade to an F. And the uncle..that joker talking about he had a phone but I didn’t know how he was paying for it. Duh!!! Hellooooo..earth to dumbazzz..is this thing on!!!

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Its Demi Moore’s fault!!

now we got these copy cats all ova

Cougar hunting of young bucks shld be punished by a minimum sentence of at least 2 yrs.

this shld make all women behave

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“…earth to dumbazzz..is this thing on!!!”

Certain things you shouldn’t read while eating. Some salad just fell out of my mouth!

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Yeah, when I was 15, teachers who were damn near 40 didn’t appeal to me either.

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No Dan, you are trippin.

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Pouring more salt on the wound for the Gwinnett teacher. She’s teacher of the year, an English teacher at that, but cain’t spell “consensual!” Hot diggity damn!

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Kym – Wait is this the same Lurker from back in the day..who was all high profile..styling and profiling..international lover dude? Now he is reduce to sexy suggestions to strangers like Craigslist or is this some new dude?

I’m the old lady lurker still styling and profiling…lol but LURKER is a dude that comes on and does his critique of the various posts. Sort of what Lord Velonesse use to do…I’m thinking they’re one and the same.

WD – Then dont let me gt started about how the parents show up to the schools looking like they going to the Velvet Room. On awards day I thought they shoulda had a Open bar and a DJ.

OMGosh, I’ve witnessed this scene a gazillion times. Way too funny

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@Amazon yes he is trippin.. @Dan..Do we not have the Vatican going around cleaning up a mess just like this..so its okay if its some hot female teacher..trying to knock off a young boy..12,13,15..whateva..but if it is some bootleg priest who has the same care of kids..just a dude..then it’s a rape? Hot nuns..yes..hot priest..perv..yeah sorry boss I don’t believe you..you need more people..

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walking around with all kinda body parts hanging out!

LOL. That phrasing completely cracked me up.

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LuvBug – no difference to me whether the male/female dynamic. Rape is by force. At 17 legally if its consensual then its not Rape. Now underage (under 16) then its Statutory. The teacher was wrong. The student was wrong. He does get some of the blame. It was all good with the perks until the F showed up. Other than the fact of it being his teacher then it would not have been an issue legally in the outside world.

But to make sure we are clear I do not condone this at all.

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Me needs a nap….what da hayo going on in here now. Too tired & lazy to try to go back and read all that shyt.

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Okay then WD…17 is legal.

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Okay I had that wrong..it wasnt’ Leggs but Lady J..

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LuvBug – Unfortunately in GA legally 16 for consensual Sez.

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Sassy yes 6ft Under @ 6pm tomorrow Celebrating Mrs Tazzee Mae Jenkins!

Swiss I have your Ga Tech and SCSU stuff! ha!

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ARed enjoy the movie!!!!! I can’t wait to see it tomorrow night!!!!!!

~I Am- after dinner its a movie wth no ex lovers! LOL Just the two of us new sistah buddies!

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A 12 year old having “sex” with another 12 year old is too young….

At that point its just hunching…

Y’all are whilin up in here..

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Wheres Poppa G at today? I think lawyers will be lining up for this one. The law I believe just changed maybe 2-3 weeks ago making it a Crime for Teacher/Student Sex even over the age of 16. I do believe that is why she has not been charged as of yet. She will definitely lose her certification and she already resigned. Just a matter of Jail or not now.

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melo I blame the teacher too I see daily some questionable stuff I just stay in my lane……

I don’t do children or young adults for that matter……

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Hey there, LadyJ!

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@Luv

Because if you tell your mom what happened, she’s ready to fight.

Tell your dad, or older brother and you get your first drink. And a pat on the back.

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@Luvbug..cause there is this foolish double standard..that still exist in our highly developed society that men should wear it as a badge of honor to be knocking down female teachers at 12 or be felt up at 6 or 7 by some female baby sitter. But reverse the sex and it becomes a whole other game. Same story but let it be a male teacher and a female student or be a male sitter and a female child. Then folks get outrage. Rape and molestation should not be limited based on sex.

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Because if you tell your mom what happened, she’s ready to fight.

Tell your dad, or older brother and you get your first drink. And a pat on the back.

Yeah a mom like mine woulda kicked that chick to sleep…

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Laughing at ARed and SassyMe!

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“Tell your dad, or older brother and you get your first drink. And a pat on the back.:

To be honest with you Dan, I think this only applies in homes where there isn’t any “parenting” taking place.

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@AmazonR..Why entertain the foolishness? He’s drinking Joker Juice today or something.

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Well, that goes hand in hand with him managing his daughter’s career if she wanted to be a stripper. His mindset hasn’t changed. Give him props for remaining consistent.

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HUGE HUGE differnce between 12 and 17. I personally think if you even try to provide a justification for anything Sexual with a 12 yr old then yeah you need to be committed right after a good azz whupping.

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@Leggs

And homes with “great” or “any” (by your description) don’t have underage sex going on?

That isn’t even statistically true.

Let’s be real. You wanna protect your kids from everything and everyone, but you can’t. At a certain point you have to let them make their own mistakes.

Having sex with a 30yo woman at 17 might be one of ‘em. But y’all are acting these kids aren’t having sex, or if they are, it’s the parents fault.

And I’m drinking Joker Juice….

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My sister teaches 9th grade in GA. She always has a crop of students that begin the year pregnant after getting knocked up in 8th grade. But at least the baby daddies that knocked them up are heroes.

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Dan I lost my virginity at 16 to a guy who was 18..two teenagers playing romper room and hide the sausage..totally big difference than me at 16 having sex with a dude almost twice my age. No is saying there is no teen sex going on..but two teenagers totally different that an adult and a teenager. We all know what our minds were like at that age.(if some of you can remember that far back)

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@Dan, shut up. You put an unnecessary spin on what’s being said here. Typical man, reading/hearing what you want to.

I’m going through something with lil leggs right now where although I can’t shield her from everything, I sure as hell can miminize some of it…and my dear, that’s one form of parenting!

And yes, you’re drinking Joker Juice….

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12 year olds are often still in ELEMENTARY school.
They are? I remember one 12 year old in elementary, and everyone laughed at him and called him dumb. I know things in the schools are bad, but I hope they’re not so bad that 12 year old elementary school students are common. lol

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at least the baby daddies that knocked them up are heroes

@Ared?/?

how so…??

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Dreams – Yup. My elementary school went to 6th grade not 5th. There were more Jr. High’s then Middle Schools in CA. So yes, I was 12 in elementary school along with a lot of folks.

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She always has a crop of students that begin the year pregnant after getting knocked up in 8th grade.
This is sadly true. I had a pregnant girl in my class when I taught 8th grade.

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@Leggs

“It’s a public board, I can say (type) what I want to”

And typical man, please.

@ARed

I’m not calling them “heroes”, nor am I saying that having kids at that age is appropriate. But…(see below)

@Kym

Believe me, I’m not generalizing, more personalizing. I grew up around and doing what, yes, would be dumb stuff to me now. But then was then.

I’m just saying, pretending it doesn’t happen is worse than arming the kids for when it does. I was armed and forewarned, and that was about a good a job as my mom could do.

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Dreams – She said she had a good year this year cuz there were only 2 pregnant girls this time.

I think she averages between 4-8.

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.(if some of you can remember that far back)

@Its me lurker..

i do…my first sexual encounter at 15/15, i just shoved the teeny weeny in…4/5 strokes and i was out..the older girl was just gas face and amazed,im sure she expected more…..

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Dan – But nothing. What will happen is that you’ll perpetuate such an attitude because it happened to you and “you turned out fine.” You should want better for your children and children in general. It’s not okay.

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Actually I was 18, did it once and it was awful….didn’t go back til I was 24

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@Amazon you may have children here in elementary because they have late birthdays.

Kym – Very true. I was a late birthday. Back then the cut off was Dec. 1. I was December 5th and my mom didn’t lie like the other parents did.

The cut off for my cousin was September and her mom lied, so she was one of the youngest in her class.

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@Amazon my son had two at his middle school this year..that I know about. But it’s summer time so next year for ninth grade who knows.

@Dan no one is pretending it doesn’t go on. We had quite a few teen mothers at my high school one of my best friends at the time was one. But we also had a teacher who stepped in and gave a reality check to alot of girls and guys. Along with classes on sexuality and birth control. So we know it goes on..but no one is going around passing out cigars either. Atleast not me. I don’t do baby showers for teenagers cause they have nothing to be proud of..your butt is stuck..locked in for 18 solid years.

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@Dan ~ yes you can type whatever you want and yes, you’re typical.

@ARed ~ Thank goodness my issue with her has nothing to do with sex. She wants me to let her loose in Piedmont Park this evening to watch Screen on the Green and take the train back home. It’s so laughable but she doesn’t see it.

And, you’re absolutely right, having positive self-esteem and remembering and believing those talks you had with your parents also helps reduce the pressure of having sex when you’re not ready.

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So we know it goes on..but no one is going around passing out cigars either. Atleast not me. I don’t do baby showers for teenagers cause they have nothing to be proud of

Amen. I understand making the most of a situation. But to celebrate it? Uh no. That’s why folks think a lot of stuff that isn’t okay…is.

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I am so glad a holiday weekend is approaching…check ya tomorrow off to class!

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youth counselor(woman) ???

what good is she counseling??

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She wants me to let her loose in Piedmont Park this evening to watch Screen on the Green and take the train back home. It’s so laughable but she doesn’t see it.

with all the copying and pasting, I’m not certain who typed this, Leggs or Melo but as a parent do what you know is best. A lot of things they won’t understand, as such is my 15 year old but I have the oversight and she just gotta deal with it til she’s old enough to understand and mature enough to carry her own. I so hear and don’t hear “what all the other kids” can do.

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“he may not last over 15 pumps like (FOR REAL)” – Hey, hey hold on now playboy. I don’t know where you got 15 pumps from but I goes hard for 17! You tryin to fugg-up a playa’s rep!

Willie D: You right consenting age is 16yrs old. GA. Supreme Court ruled so. Matter of fact I think it was Leah Ward Sears that wrote: “was not a crime because (the student) was over the age of consent when the sexual contact occurred”

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Just googled Teen pregnancy rates and GA ranks 43rd with 95 per 1,000 for girls ages 15-19. I also checked the graduation rates and GA is Dead Last with only 54% of students graduating.

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Y’all are completely misunderstanding my point.

If a young man, at that age is having sex, it’s accepted by other young men in his age group, encouraged even.

And from the older men, you get a lecture on protection, a nod and a wink.

The disconnect is in the double standard. No guy is ‘raped’ for having sex with a woman at a young age, because it’s accepted (by most) that that’s what we do.

Now the age of the young man and the age of the woman is based on the parents. Me at 12, 13 with a 20+ year old – nope, wasn’t no one having that. But a 16 year old girlfriend, sure. No problem.

@Kym

We had teenage mothers too, but for those of us that felt that we weren’t ready, we didn’t go that route.

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@Melo ~ I won’t do that!!

@its me ~ I’m amazed how many teenagers are going, even as young as 14. But you’re absolutely correct, can any do what I know/feel is best. She’s a bit pissed with me right now, but that only tells me I’m doing my job because I’m not trying to be her friend, I’m her mother.

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I think it would be irresponsible of me to let a 15 yr old hang out at Piedmont Park (of all parks) taking a train back home
Leggs, Melo I know a few people who have kids at Woodward Academy, and they told me that many of the kids take the train to school from as far as Sandy Springs. Sometimes I wonder if I’m too strict too, but I mine are still young so I haven’t had to cross these bridges yet.

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@ForReal ~ my answer right now, may not be the same when she actually comes to me with that nonsense.

But, I will tell her I don’t give a rat’s arse what she believes, she’s not ready!

She knows when she talks to me she has to come to me with the pros and cons for any given situation. I can’t even imagine her coming up with too many pros for that one!

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I know a few people who have kids at Woodward Academy, and they told me that many of the kids take the train to school from as far as Sandy Springs.

Yup, I see them when I take MARTA to the airport in the mornings.

They all sit in groups in their uniforms, with the commuters, the hood rats and the drunkards.

I took public transportation or walk home at 15. My mom would sometimes tail us in her car (we had no clue at the time).

However, with city living comes city responsibilities at times. Some folks from generations prior to mine walked miles to school in all elements.

You can only judge how mature your kid is, but at some point, you’ll have to take the risk and hope no one wants to bring them harm.

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@Dan ~ you’re moniker says it all!

Agreed. I was trying to be nice today tho.

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@DreamsM ~ how can I say this…taking the train to and from school is scary to me too at a young age. But there’s something eerily amiss with sitting in the park amongst so many predators running amuck. Sure, same thing can happen on a train, I realize this, just seems the odds are stacked more against a child while at the park.

Oh, and paranois is a form of parenting!

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For Real – These little girls are off the chain. It shocks the heck out of me cuz I was super tame at that age. I remember the “fast girls” and felt sorry for them!

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that would be…paranoia!

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@Leggs/Ared

We’re individuals. We can disagree without being disagreeable.

But, to say I was cheated, implies that something happened that I didn’t want to have happen. I was strong enough to stop it, if I wanted to. But I knew what was happening and why.

But, as always, what you do.

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I took public transportation or walk home at 15.
I completely agree with that post. I took the public transit to school at 15 too. You do have to expose your kids at some point, but I can see how it’s hard to do.

taking the train to and from school is scary to me too at a young age.
There is probably a double standard here as well. At fifteen I was allowed to go lots of places and do lots of things. I’m sure this had something to do with my level of responsibility, but it probably was also the fact that I was a boy. No way my sister was allowed to do those same things, unless I was going with her, which I hated to do at the time ’cause I didn’t want my “baby sister” cramping my style. lol

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But, to say I was cheated, implies that something happened that I didn’t want to have happen. I was strong enough to stop it, if I wanted to. But I knew what was happening and why.

*vomits*

And yes, I still feel you were cheated.

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Leggs – because I’m not trying to be her friend, I’m her mother.

Righteo on this one.

I dont know who asked but I’ll say for time we live in now it’s not joke and kids need to be kids while they’re kids and moved along accordingly into maturation as they age. So naturally when they get the size and double digits numbers in age they think they know as much as you but as a parent it’s your duty to let them know. For me and my sisters, my mom was like no bc pills in here. She was with us throughout growing into being women but she was dead serious about consequences and living through them. So, I take the same route…it worked for me. While some may say that won’t work anymore, all I know is she been taught, she’s being taught, I’m a constant in her ear cause I know from experience some jughead boy can undo that in a small matter of time and touching. And I make certain she understands and know if you get it, it yours…no matter. Consequences. Not only that I talk to her about times are past where you can shake Mr. Smith’s hand based on him knowing your mama or auntie and give you a job. If you want to go big time you better start learning and earning it now. As much of reality as she can grasp at a young adult stepping off into life (she’s got a few more years), I want everything to be crystal clear on how it works out here in the jungle. From boogie fever to corporate america.

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Fast Girls past and present…
4th grade girl giving a 5th grader head in the gym for .50 cents. Real life story from a friend of mine who teaches elementary in Charlotte.

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And even though I KNOW she see trash and mess all around her everyday, we ain’t playing that trash at home. If it’s movies, videos, tv shows with too much girating, grinding, foul language, sexing I tell her find something else to look at. That stuff infiltrates the brain. I’m by no means a dummy and I she see and hears it (and probably get with it when I ain’t looking) but no sense in filling yourself with trash on a constant.

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I keep him busy in the neighborhood programs and sports, so he is never let home alone or at anyone else’s house.
I know you’re doing everything you can, but kids can always find an opporutnity if they want to. I used to go to camp and academic programs every summer. It was one way my mom used to keep me out of the streets and out of trouble. It mostly kept me out of trouble, but there were girls at those camps and programs too. No matter how hard the counselors tried, they couldn’t keep us from hooking up. It didn’t help that most of them were college students who were trying to hook up with other counselors themselves. lol

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4th grade girl giving a 5th grader head in the gym for .50 cents.

@Dreamz!!

its the home..either the mum gives head to the boyfriend while the bedroom door is open or the porn sexx channels are availbale to the kids on home tv…..

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Sad to say, but when lil leggs was in elementary school, there were 2 girls pregnant there. ELEMENTARY SCHOOL….

WeI talk often about sex much to her dismay. We watch baby daddy drama with Maury, just last night I taped teenagers in love with abusive boyfriends. She may be tired of the bug that I am in her ear, but that’s ok with me because I’m going to continue to buzz until she lives on her own.

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@Dreams

Summer camps were the spot.

That and walking “home” from school…

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@ Dreams…I know they can and they will, but I am certainly not going to make it too easy for him to. I have a friend who allows her son to go to his friends house for hours on end and she allows him to go to his girlfriends house for hours and to the movies until late hours. I just can’t do it. I allow him to hang out with his friends and stuff, but he has time limits and I stay on time!!

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Zeus Lurker – “Setting it out huh?” Hardly. But hell, I’m old enough to be someone’s mama now.

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@Ared ~ would you be so kind to leave the end of the day quote.

Off to a meeting with her coaches!

Nite!

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I got you Leggs! I have a good one too.

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JtJ??

Is that the guy who impregnated u the guy u married first time??

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um….no melo

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Where’s the ozone layer?? I feel (and sorta look) like a rotisserie chicken.

…good posts in here…interesting reads.

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like Father O’Grabass
HAHAHA or Cardinal McFeely

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my dghter gets prego at 16………20 be4 24??

we break all ties and i aks her to drop my last name!

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Not Father O’Grabass LOL

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Melo- Can she be married before 24?

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Can she be married before 24?

@Lubug??

and be somebody’s dump sex slave??

NO!!!

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Sorry, I know this topic probably got beaten to death already, but re: the teacher w/ the 17-yr-old — A couple of things:

1) Is this teacher mentally off for wanting a relationship (and a BABY!) by a 17-yr-old? Of course she is. But then, that’s a disturbingly common occurrence among teachers. I used to be one & I’ve seen it up close: Some of these teachers develop unnatural connections with their students and go through this emotional time-warp back to adolescence themselves. One reason why I’m totally on board with abc’s “never date a teacher” mantra.

2) Now, having said that, I don’t really think of this 17-yr-old as much of a victim in this case, other than the fact that ol’ girl tried to sabotage his grades when he wouldn’t knock her up. I mean this guy was 17 and a football player. If he didn’t want to hit it, there would have been no hitting going on… And I would bet a whole lot of $$ that he never considered himself a victim while tapping that azz…

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Of all my husbands, the most educated one was the sexiest (he was South American) the smartest (Structural Engineer) sweetest and we had two of the most gorgeous sons…now 25 and 27..unfortunately he passed away from Lung Cancer and I still miss him to this day….22 years later. Yes, a Man is SEXIER if he is smarter…I know someone now who is Extremely intelligent and has two professions…Tall Drink of Water as they like to say in the South….he is gorgeous to look at as well….Very accomplished and will remain special to me forever.
Some men I have met have been so good looking that they took your breath away….but not much at intellectual stimulation…so the time with them was short but sweet……My last husband was goodlooking IN THE BEGINNING but the word stupid and LOSER started showing up on his forehead and I had to write him off as a STUPID LOSER. Sometimes good looking does not equate with having a brain. You know, the lights are on but nobody’s home kinda thing. There was one guy, who said (and instead of saying THE STANDARD you’re gorgeous, beautiful, etc.) he said, “You are very warm and I like your personality”…now that’s the kind of man that stands out to me. Goodlooking as hell, gentleman, MAJOR sexy WHERE IT COUNTS… sweet sweet sweet…Sigh……..
But anyways, yes It is very important to have someone who is on your intellectual level because if they are not then they are pretty much a short window of opportunity…………..

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Melo- I remember you mentioning something about a woman being mature enough to marry around the age 25ish. Now if you’ve completed mapped out her life (including the age in which she is to be married), can she still be considered mature.

Sure it may look that way and she may receive all the benefits of your choices, but she’d have made hardly any of the adult decisions.

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Okay Daddy Dearest.

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@ Dreams….I don’t see that as “dishonoring” your family as you put it. I know plenty of parents who vowed to write thier kids off if they ever got pregnant at a young age to only come to grips with reality and still be loving and supportive parents to their children. Now, I could see writing off a family member (uncle, cousin, etc), but not your own child. Now, I can understand making your child be responsible and take care of their responsibilities, but kicking them out and turning your back on them, brings dishonor to yourself as a parent because you just turned your back completely on your own flesh and blood.

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grand dad…??

u mean im too too ol school in my ideas??

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Of all my husbands,

alright now

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oghhhh..

good!

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It wasn’t good…not good at all. They grew closer later in life, but there was always tension at family gatherings.

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