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I’m with stupid

I have a thing for smart guys.  The smarter they are, the sexier they become.  It just seems to make things a lot more interesting when you are engaging in an intelligent discussion that one or both of you are passionate about.  I believe that intelligence alone can make a person increase their hotness exponentially.

I can remember a time when being a smart woman didn’t matter much to guys.  The shallow years had their fun moments but they certainly didn’t have many deep intellectual moments.  If a guy asks me what my interests are I tell them that I am a science geek with a Biotechnology masters degree.  I embrace my geekdom! It seems that as I got older the men I met and dated got less shallow, and so did I.

How important do you think it is to be intellectually matched with someone?  There is only so much stupidity one can endure before the person becomes un-hot and annoying.  How long could you last dating someone just on looks?

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Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:29 pm

@DreamsM ~ how can I say this…taking the train to and from school is scary to me too at a young age. But there’s something eerily amiss with sitting in the park amongst so many predators running amuck. Sure, same thing can happen on a train, I realize this, just seems the odds are stacked more against a child while at the park.

Oh, and paranois is a form of parenting!

For Real (Play with my love)

May 27th, 2010
3:29 pm

Leggs: “I can’t even imagine her coming up with too many pros for that one!” – But she only needs one pro that she believes in. How do you stop her if she believes she is ready?

For Real now putting vasoline on his face.

AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City

May 27th, 2010
3:30 pm

For Real – These little girls are off the chain. It shocks the heck out of me cuz I was super tame at that age. I remember the “fast girls” and felt sorry for them!

For Real (Play with my love)

May 27th, 2010
3:31 pm

Willie D: “I’m saying they have to know they can come and have a real talk with us about these things.” – I agree 100% but I always reserve the right to knock his lung out if I feel it’s the appropriate method to get his attention.

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:31 pm

that would be…paranoia!

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:32 pm

“….always reserve the right to knock his lung out if I feel it’s the appropriate method to get his attention.”

I concur!

Dan - do better

May 27th, 2010
3:32 pm

@Leggs/Ared

We’re individuals. We can disagree without being disagreeable.

But, to say I was cheated, implies that something happened that I didn’t want to have happen. I was strong enough to stop it, if I wanted to. But I knew what was happening and why.

But, as always, what you do.

For Real (Play with my love)

May 27th, 2010
3:33 pm

Ared: The “fast girls” of this time would put the “fast girls” of my time to shame.

DreamsMaterialize

May 27th, 2010
3:37 pm

I took public transportation or walk home at 15.
I completely agree with that post. I took the public transit to school at 15 too. You do have to expose your kids at some point, but I can see how it’s hard to do.

taking the train to and from school is scary to me too at a young age.
There is probably a double standard here as well. At fifteen I was allowed to go lots of places and do lots of things. I’m sure this had something to do with my level of responsibility, but it probably was also the fact that I was a boy. No way my sister was allowed to do those same things, unless I was going with her, which I hated to do at the time ’cause I didn’t want my “baby sister” cramping my style. lol

For Real

May 27th, 2010
3:38 pm

Fast Girls past and present….

Fast Girl My Time: Gurrl I remember the time I let Thomas Claymo stick four fangas in my cudda cut under the bleachers.

Fast Girl This Time: Momma I remember one time in the 4th grade I wrestled the kid that studdas down to the ground and sat on face until he said Pop Goes the Weasle!

AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City

May 27th, 2010
3:39 pm

But, to say I was cheated, implies that something happened that I didn’t want to have happen. I was strong enough to stop it, if I wanted to. But I knew what was happening and why.

*vomits*

And yes, I still feel you were cheated.

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:40 pm

I was born and reared in The Bronx so I grew up on public transportation. Some of these kids have never been on a train.

It's me....lurker

May 27th, 2010
3:41 pm

Leggs – because I’m not trying to be her friend, I’m her mother.

Righteo on this one.

I dont know who asked but I’ll say for time we live in now it’s not joke and kids need to be kids while they’re kids and moved along accordingly into maturation as they age. So naturally when they get the size and double digits numbers in age they think they know as much as you but as a parent it’s your duty to let them know. For me and my sisters, my mom was like no bc pills in here. She was with us throughout growing into being women but she was dead serious about consequences and living through them. So, I take the same route…it worked for me. While some may say that won’t work anymore, all I know is she been taught, she’s being taught, I’m a constant in her ear cause I know from experience some jughead boy can undo that in a small matter of time and touching. And I make certain she understands and know if you get it, it yours…no matter. Consequences. Not only that I talk to her about times are past where you can shake Mr. Smith’s hand based on him knowing your mama or auntie and give you a job. If you want to go big time you better start learning and earning it now. As much of reality as she can grasp at a young adult stepping off into life (she’s got a few more years), I want everything to be crystal clear on how it works out here in the jungle. From boogie fever to corporate america.

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:42 pm

@ARed ~ you can’t try to be nice and then vomit in the next post…that was hilarious!!

DreamsMaterialize

May 27th, 2010
3:43 pm

Fast Girls past and present…
4th grade girl giving a 5th grader head in the gym for .50 cents. Real life story from a friend of mine who teaches elementary in Charlotte.

JtJ

May 27th, 2010
3:43 pm

Having had my son at 16, I am so afraid of him making the same poor choices that I made at his age. I try to keep him on a very short leash, but I also talk to him until I am blue in the face about not being pressured to have sex. Sex is so rampant and everywhere nowadays, it is hard to keep it or anything else away from them. I keep him busy in the neighborhood programs and sports, so he is never let home alone or at anyone else’s house. He starts high school this year and I pray he can make it through high school with no babies. We have talked to him about it and even shown him graphic pictures of STD’s and how they are contracted to get the message through to him.

@ For Real…yes, the girls out here are more bolder than some of the boys!!! I had a girl kiss my son in front of me, like it was normal! These short shorts and tight skinny jeans don’t make it no better either!! There were 2 pregnant girls in his 8th grade class as well this year and he said they were picked on so much.

It's me....lurker

May 27th, 2010
3:46 pm

And even though I KNOW she see trash and mess all around her everyday, we ain’t playing that trash at home. If it’s movies, videos, tv shows with too much girating, grinding, foul language, sexing I tell her find something else to look at. That stuff infiltrates the brain. I’m by no means a dummy and I she see and hears it (and probably get with it when I ain’t looking) but no sense in filling yourself with trash on a constant.

It's me....lurker

May 27th, 2010
3:48 pm

JTJ, I feel you on being a constant but at the same time knowing how much rope to give. What I so like about my situation is that she loves to hang out with my sister and nieces. While my sister give a bit more of a free hand, they ain’t going overboard so I like that. She not doing a lot of running around and hanging with folks where I don’t know the parents or their home life. With my neices and their brother, they all got the mall together or out to eat. Oh and my nephew is 20 and sooo on them. He’s always telling if they take a half step to the left. Like my bothers did us.

DreamsMaterialize

May 27th, 2010
3:49 pm

I keep him busy in the neighborhood programs and sports, so he is never let home alone or at anyone else’s house.
I know you’re doing everything you can, but kids can always find an opporutnity if they want to. I used to go to camp and academic programs every summer. It was one way my mom used to keep me out of the streets and out of trouble. It mostly kept me out of trouble, but there were girls at those camps and programs too. No matter how hard the counselors tried, they couldn’t keep us from hooking up. It didn’t help that most of them were college students who were trying to hook up with other counselors themselves. lol

JtJ

May 27th, 2010
3:50 pm

It’s usually not just the fast girls that get pregnant in middle/high school, it is also the shy ones who are not active in anything and who have low self-esteem to even think they are worth more than just sex. I was a mixture, though. I knew enough, but was too afraid to ever act on it. I was tall, lanky, and did not have a good image about by body. The first boy that showed a geniune interest in me, was the one that got me. Got pregnant the first time!!

Melo

May 27th, 2010
3:50 pm

4th grade girl giving a 5th grader head in the gym for .50 cents.

@Dreamz!!

its the home..either the mum gives head to the boyfriend while the bedroom door is open or the porn sexx channels are availbale to the kids on home tv…..

Willie Dynamite

May 27th, 2010
3:50 pm

As part of our numerous talks I took my 13 yr son on a viit to a local clinic. I wanted him to see the number of Teenage parents. We sat down in the open area just people watching and discussing the future. I then took him into the area where STD’s were being discussed and showed him the side they dont show you in videos and on TV.

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:50 pm

Sad to say, but when lil leggs was in elementary school, there were 2 girls pregnant there. ELEMENTARY SCHOOL….

WeI talk often about sex much to her dismay. We watch baby daddy drama with Maury, just last night I taped teenagers in love with abusive boyfriends. She may be tired of the bug that I am in her ear, but that’s ok with me because I’m going to continue to buzz until she lives on her own.

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:52 pm

I’m sorry, not elementary school….meant middle school. I’ve been here a long time, but still can’t get use to middle school and not “junior high.”

Dan - do better

May 27th, 2010
3:53 pm

@Dreams

Summer camps were the spot.

That and walking “home” from school…

ZEUS BKA LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

May 27th, 2010
3:53 pm

O.K. women you can refer to me as ZEUS king of thepuudy wagon.

Woman lurker I am not Lord V. that dude is evilllllllllllll! I am goooooodddd lick, lick!

Quotables:

AmazonRed…. Your parents taugh you well pre-adult years now you making up for by setting it out. All the men say…… YEAHHHHHHH :wink:

JtJ

May 27th, 2010
3:54 pm

@ Dreams…I know they can and they will, but I am certainly not going to make it too easy for him to. I have a friend who allows her son to go to his friends house for hours on end and she allows him to go to his girlfriends house for hours and to the movies until late hours. I just can’t do it. I allow him to hang out with his friends and stuff, but he has time limits and I stay on time!!

AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City

May 27th, 2010
3:56 pm

Got pregnant the first time!!

:shock: That’s just cruel. :lol:

My bff in HS was the child that resulted from her mom having sex the first time. She never really got over that. The mom swore off men for years, especially since the father went to prison. She ended up marrying a white guy and they are happy.

The craziest part, is that after she got married she suffered 5 or 6 miscarriages before finally getting pregnant again!

AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City

May 27th, 2010
3:57 pm

Zeus Lurker – “Setting it out huh?” Hardly. But hell, I’m old enough to be someone’s mama now. :lol:

mytw♥cents

May 27th, 2010
3:58 pm

I’m jus’ sayin’ y’all – if Attention Whore ever wants a new client, I want the referral fee.

There is just nothing okay with these teachers engaging in these trysts with the kids. The onus is on the adult to exercise the better judgment of the two. Wouldn’t you hafta curse or knock a sucka out if your teen boy said how he & the sexy Science teacher were vibing? Cuz that suggests she’s giving him sumthin to feed off. Especially those who were pervy lil teen boys themselves once upon a time.

Leggs

May 27th, 2010
3:58 pm

@Ared ~ would you be so kind to leave the end of the day quote.

Off to a meeting with her coaches!

Nite!

AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City

May 27th, 2010
3:58 pm

I then took him into the area where STD’s were being discussed and showed him the side they dont show you in videos and on TV.

That did it for me too. We had a very graphic sex education program. There were some kids who had no hang ups about sex as teens, and even they felt it slowed them down a bit. We laugh about it on FB now

AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City

May 27th, 2010
3:59 pm

I got you Leggs! I have a good one too. :-)

I am whatever you say I am (I'm off today Bitches!)

May 27th, 2010
4:09 pm

I took a nap….over the ex :-)

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:10 pm

JtJ??

Is that the guy who impregnated u the guy u married first time??

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:11 pm

do u feel wet,did u finger urself after the nap?

@ I am??

I am whatever you say I am (I'm off today Bitches!)

May 27th, 2010
4:13 pm

um….no melo :shock:

i'm swiss

May 27th, 2010
4:15 pm

Sorry… got busy for a minute. Trying to catch up…

“I really don’t understand why underaged guys don’t feel used in those circumstances.”

Simple: Because guys never feel used when they’re getting azz. It’s like Brer Rabbit & the briar patch — “Please don’t use me for sex! Oh please, PLEASE, whatever you do, don’t use me for sex…” :lol:

The only way a guy would feel violated is if he was forcibly molested by someone he had absolutely no desire to phluck — like Father O’Grabass, for example. Otherwise, I promise, he’ll be a’ight. :lol:

Luvbug

May 27th, 2010
4:18 pm

Where’s the ozone layer?? I feel (and sorta look) like a rotisserie chicken.

…good posts in here…interesting reads.

I am whatever you say I am (I'm off today Bitches!)

May 27th, 2010
4:21 pm

I’m out…..craving Italian…..
taking the little dude out with me……

DreamsMaterialize

May 27th, 2010
4:22 pm

like Father O’Grabass
HAHAHA or Cardinal McFeely

JtJ

May 27th, 2010
4:23 pm

@ Melo..yes.

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:26 pm

my dghter gets prego at 16………20 be4 24??

we break all ties and i aks her to drop my last name!

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:26 pm

Luvbug

May 27th, 2010
4:27 pm

Not Father O’Grabass LOL

JtJ

May 27th, 2010
4:28 pm

Yeah right, Melo!! She is still your daughter and you have to love her unconditionally, no matter. Who else will?

Luvbug

May 27th, 2010
4:30 pm

Melo- Can she be married before 24?

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:33 pm

@JtJ

I have a very unforgiving character for that type mess….. she wld have no excuse fro making that bad call….

I will ship her to her mum,if shes not with her ??bum already….cant deal with that nonsense

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:34 pm

Can she be married before 24?

@Lubug??

and be somebody’s dump sex slave??

NO!!!

Melo

May 27th, 2010
4:35 pm