I’m with stupid
I have a thing for smart guys. The smarter they are, the sexier they become. It just seems to make things a lot more interesting when you are engaging in an intelligent discussion that one or both of you are passionate about. I believe that intelligence alone can make a person increase their hotness exponentially.
I can remember a time when being a smart woman didn’t matter much to guys. The shallow years had their fun moments but they certainly didn’t have many deep intellectual moments. If a guy asks me what my interests are I tell them that I am a science geek with a Biotechnology masters degree. I embrace my geekdom! It seems that as I got older the men I met and dated got less shallow, and so did I.
How important do you think it is to be intellectually matched with someone? There is only so much stupidity one can endure before the person becomes un-hot and annoying. How long could you last dating someone just on looks?
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Leggs
May 27th, 2010
2:49 pm
@Dan, shut up. You put an unnecessary spin on what’s being said here. Typical man, reading/hearing what you want to.
I’m going through something with lil leggs right now where although I can’t shield her from everything, I sure as hell can miminize some of it…and my dear, that’s one form of parenting!
And yes, you’re drinking Joker Juice….
It's me....lurker
May 27th, 2010
2:52 pm
At that point its just hunching…
Dan – You’re kidding right? First of all kids are maturing way faster than 20 years ago when you got your period at what 13? These kids bodies are changing at 9 and 10…not sure where you’ve been. Next thing, the world and time has changed so much so that these kids see, sleep, eat and drink sex and all that surrounds the idea of….you should interact with kids more often.
DreamsMaterialize
May 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
12 year olds are often still in ELEMENTARY school.
They are? I remember one 12 year old in elementary, and everyone laughed at him and called him dumb. I know things in the schools are bad, but I hope they’re not so bad that 12 year old elementary school students are common. lol
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
Great post Leggs. I waited in college and was happy to wait. My parents did a great job of educating me on the risk and dangers of sex, especially while in HS. I had a boyfriend in HS and he wanted sex. But because I didn’t have low self esteem, I wasn’t easily influenced enough to try and appease his needs over my own.
In any case, each child is different and some are just rebellious. But they got all three of their girls out of HS as virgins. And one of my sisters waited until she was 23.
Melo
May 27th, 2010
2:53 pm
at least the baby daddies that knocked them up are heroes
@Ared?/?
how so…??
Sassy Me..Rude gal in a di place :-)
May 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
anyone watch as the world turns besides me and I am still trying to get use to y&r @ 3……
I used to watch As the World Turns but it got boring…when they moved Y and R to 3 I was like
then felt like 
Why they do that???
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
2:54 pm
Dreams – Yup. My elementary school went to 6th grade not 5th. There were more Jr. High’s then Middle Schools in CA. So yes, I was 12 in elementary school along with a lot of folks.
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
2:55 pm
melo – Because according to Dan those kids get their first drink and a pat on the back.
DreamsMaterialize
May 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
She always has a crop of students that begin the year pregnant after getting knocked up in 8th grade.
This is sadly true. I had a pregnant girl in my class when I taught 8th grade.
Lady J
May 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
sassy I like their lil country drama on ATWT….lol….Victor still laying it down though on the other….heck i watch it better on the Soap station these days….lol
Dan - do better
May 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
@Leggs
“It’s a public board, I can say (type) what I want to”
And typical man, please.
@ARed
I’m not calling them “heroes”, nor am I saying that having kids at that age is appropriate. But…(see below)
@Kym
Believe me, I’m not generalizing, more personalizing. I grew up around and doing what, yes, would be dumb stuff to me now. But then was then.
I’m just saying, pretending it doesn’t happen is worse than arming the kids for when it does. I was armed and forewarned, and that was about a good a job as my mom could do.
It's me....lurker
May 27th, 2010
2:56 pm
In any case, each child is different and some are just rebellious. But they got all three of their girls out of HS as virgins. And one of my sisters waited until she was 23.
I was 24
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
Dreams – She said she had a good year this year cuz there were only 2 pregnant girls this time.
I think she averages between 4-8.
Kym-only been up since ohhh 4:00am
May 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
@Amazon you may have children here in elementary because they have late birthdays.
Melo
May 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
.(if some of you can remember that far back)
@Its me lurker..
i do…my first sexual encounter at 15/15, i just shoved the teeny weeny in…4/5 strokes and i was out..the older girl was just gas face and amazed,im sure she expected more…..
It's me....lurker
May 27th, 2010
2:57 pm
Dan, simply put, no matter the times, it ain’t never right for a grown person to do a kid.
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
Dan – But nothing. What will happen is that you’ll perpetuate such an attitude because it happened to you and “you turned out fine.” You should want better for your children and children in general. It’s not okay.
Lady J
May 27th, 2010
2:58 pm
my child will know the good bad and ugly and bottomline truth about sex and everything it will and won’t bring……..with prayer and real life examples it is my prayer it keeps her grounded to make sound decisions…..and it starts early with dicusing the importance of body parts and likes and dislikes etc….
It's me....lurker
May 27th, 2010
2:59 pm
Actually I was 18, did it once and it was awful….didn’t go back til I was 24
Dan - do better
May 27th, 2010
2:59 pm
Than not arming…that should have been
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:00 pm
@Amazon you may have children here in elementary because they have late birthdays.
Kym – Very true. I was a late birthday. Back then the cut off was Dec. 1. I was December 5th and my mom didn’t lie like the other parents did.
The cut off for my cousin was September and her mom lied, so she was one of the youngest in her class.
Luvbug
May 27th, 2010
3:01 pm
Dreams – She said she had a good year this year cuz there were only 2 pregnant girls this time.
I think she averages between 4-8.
Oh My Gah!!
Kym-only been up since ohhh 4:00am
May 27th, 2010
3:02 pm
@Amazon my son had two at his middle school this year..that I know about. But it’s summer time so next year for ninth grade who knows.
@Dan no one is pretending it doesn’t go on. We had quite a few teen mothers at my high school one of my best friends at the time was one. But we also had a teacher who stepped in and gave a reality check to alot of girls and guys. Along with classes on sexuality and birth control. So we know it goes on..but no one is going around passing out cigars either. Atleast not me. I don’t do baby showers for teenagers cause they have nothing to be proud of..your butt is stuck..locked in for 18 solid years.
Sassy Me..Rude gal in a di place :-)
May 27th, 2010
3:02 pm
Victor still laying it down though on the other…
OKAY?! Victor’s been the man ever since I started watching that show waaaay back when…
See y’all tomorrow…
Leggs
May 27th, 2010
3:03 pm
@Dan ~ yes you can type whatever you want and yes, you’re typical.
@ARed ~ Thank goodness my issue with her has nothing to do with sex. She wants me to let her loose in Piedmont Park this evening to watch Screen on the Green and take the train back home. It’s so laughable but she doesn’t see it.
And, you’re absolutely right, having positive self-esteem and remembering and believing those talks you had with your parents also helps reduce the pressure of having sex when you’re not ready.
Melo
May 27th, 2010
3:03 pm
@Ared??
which side of town does she teach..ur sis??
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:04 pm
So we know it goes on..but no one is going around passing out cigars either. Atleast not me. I don’t do baby showers for teenagers cause they have nothing to be proud of
Amen. I understand making the most of a situation. But to celebrate it? Uh no. That’s why folks think a lot of stuff that isn’t okay…is.
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:05 pm
melo – She’s not in Atlanta, she’s in S. Georgia not too far from Valdosta.
Lady J
May 27th, 2010
3:05 pm
I am so glad a holiday weekend is approaching…check ya tomorrow off to class!
Melo
May 27th, 2010
3:07 pm
She wants me to let her loose in Piedmont Park this evening to watch Screen on the Green and take the train back home. It’s so laughable but she doesn’t see it.
@Leggs??
im having those issues too with my daghter…like i ask myself, am i being too strict….
but another thang in me says, if i dont protect her,who will….
can u believe there was a youth woman(married) at my church one time,who was organizing a youth sleep over for kids at church but her plan was to arrange for her son to chat up with my dghter….
Queen’s clever eye got that……to this day. i dont go over there and that devilsh woman is persona non grata in my book.
These heifers!!
Melo
May 27th, 2010
3:08 pm
youth counselor(woman) ???
what good is she counseling??
Leggs
May 27th, 2010
3:12 pm
Melo ~ not once did I ask myself if I was being too strict. Honestly, for me, I think it would be irresponsible of me to let a 15 yr old hang out at Piedmont Park (of all parks) taking a train back home with a bunch of other care-free teenagers 10 at night. It may or may not be a recipe for disaster. Doesn’t matter because I’m not going to sit around to find out.
It's me....lurker
May 27th, 2010
3:12 pm
She wants me to let her loose in Piedmont Park this evening to watch Screen on the Green and take the train back home. It’s so laughable but she doesn’t see it.
with all the copying and pasting, I’m not certain who typed this, Leggs or Melo but as a parent do what you know is best. A lot of things they won’t understand, as such is my 15 year old but I have the oversight and she just gotta deal with it til she’s old enough to understand and mature enough to carry her own. I so hear and don’t hear “what all the other kids” can do.
DreamsMaterialize
May 27th, 2010
3:12 pm
Dreams – She said she had a good year this year cuz there were only 2 pregnant girls this time.
I think she averages between 4-8.
Damn 8 in one class would have been 40-50% of my class. That’s really scary.
For Real (Play with my love)
May 27th, 2010
3:13 pm
“he may not last over 15 pumps like (FOR REAL)” – Hey, hey hold on now playboy. I don’t know where you got 15 pumps from but I goes hard for 17! You tryin to fugg-up a playa’s rep!
Willie D: You right consenting age is 16yrs old. GA. Supreme Court ruled so. Matter of fact I think it was Leah Ward Sears that wrote: “was not a crime because (the student) was over the age of consent when the sexual contact occurred”
Melo
May 27th, 2010
3:15 pm
15 yr old hang out at Piedmont Park (of all parks)
@Leggs..cant do that..
Willie Dynamite
May 27th, 2010
3:18 pm
Just googled Teen pregnancy rates and GA ranks 43rd with 95 per 1,000 for girls ages 15-19. I also checked the graduation rates and GA is Dead Last with only 54% of students graduating.
For Real (Play with my love)
May 27th, 2010
3:18 pm
Leggs/kym: What will you do if your child believes they are ready to have sex at 16?
Dan - do better
May 27th, 2010
3:19 pm
Y’all are completely misunderstanding my point.
If a young man, at that age is having sex, it’s accepted by other young men in his age group, encouraged even.
And from the older men, you get a lecture on protection, a nod and a wink.
The disconnect is in the double standard. No guy is ‘raped’ for having sex with a woman at a young age, because it’s accepted (by most) that that’s what we do.
Now the age of the young man and the age of the woman is based on the parents. Me at 12, 13 with a 20+ year old – nope, wasn’t no one having that. But a 16 year old girlfriend, sure. No problem.
@Kym
We had teenage mothers too, but for those of us that felt that we weren’t ready, we didn’t go that route.
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:19 pm
Damn 8 in one class would have been 40-50% of my class. That’s really scary.
Let me clarify…she teaches hundreds on 9th graders, 6 periods worth. And because she lives in a smaller town, there is only one high school.
Leggs
May 27th, 2010
3:20 pm
@Melo ~ I won’t do that!!
@its me ~ I’m amazed how many teenagers are going, even as young as 14. But you’re absolutely correct, can any do what I know/feel is best. She’s a bit pissed with me right now, but that only tells me I’m doing my job because I’m not trying to be her friend, I’m her mother.
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:21 pm
If a young man, at that age is having sex, it’s accepted by other young men in his age group, encouraged even.
And from the older men, you get a lecture on protection, a nod and a wink.
Dan, we get that…and you were cheated. Not everyone comes up the way you do.
But yes, we know knucklehead boys encourage other knucklehead boys. And where do such mindsets start? From knucklehead parents who should know better.
DreamsMaterialize
May 27th, 2010
3:21 pm
I think it would be irresponsible of me to let a 15 yr old hang out at Piedmont Park (of all parks) taking a train back home
Leggs, Melo I know a few people who have kids at Woodward Academy, and they told me that many of the kids take the train to school from as far as Sandy Springs. Sometimes I wonder if I’m too strict too, but I mine are still young so I haven’t had to cross these bridges yet.
For Real (Play with my love)
May 27th, 2010
3:22 pm
Willie D: “GA ranks 43rd with 95 per 1,000 for girls ages 15-19″ – Which is why “Just Say No” doesn’t work as an contraceptic when all the images around kids today is sex. And at some point we need to stop teaching girls to tie their self esteem to sex they are worth so much more than that.
Leggs
May 27th, 2010
3:24 pm
@ForReal ~ my answer right now, may not be the same when she actually comes to me with that nonsense.
But, I will tell her I don’t give a rat’s arse what she believes, she’s not ready!
She knows when she talks to me she has to come to me with the pros and cons for any given situation. I can’t even imagine her coming up with too many pros for that one!
Leggs
May 27th, 2010
3:24 pm
@Dan ~ you’re moniker says it all!
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:26 pm
I know a few people who have kids at Woodward Academy, and they told me that many of the kids take the train to school from as far as Sandy Springs.
Yup, I see them when I take MARTA to the airport in the mornings.
They all sit in groups in their uniforms, with the commuters, the hood rats and the drunkards.
I took public transportation or walk home at 15. My mom would sometimes tail us in her car (we had no clue at the time).
However, with city living comes city responsibilities at times. Some folks from generations prior to mine walked miles to school in all elements.
You can only judge how mature your kid is, but at some point, you’ll have to take the risk and hope no one wants to bring them harm.
For Real (Play with my love)
May 27th, 2010
3:27 pm
Oh and lets not ack like it’s just the boys that can’t control themselves. These little girls are hot in the azz. Sexting anyone! Oh and the dubble standard in law as it pertains to boys and girls is crazy. The boy goes to jail for child porn but nothing happen to the girl even tho she sent the picture. Crazy!
AmazonRed™ - Ready for some Sex and a City
May 27th, 2010
3:27 pm
@Dan ~ you’re moniker says it all!
Agreed. I was trying to be nice today tho.
Willie Dynamite
May 27th, 2010
3:28 pm
4 Real – Just Say No never worked for anything. I also believe that at some point we have to find a middle ground between Parent and Friend. i’m not saying we have to be our kids Friend. I’m saying they have to know they can come and have a real talk with us about these things.