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What if chemistry didn’t exist?

I don’t think anyone can ever explain the chemistry that exists between two people who really desire one another.  It’s impossible to predict, understand,  or destroy – I have attempted all three.  I think so many times we get hung up on that feeling of intense desire and attraction that we forget how to put it in it’s proper place.  What is it’s proper place?

Do you let go of a wonderful person because they don’t do it for you? Do you expect the person who does it for you, to always give you that feeling of intense chemistry?  How long can that feeling possibly last before you settle into the reality of one another, instead of the “idea” of one another.

The reality is that there is much more to love and relationships then chemistry. Yet, a lot of times, we won’t let a potential romance start without it. Are we fooling ourselves?  What would happen if chemistry between two people didn’t exist. How would we determine who we truly connect with and who we shouldn’t?

If we didn’t have chemistry, do you think our dating experiences would be less romantic?

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SlimOne

May 26th, 2010
8:30 am

Good morning blogsville, will check back in a bit later. :-)

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:31 am

I kinda feel slighted when you meet someone and the chemistry is there and then within a few months, they aren’t into you anymore or you aren’t into them.
I’m sometimes left thinking, that was a waste
Oh well such is life.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
8:32 am

Good Morning All,

What would happen if chemistry between two people didn’t exist. How would we determine who we truly connect with and who we shouldn’t?

Well we could always behave like the other animals on this vast blue ball. Rams lock horns and the stronger male wins the female. Same with lions and countless other animals. So if there is no chemistry..maybe we can go back to the days of kings and knights. Jousting on the field of battle..if you don’t die or get knocked off your horse you win the fair maiden’s hand. Two dudes battling it out in a Ultimate fighter showdown could be romantic.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
8:34 am

hmmmmmmm so there can be an attraction without chemistry…..I would think they go hand and hand…..or the chemistry is optional……

Instant chemistry I feel is the best…..its a driving force to continue to persue I think….if we vibe well together wouldn’t we want to explore that vibe more……

hmmmm who knows….let’s see what others think…..lol

good morning crew…..

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:35 am

I wish we could go back to the early 1900’s where men would ask the father for permission to “court” his daughter.
The couple dated for the purpose of getting married and then they married and had kids.
Seems to me that a lot of values now have been lost and we accept it.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
8:37 am

I Am~ To me that is the part of leaning self more I think…..it is ok to discover you aren’t that into that person as you once thought especially if some questionable things are present that don’t vibe well…….I mean instantly is just that but that does fade and the real person over a course of time shows…meaning their true character and for some it is best to leave them where the stand….lol

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:39 am

<—-feeling real hungry about to pass out

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:40 am

yeah Lady I hear you. Still feeling slighted things didn’t work out with me and the ex but what helps me along is when I think about all the things I didn’t like and wasn’t happy with.
I no longer have to deal with those things and I am free to be with someone else that I may have chemistry with.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
8:42 am

hmmmm this has me thinking…..maybe it is not needed so there will be more room early on to get to know each other without a driving flirtation force of chemistry…….I mean really take the chemistry out the warm and fuzzy feeling fades and you have real people with real issues not bad jsut dealing more with the reality of the person vs. feelings…..hmmmmmmm pondering…..lol

Kym

May 26th, 2010
8:43 am

@I am..I don’t really think that would go over well…that arrange courting thing. I mean if Willie Lump-Lump comes a courting and one leg is shorter than the other..but daddy said it was okay to court cause he has good breeding and can provide a good life..the daughter might still not want ole Willie but she is stuck cause daddy said so. I love my own daddy to death..but picking a man for me..err not so much.

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:43 am

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:43 am

LOL @ Kym

Point well taken

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:45 am

thinking about my grandma:
My grandfather has been dead for at least 24 years and my grandmother never remarried and to this day, still wears her wedding ring

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
8:50 am

random thought: I love my makeup today!!!
Purple eyeshadow (not barney purple) goes good with brown eyes :-)

mytw♥cents

May 26th, 2010
8:58 am

KYM Me likey the primitive mating process idea… That would be the ultimate test Of a woman’s willingness to submit too. if she won’t go quietly with the brute who won her, then guess what…

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
8:58 am

Good topic. Morning all.

I’m intrigued by the idea of arranged marriages. Chemistry isn’t taken into the equation, but they have a higher success rate than many other types of marriage.

I’m more of a “logic over emotion” type girl. I think we often put too much emphasis on how we “feel” rather than what’s real.

But then again, there are some great guys out there…who’d want no more than to cater too my whims, provide for me, rub my feet and cook me dinner. Who’d pass that up? But I’m so not attracted to them…I just can’t. :lol:

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
9:02 am

Good morning, everyone!

If chemistry didn’t exist there wouldn’t be a partnership of the soul.

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
9:03 am

Good Morning,

I will check back in later on this topic. Gotta fix a test case!!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
9:03 am

I agree ARed and what is real is so important and feelings shouldn’t be the driving force……..

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
9:05 am

I’m intrigued by arranged marriages as well.
I wonder if I would feel the same if I was forced into the position.

Dan

May 26th, 2010
9:07 am

Morning,

Arraigned marriages work because of the familial duty both parties feel (to themselves, their families, etc.).

“Survival of the fittest” wouldn’t work either because of the opposible thumb and working trigger finger, oh, and guns.

As to the “old” norms, well, those went out for a reason; people and culture have to evolve to fit modern circumstances (see Paul, Rand).

On topic:

‘Chemistry’ as defined in the post, is attraction. I think most of us are beyond the age where attraction is the sole determinant of a relationship; yet, as stated, it is a very important part.

If “chemistry” as defined, didn’t exist, we’d do then what we should be doing now, searching for how the person fits in with our lives.

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
9:15 am

so what happens when you meet someone that most of your needs but you don’t have bedroom chemistry?

Ahhhh the horror!!!!

I am whatever you say I am

May 26th, 2010
9:15 am

typo: meant to say meets most of your needs

My name is Prince...

May 26th, 2010
9:17 am

A lot of women (not all) want the chemistry that Rude Boys provide…excitement, daring, and unpredictable. Rude Boys don’t settle down, they move from one conquest to the other. When they change, they are no longer Rude Boys and have to shy away from certain activities, which makes them calmer or boring. Men and women should keep the spark or chemistry alive by doing something crazy every now and then.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
9:20 am

@Dan

Yeah no one is going round trying to keep the family farm but merging the Jones with the Freemans…

Kym

May 26th, 2010
9:28 am

not but…by merging..I need music.

gabrielle

May 26th, 2010
9:29 am

Great question! I’ve dated really great guys (with whom no chemistry was present). These didn’t work out b/c you need more than a friendship to sustain a relationship. I’ve also dated horrible men with whom I’ve had great chemistry. These didn’t work out either, b/c you need more than great sex to sustain a relationship. I would say you’ve gotta find both. And what a gift it is to find!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
9:33 am

I’ve also dated horrible men with whom I’ve had great chemistry. These didn’t work out either, b/c you need more than great sex to sustain a relationship.

^^^^^^5 gaberielle……..

to find both is to find an ideal partnership/relationship……friendship is so important to me…..and merge the relationship for more great things…..yeah it is a beautiful thing I am yet to explore….lol…..with time both will show…..I’m hopeful!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
9:34 am

meant gabrielle….sorry chica! :)

gabrielle

May 26th, 2010
9:40 am

@Dan and others. My husband is from India-the land of arranged marriages. When we got married in India last summer, I asked a lot of the women about this-how do you make a marriage work with someone you do not even know, much less have chemistry with?

Their answer? You LOOK for attractive things in the other person and you focus on those things (rather than the unattractive things). I really do think that a lot of physical attraction-and chemistry-is a matter of perspective. But you have to be real with yourself about what you personally find attractive. For me, a guy who could not carry on an intelligent conversation was always a turn-off (no matter how “hot”).

I saw both in India-the arranged marriages of couples who were in love and the arranged marriages where couples seemed to be more than friends than partners. The former were much happier.

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
9:41 am

If we didn’t have chemistry, do you think our dating experiences would be less romantic?

Maybe less romantic and a lot more honest.

ARed – IMO…most times…arranged marriages, some match making and other technical alternatives to marriage address the issue that most folks are too afraid (or Walt Disneyed up) to address…MONEY…and/or duties, goods and services…responsibilities!!

If you’re gonna request and sign a contract, you’d better be trading and clarifying something besides love. I mean love is nice and all, but a contract is official business.

Skip the contract…lest you wanna know how I really feel about you. :lol:

gabrielle

May 26th, 2010
9:47 am

@Amazonred, there’s a higher success rate in these cultures because marriage is NOT just a partnership between two people but an entire family merging together. There is so much more help in India-both men and women support the couple when they are going through a difficult time and there are so many grandmas and aunties that help out with the children, house duties, etc.

On a side note, my Indian sister-in-law (in an arranged marriage herself) was horrified when I told her about American dating. She could not believe so many of us don’t have our families looking out for us, that we have to go into the dating scene alone-without any help-and that so many women get very hurt in romantic relationships. I will never forget her gasping, “Those POOR American girls!”

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
9:48 am

Maybe less romantic and a lot more honest<—————————-It is time to explore the results of this…..the reults of romantic never change…….really why don't we want to truly get to know the other person….good post luvbug

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
9:48 am

testing….hmmmm

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
9:49 am

Money and blood don’t mix like two d**** and no b****
Find yourself in serious ish…..

When there is no chemistry it’s like bread without the jam.
Butter without toast
Ham without the burger

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
9:51 am

luvbug i like your post and 2 post didn’t come thourgh so I digress and will continue reading my work and lurking……..

lol

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
9:54 am

Morning Peeps!

Leggs, did you see Biggest Loser finale last night? Sherry looked sick in the face to me, she lost TOO much weight. And like you, Ashley really rubs me the wrong way. She’s probably unaware of it, but she looks like a major B when she pokes her mouth out. Micheal look phenomenal! Koli looked a little sick too, though I’ve been thru with him ever since he joined Ashley in throwing his cousin Sam’s woman Stephanie under the bus. He’s just jealous cause Sam got a girlfriend and he doesn’t!LOL!!!

On topic – If there were no chemistry, marriages would be just business arrangements. Yeah, you would have to find out more about the person because your mind would not be clouded with visions of sugar plums!LOL!! But that’s the deal – business is business. Emotions are what set us apart from animals. Now if you are too silly to consider the practical things about a person along with the intagible things like chemistry and vibes & looks, then you don’t need to be dating. Put it on the shelf until you grow up.

People try to negate the role chemistry plays in a relationship. You can have everything – money, fame, kids, material posssesions, etc, but if that chemistry is missing, the missing “element”, you feel as if you have nothing. Dismiss it if you want to, at your peril.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:02 am

It is something about this topic that leaves me taping my fingers…….hmmmmm I am missing something somewhere with the perception of chemistry and reality…….hmmmmm

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:03 am

.hmmmmm I am missing something somewhere with the perception of chemistry and reality…….hmmmmm

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:04 am

what is up with the blog monster…..grrr….lol

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
10:05 am

Thanks Lady J

gabrielle – I believe you…and agree.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:06 am

families in different cultures all don’t have the same aim….what work for some surely won’t work for all…..it is a good insight though with a thought the same goal could be accomplished but hey to me that is re-writing history……

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
10:09 am

You LOOK for attractive things in the other person and you focus on those things (rather than the unattractive things). I really do think that a lot of physical attraction-and chemistry-is a matter of perspective.

I love this. This is why I’ll go out with a guy who’s “not my type.” I believe in giving him at least a chance. But the problem is, if I don’t feel chemistry, I feel bad about accepting more dates because I don’t want to feel I’m using someone. Maybe with time feelings will change…but that seems so unfair to that person. You think they deserve to have someone that has a burning desire for them.

mqew

May 26th, 2010
10:09 am

Morning..

Why this topic make me wanna say, “If ‘if’ was a fifth, I’d be drunk as a skunk.”

I think WD is in a “New York state of mind”, ie Carrie… with the asinine questions.

If we didn’t have chemistry, what the hell are we in it for (Please xcuse the grammer)…

Kimmie – I agree. Dismiss it if you want to….

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
10:09 am

I am missing something somewhere with the perception of chemistry and reality

Lady J – We are discussing this for the sake of discussion, but to me it’s really common sense. Absolutely you have to be realistic about a person and be practical about the things they bring to a relationship, but at the same time, chemistry is what brings it all together. Two people may look exactly the same – on paper. But one just “does it for you” and while the other person may be perfectly nice, they don’t “do it for you”. On one hand, chemistry is not enough to base an entire relationship on, but on the other hand, I don’t see how a “romantic, loving” relationship would be more than a business relationship without it.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:13 am

then once again we agree kimmie and trust J is all for chemistry but my other eyes will be working to……romance is a great thing that I want to be apart always but it fades comes and goes but the reality of it all is there to me always…..it is what it is…..

mqew

May 26th, 2010
10:14 am

Amazon – I agree, cause most chics have had that dude pursue the hell out of them. Chic finally agrees to go out to give that dude a ’shot’. But in the end, THAT will either need to end soon and very soon OR it will end bad and very bad… one-sided chemistry ain’t gonna work.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
10:16 am

I am sorry but looking for those things that are attractive to you..might be the equivalent of going on a search for the Holy Grail..ok not that deep..but still sometimes if you are just not feeling the person..you are just not feeling them. To quote Bonnie Ratt..”I can’t make you love me if you don’t and you can’t make your heart feel something it won’t.”

LoveLife

May 26th, 2010
10:16 am

I dated someone when the chemistry wasn’t there initially. We just took things at a slower pace, and that can be a good thing. The relationship ultimately ended because we were in different places.

Chemistry with my guy was there from Day One. During tough times, good chemistry serves as an incentive to take the time and work through a problem.

@I am: I truly feel for you. Heartache sucks. Push through the breakup detox with some strong drinks, comedies on DVD, girl time and a playlist of “girl power” tracks. I always start with Beyonce!

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
10:17 am

Amred – To your 10:09, your last sentence is the big reason why I’ve never done well with the “give him a chance” program. While I’ve dated outside of my “type” before, heck my SO is outside of it in a lot of ways, there still was something there. I just have never been able to bear even spending an hour with someone I was completely unattracted to. And I think it’s incredibly unfair to that person. A lot of times when I talked to folks about that, they automatically assume I’m talking about a guy that is physically unattractive to me and 9 times out of 10 that was SO not the case! And sure, maybe feelings could change in time, but I value my time and other people’s time too. I won’t miss what I never had.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:20 am

To quote Bonnie Ratt..”I can’t make you love me if you don’t and you can’t make your heart feel something it won’t.” <——————–Kym I like that quote!

Kym

May 26th, 2010
10:21 am

Call me out on ego..but I think my feelings would be more bruised to know some joker is just with me cause he feels obligated..not because it is where he wants to be. Be with me cause you want me..not cause you stuck.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
10:23 am

Be with me cause you want me..not cause you stuck.

AMEN Kym!!!!

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
10:23 am

“….and if he start to scream “bam! bam!”, have a nice dream…”

I am really sleepy. Wish I could curl up and sleep right now

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
10:25 am

If chemistry means undeniable physical attraction to or liking for…then I don’t believe it’s a prerequisite for a lasting and long term relationship.

If chemistry means undeniable belief in, trust in or and/or respect for…then I believe it’s a prerequisite for a lasting and long term relationship.

If chemistry falls in the area of love for…then I don’t believe it’s a prerequisite for a lasting and long term relationship.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
10:26 am

“…..Nucka, you ain’t got to explain ish
I’ve been robbin motherf….. since the slave ships
with the same clip and the same four-five …..”

Hey you all…where’s a good spot to go to that’s not a club or lounge to have a guy find you?

I’ve tried the Publix near my house. okay eye candy
The home depot near my house. I call that place club Depot and the eye candy is on point except noone approaches me (they just look) and I’m too scared to make the first move.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
10:28 am

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
10:31 am

The only way around chemistry is if a solid friendship is established first. I wasn’t attracted to my HS sweetheart, but he was a good dude and I knew him well by the time he told me he was attracted to me. I grew to love him lots.

Most men aren’t trying to go that route unless they are truly trying to only be friends.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:33 am

so it is no one universal definition it is all about a person’s perception of what chemistry means to them per se………I think as you get older the physical part fades…..and other important factors comes into play….like sticking it out through the chemistry for the same goal……hmmmmm

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:33 am

yeah sadly ared I agree…….lol

mqew

May 26th, 2010
10:37 am

Ared – As my hubby would say… Tis the oldest trick in the book for men. They WILL wait!!!! I think most will indeed go that route putting in friend time and work. They are truly trying to be your friend, PLUS!

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
10:41 am

This whole subject of being with someone you’re not attracted to is depressing to me.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
10:43 am

kimmie it has me saying huh???? really!!!!! ok….hmmmmmm lol

Melo

May 26th, 2010
10:44 am

Good morning folks!

Money has become the new chemistry in modern day dating and marriage!

Gabrielle..good post by the way…..

what pple consider chemistry these days is a good job,educated,he got his own crib…etc…..a chic that has a height requirement will gladly ditch that(most will) if the guy has those characteristics i pointed out suggesting that he can maintain a matrimonial home.

Phluck chemistry!

Capitalism is what drives most pple’s decisions,men and women to choose who they choose.Not necessarily looking for a rich guy but every chic is looking for a guy with relative money or potential for relative success in their career. Not chemistry. I doubt that.

Chemistry is the younger chics’ fad! :lol:

Not so with older chics who are counting the tick of their bilogical clocks. They are looking for that man with a heart beat who can pay the mortgage,has his own car,is not staying with mama and is not on drugs and just a blue collar regular dude…thats a dude to die for and marry for any chic that wants to get married.

Is she gonna bench him coz there is no chemistry???

I dare u,it aint happening!!

Chemistry my azz……!!

Thats a luxury!! A most hyped fad for most chics!

Unless the chic is not trying to settle with anyone………………….yeah,chemistry and that good eye candy on ur arm may drive those type chics to look for it.

:lol: :lol:

Kym

May 26th, 2010
10:49 am

Melo.. Look here boss(today’s word is boss)..I guess that is for them older chicks you know. Cause I have managed to get this far by Grace..so I can assure you that I am not about to sell out my happiness for some hard d..and a mortgage payment. Not that thirsty.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
10:52 am

Is she gonna bench him coz there is no chemistry???

I dare u,it aint happening!!

Melo – The desperate chick you describe, you’re probably right, she’ll settle and take what she can get. The dude, who has plenty of options, ditch her for someone he’s really vibing with that feels the same – he’ll dump her in a heartbeat. Just yesterday we were talking about dudes that date a perfectly nice woman for year, break up, meet somebody else and marry them in 6 months. I think it may have very little to do with “timing”, but that’s my opinion.

mqew

May 26th, 2010
10:53 am

Melo – You are right as well. I do know the chics that chose the dude that went to Brown as opposed to the one who didn’t.

I know the chics that would never ever date an electrician and only the white collar guys.

The former NOT happy, wants to leave, but she chose a long time ago Money over Emotions. The latter not found love yet.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
10:54 am

date a perfectly nice woman for year,

Years – I meant years.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
10:54 am

@kimmie ~ yes, I saw the finale and so glad Michael won. I like him, but the jeans he had on were a horrible fit. Anyway, Koli is cocky, and something appears “off” with him. Sam sure buffed up nicely. But, the highlight was seeing O’Neal. He bounded down those steps spoke volumes. I stood up and clapped for that man!

Sometimes, chemistry isn’t instant. It can build up over time. Some great relationships have lasted with “dislike at first sight.”

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:00 am

Leggs – Girl, I was in tears over O’Neal! Did he not pimp down those stairs in that suit & brim or what?!! And yes, those jeans were not becoming on Michael, but he seems like a really nice person. His mama is pretty too. Yeah, something is not quite right with Koli!! Sam is very attractive to me & he and Stephanie look good together.

You are so right about how a lot of great relationships began with dislike! But even THAT is chemistry, a pull, an emotion, to me! Not something that requires life-support.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
11:01 am

kimmie 10:52 is the truth….

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 26th, 2010
11:04 am

Long term is the key.. The chemistry is initial.. Over the course of the relationship the chemistry isnt gonna be what it was when ya’ll first met. I say get someone you respect as a person cause in the long term that will be key. Respect for that person allows you to honor them and not do things that will hurt them.. Chemistry or not if that long term respect isnt there its not gonna work..

Really I dont know to be honest.. Just get someone you can be yourself around at all times..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 26th, 2010
11:06 am

On Melo’s post.. Now come on ya’ll there is some truth to it.. A dudes pocket makes the chemistry happen easier..

Melo

May 26th, 2010
11:08 am

The desperate chick you describe, you’re probably right, she’ll settle and take what she can get.

@Kimmie??

Desperate??

im sure u say that coz u are in a happy place…

chemistry is an illusion..a moving target……u define chemistry it,its not defined by those outside.

and when u find a guy with all other ingredients that are a check..u develop the relationship to get the chemistry. Thats why they say a relationship or marriage is work. What do u think they mean??

I cannot for the life of me think a chic will find a guy that has all the ‘right’ qualities but simply ditch him coz there is no chemistry..thats unconscionable…..only in movies and in young chics does that happen…coz they domnt know what a relationship is.

I dare u, u wldnt do it if ur guy were not there and u find a guy like that!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 26th, 2010
11:08 am

we’ve heard it a million times.. “Girl I can learn to love him”…. And the mere Fact that Babes kissed Flava Flav is all the proof you need..

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:10 am

DK – I like your post. What you describe, what should be there after the initial lust phase, is what I would describe as love.

Dan

May 26th, 2010
11:10 am

@Kym, others

I’ll say this, talking to some of my homeboy’s it’s not ‘obligation’ in that sense, it’s the return of the loyalty; as in “dag, she stuck with me thru …”. That starts the wheel turning more often than anything else I’ve heard (re: chemistry, body, brains – in both senses- etc.).

For some (women), it may not be enough, for others it is. And we all notice who’s married and who’s not; who’s happy and who isn’t.

Do with this information what you will.

Dan

May 26th, 2010
11:14 am

@kimmie

Your 11:10 just validated Melo’s 10:44.

‘Desperate’ ain’t the word, comfortable may be.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:16 am

I cannot for the life of me think a chic will find a guy that has all the ‘right’ qualities but simply ditch him coz there is no chemistry.

Melo – You are talking about extremes here, I think.

And I’ve always felt the way I feel, about not wanting to be “stuck” with some dude I feel nothing for, or him feeling resentful cause he’s “stuck” with me – even when I wasn’t in a happy place. I’ve spoken about it before. That fear of feelin suffocated. That “out” my late mother gave me if I decided, midway thru my walk down the aisle, that I changed my mind, she would support me.

The stuff you describe may be true to a lot of people that have motives other than love for a person, but they don’t describe me. Again, just my opinion.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:22 am

Your 11:10 just validated Melo’s 10:44.

Dan – I don’t see how, but you’re entitled to your opinion. DK said the chemistry over time changes. I call that initial emotion lust and it can be fleeting. I think Melo is talking extremes.

Like I said earlier, people can dismiss chemistry if they want to. But whether you have it initially or you develop it over time, at some point it needs to be present. Otherwise you are just going thru the motions. In my opinion.

SlimOne...seeking a team mgr

May 26th, 2010
11:22 am

Are we still on topic?

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
11:22 am

Good point on the chemistry, kimmie. No one ever said all chemistry is a positive energy force.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
11:24 am

every married person or person in a relationship isn’t happy believe that but I digress……

Melo

May 26th, 2010
11:24 am

@Kym..as fou baby,ive red u here a long time.

Marriage aint the no# 1 issue on ur mind,unless u have suddenly changed…it may happen for u,but u aint necessarily looking for it,young or old….
So what i describe in my first post , u really may be an exception. But i want u,if u want to prove me wrong or right,scour the websites and look at the postings of pple over 36,who are looking for love and marriage…

Look at the postings of pple on here who want marriage..surely chemistry aint the n#1 thing on their minds…its how they are leading their lives..not on drugs,working folks,own car,not with mama,not many baby mamas..that type stuff………..hell even the drug dealers with regular flow are getting play with some really phine,knock ur socks off chics….Chemistry???

Not a chance!!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
11:25 am

or even have great chemistry…..

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
11:25 am

Fugg Love

Fugg Chemistry

Give me “LIKE”

Dan

May 26th, 2010
11:28 am

@Kimmie

I’m talking about the ‘moving target’.

I think chemistry is a moving target, in just the way you describe. It changes, it morphs, it goes from hot and heavy, to comfort, to the cold fear of losing something, or someone you’ve known for a while.

Like DK said though, if longevity is goal, you’re going to go through all these emotions, hoping to make it to the end.

Dan

May 26th, 2010
11:29 am

@For Real

Imjusayin….

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:29 am

Thats why they say a relationship or marriage is work. What do u think they mean??

I certainly don’t think they are talking about working to develop chemistry. And trying to stay in a relationship or marriage with someone I feel nothing for sounds like double the workload to me.

I expect you to have the feelings that you do about this subject Melo, because you’ve said many times you have never had your heart broken. You’ve not felt those emotions, so it’s easier for you to look at the strictly logical point of view. But a lot of what goes on with relationships really defyies logic. I don’t always go along with it or agree with it, but I recognize it.

gabrielle

May 26th, 2010
11:30 am

“I am sorry but looking for those things that are attractive to you..might be the equivalent of going on a search for the Holy Grail..ok not that deep..but still sometimes if you are just not feeling the person..you are just not feeling them.”

I agree with you-you need to be real about what you find attractive in another person.

A relationship that only has friendship, and no chemistry, is only a friendship. You can’t pretend to have chemistry with someone that you do not. I’m NOT saying play the game of pretend-That IS depressing. I’m saying that chemistry is a matter of perception.(My examples from India are meant to show how that).

That being said, I hear A LOT of women who dismiss really great guys as “just friends” because “There’s just no chemistry!” Then they wonder where all of the good men are. Hello! There’s one RIGHT in front of you!

A lot of women just won’t be honest with themselves about what they find attractive in a man. What you find attractive in someone is what determines chemistry.

If a woman says she wants a man who treats her with respect, then why does she get so turned on by the guy who’s a jerk?

What you find attractive in another person says a lot about your perception of yourself and about what you think is important. Sometimes, changing one’s perception can be the difference in changing chemistry with someone else.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:32 am

Dan – Your 11:28, I agree.

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
11:34 am

“But a lot of what goes on with relationships really defyies logic.” – That because women are illogical but that mean it defyies logic.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:39 am

That being said, I hear A LOT of women who dismiss really great guys as “just friends” because “There’s just no chemistry!” Then they wonder where all of the good men are. Hello! There’s one RIGHT in front of you!

Gabrielle – You proved your point. What YOU percieve as a “great guy” may be different from what these women you know think. Just because he looks good on paper doesn’t mean a relationship is going to work out with him.

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
11:39 am

Dan: Like I said before women have to make things hard it’s endcoded in their DNA. They will dump a dude because of a lack of chemistry and love but ask them to define either one and they can’t but they somehow know when it ain’t there even tho they don’t truly know what “it” is (ie. chemistry and love). Now, that defyies logic Kimmie.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
11:42 am

certainly don’t think they are talking about working to develop chemistry

@Kimmie??

No there are not..theyre working to develop the “relationship”..developing mutual respect,likes,priorities,passions etc..which when all is said and done ,it involves chemistry in there too.

If u are to define chemistry really i think it is a liking and mutual respect for each other,continous love and the passion u enjoy in each other’s company and the vibes u get when uall smash ofcourse..thats an added bonus.

I luv laying next to my boo even tho we may not smash for weeks…..we have worked on the relationship and on developing whats imorptant in our lives.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
11:42 am

Enter your comments here

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
11:42 am

gabrielle: Your post goes back to fact that women simply do not know what they want. Yall continuously run into walls until it feels good.

Dan

May 26th, 2010
11:43 am

At For Real: I hear you.

I’ve given up that fight entirely

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
11:44 am

for real and men do, they know, they get it right and we are forever ignorant to the fact????? men make things compilcated and difficult too….they maybe simple creatures but they can make simple ish utterly difficult in my opinion so I guess we will agree that we view and will forever view the opposite sex as women are from venus and men are from MARS! lol

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:44 am

4Real – Quit playing. When is Archer coming back on or do we have to wait until the fall?

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
11:46 am

Morning Everyone
If I like talking to you, like spending time with you, like being intimate with you, like your plan, and you like those same things about me, then we can keep going and see where it ends up. If that’s chemistry, then yeah I need that. If chemistry is some intangible feeling of butterflies or whatever, then I don’t have to have that.

Sometimes, changing one’s perception can be the difference in changing chemistry with someone else.
Gabrielle Keep ‘em coming.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:51 am

Melo – your 11:42, now that is more like it, I agree. So sweet about you & your boo! :)

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
11:55 am

LadyJ: You ask alot of questions with tangents so I’m going to break your post down like so but before I do, why did you not respond with I know what I want instead of the defensive and predictive “And Men…” response?

1. “and men do” – 96% of them do yes
2. “they get it right” -Nowhere in my post did I ever mention that right or wrong
3. “and we are forever ignorant to the fact?????” – Again nowhere in my post did I mention that women are “forever ignorant to the fact”.
4. “men make things compilcated and difficult too” – Yes they do and if you look behind every aspect of a man’s personal life that’s complicated and difficult there you will find a woman.
5. “we view and will forever view the opposite sex as women are from venus and men are from MARS” – Nope I have disagree. If woman would simply control their emotions like that do at work and take some responsibility for the choice SHE made, then all of would simply fall back to the planet you are from.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
11:58 am

Lady J – Baby, why did you open that can of worms with 4Real?LOL!!! Pay him no mind!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
11:59 am

your tone can’t be ignored either for real but I digress….thanks for the breakdown and yes I do ask many questions to unclear statements…….

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
12:00 pm

Kimmie: I think it comes back on in June or maybe confusing it with Burn Notice and Leaverage but I cool right now as far as my the TV is concerned because Breaking Bad is on and it’s the best show on TV. Those writers are the bomb!!! Speaking of Archer did you ever see the Honeypot Episode?

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
12:00 pm

kimmie i can’t ignore his tone about how silly women act and it is OUR fault for everything about a relationship failing….not he doesn’t type it but his TONE says it all! but hey who am I just a moniker right! ha! lol kimmie!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
12:03 pm

and again its all opinions so i will respect his and hush bc we will never find a median which is cool….lol

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
12:04 pm

LadyJ: Awwww come on now I have been blogging long enough now for you to have a since of personality. So let go of your perceived tone of mines and respond to my response of your response.

Kimmie: I’m like a traffic accident. You can’t help but look.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
12:06 pm

What if chemistry didn’t exist?

You have got to have chemistry. You have got to have that connection. It exists in friendships so you know it has to exist to some extent in romantic/intimate relationships. We aren’t friends with people we don’t share some type of connection with.

Now while chemistry, that connection, has to exist in some form it surely alone cannot make for a successful and great or even good relationship. Having that meeting of the spirits may bring us into like realms but it’s the meeting of the minds and souls that are the makings for a successful relationship. We have got to like each other. We have to possess the skills to communicate with and get each other.

However back to chemistry, we have got to want each other. Want to be in each other’s company. Miss each other when apart for some time. That chemistry provides the fuel for that “umph” we often feel for each. That magnetism. That thing that makes us happy doing nothing together.

See it’s easy for two people to enjoy, let’s say hiking together. They are both engaging in something they like. It’s that mutual like that has them together and is keeping them entertained. They are distracted by that mutual like. But ask, if away from that mutual like is there an inner connection? Can they do nothing together? With chemistry you are drawn to that person away from all else. But when it comes to all else it takes everything else outside of just chemistry to make it.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
12:06 pm

cool beans bruh! lol

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
12:08 pm

I’m like a traffic accident. You can’t help but look.

4Real – A train wreck is more like it! LOL!! And yes, Honeypot, hillarious!

I agree, SO got me into Breaking Bad, he records it, yes it is excellent!

Off to lurnch!

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
12:08 pm

Men usually approach women. Is your (a man’s) approach usually lead by chemistry?

Kym

May 26th, 2010
12:09 pm

Chemistry is not just physical to me. When I think of chemistry it is just there has to be something a bit deeper than that..not just the sudden bam lets get naked!! To me..chemistry is related to what Gabby said..but…. I am just not for that whole hunt and peck,find something so you can say you have chemistry, cause this is a good guy and you should keep him around, because he is a good guy ,and eventually you will find something to like about him, stuff…Whew!!! That is exhausting to thinking about.

Dan

May 26th, 2010
12:10 pm

“Can they do nothing together?” “Can they be quiet together?”

Is the key to it all….Great point Raqi.

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
12:12 pm

Raqi: “You have got to have chemistry. You have got to have that connection.” THEN YOU SAY: “Now while chemistry, that connection, has to exist in some form it surely alone cannot make for a successful and great or even good relationship.” – Now class that’s called a “Contradiction” – Question if it’s such a “MUST HAVE” why is and I’m quoting here “it’s the meeting of the minds and souls that are the makings for a successful relationship.” is the key to success if CHEMISTRY is SOOOOOOOOOOO important?

Dan

May 26th, 2010
12:14 pm

@Luv

A man’s approach may be defined by:

Your shoes,
Your eyes,
The way your butt fits in them jeenz,
Your hair,
Your smell,
Your left boobie,
Your walk,
How long it’s been since…

all at the same time.

There’s no general statement to be made about why men approach. If you want to think about it, think about why they approach you. But do so on an individual basis.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
12:14 pm

EXACTLY Raqi!!! Can you spend time in quiet comfort with this joker? Can the mere fact that he is in the house, not in the room be enough for you? Does her presence make you feel loved? Not just the physical..but the thought of that person feel you with a sense of joy..then to me that is chemistry..you can’t make it up or buy it in a bottle.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
12:16 pm

Chuckling softly……..

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
12:17 pm

Kimmie: Imma wear that outfit to the blog fest. You want judge me will you? Your SO is a bright man.

Luvbug: “Is your (a man’s) approach usually lead by chemistry?” – Men approaching women has nothing to do with your soul, your spirit, how good or bad of person you are, or your likes or dislikes, men approach woman because (DRUM ROLL PLEASE) BECAUSE HE WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU!! He will figure the other ish out but for right now you look good and he’s got a semi. What’s a dude to do?

Melo

May 26th, 2010
12:17 pm

Is your (a man’s) approach usually lead by chemistry?

@Luvbug??

Nope. approach is led by the step,bounce,smile and physique i like and am drooling over.

When i get to hear u speak and how u treat me and how u do the back and forth..that either reinforces my like/lust or kills the passion.

The chemistry gets developed/or goes flat ..blah! as we sit tgether,side by side or eye ball to eye ball,watching a ball game,munching on nuts and pop corn or as we chop on that steak and mash potato dinner I ordered for u at the steak house. :lol:

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
12:18 pm

Good Afternoon peeps- Too much to catch up on but…….

“I hear A LOT of women who dismiss really great guys as “just friends” because “There’s just no chemistry!” Then they wonder where all of the good men are. Hello! There’s one RIGHT in front of you!”

@gabrielle- I have always said that to women and they argue me down. Which always made me draw the conclusion that most women would not even know a good man anyway so that is why they seem to wind up with the ones they want to complain about all day

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
12:21 pm

Kym: Like I said fugg Love and fugg Chemistry. Give me “LIKE” cause without that you can’t do none of that mushy stuff you mention in your post. Now, I expect mushy/quirky from Raqi but you? Do I need to change the topic to Morehouse and play-plya dranks again?

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
12:21 pm

@Raqi- I would have to agree with your 12:06p

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
12:22 pm

Dan – So a dude may not be attracted to you, but attracted to your shoes?? That’s unfortunate.

I guess I’m still not sure what chemistry includes.

sidenote: I know the weeks of misspelling has been killin some of yall…but I’ve given up on making corrections. :lol:

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
12:23 pm

Afternoon Folks,

Chemistry can defined as that spark that is felt when you share similarities in tastes, likes, dislikes, compatible personalities and mindsets. Heck, even a friendship has to have some type of “chemistry” to exist and remain a real friendship. In relationships, the chemistry has to be there in order to see the potential in it and to want to go forward to see and explore more.
Meeting someone for the 1st time can allow each to see if the chemistry is there. Once either person recognizes, they will want to get know more and see more of that person. Now, some guys may go out with a woman several times, even though he may not feel there is a real chemistry there, other than a sexual chemistry. Women (myself) on the other hand, have a hard time doing this. I know personally I have dated guys who I felt we didn’t share enough common interests and our personalities clashed to pursue a relationship with and this conclusion was not based off 1 date or an initial meeting. Now, other things can turn you off in a 1st date/meeting that can cause you to say “no, he doesn’t do it for me”. You do yourself and the person you are dating a disservice if you continue to date them knowing you don’t feel enough chemistry that is necessary for a good relationship.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
12:26 pm

jtj I agree good post…..

Melo

May 26th, 2010
12:28 pm

guess I’m still not sure what chemistry includes

@Luvbug?? Try this….

do u like each other’s company even when u aint smash buddies??

now,if he dont have a job,stays with mama and needs a ride from u to go to the tennis grounds but good to hang out with,are u going to explore a relationship wiuth him….?? :arrow:

or if he has a good job,ride,nice house but he aint tall to ur liking,are u going to stop and smile back and listen when he hollas at u and see if chemistry can be developed???

Take ur pick!

For Real (My Hypocrisy Only Goes So Far)

May 26th, 2010
12:30 pm

jtj: “Now, some guys may go out with a woman several times, even though he may not feel there is a real chemistry there, other than a sexual chemistry.” – You defined chemistry with a wide swath now you defining as “real chemistry” and “sexual chemistry”. One should never make a decision based upon things which they do not know the meaning.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
12:31 pm

don’t feel enough chemistry

@JtJ??

is it a feel thang or it is what comes outa their mouf??

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
12:34 pm

@For Real–Now I can join in because I haven’t read anything until now that is actually distinguishing the 2 because there is a big difference. I find often that it all comes out especially after the smashing gets old.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
12:40 pm

“….What’s beef? beef is when you need two gats to go to sleep
Beef is when your moms ain’t safe up in the streets….”

Dreams Mat? you still go the key to the licka cabinet?

I need some Bacardi to go with my coke

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
12:54 pm

@ For Real- Maybe I should say a “genuine chemistry”, not that fake crap just cause he/she may look good to you—You know exactly what I am talking about. Don’t act like you don’t know the difference between a sexual chemistry vs. a real/genuine chemistry that can be discovered only after you have talked and discovered enough about a person.

My definition of chemistry may not work for you, but it works just fine for me—That is how I see it.

@ Melo- for me…chemistry is mixture of feelings about their personality, their appearance, their ambitions and more. It ain’t just about money/sex for me and I am sure, a lot others.
You all keep stabbing at other people’s definitions of chemistry but no one can define something for someone else!!

My definition of chemistry has allowed me to find a fine specimen of a man and I can say that honestly say that if I didn’t feel something from our initial dates, there would not have been enough there to pursue a relationship.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
12:56 pm

LOL Kym, I wish I could figure out a way to bottle that stuff then my husband can retire next year and we can go live in a house on the lake and raise our little ones without the franticness of corporate america.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
12:59 pm

<—-taking a sober lunch

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
1:01 pm

“I hear A LOT of women who dismiss really great guys as “just friends” because “There’s just no chemistry!” Then they wonder where all of the good men are. Hello! There’s one RIGHT in front of you!”

I know a lot of good men. Good men who aren’t for me. The above suggests that I don’t deserve or should settle for a guy who’s just “good” and doesn’t incite any sort of passion or romantic feelings.

I’m willing to wait a little longer, (or possibly forever) for a guy who is good and have chemistry with.

I don’t think that’s asking for a lot either.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
1:02 pm

Man we would make a killing selling “Chemistry in A Bottle”. Just kind the person you like and slip some in their drink or food and viola instant long lasting chemistry.

Come to think of it there is a product out on the market already that does not, however with temporary results. It’s called LIQUOR.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:02 pm

I would imagine in the start of working from home self discipline could be a challenge…..geesh…..I need to create an office workstation the bed isn’t getting it…..lol sigh…..

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
1:08 pm

@LadyJ- Yep. Get you a workstation, bed never worked for me either.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:10 pm

I will go out and buy a desk and accessories and set up shop so I can master my theory for couseling……lol

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
1:11 pm

Kimmie, if you are here imma be ready to discuss Grey’s with you in about 5 minutes. I have to go change my pants because I spilled water on myself trying to do too many things at one time. My friend Isabelle is standing here looking at me like “I know your grown arse didn’t just pee your pants”. LOL

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
1:12 pm

I would imagine in the start of working from home self discipline could be a challenge

@LadyJ, it always is. My office workstation is in on my couch with my laptop and the TV in front of me.
:)

Melo

May 26th, 2010
1:14 pm

…..I need to create an office workstation the bed isn’t getting it

@Lady J??

the bed is a work station..what u talking about..not for the laptop ofcourse….unless if u intend lap dance! :lol:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:19 pm

melo real talk I read an article once when I was married nothing should be in the bedroom but the bed! LOL it is a type but thankfully my bed is out of operation for that in my mama’s house! lol

trevor lol too funny!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:20 pm

trevor it is the tv more than anything at least in my classroom the tv was off lol

Melo

May 26th, 2010
1:20 pm

It ain’t just about money/sex ??

@JtJ..sexual chemistry even sexual geography wont get u far. U need more than that.

Money chemistry will take u a lil further..check the Real baskeball Heifers/Hoes of the NBA..but u will still stumble if its not premised on good,solid core values of the person..

Chemistry is what u get,well after u have forgotten the day he banged u for the very first time!

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
1:21 pm

Lady J — Bed is the perfect place to “work” from home… ;-) Of course, if you’re actually working and not “working” then, yeah, some kind of work space is needed.

I’ve got the perfect happy medium at the new crib. We’ve got this little enclosed patio room / sun room — lots of windows; when the weather’s nice, I throw open the double-doors to the deck; TV; stereo; wetbar close by… Ideal working conditions! :lol:

Kym

May 26th, 2010
1:23 pm

@ForReal..what does that mean..from me? I like love and romance just like anyone else. Look here boss..no one wants to just sit around with some joker..breathing on you cause you in deep LIKE with him. I am not trying to learn to LIKE someone for the rest of my life. I plan to retire, buy an RV and drive around the USA seeing the sites..I know me..if the LIKE wears off..then I am going to have to put him out at the rest stop..or push him over into the Grand Canyon..cause he has gotten on my last nerve!

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
1:25 pm

We’ve got this little enclosed patio room / sun room — lots of windows; when the weather’s nice, I throw open the double-doors to the deck; TV; stereo; wetbar close by… Ideal working conditions!

@Swiss, now THAT is an office workstation!!
:lol:

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
1:25 pm

Afternoon All,

I have no clue how to define or explain what is Chemistry. Its kinda like how ol boy explained Porn back in the day ‘I know it when I see it’. I also think its something that you either have with a person or you dont.

4Real – I’ll partially agree with you bout love/chemistry/like. But I will say this, Many days I love the wifey but cant stand her azz. Like will keep me around only until I like something else.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:26 pm

swiss hush your mouth!!!!! if I was hitched I would have the same space and it can be a hell of a workspace too! sounds fun wet bar and music! woohoo!

but I am reading here and there and answering some lame questions…..I need a desk period……the bed is not designed for book work….hell I even know that! lol

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
1:28 pm

the bed is not designed for book work

LadyJ, you know Melo is going to run with this statement, right.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
1:28 pm

Raqi – Okay, holla when you’re ready! I’m back from lunch.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:31 pm

yeah withh you helping trevor! maybe he will ignore! ha! lol you could have just thought it sir! LMBAO! lol

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
1:35 pm

Kym, from what I am learning in this journey called life is it takes love and like both to make it work the best. I really didn’t realize the urgent importance of like until my husband said it one day. We were playing around and he said “you better be glad I like you”. I asked him if it’s like or love. He said the love is what brought him to making a life and home with me and keeping him getting up every morning to go to work for us, but like is what keeps him coming home at the end of that work day for more. I get that. I really do get that. Some people take one over the other but from where I stand they work the best together.

But yeah I agree with you. I ain’t about to be letting some dude that I just like consume my precious time every darn day of the week. LOL

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:36 pm

changing the subject from the bed…..lol

DE John Abraham and CB Dominique Daniels were not at today’s OTA session. Abraham usually doesn’t attend all of the “voluntary” sessions.

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
1:37 pm

Matter of fact… I do believe it’s time to visit the wetbar right about now… :lol: Drinks on me! What’ll ya have?

Kym

May 26th, 2010
1:37 pm

@Raqi..exactly..people will be asking me what happen to that good husband you had Kym? Oh he slip and fell 3,000 feet straight down..I shole did like him tho’..LMAO!!!

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
1:39 pm

if the LIKE wears off..then I am going to have to put him out at the rest stop..or push him over into the Grand Canyon..cause he has gotten on my last nerve!

@Kym- Too funny.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
1:39 pm

Kimmie, first I just want to say how in the heck folks knowing there is a loose cannon in the building shooting up folks find time to discuss the love lives? That’s what stuck out with me.
And secondly, Chief Webber is awesome. That sissitive Derrick got his puny butt shot because he don’t know nothing about running no hospital and how to deal with people.

Okay I got that off my chest…I agree with those that said that finale was the best of all seasons.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:39 pm

Strawberry Margarita Frozen!!!!!!!!!!!!! thx swiss!

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
1:40 pm

If chemistry didn’t exist, physical intimacy wouldn’t be anywhere near as satisfying and probably only half as much fun. It would be more like having a workout partner.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
1:40 pm

Kym – I get you all day. Somedays I really need to be in love wit yo butt to stand to be around you & smell yo sweaty self. Yeah, I like u & all & u a decent human being, but u grating my nerves. And that’s the real deal, no violins and roses.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:43 pm

kimmie that is the reality I speak of……lol

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
1:44 pm

physical intimacy wouldn’t be anywhere near as satisfying and probably only half as much fun

‘Cause you know some days it’s the mere fact of doing with that person that I really dig and am into that gets my temp rising. LOL Before even getting to the big finish, bonding with him is just an all time fabulous fete.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
1:45 pm

LOL kimmie, at 1:40 you speaking the whole truth and nothing but the truth there.

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
1:45 pm

“Strawberry Margarita Frozen!!!!!!!!!!!!! thx swiss!”

Double-shot of Patron coming right up, Lady J:lol:

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
1:47 pm

@ Sexycool- I agree.

If you want a successful relationship, it has to start with the way you feel about that person and the growth of those feelings. Chemistry has to exist to even consider the possibility of a relationship. It is not that hard to understand that. Now, how you define that “ chemistry” is up to you, but is has to exist!!!
Someone said “Give You Like”, well even to like something, it has to be appealing enough for you to “like it” in the first place. Otherwise, you wouldn’t give it a second thought. To “like” a woman, there has to be something about her beyond sexual attraction to keep her around more for relationship.– I could be wrong, but dang, she would have to “like” you to……so guess what—CHEMISTRY!!!! There has to be some type of connection there.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
1:47 pm

@SexyCool..”He just get on top of me and do his business and then roll off..Ohhh heck no!!!”<<<<<< This will not do..Foolishness.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
1:47 pm

@SexyCool..”He just get on top of me and do his business and then roll off..Ohhh heck no!!!”<<<<<< This will not do..Foolishness.

For Real (He shouldda arm himself if gon decorate his bar with my friend)

May 26th, 2010
1:48 pm

Definition:

Love = Commitment(but the way it’s thrown around it has lost its meaning) which is why you stay around Wifey when you mad Willie D but your like for allows you to get over being mad. Like when she sows the holes in your sock and you say awww sugar butt is sweet.

Chemistry = A shared view of a topic (sports teams require all member to see the situation the same way in order to be successful)

Like = Something you enjoy doing (sitting quietly together while the dude is wondering “why in the hell did I let Kym drive this dayum RV and when are going to stop cause I can’t hold this poot much longer before it turn into liquid)

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:48 pm

LMBAO @ you swiss I will be OWT in the bed sleep! LOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Melo

May 26th, 2010
1:48 pm

Did uall read that story on ajc, of the 15 yr old boy who went missing in 2001 but his bones found in 2009..that touched my heart…grandma must have died really angst by that…

Evil pple all around……glad they caught that Mfccker!!

Then u have the cel phone number in London england,whose 3 previous shady owners have met cruel violent deaths..and they discontinue the number??

There was no need….all three were crooks anyway..probability of a cruel death happning was high anyway..aint that true Dreamz??

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
1:49 pm

Kym – LMAO – exactly!

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
1:49 pm

Raqi – Okay on a couple of blogs I’ve read, like tvguide & such, a lot of people were talking about the sorry SWAT team! I must admit that stuck out with me too. There is no way that SWAT guy that shot the shooter should not have taken him down! And look how long he wandered all over that hospital!!!! That whole SWAT team needs to be fired.

Yes, Chief Webber is the joint!!! He needs to be back running things, let him finish his little AA rehab & reinstate him! That’s what folks were saying on the blogs too. Derek is in his element in the OR and that’s where he needs to be – doing brilliant surgeries. He’s a scientist, not a manager. Webber understands the big picture!

Did Bailey not act her butt off or what?!! When she went crazy when that elevator didn’t work, I lost it. I was expecting her to go Da—, Da—, Da— like Florida Evans in Good Times!

And is Dr. Jackson Avery hot or what? I think Yang needs to forget about Owen’s shell-shocked self & get with him – real chemistry there and he’s got cajones, not afraid to stand up to her or anybody!

More to come

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
1:51 pm

Lady J — The Swiss Bar contains liquor only. You can add whatever other unnecessary additives on your own…. ;-)

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
1:51 pm

That sissitive Derrick got his puny butt shot because he don’t know nothing about running no hospital and how to deal with people.

Chief Webber may have gotten himself shot too. Besides, that’s why he got replaced as Chief!

They should bring back Burke now that all the whiners are gone.

Sassy Me..Rude gal in a di place :-)

May 26th, 2010
1:51 pm

Swissie you bartendin? Lemme get a double shot of Patron,too por favor papi ;)

For Real (He shouldda arm himself if gon decorate his bar with my friend)

May 26th, 2010
1:52 pm

“half as much fun” – Is that the equivalent of a half of nutt?

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
1:53 pm

@JtJ- I can agree partially, however I think the obstacle comes into play with where 2 ppl are with their wants and desires too. I find that often there is physical attraction which can lead to excellent sexual chemistry, but then she wants a husband but he just wants to bust tonight then all the “chemistry” was just goo goo eyes from across the room.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:53 pm

oh cool sure for my Rita not st8 up naw dawg lol

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
1:53 pm

Yeah, I like u & all & u a decent human being, but u grating my nerves.
Yeah this is how I know my taxi light is OFF . I’m not trying to be around someone who gets on my nerves.

For Real (He shouldda arm himself if gon decorate his bar with my friend)

May 26th, 2010
1:54 pm

..”He just get on top of me and do his business and then roll off..Ohhh heck no!!!” – That’s what being in love is all about!

Melo

May 26th, 2010
1:54 pm

physical intimacy wouldn’t be anywhere near as satisfying

@Sexxycool??

I disagree…..if u say “mutually satisfying” then thats better…..

coz sure enough,WE guys are capable of wanting to nutt inside u without us being satisfied by being around u or spending a lot of quality time with u!!

The moment u mix chemistry with sexx,u lose the plot!

Sassy Me..Rude gal in a di place :-)

May 26th, 2010
1:54 pm

”He just get on top of me and do his business and then roll off..

:shock:

Aww hellz naw…Houston, we have a problem

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:55 pm

preach dig that! lol when two folks want two diff things the sex then after means nothing…..

For Real (You are the Son of a Thousand Fathers)

May 26th, 2010
1:55 pm

Kym/Raqi: How many people do you stay around that you don’t like? How many people do you stay around that you Love?

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
1:57 pm

Melo – so you’re saying you would get the same satisfaction busting off inside a pay by the hour chick as you do when joing with your wife?

The *same* satisfaction?

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
1:57 pm

They should bring back Burke now that all the whiners are gone.

Amred, a lot of people are saying that, and that would CHANGE EVERYTHING! Talk about adding some DRAMA to a DRAMA!!!LOL!!!

I am so glad Izzy is gone and I don’t miss George either!

Okay, who do you guys want Lexie with – Mark or Karev? It would be Mark all day for me!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
1:58 pm

dreamsM it is going to be something that irks you with someone bc noone is just perfect even in your perfect but i would think I like you enough so that doesn’t bother me for an example hmmmmmm not saying good bye at the end of a phone call I have a habit of the convo ends and we are both like ok talk with you later I hang up it irked this one guy that I didn’t say bye so and so be he didnt disappear……lol

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
1:59 pm

4Real – mayne dont you owe me a coupla bucks. Ifn i member correctly I placed a winning wager on one of our blog bruhs. I’d like my money Mayne. Betta yet I’d LOVE my money mayne.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
1:59 pm

Okay, who do you guys want Lexie with – Mark or Karev? It would be Mark all day for me!

Neither! Lexie still irks me. :lol:

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
1:59 pm

Like Raqi stated, if you don’t like someone you can’t love them. Both components help to keep chemistry ignited.

I am stuffed to the gills!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:00 pm

Yeah the SWAT should have got him with the first shot.

Derrick even said out loud he had no clue what to do when he found out about the shooter. Webber went right on in there and handled the situation. Maybe that was Shondra’s way of showing Webber is going to be back on duty next season.

Dr. Avery…mm, mm, mm. LOL A hottie for sure.

Yep, Bailey out did herself on that one. I was first impressed with her quick thinking of denying to be a surgeon although she felt bad doing it. It left her available to try save Dr. Percy.

I don’t care for Callie that much but she impressed me in the pediatric wing. She proved that she is a better doctor that her girlfriend.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:00 pm

meant but he didn’t disapear…..lol……

For Real (You are the Son of a Thousand Fathers)

May 26th, 2010
2:01 pm

“I’d like my money Mayne. Betta yet I’d LOVE my money mayne.” – For Real now squatting down hoping Willie D didn’t see while squat walking to the front door.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:01 pm

Amred – I said FOR ME! Lexie irks me too! It’s almost like she irritates Meredith too!!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:02 pm

awwww kimmie that is why I stopped bc i liked izzy and george! lol

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:02 pm

For Real – put up the *church finger*, you’ll disappear into thin air.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:02 pm

I think Yang should get with Owen too. I have always said they make a great couple. Even if he is crazy.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:03 pm

so you’re saying you would get the same satisfaction busting off inside a pay by the hour chick as you do when joing with your wife?

@Sexxycool??

Absolutely!

the fact that im married to her dont me shes has the best,knock my sexx off sexx ever. Nope..she is the one i committed to based on that whole list of stuff i prioritised about her thats important to me,which contributes to the whole chemistry thang.

I could go on looking at other women to give me that ooomp..but what stops me is my respect for the institution and its rules Not sexx….

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:05 pm

Raqi – Folks were talking about how when Webber was talking to the shooter, he said that he had lived a good life, that he’d had “a great love”. Everyone was saying he was talking about Meredith’s mama, not his wife. I think that too.

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
2:07 pm

@ Dig That….them goo-goo eyes get ‘em everytime..lol

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:07 pm

Said in my best Bernie Mac voice –

Anybody seen that MFn 4Real? That MF owe me sum MFn $$. If you see that MF tell him Willie MFn D want his MFn money or we gon have some MFn problems.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:07 pm

Okay…so why do we think the shooter chose himself and not Webber. I read somewhere that there were no cliffhangers… we didn’t see Webber walk out that building. We just know the shooter had to make a choice. He could be dead.

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
2:08 pm

@SexyC- A nutt is a nutt is a nutt. The emotional ties may make it meaningful but I’m sure that the difference would be (not putting words in Melo’s mouf) whether he bust and get up or bust and say I love you Queen.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:09 pm

Am I the only one that noticed that they killed off the least attractive doctors? LOL!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:09 pm

Yep, kimmie Meredith’s mother. I like the way he put it to the shooter making being dead (shooting himself instead of Webber) and with his wife more desired that spending life in jail. Reverse psychology at it’s best.

It's me....lurker

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

They should bring back Burke now that all the whiners are gone.

Amen to that

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

Amazon, yes Webber did walk out. They showed it.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

Dig/Melo – from a purely physical standpoint, I could see what you’re talking about.

But when it comes to a level of actual satisfaction, naw, I ain’t buying that.

Go sell that to somebody else.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

awwww kimmie that is why I stopped bc i liked izzy and george! lol

Lady J, you are in a very small minority with that. I could stomach George okay, but he & Izzie just didn’t work for me. She was not believeable to me as a top-knotch doctor on the show. She always looked like a deer in the headlights. Glad she’s gone.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

emotional loving is more satisfying and produce better results….you can go anywhere and find anyone to help bust your nut…..lol

dig that too funny but true!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:11 pm

LOL SexyCool. I just said they killed off the least important doctors. I was kinda hoping Lexie had gotten shot.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:12 pm

yep kimmie I am in the minority with prime time tv honey I have been watching Oxygen all morning and talking to yall oh hell it after two….lol

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:13 pm

Amred, near the end they showed Webber shake the hand of the policeman that was running things.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:14 pm

“……there gonna be a lot of flower bringing and slow song singing if my burgular alarm starts ringin’…..”

Where my drink at Mayne!!!!

Kym

May 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

LMAO @For Real.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

While the ladies are talking TV

Fellas, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

@ARed ~ Webber did walk out. We know the shooter shot himself so he could be with his wife.

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

Sassy — Your shot’s coming right up — but I’m fresh out of shot glasses, so it’s gonna have to be a body shot off of Lady J

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

to a level of actual satisfaction, naw, I ain’t buying that.

@Sexxycool??

we already know,u females dont believe what we guys tell u…..we aint from the same planet anyway! :lol:

now with me babe,the only diff in how i treat queen and the heiffer is that i aint licking a heiffer….coz i dont know who else dips in there…

but if my balls were to get so big that i have to bust a nutt, skin deep in a heiffer’s,trust me,im puffing and huffing same way and the back of my head has about the same circumference,at the height of dopamine,if u measure it…..

I aint mouthing the same sweet nothings tho(i luv u baby! etc) as i nutt to a heiffer……Thats the only difference….!!!!! :lol: :lol:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:17 pm

swiss go take a nap! lol

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

dag willie d you din’t want to talk the falcons……booooo to the nba! sike! lol carry on!

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

SCool – Yeah, I won’t miss those doctors at all. I wish they would have shot April, she gets on my nerves, ran up just as Derek might have talked the shooter out of shooting him!

And yeah, they could have shot Lexie and the effect on the show would have been minimal. Mark & Karev would have grieved a little, Meredith would have been a little sad, but they would have all gotten over it.

Wonder what they are going to do about Meredith getting pregnant again since she miscarried.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:19 pm

Melo i almost told you where to go! LMBAO @ you no we are not from the same planet! LOLOLOL too funny!

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

Fellas, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.

Willie, they have a good shot IF they shoot like that in L.A. The Lakers can sometimes sleepwalk through a series and win it in six games.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

Hell if busting a nut is all you are after you can do that alone.

I can’t see a man comparing having relations with his wife to just getting off with some random woman.

It’s true that the only difference in making love and just having sex is the mindset. I would just hope a person would actually feel something, (i.e. a different mindset) for the one they chose to marry.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:21 pm

geesh now melo I am going to believe your post after reading it again! it explains much! lol but we ain’t stupid some just ignore the obvious for a nut too……lol

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:22 pm

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
2:22 pm

then all the “chemistry” was just goo goo eyes from across the room.

Dig I get your point, but I think the sexual attraction can still be there long after two people have decided they don’t want the same things. How many chicks have you known that were, by their own admission, with a guy they knew they shouldn’t be with? She already knew they didn’t want the same things, so why did she stay with him? The sex. Shyte I just saw an old flame three months ago and that “sexual chemistry” was still there, but we both knew that outside of that we just didn’t work well together.

dreamsM it is going to be something that irks you with someone bc noone is just perfect even in your perfect
Lady J I know no one is perfect, especially me. lol Maybe there’s someone out there who’s willing to deal with my imperfections, but right now I’m in a place where I’m not ready to deal with another person’s when I don’t want to. When we start getting on each other’s nerves, I want to be able to go home. You can’t be married and have that attitude, which is why I say I know I’m not ready right now.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:22 pm

Melo – of course, I hear what you guys are saying and I believe some of it. Just not you all the time.

And like I said, if I am speaking simply from a physical standpoint, then, yes, the waves of the O’s that are self-manufactures ride the same way as those that are produced by interacting with TheDude. But the level of mental and emotional satisfaction is on a different level considering that it is tied to this individual that I have feelings for and I care about and am connected to/bonded with.

But you obviously choose to remain one-dimensional on this subject.

So be it.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

Willie D..why did you just ask the fellows about bball? Women watch bball you know?

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

kimmie, I think April’s role was good. Her nervous behavior made it very real like.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

Lady J – I’m a Cowboys fan. Just talking about the Fakecons makes my Stomach hurt. Ha ha ha

Trevor – The Lakers are not a good perimeter shooting team. That zone takes away size advantage of Bynum,Gasol,Odom. Plus the bench for the Suns killing them. I do agree tho that the Lakers are Champs for a reson. I still say 6 games like you.

Kym – my bad, whatchu think? Me personally I like the Hawks so really I dont care bout whoever left. i just like seeing good games.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

now dreamsM I agree with your 2:22!!!!!!! real talk!

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

I put way too much cheese on my hotdog :shock:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

awwwwwww damn willie d!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww booooooooooo!

you broke my heart dude! :(

LMBAO!

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:27 pm

@Raqi and Kimmie – Thanks!!! Chief Webber does rock. I do think Shepard will resign or be replaced as Chief.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

“…..Hah, sicka than your average Poppa
Twist cabbage off instinct n**** don’t think s*** stink…..”

looking for the licka cabinet key. I WANT MY DRINK MAYNE!!!!

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

@ Raqi…Same here with your 2:20. Not only a woman you chose to marry, but a woman that has given birth to your kids as well.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:29 pm

I can’t see a man comparing having relations with his wife to just getting off with some random woman.

@Raqi??

becoz u are wrapped up in fuzzy mushy feelings about ur husband right now and not thinking like a man,rightfully so..ofcourse u are a woman!

Ur husband is with u coz he chose u and is obligated to stay coz he respects the institution of marriage..and dang,,he wont dare compare u to another woman in ur presence. I wldnt and she aint here.

who does???

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:30 pm

Raqi – Yeah, I agree she added to the episode, but I’m sick of her now!LOL!

I just don’t know how I feel about Owen & Yang. I know it wouldn’t be “Yanglike” if it weren’t complicated, but there is something to be said for easy sometimes. No doubt they are hot together. She stood by him and helped him deal with his post-traumatic stress after he woke up choking her. Now this “I don’t know how I feel” mess about Teddie is just a little much for me. But I know they are going to let them get together. I think Dr. Avery would be good for her too though, he really respects her abilities as a rock-star surgeon. Sometimes Owen seems not to get that ambitious side that Yang has and kinda talks down to her, to me.

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:30 pm

Taking Willie’s question

Ladies, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

but a woman that has given birth to your kids as well.

that is deep JTJ……

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

Fellas, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.
Willie D I don’t know if the Suns have a shot, but I do know that LA needs to step their game way up if they hope to stand a chance against Boston.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

@kimmie ~ probably be a story line on her working through the miscarriage and the guilt she may or may not carry. I liked the first doctor he killed.

Yes, April did..had to laugh at learning her technique by watching Oprah.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

The Suns are toast.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:32 pm

I would actually like to see somebody on Grey’s, ANYbody have a relationship with someone who does not work at Seattle Grace.

Although, we see how that worked out for Bailey and Webber.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:32 pm

trevor I have lost intrest with the nba or maybe basketball…..hmmmmm…..lol

yall is avery jonhson going to be the next hawks coach????

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:33 pm

DreamsM i feel the lakers can take Boston……lol…….

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

Kimmie, yeah they are going to let them be together. He went back in that hospital for Yang.

I think it’s his military back ground that makes him talk down to her like that. That’s why I never dated any type of military man. They scare me. Seriously. Crazy I tell ya, just crazy.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

Melo – of course, I hear what you guys are saying

@Sexxycool??

thats gangsta.. :lol:

never ask ur hubby to compare u with another imaginary woman…..or ask him to give u a truthful answer about ur new hair do,unless u want his true opinion…which he may never give….

ooghhhh, uall know that already dont u! :lol:

Dan

May 26th, 2010
2:34 pm

@Ared

When Kobe gets to whining (and when doesn’t he really), that’s a bad sign for the team.

And he was crying like a kid with a skint knee last night.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:35 pm

“never ask ur hubby to compare u with another imaginary woman…..”

Now, ^that^ would just be stupid.

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
2:36 pm

DreamsM i feel the lakers can take Boston……lol……
Lady J The Suns’ bench is destroying the Lakers, and Boston probably has the deepest bench in the league.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:36 pm

“…..who shot ya!?!…..”

Lady J…I just saw your pic, you look familar.
Did you used to work at college Park Shoes?

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:36 pm

SC13 for the time they spend there I don’t think it’s possible. Hell look at how hard it is for those in a “Private Practice” (LOL), I can only imagine how difficult it can be for residents.

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

“looking for the licka cabinet key. I WANT MY DRINK MAYNE!!!!”

i am… — You need a drank? I got you, don’t worry… Now, lemme find that Everclear…. :lol:

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

The Celtics are playing some really good basketball right now. If the Lakers make it to the finals, they will have their hands full.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

I will say this, Alvin gentry and the college zone is making Phil Jackson look real average right now. LA/Boston will be a great matchup. The Boston bench will be the difference.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

I think it’s his military back ground that makes him talk down to her like that. That’s why I never dated any type of military man. They scare me. Seriously. Crazy I tell ya, just crazy.

Raqi – You didn’t miss nothing and were smart not to! I dated 2 and I know it is said to never say never, but I never want to do that again. And neither of these dudes ever saw combat. And I can’t stand being talked down to – I’m good & grown.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:40 pm

And he was crying like a kid with a skint knee last night.

LOL!!

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

I Am`~I have nevered worked in shoes honey…..

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

I fell asleep on the game last night, but I saw that fake that Grant Hill did on Kobe in the first few minutes and that look on Kobe’s face was priceless!!

I think the Suns can definitely win it, if they play hard like they did last night.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

dreamsM you may be right I havebn’t a clue I don’t even watch lol

NFL PLEASE!!!!!!! LOL

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

Dan – I didn’t ask for you for your Lakers opinion! Thanks! :evil:

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:44 pm

Grant Hill still plays ball?

Is there going to be a game on Monday?

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:45 pm

JtJ – Grant Hill? Did you say Grant Hill?

Yummy!!

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:46 pm

I will say this, Alvin Gentry and the college zone is making Phil Jackson look real average right now. LA/Boston will be a great matchup. The Boston bench will be the difference.

I agree. The Suns bench could match up with the Celtics bench but the Celtics can just grind a game out.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:47 pm

Grant Hill wife = yummy

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:47 pm

NFL PLEASE!!!!!!! LOL

When Brett Favre returns, then I will pay attention to the NFL.
:)

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

Now, ^that^ would just be stupid.

@Sexxycool

exactly…

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

“….Open up the Lex door
Jump on in, I’m kind of tired
I’m a roll blunts while you spin
You got your license, right? Alright, no swerving”

Okay Lady J….you resemble someone else then.

Swiss!?!?!? WHY YOU BEING STINGY WITH MY DRINK!!!!

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

rant Hill wife = yummy

:lol:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

well trevor I hope he doesn’t but you are welcome to watch the Flcons on your spare time sir! lol ;)

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:50 pm

~I Am can you make the happy hour on the 4th???

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:50 pm

“…..Have you screaming “Biggie, Biggie give me one more chance”

SWISS!!! Make that Bacardi and Coke!!! Hurry’d up!!!

Kym

May 26th, 2010
2:51 pm

Boston should wrap this up tonight. I DISLIKE Kobe B..so I would gladly welcome a Celtic/Suns match up. Actually it would be the better matchup. Than the Celtics and the Loggers..excuse me Lakers.

Now how much longer until Football season? Oh man that reminds me..Poppa G if you are lurking..do you know where I can find a size 13 wide mens cleat? Other than say Dicks or Hibberts or Sports Authority. The boy is playing football at the park near the house.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:51 pm

Falcons that is NO Cowboys please!!!!!! LOL

Dan

May 26th, 2010
2:52 pm

@Willie D

Agreed.

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:52 pm

Is it Super Bowl or bust for the Falcons this year?

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:53 pm

Grant Hill still plays ball?

Is there going to be a game on Monday?

:lol:

Yes and maybe. There are guaranteed games Thursday and Saturday. Monday is only if necessary.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
2:53 pm

Off topic for parents this summer:

This is a non-contact camp with no pads or helmets. The NFL players and
a professional coaching staff from the Wellness and Performance
Institute will run instructional drills, teach football fundamentals and
most importantly have fun! Your child can come wearing a t-shirt, shorts
and tennis or cleats. The camp will go on rain or shine and there is an
indoor gym in case of rain.

Each child will receive a FREE camp t-shirt as well as complimentary
pizza lunch provided by Papa John’s each day. Water and Powerade coolers
will be available at each station surrounding the field.

The camp will run for approximately 8 AM – 1 PM each day. Parents are
welcome to drop off and pick up or stay and watch.

All you need to do to register is reply to this email
(nflcamp@franceathletes.com) with the following information: child’s
name, age and youth football affiliation (if any).

After we receive that information you will receive a confirmation email
with all necessary details and the parent waiver attached that must be
signed in order for your child to attend.

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

IMO, the Cowboys are dysfunctional family with the crazy patriarch, Jerry Jones.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

Raqi – I am surprised to hear he’s still playing ball though!LOL!!

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

Anybody here on this blog could coach the Cowboys better than Wade Phillips.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

Leggs – What are the ages for participation?

Kym

May 26th, 2010
2:55 pm

Wait someone called the Cowgirls a team? LMAO

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:55 pm

we will watch and see! lol

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:56 pm

brb gang forced to run an errand grrrrrr…….

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
2:56 pm

@ Kimmie- Grant Hill is VERY easy on the eyes. How old is he now?? I did not know he still played until I started watching the play-offs this season.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:59 pm

JtJ – He’s one of the very few athletes I’ve liked. Plus he has that sorta nerd thing going cause he can play the piano and he’s intelligent. That’s a turn-on for me!LOL!!

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
3:01 pm

Go Falconssssssss. Trevor I’m always optimistic and especially with these expensive tix I buy every dayum year.

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
3:01 pm

“SWISS!!! Make that Bacardi and Coke!!! Hurry’d up!!!”

i am… — I’m married to a Haitian — NO Bacardi in this house. Rhum Barbancourt only! ;-)

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:02 pm

As the resident Cowboy Fan on the blog. I gladly brush off the Darts being thrown from the P-nut gallery by the Falcon fans.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
3:03 pm

“……But all we wanna know is “Where the party at?”
And can i bring my gat?
If not, I hope I don’t get shot
But i throw my vest on my chest……”

I hope so Lady J, I will let you know.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

AmRed – ages 8-18

Kym

May 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

Willie D..don’t lump me in with the Fakecons..excuse me Falcons fans..Steelers Baby..Pittsburgh..Six Pack..Hit Hard..Hit Harder….!!!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
3:05 pm

kimmie, he is a cutie. You know I am partial to the tall and tan. LOL

He has to be like 40 now or close to it. I haven’t heard his name in so long I didn’t think he played any longer. Does Anfernee Hardaway still play?

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
3:05 pm

“….You wanna sip Mo’ on my living room flo’
Play Nintendo with Cease-a-Leo
Pick up my phone say, “Poppa not home….”

Boo @ Swiss!!! I want Bacardi. STAT!!!

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
3:05 pm

Momma’s don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys.

Sorry, WillieD. Couldn’t resist.
:)

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
3:06 pm

@ARed ~ 8-18. If you like I can forward you the email with the attachment and necessary links.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:10 pm

Kym – My bad, I’d respectfully say The Steeler fans are the only fans that can take shots. Everybody else just throwin rocks up a tree.

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
3:10 pm

.Steelers Baby..Pittsburgh..Six Pack..Hit Hard..Hit Harder….!!!

Kym, its safe to say that the Steelers will be 0-1 after playing the Falcons in week one.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
3:11 pm

Thanks Leggs. Can you please forward it to me? I have friends with young sons.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
3:11 pm

Does Anfernee Hardaway still play?

@Raqi??

aint he broke and bankrupt now wld be a better qstion!

:lol:

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
3:11 pm

i am… — Bacardi is GOBBIDGE! Barbancourt is the stuff… ;-)

Although, if you insist, I do actually have 1 mini-bottle of Bacardi I smuggled out of the hotel in Jamaica…

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
3:14 pm

Kym, its safe to say that the Steelers will be 0-1 after playing the Falcons in week one

Yeah what he said. As much as Matt Ryan kinda ticked me off last season at least I can say he wasn’t out being a serial rapist in the off season. But that joker better had been practicing. Sheesh Go Falcons!!!!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
3:15 pm

I hate to change the subject but I just find it hard to believe that they cannot stop that oil from flowing into the Gulf like that. You cannot make me believe it was never even questioned what would happen if that thing broke. Corporations that large pay people to think of all the “what ifs” and devise plans to handle disasters like that.
That whole spill is just the prelude to something bigger. Like jacked up gas prices come summer.

My son asked the other night if there is that much oil to let continue escaping into our waters why is the USofA on the mid-east oil vendor list? That’s from the mouth of a babe.

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
3:16 pm

LOL @ eyeball to eyeball

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:17 pm

Kym – I know you asked Poppa G but good luck finding that size 13 Wide. Plenty stores will have a 13 but the Wide will be hard to find. If all else fails try the Adidas Store (somehwhere over by Lennox). If they dont have it they will measure his size and order the cleat you want and have it shipped to either the store or your home for you.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
3:18 pm

Melo

May 26th, 2010
3:18 pm

drill baby drill………………………….

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:20 pm

SexyCool – I’ll let that one slide, You know I give you a few passes jus cause.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
3:22 pm

@Willie D..thank you for respecting the black and the gold..and I will say that I love that new big stadium that Texas Oil money built. But it appears to be most unlucky for ya’ll

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
3:22 pm

My son don’t know it but I have his entire summer planned for him. He is going to help me remodel the downstairs bathroom. He is going pressure wash the garage, patio and driveway. He is going to paint the garage floor. He is going to build me an herb garden encased in railroad ties.

He is going to have one week of vacation bible school. And another week of soccer camp.

Then back home to dig up all the kudzu on the back fence. Take down the fence and clear the path to have a new privacy fence put in.

He is going to earn his keep this summer.

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
3:25 pm

@Raqi- You are definitely about to make him pray that school is back open sooner than later

Kym

May 26th, 2010
3:25 pm

@Trevor..keep dreaming joker. Ya’ll little train wreak is coming to our house..where Defense is job 1..ya’ll will be lucky to get Matt Ryan back in one piece.

Sassy Me..Rude gal in a di place :-)

May 26th, 2010
3:26 pm

He is going to earn his keep this summer.

You sound just like my mother did back in the day…both she and my dad would leave us “to do” lists errday…kept us out of trouble,though, which was also part of her plan…I’m sure.

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
3:26 pm

Kym- Think those Steelers have a dayum good team. I give them a hard time because my child’s mother is a huge Steeler fan, but definitely think they are still serious about football.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
3:28 pm

Raqi – My mom has been reincarnated into you!LOL!!!

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
3:28 pm

Ya’ll little train wreak is coming to our house..where

….the Falcons will eat their food, drink their beer, beat that arse like they stole somethin’.

;)

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
3:28 pm

Matt just came out of nowhere with that first great season and then turf toe the next. I was so mad, but I did hear that turf toe can be painful. I just never experienced it and it sounded like a wuss move.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
3:29 pm

@Willie D..”the boy” insist on eating and growing..I will keep looking around someone has to make big foot shoes for men and boys.

The coach told him..You know how you were told that because you are big not to hit the little kids to hard..Yeah forget all that when you play for me. <<I like this coach. Hit Hard..Hit harder!!!

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:30 pm

you know I really want the Flacons to do well this year. The city feels much better when yall have a winner. Plus I feel bad getting on the Falcon fans after TB and NO won Ships. Heyal even Jake Delhomme took Carolina to the Super Bowl. C’mon Man!!!

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
3:31 pm

*smh* I sent my girls instructions to buy their SATC tickets early. I gave them the link to buy and made it pretty much foolproof. Well the show we are going to is now sold out and a lot folks are gonna be missing out.

Oh well!

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
3:31 pm

@Raqi ~ is he going to enjoy ANY of the summer?

Too funny, even lil leggs chores has increased. She’s doing all the laundry in the house (except my whites). She’s on her 3rd load calling me complaining. I’m laughing inside. This will be no scott free summer for her either.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
3:31 pm

Dig that/Trevor??

why dontchu u guys talk about the real football…not this american version rugby??

Do u all think Jose Mourinho is going to be the next Real Madrid coach,now that Manuel Pellegrini has been fired?

I am talking about the world’s most beautiful game!! :lol:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
3:33 pm

catching up……hmmmmm

ok “I am”…..

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
3:33 pm

LOL DigThat. Up until this year he and my other son would spend summer at home without any direct supervision. I would give them stuff to do but it wouldn’t be anything too big that I couldn’t trust them to do without me looking over them. Well as fate would have it I am home now. I ain’t got no job and I gotz work to do. He is 15 and imma let him do the work (all except the bathroom) while I dole out the work orders to him. Unfortunately for him my other son is no longer living at home. LOL

If I can get all that I want done by the middle of July I just may make him find a job for the rest of the summer break. Make him get out there and push the lawnmower thru the neighborhood looking for work like my brothers used to do.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
3:33 pm

And yes, I leave a “to do” list!

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:33 pm

Kym – Also try your local High School. They usually have deals with Shoe Companies. The Head Coach or assistants will sometimes give you good information. Looks like you’ll be having this problem every year.

I like the sound of that Coach too. Football IS a contact Sport.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
3:34 pm

Sassy and kimmie, a good hard work is good for building character. LOL

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
3:35 pm

I lived in Tampa when the Bucs won the Super Bowl. Championships does wonders for a city.

Melo, I must respectfully pass on any comment on football or what we “Yanks” like to call soccer.
:)

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:36 pm

Melo – You still headed to SA for the Cup?

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
3:36 pm

@Raqi ~ sometimes it sucks being an only child (LOL)!

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
3:38 pm

Art Linkletter has passed…may he R.I.P (97 yrs).

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
3:39 pm

@Raqi ~ is he going to enjoy ANY of the summer?

Leggs, yep that one week of soccer camp and vacation bible school. LOL

Since I have been able to take some time and gather my thoughts on stuff that I want to have done and that need to be done I am going to get it done hopefully this summer. He doesn’t get out of school until Friday. I want to get the pressure washing and painting done next week. Then vacation bible school is that following week. After then I will start on the bathroom and hope to be done in 2 weeks at which time he goes to soccer camp. When he gets back I want to finish everything else up.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
3:41 pm

Melo – You still headed to SA for the Cup?

@WD??

She boss aint approving my leave.

:evil: :roll:

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
3:43 pm

Melo, the World Cup is serious competition. For some of the countries that participate, it is about pride. Not sure who is the favorite to win it this year.

It would have been a good time if you got permission to go.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:44 pm

Melo – Damn bruh that sux. I understand, thats a faux pas on you. You knew it was in SA for a couple of yrs and yet you wait until last minute to get the permission slip signed. You might be the King but we see who got all the POWER.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
3:46 pm

Melo

May 26th, 2010
3:47 pm

Brazil is always the pre-tournament favorite,even if they field 11 players with 21 legs! :lol: :lol:

Obama needs to ban this off shore drilling right now,for ever!

Melo

May 26th, 2010
3:50 pm

You might be the King but we see who got all the POWER.

@WD…actually,this has more to do with a change of hands at the top and that this heiffer is new and aint got shyt in her head about the bizzness yet..and hen June 30 is end of yr for us.

If it were my old boss, i wld have been there by now….but anyhoo….i will go later this yr.it wont be the same partying tho :lol:

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
3:52 pm

Melo – oh ok, who are YOU picking to win it?

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
3:54 pm

Raqi they don’t want to stop the oil from spilling. They’re trying to salvage/collect what’s spilling so they don’t keep losing money. They know that if they just stop it, then they have to basically build another oil rig to drill another hole. This would cost them several years and about $1 billion. They could have stopped it within a few days, but they’re being cheap and irresponsible. To add insult to injury, the same people who “hate” big government intervention are now criticizing the government for not intervening and taking control of this situation. Sad thing is that the government’s hands are basically tied because the oil companies are really the only ones with the expertise to solve the problem.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
3:57 pm

Dreams – Good summary of the situation. Yeah, when it comes to gov’t, you can’t have it both ways.

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
4:02 pm

@ Dreams…Now, they are reporting that BP is preparing to kill the leak with cement, I assume this will cause them to have to build another oil rig.

What do you think will be worse, the countless lawsuits that are to come or paying for another rig??

Melo

May 26th, 2010
4:04 pm

oh ok, who are YOU picking to win it?

coz im english, im partial to england…i wld have picked brazil but i dont like that team without Ronaldinho and the coach and him dont seem to get along so hes out.

Italy is always a good bet too..they’re slick those mafioso mfckkers.. :lol:

ofcourse USA will proly go out in the 1st round… :lol:

Melo

May 26th, 2010
4:11 pm

@UALL………… CHECK http://www.ferstcenter.org u jazz lovers!!

U too abc! :lol:

I think im buying tickets for a cpple of shows,so my Queen and i can cement this chemistry!

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
4:11 pm

They’re trying to salvage/collect what’s spilling so they don’t keep losing money.

Dreams- You think that was the reason for the attempt to cap it first instead of try the cement block first?

ofcourse USA will proly go out in the 1st round…

Melo- That’s cold.

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
4:16 pm

What do you think will be worse, the countless lawsuits that are to come or paying for another rig??
JtJ the solution they’re planning to implement now is probably the one they should’ve implemented from day one. They will end up paying more in clean up costs, economic payouts, and probably law suits as well. Currently there is a $75 million cap on the amount they are allowed to pay out to businesses and local governments, but Congress is working to remove that mandate or raise the cap to $10 billion.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

Melo- That’s cold.

@Luvbug??

Ofcourse Im speaking only as a football purist.

In soccer terms,we got nothing but utter contempt for american football standards! :lol: :lol:

Melo

May 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Yeah, when it comes to gov’t, you can’t have it both ways

@Kimmie!!

reminds me of the gap toothed and air headed Tea party activists who shout hoarse about Obama’s bloated and expanded govt agenda but howl horse too that he musnt dare touch nor cut their social security and medicare benefits!

:evil: :mrgreen:

Poppa Grande

May 26th, 2010
4:26 pm

Kym

Size 13s in athletic shoes aren’t usually that hard to find. If so, thanks to the interweb…you can order them anyway. They will cost more, though. Dress shoes are much tougher as you go up.

Lady J

May 26th, 2010
4:28 pm

Highland Cigar is hosting a tasting for Ardbeg Single Malt Whiskey TONIGHT at 7pm. Do not miss your chance to be entered into the Ardbeg Chopper Raffle with your purchase of a tasting! The raffle for the chopper will be held at the end of the year. See you tonight!

no I won’t be there just sharing…..lol

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
4:30 pm

Melo- They’re not all gap tooth and air headed…did you catch the Ran Paul and Rachel Maddow interview?

Poppa Grande

May 26th, 2010
4:31 pm

Do you realize how much money that BP rakes in yearly? The lawsuits are just gonna be pocket change to them. What is 400 million dollars when your bring in billions? It is like what is 500 dollars when you make thousands.

Boycotting BP stations doesn’t hurt BP. It hurts the mom and pop gas stations. BP owns no stations in Georgia. They just get into agreements with convenience store folks.

Lady J

May 26th, 2010
4:33 pm

poppa pls tell the fb folk to stop posting boycott bp…..lol

Poppa Grande

May 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

Luvbug

Rand Paul has given the Tea Party opposition ammunition against the Tea Party. Many folks think that the Tea Party folks are racists and he has given them something to hang their hats on when he basically said that he didn’t agree with the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and even questioned if he would have voted for it.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
4:36 pm

did you catch the Ran Paul and Rachel Maddow interview?

@Luvbug

No and yes… he has received some baptism since winning the race.

I dont think Paul is a racist,hes just an idealist and his theories dont work in practice….otherwise,like Rachel showcased last nite, he could try Somalia where there is no govt…see how that goes!

:lol:

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
4:36 pm

I can’t remember this man’s name but he was going off on GMA this morning about the lack of direction the President is showing during this oil spill crisis. He was almost in tears pleading his lack of understanding over the President’s inaction. He was incredulous that the President has continued BP to slowly find a solution to cleanup the spill. The shrill in his voice made me think of Katrina and President Bush’s lack of response. Where was the cry for help from Washington then!

Poppa Grande

May 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

Lady J- I am glad that people are actually passionate about something besides Dancing With the Stars, Next Top Model, or America’s got talent.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

Poppa – He questioned the Americans with Disabilities Act too. And he said Obama was being “too hard” on BP.

How much you want to bet he gets elected though?

Lady J

May 26th, 2010
4:38 pm

you right but I agree with your assessment nevertheless….

Lady J

May 26th, 2010
4:39 pm

so really on the big picture is going to the beach a bad idea this summer folks???

Melo

May 26th, 2010
4:40 pm

can’t remember this man’s name

@Leggs

James Carville

Luvbug

May 26th, 2010
4:46 pm

PG – Yeah he’s definitely cornered himself and made the Tea party look even worse. He looked completely ridiculous trying to explain how he only disagreed with the private (relating to small business) portion of the Act…and couldn’t explain how rampant discrimination wouldn’t exist without the Act.