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What if chemistry didn’t exist?

I don’t think anyone can ever explain the chemistry that exists between two people who really desire one another.  It’s impossible to predict, understand,  or destroy – I have attempted all three.  I think so many times we get hung up on that feeling of intense desire and attraction that we forget how to put it in it’s proper place.  What is it’s proper place?

Do you let go of a wonderful person because they don’t do it for you? Do you expect the person who does it for you, to always give you that feeling of intense chemistry?  How long can that feeling possibly last before you settle into the reality of one another, instead of the “idea” of one another.

The reality is that there is much more to love and relationships then chemistry. Yet, a lot of times, we won’t let a potential romance start without it. Are we fooling ourselves?  What would happen if chemistry between two people didn’t exist. How would we determine who we truly connect with and who we shouldn’t?

If we didn’t have chemistry, do you think our dating experiences would be less romantic?

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Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:03 pm

so you’re saying you would get the same satisfaction busting off inside a pay by the hour chick as you do when joing with your wife?

@Sexxycool??

Absolutely!

the fact that im married to her dont me shes has the best,knock my sexx off sexx ever. Nope..she is the one i committed to based on that whole list of stuff i prioritised about her thats important to me,which contributes to the whole chemistry thang.

I could go on looking at other women to give me that ooomp..but what stops me is my respect for the institution and its rules Not sexx….

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:05 pm

Raqi – Folks were talking about how when Webber was talking to the shooter, he said that he had lived a good life, that he’d had “a great love”. Everyone was saying he was talking about Meredith’s mama, not his wife. I think that too.

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
2:07 pm

@ Dig That….them goo-goo eyes get ‘em everytime..lol

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:07 pm

Said in my best Bernie Mac voice –

Anybody seen that MFn 4Real? That MF owe me sum MFn $$. If you see that MF tell him Willie MFn D want his MFn money or we gon have some MFn problems.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:07 pm

Okay…so why do we think the shooter chose himself and not Webber. I read somewhere that there were no cliffhangers… we didn’t see Webber walk out that building. We just know the shooter had to make a choice. He could be dead.

Dig That

May 26th, 2010
2:08 pm

@SexyC- A nutt is a nutt is a nutt. The emotional ties may make it meaningful but I’m sure that the difference would be (not putting words in Melo’s mouf) whether he bust and get up or bust and say I love you Queen.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:09 pm

Am I the only one that noticed that they killed off the least attractive doctors? LOL!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:09 pm

Yep, kimmie Meredith’s mother. I like the way he put it to the shooter making being dead (shooting himself instead of Webber) and with his wife more desired that spending life in jail. Reverse psychology at it’s best.

It's me....lurker

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

They should bring back Burke now that all the whiners are gone.

Amen to that

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

Amazon, yes Webber did walk out. They showed it.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

Dig/Melo – from a purely physical standpoint, I could see what you’re talking about.

But when it comes to a level of actual satisfaction, naw, I ain’t buying that.

Go sell that to somebody else.

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

awwww kimmie that is why I stopped bc i liked izzy and george! lol

Lady J, you are in a very small minority with that. I could stomach George okay, but he & Izzie just didn’t work for me. She was not believeable to me as a top-knotch doctor on the show. She always looked like a deer in the headlights. Glad she’s gone.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:10 pm

emotional loving is more satisfying and produce better results….you can go anywhere and find anyone to help bust your nut…..lol

dig that too funny but true!

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:11 pm

LOL SexyCool. I just said they killed off the least important doctors. I was kinda hoping Lexie had gotten shot.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:12 pm

yep kimmie I am in the minority with prime time tv honey I have been watching Oxygen all morning and talking to yall oh hell it after two….lol

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:13 pm

Amred, near the end they showed Webber shake the hand of the policeman that was running things.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:14 pm

“……there gonna be a lot of flower bringing and slow song singing if my burgular alarm starts ringin’…..”

Where my drink at Mayne!!!!

Kym

May 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

LMAO @For Real.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:15 pm

While the ladies are talking TV

Fellas, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

@ARed ~ Webber did walk out. We know the shooter shot himself so he could be with his wife.

i'm swiss

May 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

Sassy — Your shot’s coming right up — but I’m fresh out of shot glasses, so it’s gonna have to be a body shot off of Lady J

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:16 pm

to a level of actual satisfaction, naw, I ain’t buying that.

@Sexxycool??

we already know,u females dont believe what we guys tell u…..we aint from the same planet anyway! :lol:

now with me babe,the only diff in how i treat queen and the heiffer is that i aint licking a heiffer….coz i dont know who else dips in there…

but if my balls were to get so big that i have to bust a nutt, skin deep in a heiffer’s,trust me,im puffing and huffing same way and the back of my head has about the same circumference,at the height of dopamine,if u measure it…..

I aint mouthing the same sweet nothings tho(i luv u baby! etc) as i nutt to a heiffer……Thats the only difference….!!!!! :lol: :lol:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:17 pm

swiss go take a nap! lol

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

dag willie d you din’t want to talk the falcons……booooo to the nba! sike! lol carry on!

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:18 pm

SCool – Yeah, I won’t miss those doctors at all. I wish they would have shot April, she gets on my nerves, ran up just as Derek might have talked the shooter out of shooting him!

And yeah, they could have shot Lexie and the effect on the show would have been minimal. Mark & Karev would have grieved a little, Meredith would have been a little sad, but they would have all gotten over it.

Wonder what they are going to do about Meredith getting pregnant again since she miscarried.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:19 pm

Melo i almost told you where to go! LMBAO @ you no we are not from the same planet! LOLOLOL too funny!

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

Fellas, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.

Willie, they have a good shot IF they shoot like that in L.A. The Lakers can sometimes sleepwalk through a series and win it in six games.

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:20 pm

Hell if busting a nut is all you are after you can do that alone.

I can’t see a man comparing having relations with his wife to just getting off with some random woman.

It’s true that the only difference in making love and just having sex is the mindset. I would just hope a person would actually feel something, (i.e. a different mindset) for the one they chose to marry.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:21 pm

geesh now melo I am going to believe your post after reading it again! it explains much! lol but we ain’t stupid some just ignore the obvious for a nut too……lol

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:22 pm

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
2:22 pm

then all the “chemistry” was just goo goo eyes from across the room.

Dig I get your point, but I think the sexual attraction can still be there long after two people have decided they don’t want the same things. How many chicks have you known that were, by their own admission, with a guy they knew they shouldn’t be with? She already knew they didn’t want the same things, so why did she stay with him? The sex. Shyte I just saw an old flame three months ago and that “sexual chemistry” was still there, but we both knew that outside of that we just didn’t work well together.

dreamsM it is going to be something that irks you with someone bc noone is just perfect even in your perfect
Lady J I know no one is perfect, especially me. lol Maybe there’s someone out there who’s willing to deal with my imperfections, but right now I’m in a place where I’m not ready to deal with another person’s when I don’t want to. When we start getting on each other’s nerves, I want to be able to go home. You can’t be married and have that attitude, which is why I say I know I’m not ready right now.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:22 pm

Melo – of course, I hear what you guys are saying and I believe some of it. Just not you all the time.

And like I said, if I am speaking simply from a physical standpoint, then, yes, the waves of the O’s that are self-manufactures ride the same way as those that are produced by interacting with TheDude. But the level of mental and emotional satisfaction is on a different level considering that it is tied to this individual that I have feelings for and I care about and am connected to/bonded with.

But you obviously choose to remain one-dimensional on this subject.

So be it.

Kym

May 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

Willie D..why did you just ask the fellows about bball? Women watch bball you know?

Raqi

May 26th, 2010
2:23 pm

kimmie, I think April’s role was good. Her nervous behavior made it very real like.

Willie Dynamite

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

Lady J – I’m a Cowboys fan. Just talking about the Fakecons makes my Stomach hurt. Ha ha ha

Trevor – The Lakers are not a good perimeter shooting team. That zone takes away size advantage of Bynum,Gasol,Odom. Plus the bench for the Suns killing them. I do agree tho that the Lakers are Champs for a reson. I still say 6 games like you.

Kym – my bad, whatchu think? Me personally I like the Hawks so really I dont care bout whoever left. i just like seeing good games.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

now dreamsM I agree with your 2:22!!!!!!! real talk!

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

I put way too much cheese on my hotdog :shock:

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:26 pm

awwwwwww damn willie d!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww booooooooooo!

you broke my heart dude! :(

LMBAO!

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:27 pm

@Raqi and Kimmie – Thanks!!! Chief Webber does rock. I do think Shepard will resign or be replaced as Chief.

I am whatever you say I am ...Quoting Biggie All Day

May 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

“…..Hah, sicka than your average Poppa
Twist cabbage off instinct n**** don’t think s*** stink…..”

looking for the licka cabinet key. I WANT MY DRINK MAYNE!!!!

JtJ

May 26th, 2010
2:28 pm

@ Raqi…Same here with your 2:20. Not only a woman you chose to marry, but a woman that has given birth to your kids as well.

Melo

May 26th, 2010
2:29 pm

I can’t see a man comparing having relations with his wife to just getting off with some random woman.

@Raqi??

becoz u are wrapped up in fuzzy mushy feelings about ur husband right now and not thinking like a man,rightfully so..ofcourse u are a woman!

Ur husband is with u coz he chose u and is obligated to stay coz he respects the institution of marriage..and dang,,he wont dare compare u to another woman in ur presence. I wldnt and she aint here.

who does???

kimmie

May 26th, 2010
2:30 pm

Raqi – Yeah, I agree she added to the episode, but I’m sick of her now!LOL!

I just don’t know how I feel about Owen & Yang. I know it wouldn’t be “Yanglike” if it weren’t complicated, but there is something to be said for easy sometimes. No doubt they are hot together. She stood by him and helped him deal with his post-traumatic stress after he woke up choking her. Now this “I don’t know how I feel” mess about Teddie is just a little much for me. But I know they are going to let them get together. I think Dr. Avery would be good for her too though, he really respects her abilities as a rock-star surgeon. Sometimes Owen seems not to get that ambitious side that Yang has and kinda talks down to her, to me.

Trevor0529 - 3 until 42

May 26th, 2010
2:30 pm

Taking Willie’s question

Ladies, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

but a woman that has given birth to your kids as well.

that is deep JTJ……

DreamsMaterialize

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

Fellas, do the Suns have a shot or is it just a HomeCourt series. I think that Zone and small ball killing the Lakers.
Willie D I don’t know if the Suns have a shot, but I do know that LA needs to step their game way up if they hope to stand a chance against Boston.

Leggs

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

@kimmie ~ probably be a story line on her working through the miscarriage and the guilt she may or may not carry. I liked the first doctor he killed.

Yes, April did..had to laugh at learning her technique by watching Oprah.

AmazonRed™

May 26th, 2010
2:31 pm

The Suns are toast.

SexyCool13

May 26th, 2010
2:32 pm

I would actually like to see somebody on Grey’s, ANYbody have a relationship with someone who does not work at Seattle Grace.

Although, we see how that worked out for Bailey and Webber.

Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....

May 26th, 2010
2:32 pm

trevor I have lost intrest with the nba or maybe basketball…..hmmmmm…..lol

yall is avery jonhson going to be the next hawks coach????