Men are like taxis?
I not ashamed to admit that I am one of the army of women who is excited about Sex and the City 2 movie. Hey, don’t judge me! My love for that show pre-dates my taking on the fun role of dating blogger. We have the show Sex and the City to thank for my favorite dating analogy: Men are like taxis.
No, I don’t mean men are sometimes really smelly and slightly terrifying in New York. Although that one might apply too. I am referring to the theory that when a man is ready for, or open to, the possibility of a relationship he turns his taxi light on. If you happen to be the girl that hails the taxi while the light is on, you’ve got a possibility of a great and hopefully long ride (no pun intended naughty people!). If you get in a cab with the light off, it doesn’t really matter what you do, it’s just not going to go anywhere.
So basically, this analogy is the basis of every single woman’s dating life. How do you decide what kind of cab ride you’re on. If it were easy to see the light, we would all be talking about whales or golf right now.
Men, if you have a heart you will let us ladies know how to determine her guy’s taxi cab light: on (ready and open?) or dimmed (unsure?) or flashing (undecided)?
Are women like taxis too? I honestly don’t think I have turned my taxi cab light on properly. I am working on it though!
Ladies, do you think that men are like taxis? Will you go to see the movie Sex and the City 2?
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I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
10:56 am
STILL WAITING ON MY DRINK
SAYING IN MY Anthony Marentino,VOICE: BARTENDER!!!!!!
LoveLife
May 25th, 2010
10:57 am
I agree with the analogy about men and taxis. Unfortunately, women have been programmed to behave as if our lights should always on — Mr. Right may be one block away!
How do you tell if the guy’s light is “on,” or (quoting the show) he’s just not that into you? Time will tell. He will let you know if he cares about investing in the relationship. In the meantime, we girls need to carry ourselves like precious cargo. Don’t just jump for the first taxi that approaches the curb!
That’s why movies and shows like “Sex and the City” are great. They underscore the fact that everyone has to go through trial and error. Discovering yourself can be a rewarding experience as you wait for that taxi to come. Then when the RIGHT taxi approaches — with the light on — you will be ready.
See you at the theater, ladies!
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
10:58 am
Never on Sunday, Monday’s too soon
Tuesday and Wednesday just won’t do
Thursday and Friday we can begin
But our Saturday love will never end
Sugar…………For Always and Forever you will be my Saturday Love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SlimOne...Sexin' in the City
May 25th, 2010
10:58 am
that’s what you get when you log onto horn-knee matches dot com.
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
10:58 am
LOL!!! The scene where Samantha wears a Raquel Welch to spy on Richard always cracks me up
DreamsMaterialize
May 25th, 2010
10:58 am
Dreams – Angst Reliever…double shot, please kind sir. Does that come with a sidecar of baby wipe?
Slim Why yes it does. Matter of fact just lie back and I’ll get that for you.
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
10:59 am
Hey LoveLife!!!!!! Great Post!!!!!!
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
10:59 am
LOL I’m not at horn-ee matches dot com
LOL!
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:01 am
i ahve never did a dating site……nor speed dating….geesh….lol
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:01 am
meant have….
SlimOne...Sexin' in the City
May 25th, 2010
11:02 am
Forever mine
All because, you’re my kind,
Mmm
Oh, baby
I got what you want
You got what I want
We were made for each other
Forever mine
And I’m so glad
Cause it gets better with time
Oh, girl
I like what you like
You like what I like
And we were made for each other
Oh, baby
You are that someone
I’ve been hopin’, I’ve been lookin’ for
All my days
Don’t you ever think about leavin’
This heart of mine would be grievin’
Don’t go
Stay
Stay
Ooh,
Oh, girl
Oh, baby
I wanna love you
Love you so
Make it good, right down to the bone
To the bone
Cause it’s you I’m thinkin’ about pleasin’
Give you all the love you’re needin’
Don’t go
Please
The Mrs. (AKA Tazzee)
May 25th, 2010
11:02 am
AmRed – thanks!
Yeah, I’m sure that hurt but he said the reason he broke up with her is because he realized that they weren’t going to be married and he felt he was too old to just be dating.
Funny thing is, the same thing happened to me with the only other guy I thought I was going to marry. Less than a year after we broke up, he was engaged to another woman and it did hurt. That was back in 1998…
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:04 am
Ok, real talk, i am now jamming to the SOS Band-Just be Good to Me, and of course I am into lyrics….can a woman or do women truly live by this theme…..this would be a total lie for me……..lol….smh…….the question is after a certain age maybe do certain things don’t matter like I don’t care what you do just do me right……insight folks???? lol
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:04 am
I like dating sites.
I get more play from a dating site then being out in public…..
I want to try speed dating but they always have an event when I’m busy.
Lockandkeyevents.com is also fun.
You win prizes
The Mrs. (AKA Tazzee)
May 25th, 2010
11:05 am
Hey kimmie – my maiden name is the same as my married name, so now I’m just Mrs. Tazzee Mae Jenkins, LOL. Everyone tells me it’s a great thing that we have the same last name, but I always wanted to change my name. I’ll just take this blessing and run with it.
SlimOne...Sexin' in the City
May 25th, 2010
11:05 am
‘Matter of fact just lie back and I’ll get that for you’
Dreams – this must be a 5star bar…never received such great customer service and attention to detail….mmmmm…oops, did I get some more on ya?
DreamsMaterialize
May 25th, 2010
11:06 am
I am being still and knocked out some heavy weights trust DreamsM……i am sir being still
Lady J Good, that way I don’t have to run. lol
STILL WAITING ON MY DRINK
I am what are you having this morning? The special has been flying off the shelf. Are you interested?
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:07 am
Lovin the compliments that I am getting on my makeup and top.
Yep! I’m a hottie!
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:07 am
Dreams I asked for a Tom Collins, nukka!!! (saying in my Esther from Sanford and Son voice)
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:08 am
LMBAO the special has beeing flying off the shelf….hmmmm I ordered a Kettle One! LOL
DreamsM you are a mess!
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:08 am
My old supervisor is the best!!! He found something of mine that I had been missing since Feb!
Kym-Jack Bauer can hide out at my house.
May 25th, 2010
11:08 am
@The Mrs..Hey there lady!! Welcome back to the Thunderdome.
@Dreams..thats right blame mama.(insert eyeroll here) Some of those “Juliets” come from well to do..two parent households and they still smell like sweet milk. But I understand you have to defend the house.
AmazonRed™ -
May 25th, 2010
11:08 am
Less than a year after we broke up, he was engaged to another woman and it did hurt. That was back in 1998…
None of my exes have married on me yet, so I feel good about the “timing” excuse. However, I think my most recent ex will be engaged soon. He’s pushing 40 as well, so I don’t see what he’s waiting on!
Do you know if your ex is still married?
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:09 am
how cool tazzee!!!!
AmazonRed™ -
May 25th, 2010
11:11 am
Everyone tells me it’s a great thing that we have the same last name, but I always wanted to change my name.
I can feel you. Seems a little anti climatic to go through the whole “two become one” and the name stays the same.
But I hear it’s a royal pain to get your name changed and everything transfered so you hit the jackpot there! And you can still check that coveted “married” box!
AmazonRed™ -
May 25th, 2010
11:12 am
So it’s Tazzee Mae Jenkins-Jenkins.
kimmie
May 25th, 2010
11:13 am
Tazzee Mae Jenkins Jenkins – That’s Wild!!
That reminds me of this guy I had a major crush on in college. He was a little older – an assistant director of housing, but boy was he hot! We had the same last name, but he had an S on the end of his! I used to imagine what I would do if we got married!LOL!!!
Trevor0529 - 4 until 42
May 25th, 2010
11:14 am
the question is after a certain age maybe do certain things don’t matter like I don’t care what you do just do me right……insight folks????
for some folks, their personal happiness is the only thing that matters to them as they get older regardless to the thoughts of others. We are all looking for exclusivity with one person but the search gets difficult as we age. (Hard to write this listening to Chico DeBarge’s “Iggin’ Me”)
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:16 am
this guy I went to school with back in the day has the same last name as me.
He used to joke that we should get married.
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:17 am
don’t feel like working today
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:17 am
ok sir thanks let me go find that song……….thanks Trevor…..
Leggs
May 25th, 2010
11:19 am
Welcome back, Mrs. Tazzee Mae Jenkins Jenkins.
AmazonRed™ -
May 25th, 2010
11:21 am
this guy I went to school with back in the day has the same last name as me.
He used to joke that we should get married.
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:22 am
I love my son!!!!
he busted his lip last night leaning in a chair (I had been warning him about that since he turned 1 last year)
I tried to comfort him, but he was so mad. He acted like I did it
Kym-Jack Bauer can hide out at my house.
May 25th, 2010
11:22 am
@Trevor..I don’t think it is the search that is difficult so much as the will to change and adapt is difficult. I mean if you have the habit of doing something a certain way for so long it is hard to break that habit cold turkey. The same with age and relationships. If you are so use to “Doing it My Way” it is difficult to adapt that you will now have to consult someone on their opinion of how certain things should be done. I mean while folks want exclusivity there is still that pesky problem of giving up some part of self to accomodate the other person.
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:23 am
My mommys maiden name is not uncommon.
In fact all of those in her hometown with that name are related to her.
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:23 am
typo: ment to say my mommys maiden name is not common.
Melo
May 25th, 2010
11:25 am
But if u try and enter into a relationship and communicate from jump that what u looking for is marriage u will def scare a guy,esp if u talking about guys in the 26-35 age range.
Its becoz for the most part,they want to date,find a good girl and eeeeventuaaaaaly,settle down.
The upfront communication that Dreamz and Kimmie are talking about,in my experience,only happens with older folks..say in the 36-40 + range coz those folks now kinda seem to have their own clock ticking and are consious of that.
In my own dating experience,when i was 25 +,if a chic i was seeing came to me str8 up with that thirsty marriage look, i was gone like a scared bird coz i was afraid of falling into a trap. And i dont think the landscape has changed that much as far as guys and chics are concerened.
A man will marry a chic that he has dated for a while and really feels she will make a good wife. Its not necessarily about catching them when the light bulb is on. The light bulb comes On when he realizes he has a good chic and there is no point in him continuing with the chase……. assuming this is a guy who has always believed in marriage.
Thats why ur selection and continued dating of this guy is key….if ur due diligence aint right,blame it on urself!
Dating and catching the right guy to marry is akin to stock selection for investment purposes. U gotta identify the guy,reseach on him/it,do they have a solid business,good management,growth prospects,martket share,leader in their industry,cutting edge technology..yada yada. There is no guarantee that the stock price will grow or that there wont be a major scandal at the company which will throw off ur hitherto projections u had on the company..u are just hedging ur bets based on some solid research.
U shld do the same way with a guy/chic and hope for the best. No guarantees tho.
I guess a guy with a light bulb thats On may end up being the wrong guy for u…cause u caught him when he was just ready and saying the “right” things.
But u two may not be a fit!
DreamsMaterialize
May 25th, 2010
11:25 am
@Dreams..thats right blame mama.(insert eyeroll here)
Kym I believe I “blamed” mama AND daddy in my post. Moms wouldn’t have to raise children alone if pops stuck around and handled his business. I also didn’t say that single parent households were the only cause. I cited it as ONE such cause. Additionally, what does “well to do” have to do with anything (I didn’t mention it)? Are you implying that single parent households are limited to the impoverished? I don’t argue to “defend” The House. I am its biggest critic when it is not functioning in alignment with its stated mission. However, it doesn’t even make logical sense to blame it for a social dynamic that’s becoming more prevalent. What you say about The House can also be said about the military, but the military isn’t blame for homosexuality. More homosexuals in the military is just a manifestation of more homosexuals in society at large. I don’t take sides, I address the logic.
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:28 am
hmmmmmmmmmmmm………
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:29 am
I am so happy I have class on Tuesday and Thursdays……..lol random…..
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:29 am
melo good post
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:30 am
trevor I have to look up the lyrics…..so much is being said while he sings……lol
I am whatever you say I am
May 25th, 2010
11:32 am
I’m going in…I’m going in….. (going to attempt to do some work )
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:33 am
Trevor I see now said the blind man! I see your point! lol
DreamsMaterialize
May 25th, 2010
11:35 am
I am alright, Tom Collins it is. Would you like extra top shelf gin in that?
Lady J here’s your Kettle One. I’ll keep ‘em coming.
this must be a 5star bar…never received such great customer service and attention to detail….mmmmm…oops, did I get some more on ya?
Slim you just realizing this is a 5 star bar??? You should know by now that I specialize in “servicing”. And don’t worry about getting anything on me. I’m not afraid of the liquid platinum.
Kym-Jack Bauer can hide out at my house.
May 25th, 2010
11:36 am
@Dreams I don’t think I blamed morehouse for anything. I made fun of the fact that Morehouse man..has taken on a whole new meaning. Save your outrage and go back to mixing your play-play drinks.
Lady J-You can't keep running in and out of my life~
May 25th, 2010
11:39 am
lmbao…….ok DreamsM!
SlimOne...Sexin' in the City
May 25th, 2010
11:49 am
Dreams – i’m just sayin, this is Niiiiiicccceeee!
‘Save your outrage and go back to mixing your play-play drinks.’ <—fighting words..
Trevor0529 - 4 until 42
May 25th, 2010
11:59 am
Save your outrage and go back to mixing your play-play drinks.
@DreamsM, did Kym just pat you on your head and basically tell you to go play in the corner??
