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Put a (big?) ring on it

I’m not one of those women who dreamed about their wedding day since childhood.  I’m sure I pictured having a family at some point but weddings and engagements just didn’t seem on my radar.  I remember when one of my friends got engaged last year and she was sort of horrified at the way her then boyfriend proposed. She was even more disappointed in the size of the ring.  I found it odd because she didn’t seem the type to get hung up on this kind of thing.

How important is the ring and the proposal, though?  When you are watching the person you (hopefully!) love spill out their heart and risk the ultimate rejection, is their ring selection really an issue?    A lot of my male friends tell me that if their woman even uttered a complaint about their engagement ring, it’s going back to the store. Not sure if they have found themselves in this situation but if it happened, I think they mean it!

Ladies, would the size of an engagement ring make a difference when you know they can afford something bigger and more elaborate?

What is the protocol when the ring becomes an issue? Ignore it? Discuss it? How do you handle it?

490 comments Add your comment

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
8:34 am

When I was engaged to my ex, the proposal and the ring was perfect.
He didn’t get down on one knee but the way he orchestrated the evening was perfect for me.
I appreciate the fact that he paid attention to the type of jewerly I liked and got me a nice diamond on a white gold band. Perfect for me!
I think that if a man really knows you, he will get you something that you will enjoy within his budget.
If my ex had gotten me a gold marquis, yes it would have been out of character for me to wear but I would have worn it none the less.
The fact that someone wanted to marry me and to be upset about a ring is so narcissitic. Men, take at as a red flag not to marry if she gripes about the ring. Women, if you love this man accept any ring he gives you. Jewerly can be lost, replaced, broken, etc… love is supposed to last.
A lot of peopole don’t realize this but you are actually paying for your own ring if your man hasn’t paid for it in full buy the wedding day. Since your debt is joined when you get married.

Kym

May 24th, 2010
8:41 am

Good Morning All,

Okay this is going to be funny and shallow filled today. Alright here is my take and opinion on the whole “the ring is the thing”. If you are seriously in love with the person sitting across from you and you truly plan to love them for better or worse. You would love them if they gave you a ring out of a cracker jack box. Call me a hopeless romantic but I would take meaning over substance any day. I think your friend was a bit shallow Wisey I mean the size of the ring should not be used to measure the love the person has for you. I think that is why so many relationships and marriages windup in divorce court. I mean what happens when one spouse or both spouses..wind up on the unemployment line and in order to eat and keep a roof you have to pawn that ring?(I hear this story more now than ever) that is when the rubber is really going to meet the road.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
8:55 am

Kym i agree with your post…..I had a humble ring and truly not into rings like that….While i do admire others from afar bc they are pretty and unique I will happily take what is give……past was an hal carat, white gold, princess cut and it had great clarity………it was simple and classy…….the ring isn’t the glue though so it is not all that important…..substance and pure unconditional love for beeter or worse will carry you through and over the years many riches will come and some are priceless!

Good Morning Crew!

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
9:18 am

show me a woman that gripes about the ring her fiance bought her and I will show you her fiance marrying me :-D

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
9:19 am

Good morning!!!

Never been proposed to so can’t really speak on what or how i’d feel in regards to a ring I didn’t like. My main thing would be that he didn’t get me a gold ring because I don’t wear yellow gold. I’m a silver & white gold chick. So my hope would be that the guy i’m with would know at least that already.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
9:20 am

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
9:22 am

Good morning!

I’m with you Kym. If you truly love this person, a ring too small or a ring too big (God forbid) shouldn’t be an issue. The ring symbolizes his love for you not the size of the diamond. Like I am said, if he truly knows you, he’ll get you the ring he believes you will like.

Unfortunately, some get lost in the meaning of the ring and are caught up in the size of the stone hoping their friends will smile and not frown!!

Side note: Maysa was fabulous. If you have a chance to see her in concert, $$ well spent! I had a ball.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
9:25 am

Ladies let’s be real, if you had a gargutuan rock (HUGE!!!) none of us would wear it. We would be too scared that we would get robbed!

abc

May 24th, 2010
9:27 am

I went for the rather large and highly rated diamond, in an incredible setting with more diamonds, and a couple of bands around that with yet more diamonds. I avoided the whole diamond disappointment thing by doing what I could to make sure she had the biggest, most sparkly ring in the room, everywhere we went. She says it’s a ring for queen.

I know that’s a bit of a copout. I think it’s a total waste of money, personally — except for that the whole diamond disappointment thing is covered, and she’ll never feel like it’s something into which I should have put more effort. There isn’t a counterpart for men, IMHO, to the diamond imperative. Men choose their rings based on how unintrusive they feel. “Will this piece of crap mess with my golf grip?” Ha.

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
9:27 am

I am – you have a point there. A huge rock like that would need to come equipped with a body guard. I don’t think a huge rock would look right on my hands because they are small & petite like me. ;-)

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
9:30 am

huge no i don’t think so hell it nevr happened…..upgrade me to one carat or 2 that will be new to me…..lol…..

Melo

May 24th, 2010
9:31 am

I avoided the whole diamond disappointment thing by doing what I could to make sure she had the biggest, most sparkly ring in the room

Daaaaaang abc! For all ur bravado talk against some female issues on the blog,who knew,when it comes to ur woman, u wld be such a wussy pushover!??? :lol:

Hilarious!!! :lol:

Morning gang!!

abc

May 24th, 2010
9:35 am

Yup, totally whipped, and proud to admit it! I might be a pit bull everywhere else, but as soon as I walk in the door at home, I’m a golden retriever puppy dog.

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
9:35 am

melo – Behave :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
9:44 am

For a lot of men, it seems like the ring size is equated to cahonas!
Before my ex bought me my ring, he would brag that it would have to be the biggest baddest ring so that any guy that tried to hit on me would know what they were up against.
My most recent ex was the same way.

In reality, my engagement ring (from 1st ex) was only .50 carats.
But to me, it was the baddest ring because it signified how he wanted to take our relationship to another level and it looked great on me.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
9:46 am

A coworker of mine got slack from her friends because she didn’t have a ring.
They all shut up when she told them that instead of a ring, he bought her a house.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
9:53 am

after many years most take the rings off womenn and men……but everyone knows they are still married….me personally I would wear it to death do us part……

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
9:57 am

what is up with this tv morning line up I thought the jefferson’s came on……smh lol

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
10:01 am

An old co-worker of mine got engaged a few years ago and her ring was TEENY TINY….I know how women are when you mention the word “engaged” because they immediately go into Judge the Ring mode. The looks on their faces whenever they saw the ring was crazy. I sort of felt bad but she wore it with honor.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
10:02 am

Good morning gang!!!!

Really not a lot to say on this subject except I wush a MF would talk smack about a ring I buy her when I am expressing my love and devotion at that point thru symbolism only. We should be deeper than that anyway to allow it be discouraging.
But I will ask this on a similar note. Is it truly the size of the ring or is it that you know he can afford more of a ring but you think he is just being cheap?

Trevor0529 - 5 until 42

May 24th, 2010
10:05 am

Good Morning,

I will be lurking today. I am recovering from oral surgery this past Friday. Have a good one.
:)

Kym-If you do 4 me..I will do 4 you.

May 24th, 2010
10:07 am

@DigThat..I am cheap..I mean Clark Howard cheap. I would much rather dude put that money toward retirement or something than the ring.

abc

May 24th, 2010
10:07 am

It’s not about just size. Too big is gaudy, and if you go over 2 carats and don’t spend at least $20K on the stone alone, it’s not going to have decent color, clarity and cut. A big ugly ring is worse than a 1/2 – 1 carat great diamond. Look at her hands; get something proportionate. Most chicks look fine with up to 2 carats and a setting suitable for her tastes.

That said, get her a band, too. She doesn’t want to wear the big rock all the time, it can be a pain.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
10:08 am

GM All!!

funny …. we’ve just been deciding on rings this past week. i don’t know what it would have been like to not get the ring i ‘wanted’. i had no complaints with my first set because i selected them myself. turns out i’ll be picking my own again, so i expect i’ll be quite happy. first hubs also chose his own (nugget style), and s/o is now trying to figure out what he likes so he’ll be quite happy too. as for the proposal, yeah, got the one-knee both times …. private setting … and that was perfect :)

HiYa Leggs :)

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
10:09 am

I bet the same women that were talking smack about someone’s ring are still single.
Besides, if I’m comfortable with a ring someone gives me and I wear it proudly, why is someone else’s approval needed?

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
10:09 am

“Is it truly the size of the ring or is it that you know he can afford more of a ring but you think he is just being cheap?”

I think that’s a good question….i suppose if your dude was not that financially well off, the fact that he still even took the initiative to try to get you SOMETHING would mean just as much. You can always upgrade. A friend of mine knew her dude couldn’t afford such a lavish ring so she just told him not to get her a ring until he could get her something he wanted and could be proud of. She was like, no use in wasting money on something you aren’t happy with. So for the first year of marriage she went ringless…needless to say a year later she has a NICE azz ring that both of them are proud of.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
10:11 am

Heck! I would be happy with a ring like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Sterling-Silver-Vintage-Engagement-Topaz-colored/dp/B001FDLAUK

It’s only $31.00. I’m sure any dude would not have a problem scraping together 30 bucks.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
10:14 am

Hello, czB! That’s great you’re now looking at rings. Good for you. I see you smiling way over here!!!!

Randyt (AKA How do I find my way home...)

May 24th, 2010
10:14 am

Does the manner of proposal matter…Maybe.

Does the size of the ring matter…bet your a$$.

It is one of those things like Mother’s Day, women say it doesn’t matter, but the “man” will find out real dayum quick she was not being completely honest…AT ALL. (Have done okay with the ring parts, but have been singed badly by the other “it doesn’t matter”…yeah right.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
10:17 am

@Kym- And that make would me happier to put you some money away for retirement than going in debt trying to get you a ring that cost more than a car, when all I really want is for you to know that I would treasure you and our vows more than any insignificant piece of jewelry that could be lost or stolen.

Randyt (AKA How do I find my way home...)

May 24th, 2010
10:20 am

abc is right on…money is a small price to pay for peace and contentment (and maybe gratitude but that doesn’t usually last).

Speaking of rings, I’ve often wondered what my ex did with that pretty big one I bought her in college that took me three years to pay off…hope she didn’t throw it away. I guess I don’t want her to give it to our daughter though, it has some bad karma attached.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:20 am

I am~ lol that yellow threw me……lol

Melo

May 24th, 2010
10:26 am

lol that yellow threw me

@Lady J …..Me too girl!! :lol:

unless if I am is from Griffin GA! :lol:

whats up Randyt??!!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:27 am

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
10:28 am

I think I received a pretty awesome proposal. One of the best parts of it is I can relate it to a song and every time I hear that song I remember that night. As for my ring…well, I’m happy.

I have heard woman talk about not liking their rings but chose not to say anything to their husbands/husbands-to-be for fear of hurting his feelings. I know a couple of women that make a big to do about their rings where one didn’t get married and the other did with a ring she wanted.

Marriage is more than a ring and a wedding. A ring is a material possession and a wedding only last for a day. You can have a great marriage without a ring and a wedding. And you can have a horrible marriage wearing the most expensive elaborate ring after a $100,000 wedding.

The man and woman both should know who they are marrying.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
10:29 am

Randyt- My point exactly. All that money and it didn’t work out. Save that money for a 5 year anniversary and get her a new one or bigger rock on the existing one and that she will love forever. I know dudes that put small condo money on rings and their girlfriends all loved it but the relationships last 5 mins, but still takes 4 years to pay for.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
10:31 am

“Is it truly the size of the ring or is it that you know he can afford more of a ring but you think he is just being cheap?” yup! i think that’s real talk right there.

Leggs, the smile is still on the inside. i’m somewhere betweeen jitters and disbelief.

SexyCool13

May 24th, 2010
10:33 am

Dan

May 24th, 2010
10:35 am

‘Supper folks?

Um, if were getting married, binding our lives together and you’re worried more about the ring….then my selection process is off and so is the proposal.

Other than that, we’re good

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:37 am

sexycool that is a real truth honey!

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
10:38 am

abc I love you like a big brother. LOL

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
10:39 am

@Brat– Now that I can understand if at all. You know I’m working at six flags and ain’t no way on earth I can bring you home 4carats. But If I’m doing my thang on Wall Street and I show up with .50ct then I would be able to see the WTF? factor.

kimmy

May 24th, 2010
10:39 am

Hi,

I think the fact that he took the time to go pick it out means a lot to me. The proposal for me just needs to be heartfelt (not while in bed LOL) and I don’t care about the location. I do however think the ring needs to be in touch with his spending habits. My boyfriend has watches ranging from 1500-4500 bucks so my ring needs to fall in line with what he spends on himself. Other than that I’m not really worried about the size or proposal.

LoveLife

May 24th, 2010
10:44 am

Yup, totally whipped, and proud to admit it! I might be a pit bull everywhere else, but as soon as I walk in the door at home, I’m a golden retriever puppy dog.

@abc: Very sweet!

I am single, but would be happy to get the symbol of commitment from my guy, regardless of the size. When I did hint at my preferences or ask if he was the type to go ring shopping, my sweetie’s response was, “No, that’s just another way for a woman to control the situation. If you want me, then you should be happy with the ring I choose.”

Guy get to make a lasting statement with the ring they choose. Ladies, if you honor that you get to reap the benefits so just chill!

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
10:44 am

I don’t get with folks saying don’t buy the nicer ring because it may not work out. What kind of mindset is that going into a marriage. Heck if that’s the case then don’t buy the house, don’t buy the furniture, don’t take vacations, don’t exchange gifts. Don’t do anything with monetary value if you feel it is money wasted should it not work out. Not giving your woman a nice ring because you may not love or like each other 5 years from now is just crazy. Nothing is guaranteed in this life.

yowza

May 24th, 2010
10:46 am

I had a friend who did not like the way her guy proposed to her. She threw a fit and made him redo the proposal. If I had been him, I would have said, just forget it. They got married but divorced after a year, shocker!

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
10:46 am

For guys that pick out the ring themselves…how do you go about choosing something you think she will like? Do you hint around and ask her question here & there, do you ask her best friend or close relative or do you just wing it and hope for the best?

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
10:48 am

Morning all! Hope the weekend was wonderful.

We can get married at the courthouse for all I care. I would like a nice wedding set though. I am not materialistic or demanding, so I feel it’s a reasonable request.

The current doesn’t care to wear a wedding band at all.

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
10:48 am

DigThat, even with a person working Wall Street it should be more about what the two are happy with. My friend and her husband are both physicians and their rings are specially made. They are called fusion rings. It is a hard rubber material and metal infusion. I think she said they are less than $100 a piece. But it’s what the both wanted. She is not a big jewelry wearer so they went with something that a meaning to it based on their ideas.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
10:48 am

@yowza- Tell your friend to be glad it is over. Count it all joy

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
10:49 am

I like the yellow.
It’s my birthstone.
I would switch the sterling silver for white gold though.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
10:50 am

@czB ~ I definitely can understand the jitters and disbelief. However, I sure hope that smile is shone on the outside very soon.

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
10:52 am

A guy probably shouldn’t be proposing to a woman that he does not know enough about to not know that she will throw a fit if she does not receive a certain kind of ring. These things just don’t happen. Who we are shows in our everyday lives if you look close enough.

If you want to be sure to get her the ring she likes the two of you should pick it out together. That could be one of the first steps of merging your lives and finances together. Agreeing to marry and then agreeing on what you will spend for the ring.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:52 am

slim my former bff helped out with picking it……she knew my stlye…….he wanted a woman’s POV…..they met several times at Whitehall @ Lenox I learned later…..

my propopals was one evening when he got off work and knocked on the door vs using his key…he had roses, a awesome CD of our fav jams that he made and the ring….he asked I said yes…..lol…..was suprised bc while we were talking about getting married i didn’t think it would occur before that winter was over…..lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:54 am

cool beans chica yellow is one of my fav coloros too it just threw me in the setting……it just 31 bucks buy it…lol….I am thinking about buying a CZ like one of my gf just for the hell of it and sport it on my left hand! LOL

I still have the band to my set but lost the diamond on purpose believe that…..lol

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
10:56 am

Ladies let’s be real, if you had a gargutuan rock (HUGE!!!) none of us would wear it. We would be too scared that we would get robbed!

Absolutely. I don’t need more than a carat.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
10:57 am

Dig That, shouldn’t it be up to her whether or not she is perfectly happy with .5ct even though you’re ballin on wall st? i think it’s entirely unreasonable and selfish to want more than your man can comfortably afford, but that doesn’t mean you HAVE to go for as much as he can handle if that’s just not your taste.

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
10:57 am

Lady J – was your friend able to keep the secret Whitehall meeting with your SO to herself? I think i’d be so excited that I may slip up and let the cat out of the bag. I also don’t think i’d want that type of pressure of helping a dude pick out a ring for his lady. If she doesn’t like it, I’d feel bad. I’m just not that girlie when it comes to things like that.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
10:58 am

She threw a fit and made him redo the proposal.

@Yaza!!

he must have been gay,to have such a snake back!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:58 am

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
10:59 am

There isn’t a counterpart for men, IMHO, to the diamond imperative.

I hear a good “man cave” helps. :lol:

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
10:59 am

yes ma’am and I am a demanding heifer and was like WTH why are you @ Lenox without me….that was early 200’s and we ran the streets and I was like what are you doing honey……..she blew me off……lol…….

frugal one

May 24th, 2010
11:00 am

I more or less gently nudged my husband to the local pawn shop for my diamond. He bought me a beautiful 1 carat with excellent clarity and cut for $1500 cash. The same ring would have cost a lot more in the mall. I wanted at least a carat(good color and no eclusions) and could not stand to see him go in debt for a ring or spend 1 month’s salary on one. Once the diamond is on the finger no one knows whether it came from the local pawn shop or Tiffany’s.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:00 am

now you can’t pay me to go to lenox! ha!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:00 am

Ok about the ring.. The only thing I will say is this… Dont plan on buying another engagement ring but if I did it would have to be bigger than 2 1/2 carats.. Thats what the EX had.. Ha!!! Oh with Platinum Bands

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:02 am

awwwwww DK some lucky woman will have you as their husband again….stay open minded! LOL

Buckhead Writer

May 24th, 2010
11:03 am

My boyfriend and I have been discussing engagement and I think all of our discussions have gone very well. We both agree that it is important for me to have a nice ring that I love and that is special, but as two young people who aren’t rolling in dough, he promised that on down the road, he could get me a bigger and better ring for an anniversary present. I think this is a smart compromise. I also told him early on that it was important to me that I be surprised and dazzled by a proposal. He seems to respect my wishes as I have gotten the hint he plans to propose soon, but will not tell me when, where or how. And this is how I want it to be. We’re both very happy!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:03 am

meant 2000’s slim

Melo

May 24th, 2010
11:04 am

1500 cash.???

@the expensive one…

did u say $150 or u said $1500?? fifteen hundred for a phluccking,’marry me if u want’ ring??

For what??

SlimOne...Gemini twinny twin twin

May 24th, 2010
11:04 am

Lady J – LOL! I remember I was with my ex’s mother in the mall and she decided that I should get my finger sized. Next thing you know she has me trying on rings and such. I was like, you and I must be getting married because your son shole hasn’t said anything about it. She just laughed it off but deep down inside, I think she wanted us to get married more so than he ever claimed to. Even back when I lived with her for a short stint, she would leave ring mailers on my bed telling me I should start getting an idea of what type of ring i’d want. It became a bit excessive. Still no proposal….

So guess i’m still having Single Sex In the CIty. :-D

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
11:05 am

All I ask is that if you were married before, make sure what I get is better than what the ex had :-D

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:06 am

A coworker of mine got slack from her friends because she didn’t have a ring.
They all shut up when she told them that instead of a ring, he bought her a house

Eh…we got houses. lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:07 am

Slim i spit my drink out!!!!!!!!! LMBAO!!!!!!1

brb

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:07 am

An old co-worker of mine got engaged a few years ago and her ring was TEENY TINY….I know how women are when you mention the word “engaged” because they immediately go into Judge the Ring mode. The looks on their faces whenever they saw the ring was crazy. I sort of felt bad but she wore it with honor.

My baby sis has a teeny ring. She wears it with pride too.

Most importantly, she has a good marriage and is very happy. So is he.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:10 am

ok yall heard eric snow and his wife is spitting????

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
11:12 am

So guess i’m still having Single Sex In the CIty.

That’s perfectly okay…do you baby girl.

On topic: Never been in that situation….not even a conversation( a serious one) about marriage let alone a ring. That’s just something I haven’t pressed about. I’m not knocking it,though…just haven’t gotten there

Randyt (AKA How do I find my way home...)

May 24th, 2010
11:13 am

Hey Melo, Dig That

I’m over in N. England (again). If these clowns had listened to me 2 years ago, i wouldn’t have to be there right now. ,may be going to Southern France for awhile, about an hour from the French Riviera. Nice duty just a long way from home.

Re the rings, it is pretty much a “loss leader” for a guy. If you don’t buy nice, she’ll make ya pay for it in other ways. If she does like it, that is no guarantee that she will keep on liking YOU anyway and will keep the ring when she kicks you to the curb.

It is one of those things you just accept, bend over and take it like a man and move on trying to forget the pain to the checkbook ;-)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:13 am

Lady J – Yeah some lucky lady will be getting a ring from me.. A commitment ring.. thats it.. Ha!! Im committed to ya baby and I love ya.. Now get on outta here.. :-)

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:14 am

Sassy LMBAO!!!!!!

I am ready to see Miss Carrie and the gang too!!!!!!!!! YIPPPPIE!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:14 am

I more or less gently nudged my husband to the local pawn shop for my diamond. He bought me a beautiful 1 carat with excellent clarity and cut for $1500 cash.

Ooh..that is a good idea. With this economy, I’m sure there is a great selection out there. :(

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:15 am

Lord have mercy so she isn’t entitled to your social security when you clock out???? sorry I think long term and men die quicker……lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:17 am

I think it is ten years DK

also dk me an dmy ex are still beneficiaries on our insurance policies for our daughter sake an dit is in writing in a living will Yep gotta have it….lol straight business…..

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
11:17 am

@Brat- we are on the same page.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:17 am

DK and Leggs – This weekend I read an article about this couple that married, but kept seperate residences. The guy had two kids and a good system and the wife liked being alone and didnt want to be a step mom. So seperate houses it is. They’ve been married for 7 years and feel that their marriage is strong because they have time to “miss” each other.

So keep hope alive. lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:18 am

a percentage that is not 100%…..

Kym-If you do 4 me..I will do 4 you.

May 24th, 2010
11:18 am

@RandyT, Carlito and Swiss..The last two hours are on the clock fellows..for 24..I just know I am going to cry. This movie they are working on better come out soon.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
11:19 am

If she does like it, that is no guarantee that she will keep on liking YOU anyway

@Randyt!!

u spend 10k and she kicks u..she def has some cash to give her a head start with her life and u holding the wrong end of the stick…..

I dont think like most other men do,thankfully…..im always hedging coz like sister girl said,no gurantees in lyfe..so i wld rather err on the side of caution with my money.

cootie cat scent is all the same..im not getting dazzled by it and splurging on dead matter! :lol: :lol:

East Point's Own

May 24th, 2010
11:19 am

Over the last few years I have heard women say that they have to basically approve of the ring beforehand, meaning they have to go ring shopping with their man before the proposal. More than a couple women have told me that “since they have to wear the ring everyday the woman should like it.”
I wonder who started this whole line of thinking… it seems to be pretty popular these days.

http://hispointofview.com

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:19 am

wow ared that is different…….

I think I would make a great step mom but what I have noticed I don’t date guys with kids per se or haven’t had to deal with that…..lol

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
11:20 am

DK – LMAO!!! I imagined you giving a chick a slap on the arse when you said, Now get on outta here. lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:20 am

lolololol EPO! A woman of course!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:21 am

ARED – Thats the only way to go for me.. Im good on Marriage cause unlike Randy T said “I dont want to bend over and take it like a man” Im doing life on my terms now and Im sure its a babe out there that wants what I want I just have to find her.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
11:21 am

don’t know and don’t care what the ex had. i just want what makes me smile and he wants what will make him smile and with that we’ll be quite content with our little trinkets.

Amazon, you just reminded me of something that really irked me about a co-worker not too long ago. she came to me complaining that she felt her sister’s engagement ring was too small and that she intended to have a talk with the guy about it. i asked if her sister was happy and she said ‘yes’, but that her sister was never one to complain. my co-worker tells me he is a business owner and can certainly to better. i told her i felt she was wrong. well, she invited them over to ‘celebrate’ and spoke to him about the ring. dude had to admit the business wasn’t doing so well and that they felt it was smarter to be conservative now and upgrade in the future. she had the nerve to come back and tell me she “approves” of their decision. is it just me? maybe that’s just fam looking out for fam, but i was completely :shock: over her getting in their business like that.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:21 am

@Lady J, that was the focus of the article…if you ever thought your marriage was “different” look at these… :lol:

One lady is engaged to a man…who was born a woman. She’s not gay tho.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
11:21 am

@LadyJ- That is using your head.

Kym-If you do 4 me..I will do 4 you.

May 24th, 2010
11:22 am

To get the Social Security..must be married 10 years. If you divorce after the 10 years and you or she remarries..the first spouse still gets the Social Security. First one down the aisle and holds for 10 years gets the money..such as it is. Second wife..you out of luck.

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
11:22 am

But Randy that’s with anything when it comes to relationships. You may as well say you are going to get married but not move in together because she may stop liking you. Or not buy a new bed to sleep in because she may not want to sleep with/beside you at some time.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:23 am

Slim – Yes Ma’am send tha A$$ away happy..

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:24 am

czBrat – That is way too much. I’ve never told my sister what I’ve thought of her ring… it doesn’t matter what I think. Besides, they’re broke and in love and I know the did the best he could. (he didn’t even have a car at the time).

I am certain he will upgrade her down the line.

My other sister has a gorgeous ring that I want to steal. lol

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:24 am

I might generally ask what style ring she likes but thats it. As in the shape of the Diamond. If she doesnt like it, cool I can take it back and she can buy the one she wants herself to have…

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:24 am

yes sir dig that and thanks kym……….committment my butt DK over ten years buddy please…..lol

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
11:25 am

ok yall heard eric snow and his wife is spitting

:shock: What is really happening?

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
11:26 am

lolololol EPO! A woman of course! now i’m crackin up!!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:27 am

sassy after 12 years he FILED in the futon courts I will locate the article honey one sec….they were college sweethearts to so I am not the only one! LOL not making light of it either…..lol

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
11:27 am

My ex took me ring shopping. His idea.
Prior to him, I knew nothing about diamondsr.
He schooled me.
The ring he chose was different from the ones he took me to look at.
I loved my ring but it was the right thing for me to give it back once the relationship crumbled.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
11:28 am

@@czBrat!!

that sister literally has balls beside her cootie….i wld handle her and put her to bed very nicely if it were me and she wldnt speak to me nor her sister for months..or they all go tgether since theyre family!

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
11:29 am

EastPoint, probably a set of women who ended up getting some rather uninspiring very cheap rings. See it works both ways. You guys can’t be just throwing something at the woman under the umbrella of “she should like because it’s what I gave her”. Put some thought into it and don’t be a cheap arse.

And I agree if I have to wear it I should at least like it. But that doesn’t mean it will be the most expensive rock in the store.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
11:29 am

i usually don’t concern myself with celebrities’ personal lives, but i was sad to hear about that split. i was impressed that they’d been together before he went pro and had such strong faith in their household.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:29 am

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:30 am

CZ – I would have cussed the clothes off that Chick.. First for coming to me like that.. Secondly cause she’s not the one Im marrying, nor does she have to have to wear it.. Then Thirdly it aint her business on how my Business is doing.. The nerve of that chick for real.. I mean who does she think she is to feel as if she needs to sit someone down and tell them what they should be doing.. That was wrong on so many levels..

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
11:33 am

THANK YOU! i thought it was just me. i’m crazy close to my fam but we do NOT put our two cents in each other’s personal relationships unless asked. and the whole issue of how she was so sure he could afford more was just tacky. i can’t believe he even dignified her with an explanation.

Grazer

May 24th, 2010
11:34 am

You all know the engagement ring tradition doesn’t exist anywhere else but here in the US…right?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
11:35 am

I pay attention to that kinda stuff though and when a Babe has everybody in our business or values what her committee tells her too much, then thats a red flag for me.. I like a free from the herd thinker..

Im feeling extra Saucy this morning.. Too much coffee.. That double pack they made this morning has me wired for sound.. I tell you what..

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:35 am

good post czBrat……

my ex was impressed with me moving to atlanta with him an dwe had NOTHING….but that is me I am not a materilitic chic at alll…..I know where I came from and will never forget it coming to a city a faking…..we slept on the floor til his mom but us furniture but we were saving up for our own and now looking back we should have declined it and brought our own and we would have worked for it….yep much was given to us…..after we married in 04 we got 20,000 not much money but to two young fools who wanted two diff things at the end we had NOTHING to show for it…I wanted a modest townhomw and he wanted to shop….I stepped back and helped him spend it bc I beeged him to call my uncle a former ML invenstor and he told me i can’t control him…..I truly was trying to do right but hey it was THEIR money NOT mine and he can happily have his mother without me! She had the nerve to go off on me and wouldn’t say ish to him talking bot what we did with the money!

i tell ya NO more mama’s boys! LOL

Lori

May 24th, 2010
11:38 am

Have any of you considered another stone besides diamonds for an engagement ring? Princess Diana, had a sapphire solitaire engagement ring.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
11:38 am

i can’t believe he even dignified her with an explanation.

@czbrat!

thats whtas up…

as for Eric snow, i fel bad for them and wonder what happened… i liked the cpple…

but a lot of these athletes “upgrade” on their high school sweeties ones they taste proff money and the heifers start flocking to them like bees to honey………

on a side note..Dwayne Wade shld have asked his ex to go under the knife a have a mouf job..that cld have helped! :lol: baby’s mouf and teeth are so……ughhhhh..my God!

:lol: :lol:

Raqi

May 24th, 2010
11:39 am

Quick question, I know ABC could probably answer this…

Does smoked salmon and Pinot Noir pair well together?

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:40 am

yes raqi and share! lol with a salmom creamse cheese spread! yummmy!

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
11:40 am

@Brat- You are not crazy at all. I know it was hard for you to snap on her about that craziness. I wonder if she is single?

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:42 am

You all know the engagement ring tradition doesn’t exist anywhere else but here in the US…right?

So? The US is where I happen to live. :lol:

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:42 am

Melo i truly prayed for Wade’s soon to be ex wife she has to come to grips with it is over! it is a process and I don’t even know what it feels like to be married to a famous person but I look @ the ones before her and some went gracefully and quiet

Kym-If you do 4 me..I will do 4 you.

May 24th, 2010
11:43 am

@Lori..if and when I get to the point of marriage..I want a ruby. Its my birthstone.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
11:43 am

@Lori- It is very traditional for the diamond to represent marriage proposal and ceremony, however it used to be also very traditional for the bride to wear white to signify virginity walking down the isle and of course that’s out the window too.

SexyCool13

May 24th, 2010
11:45 am

Speaking of Basketball Wives, I actually used up brain cells and life to watch a few episodes of that show yesterday. And I actually feel really sorry for those chicks, in a way.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
11:45 am

Melo- D.Wades’s old lady got some real issues. She ain’t going out quietly at all.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:47 am

dig that LMBAO!!!!!!

my next go round everybody can wear what the hell they want to including me! the things I fretted over!
Holler @ me now I know what I won’t give a damn about! LOL

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:47 am

Have any of you considered another stone besides diamonds for an engagement ring?

Lori, I hadn’t, until I saw this one….

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2583/3865559472_418a6c292b_m.jpg

I think it’s gorgeous. The stone is green amethyst and cost a total of $430.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
11:49 am

One chick on Basketball Wives got an 11 carat ring when she got engaged. They broke up and now she wants at least 15. :?

But she will never date another ball player :lol:

Reality check, aisle 10

East Point's Own

May 24th, 2010
11:49 am

@Raqi I understand that, and of course I don’t mean a man should be able to give a woman any ole thing and she should love it. BUt I mean some of these women have the tone of “this is the ring I want and I am not getting married to you if you can’t get it for me” On another note I have also heard one or two women state that their ring much cost at least a certain price or they won’t marry the dude. I think any respectable guy (who is not Scrooge McDuck)will spend a decent amount of money on the ring with respect to his income level. I don’t know of any guys I came up with who make $50,000 a year or more but flaked out and got his woman a $299.99 engagement ring. That could be a problem, but on the other side of that same token if that’s how they roll and he knows she does not want a fancy ring that $299.99 ring could be perfect.

http://hispointofview.com

Melo

May 24th, 2010
11:51 am

She ain’t going out quietly at all.

@Dig?Lady J??

shes fighting for that money..its hard to see it go away.that must be very depressing for a high school woman with nothing else to show for herself other than the kids she birthed with him…..

I liked Wade when he was drafted back in the day..but hes making some mistakes too with his women choices…..

I sure hope hes just messing with that Gabriel heiffer and not serious.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:51 am

ARed LMBAO!!!!! these shows need to go! LOL a mess!!!!

luangtom

May 24th, 2010
11:52 am

I sit and laugh at the demands made concerning rings and other things when it comes to pleasing the woman in a relationship. My wife is from a foreign country. Others have asked her if it was true that I “bought” her from her parents. She looks at misinformed American women and laughs. She said, “The gifts that my future husband gave to my mother is payment for her bringing me to the point of being a woman eligible to be married. It is repayment for all that my parents did for me.” She then asks what, besides the bills for the wedding, does an American woman give her parents to repay them for their bringing them to the point of marriage in their lives. Few, if any, answer at all. She then asks, “Would you marry if the man did not give you a diamond?” Not one said that they would. Sad commentary on the high status women put on themselves and not their parents. We are both immigrants or from an immigrant family, so American customs and demands are a bit unnerving.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:53 am

she would get it quietly….trust me…..the others did! lol besides the housewife chic shree sharae however she spells it! lol

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
11:53 am

Dig, co-worker has been married to the same mane forever, just like her parents. i don’t know if that’s what makes her a bit possessive about her sister now getting married, but still. you just don’t talk to a man about not doing right by his woman unles it’s a pattern and a problem. they’re just getting started! my co-worker and her mother seem to rule the roost in their homes (based on what she’s told me), so i’m scared to think what the new guy is in for, especially if he didn’t nip it from jump.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
11:53 am

very traditional for the bride to wear white to signify virginity walking down

@Dig that?

isnt it tradition Now that non- virgins (u know urelves) :lol: and divorce\es wear off white instead?? signifying non purity??

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:55 am

Melo I NEVER dig Wade….way back then either….just something about him…….lol

when you shut your trap you can demand silently and successfully from an experience demander! LOL!

JtJ

May 24th, 2010
11:55 am

Morning All,

I think a guy should at least know what a woman likes before he buys an engagement ring. I am not that picky, but I knew I wanted something nice. In random trip to the mall, I would take JT to stores to show him what I like. I would also show him the flyers from Kay Jewelers to give him ideas of what I liked and did not like. Tell him what you like in random conversations and show him a picture if possible. I think it’s ridiculous to expect a HUGE rock especially if you know what he earns and can afford. We knew we would be purchasing a new home and selling his old home, so we knew what we were working with.

I have a nice 1 carat that I saw in and showed to him months before he proposed. He went back and got the ring and kept it hidden at work for about 4 months. My ring cost about $1700, but I think he got it for 50% off on sale. We got our bands also and only paid about $600 for the 2 bands.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
11:57 am

@ARed ~ I believe marriages like that can work.

@czB ~ your co-worker was completely wrong. Especially after her sister said she was happy. That was grounds for her to mind her own business. To pry your unappreciation of the size of your sister’s ring is ri.di.culous at best. Nice of him to answer her, but I would have just left her standing there in mid sentence!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
11:58 am

Hey Blog Peeps!

It blows my mind when I hear about women complaining about an engagement ring. Even if my guy gave me something I didn’t like, I would just suck it up and wear it with pride. And these dudes still marry these women that complain! SMH!!!

People don’t have the right to judge other folks’ rings. So what if he’s balling and YOU think he should have gotten her something better? You don’t really know what their financial situation is or mainly – where they put their priorities! I know folks who are extremely wealthy and always have been that way, but wore simple gold bands. But they have REAL wealth and don’t feel the need to be pretentious.

I like quality, classy, simple jewelry. Something unique would be nice too. I don’t like gawdy. Small and high quality beats big and cheap any day of the week. I would expect someone that I’m about to make such a major commitment to to know this about me. So if thru the years we have dated I have constantly talked about how I hate yellow gold and then you turn around and get me a yellow gold ring – my feelings may be hurt more than anything because I feel you are more concerned with exerting control than getting me something you know I will like and symbolize your love for me.

If you are the super cheap type and I’m dating you to the point that we are getting engaged, well no use complaining – I should already know what I’m getting & getting in to!LOL!!

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
11:59 am

@ARed ~ I believe marriages like that can work.

@czB ~ your co-worker was completely wrong. Especially after her sister said she was happy. That was grounds for her to mind her own business. To state your unappreciation of the size of your sister’s ring is ludicrous. Nice of him to answer her, but I would have just left her standing there in mid sentence!

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
11:59 am

luangtom personally, i bring both my kids up to be good people because i want them to be good people. if they choose to share that gift with someone by taking a spouse, then God bless them both. my repayment is that they be happy, treated well, and respected. you can’t give me anything more meaningful than that!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
11:59 am

she has even claimed he hit and abused her wade that is i was honey….but who knows

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
12:01 pm

Speaking of wedding traditions, has the idea that the chicks family pays for the wedding also gone out the window or has it moved towards the couple themselves?

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
12:03 pm

@Brat- He better nip that in the bud because they and wife to be will be the reason why dude has get the heck of there.

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
12:03 pm

Wades’s old lady got some real issues. She ain’t going out quietly at all.

Rightfully so. She’s his wife. I wouldn’t quietly step aside either for some trick to hop in my place. She’s earned and got every right as the wife…please I wish I would take a back seat to some girfriend/trick when I’ve been washing your drawers, cleaning behind you, taking care of your kids…yada yada yada. Okay, well the maid’s been doing it but still. You wanna exchange for a better model. Go ‘head got no problem with that you just gonna pay me on the way out.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:03 pm

hmmmm the jim sullivan case is on 48 hours on WE!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
12:05 pm

EPO – I agree with you assessment. I would just want someone to get me something within his means. I would feel uncomfortable accepting something I know he could not comfortably afford. That’s so ghetto to me! I want someone who is responsible with his finances. I’ve dated someone who was very irresponsible and it is SO not fun and not worth the stress. Showing off & “keeping up with the Joneses” is not the way I was brought up and so not important to me. That is a turn-off, a big one!

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
12:05 pm

@Melo- I have yet to see an off white wedding gown walking down the isle.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:06 pm

but lurker when it is over it is over…….I want to fight the person my ex emotionally attached himself too but it wasn’t her fault my/our marriage was ending we had BIGGER issues and we failed @ them so of course he founded an outlit……….when it is over you can’t make a man or woman stay….go out with dignity and have eveything in writing….lol

SexyCool13

May 24th, 2010
12:06 pm

kimmie – as usual – >>>here<<<

ShallowHolly

May 24th, 2010
12:07 pm

Me and to SO are talking about rings now. I told him straight up that I do not want a cheap looking ring but I don’t want anything huge either. The ring I picked out from Kay’s was 3K. He makes 56K this shouldn’t be a problem right? Now he is saying he wants to get my ring from the pawn shop or he only wants to spend 1K. I’m sorry I think I am worth more than 1K. He has been married before and he said he lied to his ex wife and brought her ring from a pawn shop for 1200K. So now I refuse to marry him unless I get the ring I want. Does this make me shallow?

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:07 pm

Okay, well the maid’s been doing it but still.

@It’s me….lurker

yeah,if the maid has been doing it and all u do is gossip with ur heiifer friends,dole urself with makeup,with ma money but ur sexx is wack,yep, im getting a trick and ur azz is :arrow: ex!
NEXT!

:lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
12:07 pm

CZ – Ive noticed that seems to be the MO for todays marriages.. If she doesnt rule the roost then the marriage is not a good one.. For some women.. Thats why the No work Swag is in full affect.. They had a dude they couldnt rule so they go and get a dude that doesnt work and has no choice but to accept being put in a skirt.. Fagedaboutit.. I know thats oneof the reasons my marriage didnt work, because I wasnt surrendering my pants and she saw her Aunts husbands being ran like Byatches..

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:08 pm

meant i wantED to fight that heifer! got over bc i was preggo! yep the sucka showed out @ my weakest point bc he already know no preggo they both would have got a wiffed of me! lol

married young & broke

May 24th, 2010
12:09 pm

That’s who I was when I proposed to my wife. I saved up two months of my salary back then and bought her a 1 carat solitaire, clear with excellent clarity. I told her that I was giving her the best that I could give at that time but as we did better in life I would continue to give her the best that I could give. I think it pretty shallow and shortsighted for a woman to view the engagement ring as the jackpot. My wife NEVER discussed what type of ring she wanted/required and we will be celebrating 15 years. My sister-in-law DEMANDED my brother purchase a specific style, minimum size, etc and they are getting divorced after spending every single year in counseling for the past 14 years. I told my brother when I accompanied him to buy the ring 14 years ago that it was a sign of bad character but he didn’t listen…

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:09 pm

Say it ain’t so ShallowHolly!!!!!!! Get it girl!!!!!!!!!! LMAO!

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
12:09 pm

great question Slim. i can only say that the tradition in our family has been to pay for it oneself because our parents are of very modest means. those who chose traditional weddings foot their own bills; others did the courthouse. i’m curious as to what’s prevalent though.

great post kimmie. i remember hubs gave me a box of chocolate covered cherries one valentine’s day after we’d been together several years. i cheerfully thanked him and stored the treats in the fridge. after a couple days he came to me all upset because i wasn’t eating them. he said ‘but you love chocolate’. i said ‘but when have you ever seen me eat a chocolate covered cherry’. i appreciate that he was trying to do something nice, but i’m a m&m kinda gal and proud of it! no way was i going to complain about the gift, but i wasn’t gonna choke them down either.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:10 pm

@Melo- I have yet to see an off white wedding gown walking down the isle

One of my friends got married in a gold gown. It was a very light gold, but still not white. It was pretty.

She’s getting divorced. :(

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
12:10 pm

Lady J – but lurker when it is over it is over

You’re right and I agree especially if we’ve detached emotionally but as the wife (til death do us part), I’m entitled…did I say that? I wouldn’t dare hang on to some dude that left way before ending it all but I’ll be daggone if he steps away from his marital responsibilities cause he ain’t digging the marriage no more. That’s what’s wrong today. Hey I’m bored or tired I want something better/new. Those vows are serious and should be taken as such. No green lights cause somebody turned your head. That’s why all those questions are asked BEFORE we take the leap, do you honor,cherish, love, obey, faithful….if you ain’t sure, say so then. Not after the fact.

But I hear you

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
12:11 pm

luangtom – I bet some Americans would find your customs unnerving too. But the great thing about America is that everyone is free to do whatever they wish and what feels right to them. And not be put down or ostracized for doing their own thing.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
12:12 pm

“I picked out from Kay’s was 3K. He makes 56K this shouldn’t be a problem right? Now he is saying he wants to get my ring from the pawn shop or he only wants to spend 1K. I’m sorry I think I am worth more than 1K.”

All I can say is your moniker fits you so well…You may be pulling ourmy leg again, but you are trifling. BTW, 56K is not a lot of money!

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
12:12 pm

yeah,if the maid has been doing it and all u do is gossip with ur heiifer friends,dole urself with makeup,with ma money but ur sexx is wack,yep, im getting a trick and ur azz is ex!
NEXT!

And whose fault is that? His. A real man will check that mess at the door. You can’t fix something you’ve allowed…yes allowed to go on. A real man can get a woman to do and comply easily.

JtJ

May 24th, 2010
12:13 pm

blog monster ate my post….

I know plenty of women who think they need a 5 carats or more. A nice 1 carat in white gold sits very well with me, that’s exactly what I got. I showed it to JT in a store one day and he went back the next day and bought it and kept it for 4 months at work. We got a good deal- 50% off of a $1700 ring and went back and got the bands month later- for 50% off, too.
We got to live after the wedding, so no sense in going into more debt than you handle especially if plan to purchase a new home together.

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
12:14 pm

‘I have yet to see an off white wedding gown walking down the isle’

Dig – i was watching one of those wedding shows on Oxygen, and this chick actually had a black lacy type wedding dress. It was very different to say the least. I wonder if I should get my wedding dress in bright Blood Red…lol

married young & broke

May 24th, 2010
12:14 pm

ShallowHolly – What does it matter how much he pays as long as it is a nice ring? Isn’t it a good thing to get a great deal on something, provided the quality is the same? Is it about the money or is it about the ring? What if he got a great deal on the ring and you two went on a fantastic vacation to celebrate with the money you saved, would that make it ok?

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:15 pm

from a person that took tlight of those vows Lurker I hear you back….we both din’t take our vows or marriage serious bc it was wrong from the start…..I don’t mind sharing that so everything that came to us we deserved dearly…..I hear you back chica! LOL

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:17 pm

chile getting someone to stay in something they have checked out of be it man or woman will put you in the ground first to sway them to stay! JMHO

ShallowHolly

May 24th, 2010
12:17 pm

56K is good money in today’s economy! Also I can’t help that I want what I want. If he is making 56K he should not be pulling out a 250.00 ring. That is just crazy to me! Especially if my parents and I have to pay for the wedding which will probably be around 10K….

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
12:17 pm

Shallow Holly – weren’t you on here just a few weeks ago saying because some of your friends were all getting engaged but started dating the same time you & your guy had. You said you & your guy were not near that point in your relationship & that both of you were overweight & not very “active”, etc. What changed that you are now ring shopping? If I’ve got you mixed up with someone else, sorry!

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
12:17 pm

@Slim- Get you a RED dress baby. I bet you would look beautiful.

@ShallowHolly- At least you have the right name.

JtJ

May 24th, 2010
12:18 pm

@ Slimone- I believe most couples pretty much pay for the wedding themselves with a little help from their parents, unless you got a trust fund and some wealthy parents.

We are paying for our own wedding and planning to do it debt free!!

@ Dig That/Melo- There are a lot of dresses that are not pure white. Most are Off-white or Ivory- my dress is Ivory.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:18 pm

@It’s me….lurker ??

u been married be4,is that right??

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:18 pm

how do you tell and explain to someone how important their vows are???? that has to be within I think Lurker he or she must want to do right by them

ShallowHolly

May 24th, 2010
12:20 pm

Hi Kimmie it’s me! We have always disscussed getting married even though we are not active and fat. We love each other but it’s a strange kind of love. You know what I’m sayin?

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:20 pm

There are a lot of dresses that are not pure white

@JtJ..i know..Dig that didnt …….

I know a lot of folks who did not wear white but off white instead coz of that fornication and divorcee thang……

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
12:20 pm

@czBrat…I was shocked when I read your post. Her sister was out of line on so many levels. Folks like that scare me…it seems like she is just looking to start trouble in that relationship.

@Lori, hmmmm unless it is a pink, chocolate or canary diamond I would not be interested in using a semi-precious or a stone outside of a diamond. I just like the sparkle and the look of diamonds as the engagement ring.

On topic: You all already know how I feel. I would rather use the wedding money and all of that other stuff to build and save for the future. Instead of blowing it on a ring and wedding…a year later we are looking at each other mad and broke.

Hola!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
12:21 pm

Dig- Remember that lady I wrote about on here, the “superwoman” that spoke at our women’s day at my church? She wore a champagne-colored dress. Half the weddings I’ve been to the dresses were an off-white or ivory. Went to one where the dress was pink.

I want baby blue.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:22 pm

its hard to see it go away.that must be very depressing for a high school woman with nothing else to show for herself other than the kids she birthed with him…..

melo – She went to college with him.

And she was with him when he was nobody and had nothing. No wonder she’s taking it rather hard.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:23 pm

kimmie preach! LOL

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:23 pm

how do you tell and explain to someone how important their vows are

@Lady J??

thats the job of the pastor in premarital counselling etc..

but a lot of weddings these days dont have that pastor blessing tradition..pple make their own vows and they invite a gay pastor,of all pple, to come bring them tgether. in union…..

It aint the same anymore…lost value!

:lol: :lol:

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:25 pm

melo – She went to college with him.

@Ared??

my bad..now she must act like she went to college..not like Sheree! :lol;

JtJ

May 24th, 2010
12:25 pm

@ Melo- I chose Ivory because of my skin color-nothing to do with being a divorcee or “non-pure”…lol

Some of the biggest and most costly weddings that I have been a part of or attended , have all ended up in divorce only after a few years of marriage or the couple ends up in debt over their head. One couple specifically is still paying for their rings and wedding costs 7 years after their wedding. WTH!!!! Now, their marriage is about to end because they are arguing over money and lack of quality time-they both have to work 2 jobs to pay their bills…IDK??

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:27 pm

:lol @ melo – Sheree went to college too.

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
12:27 pm

Hey JtJ- I feel you. Weddings are definitely not my thing and do not attend very many so that was my observation from limited experience. It just always made me laugh because they all wore those white gowns and non of them virgins. No judgement, just observation. I feel like you can wear whatever you want to. Because none of it matters to anyone else accept the two that said I do

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
12:28 pm

@DigThat ~ yes, we both agree on her name!!

@kimmie ~ you don’t have her mixed up with anyone…

$56K, considering what his “overhead” is in life, it may not be a lot. Everything is relative, but you sound like you came from a treehouse and a trailer home would be an upgrade. Damn, girl, show appreciation for your man and what he wants to do with and for you and stop all this damn squawking!

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
12:29 pm

JtJ – it would be nice to have someone else pay for the wedding but I’d think they’d feel they would be entitled to having a say in making decisions….

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:29 pm

and to think melo we went and still failed!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:31 pm

even did professional counseling during the demise….smh….imo when it is over it is over…..buton the flipside if we wanted to save it we could have too but it takes 2

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:31 pm

A nice 1 carat in white gold sits very well with me, that’s exactly what I got. I showed it to JT in a store one day and he went back the next day and bought it and kept it for 4 months at work.

JtJ – You’ve got a good dude. You wanted it, he could afford it, so he got it. Folks make such a big issue about stuff when they KNOW it’s something simple that brings joy to the other person.

That’s one reason why I appreciate my guy. My requests are resonable (usually :lol: ) and instead of making excuses, he just takes care of it. Love it.

AJC sucks

May 24th, 2010
12:32 pm

“Ladies, would the size of an engagement ring make a difference when you know they can afford something bigger and more elaborate?”

Dumbest question. Ever.

Liberalism = communism

May 24th, 2010
12:33 pm

If the size and cost of the ring is why women want to get married, then this society is in big big trouble.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:35 pm

how do you tell and explain to someone how important their vows are

You don’t. Either you “get it” or you don’t. A lot of folks don’t!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:37 pm

and to think melo we went and still failed!

@LadyJ

I know but smetimes its becoz u selection was wrong…..

a lot of times pple choose their girlfriends/girlfriends coz of physical attributes and not the person nor the home they are coming outa of…

I wldnt…

If the tradition of marriage aint that strong in ur home or fam DNA,im taking a pass, it dont matter i like,enjoy and am crazy about ur high perched bouncy bootey and cute face.. :lol:

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:37 pm

grlfriends/boyfriends

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
12:38 pm

@Liberalism- Society has been in big trouble. Just add the ring subject to the list

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:41 pm

I was a debutante HS and we had to wear white dresses. I knew then that it was probably the only time I would wear a white dress and it wouldn’t be a sham. :lol:

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:41 pm

LMBAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:42 pm

melo you are a fool!!!!!!!! LOL

we were wrong for each other he is a cool dude and will make the right person a great husband…..I enjoyed are good times but we couldn’t get past the bad! yep should have left it in college! you live and learn!

JtJ

May 24th, 2010
12:42 pm

@ ARed..That’s how we try to keep things: SIMPLE. If it makes the other person happy and you can do it with no stress or issues, then just do it. The ring symbolizes the “committment” and the size does not measure how “much of a committment” by any means. A co-worker commented that my ring was not an “engagement” ring (It is a 3-stone ring). I said “it’s not a traditional one-stone engagement ring”, but it is exactly what I wanted. I guess she didn’t think I knew that.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:43 pm

ARed I agree!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
12:44 pm

Until death do us part is a life long commitment.

abc

May 24th, 2010
12:44 pm

Raqi, I think a Pinot Noir that tended to the sweet side rather than the oaky side would be just fine with salmon, but even if it has some bite, it should be fine. Salmon’s a pretty strong taste and difficult to overwhelm. My own preference would be a Chardonnay, but I’d probably get a Reisling or Zinfandel because my girl doesn’t like Chardonnay; pretty much anything that’s light and sweet works with salmon. Think about it in terms of counterpoint, cleansing the salmon’s fat from the palate.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
12:48 pm

abc what goes good with the Pinot Noir? We are having dinner with the couple that gave us the Pinot Noir. What should we have? I am not a wine drinker so I have no clue what pairs well with what.

My well informed bff that knows her spirits is out of the country. Please help me out.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:48 pm

abc i love chardonnay!!!!!!!!! I finally made it to the cigar bar in the highlands!!!!!!!!! The Highlands Rock!!! another hidden secret! Their wine is GREAT!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:48 pm

A co-worker commented that my ring was not an “engagement” ring (It is a 3-stone ring).

Tell her to check out all the three stone engagement rings on the Tiffany website! Good grief!

I have a lot of friends who got three stone engagement rings.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:49 pm

i know you asked abc but waht about pasta raqi……

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
12:50 pm

I was thinking salmon because if it doesn’t rain I am planning for us to have dinner out on the patio. I can smoke the salmon in the smoker or put it on the grill.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
12:51 pm

ok. things got busy here for a minute, so i was very happy to come back and find that Leggs spoke my mind at 12:12. LOL

Hola Profesora!

abc

May 24th, 2010
12:52 pm

You can serve Pinot Noir with pretty much anything that’s not all that spicy — you wouldn’t want to have it with Cajun or Southern, but steaks, chops, and fish are all good with Pinot Noir. It’s kind of an in-between kind of wine.

For Southern, Jamaican, spicy kind of stuff, I’d choose a nice Shiraz. Yellow Tail is a good cheap brand, different from all the others, strong nose, great legs, kind of a sweet and chocolaty finish.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
12:52 pm

LadyJ, no pasta. I am married to a “No Pasta if I don’t have to” man.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:54 pm

cool beans raqi i am readings abc post and loving it! lol I will hush!

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
12:54 pm

@LadyJ- I always in the Highlands

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:54 pm

professor all my yapping!!!!! how are you honey!!!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
12:54 pm

LOL @ the Highlands being a hidden secret. :lol:

abc

May 24th, 2010
12:55 pm

…the closer to room temperature you server the Pinot Noir, the sweeter it will be. If you chill it, it will get some bitter bite to it.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
12:55 pm

abc, New York strips?

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:57 pm

I was there Sat night aftet I left Chow baby! Yall that was my 1st visit and OMG!!!!!! I truly had a me weekend and did me happily!!!!!!!!

Dig that is was my late night treat since no man is in the picture!!!!! it was very low key and everyone stayed in their lane! I truly wasn’t out to meet n greet! I did me with a beautiful smile! ha!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
12:58 pm

ARed chile I could live in the condo’s on top on the cigar bar! yes ma’am! I will buy me a dog and walk like the others!

Ared I like it better than glenwood park…….all day!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
12:58 pm

the Highlands being a hidden secret

@Ared??

thats the irony coz she(Lady J) is the hidden secret.

time for u to spread ur wings Lady J!

that cootie is marinating well…..

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
1:02 pm

abc, that is good to know about the room temp. Thanks.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:02 pm

awwwwwwwwww LMBAO!!!!!! thanks Melo!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:03 pm

Go away melo. :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:04 pm

Oh did the blog meet up for Tazzee go down? How was it?

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:05 pm

that was my 1st visit to chow baby i know i am late but I did a great mix of food with hot spices! whew! LOL

cigar bar every blue moon…..

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:06 pm

it is friday ARed and SWISS best show his face I have on shirt coming in the WIND!!!!! LOL

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:07 pm

dammit meant i have his shirt SCSU! whew jesus!

Melo don’t attack!

Leggs help!

lmbao

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:07 pm

LOL @ Lady J.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:11 pm

meant have his shirt coming in the wind on special order…..lol

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:12 pm

Anyone ever been to Cafe 290? Thinking about going there this Sunday since someone brought it up Saturday….how is it?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:14 pm

Im one of those over the top expain-sive weddings (Pronouced exspainsive).. Yeah we had all the bells and whistles.. Even renting a Bus for Family Members to travel.. The best hotel money could buy, only to end up divorced 6 years after we did it, really 3 because we stayed in it 3 years too long.. Im not for the expensive wedding I think people should spend that money on paying YOUR debt down before you go into it.. If you have a ton of debt its not fair for you to come into a marriage and expect te other person to help you with your debt.. I think all parties involved should be forced to sit down with a court appointed Finacial advisor and help plot the course or at least open your eyes about the monies… Because quiet as kept alot of people dont know how to handle bread, cheese and doe..

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
1:14 pm

ah yeah! luv the highlands area. trying to figure out how close we can get to buying in that area without hitting the half mill mark (or anywhere near it for that matter) :lol:

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
1:15 pm

…stepping in…steppin out!

@hey lady j today is one of those days…lol I am trying to get some work done…hahaha

@hey czBrat

@Leggs…you are setting the record straight on that 56K. Shoot, with this economy the blog does not count annual salaries under 115K. That is the new rule (just kidding).

Hey mello melo!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:16 pm

Im not for the expensive wedding

I love how folks declare that AFTER they’ve already had one. :lol: :roll: :arrow:

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
1:17 pm

@Dk I agree with you. I can tell you this I would do an inexpensive destination wedding or I would have a small and scared one for no more than 40 people. I am not spending my money on all those plates, so I need only a few people that I really like and they are worth me feeding.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:17 pm

Slim – Cafe 290 was cool.. Havent been there in a while.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
1:18 pm

Cafe 290…. be sure to get a seat/table in front of the band. it’s kind of annoying when you can’t watch them play. i’d say it was just ok. we actually enjoyed blind willies and ribs n’ blues more.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:18 pm

Prof – Yeah weddings are for show now a days and I wont do that again.. I’ll do it for us wherever we wanna go and whoever can make it will.. If not we’ll send you a post card..

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:19 pm

professor it is no way i am sitting here everyday with my mama as much as I love her! LOL Thursday I am volunteering @ my child’s school…..and quiet frankly i need to be reading my theory book…..lol….i tell ya idle time….but i am being on my best behavior low key!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:22 pm

ARED – When you know better you do better.. I didnt know any better.. So now you know better dont spend too much on your wedding, cause youre gonna need to save it for another expense..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:23 pm

I wish someone had told me what Im telling the blog cause man we mightve made it.. We were already behind the 8 Ball six months before the wedding..

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:24 pm

I’ve always known better, DK. Which is why the justice of the peace has always been okay with me. No one in my family has had a big splashy wedding and they’re all still married too.

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
1:25 pm

@lady j I forgot about you have more free time now that school is out!

@DK one of my friends were still paying for her wedding after her divorce. Can you imagine that…the bills lasted longer than the wedding smdh?

Ok gang out to lunch…I will try to check back in.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:26 pm

i dropped my child off and couldn’t come back and go to sleep! lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:27 pm

yep when you know better and do better! I agree! it is called experience!

Dan

May 24th, 2010
1:27 pm

@DK

Been heard it. A have folks that have been married 2,3 times and they all say the same thing: “my best wedding was the last one without all that other stuff”.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
1:27 pm

hey Proff??

@Ared..u aint missed Tazzee’ s hangout….

i will tell u guys how they do weddings in southern africa…yeah,its a big show..especially for some families..

the families actually compete,as it were,on the wedding day,to handout gifts…..if the wedding party are coming out homes where fam members have good jobs,biznesses etc..they can actually raise cash to afford them to buy their matrimonial home.

i remember making a big donation to my uncle on his wedding back then..and thats how he got his house…..

but the whole charade of being paraded like 2 prized cows at a farm show makes me sick…….wedding is not for me…

the partying,bachelor party and after party,messing with bridesmaids??

Now u talking!! :lol: :lol:

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
1:28 pm

wish someone had told me what Im telling the blog cause man we mightve made it.. true, but sadly how many will not hear or heed because they’re thinking ‘that won’t happen to me’. all you can do is share your knowledge and experience though.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:28 pm

but i do want an island wedding my lesson learned is not entertain society! an ocean will seprate us! I do want another much elegant affair! but it can be 20 people there lol that include the island folk too! lol

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:29 pm

ARED – Thats about the best comment I have ever heard from you.. Congrats to you.. I guess I wanted the big splashy wedding as well cant completely blame it on her.. Cause if I was going out I was going out in style.. Rolls Royce and all..

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:29 pm

Two. prized. cows. at. a. farm. show…

I. hate. melo. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
1:31 pm

Infamous, my marriage ceremony costs me personally maybe $250. And he probably paid about $400 and that includes what he paid the minister. I know the total thing was under $1,000.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:32 pm

ared i laughed out loud too!!!!

he is a mess!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
1:33 pm

My first wedding was very nice and elaborate. Our parents paid for that.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:33 pm

Thats about the best comment I have ever heard from you.. Congrats to you..

Well I’ve said it in my first post and I’ve said it before so perhaps you should pay better attention then you wouldn’t be surprised. :D

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:34 pm

Britney Murphy dies and then her husband dies 5 months later in the same house. Crazy.

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:34 pm

Speaking of bachelor parties, what REALLY goes on at those things?…more often than not, do the grooms get a lil summin summin before having to be stuck with the same piece of frap…or do you all just get Real close to getting some?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:35 pm

Dan – Awww Man the whole blog knows youre cheap so I’ll be surprised if your wifes ring doesnt come with a magnifying glass.. Ha ha!!! I can seriously see you trying to talk her into a cubic zirconia, but I still fools with ya… Ha Ha!!!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
1:36 pm

LadyJ, if we ever do a renewal of vows or something I think I would like to do it on an island after the sun has set complete with the lighted paper lanterns and all.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
1:37 pm

if your wifes ring doesnt come with a magnifying glass.. Ha ha!!! I can seriously see you trying to talk her into a cubic zirconia

@IDK…U know i laughed really loud..ther’ wondering here what happened.

Daaaaamn man!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:38 pm

Yep Raqi all day long!!!!!!!!!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
1:39 pm

Barefooted in the sand….

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:39 pm

Dan – Awww Man the whole blog knows youre cheap so I’ll be surprised if your wifes ring doesnt come with a magnifying glass..

:lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:39 pm

Raqi – I wouldve married you for free.. With your understanding of what a wife should be.. You Ma’am would be alright with me.. Tell you sister I said “Wat up, whass hannenin”

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
1:40 pm

Slim you tryna make the guys tell….all the while they’re looking around like :shock: and thinking “I’on know whatchu talkin’ bout….

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:41 pm

slim my party was a pedicure/manicure slash finishing the wedding favors all in my grandma’s den….lol……

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:42 pm

hmmmm raqi on the outer banks too lol maybe not an island! the coast of NC is beautiful!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:42 pm

ARED – If I start paying attention to you.. I might start liking you and we dont want that.. No just kidding. I guess because you have a real love interest you have softened a bit and I like it.. Tell him I said to keep beating like you stole something because I for one appreciate it.. Yes!!!! :-)

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:44 pm

Sassy – yep…LOL!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:45 pm

Tell him I said to keep beating like you stole something because I for one appreciate it.. Yes!

:lol: Will do. :shock: :lol:

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
1:45 pm

I’ll be surprised if your wifes ring doesnt come with a magnifying glass..

See y’all slippin ’cause it would also come with a small neatly typed insert explaining the process of how diamonds are made,the thousands of years it took to form in the earth and a synopsis of the 4 c’s and what they mean..in scientific as well as lay man’s terms in italics….

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:46 pm

I mean if I were a guy and wanted to get a little new new before I tied the knot, I highly doubt i’d wait till my bachelor party to do it…especially not with some skanky wh0re. I’d probably hit up an old flame and made a whole day out of it or something..be like, hook ya boy up for old time sake :mrgreen: –don’t need an audience or hype boys egging me on. Keep it on da low

Melo

May 24th, 2010
1:48 pm

Speaking of bachelor parties, what REALLY goes on at those things

@Slim??

i dont know over here states side,but back there,typically,the back party is a day be4 the big wedding…..

so,think about it..if u take ur vows seriously,”for better or worse,till death do us part…………”..that means thats his last day/nite of freedom…..

They use their nite time wisely!

…..drinking beer.. :-)

:lol: :lol:

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:48 pm

Random thought: I know fetta cheese is good n all on this here greek salad but dayum with the crumbles spilling everywhere, I feel like i need one of those old school Red Lobster bibs…shyts going everywhere but in my mouff. :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:49 pm

See y’all slippin ’cause it would also come with a small neatly typed insert explaining the process of how diamonds are made,the thousands of years it took to form in the earth and a synopsis of the 4 c’s and what they mean..in scientific as well as lay man’s terms in italics….

OMG! :lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:50 pm

I mean if I were a guy and wanted to get a little new new before I tied the knot, I highly doubt i’d wait till my bachelor party to do it…

It’s usually one of the groom’s friends that has sex with the stripper. :lol:

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:51 pm

:lol: @ Sassy “in scientific as well as lay man’s terms in italics’

Yous a fool lol

melo – ‘They use their nite time wisely!

…..drinking beer’

um….nice try…drinking beer outta who? LOL

Jeff

May 24th, 2010
1:53 pm

One of the ways I can tell if we’re right for each other is by how YOU respond to your friends talking about and showing their rigns. Because that’s how your going to act about the ring I get you when I’m not around. One of the little trials men use to judge your true personality.

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:53 pm

‘It’s usually one of the groom’s friends that has sex with the stripper’

Ared – i guess the best man takes his job seriously…afterall, he has to try it out first to make sure it’s on point before he lets the groom hit it.

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
1:54 pm

don’t need an audience or hype boys egging me on. Keep it on da low

For real right Slim? Folks talk too much and an audience only invites bullisht n drama. To me it’s acually better when just you and the other person are the ones to know…the memories are sweeter.

Jeff

May 24th, 2010
1:54 pm

Oh and in response to the lyrics

“If I liked it that much, I would’ve put a ring on it”. Since I didn’t, well………..

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
1:55 pm

sassy LMBAO @ you honey chile! LOLOLOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
1:55 pm

Slim – Or eats out the stripper.. That seems to be a reoccuring scene.. Some Random Dude will always eat the stripper.. Yuck.. Once the Alcohol gets going jokers inhibitions go out the window.. For real sucker move if you ask me..

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:56 pm

‘To me it’s acually better when just you and the other person are the ones to know’

Sassy – yeah, cause that way the groom and one of the bridesmaids can give each other that, Yeah I tore dat azz up, look during the ceremony and no one else would know. :lol:

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
1:58 pm

One of the ways I can tell if we’re right for each other is by how YOU respond to your friends talking about and showing their rigns.

:???: Huh?…wha?

Sooo uuhh you typed that on purpose…it’s cool, do you boo boo…

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
1:59 pm

‘Or eats out the stripper’

DK – ewwwww, my lips burn just reading that. :shock: Reminds me of this show they had about Tricks & H0es on HBO…it was some old pimp looking dudes at the strip club and they had a bet on who could eat out the stripper the best. One old dude didn’t even have all his teef. Needless to say I was grossed out….then later they show the old dude hitting a stripper from the back, in one of the private rooms. LMAO!!!!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
1:59 pm

DK – The stripper doesn’t give him any cootie cat after the guy’s generousity? :lol:

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:01 pm

I was thinking more on the lines of Matira Beach.

Maybe if I start saving now I can pull that off in 5 years. LOL

Melo

May 24th, 2010
2:02 pm

IDK…

i was in my best friends wedding tho not his best man…..i remeber the bach party reall well…

we had a nite barbecue/party then went to a club there after……

i wonder what hapenend to that girl but she was the best……..talking of tore azz….yeah yeah yeah…..

and then we were doing steps at the wedding,,liqured up coz the party ended around 4.30 am….

one of the best times ever!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:02 pm

Infamous, he would have married me for free too but I made convinced him to buy a new suit. LOL

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
2:02 pm

One of the little trials men use to judge your true personality.

And yet some still can’t escape ending up bitter! After all the “observation”!

Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)

May 24th, 2010
2:03 pm

cause that way the groom and one of the bridesmaids can give each other that, Yeah I tore dat azz up, look during the ceremony and no one else would know

!!!!!!!!! SassaFrass hollering her head off…

Lady J you know what it is…chile :)

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
2:03 pm

melo – sounds like somebody was running a train that night…and i ain’t tombout Amtrack either. lol

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 24th, 2010
2:04 pm

yes ma’am sassy!!!!!

ok gang til tomorrow!

I am hitting the streets! LOL

Dan

May 24th, 2010
2:09 pm

Funny DK, funny.

No magnifying glass though, bruh. It’ll be a nice sized ring/stone combo.

no offense to anyone else, but I only plan on getting married the one time.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
2:09 pm

@Slim??

we didnt invite all the guys in the wedding…. hell naw…….

u gotta run that ship like u run the CIA….tight…coz if word gets out to the bride or worse,some of her fam pple first..the wedding is about over.

:lol: :lol:

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
2:10 pm

lawd Slim, i can hardly believe you sat through that mess. must have been gross hilarious.

depending on what channel the tv is on when i fall asleep, i have opened my groggy eyes to some frightful sights in the middle of the night.

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
2:11 pm

‘we didnt invite all the guys in the wedding’

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:11 pm

I only plan on getting married the one time.

I think that’s the plan for most people. :lol:

SexyCool13

May 24th, 2010
2:12 pm

Dan – I am sure that there are few people who actually *plan* on getting married several times unless, of course, they are practicing polygamists or arab sheiks.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:13 pm

I think that’s the plan for most people

LOL Amazon I was thinking the same thing. I don’t think too many people go into it thinking “okay this is hubby/wife number one”.

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
2:14 pm

‘i can hardly believe you sat through that mess’

cz – well I, for whatever reason, tend to watch stuff like that…even used to watch the show about the Bunny Ranch in Nevada. It just amazes me how folks do that sort of thing for a living…big, small, ugly, fugly, stank, etc….you have to give them the experience they pay for and ACT like you like it.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:15 pm

Yeah SexyCool, that would totally negate the “Until death do us part” part of the vows. LOL

Well unless when things go down hill he plans to…nah I would hope not.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
2:15 pm

LMAO @ Amazon!!

SexyC …. those are the ones that are buying a fat insurance policy before the ink dries on the marriage license.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
2:17 pm

It just amazes me how folks do that sort of thing for a living…big, small, ugly, fugly, stank, im with you on that. somewhere between admiration and facination.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:17 pm

Slim, you are talking about CatHouse.

I have woke up a couple of times to find that playing after falling asleep watching an HBO movie or series. That and pornuco…whatever it is.

SexyCool13

May 24th, 2010
2:19 pm

Speaking of insurance policies…

The tv happened to be on an episode of Snapped when TheDude turned the television on yesterday. It was a case where the lady killed her husband and it was later learned that she had $1.1mil in insurance policies on dude that no one knew about.

TheDude asked that I not take out any policies on him without him knowing about it. And said that he would do the same.

LMAO!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
2:19 pm

okay this is hubby/wife number one”.

@Dan??

i remeber Larry was being interviewd on his show by Anderson Cooper i think and he had Shawn and the kids on….and one of his lines then,when he was asked about porior marriages etc,he said.”This is it”……that was number 6……

number 7 wife is a real possibility. unless he can live with this infidelity..Wife phluckked by kids baseball coach..his bones phluccked the sister to Shawn(if there is ever such a thang as him phucking anybody at his age)

come to think of it..what did the sister admire?? :lol:

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
2:20 pm

I think that’s the plan for most people

now that was funny

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:21 pm

SexyCool, I know, right? LOL

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
2:24 pm

oh… and a bit of repulsion. i forgot to mention repulsion! LOL LOL

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
2:26 pm

Raqi, did you get a chance to watch Greys or the Private Practice finales yet?

Professor

May 24th, 2010
2:27 pm

…stepping in.

Are we still on weddings and rings?

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
2:28 pm

Raqi – yeah CatHouse…that’s it…i used to watch RealSex too. I found it interesting how folks would go to these little retreats with strangers lay on the floor and breath all over each other bucket nekkid. More often than not, the other couples would not even be attractive…but i guess it’s no different than going to a place like Trapeze.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
2:28 pm

I think to his credit,Dan is being more careful than most folks who marry….

thats a good thing.

phine boooty and cute face dont make a good wife………

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:28 pm

Please don’t spoil the Grey’s Finale for me. Watching it tonight!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
2:31 pm

Okay Amred, you and Raqita, if she hasn’t already, are going to have to go on and watch this thing, so we can DISCUSS!!LOL!!!

Professor

May 24th, 2010
2:34 pm

Melo tell us what makes a good wife or a good husband? I just knew you would add that booty and face in the mix.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:35 pm

kimmie – I know! Half my FB friends list is “hidden” cuz they were talking too much about it!

My social life has totally impacted my TV viewing…. :| :lol:

I have plans tonight but will be racing home so I can watch it before heading out again.

I also have to watch the two seasons of “True Blood” before the new season starts June 13! lol

Dan

May 24th, 2010
2:36 pm

@Ared

I do my due diligence prior to making any decision. Thus, the sharing of my life, heart, and assets is a decision to not take lightly – for me.

I can’t speak on anyone else’s motivation (ever) because I don’t really know. And to that end, neither did husbands/wives #1,2, or 6.

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
2:36 pm

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
2:36 pm

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:36 pm

Kimmie, no. It’s on my agenda for tomorrow evening. Friday after dinner we got into a Wii challenge that lasted for hours. And then I was pretty busy Saturday during the day and that evening after we went for a walk I was ready to get in the shower and then to bed. Didn’t watch yesterday because we were at the b-i-l pretty late.

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
2:37 pm

It's me....lurker

May 24th, 2010
2:38 pm

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:39 pm

I can’t speak on anyone else’s motivation (ever)

That’s nice, but it’s safe to assume that most people don’t PLAN to get divorced. The responses on this blog are evidence enough.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:40 pm

kimmie – Looks like we can schedule our discussion for Wednesday. lol

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
2:41 pm

Kimmie, it’s a discussion date for Wednesday afternoon. The little one has her first gymnastic class Wednesday morning so I will be available to give my thoughts on the shows later that afternoon.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
2:41 pm

Melo tell us what makes a good wife or a good husband?

@Proff??

no two mixes are alike…u messhing two divergent pple and personalities..what may be a good and perfectly phine hubby for u aint so for the next woman and vice versa….

the key is not to go by what Other pple like etc but what U like and are truly comfrtable with…..u have to know urself coz smetimes pple dont…

I didnt know i like bootey that much untill after i was in my first marriage! :lol: almost broke my neck while married. first time…. :lol:

:arrow: NEXT

:lol:

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
2:42 pm

off topic and geared to non atlantians living here:

have any of you had friends that moved here and then within or year or so wanted to leave and moved. What were their reasons for wanting to go?
Do you feel like you keep losing friends because the ones you make end up moving?

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

I am – One of my friends lasted 3 months here in ATL. :lol:

When I moved here, my sister, my cousin and my BFF all lived here. They all left within 6 months of me being here.

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
2:44 pm

Amred & Raqi – It’s a date!LOL!!

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
2:48 pm

amazon: I feel real sad when that happens.
its hard enough to make friends and when I do, they move :-(

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
2:48 pm

I am – Make friends with natives! We’re really kinda cool, if you can find us!LOL!!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:51 pm

I am…until I moved here, I was always the one doing the moving.

I have a good group of friends here now who aren’t going anywhere. The problem is one is married, one just got married, one lives with her man and the other is having a baby. Needless to say, they don’t have time like they used to.

So, I’m spending more time with my “fringe” friends!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
2:54 pm

I’m spending more time with my “fringe” friends

@Ared??

try and spend more time with the 2 married ones. and let ur guy tag along….

that might work just phine……in ur favor.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
2:55 pm

@DK one of my friends were still paying for her wedding after her divorce.

WOW, I had to stop there. This has never made any sense to me. Why spend all that money on the wedding if you really can’t afford it? Why borrow to finance it. I paid everything with cash. Paying for a wedding 7 yrs later, or after a divorce may make me want to shoot myself. I can’t even imagine.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:57 pm

try and spend more time with the 2 married ones. and let ur guy tag along….

melo – Good idea. We’ve done some couples things. Everyone really loves my guy so folks want him around.

The problem is…the married ones have a lot more money (seemingly) than we do. That can be awkward.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
2:58 pm

Why spend all that money on the wedding if you really can’t afford it?

My mother offered to mortgage her house for my wedding. :|

She eloped in Vegas with my dad. I’m glad she raised me with some sense, even tho it’s seems she’s lost some along the way!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:00 pm

Leggs – My mom used to say weddings are for rich folks! Not that you can’t have a nice celebration, but, like everything else, do it WITHIN YOUR MEANS! No way am I going into debt to try & impress & feed a bunch of folks that are not going to help me pay one bill! And no matter how much you spend, will still have “something to say” about everything and critique the whole affair!

Misplaced priorties

It’s why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer!

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:01 pm

@kimmie ~ I watched Grey’s, but we can’t say anything cuz Raqi hasn’t seen it yet. You guys did good not to spill anything out on the blog last week. Outstanding finale!! Pls hurry up, Ms. Raqi.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
3:02 pm

i am. i was the first to come here knowing no one at all. most of my fam and my closest friend have sinced moved here and stayed (happily!). those who have tried and given up complained first of lower salaries and also of public transportation. my peeps are generally from NYC. s/o will have lots of fam in town this weekend from socal and he plans to show them the town and try to encourage them to make the move. he anticipates most of them will be put off by the lower salaries … especially since they fall into the unskilled labor category (his assessment, not mine).

as for my kids (now 20 and 18), they both plan to bail out of atl to fla as soon as they can support themselves. they prefer sand & surf over urban jungle :)

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:03 pm

Amred/Melo – It is kind of a different world, hanging out with other committed couples. And yes, the effect on your relationship can be a very positive one. The folks we hang out with are good people – a positive vibe all the way around that is infectious!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
3:07 pm

that are not going to help me pay one bill

Kimmie, which is why we were more than okay with my brother (no wife and no kids) and brother-in-law paying for our after ceremony extravaganza. LOL Not that we could not afford to however you best believe if we had paid for it there would have been less people invited. So yeah we had a big bash but those that paid sent out the invites and put together the menu, drinks and music. We just showed up.

I don’t like a couple of the folks that showed up but as long as no craziness jumped off I was okay with them celebrating with us.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:08 pm

@ARed ~ one of societal myths is the “big wedding.” Your mother offering to mortgage her house was her way of saying if that’s what you want, that’s what she’s willing to do so you can have that. More and more women are realizing the big wedding isn’t what it’s all cracked up to be. Women need to stop concentrating on the ceremony and concentrate more on the marriage. Even if I was younger, I couldn’t rationalize spending all that money on a ceremony when I know it could be put to better, lasting use! All ceremonies come to an end, but the downpayment on a house is so much more rewarding.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:08 pm

And yes, the effect on your relationship can be a very positive one. The folks we hang out with are good people – a positive vibe all the way around that is infectious!

@Ared/Kimmie..

true dat..even when they have more money,as long as they act very mature and sensible and dont do crazzy or awkward jokes/ comments to put ur guy and u outa place.

that can be a good role model vibe kinda thang,esp to the guy so he sees marriage as not all Doom and Gloom.

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:09 pm

Everyone really loves my guy so folks want him around.

Amred – Same here. And he is a guy’s guy – other guys seem to really like him!

I’m not really used to it, I must say, but it’s nice.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
3:09 pm

czBrat, my son has told me he is not moving back here after he finishes school. Surprisingly he likes it up north.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:12 pm

And he is a guy’s guy – other guys seem to really like him!

Oh my goodness…yes. I’m getting used to the cigars, beer and dark liquor. (he keeps vodka for me tho :lol: )

Nice indeed tho, kimmie!

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
3:13 pm

Amazon: you sound like me
I used to always move.
I’ll try to make friends with natives if I can ever find any. I heard they were an urban legend.

I’ve joined a new church that seems a lot more friendly than my old church. Hopefully I can make more friends there.

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
3:13 pm

kimmie and Ared, you all know that works with having kids too. My oldest bff was joking the other day about if she was not going thru menopause now she would find some new friends. Between the 4 of us, three have babies 2 and under. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:16 pm

kimmie and Ared, you all know that works with having kids too.

Quiet lady. :lol:

The one who just got married will be trying within a year. She’s 33 and her womb is weeping. :lol:

Fortunately, the other married one in the clique is childless by choice. My idol! :lol:

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:19 pm

I’ll try to make friends with natives if I can ever find any. I heard they were an urban legend.

I am – It’s sort of an exclusive club, but we’re here! A lot have gone other places to work & moved back. All very cool people. Wouldn’t trade my “homies” for the world!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:20 pm

Any “free” events happening in the city Memorial weekend??

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
3:21 pm

if there are any natives that want to induct me into their exclusive club..hit me up

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:22 pm

Atlanta Jazz Festival, melo

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
3:23 pm

Then you better keep your guy away from those new daddies. LOL

But it’s all good because we being friends are all pretty much within the same lifestyles. Early 40’s, raising kids, liking the same type things. My oldest bff says she likes being the “auntie” of them all. LOL She does have two boys 13 and 15. But besides that she likes being the older woman of the group that will babysit for an hour or so if we need her to. But only one child at a time. LOL

As you know I am a grandmother but I hardly ever see that little rascal these days.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:23 pm

A BUSINESSMAN who promised to marry a 21-year-old woman, then took away her virginity, has been hit with a US$45,000 lawsuit for breaking the promise.

Rumbidzai Gwese is demanding US$15,000 damages from Kevin Mahlangu, 34, for a breach of a promise to marry, a further US$15,000 for sexual abuse and a similar amount for risk of being infected with HIV.

The Hwange businessman has 10 days, starting on Wednesday last week, to enter an appearance to defend with the Bulawayo High Court to avoid a default judgement against him.

The Sunday News reports that Mahlangu and Gwese met in February, with the former promising to marry the young woman who was still a virgin.

On March 5 this year, Gwese claims in her affidavit, Mahlangu asked her to go and sleep at his house.

“At the house, Mahlangu promised that he would marry me if I consented to have sexual intercourse with him,” she says.

The pair went on to have sex four times that night, and Gwese lost her virginity.

On March 13, the pair travelled to Victoria Falls and had sex on three occasions on their return to Gwese’s Baobab Hill house in Hwange, Gwese adds.

Four days later, Mahlangu went to meet Gwese’s uncle — once again allegedly promising to marry her.

Mahlangu was told that because Gwese had slept at his house twice, having sexual intercourse with him, “he was compelled to take her as his wife as he had done so before he had notified any of Gwese’s relatives”, the Sunday News reported.

Gwese moved in with Mahlangu and they had sex “day in day out as and when he felt. On all the occasions, Mahlangu had unprotected sex with Gwese,” court papers say.

The affair ended abruptly on May 13 when Mahlangu “chased Gwese away” from his house.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:25 pm

Then you better keep your guy away from those new daddies. LOL

Seriously. In addition, my 4 month old niece was visiting this weekend. They really took to each other.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:25 pm

@Melo, Jazz Festival @Piedmont Park. The following weekend is Kiss 104.1 family reunion at Stone Mountain Park with The S.O.S. Band (Free)!

Raqi...142,127,65,C,66

May 24th, 2010
3:27 pm

Amazon, that’s how it starts. LOL

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
3:27 pm

kimmie, i like that my kids are georgia peaches. they, however, consider themselves floridians.

as for associations, we have a great mix of singles and couples. i often wish i had some girlfriends my age because my sisters and bff are much older than me, and my nieces are younger. i’m in a bit of limbo when it comes to having women my age to hang out with.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
3:27 pm

yeah leggs!! looking forward to both!

JtJ

May 24th, 2010
3:29 pm

@Leggs-That’s what we just did, we just bought a new home and agreed to pull of the wedding for $5000. It can be done and will be done for $5000 or less. I have so many associates and a few family members who are still paying for their wedding years later. I used to work for RaceTrac corporate office and a girl that worked with us had a lavish destination wedding with a bridal shower at a fancy hotel. They were spending over $75K for everything and were paying for their families airline tickets and all. The girl admitted that they did not have the money and were living check to check as it was, but they were charging most of it on thier credit cards and using all of their savings.—->I totally don’t get it. Why put yourself in debt to show off to people??Why?

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:30 pm

@czB ~ making a list of things to place in my picnic basket.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:31 pm

@Leggs/Ared !!

thanx!

the kiss one is right outa my back yard. LOL

im a cheap one,like Dan!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
3:32 pm

Ok… Just had a convo with my Team Mate.. He thinks the Muslim Faith is the end of the world to be.. He is a card carrying FOX news quoting republican.. He thinks the Muslim faith is a violent one but had no response about the Christian Crusades. I finally shut him up with this.. What would Jesus do? Jesus would love them inspite of themselves. Jesus loved the Jews and they killed him.. Jesus would love a Muslim inspite of themselves.. Remember the “forgive them Father” verse… I told him if you have a relationship with your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ then you cant hate anyone.. Which is it? Do you hate them cause if you do you cant be a Christian.. Or you must be faking your Christianity because Jesus would love them inspite of themselves.. People are so funny when theyre being condescending and only look at one side of the equation.. Sorry had to get that out..

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:34 pm

Amazon, that’s how it starts. LOL

Right. :lol: He’s reminded it must “start” with a ring tho. :lol: I’m okay with procreation after that.

abc

May 24th, 2010
3:34 pm

It’s a pretty lightweight lineup at the Jazz Fest. Diane Shuur is good, but a singer — how much jazz can a singer sing? Not to diss singing too much, but, not much… Marcus Miller and Stanley Clarke are not quite jazz, really, and both bass players — limited appeal; everyone else isn’t jazz at all! WTF!!

There is no such thing as straight-ahead Jazz in this city. Par for the course I guess. It’s like folks don’t even know what jazz is anymore.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:36 pm

“…but they were charging most of it on thier credit cards and using all of their savings.—->I totally don’t get it. Why put yourself in debt to show off to people??Why?”

MY EXACT SENTIMENT. You could have pulled off the best wedding in the history of weddings, but you’re still broke at the end of the day. Is the image you’re trying to convey really worth it. Apparently, to some it is.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 24th, 2010
3:37 pm

Sorry for the inspite of themselves response so many times.. I think I finally got thru to the old Dude.. He calls Obama a Muslim which doesnt bother me because I know whats up but it trips me out that a person could only see one way and there is so much more to the equation… I think Im getting thru because he was completely quiet and that has never happened before.. Like he was really thinking about what I said.. Dang..

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:38 pm

It’s like folks don’t even know what jazz is anymore

@abc??

why dont u go play then..u the jazz purist??

abc

May 24th, 2010
3:40 pm

Hey, if there weren’t rich people throwing $100K wedding parties at their 40,000 SF mansions, I’d be coming up short of gigs. You haven’t seen wastes of money until you see the bride jump off the grotto into the pool wearing a $10K minimum gown. Followed by the entire wedding party. When the gown costs $10-20K, paying that much for the band doesn’t seem like such a big deal. Bless ‘em!

Gorgeous Green Eyes

May 24th, 2010
3:41 pm

Of course, you know I ALWAYS picked the ring out…….5 times…..If I am wearing it they knew they wanted me to be happy…because then they would be happy……:)

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
3:42 pm

and the caribbean festival/parade is this saturday, so i’ll be there too!

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:42 pm

@Melo ~ there’s a difference in being cheap and being practical…

abc

May 24th, 2010
3:43 pm

Melo, I don’t do clubs, I don’t tour anymore, I don’t have much visibility. I play regional concerts and private parties, and I’m happy with that. I haven’t even gone to the Atlanta Jazz Festival in over a decade. It’s not a jazz crowd. A bit of a dangerous scene, as I recall, an unsavory lot. Besides, if nobody wants to hear straight-ahead, as evidenced by the lineup, what would they want to have to do with me? No biggie!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:44 pm

DK – Some of these hypocrites really trip me out. You got him to thinking tho.

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
3:44 pm

peeking back in….hmmmmmmm…….sigh….lol

leggs two great live music weekends are coming up can’t wait!!!!!!!

GGE too damn funny 5 times…..geesh now that may support his theory…..lol

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
3:46 pm

AND the screen on the greens are starting next week … AND we gotta do a couple of jazz fridays at the aquarium! YAY SUMMER!!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:47 pm

THE INFAMOUS??

i hear what u say..my qstion tho is :why do the peaceful muslims get over powered and shouted down by the violent ones?? whats up with that.

how come we dont hear the peaceful muslims speak against the violent ones, like we do when folks(here) get tired of violent gang crimes.

ha??

like in some parts of africa and asia,some folks dont like america coz of imperialism and its whole foreing policy but they dont resort to violence…whats up with those muslims who do…..and how come they find(violent muslims) succor in their home environments unless america puts pressure on them??

IDK??

mytw♥cents

May 24th, 2010
3:49 pm

I know of two couples who got engaged this wknd and the brides to be seem pleased as punch with their new jewelry though they’re quite different. I’m sure as long as personality is accounted for, most ladies are pleased. The one guy said he was getting her a princess cut cuz it’s most common :( and it’s 1.25 cuz it’s what he can afford :) . By the looks of the teary eyed pics, it works for her…

If/when I’m at that juncture I’ll probably be back from the getaway spot before the memo is even sent out. I’m into the intimacy of the moment being shared with only a select few. Doubt it’d shock anyone who knows me well.

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:49 pm

Well give me the “fake” jazz then, I have no problem with it, it’s all music and entertainment and it’s FREE!

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
3:50 pm

czBrat I wanna catch jazz fridays at the aquarium…….screen on the green is thursday and that is out…..I think I am officially going to catch WWD wednesday since I am of and can get there in time for free parking….lol

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
3:50 pm

me either kimmie! lol

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:51 pm

AND the screen on the greens are starting next week …

The first movie this week…on Thursday.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:52 pm

I haven’t even gone to the Atlanta Jazz Festival in over a decade

@abc??

so in a decade,u think u STILL have ur ear to the ground as far as jazz music or u lost ur touch on whats happening out there??

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:53 pm

Well give me the “fake” jazz then, I have no problem with it, it’s all music and entertainment and it’s FREE!

:idea:

It’s true. I could not care less about jazz. If the music is good, I’m down. Love outdoor concerts.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
3:54 pm

caribbean festival/parade is this saturday, so i’ll be there too!

@czBrat??

is it raunchy or its kids friendly??

coz i wldnt want to do “strokkers in the street” with my kids in tow! :lol:

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
3:54 pm

say it again ARed….Love outdoor concerts

speaking of which I nned to hit Tuesday Morning for another basket and accessories! YAY!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
3:55 pm

Strokers. in. the. street.

melo!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
3:56 pm

question: anyone ever loved anyone that didn’t love them back?

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:57 pm

“…a pretty lightweight lineup at the Jazz Fest.” Not really jazz, jazz here sucks, etc….

@abc ~ what makes this “lightweight” is the fact that it’s FREE!!! (lol)

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
3:58 pm

if there are any natives that want to induct me into their exclusive club..hit me up

I meant that in a way if anyone is looking to expand their friend circle.
I’m looking for new friends since it seems mine keep moving out of state

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:58 pm

@kimmie ~ I see we said the same thing!

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
3:58 pm

I am – Yeah, but I didn’t let them know it!

Never let em see u sweat!

abc

May 24th, 2010
3:58 pm

Discourse on what constitutes Jazz is probably beyond the scope of the blog. But, yes, I still know what Jazz is, and what’s on the lineup at Atlanta Jazz Fest is mostly not Jazz. But, that’s okay, that’s not different from lots of venues these days.

I used to play the Atlanta Music Fest and all that, before I moved to Atlanta, in the local clubs, all that. I stopped. Getting into technology finally made it too hard to keep up with all the hours, anyway.

abc

May 24th, 2010
3:59 pm

And sure, free is my favorite brand, too! But I’ll avoid the Jazz Fest, thanks!

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
3:59 pm

@Melo ~ leave your kids home because it is strokers in the streets!

For Real (Ask the right ? and you will get the right answer)

May 24th, 2010
3:59 pm

What up blog fam!

On weddings and rangs: (Rangs) Take what I offer or do both of us a favor and don’t. (Weddings) Like I said before “The faster you get ole girl out fantasy land and into reality the better the relationship will be.” It’s starts at the wedding and it doesn’t matter who is paying for it.

Awwwwww I am don’t have any friends. Somebody hold my mule, come here I am I’ll be your friend.

DK: You have to understand with people like that it has nothing to do with religon and belief. Some people just need somebody to be mad at, blame, fight with, feel superior to etc… to justify what missing in their life. Funny thing tho, if they had Jesus in their life none of the other stuff would matter.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:00 pm

@abc ~ just called the Blog musically STUPID. LOLOLOL

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:00 pm

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:02 pm

ared someone mention that jill and maxwell concert has been cancelled…..can’t find it offically though…..hmmmmm

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
4:05 pm

@ Lady J – Wow. I hadn’t heard.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:05 pm

@Melo ~ leave your kids home because it is strokers in the streets!

@Leggs!

thanx..im hiding my Queens undies on saturday..shes going commando there! :lol:

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
4:06 pm

Melo, i see Leggs got your answer while i was away :lol:

LadyJ, lemme know if you want a link to some discounted tickets for the aquarium.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
4:06 pm

Looking forward to getting out of here. I ordered this hot little red dress for a party and I’m eager to try it on!

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
4:07 pm

I am really gonna fight melo. :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:07 pm

so then I guess I messed up by telling someone I love them.

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:07 pm

Lady J/Amred – I searched on Access Atlanta & Ticketmaster and I don’t see anything about it being cancelled! Do you remember where you heard it J?

It better not be!! :(

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:08 pm

Amred – I love trying on new clothes & shoes!

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:10 pm

@Melo do you think she will get the 45K for her cherry? I would have asked for more.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
4:10 pm

kimmie – Me too. I bought two red dresses, the one I like the least is SUPPOSED to go back.

But hell, they’re paid for now….and a Delta can never have too much red.

Help me… :lol:

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:11 pm

czBrat we can link up any time I am def interested in that function…..ladyj817@sprint.blackberry.net hit me any time….we can hook up for the highlands too honey!

kimmie and ared on of my gf mentioned it sat night that someone told her and she was trying to find it in writing……who knows….i hope not either kimmie

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:11 pm

daggit now how that whole thing link up

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:11 pm

@Czbrat..post the link unless u want to email to me…or vice versa

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
4:11 pm

so then I guess I messed up by telling someone I love them.

It’s always nice for someone to know they are loved. Tomorrow is not promised.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:11 pm

hold my mule? Seriously?

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
4:12 pm

I came back to changing clothes. Here try this on

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:14 pm

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:15 pm

Lady J I was just looking up the concert this morning, because I wanted to know the date. I told a friend I would come to his card party and I realized the concert was going on during that time. Long story short I did not see anything either.

If they cancel that show I am going to be PO’ed big time

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:15 pm

@Melo do you think she will get the 45K for her cherry?

@Proff??

she has to prove that the promise was made….

thats a hard one!

cherry??

i like that word! :lol:

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
4:16 pm

I doubt if the show was cancelled. You would definitely know by now

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:16 pm

ok professor then it is still on chicas!!!! I will be there smiling and takingit all in!

ladyj817@sprint.blackberry.net

czBrat
there we go

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:17 pm

you right dig that don’t know why she even said somethng to me anyway lol

ShallowHolly

May 24th, 2010
4:17 pm

The Maxwell show is not canceled! Phillips Areana is looking for people to pass out flyers for free tickets. They just posted it on my Facebook page…

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:18 pm

@Dig That…it better not be canceled after I just got my freak’um dress!

@Melo I knew you would appreciate that word :wink:

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:18 pm

@I am ~ your question was have you ever loved someone and they didn’t love you back. That’s a lot different than telling some you love them and they didn’t reply back (at least in my book).

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:19 pm

Where is Carlito?

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:19 pm

Dig is right, unless somebody gets sick or something at the last minute, looks like it’s still on all over the country, the concert.

ShallowHolly

May 24th, 2010
4:20 pm

Please send an email to Stefanie.Stephens@atlantaspirit.com and include Street Team in subject to get started distributing posters and flyers for the upcoming concert.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:21 pm

@Lady J??

write me here takpat78@gmail.com coz ur email is phluccked UP!! (2 bounced emails)

:lol:

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:21 pm

I am – Don’t beat yourself up over it. You took a chance. That’s life.

AmazonRed™

May 24th, 2010
4:24 pm

The Maxwell show is not canceled! Phillips Areana is looking for people to pass out flyers for free tickets.

That doesn’t sound like a good sign tho…

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:24 pm

czBrat the discount tickets for the aquarium…can you use them to get in the jazz events there? If so, I want the link :grin: Lady J, has my email addy.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:25 pm

I am – Don’t beat yourself up over it. You took a chance. That’s life.

@Ladies/Kimmie/Leggs

uall not giving I am candid advice!! :lol:

first she goes commando on ex….no bite,no luv,no tango…

then this time,she makes move on a dude….same result…..

some aint right in her camp..

why all the thirsty moves???

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
4:26 pm

I think Carlito said his workload was picking up or something last week, and that he wouldn’t be able to blog as much….i could be way wrong tho.

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:26 pm

Shallow, are you saying you GET free tickets in EXCHANGE for passing out flyers?

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:27 pm

lmbao it is something wrong with that addy dammit….but melo why you emailing me???? just asking

lets see ladyj_0817@yahoo.com czBrat and ok professor

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
4:28 pm

So wait a minute…is the Maxwell concert FREE?

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:29 pm

@Slim thanks…I miss Carlito!

@Melo is this a different she is talking about? I think we need more facts. In I am defense (not saying this is right) sometimes you move along to the next person pretty fast to try to get over the hurt the first person left you.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:29 pm

mail call everyone! :lol:

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:30 pm

daggit where is czBrat???

ok I am out mass confusion is going on…..thanks ared for confirming!

Lady J

May 24th, 2010
4:30 pm

shut up melo! LMBAO!

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:30 pm

but melo why you emailing me????

@Lady J??

oggggggh..ok….i stop! :lol:

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:31 pm

Melo – I know what you are saying, and I basically gave my take on it in response to her original question. I never say I love you first to a dude. But she’s already done it, so no use crying over spilled milk. She put herself out there with the ex and he shot her down, said he didn’t feel the same about her. She’s not a baby. If she didn’t learn from experience and put herself out there again, what more is there to say. Some folks have to learn the hard way. Sometimes you take a chance & it works. You roll the dice. Hey, what can I say?

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
4:33 pm

I’ve told someone I loved them and they didn’t say I love you back…but if you feel that way, you feel that way regardless of if they tell you back or not. I wasn’t expecting the same in return so it wasn’t that big of a deal.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:34 pm

Proff/Kimmie??

i think I am needs to get her self esteem right be4 taking any more steps with dudes…

there are guys a dime a dozen out there so no need for speed……

speed will get her more hurt ……..

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:36 pm

Melo I agree on that speed thing and dating.

@lady j check your email and let us know why melo was emailing you…lol! What if he is saying some of that stuff he say on the blog you know what I mean….lmao

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:36 pm

Melo,

The dude that is in question is the same dude (the ex)
there is a lot you don’t know so it’s only right that you would make only 1/2 assumptions
We all know what happens when you Ass sume

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:38 pm

Leggs when we were together, I would say I love you and he would say I love you too or he would say I love you and I would say love you too.

Now the response I get when I say I love you is I appreciate it.

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:38 pm

Saying I love you to someone you have romantic feelings for is a huge deal to me. Unrequited love is the worst feeling in the world.

i think I am needs to get her self esteem right be4 taking any more steps with dudes…

Melo – I agree, but we’ve talked about this on the blog until we were blue in the face. They have to decide for themselves.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:39 pm

anyway……I’m done.
It’s a wrap. I said deuces and this time I mean it when I say I’m threw.

On a postive note: It’s summer time and we all know that new dudes are out in full effect during summer :-)

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:39 pm

The dude that is in question is the same dude (the ex)

@I am..yeah,assumed coz the info was incomplete.

but it has been a long time since..u stil pining on him still??

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:40 pm

I love you

I appreciate it.!

Priceless…………..at least hes polite! :lol:

kimmie

May 24th, 2010
4:40 pm

I am – I thought you all were finished already, that he told you he found someone who better met his needs! He didn’t meet you that day when you were going to give him back his stuff!

Don’t know what to say.

I’m out gang, holla!

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:41 pm

Actually, I feel a hell of a lot better that I got some things off my chest to dude.
for me, whenever I get that way, it’s a wrap. it means that I have closed and locked a door and I will never go back to that.
My priority right now is building my friend circle and focusing on my bible. and when I say friends I mean true friends that can be my girls.

DreamsMaterialize

May 24th, 2010
4:42 pm

Hey Everyone! I hope everyone had a good Monday.

Discourse on what constitutes Jazz is probably beyond the scope of the blog.
abc substitute “Jazz” with the respective profession of any blog member, and that statement would still be true. Why not just give a few lessons on or examples of what you consider to be jazz, rather than lambaste everyone for not knowing what it is? If you don’t know, you don’t know, but you can always learn. Maybe people at the Jazz Fest actually would like to hear “real” jazz if it were presented to them. Sometimes you have to give the people something they didn’t know they liked.

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:42 pm

Well I told this guy “thank you” when he told me he loved me…after that things were never the same.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:43 pm

Kimmie, he actually told me face to face that he was sorry for his actions. At the time he presented himself very geniune because he wasn’t trying an alterior move.
I accepted his apology but I can’t be friends with him. It hurts to much.

czBrat

May 24th, 2010
4:43 pm

i’m back. melo’s right … it bounced. but i see the correction. yes prof, you can arrive before 7 and stay for the jazz & drinkypoo. i got you too melo.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:43 pm

@I am ~ honestly my first remark when I read your 4:36 was OMG!

You seem to love throwing yourself into the flame. Out of everything that has gone down why you telling dude you love him. Esp since you do, keep that stuff to yourself. His response has said it all, it’s up to you if you want to hear it. He’s not interested in you and if you let him he will chew you up and spit you out. Next you’ll be wondering what did you do let this man walk all over you. Didn’t he tell you he meant someone better for him (well, he did say it with meaner words). Walk away from this dude and lick your wounds before moving on. It has happened to all of us, sorry to say, but almost like a negative “rite of passage!”

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:45 pm

@I am I thinking getting a good support system of friends in place is good. I don’t even have to say how great it is you are focusing on the Bible as well. IMO there is something soothing and relaxing when I read the Word. Good luck to you ma…I know everything will workout.

Let me know if you need my contact info.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:45 pm

@I am ~ you’re not through. Out of everything that went down with the key and him finding someone else and basically dogging you out, you said you were done then. Take care of yourself first…you’re not ready and stop pining for this joker. I know easier said than done, but he’s done some things that it should be a little easier by now!

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
4:46 pm

What has 4 wheels and flies?

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:47 pm

thanx Czbrat!

DreamsMaterialize

May 24th, 2010
4:47 pm

What has 4 wheels and flies?
A wagon full of shyte.

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:48 pm

Thanks for the support professor. that means a lot .
I’m real excited about the new church I started going to.
The people seem more eager to meet you as opposed to other churches I have been where you are just a number.

Yesterday at church, a nice young lady introduced herself to me and her friends. I felt very welcomed!

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:48 pm

@I am sometimes you can’t be friends if the love is still there. You will set yourself up for thinking everything will get back to “normal” and the next thing you know he will be dating and saying I am we are just friends and your heart will be laid out like a chicken liver in some hot azz grease.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:48 pm

Wait, don’t you need wings to fly? (haa)

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:50 pm

Leggs/Proff??

chics like I am are the reason why some dudes hold their dycckks in such high regard and put them on pics!

look at her opining for it!?? :lol:

:lol: :lol: :lol: :???:

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:50 pm

Leggs you don’t know me like I know myself.
Please believe me when I say I’m done.
up until now, I have never wanted to kick him in the biscuits.
It’s a wrap if I want to kick you in the biscuits

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
4:50 pm

I am- Let’s face it. He got you and you are not the first and won’t be the last, you said it right tho, focus on you. This is the time to get in touch with the real you and when you find her then the right man will find you. You probably do love him and just said to see if he says I love you too boo.

Melo

May 24th, 2010
4:51 pm

Leggs..u wre right…. :lol:

its a bravado thang..i get it now! :lol:

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
4:52 pm

<–covering the biscuits. Watch them kicks I am.

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:53 pm

@ I am…I really mean it. I will probably be off the blog the next two days due to meetings and hearings, but Melo or Lady J can give you my email addy.

Take good care of yourself.

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:53 pm

@Melo ~ she isn’t opining…well, maybe she is. She’s definitlely given us her opinion. (LOL)

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
4:53 pm

Dreams – you were close….a garbage truck..LOL

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
4:54 pm

@ I am ~ of course I don’t know you like you do. Just going by what you post…it’s all good. You know what to do. But you knew then what to do! I gotch!

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
4:54 pm

Hey Professor!!!

I would like to hang if it is cool with you.
you are good peeps.

dig that: I know myself and I know what I want. Nuff said.

DreamsMaterialize

May 24th, 2010
4:55 pm

Dreams – you were close….a garbage truck..LOL
Yeah baby! So is there a prize?

Dig That

May 24th, 2010
4:57 pm

For the sake of just dropping it, OK. Yeah professor give her ur email addy. She needs a friend right now.

Professor...

May 24th, 2010
4:59 pm

@I am…anytime chas18c6@gmail.com just hit me up…

I am whatever you say I am

May 24th, 2010
5:00 pm

nite blog!!!
have a good one!

SlimOne...Single Sex in the City

May 24th, 2010
5:00 pm

Yeah, you get to drive it home….LOL!

Nitey Nite all!

Leggs

May 24th, 2010
5:01 pm

“Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt (dedicated to i am)!!

Nite!

Blondie

May 24th, 2010
5:19 pm

People, listen. Moissanite is the way to go. Men can get ladies a huge sparkly rock without breaking the bank – and even jewelers can’t tell the difference anymore. You can have your cake and a house too, lol.

Frankly, I care more about the way he proposes than anything – I want something romantic/intimate that reflects our love. But, I’m convinced that when that big relationship comes along for me – that we’ll have gone ring browsing in advance so that he knows what I like style-wise :)

Rachel

May 24th, 2010
10:35 pm

I’ve been married for six (6) years and I do not have a ring.
My husband proposed to me without a ring,
We got married without a ring.
Never wanted one. The ring doesn’t mean anything to me.
Ladies don’t get married for a RING.

lucky

May 24th, 2010
10:54 pm

My husband bought the platinum setting for a dimond that I owned for 30 years. Jeweler said it was perfect diamond(small, imperceptible occulsion!) Diamond about n.75C worth $8000.Platinum setting about $3000.It’s beautiful!!

LMaddy

May 25th, 2010
1:10 am

Most of the women I know that complain about ring size are….SINGLE. Unfortunately, it takes marriage for a woman to see that a ring is the LAST thing she should be worried about. Marriage is hard, to hell with a “big” ring! If you are worried about the ring, I can already tell that you really aren’t thinking about things clearly.