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The biggest liars

According to our friends across the pond, men are bigger liars” Men lie the most and feel less guilty about it — but women are the better liars, a British survey has found.” You have to love those  studies! Human behavior and the reason we do the things we do always plays out on the dating scene.

It’s kind of par for the course to either catch someone in a lie or tell some zinger to someone to get out of something, or um into something.  I suppose there are times when we feel justified in lying by omission, misleading people, or outright telling a very tall tale.  It’s still very wrong. Yet, somehow lies lead to more lies.

It’s actually a real issue that a lot of us face and sometimes worry about. How do you know if the person you have met and started dating is not a raging liar?

The CNN article listed the the top male lies and top female lies.  I am curious to know what are some of the craziest lies you’ve ever heard?  I’ve had men get pretty creative with their “enhancement on the truth” stories.  I could totally write a book! I think the biggest liar was the guy who claimed he had a twin brother and tried to date my college room mate and I simultaneously.  Ah, the memories!

I’m no angel though, I once told a guy that I cooked some meals that were actually catered foods.  He was one of those “she must cook” guys that I was trying to impress.  I was busted on the third time, though!

What about you? Who was your biggest liar? What are you guilty of lying about? No judgment here!

532 comments Add your comment

Professor

May 21st, 2010
8:32 am

Hola!

LOL at this topic I am going to lurk a little and I will say more later.

ClearlyCoded

May 21st, 2010
8:36 am

Ah, the lies of liars or as I call them, sociopaths. I survived a sociopath. Thankfully he will be wrecking someone else’s life.

SlimOne...keeping it 1 hunned

May 21st, 2010
8:37 am

Good morning,

Need…coffee…now. Can’t wait to see this topic heat up a little later. It’s Friday, yet it feels like it’s going to be a long day. Aye Caramba!

Professor

May 21st, 2010
8:42 am

@Slim I think it is the rain that will make this day long.

@ClearlyCoded- I am not going to touch that one, oh I lied. Was that message associated with the blog or any bloggers? :grin:

PrincessNik..I'm walkin on sunshine

May 21st, 2010
8:43 am

Good Morning Blogsville!

Off topic: i see i missed a doozy yesterday

On topic: my boyfriend from college was the biggest liar i had, lying for no d@mn reason sheesh.

As for me i would have to say i do more “lying by omission” than just outright lying. ;)

Professor

May 21st, 2010
8:45 am

Hey PK!

The ones that lie for no damn reason bothers me. My ex did that too!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:47 am

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FRIDAY TO MY FAVORITE GANG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:48 am

Chile please @ this topic too!!!!! LOL!!!!!!

SlimOne...keeping it 1 hunned

May 21st, 2010
8:51 am

‘I think it is the rain that will make this day long.’

Professor – i think you’re right.

On topic – I think the worst kind of liars are the ones who lie for No apparent reason at all. My ex didn’t tell bogus lies ALL the time, but he was a buffet liar. He told many different lies for many different reasons. It was sort of funny how whenever he’d tell a lie, his bottom lip would quiver. I was watching a documentary the other day about body language and the art of interrogation. It’s quite interesting how the body gives off signals even when a person is knowingly trying to be deceitful. I think in my next relationship, i’ll need to start having debates/arguments in a 10 x 6 room, complete with a hidden camera and a two-mirror. (i’ll do like Steve Martin in that movie Pink Panther where he played the good cop/bad cop tactic…only thing is he played both parts…LMAO)

Professor

May 21st, 2010
8:53 am

Lies and lying patterns that bothers me:

1. Lying because you have a mouth

2. Taking someone’s situation and playing lying like it happened to you. Example my ex would hear a story and he would turn around and tell it and insert himself as one of the victims/heroes in the story. Smdh

3. 30+ years old and still lying to hump

4. Lying saying that you have money, houses, cars etc. yet we all know you are “robbing Peter to pay Paul.”

5. Lying about your education. A dude from HS is always lying about his college degree the major, college and degree type is forever changing.

6. Lying about your job title and authority this one is for my office managers and customer service reps.

7. Lying about your neighborhood or street creditability…if you get scared to go to Greenbriar or 5 points I already know you didn’t do that other stuff you said.

8. Lying about who you know, and BAM the person don’t know you….

Those are just a few of the categories related to lies that gets on my nerves.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:53 am

Will a liar even admit what he or she is guilty of lying about????

Self awareness is key and and important….It is important to be true to thy ownself and the lies will become less and less when one stop lying to themselves…until then the charade games will play itself out…..telling one lie sets the way for many…..it is too much energy……experince is the best teacher though…….trust and believe my fake weeding and brief marriage released my deamons to FOREVER to be TRUE to LWJ baby!!!!!!! It is a self party journey I am loving! I have my days of finding out more about me and is like WOW sometimes but I am NOT faking the FUNK ANYMORE!!!!!

I will forever dance my happy dance to leave a marriage and not stay to save face!

Thank You Jesus!

I am whatever you say I am

May 21st, 2010
8:54 am

The biggest lies I ever told myself:

I’m okay just being friends
I’ll get over him
I don’t have feelings for him

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:55 am

dammit wedding! ha!

Professor

May 21st, 2010
8:55 am

Hey Lady J! Are you ready for the last day of school?

I am whatever you say I am

May 21st, 2010
8:55 am

Enter your comments here

Carlito

May 21st, 2010
8:55 am

I have been lied to and I have lied before, then one that hurt me most was the whole wedding debacle. The others were just part of life. It may be raining outside but I have next week off, so I feel as if the sun is shining. :)

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:56 am

I am those are the worse and hurt us the most I am praying to my Father to release those lies from my soul!!!!!

I feel ya chica!!!!!

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:57 am

Professor is the last day ready for me honey!!!!!!! The rain slowed us down and the babies aren’t as hyped so we good!!!!!

I am THANKFUL to see the END of this year!!!!!

ClearlyCoded

May 21st, 2010
8:57 am

Prof, not pointed toward bloggers or a blog specifically, just my experience with a master liar…or “lying, cheating, sociopathic trash” as I refer to him. Completely fooled me into thinking he was this wonderful, honest and decent man and turned out to be the complete opposite. Now that I can look back, I see that his fits the criteria of a true sociopath.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
8:59 am

I am~ Real talk jujst seeing your post I am forced to copy and paste what I hate to face about this dating game and add to my journal to review periodically….

Those are some truths that need to set home…..I’m wondering when i do embrace 100% what will be on the other side for me!!!!!

It is a journey though! With time!

Professor

May 21st, 2010
9:01 am

@Lady J great post as usual! YEAHHHHHH :grin: YEAH :wink: Ok I know it’s still early, but I had to do that!

@I am whatever…excellent list and you know what I have lied to myself with those before…I feel ya! Good post!

Professor

May 21st, 2010
9:04 am

@ClearlyCoded those are the worst.

@Lady J and the rest of the blog. QUESTION: What is the best way to learn to trust again after you have dealt with a lying demon liar?

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
9:07 am

YEAH PROFESSOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you know how we do chica!!!!!! If anyone was sleeping beside me last night or as I was falling to sleep I was still laughing so har from Mr. Lurker they would have thought i was OFF!!!!!! LMBAO!!!!!! He killed it yesterday!!!!!!!!

Kym

May 21st, 2010
9:08 am

Good Morning All,

I have heard them all..lying about jobs, lying about not smoking, lying about marital status,..it goes on and on. Let’s see what lie have I told in dating..guess the only one I can think of is number of partners and what I have or haven’t tried sexually.

ClearlyCoded

May 21st, 2010
9:09 am

Prof, I just don’t know the answer to that one. It has been 5 months since the bizarre and explosive ending and I am still discovering lies and putting the pieces of the puzzle together. Whether it is a blessing or a curse, “lying, cheating, sociopathic trash” did teach me those subtle and tiny things look for next time.

Professor

May 21st, 2010
9:11 am

@I am…I’ve learned not to jump into a friendship if we were in a relationship. ARED posted a quote from Judy Blume on the blog last year, it went something like this after we have loved the way we loved how can we go to holding hands. I do clean breaks, no calls, emails, text messages and I will not go to their stomping grounds and hopefully they will not visit my spots.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
9:11 am

Not sure professor….everyone deserves a clean slate….when red flags present themselves don’t ignore them or justify them…..easy said than done trust….you wanna believe the person who is persuing you is straight up and will be straight up with intentions but for me that is far from the case…it is stated after the fact of those damn lies and games…..its a dirty world and you just have to have a solid foundation to stand on to not fall for such foolishness…..I am building my wall though….some get though some don’t all my experiences make me stronger and stronger…best believe no man is getting over…..I control this ship and do what I wanna do be it right or wrong and a man can’t do nothing I won’t allow so I am in tuned……

PrincessNik..I'm walkin on sunshine

May 21st, 2010
9:12 am

Waving at Professor and Lady J :)

nice lists, professs and I am, i have so been there I am!

PrincessNik..I'm walkin on sunshine

May 21st, 2010
9:15 am

This is where I am today :mrgreen:

Just the mere thought of you
Makes me oohwee
And I, I, I, I, I, I
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh and
Every time you touch me I
I, I, I, I, I, I, I
Oh
Whoooooa so I

You make me feel so good
That I can’t put it in words
And I feel so feel so good
‘Bout you that I can’t put it in words

Kym

May 21st, 2010
9:15 am

Time heals all wounds. Including lies. We can’t hold someone accountable for the lies someone else told. Nor can we go thru life waiting for the other shoe to drop each time we meet someone new. Not all men are liars so it would be unfair to lump them in the same pot of soup. If you have been that wounded and hurt by someone who lied..then take the time to heal those wounds first..so that you don’t lash out at someone else.

Carlito

May 21st, 2010
9:15 am

Professor, I think the best way to learn is to be honest with ourselves and our patterns of behavior that attracted the scum/liars in the first place. And vow to ourselves to never fall for those lies again also not to let those previous lies to hinder our future well being. If I lie it is because I have a good reason to. :) LOL

Professor

May 21st, 2010
9:16 am

I have told a few lies in dating…I’ve lied about my dating status at times…I told the good old I am just dating when I had someone kind of special I was getting to know. For the record that was a long time ago I don’t tell that lie now.

@ClearlyCoded~ I am going to call you CC :grin: I hope your heart can heal and I know it will continue to heal as you put the pieces back together. How long did the two of you date?

@Lady J LURKER is a mess. I want to know if he is coming on the 28th because I will be in there if LURKER is there. He had me rolling and I try so hard to ignore him, but he was so funny yesterday….YEAHHHHHH :grin:

Kym

May 21st, 2010
9:17 am

To paraphase a quote from one of my favorite authors..”Not everyone deserves a front row seat in the show that is your life..some folks have to sit in the balcony.

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready

May 21st, 2010
9:18 am

waving @ my best buddy PK baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEAH!!!! ;)

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready

May 21st, 2010
9:18 am

AmazonRed™

May 21st, 2010
9:18 am

Happy Friday –

Biggest liar…by far the ex. He was all about that stuff comedians joke about… lie even when there is proof. :roll: I had confronted him on several things I knew for a FACT…and he rode that lie. Then when I had evidence it was “I couldn’t tell you then cuz…” :roll: Just disgusting.

I do think women are better liars. I am good at it when I do it. However, I have a very guilty conscience and usually end up fessing up anyway. I can’t have that stress in my system…it’s detrimental to my “sexy” :lol:

Luvbug

May 21st, 2010
9:18 am

Good list Professor.

I usually believe people are being honest at first site, so when I learn that’s not the case, I usually judge harshly. I despise liars especially since, IMO, you can usually get what you want with the truth anyway…and I’m not talking about the “I’m 5 minutes away but am actually 20 minutes away type lies” either.

Regarding people I hardly know…I definitely try to avoid developing my impression of a person based on gossip (hen talk)…and try to avoid assuming everyone is gaming or a liar…because assuming a person is a liar can be twice as dangerous as them being one. You run the risk of comparing what you assumed they were to what they actually are (not really getting to know them)…and the risk of being a complete b!tch to someone who has done nothing to you…looking crazy, hateful and having to clean up your face.

side note: Did anyone catch Parks and Recreation last night? That scene when dude’s cellphone rang and his ringtone was a gun firing…everybody ducking and whatnot…hilarious. Who the hell would think of having that type of ring on his phone? Too funny.

SlimOne...keeping it 1 hunned

May 21st, 2010
9:19 am

“What is the best way to learn to trust again after you have dealt with a lying demon liar?”

Professor – what I had to realize in dealing with the ex-liar was that it was not up to me to prove that he was trustworthy…but it was his responsibility to do what it took for me to feel he could be trusted again. No questionable behavior, no more lies, being honest etc. Once that stage is set, THEN at that point it creates an environment for me to relax and say well hey this person is actually putting forth the effort so I will meet that effort in being more trusting. However, that doesn’t mean that I will go forward blindly. You best believe anything fishy is going to automatically make me look at you sideways like, that don’t sound right.

AmazonRed™

May 21st, 2010
9:19 am

And :lol: at WiseDiva saying “no judgement here.” That’s a good lie to kick things off today! ;)

Professor

May 21st, 2010
9:21 am

@Carlito I thought you were being tardy for the party again :grin: You are right about being honest with ourselves.

@ OK, PK I hear you over there :grin:

@Lady J I am so with you on that 9:11!

Welcome to the blog ClearlyCoded aka CC

Raqi

May 21st, 2010
9:22 am

Professor, to answer your question, from my experience I had to just force myself to trust again. I had to convince myself that every man was not in fact a lying sack of sh!t. I knew I wanted to be in a relationship again and I knew I wanted a good man in my life but in order to have that I had to trust again.

The truth is all men are not the same. Neither are the women.

Luvbug

May 21st, 2010
9:22 am

Cloud 9 by Donnie

Dang, I haven’t heard this in a minute.

PrincessNik..I'm walkin on sunshine

May 21st, 2010
9:23 am

I can’t have that stress in my system…it’s detrimental to my “sexy”

:lol:

Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~

May 21st, 2010
9:24 am

Brotha Carlito you HAVE to be honest with self!!!!! Have to! You are fooling no one but you bc no one else gives a hot damn best believe that!

Carlito

May 21st, 2010
9:24 am

Professor, I would tell some stories but I try not to indulge or talk about past tryst. No sense in giving any energy to the dark past when the future is so promising and bright. :)

Raqi

May 21st, 2010
9:24 am

Let’s See…

Lies in lieu of rejection :

Told one guy that I lived in California once and that’s why it wouldn’t be worth me giving him my number

Told one guy that followed me to my apartment once that I didn’t live there but I was just staying there with a friend for a couple days

Told one guy that my brother was my boyfriend

PrincessNik..I'm walkin on sunshine

May 21st, 2010
9:24 am

Professor, Syleena Johnson did it with that song LOL

Raqi

May 21st, 2010
9:26 am

Lies to break a date:

Told one guy that I was sick all weekend when in fact I just wanted to go out with someone else

Carlito

May 21st, 2010
9:26 am

AmazonRed™

May 21st, 2010
9:26 am

QUESTION: What is the best way to learn to trust again after you have dealt with a lying demon liar?

Professor – One good thing about me is that I don’t punish the future for sins of the past. The next guy is not the last. He deserves a fair shot until he blows it. I just make sure I don’t ignore any signs.