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Have date, will travel

It’s almost summer which means ROAD TRIPS!  This is the time of year when extended weekends are oh so tempting.  There are beaches, golf resorts, casinos, spas, and many other great destinations that are a quick road trip or plane ride way.  Before you start booking those summer plans with your person or interest, you might want to think about what traveling means. Yes, overnight dates and trips are interpreted to mean something. It just does.

I met a guy only a few weeks ago and he has already suggested that we take a trip this summer together.  If we had been on more than one date, I probably wouldn’t think much of it.  I just found it sweet and endearing that he is thinking of spending time with me past next week.  At the same time, would it be good timing to travel when you just started seeing someone?

Guys, when you ask to make plans to travel, does that mean you’re interested in an overnight hook up? Do you invite a woman to events like weddings, trips with friends, etc. if you are interested in a relationship?  Do you discuss the sleeping arrangements beforehand so that she knows what to expect (or not to expect?) on the trip?

Have you ever dated someone new and took a weekend trip with them soon after you began seeing one another?  How did it go?

Ladies, if a man you just started seeing asked you to travel with him for an overnight stay or weekend get away, what would you do?

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Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
8:46 am

Good Morning Crew!!!!!

I love to travel!!!! Sure after a local rapprot has been establish why not travel……Now I must say I haven’t dated someone new and went on a short excursion soon after…..The guy I dated post my divorce we had that fling for over 3 years and we traveld hard though that time frame…….If I enter another relationship traveling would be apart…..I so want to do a romatic getaway to SanDestin Fla, a quick cheap getaway to Myrtle Beach, a short secluded getaway to Hilton Head Island…….An island getaway to Antigua Beaches…..and so on…..I want to so sports events, plays in NYC, the Outerbanks of NC and VA, just travel and bond…..Road trips can be great if done the right way………

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
8:47 am

Hey Professor!

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
8:50 am

Hola!

I remember this topic from a year ago. I believe it was Randyt that gave a list of things to consider. If we can get that list posted…just say we can be on to the next topic.

Ladies, if a man you just started seeing asked you to travel with him for an overnight stay or weekend get away, what would you do?

NO, I would not do that my parents raised me better. I don’t want to sound harsh, but this is how I feel. When I am sleeping (both eyes closed) I am vulnerable. So if I am laying up with some stranger I met at OSS two weeks ago, well that would not sit good with me.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
8:51 am

lmbao professor!

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
8:53 am

That won’t happen I don’t think professor…..mention traveling to a new dude they get quiet…..lol…..over time sure I think….

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
8:54 am

Hey Lady J!!!

I am with you I want to go to the outerbanks in NC. I guess I’ve read too much Nicolas Sparks.

I agree with Lady J traveling is good in a relationship, but there is no way I could do it with someone I just met. Call me crazy,but I will have a problem doing the #2 (yea I said it) with someone I just met sitting in the room. There is a certain level of comfort I need in a relationship before I can share my space, body and a significant amount of time with dude.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
8:58 am

My aunt owns a beach house there and have owned it for some time…..of course they are going for Memorial weekend and we are not I just want to go there with a great date…not a family trip but I digress…..lol…..one day though! It is beautiful and peaceful to say the least……I have had the opportunityof walking on the beach at sunset with someone and I want to experience it again……yeah I am dreamer! lol

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
8:59 am

@Lady J, they probably get quiet thinking (a) she thinks I am her man now, (b) she is a gold digger trying to come up on a 1K date or (c) she is crazy. LOL

Oh yea, I dated this guy very briefly he was much older, and he would always extend an invitation to me regarding future plans. He had two timeshares and he mentioned us going on a vacation together (both spots)…if he heard a concert was coming (months away) he would invite me and ask me about going when the tickets went on sale. For some reason, I was either not ready for him, or not ready for that upfront communication/action thingy. So, I took a bow.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:02 am

The former and i did Vegas together, myrtle beach, alabama, local stuff, and HHI…….yeah we traveled and the 1st trip was no more than 6 months into it…..

And me ex husband before we married we traveled for sure…..NYC and everything in between…..i am always planning a trip……lol…..

this summer my trips are with good girlfriends go figure….lol…..I will survive though…..lol

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:03 am

I agree Lady J there is nothing like a great date on a beach it changes everything. I’ll never forget sitting on these rental beach chairs (you know the stack that are chain together after hours) at night with the love of my life. We could hear the waves and it was really cool and the moon was out. Man, we chilled there for the longest sometimes talking and other times just connecting in silence.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:04 am

I feel ya Professor and yes I think travel does solidfy more and most aren’t ready for more but they sure are ready for less! LOL

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:05 am

all I can do is reminisce, my god! LOL

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:06 am

meant my not me

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:08 am

and witht the dating thing we split everything…money was never an issue or no one person was expected to pay for everything…….that is understood!

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:08 am

Lady J, I think you are going to meet someone good. With all the growing and positive changes you are doing in your life. A solid relationship is your next step I can see you blogging now…”I will talk to you guys week after next me and (insert name) will be traveling to the outerbanks.

There is something good about the moves you are making…you are ready for love and it will scoop you up soon.

PrincessNik

May 19th, 2010
9:09 am

Hey Professor, Lady J

We need to have spent some serious time together locally before we taking trips. And you best believe somebody home will have photo’s of dude in case he decide to get his crazy on! Now, that being said I’m looking forward to being able to do some quick get-aways.

Trevor0529 - 10 days until 42

May 19th, 2010
9:11 am

Good Morning All,

Lady J, like the O’Jays reference. I will post a thought later.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:11 am

Professor I am so over “She is crazy” phrase……everyone is unique and all women are ot out her stalking and doing foolish things in hopes of getting a man and just cause I mention what I like to do as time progress doesn’t make me crazy….they are just not interested in what I am selling which is cool…..lol

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:12 am

Ok sir why didn’t you respond to my question???? check your email

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:13 am

meant all women are NOT out there stalking etc…..

Mo (aka Moeisha )

May 19th, 2010
9:14 am

Morning All! I love to travel! I was just thinking yesterday of places I should go this summer. Myrtle Beach, VA Beach and Miami are some possibles so far.

On topic, I would need to have a certain comfort level to travel with someone. You are talking about going away somewhere and HAVING to be with each other and that is waaaay different than us hanging out/dating here in the A.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:14 am

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWW Professor thanks so much!!!!!!! Itruly appreciate you and thankful you are apart of my journey!!!!!! Thanks Chica!!!!!!! :)

I am all smiles now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WOOHOO!!!

Trevor0529 - 10 days until 42

May 19th, 2010
9:14 am

I will be in town June 4th.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:15 am

Mo I wanna do a girls trip to Miami!!!!!!!

I can’t wait to the Saints vs. Falcons getaway! WOOHOO!

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:15 am

cool beans thanks sir!

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:18 am

Hey PK!!!!!!!!!! You are all smiles too chica! :)

DreamsMaterialize

May 19th, 2010
9:18 am

Morning

Do you discuss the sleeping arrangements beforehand so that she knows what to expect (or not to expect?) on the trip?
If I’m at the point of asking someone on an overnight stay with me, then we’ve already been intimate, and a conversation about sleeping arrangements would not need to happen. The overnight stay WILL involve some grown up activities.

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:19 am

@Lady J, that is how we do it we split everything. With my ex he had it like that so most of the time he would pay for the hotel and car. Although I did offer to pay half, and there were times when he bought my plane ticket. However that is not the norm especially in this economy.

Also with my current we split everything, but one time he mentioned he would pay for everything if he had it like that…not sure why he said that, but I was quick to jump in to let him know I felt cool with everything

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:20 am

For some reason i wanna do panama city as a getaway too……

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:20 am

I mean really DreamsM! LOL

PrincessNik....I'm Focused Man!

May 19th, 2010
9:20 am

Lady J

You already know! :)

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:21 am

I feel ya professor but some are quick to think all of us are looking for a sponsor and that is so not the case with J baby!

I am looking to enjoy together!

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:22 am

yes ma’am I do! keep smiling! I am happy for you chica!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 19th, 2010
9:22 am

Hey Ya’ll they have some excellent specials for overseas at the moment.. Well maybe wait until the ash cloud clears but Europe is nice and my favorite place to travel.. If Im in the states.. I like California.. San Francisco area is the best but not much better than LA for me.. I enjoy renting a car and riding higway 5 as far as I can.. Its even better when youre on a motorcycle..

I like Globe Trotting and I guess a major part of it is coming home.. Love to see the trees around the airport..

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:23 am

Hey PK!!! Hey DreamsM, and I agree with you I don’t want to do the nasty…lol for the first time with my SO on a getaway.

@Lady J I agree with you on the crazy thingy…especially if traveling is your hobby and we are talking about what we like to do.

Question: I had some summer beach trips planned, however this oil spill is making me think twice. What about you guys will you still hit the beaches even with the oil and stuff or will you wait and make a decision?

PrincessNik....I'm Focused Man!

May 19th, 2010
9:26 am

Professor, just hit a beach on the east coast :) Mytrle Beach, Hilton Head, Tybee Island

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:26 am

dk I do wanna do san deigo and wine country!!!!! To be around all the chardonnay in the world!!!!!!!! I wanna do Seattle too!!!!

Watching Fraiser made me love it! LOL

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:27 am

ummmmmm the west coast beach too PK……hmmmmmm one day I hope! All I have is forever right! LMBAO I crack myself up!

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:28 am

Thanks PK I was thinking about Hilton Head, but you know I really wanted to do Destin this year :cry:

Mo (aka Moeisha )

May 19th, 2010
9:28 am

Professor – im watching on that oil spill. I love hitting the beach and that is going to totally kill it for me if I can hang out, get a tan and enjoy the beach because of this oil spill.

I do plan on traveling in the states to visit some friends I havent seen in a while, Cali, St Louis, Chicago..these are on my agenda

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:29 am

ME TOO PROFESSOR!!!!!! Destin is calling my name softly!!!!!! :( lol

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:30 am

Yep Mo the St Louis Zoo I hear is a great getaway and after listening to Common this morning on the TJMS Cuise he sold me on the Chicago thing….Commmon sounds soooooo good an soooooo fine and soooooooo smart oh my! I am fanning! LOL

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......

May 19th, 2010
9:31 am

Common that is! He is ALL that and a bag of chips buddy! lol

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:33 am

I really wanted to do Destin and we had just about button down the details, I am so glad no payments were made. Also on GMA they mentiones some tar balls had washed up in the FL Keys, but they are testing those to see if they are apart of the oil spill. You know I love driving down to the keys when I go to Miami. So I am watching this pretty close, because my stomping grounds may be in danger.

Luvbug

May 19th, 2010
9:33 am

I’d have to know the guy well before traveling with him alone overnight.

Dreams – Well dang den.

Trevor0529 - 10 days until 42

May 19th, 2010
9:33 am

I would love to travel but I never found the time to do so. I did the Bahamas last year with my family. This year, I will go to Tampa and visit my brother and his family maybe take in Clearwater Beach.

DreamsMaterialize

May 19th, 2010
9:37 am

Hey Prof. How you doing?

Mo wassup. I got some pepsis for you when you ready.

Lady J I been meaning to take a trip to the outer banks in NC, and since you got spot to stay, I volunteer to go with you. ;-) We don’t have to talk about sleeping arrangements do we?

Princess how you feeling this morning?

Professor is.....

May 19th, 2010
9:37 am

@Lady J, Chicago is a very cool city one of my favorites. I am looking to go up for the taste of Chicago. Hit me up if you want to go. I might just go in the morning and come back that night or something. I go there often just let me know. Chicago, NYC, Miami and Vegas are a few places I go several times a year.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

May 19th, 2010
9:37 am

Okay I had a friend post this on FB and had to share

Everybody has issues and stress in their lives..You’re not alone… It’s called life..God gives us strength to carry on so stop making like your life is so different from the world. Pray and keep it moving.

okay, back to the topic at hand! :smile:

Mo (aka Moeisha )

May 19th, 2010
9:38 am

Dreams – Thank ya love, gwine on and pass me one of those pepsis! They are cold right? :smile: