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Diversify your dating options?

I was hanging out with my fabulous cousin Stephanie recently. She lives here in the city but since we both travel and have crazy work schedules we don’t hang out as much as we’d like to.  We were talking about our (only) male cousins  who had married white women and how it seemed as if the family accepted them.  Stephanie turned to me and said, “Well, you know Grandmother thinks that we both are going to marry white men. She told me that once”

When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar.  For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man.  I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get.  It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did.

The Modern Day Match Maker aka Mr. Brunson recently interviewed author  Langhorne Folan about her book “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy.”  I was impressed by the points Ms. Folan raised here.  She basically described the exact challenges and expectations a woman like me could face when we consider exploring our options in dating other races.

As in the video, I also wondered if interracial dating will continue to be so controversial?  What kind of challenges will the next generation face if they decided to “diversify their dating” so to speak?

How can women find ways to meet and date men of other races without it feeling so “premeditated” and plotted out?

Ladies, if you have tried online dating, do you widen your selection criteria beyond one particular race?

Guys, do you find it difficult to diversify your dating options?  Do you find it easy to meet women with diverse backgrounds who are interested in exploring relationships with you?

470 comments Add your comment

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:27 pm

Lady J I think Trevor was referring to the june 4th meet up, not the TAzzee celebration LOL

Trevor0529 - 11 days until 42

May 18th, 2010
2:27 pm

LadyJ, Sure. here is my email address roberthaughton@comcast.net

Kym-Jack Bauer's Biggest Fan

May 18th, 2010
2:28 pm

Mark why shouldn’t black women expand their dating options?

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:28 pm

Beautiful did you see me and my page sunday evening!!!!! I had a real party chica! lol

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:28 pm

ok sir give us a few and thanks for joining us!

Melo

May 18th, 2010
2:29 pm

that I like being naked with him

@Scool??

even without going there??

paint a pic for me,of how uall females think coz i wanna know uall minds(how u think) better! :lol:

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:29 pm

girl our summer happy hour evites will be going out too the email is needed! hahaha!

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
2:30 pm

Melo – I can’t lie. We were already there.
LOL!

SlimOne...sleepy I am

May 18th, 2010
2:31 pm

SexyCool13 – sometimes it’s nice to lay skin to skin…chillin, rubbing, caressing, touching without the intent of doing the do…you’ll be surprised how much better things go when it does finally pop off. I don’t think folks spend enough time exploring all of the skin that covers all 5′6″ of (insert person’s name here) lol

Kym-Jack Bauer's Biggest Fan

May 18th, 2010
2:31 pm

I have another hour might as well feed the troll..

Mark that is what the blog is for..count to three..Now why would you break up with a black woman because she showed a interest in a white man? I mean other than she dare to be diverse..what else was wrong with her?

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
2:32 pm

We were just having several hours of leisurely fun and it was a thought that I had and a comment that I made.
I’m going to sleep well on the plane.
:)

btw – fun sex is good sex. I love that we are able to laugh while *connecting*.
(sighs)

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:32 pm

Slim one…..amen!

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
2:33 pm

SlimOne – I agree. Just spent some time exploring last night. Pulled out the massage oil and paid attention to every inch of his skin.

Melo

May 18th, 2010
2:34 pm

I can’t lie. We were already there

@Scool??

that on i can do..lying with u in bed,nekked,caressing ur back and kissing u softly on the lips, after a hard fought romp,our bellies going in and out breathing with much heff,eff. ewwwww…

Priceless!

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:35 pm

oh my….geesh…..I don’t have long! lol

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:39 pm

Lady j

are you counting down to the wknd ;) I sure am especially with friday being our last Furlough day

Lucinda

May 18th, 2010
2:40 pm

Melo that’s where the soft, barely touching, hands all over comes in…hard to not get, ah,. *together* after that

Professor

May 18th, 2010
2:40 pm

…stepping in.

@Lady J, are you talking about the Jill Scott/Maxwell concert?

@Melo…oh my :shock: :grin:

@PK I saw your list of drinks…in the country there is a “Swift” I think that is the name of the company, but they have the best fruit drinks: pineapple, watermelon, cherry, grape etc. Man I miss those sodas.

Lucinda

May 18th, 2010
2:40 pm

plus what Carlito said

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 18th, 2010
2:41 pm

Freaks!!! Well I never!

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:42 pm

Professor

Watermelon Soda?!?!

OH MY that sound refreshing LOL

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:43 pm

frankie bev and maze july 16th professor

I been had those jill/maxwell tix……..

pk i am just ready to go to start my ME day! lol

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 18th, 2010
2:44 pm

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:44 pm

Lady J

ummmm hmmmmm ;)

BlackMagicWoman

May 18th, 2010
2:45 pm

MELO….you will be an old a$$ man and die with a boner! :lol:

This is how Melo’s thoughts go….”It’s Tuesday…SEX….what do I want for lunch….SEX…these MF’ers actually want me to work at work…SEX…Queen had better have my dinner ready..SEX and she had better be “nekkid” when I finishing eating so we can have SEEEEEXXXXX! :lol:

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:45 pm

professor i am doing essence this year and will see Frankie there but it is a traditional to them here to and I really wanted to but my usual crew all bailed out and my new good friend was going and just went on to buy my tix too….I just know some good folks! my whole summer is live concerts, class and happy hour!

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:46 pm

Ya’ll a funny story

so my brother calls papa johns the other night a she/he answers the phone. my brother proceeds to ask if they deliver to his apartment complex, so the guy asks the address etc., when my brother gives him the address the guys (and i’m not lying) says Boooooy stop we aint coming out there this time of night!

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:46 pm

meant tradition

ok i am gone I am ready to be pampered!

peace!

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
2:47 pm

@Melo ! you are a riot…yes, sometimes it’s done for fresh air…we skip through the house screaming FREEDOM!

Evite has been sent.

Ok, ok, I’ll try to remember to get on FB when I get home. :lol:

Melo

May 18th, 2010
2:47 pm

Lucinda??

(where the soft, barely touching, hands all over comes in)

and a lil tap on her lips(high pitch, mwaa) as i barely touch her(like i dont care) :lol:

thanx for the heads up Lucinda!

(the things man must do to get some) :- :grin:

@Proff..Lucinda might as well pass for Asstn Proff of sexx..

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
2:49 pm

PK – LOL!
PapaJohns is the only pizza place that will deliver to my complex.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

May 18th, 2010
2:49 pm

Yeah 2:56 is the beginning of me taking you there Baba!!

Lucinda

May 18th, 2010
2:50 pm

hey Melo you know theres those surveys out there that say the more housework you do, the more you get — but you gotta play it subtly

Go to walmart, buy a bucket and mop and get busy!

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
2:50 pm

SexyC

that whole thing had me gasping for air i was laughing so hard

from the “huh-lo” to the “booooy stop”

Melo

May 18th, 2010
2:54 pm

@PrincessK??

what side of town is that??

@Lucinda..im gon send her a polite reminder! :lol:

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
2:55 pm

If anybody hears of Stevie Wonder performing anywhere in the Southeast, please let me know. TheDude really wants to go see him in concert.

Beautiful

May 18th, 2010
2:56 pm

dang!!! i miss all the meet and greets! >:o( yup, mad like a mutha.

mark

May 18th, 2010
3:02 pm

kym its cool if black women want to explore there opitions i just feel it should be with different types of brothas! not white boys (yuck!) we need to stick together and you dont see white men pursueing you ladies its you all after them. im reading the comments from the sistas on here that are down with the swirl..lol and none of them have married there white saviors!

mark

May 18th, 2010
3:04 pm

and its cool if you want to swirl of what ever you call it! but if you do just stay there and dont be fence jumping if you want a white man or if a brotha want s a white woman cool but stay with them forever. thats all im saying.

Trevor0529 - 11 days until 42

May 18th, 2010
3:05 pm

Lady J, I received email. thanks for the evite.
:)

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
3:06 pm

I’m on my 2nd icee while sitting in front of my heater!!

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
3:08 pm

mark – that’s not quite true. I’ve got one pursuing me at work now. LOL! But he gets no play because I am so feeling TheDude. However, if he had caught me at the right time, it would have been on.

Lawd geezus…I must run quickly from temptation.

Trevor0529 - 11 days until 42

May 18th, 2010
3:09 pm

Is there anyone in Blogsville who wants to write a computer program for me? I am not in the mood to write it.

Lucinda

May 18th, 2010
3:10 pm

@SexyCool TheDude wants to see Stevie? Are we dating the same person?! LOL

Kym-Jack Bauer's Biggest Fan

May 18th, 2010
3:11 pm

Wait you have no problem with black women dating white men just don’t come back? ohhh k. As for white men not pursuing black women I would beg to differ with you there dude..err..I know one white guy on here who likes dark chocolate and I know a few more just in passing who like date a diverse group. Also Mark, what exactly are we sticking together on?

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
3:12 pm

We better not be.
But just for kicks…how old is your dude?

Lucinda

May 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

@Sexy older guy, kinda short. any chance?

Melo

May 18th, 2010
3:13 pm

@BMW

barring any mishapps on I-285 a she drives home from work..its looking Up!

just received a reply to my angst email i had send her…Two Words..

WE ON

:grin:

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
3:14 pm

Naw…mine’s younger than me by five years…6′.

Lucinda

May 18th, 2010
3:14 pm

angst email

Melo you funny! but it worked huh