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Diversify your dating options?

I was hanging out with my fabulous cousin Stephanie recently. She lives here in the city but since we both travel and have crazy work schedules we don’t hang out as much as we’d like to.  We were talking about our (only) male cousins  who had married white women and how it seemed as if the family accepted them.  Stephanie turned to me and said, “Well, you know Grandmother thinks that we both are going to marry white men. She told me that once”

When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar.  For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man.  I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get.  It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did.

The Modern Day Match Maker aka Mr. Brunson recently interviewed author  Langhorne Folan about her book “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy.”  I was impressed by the points Ms. Folan raised here.  She basically described the exact challenges and expectations a woman like me could face when we consider exploring our options in dating other races.

As in the video, I also wondered if interracial dating will continue to be so controversial?  What kind of challenges will the next generation face if they decided to “diversify their dating” so to speak?

How can women find ways to meet and date men of other races without it feeling so “premeditated” and plotted out?

Ladies, if you have tried online dating, do you widen your selection criteria beyond one particular race?

Guys, do you find it difficult to diversify your dating options?  Do you find it easy to meet women with diverse backgrounds who are interested in exploring relationships with you?

470 comments Add your comment

Lady J

May 18th, 2010
1:33 pm

pk the cherry coke float in the movies with nachos! Oh boy! lol

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
1:33 pm

I have a passion for water, gatorade and wine. Pretty much the norm.

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
1:35 pm

I hate coke floats, and rootbeer floats LOL

oh the one other time i can stomach sprite is with some sherbert :)

Melo

May 18th, 2010
1:35 pm

I need 40 credits to retire and I have 25 what the hell does that mean

@means u aint earned and put in enough to retire yet. a side job might help u increase ur chances of getting to those credits early or a raise.(not rise) :lol:

u be slobing for a lil while..du u contribute to social sec at work?

Melo

May 18th, 2010
1:36 pm

Im so horny right now,im getting a headache and eye dizziness!

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
1:37 pm

Dig That

May 18th, 2010
1:40 pm

What up gang. Came right in the back door, so no clue what the topic or the original topic is but of course by now it is never the same anyway.

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
1:41 pm

WOW, didn’t think you even gave yourself a chance to get horny! Thought all you do is sex and work, sex and work! :wink:

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
1:43 pm

hey dig that!!!!!1 :)

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
1:44 pm

LMBAO Melo no our system doesn’t!!!!!!

Dig That

May 18th, 2010
1:44 pm

<–Waving at LadyJ- What it do ma?

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
1:45 pm

leggs smh laughing my A off!

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
1:47 pm

just letting it do what it do and waiting to leave the building!

Melo

May 18th, 2010
1:47 pm

@Leggs/PrincesNik??

blame it on her..she is taking a shower as i get home around 7 pm and says she was around the block jogging,comes downstairs pantyless and then goes to bed round 11.00 pm,commando and nekked but starves me,saying,”NO! tmrrw” coz she sleepy and she works up early at 5.00 am to go to wrk.

And to think that i had slipped in there commando nd nekked too,thinking i was gon get it…
:-) :evil: :shock:

Some women jus dont deserve that nurturing role…. :roll: :roll:

PrincessNik

May 18th, 2010
1:49 pm

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
1:50 pm

What is the good of experience if you don’t reflect ……hmmmmmm

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
1:51 pm

SlimOne...sleepy I am

May 18th, 2010
1:53 pm

melo – awww…poe thang…sounds tortuous. lol

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
1:55 pm

Great lesson in never “assume”…LOL!

Melo

May 18th, 2010
1:56 pm

Now its like i got a torch strapped on ma forehead coz thats all im thinking about…tonite..

Hope she delivers! :lol: i feel like a kid ’bout to get candy.. :lol:

uall see my grin and wide smile dotcha?? :lol:

SlimOne...sleepy I am

May 18th, 2010
1:57 pm

meant ‘Torturous’

LOL@ leggs

Dig That

May 18th, 2010
1:59 pm

Melo- That just ain’t right but what can you do bruh

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
1:59 pm

Definitely off topic but I am happy and want to share.

I haven’t been able to find my New Birth CD for the past 6 months. Why did I just find it in the back of my desk drawer. I am so happy I can know play “Gotta Get a Knutt” and “I Can Understand It!” Woo Hoo. I know you youngins propbably know nuffin about New Birth! :lol: :lol: :lol:

@BMW ~ you may since it was definitely a NY thang!

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:03 pm

researching it now! ha!

Melo

May 18th, 2010
2:05 pm

@Leggs??

i dont mind geting denied,esp when shes in bed with her panties on.. i know its a 50/50…

it hurts when she takes a shower first,then comes in there commando…what a man gon to think?? that u doing it for fresh air?

thats really cruel…u females dont even know how hurtful it is for a man to sleep with a hard primed wang tween his leggs..

Any other nite,i wld have asked her to just bj me and lemme jerk off,if she didnt have the stamina for a rumble in the jungle….but anyhoo….

this dawg will have its day.. tooooo toonite! :lol:

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
2:05 pm

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:05 pm

hmmmmm leggs def before my time….lol

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:06 pm

melo your the ultimate husband! lol

SlimOne...sleepy I am

May 18th, 2010
2:07 pm

“That just ain’t right but what can you do bruh’

That’s when you take matters into your own hands. :-D

Kym-Jack Bauer's Biggest Fan

May 18th, 2010
2:12 pm

Awww man Jack Bauer done messed me up. While Facebooking(is that really a word now) about 24 last night..this dude sent me a email about the show..now he wants to friend me..alright dating blogger’s ya’ll decide..should I friend this joker or not? I really hate social networking.

Beautiful

May 18th, 2010
2:12 pm

can’t! can’t! can’t! do/date white guys! nut’n against ‘em . . . loves me some Brad Pitt, but . . . gotta have the soul/swagga/chocolate brutha.

i have to admit tho. won’t turn them down if they come correct!

hey bloggers!

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
2:13 pm

If she is without panties, you get naked and hold her very close. Once your firmness rises between her legs your chances multiply.

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
2:14 pm

Kym, do not do it. :)

Is it only 2:15?

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:15 pm

hey beautiful!

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:17 pm

hmmmm kym I have met great women and men on FB good friends just like this blog….this one chic and I are doing the Frankie bev concert with her parents and another couple……..Other folks we just keep it on fb…..I love people though so it is what you like….

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:17 pm

my buddy leggs needs to accept my request lol

kym you can be my friend too if you wanna…..

Beautiful

May 18th, 2010
2:18 pm

hey Lady!

i just posted *Evelyn ‘Champagne’ King – I’m In Love* and *Milli Vanilli – Girl You know Its True* i got beat up over Milli! LOL! haters!

Melo

May 18th, 2010
2:18 pm

firmness rises between her legs your chances multiply.

@Carlito!!

thats why u my friend….sounds like a plan! :lol:

Trevor0529 - 11 days until 42

May 18th, 2010
2:19 pm

Kym, I agreee with Carlito. Keep it movin’

Dig That

May 18th, 2010
2:19 pm

@Slim- Lol literally

SexyCool13

May 18th, 2010
2:19 pm

I just told TheDude last night that I like being naked with him. :)

Kym-Jack Bauer's Biggest Fan

May 18th, 2010
2:20 pm

Sexy did you get the email.

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:21 pm

My point is kimmie….you get what you put out and I don’t do social drama….lol……the chic I am doing the concert with brought my tix on a verbal promise i will pay her back 93 bucks without thought…..lol I am good folks and yes i paid her back so it is what you make it! Of cousre we have mutual friends and we love music! lol

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:22 pm

DreamsMaterialize

May 18th, 2010
2:23 pm

tooooo toonite!
Why do I have an image of Melo playing Tony in West Side Story, singing to Maria? lol

Trevor0529 - 11 days until 42

May 18th, 2010
2:23 pm

Off topic (as if we are not already off topic): When is the happy hour meetup?

mark

May 18th, 2010
2:24 pm

i am totally againt swirling! and this is comming froma black man! i love my sistas and have never date anyone of another race and never will. i am confused when i hear women say they are expanding there datiing options what does that mean? with all the single brothas out there. i do am expanding my dating options to include black women of jamacian or african sistas. but never WHITE WOMEN ycuk my grandmother would spin in her grave if i did that.

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:24 pm

may 28th 6pm 6 Feet Under
would you like the evite sir

Lady J-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

May 18th, 2010
2:27 pm

wow the rev wright and obama tift is serious….huh

mark

May 18th, 2010
2:27 pm

i recently stopped dating a sista because she dated a white man! i know some of you will find this simple mined but its my views and i stand by them. i would love to hear from the sistas about this so please e-mail me with your views on this.

markbrown4810@yahoo.com

im really looking forward to chatting about this becuse i feel black people should only date other black people! and please dont give me that mess about you cant help who you fall in love with! because thats like a sissiy saying he was born a sissy cant happen.