Diversify your dating options?
I was hanging out with my fabulous cousin Stephanie recently. She lives here in the city but since we both travel and have crazy work schedules we don’t hang out as much as we’d like to. We were talking about our (only) male cousins who had married white women and how it seemed as if the family accepted them. Stephanie turned to me and said, “Well, you know Grandmother thinks that we both are going to marry white men. She told me that once”
When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar. For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man. I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get. It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did.
The Modern Day Match Maker aka Mr. Brunson recently interviewed author Langhorne Folan about her book “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy.” I was impressed by the points Ms. Folan raised here. She basically described the exact challenges and expectations a woman like me could face when we consider exploring our options in dating other races.
As in the video, I also wondered if interracial dating will continue to be so controversial? What kind of challenges will the next generation face if they decided to “diversify their dating” so to speak?
How can women find ways to meet and date men of other races without it feeling so “premeditated” and plotted out?
Ladies, if you have tried online dating, do you widen your selection criteria beyond one particular race?
Guys, do you find it difficult to diversify your dating options? Do you find it easy to meet women with diverse backgrounds who are interested in exploring relationships with you?
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BlackMagicWoman
May 18th, 2010
12:59 pm
SWISS…you are one crazy White Boy!
Gotta love ya man! You must keep Mrs Swiss in stitches!
Shall I call my business…” I.P. Clean”?
Carlito….I would almost think Desert Butterfly is a NY’er. We clean EVERYTHING with bleach. If you don’t smell bleach….it ain’t clean! And of course in Latino households…it a mixture of bleach and whatever scent of Fabuloso. Baby is my favoite. Can’t seem to find it here without going to GwiMexico…I mean Gwinnett!
I love Gain…it smells so good then I use the fabric softner Suavecito…don’t judge me…I grew up on it! Just like Coco Rico soda….gosh I miss bodegas!
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
12:59 pm
Professor ME too!
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:01 pm
Professor, I was getting dressed at the gym to head to work and for to days I was wondering why this guy whose locker is beside mine is smelling “soft and gay”. Today at my desk I noticed it was my t-shirt
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PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:01 pm
Fabuloso
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:01 pm
to means two
Melo
May 18th, 2010
1:01 pm
Heck I have peed for others
@Mamba!!
Daaamn…black pple in america know how to hustle fo real..is this a New York Thang..?? peeing for mula??
Kym-Jack Bauer's Biggest Fan
May 18th, 2010
1:02 pm
SexyCool..check your email.
Professor
May 18th, 2010
1:02 pm
@Sassy I would blog and pee all day…lol
@DreamsM I love the way you think
Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)
May 18th, 2010
1:02 pm
Shall I call my business…” I.P. Clean”?
!!!!!!!!!!
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:02 pm
Carlito
That is hilarious! I wonder if my ex felt the same way LOL, we would always disagree, I’m a gain person, and if i said please stop and get some detergent he would bring back tide! I was like dude if i break out from this ish!!!!
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:02 pm
PROFESSOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBAO!
SexyCool13
May 18th, 2010
1:02 pm
!!!!! (more blog hollering)
*Fresh and clean* now means *soft and gay*
You’re killing me…softly….
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:03 pm
SASSY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBAO!
Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)
May 18th, 2010
1:03 pm
I would blog and pee all day…
OKAY!?
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:03 pm
Now SEXYCOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMBAO!!!! Oh boy it is after 1pm Carlito!!!!! LOL
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:03 pm
BlackMagicWoman, she needs to tone it down a little. I have to open windows when she cleans and she has started using my favorite mug. I have to go to Wal-mart and but another before football season.
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:04 pm
@ BMW
If you don’t smell bleach….it ain’t clean!
with me its pine-sol, if you dont smell pine-sol it aint clean!
AmazonRed™ - pro black not anti white
May 18th, 2010
1:04 pm
Glad you like your job and boss, SCool! Seems like it’s never boring over there either.
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:05 pm
speaking of which maybe off topic but my SS benefit summary came sat and said I need 40 credits to retire and I have 25 what the hell does that mean….Will there be any money left when I can retire?????
lol
Sassy Me..Milk in my Koffee :-)
May 18th, 2010
1:05 pm
Y’all cracking me up…
I got a date with a treadmill….read you guys in a bit.
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:07 pm
Lady J, IF there is any SS left we won’t be entitled until we are 67
so you better get with VALIC, TIAA CREF or sombeody to suplement that TRS LOL
DreamsMaterialize
May 18th, 2010
1:07 pm
Just like Coco Rico soda….
Or Jarritos. Never liked Malta though.
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:09 pm
SexyCool and Princess, a man should not smell like flowers especially unwillingly. LOL. My detergent was “irritating” her so she went and bought that flower stuff.
My Vikings mug only comes out on days the Vikings are playing, it helps us win. Not when she wants a 32oz cup of ice water. LOL
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:09 pm
girl our county doesn’t even pay into we have fiedelty and they USE to match it……I am tiny nest egg for something later on!
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:10 pm
meant I have a tiny nest egg of some…..not much but enough to help with a house downpaynet! LOL
BlackMagicWoman
May 18th, 2010
1:10 pm
Carlito….that’s marriage for ya! But you love it don’t you? Soft & gay….coffee mug thiefin’…using Gain and over-bleachin’. Look I made a rhyme. Look at Nikki Minaj, Trina & Lil Kim I’m coming for ya!
So if Professor can Blog and pee all day..can I rhyme and pee all day? Either way we can get PAID! 
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:11 pm
Princess, I like Pine-Sol, I like to pour it in all of the toilets and just let it sit after cleaning the bathrooms. I will get mad if someone goes and uses the bathroom to soon after I have poured it in.
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:11 pm
Carlito
It wasn’t the flowery scented kind LOL I have sensitive skin and had to stick with what i knew.
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:11 pm
BOOOOO VIKINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@ Carlito!
Go Flacons!
lol
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:12 pm
Lady J
you don’t have TRS?
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:12 pm
get it BMW!!!!!! LMBAO!
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:12 pm
BlackMagicWoman, it is fun. Just let’s me know the little things that I have been selfish about that I have to give up. As long as she does not start trying to dress my dogs up I am fine. LOL
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:12 pm
yeah I do but SS I don’t think so
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:13 pm
I will explain off the blog give me a second
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:13 pm
Carlito,
Me too! First i clean em with clorox toilet gel cleaner, then drop a lil pinesol in there. that’s the smell of clean
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:19 pm
Ya’ll making me want a Nu-grape soda and some Tom’s BBQ chips
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:21 pm
try hot fires and a coke pk!!!! lmbao higher heights! LOL
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:21 pm
Lady J, VI-KINGS!!
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:24 pm
no sir! LOL
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:24 pm
Lady J
I don’t do “dark soda’s” (coke, pepsi, dr pepper etc.) heck i barely do soda at all but nothing like a Nehi Peach, or a Nu-Grape (when you can find it), Faygo Pineapple …….
Now i feel ya on the hot fries don’t forget the bacon and cheddar fries!
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:26 pm
i hear ya chica! I blame GA on the COKE I have never in my life been so addicted to something!!!!! My students even crack on me! LOL They know my routine! LOL
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:26 pm
currently kid you not drinking a sprite! LOL
AmazonRed™ - pro black not anti white
May 18th, 2010
1:27 pm
So I pass “Big Daddy’s Meats” every morning on the way to work. I’m curious about his “meats.” Anyone know anything about “Big Daddy’s?”
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:27 pm
lady j
i can’t stomach sprite unless i’m sick on my stomach, it reminds me of all the times when i was little and sick and was forced to drink sprite to “settle my tummy” YUUUUUUUUCK!!!!!
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:28 pm
Mountain Dew, is me weapon of choice.
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:29 pm
Carlito,
which one? Original? I like the Code-Red
Leggs
May 18th, 2010
1:29 pm
@BMW ~ girl, you are crazy, but I know that hustle well.
@Melo ~ peeing for others is as old as prostitution.
@im swiss – liking your business card.
@DreamsM ~ I use to love my Malta. BMW, I too miss my bodegas!
The first time I was selling my house I cleaned it with Fabulosa. They were talking about it on V103 with such praise that I went and bought some. I couldn’t read all of the directions and never knew I was suppose to dilute it. I had a comment card on the table when people came looking at my house. Came home one day and the card said “you’re house stinks.” Haven’t used it since (even though I used it full strength). Even lil leggs came out her room saying what are you using, it’s strong!!
Lady J
May 18th, 2010
1:30 pm
mountain dew sucks mello yellow too
cherry coke reg coke coke zero and diet coke! LOL
WATER too! LOL
PrincessNik
May 18th, 2010
1:32 pm
Lady J i will confess every two or three years i will indulge in a cherry coke
Carlito
May 18th, 2010
1:32 pm
Princess, I like them all but Original the best
It is the only soda I drink, when I do drink soda.