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Diversify your dating options?

I was hanging out with my fabulous cousin Stephanie recently. She lives here in the city but since we both travel and have crazy work schedules we don’t hang out as much as we’d like to.  We were talking about our (only) male cousins  who had married white women and how it seemed as if the family accepted them.  Stephanie turned to me and said, “Well, you know Grandmother thinks that we both are going to marry white men. She told me that once”

When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar.  For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man.  I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get.  It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did.

The Modern Day Match Maker aka Mr. Brunson recently interviewed author  Langhorne Folan about her book “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy.”  I was impressed by the points Ms. Folan raised here.  She basically described the exact challenges and expectations a woman like me could face when we consider exploring our options in dating other races.

As in the video, I also wondered if interracial dating will continue to be so controversial?  What kind of challenges will the next generation face if they decided to “diversify their dating” so to speak?

How can women find ways to meet and date men of other races without it feeling so “premeditated” and plotted out?

Ladies, if you have tried online dating, do you widen your selection criteria beyond one particular race?

Guys, do you find it difficult to diversify your dating options?  Do you find it easy to meet women with diverse backgrounds who are interested in exploring relationships with you?

470 comments Add your comment

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
4:17 pm

@Carlito ~ thank you very much because my next post was that she WON. All she wanted was to see your name come across her screen. You walked right into that. However, she wasn’t expecting the slap you gave her. But, she still won! You would have had better ammunition by firing blank bullets (no response)!

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
4:17 pm

BlackMagicWoman, can they tell a man’s urine from a woman’s urine. If not I will keep you in the batter’s box just in case. :)

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
4:18 pm

Leggs, You are right. LOL Hopefully I achieved that by not responding to the name calling. I was fueled after I read her response.

Melo

May 18th, 2010
4:18 pm

booty sessions planned with Queen huh?

@BMW..married with kids = sex on a diet……

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
4:20 pm

A hit dog will holla only if he feels the pain.

She shouldn’t be able to affect you anymore!!!!!!

BlackMagicWoman

May 18th, 2010
4:20 pm

Carlito…are you shure you aren’t a New Yorker? I swear you have our bluntness and I hatred of dancing around stuff! We go right toe point so we are NOT misunderstood! If your feelings are hurt….oh the hell well! Grow a pair! :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

May 18th, 2010
4:22 pm

OOPs I meant “sure” not shure….that is what I get for multi-tasking! :lol:

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
4:23 pm

Come on now BMW, that is so….

ON POINT…we played hookey on the day they taught Sugarcoating 101.

SlimOne...sleepy I am

May 18th, 2010
4:23 pm

Carlito – don’t be surprised if the urine tester asks you how long you’ve been on Birth Control. :lol:

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
4:27 pm

Leggs, I viewed her email as an attack on my union. LOL

BlackMagicWoman, if I am I going to take a swing I am trying to hit it out of the park. LOL I do not feel bad because I am actually glad I escaped without herpes, so that was just being honest.

i'm swiss

May 18th, 2010
4:31 pm

“…Our beloved SWISS…”

Awwwww… :oops: You like me! You really like me! :lol:

i'm swiss

May 18th, 2010
4:32 pm

And yes, I do love me some Mrs. [Dark Cocoa] Swiss…. ;-) :lol:

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
4:32 pm

SlimOne, I could be like a major league athlete, they have excuses for taking birth control, to mask steroids

Melo

May 18th, 2010
4:33 pm

A husband wrote the following letter for his wife and left it on the dining room table:

‘To My Dear Wife.
You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54 years old, can no longer satisfy.
I am very happy with you & I value you as a good wife.
Therefore, after reading this letter, I hope that you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18 year old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel.
Please don’t be upset – I shall be home before midnight.’

When the man came home late that night, he found the following letter on the dining room table:

‘My Dear Husband.
I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54 years old.
I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 years old.
As a math teacher, I get a chance to mix with my students. I would like to inform you that while you read this, I will be at the Marriot Hotel with Michael, one of my students.
He is young, virile, and like your secretary, is 18 years old As a successful businessman who has an excellent knowledge of Math, you will understand that although it may appear that we are in the same situation, there is one mathematical difference:
‘18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.’
Therefore, I will not be home until sometime tomorrow.

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
4:35 pm

How could you view it like that…it was an attack on you and you know it. Did she call Julia out of her name? Probably not. You just wanted to throw that final rock on the playground!

SlimOne...sleepy I am

May 18th, 2010
4:36 pm

Carlito – really? But the difference is…you aren’t a major league athlete tho…well I guess you could tell them you play overseas lol

Luvbug

May 18th, 2010
4:37 pm

BlackMagicWoman

May 18th, 2010
4:50 pm

Melo….you nut! :lol:

SWISS…yes yes….we like you! We really like you! :lol:

Carlito…you are making me think of the Hangover whe the father said, “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. Except Herpes…that sh*t will follow you home”! :lol:

Leggs

May 18th, 2010
4:59 pm

Aim high! – heard this from a young men on GMA this morning:

Don’t tell me the sky’s the limit when there’s footprints on the Moon!

Have a great evening, everyone!

Carlito

May 18th, 2010
4:59 pm

Leggs, she was talking about my “union” specifically and she did try and compare herself to Julia.

SlimOne, I’ve go hard in the paint yo! LOL

Lady J, sorry. :(