Somehow we manage to fine one another, become attracted, and then start a dating relationship. It isn’t until after we have become comfortable that we start suggesting that our partner start to make changes and vice versa.
Why are we always so excited about finding someone great, then start asking them to change into somebody else? I’ve been guilty of this myself. I had to catch myself from giving my guy a wardrobe makeover! He was dressed enough to get me, why did I suddenly make him my fashion pet project?
When you are in a relationship, do you ever get the urge to makeover your mate? Have you ever “suggested” changes? From small to huge changes, do we really have the right to ask someone to makeover their appearances, personalities, or behavior?
What do you think? Are you of the “love me or leave me alone” school of thought? Or do you think, “they are making me a better man or woman?”
When is it ok to make the change and when is it a bad idea?