A male friend of mine was lamenting about dating after his recent break up. He was in a dating relationship for six years (!) and now that he is newly single, he’s not exactly ready to mingle yet. The relationship ended badly and he had his heart broken. This, of course, leads him to believe that women can’t be trusted, least of all with his heart.
I recognize the signs already. This is the evolution of a player. This is when a woman or man has put their all into a relationship and it goes south. They look back and think that it was not worth it and start to shift their perspective about relationships or the opposite sex.
I’ve been through this phase myself, so I can relate. You simply can’t stay in Bitterville for long or you will end up being the Mayor! No good can come from moving there. How do you keep things in perspective when you have been burned?
What do you do when your split with someone has affected you negatively? How do you make sure that you get what you want in your next relationship without dragging all the bad baggage from the previous one?
I know that men and women are naturally different, but who takes a longer time to get their emotional bags unpacked? How can we learn to help each other with this so it’s a win-win for a new relationship?