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Archive for May, 2010

Misadventures In Atlanta Blog Holiday Closing

The blog is closed today. Wise Diva will be back tomorrow. Have a safe and happy Memorial Day!

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Bored at home? Do something about it!

Atlanta Yelp's Gilded Age party, The Gold Club. Photo Credit: Mike Cook

Atlanta Yelp's Gilded Age party, The Gold Club. Photo Credit: Mike Cook

When we discussed the topic of diversifying your dating options, I posed the question, how do you meet people who are a little “different” than you normally date.  Well, I think I’ve answered my own question. One word: Yelp.

Yelp.com is a website that allows people to set up profiles and review local businesses.  It’s a great way to find out what others think about places you haven’t been to.  There is also the fun social networking aspect of Yelp that makes it appealing to people who enjoy meeting new people, like I do.

From time to time, there is some fun soiree that is organized by Yelp as a way to connect people with businesses in their community.  You get to sample a little bit of everything and discover places that you may not have heard of.

Last week, Yelp held one of these soirees billed as Atlanta Yelp’s Gilded Age, at the oh so sexy Gold Club.  They truly know how to party because I walked …

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I’m with stupid

I have a thing for smart guys.  The smarter they are, the sexier they become.  It just seems to make things a lot more interesting when you are engaging in an intelligent discussion that one or both of you are passionate about.  I believe that intelligence alone can make a person increase their hotness exponentially.

I can remember a time when being a smart woman didn’t matter much to guys.  The shallow years had their fun moments but they certainly didn’t have many deep intellectual moments.  If a guy asks me what my interests are I tell them that I am a science geek with a Biotechnology masters degree.  I embrace my geekdom! It seems that as I got older the men I met and dated got less shallow, and so did I.

How important do you think it is to be intellectually matched with someone?  There is only so much stupidity one can endure before the person becomes un-hot and annoying.  How long could you last dating someone just on looks?

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What if chemistry didn’t exist?

I don’t think anyone can ever explain the chemistry that exists between two people who really desire one another.  It’s impossible to predict, understand,  or destroy – I have attempted all three.  I think so many times we get hung up on that feeling of intense desire and attraction that we forget how to put it in it’s proper place.  What is it’s proper place?

Do you let go of a wonderful person because they don’t do it for you? Do you expect the person who does it for you, to always give you that feeling of intense chemistry?  How long can that feeling possibly last before you settle into the reality of one another, instead of the “idea” of one another.

The reality is that there is much more to love and relationships then chemistry. Yet, a lot of times, we won’t let a potential romance start without it. Are we fooling ourselves?  What would happen if chemistry between two people didn’t exist. How would we determine who we truly connect with and who we shouldn’t?

If we …

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Men are like taxis?

I not ashamed to admit that I am one of the army of women who is excited about Sex and the City 2 movie. Hey, don’t judge me! My love for that show pre-dates my taking on the fun role of dating blogger.  We have the show Sex and the City to thank for my favorite dating analogy: Men are like taxis.

No, I don’t mean men are sometimes really smelly and slightly terrifying in New York. Although that one might apply too.  I am referring to the theory that when a man is ready for, or open to, the possibility of a relationship he turns his taxi light on. If you happen to be the girl that hails the taxi while the light is on, you’ve got a possibility of a great and hopefully long ride (no pun intended naughty people!). If you get in a cab with the light off, it doesn’t really matter what you do, it’s just not going to go anywhere.

So basically, this analogy is the basis of every single woman’s dating life.  How do you decide what kind of cab ride you’re on.  If it were easy …

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Put a (big?) ring on it

I’m not one of those women who dreamed about their wedding day since childhood.  I’m sure I pictured having a family at some point but weddings and engagements just didn’t seem on my radar.  I remember when one of my friends got engaged last year and she was sort of horrified at the way her then boyfriend proposed. She was even more disappointed in the size of the ring.  I found it odd because she didn’t seem the type to get hung up on this kind of thing.

How important is the ring and the proposal, though?  When you are watching the person you (hopefully!) love spill out their heart and risk the ultimate rejection, is their ring selection really an issue?    A lot of my male friends tell me that if their woman even uttered a complaint about their engagement ring, it’s going back to the store. Not sure if they have found themselves in this situation but if it happened, I think they mean it!

Ladies, would the size of an engagement ring make a difference when you know they …

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The biggest liars

According to our friends across the pond, men are bigger liars” Men lie the most and feel less guilty about it — but women are the better liars, a British survey has found.” You have to love those  studies! Human behavior and the reason we do the things we do always plays out on the dating scene.

It’s kind of par for the course to either catch someone in a lie or tell some zinger to someone to get out of something, or um into something.  I suppose there are times when we feel justified in lying by omission, misleading people, or outright telling a very tall tale.  It’s still very wrong. Yet, somehow lies lead to more lies.

It’s actually a real issue that a lot of us face and sometimes worry about. How do you know if the person you have met and started dating is not a raging liar?

The CNN article listed the the top male lies and top female lies.  I am curious to know what are some of the craziest lies you’ve ever heard?  I’ve had men get pretty creative with their …

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Too hot to handle

One thing I have learned from our Misadventures in Atlanta blog discussions is that both men and women go through the same misadventures.  The challenges may appear to be different but most of what I’ve been through, my guy friends have endured too. From disappearing acts to ambivalent and confusing behavior, both genders are guilty of it all.

I was still surprised when I got an email from a male who wondered what to do about his dating dilemma: He’s met a wonderful person he is interested in but she has a tendency to get x-rated…in conversation.  Apparently, she really, really
likes talking about all things related to bedroom activities.  When he met her months ago, she seemed pretty conservative.  It wasn’t long before she brought up the naughty topics.

What do you do when you meet someone who seems a little out of your “comfort zone”?  Are you drawn to them because they may teach you something new?  Are you turned off because they cross the line of your personal …

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Have date, will travel

It’s almost summer which means ROAD TRIPS!  This is the time of year when extended weekends are oh so tempting.  There are beaches, golf resorts, casinos, spas, and many other great destinations that are a quick road trip or plane ride way.  Before you start booking those summer plans with your person or interest, you might want to think about what traveling means. Yes, overnight dates and trips are interpreted to mean something. It just does.

I met a guy only a few weeks ago and he has already suggested that we take a trip this summer together.  If we had been on more than one date, I probably wouldn’t think much of it.  I just found it sweet and endearing that he is thinking of spending time with me past next week.  At the same time, would it be good timing to travel when you just started seeing someone?

Guys, when you ask to make plans to travel, does that mean you’re interested in an overnight hook up? Do you invite a woman to events like weddings, trips with …

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Diversify your dating options?

I was hanging out with my fabulous cousin Stephanie recently. She lives here in the city but since we both travel and have crazy work schedules we don’t hang out as much as we’d like to.  We were talking about our (only) male cousins  who had married white women and how it seemed as if the family accepted them.  Stephanie turned to me and said, “Well, you know Grandmother thinks that we both are going to marry white men. She told me that once”

When my cousins married white women it didn’t seem to cause an uproar.  For some reason, I don’t expect the same reaction if Stephanie or I decided to marry a white man.  I don’t have any proof of this, it’s just a feeling I get.  It seems that we aren’t supposed to have the same options as our cousins did.

The Modern Day Match Maker aka Mr. Brunson recently interviewed author  Langhorne Folan about her book “Don’t Bring Home a White Boy.”  I was impressed by the points Ms. Folan raised here.  She basically described the exact …

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