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Do you need better bedroom etiquette?

I can think of a couple of things a lot of people don’t feel comfortable telling their partners about their bedroom etiquette.  When it comes to being intimate, you would think that no conversation is off limits.  The reality is that some people have hang ups about sex and talking about sex with their partner.

What do you do when your partner has made a few wrong moves and you need to let them know? I think many people are oblivious to some things.  Maybe you are not showing proper etiquette to your partner and they don’t want to outright tell you about it.

For the purpose of enlightenment (that’s what we do here, right?!), what are ways to improve your “etiquette” in the bedroom?  What should you be mindful of when it comes to you and your partner?

According to your good/bad experiences, what should you do/ never do?

Even though it’s an “adult”, try your very best to keep things PG, people.  Imagine your seven-year old daughter/son/niece/nephew is reading. Talk in code!

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Carlito

April 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

Swiss, I like some hair left down there and when it’s moist it curls up and then. Well you all know what I like to do.

Trevor0529

April 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

I don’t have hair to pull :lol:

Run4Life

April 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

@Carlito. ‘Something New’ stars Shania Lathan(m). About a black girl falling in love with a white guy for the first time. A true love story.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

I actually kinda like that look, ARed…

Good. Cuz with a black woman you’ll likely see it often!

Terrell Owens had a reality show where he and his girl BFF had to share a hotel room. She put on a head scarf and he was like “what is that you’re wearing” :roll: She was like “see, now I know you’ve dated too many of those ‘exotic women’ you need to get yourself a black one.” :lol:

Dan

April 29th, 2010
1:59 pm

@melo

while I won’t go too far….

It’s supposed to be about that connection, and everyone of my senses needs to experience my partner. I love the sights, sounds, touch, etc.,etc.,etc.

i'm swiss

April 29th, 2010
1:59 pm

RE: hair pulling</em

Mrs. Swiss grabs both sides of my hair & uses it as handle bars…. :lol:

Professor

April 29th, 2010
2:00 pm

@swiss you are easy! :grin: as for the scarves I use the satin pillow cases so I don’t have to do the scarves and stuff.

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:00 pm

I used to hate when some exes thought it was okay to pull my hair. That does not feel good.

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:01 pm

Run4, not my cup of tea. Thank you though. LOL

Raqi

April 29th, 2010
2:01 pm

Carlito, what nationality is your wife? If you don’t mind me asking.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:02 pm

I used to hate when some exes thought it was okay to pull my hair. That does not feel good.

I’ve never heard of a woman pulling a man’s hair. Sounds weird.

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:02 pm

Raqi, same as I :)

i'm swiss

April 29th, 2010
2:03 pm

ARed — Mrs. Swiss & I actually both have a big collection of those paisley bandannas… She uses them to sleep in & I use them as headbands when playing tennis…. :lol:

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

AmazonRed, it happens. I can be on top and we are cheek to cheek and she grabs a handful and pulls back. Or she can be on top and decide to grab two handfuls and lean back. Not fun at all.

Lady J-Don't be cruel, I will never be that cruel to you!

April 29th, 2010
2:05 pm

I almost choked! lmbao!!!!!

i'm swiss

April 29th, 2010
2:05 pm

“I’ve never heard of a woman pulling a man’s hair. Sounds weird.”

ARed — I think it normally would only happen when she’s using the hair as a steering wheel…. numtombot? :lol:

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:05 pm

Swiss, I wear solid colored ones when shooting basketball.

Melo

April 29th, 2010
2:05 pm

grabs both sides of my hair & uses it as handle bars

@Swiss!

there,that explains it..i was looking at ur face and head on facebook the other day, and i said hmmm,there is smething about his head but I cant put my finger on it! :lol:

@Proff??

take me from the bedroom into the ocean with no problems.

so if i pull ur hair a lil,we wont have any coming off??

Raqi

April 29th, 2010
2:06 pm

Lights off? Where dey do dat at?

LOL Dan, are you saying that you do it with the lights on all the time? You are kidding right. You turn the lights on at 2am in the morning? Or do you not have female guest over during that time?

For me they don’t have to always be off, but they don’t have to always be on for him.

Having those hands slowly run all over my body like he is reading brail is just hot.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:08 pm

Thank you swiss and Carlito. :lol:

I like me a more clean shaven man. The hair is either closely cropped or not there at all. The most I can do is rub on their scalp. :lol:

SexyCool

April 29th, 2010
2:10 pm

Rock – mailbag – and yeah, I’m still laughing.

Melo

April 29th, 2010
2:12 pm

@Dan??

I wont do bright lights but dim lights is cool.Not on the head board tho.

I dont mind the lights on in the bathroom with the bathroom door slightkly closed….

Too much lighting is a mood killer for me…

besides,we married dudes hit it during the cold wee hrs(1.30 am to 3.30 am) when temps are down low and its pitch black in the bedroom…

my wang,by now with over 15 years of sleeping with a woman,pretty much can sense and smell the direction of the wet pudsy, in pitch black darkness, without us having to put the lights on. :lol:

Dan

April 29th, 2010
2:13 pm

@Raqi

11,12,1,2,3,4,5, if I can’t see, it kinda ruins the experience.

Now, I’ll go candlelight too. A nice silhouette can suffice

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:15 pm

AmazonRed, you are welcome :) I have long hair. LOL

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:15 pm

LOL Dan, are you saying that you do it with the lights on all the time? You are kidding right. You turn the lights on at 2am in the morning?

Raqi – I don’t prefer complete darkess either. I don’t have a dimmer at my house, but I do have some lamps that are very low in light that I’ll leave on. Only when I have company tho.

He has a dimmer at his house, so he always keeps the lights low. Still pretty dark, but enough to see.

You’re talking to folks who don’t have live ins tho.

I am whatever you say I am

April 29th, 2010
2:15 pm

WHAT UP BEACHES!!!!!

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:16 pm

Melo, you have been married for 15 years? That is great.

Lady J-Don't be cruel, I will never be that cruel to you!

April 29th, 2010
2:17 pm

waving @ I am!!!! what is poppin’????

Melo

April 29th, 2010
2:18 pm

11,12,1,2,3,4,5, if I can’t see, it kinda ruins the experience.

@Dan??

i know why and u dont have to feel bad about it.

when u hit too many different women and they all dont last that long in ur rotation,yeah, u gotta have lights on coz u dont know what they got! :lol:

u dont wanna be dwn on her, in the pitchiness of darkness when she’s new to u fo sho.. :lol:

u wake next morning and ur whole chin and beard area has got a lump of white hairs curtesy of the cougar u broght in last nite!

:lol: :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

April 29th, 2010
2:19 pm

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:20 pm

I have long hair. LOL

I figured as much. :lol: That with your “sleeves” I think I have a good Carlito visual. capiche?

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:20 pm

Lights on the first time. You have to do the inspection. Make sure there are no bumps or secretions. Always, worth it to look at what you are getting into. Ladies, do you do a visual inspection?

I am whatever you say I am

April 29th, 2010
2:20 pm

Melo off the chain as usual

Dan

April 29th, 2010
2:21 pm

@Melo

First, I never feel bad about anything I do; but thanks for the affirmation.

Secondly, I’ve been done with casual sex for a while, and rotattions are for (IMO) cats with something to prove. To who? For what?

But again, thanks for the validation.

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:21 pm

Amazon, I just have one sleeve :) it stops about two inches above my elbow and goes over my shoulder and chest.

Carlito

April 29th, 2010
2:22 pm

Dan, I agree.

Raqi

April 29th, 2010
2:22 pm

I don’t prefer complete darkess either

Amazon, I don’t prefer total darkness either, but when it’s already dark in the room and 1-2am in the morning and one of us wants to get some we ain’t bothering with no lights. LOL We have seen and touched each other enough over the past 9 years to know where everything on the other is located. LOL

And even before we married there were nights that we slept over to the other’s or in a hotel that it would happen the same way.

But yeah sometimes on and sometimes off.

It's me....lurker

April 29th, 2010
2:24 pm

* – I’ve never lived with a guy, so that’s why I can get past the no scarf to bed rule, for now.

Hmmph, after you drop the going rates for hair these day, you better put one on. Seriously, a longtime luva or live in gonna see a scarf from time to time. Some one that’s nu nu is getting “picture perfect” until the nu nu wears off.

It's me....lurker

April 29th, 2010
2:25 pm

Oh wait…I’m celibate so heck, scarves it is

BlackMagicWoman

April 29th, 2010
2:26 pm

CARLITO…I LOVE everything Vampire! I am a Fang Banger! :lol: True Blood, Twightlight Series, Underworld, Queen of the Damned, etc…

SWISS & Melo…yeah I am not a fan of the bald eagle look either. That is why I landscape with a landing strip! :lol:

Let’s see…I am kinda with PROFESSOR on the hair thing. I have long hair but sometimes I will wear a wig or weave just for a change of look….or because my hair needs to be done and I haven’t gotten around to it..or because after a workout it is a hot mess and I am too tired to wash it! But pulling it and getting it wet in the shower is no problem whether it is mine or not!

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:26 pm

Raqi – Like I said, I understand. But until you have a live in, it’s pretty easy to keep the lights dimmed. Doesn’t mess with my sleep personally.

Lady J-Don't be cruel, I will never be that cruel to you!

April 29th, 2010
2:26 pm

Turn off the lights and light a candle
Tonight I’m in a romantic mood, yeah

Teddy P sings it best!!!!! RIP Teddy! :)

i'm swiss

April 29th, 2010
2:26 pm

Um… okay, maybe I’m being a little insensitive here… but if you’ve gotta kill yourself, please do so without disrupting my afternoon commute. That is all. :lol:

SexyCool

April 29th, 2010
2:27 pm

It’s not pitch black in any room in my house.

Melo

April 29th, 2010
2:27 pm

Melo, you have been married for 15 years?

@Carlito!

no,but i been sleeping with her for 15 years,for the most part!

Dan

April 29th, 2010
2:27 pm

@Raqi

I’m with Ared, been awhile since I’ve actually slept next to woman.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:28 pm

Seriously, a longtime luva or live in gonna see a scarf from time to time.

lurker – Um duh. That is the whole point of the disclaimer at the end. Until I get to that point, no scarves tho.

Not into weaves, so I probably won’t ever care what the going rate for hair is.

Raqi

April 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

Dan, I was just having fun with you dude. I get it.

AmazonRed™

April 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

I’m with Ared, been awhile since I’ve actually slept next to woman.

Dan – I wasn’t saying that tho. We still gets our sleep. Especially with work the next day! :lol:

Leggs

April 29th, 2010
2:31 pm

Hello, LadyJ!