Do you need better bedroom etiquette?
I can think of a couple of things a lot of people don’t feel comfortable telling their partners about their bedroom etiquette. When it comes to being intimate, you would think that no conversation is off limits. The reality is that some people have hang ups about sex and talking about sex with their partner.
What do you do when your partner has made a few wrong moves and you need to let them know? I think many people are oblivious to some things. Maybe you are not showing proper etiquette to your partner and they don’t want to outright tell you about it.
For the purpose of enlightenment (that’s what we do here, right?!), what are ways to improve your “etiquette” in the bedroom? What should you be mindful of when it comes to you and your partner?
According to your good/bad experiences, what should you do/ never do?
Even though it’s an “adult”, try your very best to keep things PG, people. Imagine your seven-year old daughter/son/niece/nephew is reading. Talk in code!
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AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2010
10:13 am
But he gets so excited that he only thinks of himself and is ready to go in after five minutes
This has happened to me. Problematic. Even a bigger problem is that during foreplay, he didn’t automatically reach for “protective gear.” I had to remind him to do that.
After the second time this happened, he was served his walking papers. Are you kidding me?!
SexyCool
April 29th, 2010
10:14 am
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand by the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:15 am
lol ared!
It's me....lurker
April 29th, 2010
10:15 am
Run4 – yeah how old? Cause experienced grown men learn stamina and can go as long as you can take it.
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:17 am
mqew attentive is a great key word!!!!!! good post!
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:18 am
lol lurker I like romance! It’s a winner! lol how are you chica???
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:22 am
“…the guy who got u in the playoffs aint good enough anymore…”
No… the guy who is on the verge of blowing a 1st round series against a less talented team, missing their leading scorer & best inside presence. The guy who can’t seem to get consistent effort on defense or design a single offensive set aside from iso-Joe. That guy is not good enough….
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 29th, 2010
10:22 am
Run4 – yeah how old?
Helloooo….
It's me....lurker
April 29th, 2010
10:22 am
Lady J – just dandy this morning…how are you today?
SexyCool
April 29th, 2010
10:23 am
Oddly enough, I have nothing to add to today’s conversation. I think all of what I would have said has been expressed already.
But I do want to take a moment to express appreciation and wonderment and pure joy at being blessed with an awesome person in my life. I love him for all the ways that he is perfect for me. I am covering him with prayer right now because he’s dealing with a really tough time at work. I am praying his strength. And asking for the wisdom to know what to say and how to support. And patience to hold my peace and be silent when need be.
Kym--I hope you dance.
April 29th, 2010
10:24 am
@SexyCool I always get so weepy when I hear it. I played it for my son..because I told him that it was apart of my prayer for his life. Also, today I feel like dancing..I went to bed dancing..woke up the same way.
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:24 am
Swiss, I am really trying to find a local team to support since I live here now. It is very hard. NFL, Vikings. MLB, Twins NBA was up for grabs Timberwolves or Hawks. The Hawks are making it hard.
SexyCool, no hyperlink today? I read your personal blog when you do those
Run4life, Why are you even entertaining him still if he is not meeting your needs, it sounds as if the relationship is purely physical. Also, is it hard to put someone in the friend zone that you have been with or is that code to just “letting him go slowly”?
Dreams, you always have to be ready to call an “audible” on moments notice once you recognize a different “defense”
LOL
Ladies, do you prefer the man to put protection on himself or do you like to do it by being creative? What am I talking about, I am not using protection anymore.
LOL
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:25 am
cool…..I’m in chill mode…
Melo
April 29th, 2010
10:25 am
On topic!!
By bedroom etiquette i thoght WD was talking about some other things,like u know some women wld rather u the man take the panties off and not them ladies?? hygiene,cleaning up..etc
Slimone,u know about that??
they will not take that lil thang off coz theyre waiting for u to slide it down by the index finger?? 
Others,well not ….by the time u follow that woman in the sheets,she alread oozing…..better if its winter…??
In summer, and its blazing hot?? hell naw.
Just a tad wet and no sloppy wet on the outside.
And ladies,keep a towel handy on the side of the bed..some of uall need to wipe every now and then coz daaam it!!….just a lil bit of tap tap and hard jiggle in and out of there will have u running like a river,spoiling and wtting the whole sheets… keep that sloppyiness down there in check….i hate those mangrove swamps!
Keep the hair down there trim..laaawwwwwd.Some of uall need a refresher etiquette course for sho.How u gonna be all nekked and showing off when ur nether region is looking all black and thickety like the Amazon??
A Man will ridk their wang all torn up by the time they are finished.
And i aint coming down there unless i really saw u coming outta the shower.I dont wanna meet some wild bats and thorny cactus down there! Freshen up and douse it with some nice scent if u need a good lyck down!
Keep the sheets clean please..must be obvious but it gotta be said!…
And say it if its getting kinda painful and dry down there…sometimes i cant get off in time so we gotta extend the play.
EXTRA TIME!!
So open ur mouf and say how u feeling!
I like some jazz or classical playing in the background and some wiff of fresh air blowing our azzes..either u keep the window a lil open or let the fan blow on low!
After I give u a good serving,u clean up daddy be4 u go ahead to clean urself.
If thats the “Taking care” Raqi was talking about,then we str8!
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2010
10:25 am
lol ared!
Then I started preaching black women and AIDS statistics to him! I didn’t even have to get to the pregnancy stats!
SexyCool
April 29th, 2010
10:26 am
Kym – I’m sitting at my desk listening to it right now.
Dance, babygirl, dance like no one’s watching.
SexyCool
April 29th, 2010
10:27 am
Carlito – didn’t write it yet.
Gimme a minute.
I’ll put something together.
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:27 am
carlito i prefer he does it…..
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 29th, 2010
10:28 am
dude, you stoopid
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:28 am
I know you did Ared! you went OFF and that was it!!!! OVER!!!! LOL
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:28 am
SexyCool, prayer works and he answers them.
The best gift you can give is prayer even though we do not always realize that. I will pray a prayer of covering for you man as well. 
(I’m sure the man upstairs will know who I am talking about when I say SexyCool’s Boyfriend LOL)
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:29 am
Carlito — You could try UGA men’s tennis or UGA women’s gymnastics.
‘Bout the only consistent winners around these parts…
AmazonRed™
April 29th, 2010
10:29 am
One thing he told me after we passed that stage of just wanting to ravish each at every available moment
Raqi – So that stage ends huh?
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:31 am
The herpes statistics are enough for condom stocks to sky rocket. How do people just even think about using nothing?
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:32 am
Swiss, I will pass. LOL
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:33 am
Swiss, how are their baseball teams?
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:34 am
Come on rude boy, boy
Can you get it up
Come here rude boy, boy
Is you big enough
Take it, take it
Baby, baby
Take it, take it
Love me, love me
sex does not equal love—–visual reminder for an emotional lover as myself…it is a physical act….
SexyCool
April 29th, 2010
10:36 am
Thanks, Carlito.
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:36 am
“Swiss, how are their baseball teams?”
This year, they suck. Tech generally has good baseball, at least in the regular season. But they are the masters of the tourney choke. UGA baseball generally has a really good year, followed by a horrible year, followed by a really good year, then another disaster, and so on…
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:38 am
C’mon, now Carlito — the tennis is pretty fun. Particularly the years when the NCAA championships are held in Athens. You haven’t lived until you’ve watched a tennis match with 6000 barking adults…
Not kidding about the barking, BTW…
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:39 am
Lady J, I wish Chris Brown career would have sky rocketed after the incident and Rihanna;s would have just died down. Her singing voice just perturbs me. LOL
Run4Life
April 29th, 2010
10:39 am
I don’t think it is the age thing because I’ve experienced this when I was in college, then married, and now divorced. It is not his stamina; he could go on for a long time if I allowed it. I have to tell him to finish up because I know that I will never ‘get there with him”. Just how I’m made. My friend is 43. He is a great guy….intelligent, fun, good looking, compromising, etc. But he likes what he likes (smile), and he just gets happy to see me. (smile)
SlimOne killed the wicked witch
April 29th, 2010
10:40 am
“Oh, and watching game film is always helpful”
@Dreams – yeah, watched some last night…I would like to see more chicks ‘arriving’ on film. Seems all the guys have all the fun.
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:40 am
I agree Carlito!!!!! I wish him the best! but J loves that song!!!!!! LOL
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:40 am
Swiss, I’ve seen the biggest arguments over collegiate sports down here. Is it that serious or is it the Pro-Level teams are that bad?
SexyCool
April 29th, 2010
10:41 am
Anything is possible.
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:42 am
run4life too cute!!!!! glad you are intuned to it!!!!!
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:43 am
“Swiss, I’ve seen the biggest arguments over collegiate sports down here. Is it that serious or is it the Pro-Level teams are that bad?”
Both. People take college football, especially, very, very seriously down here. I’m among them (huge Georgia fan). Plus, you have to remember that pro sports have really only been here for 1 generation, and during most of that time the teams have sucked — so the following for pro sports hasn’t developed as much as in some other cities.
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:45 am
SexyCool, You’ve go to know that you know that you know
Swiss, got it.
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:45 am
swiss I just got into it and I will admit i am a bandwagon roll tide fan and love Fla State and Ga Tech…..that is about it! LOL
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:45 am
“…I would like to see more chicks ‘arriving’ on film…”
I got you, Slim… Let me just dip into my library here…. Ah, here we go: Slip ‘N Slide: A Squirter’s Paradise. Enjoy!
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:46 am
Lady J, have you seen the Whitney Videos in London?
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:48 am
disappointed I really love Whitney and often lift her up in prayer! She is one of my favorites through it all….I never through a stone @ her we all go through…..lol
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:48 am
LadyJ — Bammer? And the Trade School?
You are dead to me.
j/k
SlimOne killed the wicked witch
April 29th, 2010
10:48 am
i’m swiss – preciate cha homie…but why is the cover sticky?
lol (I’m not sure I believe in that whole super soaker squirt me down thing) Seems like they are just p!ssing if you ask me
Kym--I hope you dance.
April 29th, 2010
10:48 am
@Carlito..she sounds a mess..the europe promoter said she is smoking(I hope cigarettes).
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:50 am
man when they tried to compare which is better jennifer hudson or Whitney….it is no comparisson to me….Whitney had it hands down! She is Classic but her flaws will make everyone forget that!
i'm swiss
April 29th, 2010
10:50 am
“…Seems like they are just p!ssing if you ask me…”
Wha…? What’s that? Oh, I’ve got the R. Kelley video too, if you’re into that….
Carlito
April 29th, 2010
10:51 am
Kym, IMO she needs to save whatever dignity she has left and pull herself from the tour.
Lady J-Let's do the unthinkable-I'm Ready~
April 29th, 2010
10:51 am
swiss I know!!!!!