Dating interrupted: Why women need male friends
I have a small group of male friends that I consider like brothers. I’ve known them long enough to trust their judgment and definitely listen to their advice on dating! I don’t always like what they say, and I definitely don’t always love the way they say it. These guys mean well but they aren’t real big on tact. It’s pretty straight, no chaser kind of feedback I get from them.
When I asked one of them to go to the Nightline Face-Off debate earlier this month, I somehow got a dating lecture. Vince didn’t understand why I needed to go to any debate/forum about relationships. He seemed to think that a lot of women (read: me) sabotage our own chances with potential matches because we don’t like being happy.
I, of course don’t agree and prepared an impressive rebuttal with evidence of my concerted efforts to get coupled up. He counter argues (he’s finishing law school, a clear advantage over me) with my line up past of seedy characters and bad selections.
In my defense, I truly believe that I haven’t had major dating misadventures in the last three years. At the same time, Vince made me wonder about the little things I subconsciously do that probably are counterproductive. Such as having a crazy busy schedule and not making time for the time-worthy men I meet.
This is why it is good to have boy “space” friends. Ladies, they call you on your stuff when you need it. They do not sugarcoat no matter how much you threaten them using blackmail. Do you have people in your life who you trust to give you sage advice? I don’t just mean dating advice, but self-improvement in general? How did you come to trust this person so much?
Who do you seek out when you aren’t able to recognize the bad dating habits that are interrupting your dating life? I recall dating a man that literally had no close friends. At the time, I found it really odd but I think men are totally different in that they don’t require the same friendship connections that women do. What do you think?
Guys, do you have little to no male friends you consider your to be in your “inner circle”? Is it pretty common for a man to have no close friends? How healthy can that be emotionally? Or do you guys even think of that kind of thing?
One disclaimer about having boy “space” friends: Do not. I repeat. Do NOT ask them about sex. Men bring a totally new meaning to the phrase TMI (too much information) on that topic.
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kinderbabe--19 days and counting! woohoo!
April 28th, 2010
8:11 am
definitely will just be reading today. never been a strong believer in male confidants….have a great day everyone!:)
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:20 am
Good Morning Good People!!!!!!!
You are right Diva!!!!1 I have a close group of guy friends and they are late 30s to mid 40s and they tell it like it is……I too ask my big brotha about the Nightline dating issues and he laughed it off saying we aren’t intimadated by no successful single black woman….that was the extent of the convo….This guy has been in every phase of my life….As I was dealing with my seperation/divorce he was there giving real life advice and even kept it real saying I got married for the wrong reasons and have to know deal with the bed I laid…..That was about 5 years ago and it rocked me that he was right….never judge me but always give great advice…..I remember him giving good advice also about my trip to Vegas last year with an ex boyfriend…….He explained why dude was going even though we were over and how my behavior up to that point could make him change his mind…..It is great to have a solid male perspective when dealing with relationships….It keeps me grounded and shows me my errors and shortcomings with hopes of doing better…..I was with that guy last evening for HH and as a dude tried to talk to me after I gave every indication I wasn’t interested I just grab my big brotha’s arm and stood behind his back and my brotha told dude hey what’s up and the other dude got lost……He protects me and truly cares and it is the best male platonic relationship I ever had in my life!!!!! Nothing but respect for his wisdom and him embracing me for who I am!!!!!! LOL
Jeff
April 28th, 2010
8:38 am
Having close male friends? Why do you think YOUR definition of close should apply to our relationships with our friends?
My experience has been that women are actually the ones who go into too graphic of detail about bedroom issues, not the guys.
Guys convo: “did you get it?” “yeah”, “cool”. “Catch that move Kobe made last night at the end of the game?”
Women: “so he leaned over….and then he…..and then I….and you know what a babies arm is shaped like right……but the skin tone was a little off…..and then he….” for an HOUR.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:39 am
on the flipside I interact with his lady friends and some even seek me out to get invited to certain functions……I also respect him by letting him know…he is my friend first….I too give my spill on his dealings and he listens to my POV….This chic he is dealing with now is simple to me bc as she was there sunday for the cook out and last evening for happy hour she kept rolling her eyes and when I left and said bye to each person that heiffer just looked at me….so I feel some woman have issues with male/women relationship….A insecurity flaw at best bc 1st and farmost you should respect your mates friends if you are going to hang around…..she don’t have to like me but being pleasent with hello, good-bye and not looking sideways shouldn’t be the case with a good and grown woman…….I don’t want him we just have a close bond through it all……..she’s the only one out of 6 years that is acting like this…..
the crew is planning a Tailgate getaway for the Falcon’s/Saints game in NO for late September….it is plenty men and woman apart of this crew….This will be my 1st getaway with many male friends and female counterparts….I think we are going to have a blast……Go Falcons!!!!!!!!
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
8:40 am
Do you have people in your life who you trust to give you sage advice? I don’t just mean dating advice, but self-improvement in general? How did you come to trust this person so much?
Yes, my brother/best friend. We talk about EVERYTHING (and Diva you are so right about TMI on the sex issue.) We call each other on all the BS, i know if i want it told to me exactly how it is with no sugarcoating then my brother is the one to do it. He will say you aren’t gonna like what i’m about to say, or you may not want to hear this but………and I do him the same way. We don’t always listen to what the other says and end up having to say you were right i should have listened. I don’t have many “close” female friends, females have proven to be to “messy” for my tastes. I do have friends i hang out with, but confide in not really
Good Morning!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:40 am
jeff too funny!!!!!! LMAO!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:41 am
hey PK!!!!
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
8:43 am
hey Lady J, Hey KB
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:44 am
you are right PK…….Over time and losing some close female friends over mess I deal with many at a far not all the time but I do have them….It is a healthy balance to embrace both……experience has taught me to love from afar and it is ok….lol
When I am hitting the street I hit my crew up before I dial a chic….lol……sometimes they ask too many questions and it works my nerves…you either down or not and men can be clear cut most times with locations and happenings….
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
8:46 am
Good Morning Everyone!
Being a guy and at the same cost, being cut from a different cloth altogether, no I don’t have a close inner circle or group of friends. I do, have a few girl *space* friends that I consider sisters to me, blood couldn’t make us any closer, but I don’t have a lot of male friends, because it seems guys these days ain’t made like they used to be. I’m from old school & old fashioned upbringing so my thoughts and views differ from a lot of guys i work with or have known for a while. We may be cool, but I can’t bear the thought of having to be around them while they’re calling women out of their name, making cat calls, always talking about money & seldom about the Lord, betraying one another (trying to take another dude’s girl & such foolishnesss), the whole M.O.E/M.O.B. attitude…..I just figure myself way more mature than I am for my age, so what good will it do me to have close friendships with guys who are less mature? Exactly.
But the women in my life (what a blessing they are) are so much more on my level in terms of maturity and how they handle themselves and their business. We use each other because they know the reasons I don’t associate with males, so they know I can put them up on game & vice versa when it comes to dating advice. Of course their opinions aren’t always to my liking, but I wouldn’t have it any other way because its the God honest truth.
Yes, a lot of women that I have dated think it’s weird or odd that I don’t have any male friends, but when they learn more about me and how I handle biz they slowly, but surely realize why. and @WD, yes guys can be explicit on the sex details, but so can women believe me lol actually I thought it was men who were more like “Did you hit?” Yea “Cool.” and women who were like “Girl, What Happened?” Well, blah blah blah & blah blah blah & whoop whoop whoop “Girl, no he didn’t!?!? What else?” lmao!
CMS
April 28th, 2010
8:46 am
I have one platonic female friend and that’s because she has my back like my blood sister. Besides that no female friends that would actually fulfill the fullest sense of the word.
Now I got one main homeboy, ace, runnin partna that gives me good advice on a number of different things besides women. Plus I have my brother who I can be totally transparent with. We’ll call eachother out on anything. This past Saturday we met up at our mom’s house. He had a big smile on his face as I brought my son with me…I looked inside his mouth and before saying hello I told him, “You need to go to the dentist!”
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
8:50 am
Hola!
Yes, I have my male friends, and I will say this they are wonderful “Never would have made it without them” (singing in my Marvin Sapp voice). Although they call me on my BS, set me str8, get in my behind, they love me no matter what, and most of all they are my biggest cheerleaders. I love those guys! (Most are family cousins and my brother and a long term friend).
My male friends are in categories like the rest of my life they fall in different compartments…I have one that I discuss business/career moves with he is the best, another one I discuss family issues with and the other one mainly relationships…two of them I discuss anything with. Even with my friends I know their strengths and weaknesses so I tend to lean on certain ones when I have certain problems.
Hey Princess and Lady J
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
8:54 am
My male friends are in categories like the rest of my life they fall in different compartments…
@Prof – Same here. I find this true with a lot of my girl *space* friends (thanks WD lol)
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
8:55 am
@4G you know what you made some good points. I was talking with an associate a few weeks ago about my circle is not big at all. I don’t do BS. Yep, I will call you out, but if I have to call you out too many times I know we cannot hang. Although I have GF I don’t run in a pack. I will stop through for a birthday dinner or a girls day at the movies or something, but that is it. I get tired of hearing certain stuff. My theme is this whether male or female you need to be bringing value to my life…point blank period.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
April 28th, 2010
8:56 am
Lady J – girl whats the deal on that tailgate?? I may have to crash……lol
My BFF is a guy and I do have a few male friends as well that I am tight with. Like Lady J, I can always count on them to give it to me straight no chaser. I appreciate it and thats not to say I dont appreciate my female counterparts but sometimes I want a POV from a man’s perspective. I feel that I have a great balance.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:56 am
Hey Professor!!!!!! Your like a big sistah to me and I appreciate it!!!!
Have a great day too!!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
April 28th, 2010
8:56 am
Professor – ^5 on your post chica, how are you
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
8:57 am
Mo meet us in New Orleans Sept 26th!!!!! I can’t wait!!!!!!!! you know you are always welcome to the local tailgate spots!!!!!!
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
8:58 am
hola Profesora!
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
8:59 am
Disclaimer this is only my experience and opinion
I have noticed that my male friends are most honest in their advice it seems like it is coming from the heart more. Also I like the fact that they use fewer words, the communication is clear and concise. On the other hand sometimes my female friends will sit on the fence with me and the advice is a little in the middle. I know my female friends love me and want the best for me, but I feel it is more difficult for them to take a position in their advice. IMO
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:01 am
you right about fewer words…….so tot the point and moving on to the next convo….lol
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:03 am
My theme is this whether male or female you need to be bringing value to my life…point blank period
@Prof – Amen to that one! Mi thinks I need to quote on fb for that one lol Simple statement, but sooooo true
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:04 am
Mo how are your interactions with his female friends???
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:04 am
good one professor!
look @ good guy updating his status!!!! LOL Good morning sir! lol
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
9:06 am
@Lady J, no I am looking up to you! You are doing it and it is amazing watching you take off…much love and respect to you!
@Mo it is going well. How is little Mo? I might have to meet you and Lady J in NO I could use some seafood and a hurricane. Y’all know I am a Falcon’s fan for life.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:09 am
Thanks Professor!!!!
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:09 am
@Lady J – I rarely do update it, but when I do believe me it’s gotta be for something good lol
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
9:09 am
@4G I had to pop my collar when you said you was going to update your status. lol
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:11 am
@Prof – Pop away miss, pop away lol
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:12 am
I feel ya good guy!!!!! I use my fb as a personal wisdom page too….I have my settings where no one can write on my wall but me….So I only do positive updates and get positve feedback……it works for me!
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
9:13 am
On the record: Lady J, 4G is about to make me pull out the Kool-aid smile…you know I am smiling hard.
Off the record: The honey and cinnamon Teddy Grahams are good these chocolate ones are nasty.
kinderbabe--19 days and counting! woohoo!
April 28th, 2010
9:14 am
hey lady j, mo, professor and princess nik. hope all is well.:) i am a little sleepy over here…lol
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:14 am
I won’t disclose what I ate this morning! LOL! I have to do better! LOL
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:15 am
KB wake up chica!!!!!!! I will give you some of my energy…..lololol!!!!!!!
Lucinda
April 28th, 2010
9:16 am
Wish I had some close male friends.
Trying to figure out what’s going on with the current (potential) man. Needs a man’s perspective. Potential seems interested, then drops outta sight, but sends clever emails almost every day.
Imma thinking another lady holds more interest for him and i’m the fall back?
Mo (aka Moeisha )
April 28th, 2010
9:16 am
Professor – Lil Mo is getting his baseball on right now, preparing for Pre-k graduation and a birthday! Busy lil kid! LOL! All is well though.
Lady J – I so didnt forget about tennis but I had to hit another hook-up, I’ll keep you posted. As for my BFF and his female friends, Ive never had a problem with any of them. Now his soon-to-be ex wife thought I couldnt stand her but that wasnt true. I had no problem with her, I just didnt like THEM (as in together) and its sad to say that they are divorcing so I may have been right! People just have to be mature about it.
Okay and yeah, may have to make that trip to the NO, hurricanes, beignets and some good ole n’awlins food would hit the spot!!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
April 28th, 2010
9:18 am
Hey KB, how are you? You sound like my sister with the countdown! Speaking of….
Hey sis, I know you are lurking, c’mon and join the party!! :0)
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:19 am
I have my settings where no one can write on my wall but me….So I only do positive updates and get positve feedback……it works for me!
@Lady J – lol! now why didn’t I think of that? sound like a good way to permanently delete all the negativity
@Prof – dang, you brought that one back I haven’t had Teddy Grahams in forever! lol yea the chocolate ones are poo
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:19 am
cool mo keep me posted bc lil mama does want to play tennis………..I dig your assessment too….you are a good friend to him….heck yall been friends many years!!!!! hope he sustains the break up…..
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
9:20 am
I had no problem with her, I just didnt like THEM (as in together)
@MO, this is the issue I have with my brothers choices of women so far
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:20 am
good guy I try to maximize everything in my life for the good……lol….use it to your benefit FB doesn’t control me i control it! LOL
kinderbabe--19 days and counting! woohoo!
April 28th, 2010
9:22 am
@LadyJ…sure, i can use some of your energy. you have plenty to spare!! lol
@Mo…i can’t wait til school is done!! this has been a VERY challenging year. ready to see it come to a close.
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:23 am
good guy I try to maximize everything in my life for the good……lol….use it to your benefit FB doesn’t control me i control it! LOL
@Lady J – In the words of my good friend Derwin Davis….”That’s Wassup!” lol
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
9:23 am
“I recall dating a man that literally had no close friends. At the time, I found it really odd but I think men are totally different in that they don’t require the same friendship connections that women do.”
Men are definitely totally different in this regard, and I think it’s actually illustrative of how men & women approach all relationships differently.
Example: The dude that I consider my oldest & closest friend (known the guy since 2nd grade) I haven’t seen since my wedding day & have only spoken to on a handful of occasions, despite the fact that we both live in ATL (albeit on opposite sides of town). We haven’t had a falling out. And we both know that if either of us really needed anything, the other is the first person we could call. We’ve just both been busy with our own lives & haven’t really had time to catch up in a while. And that’s okay.
Now, imagine if we were chics. I guarantee you somebody would have her feelings hurt by now and somebody would long ago have called the other a trifling bytch….
Guys just don’t read as much into things. We actually let things go. You ladies should try it sometime, it’s actually kind of nice…
Now where’s my vest?
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:23 am
Thanks Good Guy! Thumbs Up to you too!!!!!
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
9:24 am
I used to have a lot more close male friends than female ones. Once they got into serious or marriage situations, I (they or we) created a distance. I can talk via phone or see them every now and then. I weave in and out of female circles now. It’s a challenge. I miss my male friends, but (IMO) it’s not practical to have them when they are attached.
Even with my closest friends, I have always been iron clad in my convos about my relationships when I’m in one. After I’m out, I tell a little more.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a go-to person for relationship advice. I have friends who are vocal about love and life in general. I listen and filter. That’s about it nowadays b/c I find, these days, that some people’s circumstances don’t line up with their choices. Just b/c you’re in a good situation does not mean you should give advice…especially if your history doesn’t reflect good decision making. Some folks should lay low on advice and be thankful that they’ve been blessed with a good outcome…despite themselves. Actually (IMO) all people should (especially me)…what’s that called grace? A lot of times thank you is the best phrase (advice) ever!!
Lucinda
April 28th, 2010
9:25 am
open to suggestions here
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
9:25 am
Am I the only one that don’t really like FB? I had a former coworker that moved back to the west coast…her dad did a tv series in the 90s, who sent a request to connect. Well, I’m so not “up to date” savvy that I didn’t know I had to create a profile. I did it because she asked but I felt so exposed, didn’t want folks reading about me, not even my birthday. Anyway, I shut that thing down. I skeptical about professional connections but I will do that. Anything personal and on the internet? No way.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
9:25 am
I’ve heard that the kind of relationships you maintain with you parents affect your real life relationships.
for example i was a BIG TIME daddy’s girl and as a result I relate better with males than i do with females. I am much more at ease with being Nik when i’m with the fellas.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
April 28th, 2010
9:25 am
Lady J – he sseems to be fine with it, he was the one who filed. I did ask him if he was really sure, if he had done/taken all he could and when he said yes I said ok Im with you then. He was definitely with me through my divorce and he is Lil Mo’s godfather so he really looked out. Plus he lives round da corner, lol! (Oh and he’s a SC State bulldog too! :0) ) We have been friends since the age of 13 so yeah, its been a minute!
Princess – Most of his other choices were okay with me, I could see what he likes about them. I saw what he liked about wifey too HOWEVER there were some things about her that just didnt mesh and I KNEW she wasnt a good fit in the long run. As a person she was cool, never had an issue with her. Having gone through a divorce myself though….lets just say she wasnt ready to get married (may have WANTED to be married but wasnt READY to be married)
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:25 am
lol kb!!!!!! that is nothing new lol even on my worse day I find some store energy and still be poppin’!!!! LOL I must say though I am rested…this past weekend was the best restful weekend and I need it…..my child was the best nap date ever! LOL Professor that was to you! LMAO!
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
9:26 am
my typing reads backwards this morning…
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
9:26 am
@It’s me….lurker
i don’t do fb either, even though my brother is forever saying please set up a profile so folks will stop asking me about you.
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:27 am
Guys just don’t read as much into things. We actually let things go
@swiss – hit the nail on the head with that one
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:27 am
Lucinda I support your assessment that gut feeling doesn’t lie for the most part but you do need a male perspective…..ok guys what is your take….
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
9:27 am
What a coinkidink sort of kinda….I just sent an “I forgive you” message to this dude that my best best best friend yesterday. I feel relieved and like a ton of bricks have been lifted. I didn’t do it to rekindle or even step back into the friendship, I did it to free myself…lol But as it relates to the topic, yeah men are good to have as friends because who can tell you better about a man than a man himself? Women can only speculate to some degree but a man can hit it dead on.
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
9:28 am
PrincessNik – too much exposure for you? FB?
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
9:29 am
@Mo I’m feeling ya, we are on the same page. There was only one girlfriend my brother had that i just did not like as a person but we didn’t mesh before they started dating so…I mean my brother and i lived like 3 minutes apart and they lived together and if i said i’m coming over she was ghost when i got there, then she started trippin i wanted to get at her so bad but out of respect for my brother i didn’t. The rest of them have been cool peeps but just not what my brother has expressed to me he is looking for and/or what he needs in his life. you know “in the meantime” type chicks.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:29 am
lurker lol fb isn’t a monster….it is what you make it…..you can be out there and negative and in the mix the wrong way or you can stand for something and have character…the delete button is powerful and your page is your virtual playgorund you control it……it works fine for me……lol
Good Guy Getting Greater (4G) - betta den ur 3G
April 28th, 2010
9:30 am
@lurker – i feel you, but you can adjust your privacy settings to your liking therefore no one will see ur bday or any other information that you wouldn’t like out there. but yea it is sort of a hassel. fb ain’t for everybody. actually the phone is quite as useful to me, but people are so busy nowaday. gotta find someway to keep up.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
9:30 am
It’s me….lurker
yep, too much exposure. I keep in touch with the people i want to already, and if my brother mentions someone that i would like to re-connect with then i do
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:32 am
lol @ pk and lurker!!!!! LOL!!!!! Glad I have yall on this forum!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
April 28th, 2010
9:35 am
I have no problem with FB, it has allowed me to get in touch with folk that I havent seen in forever and really had no way to get in touch with. I dont live and die by it but it has been useful
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
9:37 am
positivity is the theme! Lean with it, Rock with it!!!!!! LOL
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
9:43 am
Hey Kinderbabe…time is going by fast…only 19 days. Do you want to trade jobs?
@Mo-Awwww Lil’ Mo is graduating I bet he is too cute.
@4G I love me some Teddy Grahams I found a good deal on a variety pack and now I am stuck with these chocolate things. The funny thing is I hate throwing food away because people always get on me for doing that saying folks are starving. At the same, time I hate given folks stuff that I don’t want or like, so I guess I will use them to feed the birds or something.
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
9:45 am
Good Morning all,
This is my first post to the blog. I have been reading it on a daily basis because I am getting ready to jump into the dating scene very soon.
@Lucinda, you could be the fall back chick. He needs to be upfront with you about what his intentions are.
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
9:45 am
Lady J & GGGG(4G) – I hear you guys but I dunno, I can google someone and bam right there..what’s the first thing to pop up? FB…not a resume or something of the sort…FB Not knocking those that dig it, just too much exposure for me.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
9:47 am
I truly believe that I haven’t had major dating misadventures in the last three years
WD??
SO why only last 3 years?? Is that the only time u have been a grown UP woman??
@Lucinda??
ur gut feeling is absoultely on the money!
He is busy with some other cootie and sending u email everyday takes what? 5 seconds! Thats all the time u will get!
@LuvBug??
I have always been iron clad in my convos about my relationships when I’m in one.
I know! I sensed that?? why?
@Swiss!
yeah, u right.When we are cppled up especially,that becomes our universe.I have friends but their uselfulnesss really is now a lil different than when i was a bach.And i dont drink beer like that so hanging out?? NO! Not that much unless im having issues at home that i want to confide in with a friend.
SINGLES!
If u are too busy To date anybody due to ur job schedule,ur job is ur priority,nothing wrong with that but dont expect a different result on the men side.
Its absoutely imperative to have somebody to defer to when it comes to relationships and i dont count single friends as such on that level. I wld rather u have an uncle or big brother or auntie or big married sister.Somebody u respect ofcourse and who has seen it and done that.
Not any other beyaaoth thats getting it and thinks they know..hell NAW!
Good morning!
kinderbabe--19 days and counting! woohoo!
April 28th, 2010
9:49 am
@professor…it sure is going by fast. i am very grateful.:) i’m not sure if i wanna trade jobs though…lol. you work at a university, right?
as far as FB goes, like LadyJ and others said, it’s what you make it. if you have a messy drama filled life, it will follow you EVERYwhere including FB. if you have a peaceful life…well, you get the point.:)
abc
April 28th, 2010
9:49 am
If you think that men don’t form very strong bonds with each other, and if you don’t have much of a clue about men that you have romantic interest in, what makes you think you have a good idea of where your so-called male friends’ heads are at? Why would they be such good friends with you, if they’re not inclined to make good friends with anyone?
I’d say you make more of it that it warrants. I don’t mind telling female friends the truth about whatever BS they’re into, but it isn’t out of some kind of ultra-sincere friendship or bonding with them. I just shake my head and tell them how stupid they’re being. I’d be the same with pretty much anyone.
Kym--waiting on spring.
April 28th, 2010
9:50 am
Good Morning All,
I have had quite a few male friends like this. They all knew how to reign me in..when I was going overboard(Not for the faint of heart) And I have a few friends now I trust with my life and to give me the 411 when I am way out there. I have a few good male friends who if I want to know what bs is being thrown at me they can give it to me straight–no chaser– and all in the sprirt of love. For this I am truly grateful. As for FB..I enjoy checking it..I reconnected with some high school classmates..find old friends..and made some great new ones. Now if I can just get them to stop copying me on farmville and sorority life..and I had to give up mafia wars..seriously I was not doing enough jobs to make any real cash…LMAO!!
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
9:52 am
@Lucinda, I am female, but I will say this I think your assessment is correct. Don’t get me wrong I love words and beautiful emails and naughty text messages by the right person. However I want to see some action. Sometimes you have to put a lid on it if someone is texting or emailing all day while the “boss” is not looking, however at 5 o’clock they get ghost. To me that is a red flag. At times I have, (a) told them I get the feeling you are not shooting str8 with me because of (the reason listed above), or (b) I will send a quick message telling them I do not like using email and texting as a primary form of communications and wish them luck in their future endeavors and K.I.M.
Wondering
April 28th, 2010
9:52 am
I havent read since last week but did that trick that calls herself cough sexyleggs run Carlito off, she really had some nerve.
abc
April 28th, 2010
9:53 am
Facebook is a loser’s playground. That so many participate in it simply shows what a large volume of Internet addicted losers there are.
As if I want to catch up people from high school or something. What for? That’s crazy… a kid told me some time ago that he didn’t understand the value of reunions, because everybody puts it all out there on Facebook anyway, so why bother? Point taken. What a bunch of losers.
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
9:54 am
Three Words Daily – Believe in yourself.
Timeless
April 28th, 2010
9:56 am
Professor @8:59. I have also had the same experience. Men tend to give straightforward advice while women tend to be more concerned with political correctness first.
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
10:00 am
@Trevor0529 Welcome to the blog!
Wassup Melo!
Kinderbabe yep.
As for the FB, I have seen the good and the bad. The good thing is I’ve never had any problems with my FB account or friends. Like Lady J if I am not writing something positive on the wall that will motivate and encourage others I don’t write. I use my acct for positive energy only. In fact, I am fiesty by nature and I am not even that on FB I just love giving and receiving the positive energy on there. I will say this a few of my HS friends have taken down their accounts due to drama…simple stuff over he said she said, things that happened in HS and hooking up with old flames. I still don’t understand that mess, but maybe I work too much and too hard to add those problems in my life…I am trying to live debt free and stress free.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:00 am
@Professor, I love the choc teddy grahams LOL. My fav is the honey though. I always buy the 12 pks when Publix has them BOGO
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:02 am
Morning all –
Yes, I do have a core set of male friends whom I could talk to about anything if asked. Most of them are married now, so we don’t have talks like we used to. In any case, I do bend their ear when I’m trying to figure out the male brain.
But I’m 32 now. If I don’t have it by now, I’m not going to. Opinions are good, but at the end of the day, I have to be accountable. So really, having someone to talk to is great, but ultimately I am the master of my fate and pilot this ship the best way I know how.
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
10:05 am
abc
Are you saying that all of these corporations, entertainers, musicians, and media outlets such as the NY Times, ABC, Proctor and Gamble, Sony, CNN etc. are losers that got it wrong because they have a FB page? Also if you are so against the Internet, please explain why you blog? It is easy to see the correlation between blogging and FB there are similarities as well as differences.
M. (pronouced M dot)
April 28th, 2010
10:08 am
Good day.
I have a good mixed diverse group of friends. Its good because we can compare notes and trends in the dating game but also every situation is going to be different.
I am used to being balanced. Sometimes I hang out with my female friends, sometimes with my guys and just shoot the breeze.
Sometimes women are naive to the “He is like my brother” game…This usually a guy who wants to get with you but just does not know how to close the deal so he thinks coming in through the friend angle is his way in. Does not work that way.
I do think sometimes women need to hear other thoughts besides those of other women. These other women usually just cosign each others ideology and try to justify what they are doing as right because they both don’t have a man. Sometimes you do need to hear a guys point of view because you are trying get a guy right? If so, don’t be so quick to embrace the idea of being around the sisterhood of they will always try to justify what they are doing rather than calling thme out if they are wrong.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:09 am
Thank God this is America for freedom of speech and respecting others opinions…..wow it amazes me how emotional some folk can get about minor stuff…..tisk, tisk! LOL
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
10:10 am
Men tend to give straightforward advice while women tend to be more concerned with political correctness first.
I mesh very well with men and rarely have I encountered a male friend that’s not a friend for life. On every occasion of getting advice or their take, it’s always been on the up and up. Females? I have a number of women that I’ll speak to in passing or courteous but a handful that I’d consider “friends.” As phrased earlier, the faint of heart can’t hang. I’m not into political correctness, not into worrying about what someone says or think of me…once I’ve left the circle and if you ask me I’m going to tell you….my honest opinion. Not what you want to hear. I think it’s hypocritical to see a friend maybe making the wrong decision or blinded and talk about it and shake your head at ‘em but you won’t tell them. I have a couple that will take a hard line with me but I could only be the better for their advice and insight.
abc
April 28th, 2010
10:11 am
All the corporations use Facebook to market to you. So does my company, even though there’s not much chance of there being a market for our products there. I can see that the marketeers have detracted from the Internet a great deal; I understand how they do that because I participate in doing it. Guys like me figure out ways to track you that you’d never dream of, it’s been going on since the mid-90’s. Things like Facebook bring all the tracking mechanisms together.
There is no correlation between Facebook and a blog like this one. If you think there is, please explain.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:11 am
melo it is men out there too that are into their career and dating or a relationship isn’t their main priority…….it goes both ways….lol
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:11 am
It’s me….lurker
^5!
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
10:11 am
Sometimes, my guy friends confuse the heck outta me. I can talk with two or three of them about the same issue and get three totally different responses.
And while I value the glimpses that they give me in the male psyche, I’ve learned that, much like with advice from my female friends, to take what I need and make my decisions based on what I believe is best for me and my relationship.
And I also know that while talking to my male friends can be helpful, talking to my man works out best every time.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
10:13 am
Wassup Prof!
I am wonderig why Wondering is wandering,wrongly calling out Sexxyleggs and if Wondering misread which bloggger called out Carlito and also wondering if Wondering aint a regular wandering and blandering female blogger?
I am lso Wondering if a male blogger cld really be envious(coughing) of Leggs’s so sexxy leggs or maybe Wondering is just some jealousy non-Wonderful Woman that goes by the name Wondering
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
10:14 am
@Princess yes I got the BOGO deal at Publix…lol. Now, I will trade you my chocolate ones for your cinnamon?
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:15 am
it’s a virtual forum just like fb….you can give your saus or not…it is concise with a daily topic but it serves the purpose with connecting with other folks via the internet…..of course you don’t put up personal pics and your other info but they are very similar and yet different but both serve the same purpose to me the positive connection……FB isn’t a tool to be or do nothing I won’t be or do in person nor is this blog…..I am the same in the virtual world and real life….
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:16 am
melo I was wondering the samething…..smh lol
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:16 am
aww professor i’m fresh out, i have a 7 year old remember LOL
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
10:17 am
thanks PrincessNik….we are here today
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:21 am
I have my settings where no one can write on my wall but me….So I only do positive updates and get positve feedback……it works for me!
What kind of negative things would folks be saying? I’ve never had such a problem.
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
10:21 am
That so many participate in it simply shows what a large volume of Internet addicted losers there are.
abc, you mentioned the internet addicts both take place over the internet and both are addictive. I was just curious, but it is neither here nor there…just more curiuos than anything. Also, I remember being in undergrad and I will never forget some information came out that in 15-20 years if a person could not use the internet it would be equal to not knowing how to read. Actually I can see that now, although it did not make sense than, but I digress.
abc
April 28th, 2010
10:22 am
Now, that is a load of crap, Lady J. Do you think we are ‘connecting’ in the same way as Facebook? The blog allows Faceless exchange of ideas, although the resource is mostly wasted — there might be 600 posts in a day on here, but 500 of them will be pointless blather.
Yall are delusional about the male friend thing. If you need advice about men because you don’t understand anything about them, why do you think another man will tell you the truths that the object of your romantic interest won’t tell you? If you’d be up-front and honest with the men you’re dating, chances are they’d tell you the truth, too.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:23 am
The dude that I consider my oldest & closest friend (known the guy since 2nd grade) I haven’t seen since my wedding day & have only spoken to on a handful of occasions, despite the fact that we both live in ATL (albeit on opposite sides of town). We haven’t had a falling out. And we both know that if either of us really needed anything, the other is the first person we could call. We’ve just both been busy with our own lives & haven’t really had time to catch up in a while. And that’s okay
Actually swiss, this sums up my closest female relatinships too.
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
10:24 am
What’s up, Gang? Blogging from home today – just chillin’
If I don’t have it by now, I’m not going to. Opinions are good, but at the end of the day, I have to be accountable. So really, having someone to talk to is great, but ultimately I am the master of my fate and pilot this ship the best way I know how.
Amred, I with you on this.
I’m like you Professor, in that my friends, both male & female, are in sort of compartments. It’s ones that I go to for certain things. Usually it’s because I respect their perspective on certain things. Some I like the way they raise their kids, so I go to them for advice on SO’s kids. Others I admire how they relate to men, how they run their careers, decorate their home, cook, etc, you all get it.
Most of my main girlfriends I met in college. We NEVER did the play-by-play talk about men, even back then. We give some basic info and may go into a little more detail if things didn’t work out, like one did AFTER her divorce. If we were truly into some mess we thought was destructive or unhealthy, we would be honest with each other about it, and we have. Otherwise, we live & let live. I have one friend now that I met at a prior job, and she can’t deal with the fact that I don’t do the play-by-play. I told her it’s nothing personal, it’s just not something me & my friends have ever done.
As for male friends, it’s great until they get a gf or wife. So I don’t put much stock into them anymore. It’s a few I chat with at work, but that’s very limited too. I guess if I really needed a male opinion about something, I really respect my boss. He & I have had some similiar experiences, like dealing with deaths of loved ones & such, so he has actually become a great source.
My brother’s were good sources of info growing up, but I limited what I told them too, didn’t need no siblings up in my business, LOL!! I do miss my late brother – he was so smart & he really schooled me with love about a dude I was seeing that he thought was wrong for me. He was so right.
Good Guy, I respect so much what you said about some male friends and how they talk about women when they are with their “boys”. I dated a guy that was heavily influenced by his male friends that were complete dogs! It really affected how he related to me! I began to see him as very weak, not his own man, being still so influenced by peer pressure at darn near 40. That really made me pay attention to what kind of friends future men I dealt with had. Birds of a feather. My SO has wonderful family men, like him, that he has as close friends. They are all so positive to be around!
My SO is actually becoming a best friend to me. I respect his advice and views on things. Very refreshing.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:24 am
To each their own ABC and I am over your assessment! We will never agree so lets happily agree to disagree! To get snappy with it concerns me but you are who you are so I respect that! Enjoy your day sir!
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
10:25 am
Lucinda – I think I have dated the dude that you are currently playing email games with in the past.
Drop him. He is a loser. And trust, he’s sending the same cutesy emails to at least 5 or 6 other chicks.
abc
April 28th, 2010
10:26 am
Professor, what do you think is a barrier to people using the Internet, other than physical access? A child can use the Internet. It isn’t a matter of knowledge or savvy — the phrase ‘computer literacy’ lost meaning and fell out of the lexicon over a decade ago. There is no such thing as computer literacy anymore, outside of working in the field. Computer literacy isn’t required to be an Internet user.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:27 am
Most of my main girlfriends I met in college. We NEVER did the play-by-play talk about men, even back then. We give some basic info and may go into a little more detail if things didn’t work out, like one did AFTER her divorce. If we were truly into some mess we thought was destructive or unhealthy, we would be honest with each other about it, and we have. Otherwise, we live & let live.
@ Kimmie~ same here
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
10:27 am
If you’d be up-front and honest with the men you’re dating, chances are they’d tell you the truth, too.
ABC – If your SO would be straight forward, then no need for outside advice. But honestly, sometimes an ear to bounce things off of is healthy and rolling with dudes carries a different atmosphere than with women. Another reason I have male friends.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:31 am
rolling with dudes carries a different atmosphere than with women
^^^^this is so true^^^^^
my friends from college were made up of a small group of chicks and a group of fella’s and we all hung out together
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
10:31 am
Mernin… I just dropped my Best Friend Tanisha off at the airport and we have been friends for… Dang 19 yrs!! She and I had this pact along with 2 other friends that if neither one of us marries then we would buy four houses and connect the fence so we could all look after one another.. I love her to death.. She pulls my coat to all the games women play.. I also have two other female friends that I consider their advice to be in my best interest. I didnt always listen to them but when we talk and give them a scenario they are usually spot on especially Tanisha.. When she met my Ex wife before we got married she told me DK I dont know about her.. I dont think shes what you want or need.. Then after the divorce she really told me what she thought.. She said she didnt want to break it to me so harshly before I got married because she knew I was in love.. Now that I think of it Stephanie said the same thing about my EX before we got married, Hmmm.. I also do the same for all of them.. No hating just honesty cause my female friends, I know, will always tell me the 100% truth and can see thru women and their games.. They keep my coat pulled at all times..
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:31 am
Kimmie and PK that was a downfall for me lesson learned though…..it can get messy! LOL Those days are OVER! LOL
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
10:31 am
Good morning everyone!
@wondering ~ First and foremost, SexyLeggs was a name given to me. And I’m proud to say I’ve lived up to the name very well over the years. Is that a bit being conceited – YES!!!
Secondly, I’m no “trick”. No one ran Carlito off. You mad cuz you didn’t have a chance to snatch him from Julia? Go sit down!
Bet when people meet you, they’re probably (cough) “wondering” as well! Please, I promise you I will not be going back and forth with you so if you want to bicker via the computer you will be on your own!
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
10:31 am
Amred/Swiss – My close friendships are like yours too. One lives in California, the other 2 have just moved back to Atlanta after living briefly in Alaska, New Orleans, Miami, Maryland, & Denver (one is retired Air Force, the other CDC). We are all just as close as we were in college, despite all the traveling & changes throughout our lives. Love them all!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:33 am
hey leggs!
Wondering
April 28th, 2010
10:34 am
Correction meant “sexycool”
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:34 am
Welcome Trevor0529.
So why are you on the dating fence right now?
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
10:35 am
Facebook (and any other “social networking” tool) — like all technology — is what you make of it. Some folks take it waaaaaaaay too far, but it can be a useful thing if managed reasonably.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
10:36 am
Hello LadyJ ~ what’s cooking. I guess I have arrived, I now have a hater!
abc
April 28th, 2010
10:36 am
I have never been so foolish as to listen to a woman’s advice about women. You must be joking.
A man giving a woman advice about men is just plain gay. The total of my advice to women about men comes up when they’re obviously being played but refuse to see it.
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
10:36 am
Um, yeah…what Leggs said. LMAO!
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
10:38 am
I know! I sensed that?? why?
Melo- I’m just private I guess. I don’t ask friends intimate details about their relationships either. I try to keep it general. While I’m typing this, I’m thinking about the last time a really close guy friend of mine made an attempt to tell me TMI.
His fiance was cheating and they were taking a break. He tried to detail what his fiance said she did with the guy she was cheating with. I had to stop him midsentence. Nope. Don’t wanna hear it.
If I heard it, my impression of her would have changed and I was pretty sure they were getting back together, so I didn’t wanna hear it. Now were he completely done with her, I would have listened and dogged her.
Ummm…and how you sense that sir?
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:38 am
swiss i agree!
leggs I like the words skeptics…..lol
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:39 am
Most of my main girlfriends I met in college. We NEVER did the play-by-play talk about men, even back then.
Whoo chile, my girls and I were big on play by play! No holds barred just like the chicks on Sex and the City used to dissect their men.
It’s also good to see what other women are doing out there. 
Now of course, our discussions are more tame. We make better choices in men and now several of my girls are married.
But boy…was it fun to see the campus stud and know that he wasn’t working it like the ladies thought he was!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
10:42 am
@wondering ~ ok, I’ll retract 2 of the things I said (LOLOLOL).
Kym--waiting on spring.
April 28th, 2010
10:43 am
Sigh..Somedays you have to laugh to keep from crying.. @Wondering..not that Sexycool would care..but why are you bring this foolishness to the blog so early on a Wednesday morning? I mean first you call the wrong person out and then you come back to correct your foolishness to drag yet someone else into your madness. Sexycool ignore this joker.. Crabs in a barrel..crabs in a freaking barrel.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:43 am
lol ared! the macho football player @ that! lol
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
10:44 am
Everybody is different and does things differently for their reason. Whether you’re a dude and getting insight from chicks or if you’re a chick getting insight from dudes or if you’re good with doing play by play run downs (nuh uh) with your girls or if you’re sort of keeping the meat of whatever situations between you and your SO….whatever works for you.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
10:44 am
Good one, SexyCool!
Melo
April 28th, 2010
10:46 am
Ummm…and how you sense that sir?
@Luvbug??
I got proly 25 years on u and most of that time, a female(s) has been sleeping and breathing next to my body,so u know how that goes.
I read female body temp just fine!
ATLBred
April 28th, 2010
10:47 am
I have probably as many male friends as female. I agree with everyone else about the fact that problems come up when they get married or seriously dating. Too many insecure women….why would I suddenly want them now when you have them after I’ve known them all these years, smh.
They are good to talk to about relationships, plus I am a tomboy..so I prefer men to women anyway.
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
10:47 am
Amred – I said me & my CLOSE friends didn’t do the play-by-play! But I was notorious for listening to my LESS CLOSE friends, especially when they got a little tipsy, give me the 411 on the campus gossip & goings on! My close friends were good at it too, and then we’d compare notes!LOL!! Don’t get it twisted! We were just never interested in what was going on in each other’s beds – keep it to yourself! One was dating the other’s brother for a while too, so we sure didn’t want to hear about that!
After a point, folks got hip to my game though
They were like, “hey, you never say anything, when u gon spill the beans?” I’d be like, “Who, me?”!
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
10:47 am
Did anyone see the special about mean moms? They talked about how moms transform when they are online and become mean.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:49 am
lol ared! the macho football player @ that! lol
Lady J – Girl…the football player that was a one humper pumper to the frat boy who was the size of a veinna sausage! I swear I didn’t think the male member could be that small. Their stories opened me up to a world of men I still have yet to experience (thanking GOD and knocking on wood!)
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:50 am
no professor what was the reason??? I am baffeled @ the thought
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
10:50 am
Amred – I said me & my CLOSE friends didn’t do the play-by-play!
Kimmie – Right. And I’m saying me and my CLOSE friends did. I would never have such convos with chicks I wasn’t close to.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
10:50 am
You are absolutely correct, Kym! I’m wondering who wants to get froggy with me, I don’t bother nobody (lol). I too prefer laughing to arguing and/or crying!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
10:50 am
I am Wondering who wondering is because, Leggs has never bothered me.
I have 2 people that I call friends, one is in Jail the other does not live here. I do not have a lot of female associates either. I just do not get into girl stuff or conversations with them that are to deep. Women are complicated and I can not give them good advice because I do not understand how they think. I have some female associates that are friends of my Julia, but they are her “friends” not mine, I am cordial to them.
Lady J, I am happy to see you are keeping that positive vibe going.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:51 am
lmbao @ you ared you summed it up! lol what about the quiet studious dude though??? lol a flashback came to mind about scsu lol
Melo
April 28th, 2010
10:51 am
@DK..
I think Tanisha is awesome!
Isnt it heartbreaking but cool at the same time that she was able to dissect ur ex’s character and how that wasnt gonna work out??
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:52 am
thanks carlito!!! I am me and won’t allow internet moniker or anybody make me act out of character!!!! I am a Lady! LOL
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:53 am
They were like, “hey, you never say anything, when u gon spill the beans?” I’d be like, “Who, me?”!
Kimmie, yep, that’s me even now LOL, my friends from K-12 and i were hanging out recently and i only hang with them every blue moon but most of them hang all the time. And they just kept trying to figure out what was going on in my “love life”, i just smiled and said i’m good and sipped my drink.
CoolShadow
April 28th, 2010
10:53 am
It’s good to get the perspective from the opposite sex to help you navigate your relationships, especially in the early stages while the new interest is trying to become the SO. You can get insight from the confidant that you’re not quite ready to pose to the new interest. And at times, you don’t need advice but just a sounding board or a wall with ears that can simply listen but yet call you out on your flaws and missteps.
But it’s equally if not more important regarding who you designate as your confidant. If they have any interest in you then the advice they present may be slanted to help them gain favor, kind of like relationship insider trading. And if you worry about your biz hitting the streets they shouldn’t be entrusted with that kind of information.
Kym--waiting on spring.
April 28th, 2010
10:55 am
@Leggs..I will frog hop with the best of them..but really all this undercover bs..gets old.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
10:56 am
CoolShadow
great post
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:57 am
pk learned that too….I haven’t said anything about that guy on othe other side of town to anyone and I amazed I haven’t bc I do talk much but I am savoring the connection we have it is between us!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
10:57 am
yep kym it is not anything random about this blog….it is what it is…..lol
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:02 am
do unto others as you would have them do unto you….
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
11:03 am
With age brings wisdom.
I had an absolutely wonderful male friend in college. A few years after college, he got married. I went to his wedding. It was to a lady he had been dating long distance and I had only met her once. Anyway, when I got back from the wedding my mother asked me if me & dude were still going to be friends. I said, sure, why not? She told me that my relationship was surely going to change, especially now that he was married. I balked. She asked how would I feel if my husband was tight with some other woman? I said I wouldn’t have a problem with it, I’m not insecure. She just shook her head. But sure as my Mom said, we were not as close anymore and only spoke one other time after that. His wife was very nice, but he did not want to make her uncomfortable or even give the appearance of anything improper. If I had had a man & we hung out as couples, it would have been different.
I had a boyfriend that was good friends with a lady. Just friends, he always said. A year after we broke up they married.
A good friend of mine was engaged to this guy that had a good female friend to move to town and he told my friend she was going to move in until she found a place. My friend was uncomfortable with it and told him. He had a few rental properties he owned and she asked him why he couldn’t put her up in one of those, since they were vacant. She broke off the engagement, and you guessed it, a year later dude & female “friend” married!
So really, quit calling your male friends’ GF or wife “insecure”. Usually, she has reason to be concerned. Unless you’ve got a double-date couples friendship or a real special situation, things can just get dicey!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
11:03 am
Melo – Nish saw my EX for what she was.. Men dont know women like women know women.. I like to think Im an expert on females (Hee Hee) but some of the stuff they notice about other women is crazy.. Stuff they think about is stuff a dude would never even trip on..
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
11:06 am
FaceBook is not for me. I tried it but deleted it. I accepted friend request, from some people that I have not seen since high school. One girls first message to me was “Why didn’t you give me some in high school? That caught me off guard, it was funny also. I find out that she is married currently as well then she starts posting my nickname all over my page and posting videos and stuff. Funny thing is she was a stalker back in high school as well. LOL Other things that turned me away from it were that everyone my age is not mature, I added family members etc. and they could see the crazy stuff on others pages who were added as my friends. It just was not for me, although I am sure others find it beneficial.
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
11:07 am
So really, quit calling your male friends’ GF or wife “insecure”.
I agree.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:08 am
kimmie agree to an extent but true platonic friendship among males and females are out there without malice to others or gains to be anything more….some jump the gun for no reason but you are right to a point…I even exercised your POV with my ex husband and a mutual college friend of ours and was correct in the end…..
Melo
April 28th, 2010
11:08 am
I have never been so foolish as to listen to a woman’s advice about women.
@abc??
I remember u saying waay back, u werent that close to ur relatives so i guess that strong statement means u dont have male friends to confide in, that much either,Right??
Being a musician, I wldnt be surprised coz most musicians,esp from ur era(i presume u hitting on late 50 to 60s now) are weirdos!!
Jimmy Hendrix,Carlos Santana,James Brown etc.
U gotta have a lil weirdo in u to make a jazz composition or any other type of music anyway….thats glorified chaos!
I am glad u blog here coz at least u feel like u’re at a concert,connecting with regular folks!
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
11:08 am
One girls first message to me was “Why didn’t you give me some in high school?
LOL
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
11:09 am
@Lady J,
They said these moms have an in-person reputation so they are always nice and easy going in public, but the computer and hiding behind the screen gives them the opportunity to be catty and mean without the judgement associated to the real name and person.
Lucinda
April 28th, 2010
11:09 am
Thanks, all. Good to get confirmation that my gut is prolly right so mebbes i set an auto response “i do not respond to personal email cuz if you wanna get with me you have my number” HA!
NEXT.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:10 am
lol carlito…..you laugh at the randoms and if it becomes an issue you delete and block…..I have done it and haven’t missed a beat…..lol….this young nupe tried me and got his feelings hurt silently when I was no longer accessible to his foolishness….lol
Dan
April 28th, 2010
11:12 am
@Kimmie
You can’t project the whole of the human experience from the few instances that you know about personally.
There are plenty of platonic male and female friends.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
11:13 am
@Prof ~ I saw that this morning. However, even if you have a huge following on twitter or even fb, I don’t understand how one can twitter 10 mins after finding your child dead in the tub???
abc
April 28th, 2010
11:17 am
I’m not that old, Melo. Jazz players aren’t all that weird, at least not to us!
My friends and I are such that we don’t really discuss heart-to-heart kind of matters. We don’t feel the need. If they were to ask me for advice about their wives or girlfriends, I’m not sure what I could tell them. I just plain don’t know their wives or girlfriends, and that’s fine with me.
Likewise, I don’t really know my wife’s friends, although they all seem to act like they know me. Which is a bit odd, because I know she doesn’t talk to them about me. If she had any men for friends, I’d run them off. I know better than that. Similarly, any female friends I’ve had have fallen to the wayside since I’m with my wife. I find that strictly platonic interest in women as friends amounts to about no interest at all, to me, anyway. That just adds to my feeling that yall’s thoughts about platonic friendships with the opposite sex are delusional.
ATLBred
April 28th, 2010
11:18 am
@kimmie – some are just insecure. I say that based on reactions they have had to other things also, not just with their dealings to me. If I’m the chick in your corner when he is about to make a misstep…I’m not trying to get at him. But you are correct that sometimes it can be shady with male and female relationships. But my experience with that is that you can kinda see when things just aren’t quite right between so-called friends. Just my Opinion.
PrincessNik
April 28th, 2010
11:20 am
She told me that my relationship was surely going to change, especially now that he was married
my best friend from high school was a guy, we were super close, birthdays a day apart, could finish each other sentences. While i was in undergrad in Columbia, he was stationed in Augusta and we were closer to each other than either of us were to home and we hung out all the time. Then he got sent to Korea, we still talked all the time, then he met his now wife and the friendship began a down hill slide. She never liked me from day one, and out of respect for him i chilled out. Then once they got married in Vegas let’s just say the last time i talked to him was three years ago after my father passed, his mom had called him so he called me, before that it had been a good minute. I would have never thought it would end up like that.
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
11:20 am
There are plenty of platonic male and female friends.
In platonic relationships with attached people? I doubt many of them are successful w/out major space and time restrictions. If not, best believe somebody’s simmering (maybe in silence, but still).
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
11:20 am
I live a simple life. Men are men and do men type things. Women are women and do whatever they do. When the two worlds mesh everyone already knows their role
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
11:21 am
Leggs on ajc.com mommania blog did a posting on this a few weeks ago. I go in there from time to time. It is a different crowd and the funny thing is several of them started using my moniker.
I guess I am a trendsetter, but anyway. No I don’t understand that one either, but I think the computer give folks power they normally would not use.
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
11:22 am
Job Alert – the Office Depot on Moreland Avenue is hiring. Pass it on.
Lucinda
April 28th, 2010
11:22 am
@Kimmie “With age brings wisdom”
Let’s hope. We should learn a few things
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
11:23 am
You can’t project the whole of the human experience from the few instances that you know about personally.
Dan – I agree. But me & all of us can only speak to our experiences. Nowhere in any of my posts did I say men and women could not be platonic friends. I actually have some male platonic frineds, but I’m also very good friends with their wives. It’s a lot easier. I just said when either party gets a SO things can get tricky. To think otherwise, that everything is going to remain exactly the same, is being a bit naive, and I used to think that way. You can’t hang out all the time or talk on the phone for hours like before. The other person involved, the new SO, is not necessarily being insecure, is what I was trying to say.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:24 am
lol professor
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
11:25 am
ATLBred – To your 11:18, I can see that too.
kinderbabe--19 days and counting! woohoo!
April 28th, 2010
11:28 am
does anyone work at a hospital here in atlanta (emory, atlanta medical, st.jospeph’s, dekalb medical, northside) or know someone who does? looking for a connection w/a RN, LPN or hospital admin for a possible job opportunity for a Certified Nursing Assistant. thanks!
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
11:29 am
Luvbug – 11:20 – Exactly!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:29 am
but if you all are in a social setting kimmie and all is dandy without screams of I think you want my man whats with the silent beef from some like I don’t want you here by some women…its a bit personal to me like some other issues exist……I was cool and hung out prior to you and will be there after you….its a social group….my take is she gets few alone time with him and wants that but hey he is who he is and that is on him…..lol
Melo
April 28th, 2010
11:29 am
@Kimmie!
My girlfriend now Queen had a male “friend” back in the day.They were “friends” be4 i got on the scene and when she introduced him as her “friend”, i kinda raised an eyebrow abut thoght that was genuine coz of her booggie background.U know, they went to better schools than me blah blah blah.
But i wasnt that intimadated coz dude was short and a bit chucky so he wasnt really a fit,just in case i had suspicisions.
So i brushed him off as posing no threat.
A few months after i got to know him,i was told he was having a wedding and i even drove my girlfriend to the wedding and picked her up later.I didnt attend.
The marriage didnt last long,not more than 1 1/2 years. When i asked Queen why she said, dude told Queen he didnt luv the chick,he confessed to luving her (Queen) instead!
I really laughed!
I smashed those jewels first bro,sworry! 
So i kinda agree with u and M(dot).
Its nice to have opposite sex friends but be careful.They proly are after u too but aint mustering much bravado in their moufs to say it!
Dan
April 28th, 2010
11:31 am
@Kimmie
You’re right, you didn’t. But mine was more a cautionary/general statement.
@kimmie/luvbug
I have female friends that I’ve known for over ten years, and when my relationships get serious enough, they’ve met the women involved.
Thing is to me, like a male friend, she’s just there. It’s someone to talk to that knows me well. Someone that can set me straight when I have my cape on.
All my SO’s thus far have understood that they my “buddies”. And I’d be honestly leery of someone that couldn’t/wouldn’t try to understand and respect that.
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
11:41 am
Lady J – Yeah, those are insecure, but they’d be that way with anyone, lol! It’s always some around like that. You could be his cousin, but have some pretty friends, and she’d be mean-mugging you! Some folks are just jealous period, of everyone!LOL!!
Dan – I see what you are saying. And yeah, in an instance like you mentioned, I can see where an SO tripping over someone you’ve known for awhile and just talk to occasionally could be eyebrow-raising. I was speaking of a different scenario.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:43 am
that is my point kimmie….every man don’t want to jump your or mine bones…..lol
I have great rapport and we are just cool…..lol thx for seeing my point
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
11:47 am
All my SO’s thus far have understood that they my “buddies”.
Dan – If you say so, but how do you know that?
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
11:48 am
So why are you on the dating fence right now?
@ARed
I am in the process of finalizing my divorce after being separated for the last year. I was married for ten years (no children) so I am going to be taking really slow. While I was separated for the past year, I have been working on myself and enjoying life. Starting life over at 41 is scary, but interesting at the same time.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
11:49 am
go trevor!!!! enjoy your self journey!!!!!
Dan
April 28th, 2010
11:49 am
@Luvbug
I mean, I guess I don’t. But, I’ve never had a woman tell me she has a problem with it, usually because I’m upfront about my folks.
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
11:50 am
I just said when either party gets a SO things can get tricky.
@Kimmie I agree my situation was very similar to Princess and her bestie guy pal. When my friend got married things changed and we were like twins.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
11:51 am
@kinderbabe ~ you got mail!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
11:58 am
Had to go back and read the comments:
Welcome to Blogsvile, Trevor0529. Glad to have snatched you out of Lurkersville! You’ll enjoy the light up here so much more!
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
11:59 am
To what me & Amred were talking about earlier, about play-by-play talk with friends:
I made this mistake early in my college career. I met what I thought would be a good friend (girl) in freshman orientation. Being on a big campus & all we hung out constantly. I met a handsome sophmore & started dating. Well, I talked too much to my girl buddy. Some of the things I told her about me & my BF was repeated to some other mutual friends of ours. Not only that, she just HAD to see for herself how wonderful my man was! Yep, she tried to get with him and immediately let me know it. We ceased to be friends after that. Me & dude continued to date, but he transferred to Ga Tech & we were not that serious, so we just became friends. But I learned my lesson after that to keep my mouth shut & keep other women out of my business, even good friends.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
11:59 am
@Trevor0529!!
Welcome buddy!
U have come to the right place…
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
12:02 pm
Yep, she tried to get with him and immediately let me know it.
Meant, HE immediately let me know she was trying to get with him behind my back!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:02 pm
damn kimmie it took me longer….lol i feel ya….i don’t even entertain it any more…..this was the given to kimmie my ex suppose to be bff never shared much with me and I was too blind to see that til after the fact…..you live and learn….she tries to communicate now and its not any love…..lol
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
12:04 pm
@kimmie ~ I learned early on not to talk to other girls/women about any man I was dating. I use to sit back and watch people and listen to the things they talked about over drinks and wings (e.g.). Was always amazed at how much people shared. Many of my friends growing up said I didn’t share enough about myself nor my life. Always had the stance that if you’re not taking care of me, helping me with my bills or feeding me, you don’t need to know everything about me. I have skeletons that have skeletons!!!
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
12:05 pm
I have skeletons that have skeletons!!!
LOL!! That’s new one.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:05 pm
preach leggs
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:06 pm
When dating is it odd that your interest only has friends that are of the opposite sex male or female?
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
12:08 pm
Disclaimer…this is not for everyone
I forgot to mention that I have one male friend that is good people. I am not worried about him getting married and running away. The good thing is he does a lot of things that girls like to do so he is good to have around. Not to mention he can still think like a man, but the funny thing is I had to help him do some manly stuff when he first moved in his home. I went over there with my toolbox and he was acting all prissy. Sometimes if you can find the 1/2male 1/2female friend you have the best of both worlds. Shout out to Miss Man
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
12:10 pm
Preach Leggs! That was my way of thinking in high school. Don’t know why I slipped up early in college that time, but you don’t have to tell me twice!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:10 pm
hmmmm carlito let me think on that….
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
12:11 pm
Professor – I so get you on that, nothing like a Miss Man!
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
12:12 pm
Yep…plus SOs rarely question close relationships with Miss Man…unless Miss Man is your man’s friend.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:13 pm
professor you summed up my crew…..lol…..my mama calls them and some of my gf call them sissified…..they are like william on girlfriends….very successful and stand on their own but sorta suspect bc they can act bitcy….they will even tell you too…lol…..one of the guys calls the other a DIVA!!!!! They are my crew though and get plenty of play from women! LOL
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:14 pm
professor I am dying laughing @ you bc that is sooooooo true!!!!! lolol
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
12:15 pm
Lady J – Besides “soft” is there an official term for that type of guy?
Trouble
April 28th, 2010
12:16 pm
@Melo:Its nice to have opposite sex friends but be careful.They proly are after u too but aint mustering much bravado in their moufs to say it!
That is the truth! I had lots of male friends–until they hit on me….or wanted to move in….or get married.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:17 pm
carlito it has to be a balance while my dude would be closer to his female friends he would have to have some male freinds to in the mix or I will raise my eyebrow like why……beyond friendship what are the chics offering….I say have both and each friendship is different and brings different things to you but just one population…..hmmmmm suspect
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:17 pm
Gay
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
12:18 pm
Carlito some aren’t gay though…they just aren’t masculine.
JtJ
April 28th, 2010
12:18 pm
Afternoon folks,
I am sure the topic has changed, but I have no male friends in my life, whatsoever!! I always wondered how that came to be, but I guess even when I was married, I was not out and about much and never had male co-workers that I worked with directly and got close enough to become friends.
I have a couple of close girlfriends that I hang with, but other than that, my sister is my closest confidant.
I do wonder though, what it would be like to have that male perspective from time to time, and I wonder how JT would handle me having a male friend.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:19 pm
luvbug be nice! LMAO!!!!! you sound like my mama! LOL yall I can’t stop LMBAO @ yall!!!! too damn funny you called it!!!!
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
12:19 pm
@Kimmie, luvbug and lady j he is good people and very successful…raised well with strong values. So, I could not ask for more out of a friend.
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
12:20 pm
Professor, one Miss Man I had, I let my BF at the time answer my phone when I knew he was calling! Absolutely NO insecurity there!LOL!!!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:20 pm
Lady J, I was more saying a guy who has no guy friends only female friends or a woman who has only male friends and no female friends.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:20 pm
William on Girlfriends wasn’t gay he just wasn’t super hard……..he mixed well with the ladies….lol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:22 pm
Luvbug, what is the opposite of masculine? Feminine? LOL
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
12:22 pm
William on Girlfriends wasn’t gay he just wasn’t super hard
If you say so, Lady J! LOL!!! I get what you saying!lol!!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:23 pm
I am sure they are good friends, they can shop with you, talk about men and not try and jump your bones. Hold your purse, buy your tampons. LOL
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:23 pm
coool carlito…..
professor same here…..these dude work @ a major company and high up on the ladder….I am glad I am their friends!
And I also told a lie…lol…..I have gone to concerts with dudes…lol they are my frankie B & maze crew!!!!1 we went last year and had a ball…..lol
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:24 pm
lmbao Monica got her man Kimmie!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!! yall my co workers think I am crazy laughing @ this screen and the kids pay me no mind I can’t stop lauging!!!!! LOL
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:26 pm
Doesn’t like sports or can’t bale hay. There is a difference between can’t and won’t. LOL
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
Where is Mo @ she has met my crew…..I want her assessment! LOL
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
Looking and acting like “2 Men on Film” skit from in Living Color. 2 snaps in a Z formation. LOL
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
@luvbug ~ those guys are “effeminate.”
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
Lady J – I’m not trying to be mean, but I really wanna know if there is some acceptable term to use b/c I find myself describing a few friends and family as soft…I never know how to translate it. I’ve had gay guy friends…I have no problem with that.
I used to use metrosexual for the “soft” guys until I realized that many don’t care about pampering…they aren’t girly in that way…they just aren’t tough/leader types. If a fire broke out…I’m almost positive some would run be over to get out of here.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
I will tell you this though, in prison they get the good office jobs and pretty much control the flow of darn near everything.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
and being neat and well groomed and wearing the finer things doesn’t make one gay a metrosexual maybe but not gay lol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:30 pm
Luvbug, the correct word is “punk”. LOL
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:31 pm
yep metrosexual it is we used the same term to describe their behaviors…the just extra with it….lol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:31 pm
Lady J, being neat and well groomed is not gay I agree.
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
12:31 pm
@Kimmie, so true you don’t have to worry about your man being insecure when you roll with Miss Man, in fact my ex didn’t want to hear Miss Man in the background most of the time. He would say you can call me back when y’all are done…lol
@lady J, why is it they make the best concert crew? Shoot they will get the party jumping.
@Carlito you are wrong, they don’t just hold our purse they tell us if our purse doesn’t match our shoes and how to make it work…lol
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:33 pm
hmmmmmmm carlito punk hmmmmm no the str8 from the A and roll with the toughest and roughest crowd they just beat the system but they were in that car as those deals took place get my drift….they are diversed and to me will never forget where they came from…..they are still close with the ones out of prision and took care of them while in prison…..lol one is called an educated thug…..lol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:33 pm
Professor, LOL.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
12:34 pm
Dont u hate it when the Dwight Eubanks can hang and smile and do high fives with the fabulousness of women..tall,leggy and sporting short summer dresses amnd cleavage is the muther..BUT…
U try to holla at them same phine sisters or impress them with ur dress and smile and they mean mugg u!
The flaming ones can be Big Tyme spoilers for the heterosexuals I tell ya! And the ybad part is they be the first ones to put in a bad word to the ladies..”look at him, that one looking at yu over there
trying to holla at u with that cheap marshalls suit” 
Dang it..homo! and u cant even phluck them!!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:34 pm
Lady J, Just riding around in packs taking booty from unsuspecting men, the streets in midtown are safe for women.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:34 pm
damn right professor that is why I call them 1st to see what’s up!!!! I’ve had my best times with them! my real brothers from other mother’s!!! yall know I didn’t leave my home this past weekend and my brother texted my sun inviting me over for a small cookout….he did that the sunday before too….I will always be around bc they love me too!
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
12:35 pm
To what me & Amred were talking about earlier, about play-by-play talk with friends:
I made this mistake early in my college career.
kimmie – I guess I’ve just been lucky then! Or maybe I’ve been good at weeding out the ones that are shady and wouldn’t keep our confidences. Not to say I don’t have messy friends, but when it comes to our sharing experiences with one another, we’ve respected each other. But I did state that as we got older and the guys were of more quality, the details aren’t so specific. But the men generally have less “problems” to report on which is why they get to stick around!
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:36 pm
carlito stop lololololol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:36 pm
Melo, it must be a trick. How can a guy hang with some women and not be in the least attracted to them.
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
12:39 pm
@Lady J, my friend is like that too, he has street credits and the MBA he can slice you with words or with his razor…he is the truth and if I was going to war whether on the streets or in the courtroom I would call him!
@Melo..”look at him, that one looking at yu over there trying to holla at u with that cheap marshalls suit”
They will say that…too funny
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:40 pm
Lady J, it should be a promiscuous woman’s duty, to try and bring back 3 gay men to liking women only. Just throw 3 in her body of work. Do it for the future of civilization. LOL
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
12:40 pm
Trevor0529 – Thanks for the response. Sorry your marriage didn’t workout. Hopefully your dip back into the dating ocean won’t make you want to swim back to shore!
(yes, I crack myself up lol) A lot of stuff is different from when you were single, I’m sure.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:41 pm
Then they want to get married and adopt a child? LOL
Melo
April 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
@Carlito??
when u went to college,did the other dudes come at u??
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
Trevor0529, these women here will have you marrying someone in 2 months to months or less.
Lady J-"Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there." Happy Hump Day!!!!
April 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
CARLITO!!!!!!!!!! NOT!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:43 pm
Melo, nope.
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
12:43 pm
But the men generally have less “problems” to report on which is why they get to stick around!
Amred – So true!!LOL!!
Even though we don’t get very personal, I would complain a little to my friends when dudes would come up short. One made the comment recently that I haven’t complained once about current SO!lol Not to say everything is perfect, but she’s right.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
12:44 pm
How can a guy hang with some women and not be in the least attracted to them.
@Carlito??
I used to work around the sheraton(now W hotel) on colony square in mid town some yrs back.
Boooooooy!
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
12:45 pm
yall stop we aren’t going to bash gay folk…..lol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:46 pm
What would you ladies do if Miss Man made a move on you? LOL, or if Miss Man tried to take your Mr Man. LOL
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:46 pm
Lady J or smash them either.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
12:50 pm
Miss Man (LMBAO SILLY) geesh……I wouldn’t entertain it and it would change the dynamics of the vibe….I will now be looking sideways like why did you go there I want your friendship not a relationship or a smash!!!! LOL I have my HARD CORE dudes for that!!!!! LMBAO @ you Carlito!!!!!!
Melo
April 28th, 2010
12:51 pm
One of my buddies went to jail for about 2 months due to immi issues some time back.It seemed like eternity.
He is the one guy i have often talked about here who’s got lots of drinking issues etc..Hes a loud mouth too.
Now that i think back about it,he may have been phlucked in jail. When he came out,he told us of how some dude tried to come at him and they fought and he fend the guy off.
There cld be a twist to that story no wonder hes such a drinker/alcaholic.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
12:52 pm
Trevor0529, these women here will have you marrying someone in 2 months to months or less.
kimmy
April 28th, 2010
12:53 pm
Hi,
I have a few. Some are singles and some are married to my close friends and chime in as needed. I appreciate what they have to say. My friends husband called me one day out the blue and told me if he doesn’t do anything for you then leave him. It was a jolt but it was needed. I didn’t listen then but wish I had. Real men can spot real boys a mile away and if they think you deserve better they are usually right.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
12:54 pm
these women here will have you marrying someone in 2 months to months
@Ared?
that means For Real is now Over due!
Professor (sort of sleepy)
April 28th, 2010
12:54 pm
No I don’t see them trying to hit on me because they are cool and value the friendship. As for liking my man they would probably say the gayar is going off, but again I don’t see them trying to snatch my boo they are very loyal.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
12:54 pm
carlito i am the baby in the group they are 12 to 13 yrs older than me….lol makes no difference i know but I am their youth per se….lol the youth of the group with grounded wisdom that keeps me near…..I’ve been complimented on my maturity level among them…….
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:54 pm
Melo, if he went to county jail for two months I highly doubt it happened there. If he went down the road and got involved with the wrong thing, maybe. If you get locked up and you come back to your bunk and there is a Honey Bun on it. DO NOT EAT IT LOL
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
12:56 pm
Even though we don’t get very personal, I would complain a little to my friends when dudes would come up short. One made the comment recently that I haven’t complained once about current SO!lol Not to say everything is perfect, but she’s right.
kimmie – Exactly. Most of the play by play was for the PURE MISFITS. Do you think Vienna Sausage was gonna get a 2nd chance?!
So we could talk about him to death. The special ones get praised, then when the relationship was over, then we’d do the play by play! 
I know not all women have friends who they can speak so candidly with. I remember when I moved up north. The girls I hung with had a dinner party and one of em was telling us about her date. I asked “so how was the sex?”
The room got quiet for a full minute til someone piped up and said “Amazon, we don’t talk about that stuff”
Oh well!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:57 pm
Professor, ok. LOL
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
12:58 pm
@Carlito ~ you are the first blogger that Blogsville has actually assisted in “popping the question.”
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
12:59 pm
Leggs, I am the first?
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:00 pm
carlito nasty lolololololol!!!!!
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
1:01 pm
@Carlito
these women here will have you marrying someone in 2 months or less.
2 months or less??? OH LAWD!!! I might have to go back to Lurkerville.
)
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:01 pm
I will toast to that!!!!! Congrats again sir!!!!!
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
1:02 pm
Do you think Vienna Sausage was gonna get a 2nd chance?!
I can feel it! Okay, maybe I can’t, lol!!! Sorry, lame I know, just couldn’t resist it!LOL!!
But I totally get what you’re saying. I actually have had to talk to a few friends on a more personal level, but that’s after years of trust. One recently told me about a “little smokey” she encountered and how she just couldn’t go there with him anymore.
But when you do find a true friend, you findeth a great thing!
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:02 pm
trevor carlito married his loved a non blogger as leggs stated we helped him do what he wanted to do!!!! LOL MIA Blog ROCKS!!!! LOL
Melo
April 28th, 2010
1:02 pm
@Leggs??
so if we follow the discussion,Trevor is likely to get a phluck but no popping of champagne??
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
1:03 pm
Do you think Vienna Sausage was gonna get a 2nd chance?! I’m done!!!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
1:05 pm
Probably so, Melo!
@Trevor0529 ~ some leave the divorce never wanting to ever marry again. There are a few on this blog. Which category do you fit in? Are you willing to give marriage another try somewhere down the road, or are forever against it?
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
1:08 pm
@Leggs,
I am definitely willing to give marriage another try. I will never say never. The right woman is out there for me.
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
1:08 pm
yall stop we aren’t going to bash gay folk
My bad Lady J. Guess I can see how my inquiry would read offensive. It’s just some categories have no names yet, so I took the opportunity to ask someone closer to the inner circle who may be able to answer.
No gay bashing
Melo
April 28th, 2010
1:10 pm
Vienna Sausage??
so thats a big issue with u ladies??
No wonder Beyonce had to write Big Ego to quieten the rumor mongering ..im sure Karin the psh queen was spreading rumours about her man!
kimmie
April 28th, 2010
1:11 pm
Okay, things are REALLY BAD!
With my hair!
Just can’t take this anymore, gotta go get cute! Made an emergency hair appointment!
Have fun, gang!
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:11 pm
cool luvbug!!!!!! LOL
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
1:13 pm
ARed – Yep, that’s how it usually goes…at least over this way. If I’m spilling the beans about you, it’s a good chance we’re no longer together or won’t be for whatever reason.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
1:16 pm
Vienna Sausage??
so thats a big issue with u ladies??
melo – Not really. But no one wants someone extremely small or extremely large. If you fall within normal ranges it’s generally fine.
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
1:16 pm
Trevor – why is your marriage ending?
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:19 pm
yep ared it is how you work the middle! LOL
Melo
April 28th, 2010
1:21 pm
no one wants someone extremely small or extremely large
@Ared!
from a male persp, a female thats extremely large is really awful!
who wants to feel like they are the only one walking in the Boston underground tunnel..air blowing all over u!??
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
1:22 pm
Trevor, they are cool. LOL
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:22 pm
smh @ you dude lol!
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
1:26 pm
“But no one wants someone extremely small or extremely large.”
I’m not so sure about the latter… One of Mrs. Swiss’s former friends claimed she wouldn’t even consider sleeping with a dude withe anything less than 10in. Now, maybe my idea of normal is different from hers, but that seems to be trending toward the extremely large range….
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
1:26 pm
@SexyCool,
Simply put, I was not happy in my marriage anymore and at times I was lonely in it as well. Our communication went to hell in a hand basket.” It was frustrating talking to someone that really did not want to talk to you. We went to a counseling session but something told me that no matter what my soon to be ex and I did, we would revert back to our old ways.
I did my share of wrong in my marriage and I take blame for it failing.
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
1:27 pm
Carlito – I may not have ever lain eyes on you and couldn’t pick you out of a lineup if my life depended on it, but I and totally happy for you and Julia.
The excitement of having the rest of your life to spend with someone who *gets* you and truly cares for you and that has your back and that you love and who loves you.
May that love sail you through the sunny times and shield you through the storms.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
1:28 pm
Trevor, what type of woman do you seek?
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
1:29 pm
Trevor – thanks for answering. I admire how you took the responsibility for it not working. And wish you the best in all that you do.
Welcome to MIA-Land.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
1:31 pm
I feel ya trevor!!!!! when it is over it is over…….keep it moving gracefully!!!!
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
1:31 pm
@Carlito,
I will be honest with you. I don’t know what type of woman I seek. I ask myself that question a lot.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
1:31 pm
SexyCool, thank you for those kind words. That was very nice
I can not wait until this weekend when I see her again 
I really can not wait until she moves down here 
We are going to be at the Wedding celebration for Tazzee so we will get to meet you in person there, for sure 
I feel kind of bad because I do not know who Tazzee is but I am going to 6ft Under to meet everyone.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
1:33 pm
swiss – She is the exception and not the rule. But like melo said, some women have bigger holes than other, so maybe that’s why they request the footlongs. Again, I hope women who need a manhole cover for that hole are the exceptions as well!
Elijah ( Today is a good day!)
April 28th, 2010
1:35 pm
Good Afternoon!
Trevor just do not listen to Infamous he is still gripping over the ex kicking him out the house by the ex for using the old Snoop Dogg pimp plan!
Miss Man is gay all day long! Professor why you calling him Ms. Mann in the first place? GAY all day long that is why!
Lady Lurker how about classy lady that fits you!
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
1:37 pm
Um, yeah…. I fell in one of those once… Not much I could do for her that didn’t involve shoving my forearm up… well, you know….
Dan
April 28th, 2010
1:37 pm
ricolaaaaaaa
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
1:37 pm
I do not know who Tazzee is but I am going to 6ft Under to meet everyone.
Who knew we were that compelling!
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
1:39 pm
@ Carlito — You’re bringing the Mrs., too? You’re a brave man, sir.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
1:41 pm
One of Mrs. Swiss’s former friends claimed she wouldn’t even consider sleeping with a dude withe anything less than 10in
@Swiss!
I take it shes ex-friend now coz she diss u and Mrs Swiss by vaginally measuring ur wang and deeming it kinda short??!
otherwise begs the qstion,how did she convey the mssge?
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
1:41 pm
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
1:45 pm
Luvbug
April 28th, 2010
1:46 pm
who wants to feel like they are the only one walking in the Boston underground tunnel..air blowing all over u!??
ricolaaaaaaa
DANG!!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
1:48 pm
@T0529 ~ Glad to hear it.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
1:49 pm
AmazonRed, Swiss, the only way I am going is if she is with me. Not saying anything is wrong with going solo but now that I am married I feel comfortable going. I hope that makes sense.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
1:54 pm
Carlito – I’m just surprised you are willing to go at all.
Well, actually, after “cream of cotton” and your marriage turnaround, nothing you ever do will surprise me anymore!
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
1:55 pm
@ Carlito — In my case, I’ve run my little blog mouth a bit too much behind the veil of anonymity over the years…
If Mrs. Swiss knew some of the stuff I’ve let out of bag in here… it would be my azz… 
Melo
April 28th, 2010
1:57 pm
How do straight men not get hard when they dance with hot girls?
@All str8 men get hard when dancing with hot girls!!
see,these are some of the myths that women believe,wrongly!
The fact that i wrap it really good down there and disguise it well dont mean i aint troubled wanglycally!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
1:58 pm
I remember many of you saying leaving a marriage because you’re not happy shouldn’t be grounds for divorcing. Through the good and the bad one must work through whatever ails the marriage. And again, here’s another coming forth saying after a while he realized he wasn’t happy and no longer compatible. I see growth here since no one jumped down his throat.
@Carlito ~ don’t feel bad about not knowing Tazzee Mae Jankins. I haven’t met her face to face either (LOL)!
@ARed ~ we have that affect on folk. He’s the quickest person we’ve corrupted.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:02 pm
good post leggs!
julain
April 28th, 2010
2:02 pm
@Trevor0529 I was married longer than you and have also been single for a bit over a year. I LOVE IT. I am so happy to be out of a really really bad situation. Dating is fun, if a bit weird at times. At the very least, you get some good stories to tell
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
Swiss, I understand
AmazonRed, I am surprised also. LOL
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
“…Hold your purse, buy your tampons…”
Um, now Carlito — not to rain on your parade, but you did just get married. Get ready to start holding purses & making those emergency CVS tampon-runs for the Mrs…
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:04 pm
If Mrs. Swiss knew some of the stuff I’ve let out of bag in here… it would be my azz…
That’s our clue to not bring up anything he’s said unless he brings it up first.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
2:04 pm
And again, here’s another coming forth saying after a while he realized he wasn’t happy and no longer compatible. I see growth here since no one jumped down his throat.
No one jumped down his throat cuz it’s not the topic of discussion. It was his answer to a question. Folks views still haven’t changed. And I see folks still like to harp of old ish.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:05 pm
Swiss, but I would doing it in a manly way
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:07 pm
lol
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:10 pm
At the very least, you get some good…..
@Julian!!??
i was thinking after “good”, u were gong to say or throw in some nice sexxual verb or sexxaul adjective even noun….comeon Julian!!??
try good head,good lubbing or good psh….u were flowing as in a good ryhme and then u mess it up just like that,..for smebody who is enjoying dating……????
cmeon Maaan!
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:10 pm
#Random wonder why i won’t embrace speed dating yet…..hmmmmm…what goes on on wed……Wednesday Wind Down maybe then to Kat’s Cafe or Harriston’s (haven’t been in over 2 years) or home in my bed…..hmmmm….
Dan
April 28th, 2010
2:10 pm
@Carlito
Most men feel that way…until you get to the aisle and see all.those.varities. <– the reason they invented cell phones.
That and the "price check", gets you everytime
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:12 pm
remember many of you saying leaving a marriage because you’re not happy shouldn’t be grounds for divorcing
@Leggs??
i will give it a pass if its the first divorce. 2nd one makes a pattern and i will comment harshly.
u think Larry King aint crazy??
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
2:14 pm
i will give it a pass if its the first divorce.
melo – Do you give it a pass since you are divorced yourself?
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:15 pm
Leggs, notice I am not being perverse today
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:15 pm
Dan, it would have to be a midnight run.
julian
April 28th, 2010
2:16 pm
@Melo ha! wish i had it like that.
an aside. A female friend of mine who is late 40’s keeps getting hounded by a dude who is maybe 32. He’s employed; she doesn’t bring much other than “personality”, so wtf? Why’s he tryin to hit that?? Challenge? Boredom? Uhh…??
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:16 pm
hmmmmmmmm ok……
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
2:19 pm
@Leggs,
If someone has an opinion in why I am divorcing, let them say it. It’s cool.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:19 pm
DON’T QUIT!!!!!!!
Work as if it was your first day. Forgive as soon as possible. Love without boundaries. Laugh without control and never stop smiling.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:21 pm
Do you give it a pass since you are divorced yourself?
@Ared??
yeah i dont regret it coz both parties deserved to be happy!
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
2:22 pm
“Now, did she say WITH wings or WITHOUT wings? Regular or Super? Aw, d@mmit!”
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
2:22 pm
But, Trevor didn’t say that he was leaving because he was *just* unhappy. He also stated that he was lonely at times, that there was no communication and that counseling didn’t work, as well as admitting to wrongs that he committed.
Sounds like more than just unhappy to me.
Dan
April 28th, 2010
2:22 pm
@Swiss
I’ve never felt that helpless and uninformed in my life
JtJ
April 28th, 2010
2:24 pm
@ Leggs–Maybe because he said they tried counseling. For me, counseling was a big step and if you can do that and it still doesn’t work, I guess it is okay to call it quits after that.
If he had just said, he or she was not happy, then I would think that they as a couple would need to sit down and figure out what is causing the happiness. I am a believer that no one should ever just give up without a fight if it is something they truly want.
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
2:25 pm
Along those lines, before we were married Swiss Miss used to have me go to the Sally in Tucker to pick up her hair care products, since at the time she was living in Forsythe county & couldn’t find the stuff up there… All I can say is I got all kinds of personal attention whenever I went in the store…
The girls that worked there thought I was lost the first time I came in…. 
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:26 pm
I wish i had it like that
@Julian..u need some spice ha!
Why’s he tryin to hit that?? Challenge? Boredom? Uhh…??
does she like him? if she does,let him hit it.
It may be challenge, definately not boredom….Men luv to climb big mountains and humble it and tell it after the fact.
At 32,hes likely to give her a good run on her money esp if hes that persistent!
Tell her,Melo said give it a shot!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
2:27 pm
Trevor – And please dont listen to Elijah.. He’s a Professors friend she’s talking about…
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
2:29 pm
Or maybe cuz it’s Trevor’s first darn day, and we don’t have most of the freakin story (like what he did to contribute to the demise). Excuse some of us for having home training!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:30 pm
Infamous, you are funny. LOL
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:31 pm
lol ared
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
2:31 pm
It seems that I may have caused a bit of a ruckus in Blogsville.
:-O
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:32 pm
Trevor’s first darn day
@Ared/females!
Trevor explictly told u where his wife was wrong(not communicating) then glossed over the “wrongs” he did.
That tells u,”HE CHEATED”
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:33 pm
member that song!???
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
2:34 pm
Trevor – Sorry for the late response.. Divorce isnt the end of the world… As crazy as it sounds the wounds will heal and you’ll be alright.. You cant see it right now because its so fresh but one day at a time and you can walk in a different direction.. Stand up for your child if you have one.. And stay away from the alcohol and partying to much. Dont run out here and ante up with some babe right away.. Take some time to find you again.. Relax. Kick it.. When and if you decide to get back out here and smash, just be honest, you’ll be surprised at how many women can understand what youre going thru.. Reconnect with old friends you lost during the marriage and lean on your closest friends because its gonna get worst before it gets better.. Prepare for you divorce and if you have any divorce related questions holla at ya boy.. ATLALIEN@YAHOO.COM
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:34 pm
trevor everyone has their day on here…get it in early and laugh it off and keep coming back! LOL
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
2:35 pm
“It seems that I may have caused a bit of a ruckus in Blogsville”
Nah, man. This is nothing. Stick around a while, you’ll see…
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
2:35 pm
Trevor explictly told u where his wife was wrong(not communicating) then glossed over the “wrongs” he did.
That tells u,”HE CHEATED
Trevor – You are fine don’t mind us.
I blame lil instigating LEGGS!!!!
julian
April 28th, 2010
2:35 pm
@Melo 32 shud have skilz and stamina, so she’ll enjoy the ride, why not.
Why some of you talking about somebody else’s reasons to divorce? How can you know what goes on behind somebody else’s closed doors?!! jeez
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:36 pm
and the beat goes on……
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:37 pm
@ARed ~ whether it’s the blog topic or not is irrelevant. Many answers have gotten one jumped on whether on topic or off topic!!!
@JtJ ~ yes, I noticed he metioned counseling and probably why crickets were heard.
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
2:37 pm
julian – it’s what we do. By the same token, I could ask you “Why are you worried about what two grown folks, late 40’s and 32 respectively, and what they do?”
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:38 pm
Trevor and Leggs should go out on a date
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:39 pm
lolololol
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:40 pm
Lady J, you know Ihave to try and bring the smiles out lol
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
2:40 pm
yes, I noticed he metioned counseling and probably why crickets were heard.
Nope.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:40 pm
32 shud have skilz and stamina
@Julian!
good,now dont cut block on the young 32,get ur own man!
we aint talking about his reasons for divorce but the missing pieces in his story!
Its no big deal coz we got uall on here to fill him up in case he need a wet spot!
Are u game on MIA??
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:41 pm
I blame lil instigating LEGGS!!!!
OMG, that made my jaw hurt! TOO FUNNY!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:41 pm
Can someone point me towards a good tattoo artist that they have used personally? No I am not getting her name on me.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:42 pm
I am dying laughing! the laughs got in today!!!!! LOL!!!! thanks carlito!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
2:42 pm
Trevor – Ruckus.. Mayne please..
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
2:43 pm
Carlito – 13 Roses..
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:43 pm
@ARed ~ you can’t comment for others. You have no idea why they threw crickets. You only know why YOU threw crickets.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:44 pm
@Melo ~ it’s co¢k block….
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:45 pm
@lEGGS??
I heard more crickets when we were talking about the big wide Boston tunnel and women!
why is that??
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:45 pm
@InfamousD ~ he has no idea what a “ruckus” really is around here.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:46 pm
Sometime this year, we taxpayers will again receive another ‘Economic Stimulus’ payment. This is indeed a very exciting program, and I’ll explain it by using a Q & A format:
Q. What is an ‘Economic Stimulus’ payment?
A. It’s money the federal government will send to taxpayers.
Q. Where will the government get this money?
A. From taxpayers.
Q So the government is giving me back my own money?
A. Only a smidgen of it.
Q. What is the purpose of this payment?
A. The plan is for you to use the money to purchase a High-definition TV set, thus stimulating the economy.
Q But isn’t that stimulating the economy of China?
A. Shut up.
Below is some helpful advice on how to best help the U.S. Economy by spending your stimulus check wisely. If you spend the stimulus money at Wal-Mart, the money will go to China or Sri Lanka. If you spend it on gasoline, your money will go to the Arabs. If you purchase a computer, it will go to India, Taiwan, or China. If you purchase fruit and vegetables, it will go to Mexico, Chili, Honduras, and Guatemala. If you buy an efficient car, it will go to Japan or Korea. If you purchase useless stuff, it will go to Taiwan. If you pay your credit cards off, or buy stock, it will go to management bonuses and they will hide it offshore. Instead, keep the money in America by:
1) Spending it at yard sales, or
2) Going to ball games, or
3) Spending it on prostitutes, or
4) Beer or
5) Tattoos.
(These are the only American businesses still operating in the U.S.)
Conclusion: Go to a ball game with a tattooed prostitute you met at a yard sale and drink beer all day!
No need to thank me, I’m just glad I could be of help.
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
2:46 pm
@DK,
Thanks for the words.
You guys are a trip!!
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:46 pm
cock as in wang??
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:47 pm
@Melo ~ if dicussion turned to the “big wide Boston tunnel” we would wind up talking about sluts!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:47 pm
Infamous, Thanks. I have to get my sleeve finished.
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
2:48 pm
I am going to enjoy my stay in MIA-land.
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
2:48 pm
@ Carlito — I got the following tattooed on the Matterhorn when I got married:
“This wang is the sole property of [Mrs. Swiss]. Any re-use, re-broadcast or re-transmission of this wang without the expressed, written consent of [Mrs. Swiss] is strictly prohibited.”
Melo
April 28th, 2010
2:49 pm
Go to a ball game with a tattooed Woman you met on MIA and drink beer all day!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:49 pm
@Melo ~ yes, did I misread your post???
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:49 pm
LMBAO! I was really into that list and realized it was you carlito! LOL
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
2:50 pm
@ARed ~ you can’t comment for others. You have no idea why they threw crickets. You only know why YOU threw crickets.
Leggs – You commented for others. Or at least took a guess. Well so did I.
And since I’m one of those people who has that divorce viewpoint you mentioned I know why ONE of those people were crickets. So my “idea” is much closer than yours would be since you don’t have such a viewpoint.
julian
April 28th, 2010
2:51 pm
@SexyCool I was jus asking cuz she was asking me why he’d be interested. Like, duh, she’s female is why…but she didn’t like that answer so I though some woould have a better idea than me
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:51 pm
@Trevor0529 ~ you’ve been lurking enough so you know all about the blog vests….CATCH!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:52 pm
Swiss, all of that on less than ten inches. Impressive, must be fine print. LOL
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:52 pm
@Trevor ~ everyone says that….that’s why lurkersville is overcrowded. You think you came over to us on your own volition…sorry dude, they kicked you out!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
2:53 pm
@i’m swiss ~
Whew, talking about a Big Ego!
julian
April 28th, 2010
2:54 pm
pardon my ignorance, crickets? means what
Trevor0529
April 28th, 2010
2:54 pm
@Leggs,
Blog vests??? Can you fill a brotha in.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:54 pm
leggs stop lol
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
WARNING: Really, really gross retort in 5… 4… 3… 2… 1…
@ Carlito — That’s what foreskin is for…
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
CArlito – Yea I have a sleeve already and my Back done.. Its funny cause usually Im in button up shirts and people only see a smidgen of it..
Oh Yeah City of Ink also.. Holla at Tuki, He’s done most of my work.. If you can get an appt.. 13 roses just did my most recent work… Because I couldnt get an appt with Tuki when I wanted it..
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:57 pm
Trevor, just know that one day people will be mean to you then the next all is okay.
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:58 pm
no news is good news but wonder when my professor will post our grades….hmmmmm
Lady J-I love music, any kind of music......
April 28th, 2010
2:59 pm
alrighty folks be easy…..peace…..
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
2:59 pm
Swiss, LOL
Infamous, City of Ink should be my first choice then?
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
Ok Ared ~ you may be right, ARed. That’s one reason why there are so many unhappy, cheating, conniving husbands and wives out there. I’d rather be happy and alone, than miserable and married!!
Melo
April 28th, 2010
3:00 pm
Whew, talking about a Big Ego
@Leggs!!
we know u sweat easily,esp around this time…here,wipe that on ur brow!
Julian
crickects is blog silence!
now u ask too many qstions in here here, u end up being asked to pay while on ur back,u looking up the ceiling!
julian
April 28th, 2010
3:03 pm
hellzno Melo, im not playing like that!
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
3:03 pm
I’d rather be happy and alone, than miserable and married!!
Yes Leggs, we know. This horse has been beaten to death. Like I said, didn’t really see the point of bringing it up as NO ONE’S VIEWPOINTS HAVE CHANGED.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
3:05 pm
@Trevor ~ blog vests are given to all newbies. You are to don your vest when blog bullets (scathing words) come your way. This little ruckus today is nothing, but you may get hit with shrapnel hence the vest!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:05 pm
I am still laughing at Infamous’ joke. LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:08 pm
Carlito – Yeah.. Tuki is the truth but 13 Roses is hard core too.. I dont know depends on what style youre looking for.. Tuki is a great artist and the other Guy that I wouldve recommend was Ray at Westend Tattoo.. He moved to Miami recently though.. He was a Hawaiian Dude that mainly did the hawaiian tribal but he was a dope artist and could give you just what you wanted..
Melo
April 28th, 2010
3:09 pm
im not playing like that!
@Julian!!
not playing like what?? why??
u dont have a vagina???!
fronting aint allowed in this MIA joint!
U blog here,u date, u phluck, this is MIA..unless u saying u just dont do missionary!
Then I understand!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:10 pm
Several men are in the locker room
of a golf club. A cell phone on a bench rings and a man
engages the hands free speaker function and begins
to talk. Everyone else in the room stops to
listen.
MAN:
“Hello”
WOMAN:
“Honey, it’s me. Are you at the club?”
MAN:
“Yes”
WOMAN:
“I am at the mall now and found this
beautiful leather coat. It’s only $1,000. Is it OK
if I buy it?”
MAN:
“Sure, go ahead if you like it that much.”
WOMAN:
“I also stopped by the Mercedes dealership and saw the
new 2010 models.. I saw one I really liked.”
MAN:
“How much?”
WOMAN:
“$90,000″
MAN:
“OK, but for that price I want it with all the
options.”
WOMAN:
“Great! Oh, and
one more thing….the house I wanted last year is back on
the market. They’re asking $950,000″
MAN:
“Well, then go ahead and give them an offer of
$900,000. They will probably take it. If not, we can
go the extra 50 thousand if it’s really a pretty good
price.”
WOMAN:
“OK. I’ll see you later! I love you so much!”
MAN:
“Bye! I love you, too.”
The man hangs up. The other men in the locker room are staring
at him in astonishment, mouths agape…
He turns and asks: “Anyone know who’s phone this is?”
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:15 pm
My jokes kill. Kill the blog. LOL
Melo
April 28th, 2010
3:18 pm
Im glad im circumsised!
no foreskin here….
skin to skin means a whole lot and more!
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
3:19 pm
What’s crackalackin in here? My screen shows I last read on page 2…been in dang meetings and another in 11 minutes
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:21 pm
Lurker – Heres your Name… Nu Nu.. You know like the movie.. That Nu Nu..
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
3:23 pm
DK…mmm hmmmm, yep
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:23 pm
Julian – Just relax and follow the flow you’ll be good.. You mix with some and clash with others but its still all love most days..
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
3:23 pm
I like that name. NuNu.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
3:26 pm
“I’m New New cause I always rock the new, new sh*t. Thank you.”
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:26 pm
FOR SALE BY OWNER: Complete set of Encyclopedia Britannica, 45 volumes.
Excellent condition. $1,000 or best offer. No longer needed. Got married
last month. Wife knows every freaking thing.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:28 pm
THE GYNECOLOGIST WHO BECAME A MECHANIC
A gynecologist had become fed up with malpractice insurance and HMO
Paperwork, and was burned out
Hoping to try another career where Skillful hands would be beneficial;
He decided to become a mechanic
He went to the local technical college, signed up for evening classes,
Attended diligently, and learned all he could
When the time of the practical exam approached, the gynecologist
Prepared carefully for weeks, and completed the exam with tremendous skill.
When the results came back, he was surprised to find that he had
Obtained a score of 150%.
Fearing an error, he called the Instructor, Saying, “I don’t want to
Appear ungrateful for such an outstanding result, but I wonder if
There is an error in the grade.
The instructor said, “During the exam, you took the engine apart
Perfectly, which was worth 50% of the total mark.
You put the engine back together again perfectly, which is also worth
50% of the mark.”
After a pause, the instructor added, “I gave you an extra 50% because
You did it all through the muffler, which I’ve never seen done in my
Entire career”
Professor
April 28th, 2010
3:29 pm
Stepping in and too lazy to catch up!
@Leggs have you decided on what to do with Mr. Viagra? Will you leave him in the FZ, I hope you don’t mind me asking.
@Trevor0529 I see you are still here that is good, but you did mention you lurked for a while so you already know what to expect.
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
3:30 pm
Elijah is taking too long….Nu Nu it is
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:31 pm
ARED – Look at her earrings.. It was NuNu..
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
3:32 pm
DK – I’ve seen the movie 1200 times and I never ever looked! Dang.
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
3:34 pm
Well, here’s a shocker…
Of course, pets have the advantage of not being able to understand what the f@#% you’re blathering on about…
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:34 pm
Ared – Threw me too but when she’s walking to the pool they show NuNu on her earrings..
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
3:35 pm
What did her necklace say? Didn’t she have a New New necklace?
Melo
April 28th, 2010
3:36 pm
have you decided on what to do with Mr. Viagra?
@Prof??
Leggs threw me off with that qstion coz beggers cant be chosers??
well i guess,they can,esp in the A..ive sen them on Marta, denying to take my food handouts,prefering cash instead!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:36 pm
Swiss, Two things. If you were that ladies husband would you listen? Also, did you see the picture of that guy with his pet crayfish named “Cray Aiken” LOL he has to be a Miss Man
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 28th, 2010
3:37 pm
You are to don your vest when blog bullets (scathing words) come your way. …but you may get hit with shrapnel hence the vest!
At least it wasn’t me flinging bad words….this time.
Dan
April 28th, 2010
3:39 pm
She fell so far off…
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
3:40 pm
@ Carlito — Dude, I didn’t even need to look at the picture. All I need to know is buddy has a pet crayfish named “Cray Aiken” & I can pretty much assume that he’s never pleasured a woman…
SexyCool
April 28th, 2010
3:40 pm
Dan – Cosign.
Weezie?
Dan
April 28th, 2010
3:43 pm
@SC
That hurt me soooooo bad.
recent pictures shows she picked up weezie’s body art habit…..
Professor
April 28th, 2010
3:43 pm
@Melo he messed up saying something. He should have waited until he got some loving and let it go down like this….
Leggs: Man you sweated my hair out.
Mr. V: Naw baby that wasn’t me….hehehe
Leggs: (giggle) Yes that was you.
Mr. V: Reach on the floor and go in his pant’s pockets…see my little friends here…they help me get the job done…viva viagra (he sings it in a deep voice).
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:44 pm
Ared – Ok in The A its NuNu.. Its not New New.. For real… Nobody from the ATL would ever walk around with New New on anything..
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 28th, 2010
3:44 pm
Ared – Nowatimtalmbout shawty..
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
3:46 pm
“…recent pictures shows she picked up weezie’s body art habit…..”
Okay, I am clearly not hip enough. For a good 5 mins I was sitting here thinking, “Mrs. Jefferson had a tattoo habit????”
Cougar
April 28th, 2010
3:47 pm
Will somebody please tell USHER I got Next..lol
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
3:49 pm
Nobody from the ATL would ever walk around with New New on anything..
Cuz you write the rules right?
Professor
April 28th, 2010
3:50 pm
@DK you are right here in the dirty south we have our own language and New New would really mess that up…it was NuNu. We have to remember old girl was also trying to play the hood role so walking in there with “new new” would have messed her up for real.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:50 pm
Is the peace treaty over? LOL
Professor
April 28th, 2010
3:52 pm
Cougar, I love me some Usher Raymond and his music
Melo
April 28th, 2010
3:53 pm
Leggs: (giggle) Yes that was you!
@Prof??
smething about good wood that tickles women and makes them giggle while lying in bed.Most times!
cant put a finger to it!
In my ignorance, i assume its the excitement they get when the throb is good and the nutting jutes out like some spitfire!
Cougar
April 28th, 2010
3:55 pm
@Prof – He going around knocking up Cougars and setting retirement plans – I taint mad at him, like I said “Get at Me”!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
3:57 pm
Cray Aiken. LOL
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
3:57 pm
Cougar – Usher? Why? You’re like the hundreth “next” no way
Elijah ( Today is a good day!)
April 28th, 2010
3:58 pm
Trevor you may want to avoid e-mailing Infamous DK…he may have you hanging out in Mid-Town where he has extensive expertise!
Lady lurker stay classy now!
Hola Professor!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:00 pm
@Melo ~ ok, it’s that time to sweat? You funny!
@ARed ~ no doubt. What I’m saying is I don’t understand why someone would stay in any marriage if they’re so miserable. That’s not what a marriage is! Not just me, anybody!
Professor
April 28th, 2010
4:00 pm
@Cougar yep I would love to use that Child support alimony money from Usher, better yet 50 cent he said “have a baby by me and be a millionare.”
Cougar
April 28th, 2010
4:00 pm
@Lurker – naw naw – at the rate that dude is going I’m in there like PREGO!
Cougar
April 28th, 2010
4:02 pm
@Prof – I tried to tell that trick cousin of mine the same thing – she had a baby by POOKIE is is broke!
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
4:03 pm
Elijah – always…did you expect me to sign tomorrow as “nu nu.” You should virtually know me better. LOL
Cougar – Too much to go behind.
Professor
April 28th, 2010
4:03 pm
Hey Eli
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
4:05 pm
@ARed ~ no doubt. What I’m saying is I don’t understand why someone would stay in any marriage if they’re so miserable. That’s not what a marriage is! Not just me, anybody!
Leggs – Folks can be miserable in life. Doesn’t mean they kill themselves. They find a way to push thru until they find happiness again.
The same can happen for marriage. Not saying it always can or will.
Chose wisely.
Professor
April 28th, 2010
4:07 pm
Cougar I feel you on pookie being broke…lol I bet pookie wasn’t a virgin he knocked down the whole hood probably.
Elijah ( Today is a good day!)
April 28th, 2010
4:08 pm
Ladies and Gents ( That does not include the infamous knucklehead) have a good day!
I am out!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:09 pm
@Melo ~ are you calling me a “begger?”
Cute skit!
@Prof ~ Yes, we are friends! His dysfunction goes a lot deeper. The more we talked about it, the more I realized it’s too much for me to take on! He has a lot of medical problems to be so young! We like each other because we’ve been honest and upfront with each other.
Professor
April 28th, 2010
4:12 pm
@Leggs well at least you know. It would have been a mess if you got involved with him and BAM he laid the medical problems on you. Melo I said problems and not wood.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:15 pm
“Folks can be miserable in life. Doesn’t mean they kill themselves”
But, some do!
Melo
April 28th, 2010
4:17 pm
are you calling me a “begger?”
@Leggs?
well,not a begger per see really but if it were cable, u still getting the “hooked up” deal!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:18 pm
I got your point, ARed!
Random thought: Should I eat this donut or should I take it home so the eating machine can have at it?
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:19 pm
@Melo ~ must have missed something in the translation…I don’t beg for anything!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
4:19 pm
Leggs it is to late in the day to eat it.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
4:21 pm
@DK you are right here in the dirty south we have our own language and New New would really mess that up…it was NuNu. We have to remember old girl was also trying to play the hood role so walking in there with “new new” would have messed her up for real.
Professor – Looks like “New New” to me. I guess I need to put my “hood blinders” on.
http://images.allmoviephoto.com/2006_ATL/2006_atl_022.jpg
Melo
April 28th, 2010
4:23 pm
don’t beg for anything!
@Leggs??
nobody that i know of begs for wood and tells!
not even Angie! 
not saying u do..wasnt implying it either!
Lord Velonese
April 28th, 2010
4:25 pm
“He seemed to think that a lot of women (read: me) sabotage our own chances with potential matches because we don’t like being happy.”
That’s pretty true; I’m not up for mind games. Even when I think I might actually date someone they always shoot themselves in the foot, then I’m like forget it. I believe in being hard on women just as they are hard on men, it’ only fair and they hate it
. If a woman wanted me to jump through five hoops for her then I will make her jump through 5 of the exact same caliber, It’s only fair.
“They do not sugarcoat no matter how much you threaten them using blackmail”
Another reason I do not date anymore, total BS.
“One disclaimer about having boy “space” friends: Do not. I repeat. Do NOT ask them about sex.”
You could have fooled me; that’s what three of my lady friends use me for. They even do this when they are seeing someone, pretty low if you ask me but I don’t really care.
I always thought folks desiring “Just friend status” with the opposite sex are always hoping that SOMETHING will happen, even if it’s in the far back of their mind.
As far as me having guy friends, yeah I do, those friends including myself are very independent and when we hang out it’s usually to raise hell somewhere.
(throws the high sign)
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
4:28 pm
New New
It's me....lurker
April 28th, 2010
4:33 pm
Glad I don’t know or have a “Pookie” in my family/history. Just knowing/having one…..scary thought
Professor
April 28th, 2010
4:36 pm
Thanks Ared now we know two things for sure (1) Ared, got a lot of free time to research earrings and stuff, and (2) New New was a fake ATLien!
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:36 pm
Pros beg for wood!!
@Carlito ~ I’ve already put the donut in a baggie to take home. Thanks.
Melo
April 28th, 2010
4:42 pm
Pros beg for wood!!
@Legss..naw u miss again!
Pros beg for money! and exchange/give head and dry nana in exchange.
If they really begged for wood,u cld catch them wet smetimes.
But then, i know u dont know that!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
4:43 pm
End of the day quotes. Andy Rooney style. Leggs what do you think?
I’ve learned … That being kind is more important than being right.
I’ve learned ….. That when you’re in love, it shows.
I’ve learned …. That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
I’ve learned …. That love, not time, heals all wounds.
I’ve learned … That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
I’ve learned … That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
I’ve learned … That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
I’ve learned … That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
4:43 pm
Thanks Ared now we know two things for sure (1) Ared, got a lot of free time to research earrings and stuff, and (2) New New was a fake ATLien!
1) I didn’t know a Google search, that took less than 30 seconds, was “a lot of time”
as for 2) of course she was fake, it’s a movie. But nice way to remove that foot from your
mouthposts.AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
4:44 pm
So yeah, so much for those “sure things”
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
4:44 pm
End of the day quote Melo style:
“A wet pu$$y and a dry purse don’t match”- Paul Mooney
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:46 pm
No doubt, they beg for money. Yep, got that one twisted.
@Carlito ~ love all of them
Melo
April 28th, 2010
4:50 pm
I be reading 2-way DK-Ared convo,then Leggs-Ared convo now Ared-Prof convo in there too..
Im really looking frward to seeing who gets the last word..this time!
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
4:50 pm
Oh, and to add to your end-of-day quotes…
I learned… to wear shorts with boxers whenever you go to Strokers, as it makes it easier for the pros to yank your chain while giving you a lap dance.
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
4:51 pm
Swiss, LOL
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
4:52 pm
Im really looking frward to seeing who gets the last word..this time!
melo – As they say…a picture’s worth a thousand words. I’ll let it do the talking.
i'm swiss
April 28th, 2010
4:54 pm
Melo
April 28th, 2010
4:55 pm
@Swiss/Carlito??
I have learned to always finger a chick and look at her face str8 up be4 getting inside her.
If she reacts favorably to ur finger,its wet inside and cozy and her face lightens up,u are assured of a good ride!
Good nite!
Carlito
April 28th, 2010
4:56 pm
Swiss, I say “you are the Queen, I will make what you want happen baby”
DreamsMaterialize
April 28th, 2010
4:57 pm
Sup everyone. Hope everyone had a great day.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
4:58 pm
Good night!
If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.” ~ Colin Powell
Watch your back at all times!
Professor
April 28th, 2010
5:09 pm
Ared,
Actually there is no foot in my mouth or post, because you already know I don’t give a dayum about NuNu or New New
Have a delightful evening and google us some more movie stuff tomorrow.
ciao
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
5:12 pm
Actually there is no foot in my mouth or post, because you already know I don’t give a dayum about NuNu or New New
Nope, don’t know that or you’d probably be over talking about already then.
But play that “save face” game.
Leggs
April 28th, 2010
5:28 pm
I win…
AmazonRed™
April 28th, 2010
5:33 pm
Or do you…?