Will chivalrous expectations last?
I was very happy to make it out to the wonderful Atlanta Film Festival. If you’ve never been, I would definitely recommend it, even if you are not a huge fan of films. There was literally something for everyone, including films/shorts on music, art, comedy, history and many other genres of film were represented. The attendees were as diverse as the films that were featured.
One of the featured shorts that stood out to me in the African American Shorts showcase was Train.
Train (2009) Darius Clark Monroe, Executive Producer
It was a short, yet powerful film about what men go through when they have to decide how to handle difficult situations in regards to chivalry. I am being intentionally vague as not to give away the entire premise, but it made me think hard about what single women expect from men.
If a man is not interested in a woman romantically, we still would expect some sort of chivalry from them. With all the confusing gender roles that can create dating and relationship issues, how will things shift? Will women continue to expect chivalry? If there is a need to step in and take on a protector role, what would you think of a man who does not consider it his duty to act?
When we are all learning the “new gender roles” how do you think we will progress in what we expect from one another? I know none of us have crystal balls, but what is your educated guess considering what you have seen and heard?
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AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:32 pm
Don’t shoot me…that was me. I thought that was me you came after…a virtual cup of joe to make amends?
See! This is why I need folks to all have unique monikers! Okay, so it was you. Professor thought it was someone else then.
Change it lurker! *shakes fist at you* Stop making it easy for us slow folks to get confused! lol
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 27th, 2010
3:33 pm
ARED – A husband should be adding you to his home…
lurker
April 27th, 2010
3:33 pm
Sowee…
Elijah? Any suggestions?
Melo
April 27th, 2010
3:34 pm
Dude, I ain’t impressed that easily
@lurker??
do u work in a pressure cooker environment??
lurker
April 27th, 2010
3:35 pm
Melo – Pressure cooker, I don’t think so. There are busy days here but not that kind of pressure.
kimmie-livin my golden life
April 27th, 2010
3:35 pm
Lady J – It can be scary! That’s why I was insistent on getting something that would not break me. I could pay my mortgage & have something left to pay other bills, do things to the house, save & BREATHE. I must be able to sleep at night. My morgage was a little under $200 more than what I was paying in rent. I knew folks that bit off more than they could chew – not me! But yeah, just make a plan & stick with it! Keep your eye on the prize!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 27th, 2010
3:37 pm
Yeah Lurker.. I got one.. Lurk_oN_Deez
AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:38 pm
ARED – A husband should be adding you to his home…
He should, but in case, it doesn’t work out that way, I got a crib that can accommodate.
My mortgage is cheap. We can stack our chips and live a pretty fun lifestyle. Then if I want to stay home with the kids, our mortgage won’t break us cuz it’s low enough for one person to cover on their own.
Melo
April 27th, 2010
3:38 pm
There are busy days here but not that kind of pressure.
@lurker??
ur rant at Professor had me laughing coz u went str8 left..i just figured either u were stressed out,surely did not read right or maybe PMS had just hit that afternoon.
I was glad,Prof didnt come back at u with a hook to ur left cheek!
kimmie-livin my golden life
April 27th, 2010
3:39 pm
It’s a dude lurker that comes on (usually all caps) that is a real troll. I totally ignore the tired coward.
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
April 27th, 2010
3:40 pm
yep kimmie I will save for the next 24 months and see where God direct me …..thanks
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 27th, 2010
3:40 pm
Lady J – There are some good deals out here in the foreclosure market.. Its legalized stealing..
Professor...
April 27th, 2010
3:40 pm
Lady J,
You will make it happen. Like Kimmie I wanted money leftover each month and I wanted to be able to pay my bills with ease. Now, I had to change agents twice because I qualified for a lot of house, but I bought less. The first two agents continued to show me houses that were more than I wanted to spend. I had my own budget and they were thinking commission I guess.
Sit down with a plan, and I hope that 8K tax credit gets an extension just for you.
Melo
April 27th, 2010
3:41 pm
Im gon send out my own invite to uall coz Al Sharptn and I are gon to mobilise folks to go to Arizona to picket governor’s office coz of this new immigration law they passed.
Thats when I will see who my real MIA blog friends are!
lurker
April 27th, 2010
3:41 pm
DK – I don’t any of deez, pass
Melo – Man some days you are funny…PMS, give it a week or so
lurker
April 27th, 2010
3:42 pm
Yep, the all caps lurker is a dude and he does a list of crass comments daily
Professor...
April 27th, 2010
3:43 pm
I was glad,Prof didnt come back at u with a hook to ur left cheek!
Melo, I get tired of knocking these tricks out! Sometimes I enjoy taking the high road especially if they can’t read and comprehend
AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:43 pm
Lady J – There are several programs in the metro area that will give you grants to buy a home, will match whatever you save for the down payment, pay your closing costs or all three! Some of them are target towards single moms (no fair!
) to give you even more options.
Definitely start saving, but do your research too. Many times the only requirement is that you live in the home for 5 years and you don’t have to pay a dime of it back!
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
April 27th, 2010
3:43 pm
alrighty gang….1st free mommy day with no class!!! I haven’t been to a happy hour in a min….going to get lost in the city!
thanks gang for everything! Peace!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 27th, 2010
3:44 pm
How bout Lurk doggy dogg..
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
April 27th, 2010
3:44 pm
ared I am aware of NACCA I think hope this is right but I am aware and have an agent just really not 100% to bite yet but in my near furture I willl…..thanks!
AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:45 pm
Lady J – There are tons more. Especially local to ATL. Start with the United Way. They’ll match you on what you save.
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
April 27th, 2010
3:45 pm
dk too funny……..
professor I am developing it!!!!! thanks yall!
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
April 27th, 2010
3:46 pm
ok ARed I will look into that and I would love to live in the city of Atl!!!! Girl!!!! thanks!
Raqi
April 27th, 2010
3:47 pm
lurker, whatever business you are in just let that be your moniker. Realtor, Marketer, Manager, or something like that. Or maybe your favorite television character.
Professor...
April 27th, 2010
3:47 pm
Melo, I will march with you and Sharpton we need to keep you on the blog. No one in the world can blog like you.
AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:48 pm
My last three girlfriends who got married had their husbands move in with them. Either they didn’t own yet, or had bachelor pad condos that were too small for them both.
I’m sure many guys would insist that they buy together, but in this market, I’d rather he check his ego for a few years so we can stack our chips collectively.
AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:49 pm
I will look into that and I would love to live in the city of Atl!!!!
Lady J – You do? Well, holla at me. The City is giving folks hella money to live here. I just thought you’d be more of a burb person.
lurker
April 27th, 2010
3:51 pm
DK – Noooot quite, spin something else
Raqi – That’s a pretty good idea…hmmm
DreamsMaterialize
April 27th, 2010
3:51 pm
Raqi made an assessment and I agreed with it.
I didn’t say there was hidden meaning. I just see your assessment as a misinterpretation of the things I write. Anyway, are you having a great day?
Wise Diva
April 27th, 2010
3:52 pm
I so love the dialogue we have on here. I honestly appreciate you guys so much. I have learned a great deal reading the different perspectives. Thanks for bring so much flavor to the blog
AmazonRed™
April 27th, 2010
3:53 pm
I just see your assessment as a misinterpretation of the things I write.
Maybe it isn’t a misinterpretation. Maybe you can come across that way sometimes and just can’t see it yourself.
Melo
April 27th, 2010
3:54 pm
@Proff??
tell me how a police office is gon suspect im illegal….
i thoght the repubs had a chance to takee a lot of seats come november and now they shoot themslevs in the foot.
Lynching aint fair coz its its aimed at brown pple!
Apparently there is a Georgian senator introducing a bill to say they want to see Obama’s birth certificate.
I may have to move to Massachusets coz uall maybe back on the cotton fields soon dwn here!
Professor...
April 27th, 2010
3:58 pm
Melo,
Exactly the police are going to profile. As for Obama’s birth certificate they need to go somewhere with that, because they never asked the last 43 presidents about their birth certificates.
I can tell you this…ALL THE COTTON HAS BEEN PICKED so please don’t say that.
Raqi
April 27th, 2010
3:59 pm
Amazon, my husband moved into the house I owned but it was because that is what was convenient at the time. We both are now co-owners of this house and his house. We are saving to build a house on the lake for us to live in after we retire which is supposed to be in 13 years but it may be more like 15. We thought about buying a new house but there were none in this area that we liked that were available. Now there a more than a few. We want to stay in this area at least for another 3 years. After that we may consider moving into the other house because it is closer to his work which will be more convenient then.
You know I ain’t got no job so whether here or there is fine with me now. I like both areas about the same. LOL
kimmie-livin my golden life
April 27th, 2010
3:59 pm
I’m sure many guys would insist that they buy together, but in this market, I’d rather he check his ego for a few years so we can stack our chips collectively.
Amred – Same thing with a few of my friends. One friend’s husband had a big home just a few miles from hers, but hers was way nicer. But he makes a LOT more money than she does, and she does very well! So now, they are doing QUITE well together!
Elijah ( Today is a good day!)
April 27th, 2010
3:59 pm
Lady lurker let me think about it! By the way whatever name you come up with will work because you are classy.We will strike yesterday’s rant from the blog!
AmazonRed I see words of wisdom coming from you!
Now you can come over and drink wine on my deck but it needs some touch-up paint first! 
Melo
April 27th, 2010
4:01 pm
@Prof??
i wrote that to say,if they can ask that from a sitting pres,what are they gon ask u to do,the ordinary blow joe!
are u gon to have any rights??
lurker
April 27th, 2010
4:01 pm
Lady lurker let me think about it! By the way whatever name you come up with will work because you are classy.We will strike yesterday’s rant from the blog!
Elijah – Awwww, you’re SUCH a sweetie. We’re entitled to limited slip ups, while being classy. I so appreciate that. A blog “muah” for you.
lurker
April 27th, 2010
4:02 pm
Elijah – Whatever name you select is what I’m going with.
Professor...
April 27th, 2010
4:05 pm
Melo,
I can tell you this with all the racial profiling and Rodney King incidents AZ is asking for trouble with that new law. I can see a lot of civil rights lawsuits being filed because the police violated basic rights.
As for the sitting President I agree, but I will say this. I have seen several programs that will not even address President Obama properly.
Raqi
April 27th, 2010
4:05 pm
Elijah, I am headed out to Lowe’s do you need me to pick up some paint brushes for you and Amazon?
Professor...
April 27th, 2010
4:11 pm
Have a great evening I am stepping out!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
April 27th, 2010
4:15 pm
Lurker – how bout Lollipop cause Elijah is a sucker.. LOL! Just kidding Elijah..
mqew
April 27th, 2010
4:19 pm
Raqi – You’re not working now? Are you a stay at home mommy now. Let me send over the Premier Stepford Wives Package you’ll love…. or learn to
lurker
April 27th, 2010
4:19 pm
DK – how bout Lollipop cause Elijah is a sucker..
that was mean…shame on you..gas face for you.
Melo
April 27th, 2010
4:23 pm
@Elijah?? did u give Leggs ur email add! and got the invite?
I am looking frward to meeting u in person!
Elijah ( Today is a good day!)
April 27th, 2010
4:25 pm
Lady lurker it’s only from little infamous!
Raqi while you at pick-me up a chainsaw I need to have infamous come over and cut some trees for me since he probably will not last as a bb ref! j/k!
Leggs
April 27th, 2010
4:26 pm
@Melo, if you’re looking forward to meeting folk, then respond and stop viewing!!!
Melo
April 27th, 2010
4:27 pm
@Leggs??
u didnt see my response??