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Mix and mingle in Atlanta

It’s been a super busy week with about 20 different events going on in the city! It’s one of the many reasons I love Atlanta.  I went to a film festival, listened to live hip hop music, Nina Simone tribute that was a spoken word/art event and singles mixer! I am exhausted as that sounds but I had a wonderful time running around town.  I will tell you about the events in more detail next week.

On Tuesday, I braved the crowd and ventured to Buckhead to attend the 13th Annual Unsigned Urban Showcase the Havana Club in Atlanta. The event was hosted by R&B crooner Lloyd and DJ Drama, the showcase featured performances by hip-hop heir apparent Drake and Atlanta-bred Travis Porter.

One of the exciting moments for me was when BMI Vice President, Writer/Publisher Relations Catherine Brewton and members of Organized Noize and Goodie Mob presented rapper/producer Big Boi with the Legends of ATL Award.  I am a HUGE OutKast fan, so it was great to see Bib Boi aka Sir Luscious Left Foot!

RP_92352 After I stopped pouting about being in a club on a Tuesday night, I relaxed a bit and had a great time catching up with my friend “SuperStar.” We mingled around as she caught up with friends, including one of the BMI representatives. Let me tell you, there are a lot of perks to knowing people in high places!  He was kind enough to help us throughout the evening and kept us posted on Drake’s E.T.A. on stage.

The crowd was getting bigger and bigger, and it was getting later and later.  I have been wanting to see Drake perform live since the buzz about him began.  Just when I was feeling too old and too irritated to endure that crowd, Drake came on stage.  I was pretty impressed by his stage presence.  He worked the crowd and really did his thing.   I get why there was so much industry buzz about him.

It ended up being a really great event that made me almost fall back in love with hip hop again.  One thing I noticed about the crowd that night was that it was pretty diverse.  I know I felt older *cough* then the average attendee, but the truth is there were people there of all ages.

When you go out, are you mindful of the age range of people? For the younger readers, do you prefer to hang out at events with people in your age/demographic?  How can you tell when an event is geared toward you?

Are there certain places or events that you totally rule out because you know that the crowd won’t be your scene?  Is it a good idea to discount any place you have a preconceived notion about?  I actually met an older man, in the music industry while we were in line.  He was pretty cool and not African American, so I would not necessarily have expected to swap business cards with someone like him that night.  Which is my point. Do we mix and mingle with an open mind?

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Kym--Square Peg

April 23rd, 2010
8:54 am

Good Morning All,

Happy Friday!. Okay I have to say I am a square peg..cause while I like hip-hop..I am not feeling any of this foolishness they pass off as hip-hop now. I like my hip-hop with a message..say something about something..so maybe you can inspire the youth to be something..but i digress. Yes when I go out I am mindful of age range, and demographics of where I am going and who will be there. I have various interest..remember I am quirky..so I am not inclined to go somewhere filled with young folks(16-25) acting foolish..for example my freaknik days were many moons ago..I am not going anywhere near that foolishness now. Events geared toward me use words, like old school, grown and sexy, or my favorite …family-friendly.

While it is not good to judge a book by its cover.. if someone back in the day said hey there is going to be a party at Sharon’s Showcase..or Sharon’s when I was a teen..9 times out of 10..you would have a great time dancing and no one was going to get shot. If they said 559..you could bet dollars to doughnuts..APD would be shutting the party down..cause there was foolishness..(yeah I said it) So err I tend avoid places where the local news stations post up..waiting on the nightly knife fight or gun fire.

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
8:56 am

When you go out, are you mindful of the age range of people? Always….My favorite crowd is mid 30s to mid 40s but some of my dear friends male and female are my parents age…..I hung around my grandma growing up so I’ve always gravitated toward the older and wiser….some describe me as having an old should or having discernment but I can rock and roll with the best of them…..Ironically here lately I have been around my 30 to 31 crew and embrace it bc there are some cool cats….The class of ‘97 Douglass High has inducted me as a “Honoree Classmate” lol crony right but it is cool bc it was an instant bond of some down to earth ground folks who are my age….So I can hang with many diverse groups….My favorite group is my Falcons Tailgate Crew….Those dudes are like my big brothers…..folk born and raised from the “A” late 30s to mid 40s…….It is more than a sports thing its real friendship and I appreciate them embracing me and my youth…..

Atlanta is a cool place and great for singles to mix and mingle….I have founded myself having a ball on a Tuesday night and not waiting for the weekend for entertainment….In 2006 I use to hit it hard during the week and never miss a day of work can’t do it like that now but I can hang and mix and mingle with any group….I have formed some great bonds with each of my groups and comparing it to SC or NC I don’t think it would be the same!!!!! Atlanta Rocks!!!!!

WD keep doing your social thing!!!!!!!!! :)

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
8:59 am

meant having an old soul not should…..lol

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:03 am

Kim speaking of which I haven’t been to OSS in a hot minute……I do want to dance~!

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:03 am

Kym that is! LOL It is Friday!!!!!! LOL TGIF

DreamsMaterialize

April 23rd, 2010
9:04 am

great event that made me almost fall back in love with hip hop again.
Drake is cool, but there lots of other higher caliber mc’s/groups to keep you in love with hip hop. Talib Kweli and High Tech are doing the second Reflection Eternal joint. Little Brother just dropped, and the second Foreign Exchange joint is rockin hard. Jay Electronica just may be the new truth…possibly the best out in the game right now. Don’t believe the propaganda…Hip Hop isn’t dead.

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:13 am

DreamsM don’t forget Common! LOL

Dan

April 23rd, 2010
9:15 am

@Dreams

I’ve heard the albums you’ve mentioned and while the rhymes are clever and interesting, the artists you named suffer from the Talib Kweli effect.

That is, dope rapper with clever, conscious and prescient rhymes, but horrible production. Every TK (even back in the day with Mos) loses me because of the selection of beats.

I dig that production cost are high, but save few commercial tracks TK does himself a disservice.

DreamsMaterialize

April 23rd, 2010
9:18 am

DreamsM don’t forget Common!
I was just mentioning quality stuff that’s currently out. Common is always on the list. I been a common fan since before he was “conscious”…back when he was in the group Common Sense. lol

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:20 am

cool sir! you got it! lol

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:21 am

what’s up with The Roots DreamsM???

malael

April 23rd, 2010
9:23 am

good morning all! i think i am a little conscious of the crowds and the place that i go. if the club is an 18 and older crowd, i more than likely won’t be going there.
one thing that caught me off guard was when i went to the wale concert at center stage a few weeks ago. it majority college kids in the crowd. it kind of through me off bc i wasnt expecting it at all.

SexyCool

April 23rd, 2010
9:24 am

Three Words Daily – Life requires love.

lurker

April 23rd, 2010
9:24 am

I met this guy while having buying tires, who actually took me to lunch because the wait was long. We chatted and swapped stories and upon exiting he handed me his number. Well given that he works near my home, we ran into each again and during the course of the conversation and my whining because of more work needing to be done on my car, he offered his, as a loan asking if I knew how to drive an automatic. Me thinking he was joking said “yeah, why you gonna loan me yours?” All to my surprise handed me his keys, showed me how to disarm the car, so forth and so on. After a few calls and a couple of convos later, we work towards another meetup and I ended up canceling for unforeseen reasons. Tried to rescheduled and this time he canceled. Long story short, a few more convos later, he called invited me to be his guest for his birthday gathering….AT ATLANTIC STATION!! I got there around 9:30ish and to my surprised found soooooo many 25 and unders that I almost went back home. I waded through the crowds, found the birthday party. From that day forth, I vowed a vow, unless I’m hitting Atlanta Station during daytime hours for shopping or lunch, I WILL NEVER spend an evening there again. Too many kids. Plus, something didn’t quite sit right about him with me. I ain’t into soft dudes. LOL

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:25 am

yes it does sexycool along with patience……..thumbs up! :)

lurker

April 23rd, 2010
9:27 am

Sorry folks, I didn’t read the hip hop portion of the article. I skipped to the last paragraph of Diva’s post.

Luvbug

April 23rd, 2010
9:27 am

Dreams- Drake is good, but I can’t tell if he’s apart of the high level of marketing (and outsourcing artists) going on right now or if he’s just caught in the stream of it.

SlimCutty

April 23rd, 2010
9:28 am

Good morning…3 words….Shorten Your Moniker :lol:
@Lady J…at this rate, we’ll have 158 pages by the time lunch rolls around. You know I lubs you tho. ;-)

AmazonRed™

April 23rd, 2010
9:28 am

Happy Friday everyone

One of the best things about Atlanta is the large amount of stuff to do on any given night. Having lived “all over” Atlanta is probably the best cities to keep boredom away. And now that it’s warmer outside, it’s not uncommon to have to choose between 3 events to attend on a random Monday!

As for the age range, I don’t party wit the youngesters, but I don’t go out of my way to worry about. I just do the stuff that interests me and since I’m not into doing stuff the young folks would be doing, I basically ensure that I’m still kicking it in my age range.

DreamsMaterialize

April 23rd, 2010
9:28 am

Dan
I agree to an extent. It’s a little more difficult for these cats to get the quality production because lots of people won’t work with them…conscious clever rhymes aren’t making any money these days. I thought Hi Tek did a great job on Kweli’s first solo joint. Also, Black Star (Mos and Kweli) is a classic. Little Brother had some of the best production since Tribe Called Quest. Ninth Wonder did their first cd “The Listening”, but he’s since moved on to produce for Jay Z and the likes. I think The Roots have top notch production too. They might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but Questlove’s production is the hot…got a couple grammys on his shelf for it.

Luvbug

April 23rd, 2010
9:28 am

do you prefer to hang out at events with people in your age/demographic?

Yes. Unfortunately, I won’t look 30 until I’m 50, so it doesn’t make much difference when it comes to being hit on…the guys are either too young or old perverts…even if I’m dressed like Hillary Clinton.

Do we mix and mingle with an open mind?

No, this is my Achilles heel…outside of small talk, I rarely leave space for people to openly get at me. It’s not that I don’t know them…it’s just that I don’t know them.

Lady J-I can’t wait to see what you do; Its not too much to follow you through; I can’t wait to see what you be; Go be here cause I believe, So don’t go; There is only one thing I’m still asking…….

April 23rd, 2010
9:29 am

lurker too funny…..I remembered Atlantic Station being built boy I miss satying off Deering Rd….sigh….but I never into hanging over there socially….sure I have done the resturants and movies and want to go to go bowling over there one day but to just hang and cruise naw….lol on the flipside Peters Street I will just chill over there while it is many college students on the scene my crowd and age group is not far behind especially the later it gets!!!! i love 255 Tapas! Had some great times drinking wine there! LOL

Lurker funny story! LOL

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
9:30 am

Slim i was thinking the same thing that song of Erykah won’t leave my brain!!!! Ok I will no prob chica! LOL

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
9:34 am

Tribe Called Quest was my Fav!!!!! Those were the days!!!!!!!!!!!

DreamsMaterialize

April 23rd, 2010
9:35 am

Lady J The Roots are supposed to be dropping a new joint this summer. I been following them since their first joint “Organix”, which was initially distributed only in Europe. I’m on that hip hop thang. lol

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
9:36 am

Digable Planets was kool too!!!!!

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
9:38 am

I see sir you are on it!!!!!!!! hmmmmm did you enjoy the movie Brown Sugar????

Dan

April 23rd, 2010
9:40 am

@Dreams

Thanks on BlackStar – I blanked for a moment.

But the thing is, these cats could rap over a 4/4 beat (Black Thought included) and rock. While the overly cluttered tracks aren’t my thing, I still concur with your original statement: Hip-hop ain’t dead.

sorry about the thread jacking, but there are few southerners that can know about music outside of the A

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 23rd, 2010
9:40 am

Almost Everywhere in the A is off limits after happy hour ends.. Its like you can see the crowd begin to change and the later it gets the younger the crowd gets..

Professor

April 23rd, 2010
9:44 am

Hola!

I would be lying if I said I did not notice age, male/female ratio, and race when I am on the scene. However it is not a big deal to me. It is almost like I take a quick look around and the snapshot is quickly put away. The reason I don’t think about this is because one:

1. I would like to believe that “the party didn’t start until I walked in.” :grin:

2. Using a bit of Drake in a different context, I feel like “I am the best” so I really don’t worry about others.

3. I am there to have a funky good time, so if I am there I am going to make the best of it especially if I am wearing my nice heels and “go get’um dress.” Why waste a good outfit and smell good? :grin:

4. I’ve learned that this is the skin, body and soul that I will have with me at all times so I best get used to being with me. With that said I don’t compare myself with others. You will not hear me saying I am to old, young, hood, or upscale to be anywhere. My place is every place, and I adapt to where I am.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 23rd, 2010
9:46 am

Dreams – Royce Da 5′9″ Killed Drakes new song Over.. Yeah I think there are alot of top notch MC’s out there but Drake is almost the complete package from Music to rhymes.. His music selection is tight and his rhymes complement his music.. He’s tight and he is a real MC..

DreamsMaterialize

April 23rd, 2010
9:46 am

sorry about the thread jacking, but there are few southerners that can know about music outside of the A
I feel what you’re saying. Black Though is the truth though. He keeps his skills tight…still could rip most of these young cats. I don’t make the (mis)generalization about the south and hip hop. Some of my favorite groups/mc’s are from here…Little Brother, Outkast, Goodie, Scarface, The Justice League, Luda, Dead Prez, etc. Even this “new” cat Jay Electronica is from NO.

Luvbug

April 23rd, 2010
9:46 am

Its like you can see the crowd begin to change and the later it gets the younger the crowd gets..

DK- I know right?! Whatever happened to that curfew.

SexyCool

April 23rd, 2010
9:53 am

Much like ARed, I just go where things are goin gon that I’m interested in. I don’t give too, too much thought to the crowd (unless there is a concern about Thugnificent and his gun toting friends to show up and shout out.)

Since I bring my *Fun* (love those Dave & Busters commercials) with me everywhere I go and because I so love the life I’m living (most of the time), I am pretty much guaranteed to have a blast pretty much every-damn-day. LOL!

I have girlfriends that won’t go places if they don’t think there will be a lot of men there. and I’ve been out with girlfriends that think that if a place is not crowded they are not having fun. Double you tee eff?!?!?

AmazonRed™

April 23rd, 2010
9:53 am

DK- I know right?! Whatever happened to that curfew.

Not that young. :lol:

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
9:54 am

Professor great post honey!!!! I am with that theme!!!!!!

yall this man is in my personal space and won’t move asking me about spring cleaning, words of encouragement and having kids telling me he likes my hair……if he don’t move away I am going to scream!!!!! LMAO

AmazonRed™

April 23rd, 2010
9:55 am

The most recent “out of my element” place I went to was “Johnny’s Hideaway” ever heard of it? :lol:

This is where I learned that I am also attrative to 65 year old silver haired white men. :lol:

Professor

April 23rd, 2010
9:57 am

Lady J,

He likes you he likes you!!!

So how does he look, we might have a hook up? :grin:

SlimCutty

April 23rd, 2010
9:57 am

I’m not really into going out and smelling a mixture of alcohol AND baby’s breath ladden with milk. Those day’s are over…time for the Grown & Sexy…where you have a mixture an alcohol aroma, nice cologne, and an air of baggage to boot. lol

DreamsMaterialize

April 23rd, 2010
9:58 am

Luvbug I’m not sure where Drake stands either. Actually, I’m not really sure where anyone stands…music business can be pretty slippery. Plus you’re dealing with “artists”, and they can change emotions like the wind. lol

Dreams – Royce Da 5′9″ Killed Drakes new song Over
Yeah he was eatin’ on that joint. Royce been putting it down for The D for years too and got tons of stuff out there. Drake is a real mc, and he goes over well because he has the production and is marketable. Marketablility goes a long way in this industry.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 23rd, 2010
10:00 am

Eschelon 3stacks is my spot.. Nice grown folk crowd.. If Im going to a club..

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
10:04 am

DK it is something about that place I can’t vibe with but many love it…..

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
10:05 am

Professor he is still talking…..lol

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 23rd, 2010
10:06 am

LAdy – I can only do it for a minute.. I cant do it all night.. I cant do any spot all night.. I have to keep it moving..

Raqi...Working for The Man

April 23rd, 2010
10:06 am

Okay, where there is hiphop, I am not.

Now as for the age of the crowd, yes we most definitely try to avoid the younger crowds. My friend girls and I went to Red Sky last night. Very nice atmosphere, live music, good food. And the crowd looked to be mostly maybe 35 years and older.

Whether going out with my husband or with my friends we like to find little quaint spots that the “in crowd” avoids or don’t know about.

I am too old, yeah I said it, to be hitting up places that my oldest would frequent. And these days that would be anyplace centered around anything hiphop.

I hate it now when I go into the coffee shop the crowd is getting younger and more urban. What happened to the days when coffee was an “boring old people” drink? LOL

Folks go where they want to go, but I just hate when they are just hanging taking up seats and not taking advantage of what the place sells. Just there for the free wifi and because drinking cappuccino, frappuccino, lattes and mochas are the latest fads now.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 23rd, 2010
10:07 am

Dreams – Honestly I like Del The Funky Homosapien especially on that DELTRON 3030.. Whoa..

Lady J-Gone Baby Go, Don't be long-I can't wait to see what you DO!!!!

April 23rd, 2010
10:08 am

yeah DK after HH the crowd becomes so random it loses me quick! LOL

Professor

April 23rd, 2010
10:09 am

Lady J,

Is he cute? Tall or short? What is he talking about now? He need to buy you a mimosa coffee with all that talking.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 23rd, 2010
10:09 am

RAqi – thats me.. I only frequent small quaint nice ambianced spots.. U know where everything is Fantastical..

AmazonRed™

April 23rd, 2010
10:11 am

I hate it now when I go into the coffee shop the crowd is getting younger and more urban. What happened to the days when coffee was an “boring old people” drink? LOL

The jr. high school set grew up on brew. Now that’s their after school spot. College kids love it after hours. Crazy.

I never touched coffee til I was an adult. Even now I can’t get into it unless it’s loaded with a flavored syrup and some milk!