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Reaction to the ‘Nightline’ debate on successful black women’s romantic woes

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Sherri Shepard (left) and VH1 star Jacque Reid represented for the ladies on ABC ‘Nightlline: Face-Off” debate, ‘Why can't a successful black woman find a man?’, It was taped earlier this month (April 2010) in Decatur, Ga (ABC/Guy D'Alema)

I hoped you watched ABC’s Nightline last night! I always find it fascinating how much production goes into a piece that airs. Of course, they have to edit a great deal but I think they highlighted the key points of the discussion!  The debate that aired last night hit on a couple of interesting points.

I recall Hill Harper saying that 95% of professional women want the top 5% of men who they see as their counterparts.  I have my oh so brilliant Love Squad on deck to answer our own face-off questions:

Is it a misconception that Atlanta women are looking for highly educated, successful men?  Or is there a grain of truth to this? Considering the many single professional black women I know and meet in the city,  I honestly can not think of many that only date corporate/executive, pro ball players. What do you think?

Bren Herrera, 30, Atlanta. Education:  Post-Graduate.  Industry: Entertainment

“I’ve seen a plethora of women that seek that prototypical man–the baller, the pro player, the actor, singer, etc… I’ve had conversations with these “tangibly” driven women.  Sherri underscored this point, from the other side when she mentioned the man at Home Depot whom didn’t call her back because she was on TV–he didn’t want to deal with the things he perceived come along with the entertainment personalities. As a woman, I feel her on that. At the end of the day, I’ll subscribe to the cliché: I just want a good man. A man that I can first trust at ALL times, not just when he’s behaving well. A man that extends himself, is open to learning new things and is willing to compromise. A man that goes to God for answers and not his single boys that can potentially lead him in the wrong direction (because we all know men are just as vulnerable as women are!)

Craig T. Taylor, 34.  Sandy Springs, GA. Occupation: Founder and Editorial Director of Indakno.com, LLC.

Women should not be looking for a man.  That is where they fail.  Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22.  Just make yourself available as a woman and the right man will find you.  Position is relative. I think women just generally want a “good man”.  Loyal, honest, respectful, responsible, passionate, and loves God.  What else can you ask for in a “good man”.  If a man has these traits, it does not matter if he is making 25k or 125k.  He will always be doing the BEST that he can and trying to do better.  Any person that is looking for someone to match them equally is looking for a boring relationship and may as well be with themselves.  It does not take two corporate executives to have a successful relationship.  It takes two people who love, respect, and has an undeniable passion about each other to make it work.

Dr. Tartt responds to my Love Squad question: Do you believe there are special hurdles Atlanta professionals face in finding a partner?

Your turn to weigh in my insightful readers: Professional Atlanta singles certainly enjoy the good life, but have we lost sight of what is truly important like family, raising healthy children, and building good relationships?

925 comments Add your comment

hotlanta

April 22nd, 2010
7:45 am

This topic is as racist as it can be and has been talked about to death. Where is the seminars about white woman on how they meet men they don’t know and marry them within 24 hours. I saw this last night while watching Extra where this woman was proposed to on “The Bachelor”, they didn’t get married but she found some guy she had known for only 24 hours and married him. Brtittany Spears as well married some guy and it lasted a week and she also married K-Fed when she knew that Shar Jackson was carrying his child. Where is the seminar about white women moral and value system. First black women were criticized for having too many babies and ot getting married. Now they are way ahead of black men in obtaining degrees, having less kids and getting criticized for it as if they have to APOLOGIZE for it. Our ancestors fought for them to get an education and live well and because they are not married it is as if they are being punished for it. Steve Harvey needs to sit his chrome dome, Cab Calloway suit wearing,serial married behind down.What is wrong with single folks enjoying the good life. It seems that once a person get married and have kids it is all gone. The reason why black women work hard at taking care of ourselves because we have seen tooooo many of our mothers, grandmothers and aunts who have been with a man for years and if he dies or leave the house they are left with nothing. A lot of them didn’t know how to take care of themselves becase they let thiis man handle everything. Yes I raised my daughters to be smart, intelligent women, take care of themselves to be a PRODUCTIVE member of society and they/I do not make any apologies for me. A smart man WANTS a smart woman. Ask Stedman.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
8:01 am

Steve Harvey needs to sit his chrome dome, Cab Calloway suit wearing,serial married behind down

:lol: that made me laugh out loud

I didn’t watch so I’ll probably sit back on this one.

anonymousella

April 22nd, 2010
8:02 am

95% of professional women want the same 5% of men. But those professional women are maybe 7% of all black women. 43% of black women aren’t married. I promise you most of those women are not degreed-up and holding desk jobs.

Secondly: why *shouldn’t* an educated person want the same? Rare is the society where people of different statuses partner up. Commonality is the basis for a strong relationship. And no, race isn’t enough in common. Seriously: outside of sports and entertainment, how many people do you know married up or down? All of the married people I know married within their class and I am about to.

I can’t see how or why black women are expected or bashed, even, for doing so.

That said, I think many “successful” sisters prioritized education and career at the expense of manhunting. At 35, it is hard to find a single black man who doesn’t have ex-wife and/or kids baggage. So, I think many black women are opting out of marriage because they are not feeling the pool.

(Aside: It is hard out here for an atheist.)

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
8:06 am

Good Morning All,Chanting… I will not hijack the topic..I will not hijack the topic…

I do not believe that professional singles have lost sight of anything. I think there are those singles who’s sights are set in a different direction. Yes family is important, building relationships.. important…but as a parent I would never tell anyone they must have..or they should have a child or get married to truly be intuned with what is really important in life. Rule #1..What is good for one..is not always good for all. We really have to stop trying to put folks into these neat little boxes and expecting everyone to conform.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
8:08 am

LOL @ anonymousella

Andrea

April 22nd, 2010
8:19 am

Hotlanta nailed it. This show was one of the stupidest displays of foolishness I have seen in a long time. And yes, Steve needs to sit down somewhere!

firstborn40

April 22nd, 2010
8:22 am

my exeperience in reference to the dating scene in atlanta for single women 40 – 60 years old is that it almost doesn’t exisits at least it doesn’t for me and my friends, we are easy on the eyes range from 48 – 50 (don’t look our age), are fun and cool chicks (not cougars!) to be around.

there are more times than not that we go out clubbing and can’t even get a conversation from guys. how are you going to move towards anything if we aren’t even communicating! some men seem to be back on the scheme of how many knotches they can put on their bed post…they aren’t interested in your well being, just how well you can be in bed.

i would have thought that men in this age bracket would have gotten it by now, some are caught up on the “gold digger” syndrome thinking that all a woman wants to do is get in his pocket…but what is it that he wants to do…within LESS than 24 hours of meeting you and then wants to complain if you ask him for anything…

i would think at this age that men would be looking for someone to spend the rest of their lives with. they wait until they have health problems and are older to want to settle with someone…or have them as a constant love toy…

i am not opposed to meeting men online, but they too flake out after a while…who knows what the motives of men are! they say they want a strong woman, one who cares, one who has their back, but they dont’ recognize it when they see it, and they don’t take time to nuture relationships to further find out…it is all a flash in the bucket and the hot and heavy telephone calling will last about a week or less and then you dont’ hear anything from them….

i can’t tell you what the answer is in this great divide…but i wish that men who are looking for a relationship with someone who is down to earth, open, passionate, and intelligent…please tell me where to find you!

firstborn40

April 22nd, 2010
8:25 am

wanted to clarify…clubs aren’t the only interactions we have….church, community events, festivals, etc. we vary venues – the interests just doesn’t seem to be there from men…

DSP

April 22nd, 2010
8:25 am

I agree with “anonymousella”. People who are educated do not
use terms like “degreed up”. Postsecondary education in this
country is becoming a joke, and anyone who is assisting in
this degredation, regardless of gender or race, needs to be
called on it. In a previous forum, there were all of these so-
called “educated” professionals talking about themselves, and
you should have seen all of the spelling errors in their posts.

Morrus

April 22nd, 2010
8:27 am

Vote out the incumbents and start over

24karatga

April 22nd, 2010
8:28 am

I agree with everyone so far. and I am glad that I am early responding on this posting..
I am soooo over this topic. There are far more other important issues in the media..this is so racist….Why are they talking about Black women not finding Black men..successful. The term successful is interesting in its self. We are all successful if we graduated from high school, college..own a home.. financially stable. THese are accomplishments many of our grandparents never were able to experience. Its not anything special anymore…it is just the way of life, these are things we must do.
Besides that..Steve…you are not the Love Guru and anyone that continues to follow your ” way of doing things” will never get married. PPl have to stop saying I and me..I will admit there are times in life where you overindulge in your career…but dont take too long because you may end up like Jacque….older..lonely..not married without children.. desprately seeking all these things at almost 40. Looking back at your life…you may be a little sad. I am only 26 and my parents have been married for 44 years, women who are successful throw it around. Remember when women didnt like men who
“bragged” about their accomplishments,well it is the same the other way around. Even on the segment, Sherri said she told the guy she met what she did..On TV…Strike 1…I knew he wasnt going to call after she said that !
But in conclusion I am not buying this crap. Half of the women in the audience were overweight..excessive weave wearing women. If you dont want a partner who has a ” belly” then go to the gym and work on your physique..and there is nothing wrong with a few extensions but allow your natural beauty to show.

DSP

April 22nd, 2010
8:28 am

BTW – This new type of “subject” in the AA community
qualifies as a new genre – “R3 reality TV”.

R3 = Religious Racist Rhetoric.

DSP

April 22nd, 2010
8:31 am

24karatga @ 8:28 am – Ditto for myself. I didn’t
wach a SECOND of this mess. Nightline has gone
downhill with the departure of Ted Koppel.

DSP

April 22nd, 2010
8:31 am

Excuse me – I meant “watch”. Typo.

Open Minded Male

April 22nd, 2010
8:32 am

Have y’all considered dating white guys or asian guys or hispanic guys or indian guys? That possibility is completely missing from this discussion. You never know what you might find if you keep an open mind. Just a though, ladies. :-)

Lady J-all over the place

April 22nd, 2010
8:32 am

I didn’t watch it………no comment for the topic either…….I am having a very random morning and this weekend looks like it will be random as well…….how bout where ever the wind blows kind of mood…… :)

Hey PK!!!! Good Morning All!

I have this mifi wifi hotspot connection and I am confused as why it won’t connect to my laptop…..I am by a school, hospital, and college and it won’t pick up any wireless signals…….sigh! LOL

Lady J-all over the place

April 22nd, 2010
8:34 am

Open minded male my conversations with white guys here recently have become lighter meaning I am not seeing color throughout the conversation and I was like WOW he is good people to chat with….It was once upon a time thinking of a white male would make my skin crawl….now have I embraced dating one not sure but the convo has gotten better….go figure! LOL

William

April 22nd, 2010
8:36 am

I can not help but think that the 5% of men that these professional women want are players. Why wouldnt they be players. They can pick and choose. I would. Why get married when my bedroom would never be empty with educated good looking sex partners.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
8:37 am

hotlanta you said it best, I agree and you added some great jokes in chrome dome…lol :grin:

Hola everybody!

The Truth

April 22nd, 2010
8:38 am

The reason why most black women aren’t married is because they’re nutty as squirrel poop. True, black women have to take alot off of black men, but they let the 30% of the black men that aren’t any good mess it up for the 70% that are. Plus, black women are TOO PICKY. There’s nothing wrong with having expectations from a man, but wanting a man that’s better than you is unrealistic. It doesn’t matter anyway, cause all the wrong kind of men attact the black women anyway, with the women expecting they can change him anyway

Po Blackman

April 22nd, 2010
8:38 am

It is funny that all I see is hate. I was married to a blackwoman that thought I had to live by her rules. She wanted to be the man in the relationship. I am not saying that I am perfect. But you know nobody’s perfect but when you have your love of your life always putting down your family and all of your friends or just get mad at the smallest things. It is hard to live a happy life. That is all we want. My ex made more than I did but thought all my money should go to make her happy and her money was to make her happy. So I guess that I was to be broke and be a mild and meek person but she could do what ever she wanted and I could not say anything. That is why I am giving up on women. All of them and just make myself happy………..

Lady J-all over the place

April 22nd, 2010
8:38 am

hey professor!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
8:39 am

Open Minded Male Pardon me, but what is your race?

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
8:40 am

“…some men seem to be back on the scheme of how many knotches they can put on their bed post…they aren’t interested in your well being”

And since Atlanta is the “thirsty chic” capitol of the world, these men know they can act like that.

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
8:41 am

I find it amusing that in this town,there are women complaining that they can’t find suitable men……I happen to be an educated Black man,42 years old and divorced ( 2years) after 16 years of marriage. I have two wonderful children and a 6 figure income, but often get dimissed by these ‘high quailty” women because I place my children and their needs first in my life…. I am starting to believe that the problem these women are having begins and ends in the mirror….

Open Minded Male

April 22nd, 2010
8:42 am

I’m white.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
8:42 am

Hey Lady J!

I will probably lurk a little I was tired of this topic last year, last month, last week, yesterday and now we get a re-play, are you kidding me??? :???: :roll: :evil: :roll: :???: :evil:

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
8:43 am

Hey Lady J!

Lil mama has her first teeball game Saturday, she doing great so far, they put her in the line up to bat clean up, and she is handling first base with ease.

Okay, now back to the topic LOL

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
8:43 am

“People who are educated do not use terms like “degreed up”.”

Says the clown who just lambasted “educated people” for their typos on blogs (gotta love the spell-check police) yet commits the same atrosity just a few posts later. Mmmm hmmm

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
8:43 am

I will probably lurk a little I was tired of this topic last year, last month, last week, yesterday and now we get a re-play, are you kidding me???

exxxxxxactly!

Ralph Ferguson

April 22nd, 2010
8:44 am

I don’t think most Black Women want a good black man. I think they want what they want when they want, how they want it and when they get tired of it they want to discard it.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
8:45 am

@Open Minded Male-Thanks for answering and welcome to the blog! BTW to answer your question about dating outside of the race. I actually attract plenty of men in general all races. To be honest in college males of certain races turned me off because they were more persistant. What I try to do is look at the person and not the race, however that is difficult to do in the south.

:grin:

Be Real

April 22nd, 2010
8:46 am

Black women need to do what black men are doing; date outside of the race. There are not enough black men for every black woman. It’s just that simple. Enough of these waste of time forums on the obvious.

AtlBlkMan

April 22nd, 2010
8:47 am

This topic is a joke. I watched last night. Sherri Shepard? For real? As big as she is? I doubt Hill would actually go out with her, you saw his reaction when she said they were in the same place and how about now? The women in the audience? Overweight with fake hair and nails. Maybe if you spent less time at the table and nail salon and more time in the gym, you might at least be able to attract a Man. As a poster stated earlier, don’t be an Atheist, you are just about shut out. I love how Black folks are all about the Church and God’s Blessings yet we as a people have some of the highest out of wedlock births, highest incarceration rates, unemployment numbers and yet we keep thinking God will find a way for us. Ever notice in Atlanta that the person with the nicest suits, cars and homes and bank account seems to always be the Pastor? Doesn’t anyone find that just a little strange?

LivingWellDCH

April 22nd, 2010
8:49 am

That show was was ridiculous. It made a mockery of a serious discussion. First of all, Steve Harvey is not an “expert” on [whatever he self-appointed himself to be an expert on--male relationships/male psyche?]. Secondly, there were a few comedians gabbing and also, for “Nightline”–a NEWS program–to do such a poor, light treatment was journalistically lacking.

IF they were only going to show a 30 minute segment, it should have highlighted pertinent facts and stats, not what they showed, which was almost minstrel. Sherri and weaves? c’mon now. There are education inequities, down-low brothers, colorism issues. Black women mostly just want men to be men–good fathers, husbands, loving, etc.

And that “israel” guy (who wrote the Denzel principle”) is part of the issue: he’s on a national news program and he shows up dressed like a hoodrat. Who wants a “man” who dresses like that or doesn’t have the sense to at least put on a sports coat and nice slacks?

Terrible treatment and journalistically useless waste of air time. More later. This topic will be better explored in ‘Living Well Despite Catchin’ H***’…an upcoming book that REALLY deals with all of Black women’s concerns–health and social issues. And celebrates how many Black women ARE living well, in spite of… Written by same author of the previous AJC article “Single and looking beats empty marriage.”

As a 50+ Black women–now engaged to be married [yippee!!]–it is an important topic; too bad ABC News [likely] gave in to Harvey and gave it such a BET-like treatment for all the world to see.

Open Minded Male

April 22nd, 2010
8:50 am

Professor:
You have to look in the right places. I’m from Georgia–born and raised. I know a lot of men like me. (I have a professional degree. And a girlfriend, by the way. But I’m interested in this topic.) I’m also a Republican! Does that make your head spin?!?! :)

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
8:50 am

Maybe it is me, but it appears that this topic has brought out all the chumps and riff raff. I see this is going to be troll nation.

@Hey Princess I know Lil Princess is going to have a great game. Are you one of those moms that will have on a shirt saying “Little Princess Mother?” :grin:

@Lady J why are you all over the place?

BeBe KID

April 22nd, 2010
8:51 am

Many black men, many of them professional black men are so shell shocked from negative experiences with black women they adapt to a survival strategy of self preservation and so do many black women who have had an equal number of bad experiences. The adaptation to this self preservation survival strategy often leads to toxic relationships; who can out wit who gaining more than giving or at least breaking even. Money for booty or booty for money is often the end result. No relationships of substance come out of this mentality. This is why escort services and strip clubs are popular with many men. Many black men will pay up front for what they ultimately want amd many black women will get paid for what they feel they are entitled to.

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
8:52 am

AtlBlkMan

April 22nd, 2010
8:47 am

I need to co-sign on this post, but then I risk being told that “Bishop Long is a good man” and that I am going to hell for questioning him!!! LOL :)

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
8:54 am

But I’m interested in this topic.

So, why does this topic interest you? BTW, Georgia is a Republican state so I would imagine most of the state is Republican. No, my head is not spinning yet. :grin:

Justin Credible

April 22nd, 2010
8:54 am

LOL@ 24karatga….I agree 110%. A lot of the women were overweight with excessive weaveness going on. If you want your man to look appealing, why can’t you at least make a valiant effort to do the same? With that said…One reason why a sucessfull woman can’t find a man is because of their long laundry list of what a man should be/have. Some women may have close to 50 things on her “things she wants in a man” list. Sometimes a woman’s standards/expectations can be too high. Why not take 10 (important) must-haves out? Secondly, try approaching a man yourself or become more approachable. There’s nothing wrong with saying hello or sparking a conversation sometimes. Some men do like it when you’re semi-agressive or show some initiative. Or…at least don’t be in a group of 6 women expecting him to come talk. Its probably not going to happen. But if your you’re alone or with one other friend, may eye contact and smile…its not that hard. Just being real…you can thank me later.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
8:54 am

Are you one of those moms that will have on a shirt saying “Little Princess Mother?”

@ Professor,
Afraid not LOL, of course she looks like mini me so it won’t be a question of who she belongs to. I’ll save that shirt for cheerleading and gymnastics ;)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
8:55 am

I hoped you watched ABC’s Nightline last night!

Why WiseDiva? I certainly did not watch. And I don’t see why I’d be encouraged to either.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
8:55 am

I don’t need someone to tell me how to find a good black man. I need make sure that I’m doing everything that I can to have a successful relationship with the one I’ve got.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
8:56 am

AYG

April 22nd, 2010
8:57 am

On Spetember 17, 2000, the AJC ran an article entitled, ” Black Women’s Discontent.” The article featured married, single and dating African American women as well as scholars from around the city discussing this same topic. When is it ever going to end. I was featured in the article. Am I married – no. Do I feel that there are not any good men out there – no. Has my opinion changed since the article was published – no. Do want a special man in my life- certainly I do but if I continue to entertain this never ending discussion that leads to doom and gloom in the lives of so many professional women I will play into the sterotype of bad attitude and bitter sister. Enjoy life and like will be attracted to like.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
8:59 am

Have y’all considered dating white guys or asian guys or hispanic guys or indian guys?

Atlanta is over 60% black and I live in the city. It’s rather easy to meet black men here.

Would I consider it? Yes. But with the places I frequent, and the segregationalist attitude of the city, I really don’t meet many people of other races, let alone have them step to me.

LivingWellDCH

April 22nd, 2010
8:59 am

And yes…Black women need to expand their social horizon: be open to dating White men. Some White men want to date Black women but they feel they might get rejected if they approach them. With Black male numbers low, Black women need to be open to widening their net. There are good Black men out there, but there are also good White men (and others). The anger between Black men and women needs to quell; but i do feel that since Black women are the ones who mostly support the Black church, and are mostly raising the kids (stop having babies out of wedlock, ladies), and mostly graduating college, more Black men need to be committed to their manhood, and not just their trying to get some. Be a man. Step up, brothers. get an education, speak English, return to a sense of family values and family structure. Hip-hop and rap, baggy pants, poor language skills…all these things are adverse to the advancement of people, the race and family structure.

LivingWellDCH

April 22nd, 2010
9:00 am

That show was was ridiculous. It made a mockery of a serious discussion. First of all, Steve Harvey is not an “expert” on [whatever he self-appointed himself to be an expert on--male relationships/male psyche?]. Secondly, there were a few comedians gabbing and also, for “Nightline”–a NEWS program–to do such a poor, light treatment was journalistically lacking.

IF they were only going to show a 30 minute segment, it should have highlighted pertinent facts and stats, not what they showed, which was almost minstrel.

And that “israel” guy (who wrote the Denzel principle”) is part of the issue: he’s on a national news program and he shows up dressed like a hoodrat. Who wants a “man” who dresses like that or doesn’t have the sense to at least put on a sports coat and nice slacks?

Terrible treatment and journalistically useless waste of air time. More later. This topic will be better explored in Living Well Despite Catchin’ Hell…an upcoming book that REALLY deals with all of Black women’s concerns–health and social issues. And celebrates how many Black women ARE living well, in spite of… Written by same author of the previous AJC article “Single and looking beats empty marriage.”

As a 50+ Black women–now engaged to be married [yippee!!]–it is an important topic; too bad ABC News [likely] gave in to Harvey and gave it such a BET-like treatment for all the world to see.

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
9:00 am

I stumbled upon this ‘blog’ and will comment based on my experience from meeting/dating both American and latina women (knowing some here, most overseas).

1. We should not be specifying just Atlanta as the issue but “metro” areas in general.

2. Yes, I do get the impression that too many “professional” women are looking for Mr. Big, with the expensive car and (at least for a while) the high-rolling life. I’m sure there are women who are not superficial like that and just want a nice, responsibile man. Where are they?

However, if you look at dating websites and personal ads, even not particularly successful women have a page-long laundry list of “I want this..” and “I want that….” Knowing full well when I’m out-and-about, I see and hear women only desiring Mr. Big. So the impression given can be that the women only want the superficial things, not necessarily the right things.

3. I find it interesting that this subject ignores the possibility of dating any white or latino men. Why is that? I find it hard to accept complaints when you’re still picking from the same batch of men, with little success, then complaining about the results.

I’m a pretty well educated guy and a gentleman, but really just don’t want to deal with any more games from some women here. Personally I found non-Americanized latina women to be far more down to earth and “Ms. Right” than metro city women (like in Atlanta).

However I would not object to dating a nice, respectable black lady who has her act together. She would not have to be successful monetarily but a positive, loving women who doesn’t act like a teenager and can provide great sex.

I get the impression sometimes it just isn’t worth it for guys who have more worldly experience to even bother with women around here. After relationships with women from other countries I don’t think I would go back. Why would I?

Women have it a lot harder in foreign countries and just want a good, non-abusive and honest man who’ll treat them right; they don’t demand he’s an all-star NFL quarterback and drives a Porsche.

It’s unfortunate that all the teenage-mentality women in Atlanta give the wrong impression about their group in general. I’m white, so I readily see the nonsense from some girls who are from the “white bread, suburban living” world and it turns me off.

Unfortunate that the lame ducks seem to be ruining for the rest.

Just my $.02.

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
9:01 am

Since moving to Atlanta from the west coast four years ago, I have met three types of women and three types of men: The high-n-mighty, faux Hollywood, “here, let me give you my card” types. The “I’m single and desperate (women)” types, and the few and far in between, down-to-earth folk who just want to have a good time. I run in various circles and I’ve seen more thirsty chics than I care to count in this here city. These are the women who are “degreed-up” and will fix a man, any man, up for the sake of proclaiming “I have a man!” I’ve met the high maintenance chics who won’t settle for less than a baller, but chances are this baller they’re after is faking the funk like everyone else. As someone who is from the real-deal Hollywood, it saddened me to get to the south and see the comfort and hospitality that it’s lauded for nearly non existent. I suppose we transplants are to blame.

I’m thankful to have a good man. A good, black man. :-) And if it’s not meant for us to be together til the end of our days I’m confident that there’s someone else out there who can provide what I seek in a companion. I’m not afraid of being single; I was for many years with no problem. I understand that nobody wants to be alone, but for many of us, it really isn’t an issue. If you lead a fulfilling life you’re never really alone anyway. So spare this successful, black woman the woe is me diatribe. I’m good :-)

Open Minded Male

April 22nd, 2010
9:01 am

Professor:
I’m interested because I think that people of all kinds get stuck thinking “in a rut.” And when you’re in a rut, you hit the same problems over and over. Just trying to contribute my two-cents. That’s all! :)

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:02 am

The ability to compromise is a strength not a weakness

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
9:03 am

but often get dimissed by these ‘high quailty” women because I place my children and their needs first in my life….

You’d probably have a problem if you came 2nd or 3rd in her life… perhaps try to find a better balance. Not saying you need to neglect your children.

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
9:03 am

I felt compelled to post this as well. I love how Jam Donaldson summed up this topic. PLEASE check it out, hopefully it will survive the blog monster: http://www.conversateisnotaword.com/?s=he%27s+not+intimidated

making moves

April 22nd, 2010
9:04 am

Good morning all… I was not even aware that this was on the air last night. I am actually glad I didn’t know about. Frankly, I am sick and tired about hearing how hard it is for a black woman much less a successful black women to find a man.

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:06 am

I didn’t watch because I feel like my girlfriend’s and I have already exhausted this topic. I have learned that as a single woman here in Atlanta, success is a relative term. For me, it means that you have set goals for yourself and that you have accomplished them. Now it’s up to me to determine if those goals fit into my life style and the things that I deem important.

I feel like ppl keep talking about this topic without offering up any solutions, myself included. I just don’t know where to begin.

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
9:07 am

that leads to doom and gloom in the lives of so many professional women I will play into the sterotype of bad attitude and bitter sister.

Why would you choose to be bitter and with a bad attitude? How does this help anything?

Sorry but this bitter, bad attitude is precisely why I wouldn’t say hello and ask you out for dinner sometime. Why would I? Why would I want to deal with a women who gives appearances that she doesn’t want to be bothered, when there are nice girls out there somewhere?

When what you’re doing isn’t working, you have change what you’re doing. Otherwise, generally expect the same results.

hrw

April 22nd, 2010
9:07 am

This subject touched off a fire-cracker in women and men opinions. This subject should never come up because opinions are very well debated and there is no way to solve this issue. Mr. Harper, Harvey Reed etc., all have their own opinions but these are merely self-imposed upon thousands who watched this program. It is good to have successful women,men as well…what is the big problem is accepting the honest facts that there are good black men/women within these United States; being on top or having this and that has not accomplished anything because you can’t take none of this material things with you to your grave. If we are not honest with ourselves as human beings successful or not; we really are not looking for a black man. I read the word “Diva,” those who claim they they are divas are fooling themselves because everybody is looked as a man or woman regardless how successful you are or no matter who you are, you are still looked on as a woman/man you might have money but you money is he same as everybody else. Let’s stop fooling ourselves, we live in a world that has fooled all of us into thinking we are better than the other; and we are not! You can claim to be a Diva, or a playboy, but you are still searching or looking for some type of happiness. The successful black woman really is not looking for a black man because she is afraid she will lose what she has worked hard for so many years and she is afraid of losing it in a relationship be it marriage or some other ways. That is my account of this whole thing, and Steve Harvey needs to (really) shut his mouth because he is not perfect nor is he right on many subject; he just got people thinking he is better than other by him being involved in nos many things; he has many of you fooled. He has some things about himself that he needs to really work on. I hears he use God so many times on his show, and yet, he stand on stage and cuss, say all sort of things to those in the facilities he perform in. He is a two-face person using God/and cussing at the same time!

Artful Persuasion

April 22nd, 2010
9:07 am

COME ON PEOPLE!!!!!

Black women are pilloried to the point of absurdity. “Professional black women find it hard to find professional black men with whom to form a relationship and ultimately marry.” That sounds like a problem with black men, not black women. Black men should think more along the lines of educating themselves at higher rates instead of just sitting around “dreaming” about becoming some sort of fantastic entertainer or sports player. Ten million men vying for those positions, ten positions available. Puh-leeze! (Disclaimer: This statement does NOT form a blanket over all black men.)

I can’t think of one professional black woman who wasn’t raised by her mother to “have her own.” This advice comes from generations of black women who endured abuse and financial neglect from men who did one or multiple of the following: 1. spend the family money to take care of other women 2. create other children outside of the marriage 3. physically, emotionally, and verbally abuse his significant other 4. downright neglect to take care of the family at all. Through these types of phenomena, black mothers and grandmothers talked to their daughters and granddaughters and told them to prepare themselves professionally and financially so they wouldn’t become victims of these types of abuses. Black women have changed for the better. We’re not going back. Too many black men have not changed for the better; ergo, when black men and women do marry, and the men commit these abuses, black women PFD (Prepare for Divorce). (Note: PFD begins when the pleading ends.)

Too many black men find themselves among undesirable statistics such as high school drop out rates, incarceration rates, chronically unemployment rates, etc….Now are these items endemic of all black men? NO…..There are also black women who are extremely trifling. To black men, though, these women are Kryptonite. Black men don’t want trifling black women either unless of course the black men are just like them. (In those cases that’s what we biblically deem…”Equally Yoked”).

Although this may sound facetious, the only women who get a free pass to marry a professional black without the benefit of a degree are white nannies, strippers, waitresses and bartenders. Think of all the professional black men who are married to black women. Aren’t all the black women professionals also? Now think of the professional black men who are married to white women. “Dey gone gimme some cute chillun.” (Not always brotha).

Black women: Keep your heads up! Keep making progress! Keep your standards! And most importantly…Keep your sanity! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being beautiful, smart, vivacious, articulate, grounded, and well-rounded. And by all means…find yourself a man who appreciates you…Appreciation has no color limitations! (Of course now….ain’t nuthin’ wrong with those fine Puerto Rican brothas out there working hard and whispering a few sweet nothings in Spanish in your ears…See…..Um Yeah!)

Tootles

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:09 am

**Sigh** Someone come get me when we get back on football or sex or any other topic but this..I am really not in for a bash the black woman session today.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:09 am

Black women: Keep your heads up! Keep making progress! Keep your standards! And most importantly…Keep your sanity! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being beautiful, smart, vivacious, articulate, grounded, and well-rounded. And by all means…find yourself a man who appreciates you…

AMEN!

Now passing the plate to the right

24karatga

April 22nd, 2010
9:09 am

OKay ATLBLKMAN..you are on point !! I agree with you and I am a southern lady and I love to eat ” good” food…But I work it off. Most of those women in the audience were overweight and ” dolled” up. Fake nails, eyelashes..18 inch weaves cmon…
I think women now boast too much…No one cares that you have a Master’s Degree who doesn’t now…It does not matter, no need to broadcast it. There are many younger black men who are not in college.. but are they marriage material anyway- they are out their having “fun”. I tell every guy I meet..yes I went to college , no I didn’t pledge..no need to say oh this and that…especialy in the initial conversation. If we get to know each other eventually you will see this information from being around each other.
Whew…Steve please stop fooling ppl! I blame it on Essence Magazine !!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
9:09 am

Professor you are starting early with the jokes!!!! LOL I am good now just having technical difficulties!!!!! LOL (New Laptop a sistah don’t know how to act and I am not shame to say wireless connectivity is NEW to me) HA! LOL

PK awwwwww you will be a proud monny when you see your lil angel compete!!!! Enjoy that game!!! :)

24karatga

April 22nd, 2010
9:12 am

@ Artful..yes mamm..there are some “dreamers”.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
9:13 am

Dirty Censor Word for the week – “Successful Black Woman.”

MorePreciousThanRubies

April 22nd, 2010
9:14 am

I feel that the show did NOT touch on several areas of why the marriage rate is so low in the black community. I feel that a lot black men DO NOT VALUE MARRIAGE. The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 that “a man who finds a wife finds a GOOD THING and has FAVOR with the Lord.” I think most black men have never heard this scripture and if they have heard it then they do NOT believe it. I see black women everywhere who want to get married but the men do not want to get married. I feel that most black men do not want to live a GODLY LIFESTYLE within the confines of marriage. Why have one woman for 50+ years when they can have 20 different ones every week??? I think that the “sexual revolution of the 60s” and pre-marital sex has got us to this place where black men don’t want to marry. If every woman refused to have sex until marriage then men everywhere would be “jumping the broom!!!” But if I tell a man that I want to wait until marriage to have sex—he does not care—he just moves on to the next 15 women who will and he totally disregards me and my desires. And maybe the decline in marriage is just the scriptures coming true. 1st Timothy 4:3 says that in the final days people will “forbid to marry.”

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:14 am

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
9:03 am

While I understand your point, I can’t agree…. Why would a women ever want to deal with a man that does not value his children first and formost???? I am curious as to how women respond when men expect them to take time away from the children to do things with them?

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

“Black women need to do what black men are doing; date outside of the race. There are not enough black men for every black woman. It’s just that simple. Enough of these waste of time forums on the obvious.”

Yeah, and then there’s this. While I agree with your notion that black women should expand their options, it’s such a simplistic, and in my opinion, unrealistic solution. Black women are loyal creatures. Besides Asian men, we are least likely to date outside of our race.

Black men receive advances by women of all races. They know this, and use it to their advantage. The reasons vary, but this is an area black men of different statures are having success with. These women are willing to be disowned by their families in the name of love (or good sex, whatever have you). If we can be honest for just a moment, black women by and large are not having the same “luck” with non-black men. At least not on the scale that black men are having with non-black women.

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

Simple Man!!! Money is not a measure of success to me. I applaud you for putting you children first. My problem with your situation is that if I didn’t come into the relationship with kids I don’t want you to either. What if I don’t want children? That doesn’t make me picky, that just means you’re not the one for me.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:17 am

Some White men want to date Black women but they feel they might get rejected if they approach them.

On the flip side of that, as stated here on this very blog by a white man. Many white men are looking for the AA experience to check off their list

@ Open Minded Male- Hmmm I would say as a BW I don’t feel that I am stuck in a rut, however I don’t speak for my entire race or gender. Nor would I expect you to speak on behalf of all white men. However I feel this is something that the media has done, and has little to do with the BW.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:17 am

@Simple Man!!

I am curious as to how women respond when men expect them to take time away from the children to do things with them?

perhaps you should go back to the topic from the other day “single parent dating” a lot was covered from both sides of this coin.

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
9:17 am

How many non-black men consider black women the standard of beauty, or even desirable? Hell some of our own men would leap over 5 beautiful sisters in favor of the average-looking “other” chic.

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:18 am

PrincessNik @ 9:09, You said it!!!!

Poor people stink

April 22nd, 2010
9:19 am

Black women can’t find a black man b/c black men are too busy chasing fat red headed white women.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:20 am

Tiff Taff

I was just repeating what Artful Persuasion said, cause it sure needed repeating.

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
9:20 am

BeBeKid@ 8:51- don’t forget sex trips to Brazil and the Dominican Republic… to feel like a king. You are spot on, though.

Ricky

April 22nd, 2010
9:21 am

I notice people love to quote the “a man who findeth a wife” scripture as they use that to tell women they should NOT LOOK for a man. That scripture didn’t say men should look for a wife either. We have made relationships and seeking relationships OUR GOD, our FALSE IDOL…and God does not like that. Then one will say, “if you do not look, you cannot find” and that is absolutely FALSE. You can NOT be looking for money but you often have found a quarter, a dollar bill [once I actually found 75 bucks in the street, kid you not] – I was NOT LOOKING but I did find it.

So people should just really leave the scripture alone because I believe they have it misconstrued like they do so many other things in life.

Matt

April 22nd, 2010
9:23 am

Good everyonemorning,

First of all let me start by saying that I did not seen the special last night, I think that everyone needs to take a step back and realize that we are living in different times as were our parents. I think that it is hard to find a mate or that someone special in your life when you have been grinding trying to make a decent living with the cost of living skyrocketing. I am behind women being independant, but where in life is the rule stating that everone has to be married or that black women are desperate to get married I know some women would like to be in that position. I have been in the ATL for 16 years now, and I am single with no children and never been married and that is do to me trying to make a good living for myself and maybe this is what some of these women have been doing also. Everyone has advice and their opinion about what is or isn’t, the bottom line is you will me who is for you when it is time for them too. Grown folks don’t really hang out or run the streets so it will be hard pressed to meet some quality folks, but they do exists. I hope we all just relax on the on the pressure of relationships.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
9:23 am

Simple Man – Again, I never said that you should be neglecting your children. I said you need to look for balance. If she is always coming in 2nd to your kids, why would she be there? You should just stay single if your kids will always be the main priority. Why even have seek a mate?

Mrs. White&Black

April 22nd, 2010
9:25 am

I’m a biracial hispanic and my husband is black, been together for about 12yrs with 2boys and we’re still happy, fortunately. I have a degree he does not. What brought us together was conversation. I admit I judged him at first but once we started talking I realized how much we had in common and we just got closer and closer and here we are.I think everyone has to be open-minded just like the poster said. Please remember that race is merely a social construct and it should not be a barrier to finding happiness. I feel that as long as a man or woman love/respect each other and do not take advantage of each other, it doesn’t matter what tax bracket he/she is in or what race/ethnicity they are.

Open Minded Male

April 22nd, 2010
9:25 am

Professor:
I don’t think YOU are stuck in a rut! Sorry if what I said came off that way. I’m just saying people in general (all kinds of people) should keep an open mind.
Stereotypes are bad. Segregation is bad. It shouldn’t be tolerated.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:25 am

The reason this topic is getting old especially on the AJC blog:

1. Trolls and riff raff are coming out in record numbers.
2. It gives the impression that the BW is one lonely creature and her lack of a mate will drive the race to extinction.
3. It gives an excuse for those like tmac, and other weaklings to name call and degrade the black woman.
4. Who the hell cares? I am a BW and I don’t care this is not an epidemic!
5. This topic shows that journalism is lacking and new ideas for stories are at an all time low.

Now, who shot JR?

jackie

April 22nd, 2010
9:26 am

I think the shows are old news. We don’t need Sheree, Jackie, or Steve telling us what we already know. People or getting married and are in committed relationships outside of Atlanta. Ladies re-evaluate should you stay here or leave. Yes,leave the life-style and re-establish it somewhere else and snag the Hubby too. I am planning my move with son in tow. I deserve it and I am worthy. There’s more to this world than the ATL.

LivingWellDCH

April 22nd, 2010
9:27 am

[where's my original post?] It said…As a Black woman, a physician and an author, I was most disappointed with your treatment of the Black woman Nightline. See below–what I posted to the Atlanta newspaper’s online blog. That show was was ridiculous. It made a mockery of a serious discussion. First of all, Steve Harvey is not an “expert” on [whatever he self-appointed himself to be an expert on--male relationships/male psyche?]. Secondly, there were a few comedians gabbing and also, for “Nightline”–a NEWS program–to do such a poor, light treatment was journalistically lacking. IF they were only going to show a 30 minute segment, it should have highlighted pertinent facts and stats, not what they showed, which was almost minstrel.And that “israel” guy (who wrote the Denzel principle”) is part of the issue: he’s on a national news program and he shows up dressed like a hoodrat. Who wants a “man” who dresses like that or doesn’t have the sense to at least put on a sports coat and nice slacks?Terrible treatment and journalistically useless waste of air time. More later. This topic will be better explored in Living Well Despite Catchin’ Hell…an upcoming book that REALLY deals with all of Black women’s concerns–health and social issues. And celebrates how many Black women ARE living well, in spite of… Written by same author of the previous AJC article “Single and looking beats empty marriage.”As a 50+ Black women–now engaged to be married [yippee!!]–it is an important topic; too bad ABC News [likely] gave in to Harvey and gave it such a BET-like treatment for all the world to see.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:27 am

Now, who shot JR?

please fan me i feel faint :lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
9:27 am

I am curious as to how women respond when men expect them to take time away from the children to do things with them?

Simple Man, no parent can be with their children 100% of the time anyway. What do you think married couples do? Only spend time with each other when the kids are asleep or in school? No. You have to make time to keep your marriage strong.

You, in essence, are preparing your kids to move out and be productive citizens in the world. You taking time to cultivate a relationship that will last after they are gone is no crime.

Now if you don’t have custody, there is no problem in dating while you aren’t with your children. But even when you are with them, they will get to a point where they’ll be old enough to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around their every movement. Daddy needs a life too.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:28 am

@Professor I am loving your list lately..dead on!!! Oh by the way.. Sue Ellen’s sister..Kristen shot JR.

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
9:29 am

Yeah, I’m kinda watching it now….

But the D will reserve comment until the foolishness ends. Cause the D don’t do foolishness.

Newbie

April 22nd, 2010
9:29 am

I think the show did not get to the root cause of the problem. I think it was more of a comedy show than dialogue. I really wanted to hear Hill Harper speak about why he’s an older accomplished black man that isn’t married – what is his side of the story. I’m tired of hearing from women. Clearly, sometimes we need to be quiet and let men tell us how they feel and stop telling them how they should feel.
As a single black woman who has set goals and accomplished them, I only desire a good man with values that align with mine. Someone who fears God, has integrity and is trustworthy. I don’t have a problem dating outside my race but I have not been approached by men of other races so what am i to do?

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:29 am

Open Minded I agree stereotypes are bad.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:29 am

@Professor I am loving your list lately..dead on!!!

Professor/Kym i gotta agree!

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:30 am

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:16 am

I completely understand your position….The “instant family” thing is not for everybody. I happen to not view my situation like that as I am not a primary custodian. But this is the type of conversation that I would love tohave over dinner as part of the getting to know someone phase…But alas, on too many occasions “the list” prevents this converstion from ever happening.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:30 am

I really wanted to hear Hill Harper speak about why he’s an older accomplished black man that isn’t married – what is his side of the story.

@Newbie, i think you can find that answer in his book “The Conversation”

EleKKKKtra

April 22nd, 2010
9:31 am

I am a single black women with two children ages 14yrs and 2yrs old. I am a successful black woman who has no trouble finding good men. Believing the contrary is simply something that people set up in their minds. Some of us are single because we are selective and are not always compatible with the men we meet, not because there aren’t any good men out here. I have found that men love my confidence and intelligence. If a man can’t appreciate your mind, you don’t need him anyway, because he is definitely on your level.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:31 am

Thanks Kym BTW I been to Dallas, TX to the home where Dallas was filmed and I still didn’t know who shot him until now! :grin:

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:32 am

As a single black woman who has set goals and accomplished them, I only desire a good man with values that align with mine.

Isn’t that what its all about? :idea:

meekmeek

April 22nd, 2010
9:33 am

I am sick to death of this tired topic of the sucessful single black woman and why she isnt married or in a relationship. What does being sucessful have to do with being in a relationship with someone????? The whole aspect of dating within itself is a single and separate topic and shouldnt be co-mingled with your career. I believe that dating and relationships deal with indiviual personalities and morals. We should all strive to do our best in life and for many of us that may lead to different life paths…. with or without a partner. I am also tired of all the life advice on how to get a man, there are more important things in life to focus on then rather or not Im doing the right things the catch a man. Can we please just move on….

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:34 am

Where are:

DreamsMaterials?
I’m Swiss?
Carlito?
Infamous DK?
Randy T?

I hope somewhere together staging a blog hijack :lol:

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
9:36 am

On the flip side of that, as stated here on this very blog by a white man. Many white men are looking for the AA experience to check off their list:

I don’t think I saw anyone explicitly state they wanted to have a black experience to “check off of their list” and certainly it was not me, nor implied by me.

..don’t forget sex trips to Brazil and the Dominican Republic… to feel like a king.

This is a fact, and does happen. I have seen the Canadian, European, and USA guys in Colombia, the DR, etc. out for meeting the “working girls.”

In Colombia, I asked some girls about why they weren’t being openly friendly with the foreign guys, and they told be they didn’t wan’t others to think they were “working girls” also, as so many Italian, American, Canadian, etc. guys were there for the prostitutes.

(Colombia has a pretty good racial mix of people of different colors, and every shade in between).

However, like a lot of other guys with good intentions, I have been to the Dominican Republic to get to know a nice & pretty respectful latina woman. I knew one in Santiago, and it was one of the best things to ever happen to me. Very romantic girls! Sexy, too.

How many non-black men consider black women the standard of beauty, or even desirable?

Yes, I agree, I feel you are right. It is too bad, too. I’m originally from a small town, where blacks & whites would not accept a black girls dating a white girl, and vice versa.

I grew up to be open-minded now but honestly some of the absolutely most beautiful women I’ve ever seen were either American black ladies or Dominican, etc. And I don’t mean “supermodel” types, just really sexy respectable girls who look fantastic in jeans and a blouse, with nice hair.

Oooh! Yeah… :)

Unfortunately a lot of guys my age and social class/background simply are not open-minded about it and that right there is a whole ‘nother subject.

I will say 25% of it might be because of fear of getting a hard time from: 1. The family, 2. friends, 3. other black people. I’m not sure, maybe someone could comment…please.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
9:36 am

We have become slaves to the media monster. As we are perpetually connected to outside stimuli in the form of 24 hour news, the internet, reality shows and just bllsht in general, we are told what to think, how to act, what to wear and EVERYTHING is sensationalized to the point of crisis.

Because of this, I have a tendency to sometimes check out on current events. Because while some will argue that if you don’t know what’s going on in the world, you are somehow doing yourself a grave disservice. I can appreciate that sentiment, to a point.

But sometimes, I want to only focus on what is going on in *my* world and my immediate surroundings and it most often has little to do with the *trending topic* of the moment. And that is exactly how I see this current media phenomenon – it’s just a trend. It’s like when *down low* was the hot topic.

Next week, we will be talking about something else.

dee

April 22nd, 2010
9:37 am

This professional woman status needs to evaporate. Our grandmothers and mothers were professional women in their own environment. They reared and raised us.

A degree and job should not totally define us because we are so much more. I have seen some six figure/title promoting friends here get treated like…by husbands and I have seen my friends with highschool diplomas and do not work get treated like queens by their husbands. Yes, their husbands would make you say he’s fine too.

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
9:38 am

“black girls dating a white girl,”

Sorry, meant to say “black girls data a white guy” Oooof!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
9:38 am

LMBAO PK!!!!!!!!!

hotlanta

April 22nd, 2010
9:38 am

W/hy is it the illiusion if a black woman dated a white man she will be treated right. No thank you. I have seen enough Dateline and 20/20 to see that they cheat on their women and murder them as well. Just like a lot of white women are getting their wake up call as well by being with black men. Some of their have the illusion that once a black man meets them they have won the prize. Only to be surprised that the black man is dogging them out as well.

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:39 am

I think it’s time to stage a coup. This topic has been beat to death with no end in sight.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
9:39 am

WTH is going on up in here folks……..it almost crisis and empidemic mode!

Sexycool media slaves sums it up!!!!

brb lmao

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:39 am

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
9:27 am

You seem to be a well rounded woman that capable of being in a realtionship with a man that has multiple irons in the fire….I never said that my kids are with me all of the time, but there are some weekends when soccer games will take priority over a night at Uptown… My daughter does gymnastics, and her meets get first dibs. I would love to have a mate that understands that at 42 with children I am not as free as I was at 28 with no kids…There will always be time for adult relationships, but at this point in my life ( and I am sure this applies to alot of other people) compromise and understanding have to be in order.

Coolguy05

April 22nd, 2010
9:40 am

Why are we talking about dating outside of the race when that is not the topic at hand? this is one of the reasons for issues within the black race, we are quick to just wash our hands of it and run to another race citing there are no good black men or women left, and run to any white person that says they will treat us better. As one lady said earlier, that she has problems with men at the clubs, church, or whatever outings her and her 40-50yr old age bracket go to, my response to that is, it cant be everyone, sometime you have to look within yourself and see what it is that you are doing. It is a heck of alot of good black men out here and they are in all age ranges, no matter what white america or Steve Harvey tells you.

Ternt

April 22nd, 2010
9:40 am

White women are better anyway. Ask Sir. Charles and Tiger Woods.

Scooby Snack Jones

April 22nd, 2010
9:40 am

“anonymousella” ha ha ha lmaof!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:41 am

@Professor..girl one of my quirks..I remember lots of useless facts/figures..I tried out for Jeopardy once. Now ask me what color underwear I am wearing or where my keys are and I will have to go look.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
9:41 am

However……………as long as there are those that are making money off this topic, it will continue to hang around much like a fart in an elevator after the dude with death on his insides has gotten off on his floor.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
9:42 am

“(Aside: It is hard out here for an atheist.)”

You are not alone, anonymousella… You are not alone… ;-)

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:44 am

This topic (because I am tired of it) gives me random thoughts like:

How many folks in blogville remembers Trapper John, MD?

Who all spoke pig latin in high school, and did you feel bilingual?

Was I the only person that became sad when I heard the “Mash” or “Taxi” theme songs</em?

”If the bird in my hand is worth two in the bushes.” How in the hell did I get a bird in my hand and will it doo-key on me?

What time is lunch, and why am I thinking about it already?

Who all had a “swatch” back in the day?

Am I the only one that thinks about silly ish from time to time :???:

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
9:44 am

Half of the women in the audience were overweight..excessive weave wearing women. If you dont want a partner who has a ” belly” then go to the gym and work on your physique..and there is nothing wrong with a few extensions but allow your natural beauty to show.

:lol: :evil: :roll: :shock: :evil: :lol: :evil:

The Truth

April 22nd, 2010
9:45 am

When a woman is attractive, educated, financially independent and generally successful and STILL single, many of us start to believe that the success is part of the problem. When relationships don’t work out, they automatically go into the “well, he’s just intimidated by my success” routine. The Intimidation Doctrine keeps us looking outward for fault,it relinquishes you of all responsibility.

Maybe its not because you’re successful but perhaps because you wear your success on your sleeve, because you’re arrogant, because you are sure to let a man know in the first conversation that you don’t NEED him or anyone else. In which case, there’s a sale on batteries at your local Walmart…have at it.

Maybe its not because you’re successful, but perhaps because you are arrogant, a know-it-all, a snob or intolerant of others who have taken a different path in life.

Maybe its not because you’re successful, maybe you are a cold bitter b.i.t.c.h who believes the world owes you something. You have worked hard and made it on your own without the help of any man so you don’t want a man thinking he is doing you any favors by his presence and you let him know this as often as possible.

Maybe its not because you’re successful, maybe you have turned into a hardened, disenchanted, cynic who is annoyed that fat broke women with two kids can get a man easier than you. And your anger oozes from your pores.

Maybe its not because you are successful, but because your success is all you have, and you wield it like a sword. You are always looking and waiting for the fight so you can show just how fly you are and how a man should be happy just to have someone like you. You feel you are the only prize in this relationship.

Maybe its not because you’re successful but because you are just tired. Tired of dating, tired of it not working out, tired of the game. Because you’re so tired, you go into potential relationships with little enthusiasm or excitement and you’re just a general drag.

Maybe its not because you are successful but because you are afraid. Afraid to open up, afraid to be vulnerable again, afraid to lay it all out there. You use your success as a shield that you hide behind because you are afraid of being hurt, afraid of change, afraid of letting someone else into your tightly-controlled life. You play the role of successful bad-ass because you are afraid of just being a woman. Sometimes its hard to switch from being the boss all day to being a partner, a friend…Understandable….but, its still your issue.

Maybe its not because you are successful, but because you are closed. Closed to real love because of any combination of the reasons above.
Sometimes men aren’t intimidated by your success, but turned off by what your success has done to you…. type of person it has made you.

Listen to the feedback you’ve gotten, those things you ignored because you thought the guy was just jealous of your success…Just maybe he was telling the truth…maybe he wasn’t intimidated at all. Maybe you are a mean, intolerable arrogant bitch of a woman. It could be that simple.

Now will you meet men who will be insecure with your accomplishments? Maybe…but far fewer than most would have you believe. Start listening and start looking inward at what issues you may be bringing to the table, ways you could possibly be a better partner, lover or friend.
Open your heart and your mind to whoever may come your way. Focus on what you both are bringing to each other’s lives. It’s not a competition. Try being the type of person you are looking for. By no means am I saying settle for less. Keep your standards high, go after the type of life and partner you want. Just make sure your high standards apply to you too.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:46 am

White Engineering Guy- No you did not state that or imply that one for the record.

Wise Diva

April 22nd, 2010
9:46 am

you guys are hilarious! You are on a dating/relationship blog and you think this (relevant?) topic has been beaten to death? LOL Alright, I see your point, to a degree… at the same time, some readers are just now looking at it. Please be patient and we will return to your regularly scheduled blog programming tomorrow. LOL!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:47 am

@ Professor

Who all spoke pig latin in high school, and did you feel bilingual?

My sister and I still speak pig latin when we don’t want mom or our kids to know our conversation :lol: sad but true

Who all had a “swatch” back in the day?

I did!

Am I the only one that thinks about silly ish from time to time

Heck no!

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
9:47 am

Has anybody considered that what is really at the root of the damn problem is that maintaining successful relationships are phuckn hard? Period?!??!?

Negrodamus

April 22nd, 2010
9:48 am

This is what happens when you focus on being Miss Independent.. Too less wives and too many boss ladies..

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:48 am

@ Professor

I started thinking about lunch an hour ago!!!!!!!!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:49 am

@Wise Diva

you guys are hilarious! You are on a dating/relationship blog and you think this (relevant?) topic has been beaten to death?

If this topic was ONLY on dating/relationship blogs etc, that would be one thing, but this topic is in national media and its becoming sickening. It is not i repeat NOT an epidemic, and it will be OKAY.

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
9:50 am

Why are we talking about dating outside of the race when that is not the topic at hand?

Because again, it is a potential solution to a problem and related to the topic. If a person repeatedly tries the same thing and it is not working, don’t expect better results.

Why do you have a problem with a black woman considering dating a white guy?

I have seen enough Dateline and 20/20 to see that they [white men] cheat on their women and murder them as well.

It’s silly to make a blanket statement like that. I, like most guys, have never murdered anybody. And I’d not cheat on you and would be really nice to you. Your point is……?

Serious

April 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

Attention successful black women. Successful white male hear and I am looking for YOU!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

AHEM… Somebody said ya’ll were looking for me..

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

@Professor..no you are not the only one ..cause after the JR comment..I began flipping my ipod for a nice country song..

I remember Trapper John MD..I had a crush on Gonzo

I know the title to the song from M.A.S.H. (Suicide is Fatal)

Robin Williams character from Mork and Mindy started out on Taxi..Jimmy was the only one who saw he was a alien I think.

Lunch is at noon over here..ribs and a salad.

I had a orange swatch watch…that my daddy bought at JCPenny’s outlet..that store has so many happy memories for me.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:52 am

Thanks Princess! Now I don’t feel so silly :grin: Princess, you know Lady J, Kym, yourself and I could easily do a “set it off” on this topic. :grin:

TiffTaff…I was feeling a little greedy, but I am glad I am not the only one thinking about lunch. So, what are you going to eat for lunch today?

Mrs. White&Black

April 22nd, 2010
9:52 am

@White Engineering Guy-you are more or less right as far as races sometimes wanting to but being scared of other ppl’s reactions. It’s happened in my family and with my friends. And btw, thanks for complimenting us Dominican girls (I’m only half, but oh well)!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
9:53 am

Lady J??

there is a wireless on/off button next to the “on” button on the laptop..well. on some laptopss.

Check to see if that wireless buitton is blue”/ on,that may be the reason why ur wireless aint connecting.

what brand is ur lap?

Open Minded Male

April 22nd, 2010
9:53 am

Not just white and black. Asian, hispanic, middle eastern, indian, native american, eskimo…

All kinds of people have a tough time dating and finding the right person.

I don’t think there is an immutable ideal of what men or women should look like. What is the “in” thing changes over time.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:53 am

you know Lady J, Kym, yourself and I could easily do a “set it off” on this topic

Professor as they say in Houston, ALREADY!

Skegee

April 22nd, 2010
9:54 am

Again, is the issue that these professional black women only want to date *black* men? If so, they are SEVERELY limiting their dating pool. As a happily married black woman married to a white male, I can tell you that: 1) the man you marry is made up of his faith and personality- not his skin color! We’re all God’s children. 2) You’re missing out on a HOST of wonderful, handsome, kind, passionate, interesting men if you’re only looking at one race and 2) white men ARE interested in dating us- they just don’t think we’re interested in them!

If you see that cute white/asian/latino guy in your office, smile and say “Hello!” next time. He might be “Mr. Right”!

Brett Shepherd

April 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

The problem for black women is that they spend too much time wanting to find roughnecks. They pass on the shirt and tie brothers for the other brothers who are too busy trying to be players and ultimately the women are left hanging.
Not only that but when a black woman is making money and has a degree, she is quick to tell a black man how independent she is and if the brother is not making the type of money she is, he will hear about it.
Am I judging all black women, of course not. But as a black man that is married to a white woman(and yes i love my mother and myself), I get judged by black women all the time for not loving myself or my mother or whatever…so I felt the need to judge the lonely sisters too.
Bottom line is this, quit being so damn stuck up and just accept a good man for who he is and not his bank statement. Alot of you are passing up alot of good men just because you see him riding a bus or the MARTA train. Your throwaways have become alot of other ladies treasures.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

@Serious,

Please answer the following interview questions, before we release you to the BW.

1. How tall are you?

2. When did you start looking for a BW?

3. Have you dated a BW before?

4. Why are you looking for a BW, and not just a woman?

5. What made you make that announcement? Why did you stop dating white women?

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

The Truf??

Preach on buddy,Preach the hell On!!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

I'm over it!

April 22nd, 2010
9:55 am

Since when do we stop encouraging people to become educated? Is schooling the ONLY way people become educated? NO! Are people who do have formal education better than those who don’t? NO! DO you have to be educated to make a good husband or wife? NO! HOWEVER….I think when we get to the point where we are saying that a college degree, a master’s degree, etc isn’t important or is a joke is a dangerous place to be in. And 24karatga no its not something that we have to broadcast, but is that not soemthing that we can be proud of? YES I went to college, YES I pledged and YES I have a MASTER’S degree…and to ATLBLKMAN…YES…I serve a GOD who is possible of doing all things!!!!!!
YES I have a good Black Man and Im so thankful that HE found me!!!

this discussion can and probably will go on forever…and really…
…im over it!

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

OK. I love the emotion in this conversation, but I don’t get it. I know a lot of professional black women who are happily married to professional black men. Most of my friends are married, and those who aren’t are scheduled to do so. So why is this even a topic. I think this is not even a topic about/for African-American women. I think all people are having trouble meeting the right person because many haven’t discovered themselves. Money, careers, cars, titles, and clothes don’t equate to maturity. Stop looking for the man/women with that fake “security package,” and look for someone who is willing to work with you. My wife said the most beautiful thing to me before we got married…..” I have finally figure out this whole love thing……it is about finding the person whom you want to struggle through life with, and that person is you.”

Cutty

April 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

This article in the Washington Post on Tuesday was interesting. SOME black women forgot that manners matter. Just say hello, or thank you when a man holds the door for you still can go a long way.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/04/19/AR2010041904818.html

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
9:56 am

Wise Diva

I sure hope you have a doozie in mind for tomorrow to make up for this :shock:

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
9:57 am

@ Professor

There is a Chick-fil-a Southwest Salad with my name on it. Dang, I can’t wait!!! LOL!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
9:57 am

<strong Damn Kym I am so impressed!!! :grin:
No wonder that song mad me sad I would turn the channel or leave the room.

MASON

April 22nd, 2010
9:57 am

Why do rich black men only want beautiful white women?

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
9:57 am

Good morning pple! almost forgot!

Boy,all the single females from decatur,Swats,Conyers and Union city,Jonesboro,norcross are in the house this morn!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
9:59 am

Melo you would kick my but when I just realized that simple fact I almost cussed the sprint guy out over the phone but my co worker spouse came to my rescue and just pressed the button….silly me!!!! how many folk have co worker spouses for 8 hours and he is single too the married ones want full blown affairs NOT!!!!! LMBAO

Melo thanks brother you know I am touched by an angel!

Roz

April 22nd, 2010
10:00 am

Unfornately, we cant move on from this topic because it has large ramifications. We are not marrying for many reasons but mainly because we (men and women) are very selfish and self centered. If we cant have the perfect picture of what TV and Mags tell us we should have then we keep looking for the next best thing.

Meanwhile, our families, children and black culture are dying. We are making babies but we are not building families and legacies. Yes, I am an educated black woman, divorced, 1 child, in a great relationship with a very thoughtful and kind man. No, he is not 6 ft, fine and all that other stuff but he is kind, thoughtful and dependable. While I had to date several guys before I got to this one,none of those guys were bad guys, they just werent the man for me nor was I the woman for them.

Giving up on dating and seeking a positive relationship was never an option for me because I know that this thing is bigger than I. My son needs to see a positive male /female relationship.

We must see the bigger picture here. No, don’t settle but don’t be unrealistic either. Love is not a fairy tale, Love is about committment and service to others.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:00 am

this blog is str8 bananas this morning!!!!! wooooosah!

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
10:02 am

Mrs. White & Black: Thank you for the reply.

Ironically, when I was with the girl in Santiago she commented (like others, as it turns out) she wished she had a lighter skin color. I told her I was amazed to hear it, and I disagreed; I told her it was not her skin color that made me like her, but in fact it actually made her more attractive to me.

Professor:Ok, sorry, not sure who the comment was directed at.

Serious

April 22nd, 2010
10:02 am

1 5/11
2 Years ago
3 Several
4 Im attracted to black women only. They tend to be much more compassionate, passionant, pretty, funny, accepting, open minded…
5 Perhaps there are some sexy black women here to date…wouldnt want to be exclusive. White women, for the most part, are a pain in the ass, its just that simple.

May I pass go and collect my $200? ;)

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

@ Professor

I’m drinking water in an effort to keep from eating my lunch early :shock:

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
10:04 am

this blog is str8 bananas this morning

@Lady J!

I agree.. a lot of valid points tho!

glad ur lap is on now!

now go get that A on that paper! :lol:

carmikal

April 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

I just feel that if a woman really wants to have a good man that they should put themselves in atmospheres that will allow them to be seen as there natural self. Go where men go and don’t look for a man specifically but try and understand what attracts a man to that particular venue. Become a curious observer that wants to learn why we enjoy certain things and you might wind up enjoying them yourself. At that moment you will be found and given an opportunity to choose your king.
While my wife has been out of town I’ve been hanging with my boys at some clubs and lounges. I noticed that many sisters in Atlanta like to travel in packs. How many girls night outs can you have in 1 month?? The former beast in me didn’t mind approaching a woman in the midst of a 5 woman band. However, the brother that is generally a good dude seems to have some serious doubts about trying to win attention from 1 beautiful queen with her girls in her ear. Ladies, if you just cut your packs down to you and 1 girlfriend I guarantee that your approach rate from good brothers will increase dramatically!
1 luv Queens and don’t give up on us!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

@Professor..sorry its Suicide is Painless..lord.but I do remember the first set of lyrics..

Through early morning fog I see..visions of the things to be the pains that are withheld for me,I realize and I can see…That suicide is painless,it brings on many changes and I can take or leave it if I please….dum dumm dumm dumm..

Thats all I remember.. Oh and I think I remember the lyrics to the Facts of Life..

You take the good..you take the bad..you take them both and there you have the facts of life..the facts of life..when the world ..something something about your dreams..then suddenly you figure out the facts of life are all about you. It takes alot to get them right..when you learning the facts of Lifeeeeeee!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

First off let me say this.. You can date outside you race all you want but is that what the discussion is about..

kimmie

April 22nd, 2010
10:05 am

Morning Gang!

All I got to say is my SO looked SO GOOD in martial arts class last night! He is also working out a lot more. He’s already buff with the arms & chest, but he’s working on having a 6-pack in time for the cruise we are going on Labor Day weekend. He’s well on his way.

So you know what that means for me?

That means sister got to step it up! I’m already well on my way, because I’m doing the martial arts too & I wear my Shapeups most every day & walk quite a bit. But I want to get down 1 and a half dress size! I have this orange & red 2-piece swimsuit that looks okay now, but I must look HOT!! And I will.

Gotta tweak my diet a bit too. Not a diet really, but a lifestyle!

SCool – Feel you, by the way. Work on the relationship you have, if you have one, gang! Other folks will be okay, they know what they need to do if they seek a positive love experience.

Serious

April 22nd, 2010
10:06 am

One girl I used to date, now living in TX, sent me some recent pix. Father is black fellow, mom is Nicarauguan…I initially chose her due to her very dark complexion. During one of our recent conversations I told her she needed to visit the tanning bed as she was becoming a little too light skinned.

Jodi

April 22nd, 2010
10:06 am

My solution to this mess is to MOVE out of Atlanta – I think people forget the real statistics of Atlanta.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:06 am

I never could get into MASH

Was it just me or was the theme music to Unsolved Mysteries just creepy!?

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:07 am

Excuse me Melo..but I was born in Atlanta, raised in Atlanta, and now live in McDonough.. so I am failing to understand where I live has anything to do with why I am single?

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:07 am

I wear my Shapeups most every day & walk quite a bit

@ Kimmie

so they really work?

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

You seem to be a well rounded woman that capable of being in a realtionship with a man that has multiple irons in the fire….

SimpleMan – Thank you for the compliment. The good black man I am seeing is a business owner. So I do understand. The good thing is that when it comes to the business and me, he’ll often chose me, and I’ll reassure him that it’s OK for him to handle his business and I’ll be here when he gets done. It’s good for him to know I understand, and it’s good for me to know he WANTS to spend time with me, even when he can’t.

Maybe the women in your life don’t have the chance to show you what their made of cuz you’re too busy shutting them out for your kids. No real woman will want to keep you from them. They will want to walk the journey with you.

And LOL @ the night at Uptown line. You know that’s not what I meant! :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

Professor!!!….that 9:25 is the truth! ^5 on that all day long.

Did Sue Ellen or her drunk boyfriend shoot J R?

Erica

April 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

I watched last night’s special and was somewhat curious about some of the dialogue and footage that was not on aired. When I get some down time, I plan to watch the whole thing on the Nightline website, so that I can put some of the comments in better context.

This topic came up at a gathering of some friends last week, a lot of whom are in their late 30’s-early/mid 40s and either have never been married or are divorced with/without kids. I think I may have been the only married person in the group and the question came up about how did I manage to find my husband, in my 30s (we’ve been married 6 years, together 8+). The question actually made me really pause and think for a minute. I think the answer is simple and yet complex. I have to admit I had “the list”, and “the list” changed over time as I grew and matured. I think men and women both have to be honest with themselves about core things that they are looking for in a partner and then add the negotiable stuff. For me, it was all about the man’s character, his values, whether family was important, how he treated me, how he treated the people around him. The negotiables were ethnicity, whether or not he had kids, salary…. Ultimately, I ended up with a super nice, sweet guy, whom I love and who loves me and we are the best of friends to boot! The negotiables that he came with, such as a child (from marriage 1), a salary that is somewhat less than mine (but he works like a dog for our family), while at times challenging, are just that- stuff that can be negotiated. And he is not an African American male. But at the end of the day, we’re happy.

Bottom line: Be honest with yourself about the things you absolutely NEED in a partner, and flexible on the extras (whatever they might be). And most of all, if you are a believer, be open to those whom God puts in your path and trust Him to guide you to your partner.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

List of advice for BW according to this blog:

1. Get a Marta card! Marta will take you to your destination it is not Five Points Station it is GET-A-MAN station and the trains leave every 5-7 minutes and you can connect on the East-West line. :grin:

2. Go get a white man, yellow man, green man or a Smurf.

3. Get a job playing less. Yes BW (I am using my preacher’s voice) you all are making too much money with these MBA’s, MD’s PhD’s and GED’s. So get on the front lines of Mickey D’s and hand the corporate job over the BM, and maybe he will pick you.

4. Take your weave out, lose weight (even if you are a size three) forgo that manicure/pedicure, because one of the posters said he saw you at the nail shop.

5. Lastly, tell Delta and Airtran to notify you when a BM is headed to the islands to buy boo-tay, maybe you can give him a flier on the beautiful black woman and he will stay put.

Now, don’t shoot the messenger I am just giving y’all a summary :grin:

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
10:09 am

@Kym

It’s Melo….don’t feed the foolishness. He needs some attention.

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
10:09 am

I get judged by black women all the time for not loving myself or my mother or whatever…so I felt the need to judge the lonely sisters too.

Man, that sucks. Sorry to hear that. But not at all surprised.

Usually I find that the people with the strongest opinions and who are most judgemental about a subject are those with the least experience in life and have never been to other parts of the world.

Mrs. White&Black

April 22nd, 2010
10:10 am

Serious

April 22nd, 2010
9:51 am
Attention successful black women. Successful white male hear and I am looking for YOU!

LinkReport this comment.THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
9:51 am
AHEM… Somebody said ya’ll were looking for me

You guys are too funny!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:11 am

Thanks Melo!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:11 am

@ Kym/Professor

Thank you for being a friend,
Travelled down the road and back again.
Your heart is true, you’re a pal and a confident.

And if you threw a party-,
Invited everyone you knew-,
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say,
Thank you for being a friend-.

:)

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:12 am

kimmie

April 22nd, 2010
10:12 am

Princess – I LOVE them, yes they work! I notice when I go for awhile without wearing them. They really help you firm up. And you don’t have to just wear them to go walking – wear them anytime you are going to be on your feet for awhile. Whenever I am doing a lot of cooking or housework, I wear them. They feel like clouds on your feet, but they WORK!

I have a beige suede pair, but I might get some black ones or silver/white ones. They have some nice ones for men too – my SO has a black leather pair.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:13 am

Professor,

I need you to come clean up the water you made me spit out LOL

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
10:14 am

Shockingly, this topic is just what I need to encourage me to work through some issues that TheDude and I are dealing with right now.

It is reminding me that I can’t just walk away because things get hard. If I want this relationship to last, I’ve got to stay and do the work.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:14 am

@Professor you forgot the dumb it down part.. you know if you act too smart they run from that too.

DK hurt my feelings yesterday..I was like is complimenting my football knowledge or saying..see that’s the black woman’s problem..knowing too much about football. LOL!!

@Dan I know..but I was like did I miss something now my location is a problem too??

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
10:14 am

Thanks Sassy!

@Serious,

Thanks and you can pass go, but in this game I get the $200. :grin: I forgot to ask your age.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
10:15 am

Excuse me Melo..but I was born in Atlanta

Kym??
i dont understand the qstion..i havent contributed ANYTHING not yet!

Dan..u serious?? what u talking about??

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:16 am

It is reminding me that I can’t just walk away because things get hard. If I want this relationship to last, I’ve got to stay and do the work.

Well, Ms. Cool while that is true…that really depends on what the issue is.

Plenty of good men out there…but doesn’t mean you’re compatible with them just cuz they’re good.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:16 am

Princess that’s the theme from Golden Girls!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:16 am

Now seriously.. I have come to the conclusion that women really dont know what they want.. I have dated the gambit and I find alot of successful women are now dating the new Swag dudes.. Dudes that stay at home and cookk and clean for her.. I dont get it.. I think most women want a dude that wears a skirt and will do whatever she needs him to do in order for the relationship to be successful..

Its funny Im reading alot of women saying it aint my fault im single.. Its this its that.. How bout for once… LOOK AT YOU… Really be honest with yourself..

I have also come to the conclusion that most women now a days werent raised to be wives they were raised to live out their Moms missed opportunites..

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
10:17 am

@Kym I knew I was missing something.

@Princess I cannot clean up the water I am busy shaking my head looking crazy singing the “Golden Girls” theme song. :grin:

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:17 am

Kym

ding ding ding LOL,

I love that show, sophia and rose always have me dying laughing.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:18 am

Was I the only person that became sad when I heard the “Mash” or “Taxi” theme songs

:lol:

Kimmie do the shape ups reallly work? I’m asking b/c I’m contemplating a pair…..also seent a Reebok commercial advertising the same thing.

Tired of BS

April 22nd, 2010
10:19 am

A myriad of answers come to mind as to why black women aren’t married. My first reason is because they are always on their damned cell phones. In the car driving, shopping, at the freakin’ dinner table in a resturant. My next best guess is that the sista’s are trying to pretend they are queens….. ’scuse me….. if you sitting on your butt all day stuffing your pie hole with chips and soda…. you ain’t looking like no queen.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:19 am

Okay Kym

Lets see if you can remember this one

What would you do if I sang out tune?
Would you stand up and walk out on me?
Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song
I will try not to sing out of key, yeah
Oh, baby I get by with a little help from my friends
By with a little help from my friends.
All I need is my buddies
By with a little help from my friends
I said I’m gonna get by with a little
By with a little help from my friends
Whoa oh oh oh oh
Said I don’t know if that’s what I’m sure do to, baby
By with a little help from my friends
Said I’m gonna make it with my friends
By with a little help from my friends
Whoa oh I’m gonna keep on trying
By with a little help from my friends
Said I’m gonna keep on trying.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
10:19 am

“Where are:

DreamsMaterials?
I’m Swiss?
Carlito?
Infamous DK?
Randy T?

I hope somewhere together staging a blog hijack :lol:

Well, you don’t have to ask me twice… Okay — who wants to talk about p-du$$y pleasuring techniques?!?!? Anyone…? Beueller…?

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
10:20 am

ARed – the issues are actually fairly unimportant in the *grand scheme* of things. More like a part of the ebb and flow of relationships. Right now, we are having an *ebb*, but I know the flow is still there.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:21 am

See the convo aint about him or her.. Its about you.. If you know you got issues deal with them… Stop putting your career before your fam.. Honestly.. I want a woman that will put her fam first.. I’ll get this money.. I always say.. She’s the Cut Man and Im the Fighter.. All she has to do is stand in the corner and patch me up when the world beats me up to bad.. I dont need her to get out there and throw no bo’s just encourage me to get back out there and fight some more.. Me personally dont want a tag team partner cause I dont ever want to see the world beat her a$$.. I’ll take the beating for us but just make sure I can continue to stay in the fight by being the best CUT Woman you can be..

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
10:21 am

@Swiss..im luving the newbees refreshing angles..thats why im lurking.

White Engineering Guy

April 22nd, 2010
10:22 am

I’m beginning to see a pattern:

1. Lots of complaining about finding a good man
2. Lots (not all) people still have hang-ups about interracial dating thereby still eliminating more potentially good men
3. Some guys are appearing to be jealous/insecure about suggesting a black woman can date outside her race
4. Some people actually married someone of another race, and are very happy! (oh no, perish the thought!!)

Does that about sum it up? :/

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:22 am

I got one..

Just two good ole boys..never meaning no harm..beats all you ever saw..get in trouble with the law..since the day they were born..

Straighten the curves..flattening the hills..Some days the mountain will get them but the law never will.

Mrs. White&Black

April 22nd, 2010
10:22 am

Dominicans wanting to be lighter..sad but true. Not all of them of course, I’m one of the few that wish they were Darker! No one’s ever satisfied, I know. My mom always wished she was lighter. To me it’s mostly based on the history of race. White is good, black is bad, white is pretty, black is ugly, etc…it’s understandable to me that after hundreds(thousands?) of years of being told that one race is better than the other, one might actually start believing it. I just try to educate ppl(not saying I’m smarter than everyone else, now!) so that not only will all races/ethnicities accept each other but themselves as well.

aileeb

April 22nd, 2010
10:22 am

After reviviewing these comments, Did anyone seem to ask themselves why Nightline aired this program? It is obviously a problem in black society. The topic is this we as black people need to work on our family values and relationships. As our counterparts white people are in more relationships and more family oriented. I think the show was trying to educate us one more time, we are not changing, and I am tired of being of discussion. We need to change, we really do, we need to come together like our President and First Lady, these are people we needed to idol. I must say its sad, to hear this over and over and over again, but we are not doing anything about it and we look like fools. Even if we run to the other race, which black people have been blacklisted because of our attitudes, we will still be the same, Its Within. Look at yourself Men and Women

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:23 am

I’m swiss

set it off

Justine

April 22nd, 2010
10:23 am

If white women are having such success with white men then why are almost all of the relationship books writeen by them for them. I have no problem with Black men. I believe there are all types of Black men, good ones, bad ones and some so so ones.

The only major male problem, Black or white, in Atlanta is that a lot of the men are gay and even more are on the down low. Dont get me wrong I have no problem with gays. But that does decrease the available male population.

I agree with the person who said you have to stop looking, manipulating and focusing on getting a man. Too many women want a man to take care of them and fail to realize relationships are 50-50.

In any event there are so great Black men out there. And by the way Iwill never talk bad about Black men as a group. Now I can tell you some individual stories.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:23 am

– the issues are actually fairly unimportant in the *grand scheme* of things

Well that’s good. Best wishes.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:24 am

I ain’t got no money
I ain’t like those other guys U hang around
It’s kinda funny
But they always seem 2 let U down
And I get discouraged
Cuz I never see U anymore
And I need your love baby, yeah
That’s all I’m living 4, yeah
I didn’t wanna pressure U, baby
But all I ever wanted 2 do…

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
10:24 am

@ Professor,

I an loving you summary list!

@ PrincessNik

The Golden Girls…Fun times fun times

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:24 am

Princess I guess ..The Wonder Years..Fred Savage..I thought he was a cute white boy..

G Reon

April 22nd, 2010
10:25 am

From where I’m sitting, the problem with all relationships is both females and males are looking for fame, money and power! The morals and values of all races, male and female have gone out the window! Even those that come to the USA have dumped their country’s standards for the Americian way! Employment status has become the first question out of the average woman’s mouth, “What do you do?” she’ll ask. I feel the answer to that question will qualify or disqualify any man for further conversation. Let’s be real about the issue at hand, if you look at relationships of some celebrities or corporate people that are married to each other, after bring kids into the confines of cruel people in this world, they split and it becomes a money making business, all at the expense of the kids and that in itself is very sad! Ole Joe that works in Home Depot may very well fear dating a T.V. personality that has no problem saying on T.V. that she has considered going snow. I have no problem with that but it may have made Ole Joe feel very uncomfortable knowing he has encountered a chance meeting with such a mentality. The bottom line is we should stop looking for public opinion to approve or disapprove our relationships. Everyone should do what is right and right will follow you all the days of our lives! Ladies, get rid of the fake hair and eyelids, keep your clothes on and accept men for who they are as long as they are not criminals, thugs and gay! Men, we all know what it takes to have a Lady in our lives, do your part! Always accept her as a lady when meeting her, If she shows you she is a woman then set her free! There is no doubt, every female knows the difference between a woman and a lady! Me, I perfer and will always have a LADY!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:25 am

Justine – But if you knew how to identify a real dude these DL dudes would stand out to you as soon as you see them or at least get to know them. Its just certain ish a real man aint gonna do..

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
10:26 am

@ Melo — Yeah, it is interesting… Sad thing is, the solution to this whole problem was right there for the taking & it slipped right through all the beautiful, successful, black women’s fingers… they just needed to date me. ;-) :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

Now that Fred Savage was the best I thought he was cute too. Shoot I had a crush on Lex Luger the wrestler :grin:

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

@DK

Would you ride in a car with someone that’s never driven before?

Better yet, at 30+ if she doesn’t know how to drive wouldn’t you feel some kinda way about it?

My point is, unless you’re providing and protecting a young lady since 8, the world has already gotten to her and, at least, spanked that azz. Wanting to protect her is noble, and in time, most will let you. But you have to start from one – wherever that is for her.

Part of this is, people not living in reality. Yeah, I want “x,y, and z” but (s)he giving me “a,b,and c” let’s see if we can meet in the middle.

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

Your guy is a very lucky man!!!!While I am sometimes fustrated by what seems to be a never ending cycle, I know that if I keep my head on strait and continue to be the best guy I can be, Ms. Right will find her way ahead of Ms. Righ-Now. But until then, there is this cute lady I see at the Dekalb Farmers Market every couple of weeks…

WM married to BF

April 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

Just wanted to weigh in on this subject. I’m a successful wm and I’ve dated black women for last 20 some years and we’ve been married now five years. My wife has said she was happy to find a good man, that race wasn’t an issue. I’m just happy I have a beautiful woman, who is a great mother to our kids!

jamaal knight

April 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

We do have a lot single women here in the Atlanta Georgia area, but most the women are too picky and gold diggers. I am single male with no kids, I have a good paying job and a college graduate. But majority of the women I met always asking for this and for that but dont put nothing into a relationship so I just keep on moving. I think that a lot women has be brainwashed by the way of society, a guy need to be this and need to have that etc.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:28 am

I have also come to the conclusion that most women now a days werent raised to be wives they were raised to live out their Moms missed opportunites..

Dayum…really? Do you have daughters DK if so then what do you tell them. Better yet what type of woman do you want?….Do you want the hood rat or the woman who has it together…or is on her way to having it together. I think parents want their children to do better than they did…plain and simple. Are there some who live vicariously through their children?…sure but you’re painting that pic with a rather broad brush…but that is your opinion and you know what they say about those…right?

kimmie

April 22nd, 2010
10:28 am

Sassy – Read my 10:12 about the Shapeups! Yes, girl, worth every penny! And that is coming from someone who would have never paid over $25-30 for a pair of sneaks!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:30 am

Look this convo is way past Steve Harvey cause he cant possibly be the spokesperson for relationship.. Cause honestly to me.. He’s the biggest hypocrite of them all.. and if he’s the spokesperson.. We are doomed.. Hey of course Men need to step up and do their part.. But dont get a dude whos trying to start a foundation a chance and then dog him out for not workign and coming to live with you. You knew who this dude was off the dribble.. I believe in potential but people with potential work hard to accomplish their goals.. They actually have goals..

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:31 am

Thank you for being a friend,
Travelled down the road and back again.
Your heart is true, you’re a pal and a confident.

And if you threw a party-,
Invited everyone you knew-,
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say,
Thank you for being a friend-.

LOVE IT LADIES!!!!!!!! That was a great show!!!!! That Betty White buddy!!!!!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:31 am

Kym yes that is it LOL

I used to be in love with Fred Savage also, my sister used to swear i looked like winnie (i think that was her name)

fergie

April 22nd, 2010
10:33 am

If we could just learn to love and appreciate ourselves and thank God for what we do have – family, friends, work – whatever, we might not feel so alone and left out because we don’t have a man. Yes, we all want a good man in our lives, but if you don’t have one and can’t see to find one; lets not blame ourselves or anyone else. Lets just be thankful for what we do have.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
10:33 am

ok, Princess, Kym and Lady J…this was one of my favs
Welcome back,
Your dreams were your ticket out.

Welcome back,
To that same old place that you laughed about.

Well the names have all changed since you hung around,
But those dreams have remained and they’re turned around.

Who’d have thought they’d lead ya (Who’d have thought they’d lead ya)
Here where we need ya (Here where we need ya)

Yeah we tease him a lot cause we’ve hot him on the spot, welcome back,
Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:34 am

Dan – You know what.. The world might have beat her before she got to me but once shes on my watch it wont beat her anymore.. Its up to her whether or not she can play her position.. See you missed the point.. The fighter is only as good as his cut man.. They are a team.. Its them against the world.. If I dont have somebody giving me water and put vaseline on me then I wont be able to fight long..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:34 am

The link on the ajc home page reads. “Black Women’s Woes”.
http://www.ajc.com/

I have not read one blog entry on topic yet, is it like yesterday’s conversation. I will say this,
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3288/2961175776_b341ca0fc5.jpg

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

Sassy – How many times have your mom told you “You dont need a man for ish”

Christopher

April 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

Everyone ignores the most basic issue at hand. Jacque made a salient comment about the disparity between the pools of available successful black men and available successful black women. She cited prison rates, homosexuality (which I wish she hadn’t), and the lack of black male college graduates as reasons why there are so few successful black men. What you’re left with is a statistical inequity that is nearly insurmountable. Simply put, this isn’t a race issue. If any race of people were facing these same conditions, they would have the same outcome.

Bottom line: Until you decrease the disparity between the pool of successful, available men and women, this problem will exist. Given the proper conditions, this problem is self correcting.

More time should be spent determining the best way to produce more successful black males than discussing why Sherri can’t get a man.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
10:35 am

Just judging by the lengths of the posts,yeah we really have a problem on this issue.

The (new)Ladies are really opening up their chests today,letting it out! :lol: :lol:

Maybe after today,some of that anger will dissipate a lil bit,hopefully increasing their dates in the process! :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:36 am

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
10:36 am

“If I dont have somebody giving me water and put vaseline on me…”

Funny… Mrs. Swiss & I had that exact same conversation last night… :lol:

BeBe KID

April 22nd, 2010
10:36 am

There are large number of successful black professional married couples in the ATL but there is also a large number of single black professionals who have a cynical attitude about relationships and marriage. Unfortunately many of the cynical people have made poor selections in the past and levy a sweeping indictment on all black men or all black women out of frustration. If you selected people for superficial reasons that you felt were important when they were not and based your relationships on sex, money, what kind of car they have or any other criteria lacking substance you have no one to blame but yourself. If the superficial is important to you then seek it out but don’t levy a sweeping indictment of a whole group when your selection process is flawed and does not reflect what you really want. You cannot consider a materialistic sex driven black male or female with no integrity who is full of game ideally suited for a long term committed relationship like marriage. Don’t hate the “PLAYAS” hate the game. If the game appeals to you be honest enough with yourself and pursue it realizing sometimes you will get and sometimes you will get got. If you want substance then eliminate the flaws in your selection process and focuns on who is trully ideally suited for you in the long term. First, you must know substance and unfortunately many black women and black men have no clue and are just simply lost leading to toxic relationships and much confusion.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:36 am

See the problem is we think we dont need each other but we do. We need each other to be a family unit.. We have been brainwashed to think the higher we go up the ladder the better off we’ll be but at what expense.. Is your family worth it?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:38 am

Kimmie I’m going to get a pair today when I leave work…you convinced me.

See now y’all done brought up the Golden Girls…I loved that show. I’ve watched it from the first episode to the very last and will watch it now if I saw it on tv…..picture it Sicily 1943…

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
10:39 am

The problem is people are equating being successful with a job and money.. You are successful if you do XYZ.. It doesnt really matter if you love me or not.. We look good on paper..

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:39 am

I use to know the words to All in the Family and Maude…you know when I was little..I watched Maude every night.(loved Bea Arthur) wait a min..wait just a women’s lib..Gloria Steimen min..maybe..thats what did it..maybe this is all Maude’s fault..I mean…the lyrics to song could be the very reason I wanted to be a successful black woman..

Lady Godiva was a freedom rider,
she didn’t care if the whole world looked.
Joan of Arc, with the lord to guide her,
she was a sister who really cooked.
Isadora was the first bra burner
Aint’ ya glad she showed up?
And when the country was falling apart
Betsy Ross got it all sewed up
And then there’s Maude
And then there’s Maude
And then there’s Maude
And then there’s Maude
And then there’s Maude
And then there’s Maude
And then there’s that old compromisin, enterprisin’ anything but traqulizin’ Right on Maude!!!

Yep that’s it I am blaming the old white lady for all my problems..Curse you Maude..Curse you……

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
10:41 am

Nooooooooooooooooooo!!!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:41 am

Welcome Back Kotter!!! I LOVE YOU JOHN TRAVOLTA!!! AND FRED BOOM BOOM WASHINGTON..now fainting….

TiffTaff

April 22nd, 2010
10:42 am

@ Sassy Me..Sun Kissed

Wait, don’t forget the… “well back in St Olaf…”

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

My girlfriend that attended the forum said Jacque is somewhat becoming bitter over her last break up and won’t even entertain anyone new because of the hurt and anguish……which is very bias to me to give sound advice…again I haven’t watched, brought, or entertain this subject just though I would share….I wanted to say it yesterday but it never came out……don’t shoot the messenger and again I don’t know what her past relationship was like…..my response to my girlfriend was WOW…..and the beat goes! LOL

anonymousella

April 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

@DSP said: “People who are educated do not use terms like “degreed up”.”

except when they do, as i did in my comment. some of us educated folks be code-switchin when we conversate. (see what i did there?)

simple man: you’re a 40+, divorced father of 2. you, sir, have baggage that few single, child-free women of any age would be able to overlook. that’s not to say you’re not a good man. that’s to say you got some stuff in your life that adds some, uh, “complexity” to a relationship or dating scenario. think about it this way: if a person has reached your age with no crotch fruit to show for it, it’s probably because they are ambivalent about kids. an instafamily gets an automatic thumbs down.

a few folks called it: why is single, successful hill harper not married? i’m sure his reasons have a lot to do with career and such. but why is his singleness not viewed as problem worth of handwringing and not one, but two “nightline” segments. 40-whatever% of black women aren’t married, but it’s not like 90% of black men are. why is that?

(i’d guess the regular sexism and rigid gender roles as expressed by black men here are a problem for black women who, out of economic necessity, don’t fit that role. you can’t want a homemaker if you can’t be a breadwinner, nah mean? and historically, that hasn’t been the dynamic for most black marriages.)

abc

April 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

I didn’t watch the show, but I would discount input from the panelists, as I seriously doubt they’re very representative of real people. Plus, they all about ugly as hayell, their challenges in finding a mate go beyond their education and income. They’re just bad looking, self-absorbed, nasty personalities. Ugh.

If you consider professional ball players to be a better catch, I say you’re after the dough and notoriety. Pro athletes? Come on! Nice, normal people are busting 6 figures all over town, you don’t have to be a so-called ‘professional’, you just have to be competent and in a decent field.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

SimpleMan –

Your guy is a very lucky man!!!!

Why thank you. I think he is too. :lol: But honestly, he makes it easy because he’s really not trying to be in the streets (though he does spend time with his boys) he’s just trying to build a legacy. How can I hate on that?

While I am sometimes fustrated by what seems to be a never ending cycle, I know that if I keep my head on strait and continue to be the best guy I can be, Ms. Right will find her way ahead of Ms. Righ-Now. But until then, there is this cute lady I see at the Dekalb Farmers Market every couple of weeks…

Question for you, do you date divorced mothers with kids? I would think they’d understand what you’re going thru and work with you. Though I’m sure it’d be hard to sync your busy schedules up.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

Do you know a hs senior heading off to college to pursue a communications degree?

Go to ryancameron.org click on grants for details and app process.

$$ for all 4 yrs!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

How many times have your mom told you “You dont need a man for ish”

My mother tought my brothers and I to be good people,to go to college and to be independent, she never said to either my sister or myself that we didn’t need a man. She’s always led us not by talk alone, but by action so for her to tell us something like that would be hypocritical,seeing as she’s currently married….for a second time,mind you. It wasn’t a need but a want and who are we to argue that.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

Moving on up to the EAST side!!!!!!!! The Jefferson’s are my all time favorites I have the DVD collection…..I often want to be Weezy!!!!!!! LOL!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

@DK

I didn’t miss the point, in fact, I conceded it to begin with.

The point is, if you want her to be your cut man, you have to show her: a) how to do the job, b)that you can in fact, fight (for her and you) and fight well, and c) let the rest happen.

I dig that I’m preaching to the choir, but for those in the audience:

Do you.

Know you, do you, and let those that will, be with you.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:45 am

@DK

I know you said Sassy, but

How many times have your mom told you “You dont need a man for ish”

my mom has never told me this and looks at me sideways if i imply any such thing. Now when i almost got married my dad did say, you don’t have to marry him.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
10:45 am

lets not blame ourselves or anyone else. Lets just be thankful for what we do have.

@fergie??

I agree with u lady. All this cussing and fussing and crying is annoying. Pple think that having a man is all that.Its not!

They forget that Insurrection needs ur business too!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

Wait, don’t forget the… “well back in St Olaf…”

I know right?! That’s when everybody would suddenly have something else to do…..sometimes all I could do was listen to her story,laugh and think bless your heart. :lol:

Foreigner

April 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

I had my share in dating degreed black chicks, and from my experience I would say the expect you to make a minimum which is usually 50% to 100% more than what they are making, beacuse” I deserve it, else I would just be single”. But I can safely say, if you not happy with yourself without the money, you not gona be happy when he shows up with it. They are a lot of guys these chicks can share a life with and really enjoy life, but they choose to sit and wait, all alone. These guys with money (like me) think you just after the money since it is such a priority. So I settled down with a nice country latino chick, she don’t care about my credit cards and bank card to go shoppin at the mall. She just like enjoying life and sharing it with me, and that no money or benz could replace.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

Carlito

that was the look i had this am before anyone had even posted!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:47 am

random my summer concert line up dates all include female group dates…..while that is cool and it is important to embrace healthy female partnerships I am left wondering why have some men have checked out with concert type dates???? Outdoor and Live entertainment rocks!!!!!!! My day is coming huh to experience such!!!!! Dating is funny! LOL

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

my mom has never told me this and looks at me sideways if i imply any such thing.

That’s what’s up Princess.

New to this

April 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

I am in total agreement with “Newbie”. As a white women, married to the same man for 28 years, it takes alot of give and take on both sides. We were not the “socially compatible” people when we met, he is college educated and I am a HS graduate. Most relationships take patience, devotion, and trust. He is my best friend! I see in so many of my black girl friends their need to go out an party because their man is partying! The easiest way to be “picked up” or “hit on” even when you are not looking for that, is to wear a wedding band. It seems to attract men! Ladies, their are a lot of great men out their to be had, just be yourself.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3288/2961175776_b341ca0fc5.jpg

Lady J, How are you :)

Did you all know that on the home page it reads Dating:”Black Women’s Woes”?

And I would like to comment on this as well, people can saw “white dude”, or “white this, white that” or whatever race as an adjective. And this is being said from someone who is not the race of which they are speaking on. But when it’s the other way around, if someone says black guy or black this, it is wrong.

(topic change, maybe…LOL)

Lynn

April 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

Good Morning Ladies
First I want to address Hotlanta- how are you today? Great I hope. Racist means one group or collective institution dominating another through politics, power and/or money. So no the show does not fit into this catagory. There have been plenty of shows targeting certain populations in the US.
Second, this topic is important. It dispelled alot of myths about Education and those educated in the Black Community. Most of society still thinks Black women are either: On welfare with 6 kids, Gold Diggers etc. So this was a good display of educated Sistas.
However, this show didnt go indepth enough for the topic. You all are right, Steve Harvey is not the Guru, however he has a voice in Hollywood so he chooses to use as he pleases. This topic should have been highlighted in the CNN series Black in America with atleast 2 segments dedicated to this.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

saw means say

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

Lady J/Professor/Princess..I will now do one of my most amazing TV facts trivia feats..I will attempt to link..Maude, the Jeffersons, All in the Family and Good Times..ready…here we go..

Maude’s maid was Flordia Evans from(Good Times)
Maude’s cousin was Edith Bunker(All in the Family)
George Jefferson was the Bunker’s neighbor on All in the Family.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:52 am

Lynn, Racism:
rac·ism   [rey-siz-uhm]
–noun
1.
a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule others.
2.
a policy, system of government, etc., based upon or fostering such a doctrine; discrimination.
3.
hatred or intolerance of another race or other races

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:52 am

Kym you are silly!

Question?

April 22nd, 2010
10:52 am

Were there any professional relationship counselors on Nightline last night? No offense, but taking dating advice from Steve Harvey is like asking Jerry Springer for family counseling. An entertainer does not make an expert just because they have a public platform. I’ll look for Steve Harvey when I need advice on telling jokes.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:52 am

Here’s a story,
Of a lovely lady,
Who was bringing up three very lovely girls.
All of them had hair of gold,
Like their mother,
The youngest one in curls.

Here’s a story,
Of a man named Brady,
Who was busy with three boys of his own.
They were four men,
Living all together, but they were all alone-.

Till the one day when the lady met this fellow,
and they knew they was much more than a hunch.
That this group,
Must somehow form a family.
That’s the way we became the Brady Bunch,
The Brady Bunch-.
That’s the way- we became the Brady Bunch

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

The Facts of Life

You take the good,
You take the bad,
You take them both and there you have the facts of life.
The facts of life.

There’s a time you gotta go and show
You’re growin’ now,
You know about the facts of life.
The facts of life.

When the world never seems,
To be living up to your dreams.
And suddenly you’re finding out,
The facts of life are all about you.
All about you.
You-u-u-u,
A-ll about you.
It takes a lot to get em right,
But you’re learnin the facts of life.
Learnin the facts of life.
Learnin the facts of life.
Learnin the facts of li-fe.

——————————————————————————–

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

New to this??

so u advising black females to wear wedding bands to attract dates??

Is that right??

:???:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

PrincessNik, I see you over there :)

Kym, I want to play. Can you ad the show “Taxi” or “Welcome back Kotter” to your game? If so you are good. :)

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:54 am

Question?

^5

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:55 am

If we could just learn to love and appreciate ourselves and thank God for what we do have – family, friends, work – whatever, we might not feel so alone and left out because we don’t have a man. Yes, we all want a good man in our lives, but if you don’t have one and can’t see to find one; lets not blame ourselves or anyone else. Lets just be thankful for what we do have.

I’m with you fergie!

My mother didn’t marry until she was 28. And in the 70s that was old. She helped me realize that there is more to live, and that once you DO get married, you’ll have plenty of time to be a wife and mother! (she’s been married longer than she’s ever been single).

No rush…so get it right the first time!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:55 am

Steve Harvey giving dating advice is worse than Ellen being on American Idol.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:55 am

Well thank you Steve Harvey for using your Hollywood voice to continue to bring to light the woes of black women..for your next trick will you be parting the Red Seas..or turning water into wine? foolishness!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:55 am

The Jeffersons

We’re a movin’ on up,
(We’re a movin on up.)
To the east side.
(Mo-vin on up.)
To a de-luxe apartment,
In the sky-.
Mo-vin’ on up
(Mo-vin on up.)
To the east side,
(Mo-vin on up.)
We finally got a piece of the pie.

Fish don’t fry in the kitchen,
A beans don’t burn on the grill.
Took a whole lot of trying
Just to get up that hill.
Now we’re up in the big leagues,
Gettin our turn at bat.
As long as we live
It’s you and me baby.
There ain’t nothing wrong with that.

We’re a moving on up
(Mo-vin on up.)
To the east side,
(Mo-vin on up.)
To a de-luxe apartment
In the sky-.
Mo-vin on up
(Mo-vin on up.)
To the east side.
(Mo-vin on up.)
We finally got a piece of the pie-.

last one yall!!!!!! Now where is my george jefferson!!!!! LOL

Hey Carlito!!!!!! I am good….today is the last day of classes then I will have a 2 week break to revamp!!!! the final tonight is open book! I am good!

Laid Back White Guy

April 22nd, 2010
10:56 am

@ Professor/Kym

I love all those shows from the 70’s. Back then you could watch TV and learn a few family values. And the songs were great too!!

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

You take the good,
You take the bad,
You take them both and there you have RELATIONSHIPS.
RELATIONSHIPS.

There’s a time you gotta go and show
You’re growin’ now,
You know about RELATIONSHIPS.
RELATIONSHIPS.

When the world never seems,
To be living up to your dreams.
And suddenly you’re finding out,
RELATIONSHIPS are all about you.
All about you.
You-u-u-u,
A-ll about you.
It takes a lot to get em right,
But you’re learnin RELATIONSHIPS.

D-squared

April 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

This topic can go on forever. There are so many varied and interesting perspectives. I totally agree with hotlanta. Black women need to stop regarding Steve Harvey as the expert on marriage and dating. He should be considered for entertainment purposes only. I dont think that its wrong to seek out someone of your own status or class. When you do that, you need to accept that youre options will be greatly limited. So stop complaining. Ladies, dont think that us guys have a cakewalk when it comes to relationships. Sure the sistas outnumber us by a great margin, but we too often have difficulty finding compatible partners. With Atlanta having such a large gay community, that throws another complication in the mix. We have to compete with males and females. It shouldnt be this hard for Black men and women to relate to each other. Good discussion.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

kym archie and george were the best!!!!!!

another all time fav for me is In the Heat of the night the series in sparta! I still watch it if I am home at 10am!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

Simply put, this isn’t a race issue. If any race of people were facing these same conditions, they would have the same outcome.

Great point. There aren’t enough eligible men to go around…period. Doesn’t mean I’ll complain about it, or that I’ll worry about it. If marriage is meant for me, it will be, if not…I’ll continue to live life.

I focus on what I can control.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
10:58 am

Now there are more whites in here today. Blacks now whites, I am tired of being discriminated against. LOL

Lady J, congrats on your break. What are you going to occupy your time with?

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
10:58 am

Kym/Professor/Lady J

Fred Sanford anyone LOL

Serious

April 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

Conversate…*shrug* *sigh* is not a word. When I hear anyone use that pseudo “word” I tend to walk the other way.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

@Carlito..I can link Taxi to Mork and Mindy..are you saying Taxi links to one of the other shows?

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

“except when they do, as i did in my comment. some of us educated folks be code-switchin when we conversate. (see what i did there?)”

:lol: @ anonymousella… I think I like you

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:00 am

Well i was born midway 1979 so some of these shows I don’t remember LOL

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
11:00 am

Now, the world don’t move to the beat of just one drum,
What might be right for you, may not be right for some.
A man is born, he’s a man of means.
Then along come two, they got nothing but their jeans.
But they got, Diff’rent Strokes.
It takes, Diff’rent Strokes.
It takes, Diff’rent Strokes to move the world.

Yes it does.
It takes, Diff’rent Strokes to move the world.

ummm

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:00 am

Growing Pains

GrowingPains.ra

Show me that smile again.
Ooh show me that smile.
Don’t waste another minute on your crying.
We’re nowhere near the end.
We’re nowhere near.
The best is ready to begin.

As long as we got each other
We got the world
Sitting right in our hands.
Baby rain or shine;
All the time.
We got each other
Sharing the laughter and love.
just had to share!

Sexycool great job chica!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:00 am

I am joining the KKK, The Black Panthers and the NAACP.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:01 am

Kym, no I was just seeing if you could link them. :)

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

U know,smetimes in relationships, u have to settle, immm, i mean, re prioritise..even,yeah settle and or compromise… whatever??

Thats what makes a relationship work.If u keep to ur phulcking high horse and think what u want is what u always get…..guess what….??

u be looking,boyfriending,phlucking,getting benched and phuklcking but benching and looking for a damn looooooooong long time!

:lol: :lol:

I aint even laughing tho…very serious!

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

In a word….Yes!!! I have dated single moms, and have had some wonderful dates with them!! Some have been really cool and worthy of long term consideration but for whatever reason things did not work out. That is no reflectin on them; in fact some are what I would consider friends…

anonymousella

April 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

Oh yeah…I have baggage…But I don’t have drama! There is a huge differnce!!!!

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

Carlito – That was extremely tasteless and very UNfunny. Dude, check that.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

check my first post carlito my mood is where ever the wind blows……I am a bit scattered and random here lately so I am sorta down for whatever as I exhale! LOL probably in me bed watching reruns on the ID channel! LMBAO!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

Lady J,

I have the Jefferson’s on DVD too…that George was something else.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

I bet we been together for a million years,
And I bet we’ll be together for a million more.

Oh, It’s like I started breathing on the night we kissed,
And I can’t remember what I ever did before.

What would we do baby, Without Us?
What would we do baby, Without Us?

And there ain’t no nothing we can’t love each other through.

What would we do baby, Without Us?

Sha la la la.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

You betta sang Lady J..We moving on up!!!

Join in Carlito and Laid back welcome ….

Ohhh now..I feel a Fonzie moment coming on! Heyyyyyyyyy!!!!!

Living Life

April 22nd, 2010
11:03 am

Good Morning All.. Thanks @ Open Minded Male and White Engineering Guy for the insight. My father was in the military and I have always been around interracial dating and it has never bothered me. Never thought about dating outside my race until I got back on the dating scene and most guys want you to take care of them or just want one things. Who has time for those type of games. I rather a man be up front and honest in the begining. I fell like another blogger the right one will find me and not to go looking.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:03 am

yall the Carol Burnett show was off the chain too!!!!!! She know she killed the beer with her sharp toungue! Meant Mama’s Family but I like the carol show too!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:05 am

Dan – You cant raise a grown person.. She should already know how to patch up cuts way before she get to the heavy weight bout.. She aint gonna just walk off the street and be a cut man.. It requires a certain amount of skill..

And just for you..

I know way too many people here right now that I didn’t know last year
who the f-ck are y’all
I swear it feels like the last few nights we’ve been everywhere and back
but I just can’t remember it all
what am I doing, what am I doing
oh yeah thats right, I’m doing me, I’m doing me
I’m living life right now man
and this what I’m do til its over
til it’s over, it’s far from over

Had to hit you with it since you said do me..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:05 am

SexyCool, the humor makes sense in my mind. Sorry if I offended you. You have 3 options, only one is correct. Just like this topic. You can focus on race, the problem with men/women or relationships in general.

abc

April 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

Carlito, I think Lynn meant to refer to something along the lines of Institutional Discrimination. Racism describes rationale behind actions that Discrimination represents. It’s a fine line that requires, uh… knowledge of English? Hm.

anonymousella, I think that to make up your own words is to invite misunderstanding. It may seem creative in a way, but the net impression made, especially when combined with intentional ebonics, is that of baby talk, i.e. one just simply hasn’t yet learned to speak properly. Practice proper English, it’s your native language — certainly, a higher education would serve to illustrate the need and importance of such in personal communication.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

You want to go where everybody knows your name.

Where everybody knows your name,
And they’re always glad you came;
Where everybody knows your name,
And they’re always glad you came;
(fade out)

I came to appreciate cheers later in life! good show!

yall I like fraiser and becker too and I think I would date both!!!! I love me some Fraiser!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
11:07 am

Ohhh y’all are adding some really good ones. I want to go online and buy some DVDs and sit home and laugh at some of these old shows…thanks for the memories ladies

As for that comment by Carlito it does not surprise me since he has been testing the water for the past two weeks are so.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:07 am

Lady J

That was Vicki Lawrence on Mama’s family i do believe, but i loved that show as well, too many folks in one house though LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:07 am

The Benny Hill Show

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:08 am

oh yeah thats right, I’m doing me, I’m doing me
I’m living life right now man
and this what I’m do til its over
til it’s over, it’s far from over

@ DK, we are >>>>>here<<<<<

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:09 am

dang it what show is that theme from…Princess..I want to say its the one with the Keatons..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

Foreigner – Wow!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

@Kym

Family Ties

Alex P. Keaton LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:11 am

Professor, test the waters? I am sorry that I did not respond to all the stereotype jokes about Italians on here nor did I get upset when being referred to as a “guido” or white. And some of those jokes continue on a daily basis. As soon as I remotely say anything that could be close to any of that, I am the one in the wrong? How about being a little balanced in that? An injustice is an injustice.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:11 am

Professor and Kym between Jackie O and Wheezy I briefly thought I was both @ one point in my life!!!!! I have a silly imagination….I guess just the idea of the types of lives they portrayed and not the materialistic part…….that other solid security that everything was just fine and taken care of….

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:12 am

thanks PK that hosehold was funny!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
11:13 am

@DK

I wasn’t saying anything to you “preaching to the choir” but “the audience”, anyone that may hear it.

You’re right, you can’t raise an adult, nor should you. But I can show someone how to deal with me. I’m an individual. It takes different isht to be with me, as I’m sure it does to be with you. But if you can’t/don’t tell her that stuff, then how is she supposed to learn?

And, bear in mind, she’s already had some “life-lessons” well beyond dealing with you.

Bottom line, you can’t expect someone to do a job without giving the tools they need to do it. Some people (men/women) need a little extra guidance. If you wanna give it to ‘em, cool. If not, cool too.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:14 am

@LadyJ..oh I totally am blaming everything on Maude..ohh and Dianna Carroll too..Dynasty!!!!! When she slapped Alexis..woosahhhhhh in the face!!!!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:14 am

fred sanford when grady is playing and when fred went out of town to st louis and grady had to keep lamont! that social security multiple checks episode is my all time fav!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:15 am

LOVE BOAT YALL!!!!!!!!!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:15 am

I know my parents love me,
Stand behind me come what may.
I know now that I’m ready,
Because I finally heard them say
It’s a different world form where you come from.

Here’s a chance to make it,
If we focus on our goals.
If you dish it we can take it,
Just remember you’ve been told
It’s a different world form where you come from.
It’s a different world form where you come from.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:15 am

See I did the whole we look good on paper marriage.. I see sooo much clearer now when it comes to relationships.. That lesson was well worth the time, energy and money it cost me.. I learned about me and what I want from a woman. Most importantly I learned what I want to be for that woman.. Now knowing no oneis perfect.. I want to be the dude she smiles when she thinks about, the guy who she can TRUST, the guy she can rely on when she cant rely on no one else, the guy that is concerned about her well being, they guy that she respects. And in return I expect the same..

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:16 am

AWWWW Issac…mix me a drink man!!!!

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:16 am

dag that was clear cut! cut from a different cloth indeed!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

Man…what happen to the Love Boat…all this drama could be wrapped up if we all just got on the Love Boat..

Love, exciting and new
Come aboard, we’re expecting you
Love, life’s sweetest reward
Let it flow, it floats back to you

The Love Boat soon will be making another run
The Love Boat promises something for everyone
Set a course for adventure
Your mind on a new romance

And love won’t hurt anymore
It’s an open smile on a friendly shore

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

I learned about me and what I want from a woman. Most importantly I learned what I want to be for that woman.. Now knowing no oneis perfect.. I want to be the dude she smiles when she thinks about, the guy who she can TRUST, the guy she can rely on when she cant rely on no one else, the guy that is concerned about her well being, they guy that she respects. And in return I expect the same..

That’s What’s UP!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

@Carlito, please advise me on the derogatory or insensitive comments I made to you, because I want to give you my sincerest and heartfelt apology. I don’t do the race jokes and IMO to many people lost their lives in hate related crimes that the KKK and other hate groups did. A young boy by the name of Emmitt Till shouldn’t of being killed, and the beautiful Ms. Billie Holiday shouldn’t never had to sing “Strange Fruit.”

Let me know if you have any questions…my southern roots are real and I’ve witnessed a lot and my grandparents and parents witnessed even more, so it is not a joke to me. Therefore I don’t joke with others about their heritage either. I just want you to dig where I am coming from and we can set things straight in a respectful manner. If you need an offline discussion post your email addy again.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

Dan – we are saying the same thing.. Basically.. Of course the basics apply.. Weve been at this for a minute so of course I take some liberties..

anonymousella

April 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

ok, now that i have watched this “nightline” thing, i have one observation: sherri shepherd and jacque reid are telling these men that what you think we want is not what we want and not n’ere one of those men were listening.

and yet, the problem is us?

also: i am agreeing with sherri shepherd? man, if i believed in the apocalypse, i’d think that s**t was a-comin’ next week.

lurker

April 22nd, 2010
11:20 am

Ya’ll see what happens when you let folks in (yep I’m saying it) play in the sandbox without citing the rules. Carlito, it was bound to happen sooner or later. You need to back up a bit with the so-called jokes…ain’t funny.

hotlanta and Professor love your posts/list

Umm, are these folks typing with their eyes closed? Seriously.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:20 am

Crap. Looks like I’m going home for lunch. Forgot to take my daggone bc pill.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:21 am

Carlito – membership in a hate group, a defunct social movement and a fairly ineffective, outdated social organization?

Just jokes. I know. Laugh, laugh. Chuckle, chuckle.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:23 am

Forgot to take my daggone bc pill.

:shock:

Miss Wise

April 22nd, 2010
11:23 am

I watched the special briefly last night. I am only 26 and live in Houston, TX and I have not had a hardtime finding a good man. If I was to live in Atlanta I would be afraid to date with all the gay men and downlow brothers. Atlanta is no place for straight black women. Also I find that women over the age of 35 who are not married or in relationships are too picky. These women are trying to find a man with no baggage which is almost impossible at this age as well as a man who is just as successful as you, which is almost impossible as well. What we black women forget is that it is alot harder to be a successful black man. Most of us ourselves come from broken homes, lived in poverty, and that was very hard to overcome as a black woman. Imagine a black mans problems, when he constantly has people stereotyping him because the color of his skin. Some men are good men, they may not have deep pockets,degrees,a nice car, the whole nine, but if he has potential dont just throw him away because he dosent have anything. And I find that alot of older black successful women do this. What the older black woman must know is that she is not the pick of the litter either because of her age. Most men now days want younger women, so that alone should make you relax your standards a little… We have to take responsibility for this also… And mothers with sons, we need to raise our young men to be leaders and teach them how to treat women and not spoil them.

bblade

April 22nd, 2010
11:24 am

As a black man I think the problem with black male/female relationships is systemic.
I think a major part of the problem results from the fact that far too many black men are
not fulfilling their roles as fathers. I believe that the first man that a woman should love is
her father. I believe that her father helps to lay a strong foundation for a woman to love
and be loved my another man. I think this is what the Creator intended but unfortunately
far too often this is not happening for women in the African American community. In my experience,
almost without exception there is a clear distinction between women who have had a good nurturing
relationship with their fathers throughout their lives and those who have not. So, to my fellow
black men out there the next time you find yourself saying what the heck is wrong with this
black woman or that black woman… take a peek at the history of her relationship with her father
and you’ll get real close to the answer.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:25 am

don’t sleep on good times and thelma and all her engagement shows…..could yall imagine being engaged to EVERY guy you dated??????

I like good times!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

Thanks lurker

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

“I’m a movement by myself
But I’m a force when we’re together.
Mami, I’m good all by myself
But, baby, u make me better.”

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:26 am

i really like her and larry and felt california would have been great for her but her heart was with keith….lol

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:27 am

PrincessNik – It should be okay. You can generally miss a day and be okay. I just don’t chance those things. Now I’ll just be a couple hours late in taking it, I won’t be missing it tho!

East Point's Own

April 22nd, 2010
11:27 am

One thing a lot of women who say that they are NOW ready for a regular good dude seem to forget is that during all those years when they were looking for a “baller” or a “thug” or any of those popular types of guys who the young ladies (age 20-25) seem to flock to, they were missing out on the prime years to find their husband. Many people who do marry, do so after college or near the age of 25. The fact that so many of our young ladies are looking for the wrong type of man for a good portion of the years when most people of other ethnic backgrounds are already engaged or married is a part of the problem. I know women who turned down proposals from men they dated for 2,3,5 years because they were not ready to get married yet…

Well when you are 30-35 and still single and you are ready to marry you have to know that the game is goning to be a lot harder to win. I said all that to say this, men are not the only people who want to play or get more notches in the bed post, ladies do it just the same, but then want to blame the 30+ year old men who are doing it when the ladies feel as if its now time for them to get married.

http://hispointofview.com

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:28 am

Look now Imma tell ya’ll this.. Lay off the Gay Atlanta ish.. How long ya’ll been here.. I been here all my life and I know there are Gay Pockets but that aint where I hang or my Patnas hang.. Its just as many straight dudes for straight women as there are Gay Men for Gay Men AND Gay women for Gay women.. Come on with the jokes.. Another misconception that all these gay dudes running around Atlanta.. I know this for a fact.. They stay in their zone cause this is still the south.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:29 am

Professor, I am new to this blog and I do not keep count. And I am not saying you personally. This will be my last post on this blog so this statement is not directed towards you, so please understand.

I can be asked how to make an Italian dish or a meal associated with what “we” eat. But I can not ask about a soul food dish and then I am accused of making some sort of joke because I want to know how to make chitterlings(And my neighbor made me some by the way)? On the jokes and stuff, I am not speaking for Swiss but just because we embrace the humor and some of the funny stereotypes does that make it ok? And people on here are up in arms when I ask a question or joke back? Where is the line? It is okay for the masses here to do it but not the other way around. This is a minority blog and even non black minorities are made to feel uncomfortable. Italian and Italian Americans history is nowhere as near tragic as the African American struggle, we do have a plight and struggle of our own as well. From being prejudiced against, by all races. Even in the media, name one show that view’s Italians in a positive light. Hispanics have them, African American’s have them White’s have them. I blog under my real name, I do not have to hide make a point. I gracefully bow out, enjoy your days :)

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
11:30 am

Forgot to take my daggone bc pill.

@Ared!

its jus one day,wont hurt!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:31 am

Wait..Carlito..you white…who knew? No one tells me these things..how am I suppose to keep up. Alright now..we getting a bit high in the quota on here..swiss, Randy, carlito, now this Laid back dude..they moving in pretty quick. Soon it will look like Midtown in here..okay wait not midtown..more like Buckhead..naw..they dont strike me as Buckhead dudes..Cartersville.. Pretty soon it will look like Cartersville in here!!! LMAO!!!

emack06

April 22nd, 2010
11:32 am

@ PrincessNik
“The ability to compromise is a strength not a weakness”

I totally agree. Black women, honestly, The bible will teach you all you need to know and expect in a “Good Man”. You should consider taking the “Marriage Without Regrets” by Kay Author course offered at Elizabeth Baptist Church. My wife and I did, and we learned a lot about what God expects out of a relationship and how to make our relationships strong, healthy and happy. There are plenty of ”
Good” black men out there if you would only get out of your own way.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:33 am

its jus one day,wont hurt!

melo – I know…besides we use condoms too. But better safe then sorry!

It’s only a 10 minute trip from the job to the house with no traffic. I need to do lunch at home more often!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:34 am

Awww damn why yall run Carlito off..come back..Carlito..dont back down..dont leave we need diversity..

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:34 am

Elizabeth BC is a great church along with Cascade UMC!!!!! good post emack06!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
11:34 am

@Anon

Seperate the conjucture from the context.

Given, both side engaged in generalities and started most sentences with assumptions.

But, points and counterpoints were made.

My synopsis would be simply: everybody wants what they want and are gone give what they gone give. Find somebody that will take what you give, give you what you want. And be happy.

All else is shullbit.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:35 am

So now you are going to take your ball and go home because you got called on something?

We don’t fix things by walking away from it when something happens that we don’t like.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:35 am

@ ARed

You can generally miss a day and be okay. I just don’t chance those things

FYI, that’s how lil mama got here

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
11:35 am

besides we use condoms too

@Ared!

i can tell u getting it…

u generally very relaxed on the blog..no raised brow or any such bullshyyt!

:lol: :lol:

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:36 am

Correction – Carlito is not white, he is Italian.

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
11:36 am

Topic Fatigue….Skimming… and hoping we’ve moved on to tom foolery… Yeah, kinda what hotlanta said. Ain’t nothing new, they just repackage it and some keep buying it. But the floodlights come on for us b/c we give it airplay. It’s so en vogue now to be of other races, doing stuff we’ve done for years but on them it’s okay. 16 & Pregnant – the ultimate glorification of being a baby mama AND them lil girls perpetuate the disrespect of their parents when the lil raggedy father is around.

INFAMOUS I don’t know too many of those women (and I doubt it’s cuz I’m not in the market for one) who you reference. The ones whose ideal mate is basically gonna let her walk on the outside of the sidewalk. Most of the women I associate are runnin’ round screaming that we wanna wear the skirts, dresses and everything else to avoid wearing the pants.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:37 am

Whoa, whoa…ho…

You made me happy
This you can bet
You split right beside me, yeah
And I won’t forget

And I really love you
You should know
I wanna make sure I’m right, girl
Before I let go

emack06

April 22nd, 2010
11:37 am

@ East Point’s Own…your comments are soo true. Ladies, keep your legs close and demand that these men respect you. If they are not man enough to respect then you know to move on.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
11:38 am

Kym — Please not Cartersville… I grew up not too far from Cartersville & I spent my whole childhood counting the days until I could get out… :lol:

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:38 am

mytwo – I will go naked to avoid wearing the pants. LOL!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:38 am

Look when you got your mind right and the person you are suppossed to meet will have their mind right. This ish is predestined to happen.. I know when it was time for me to have a girlfriend a woman would present herself and make all others obsolete.. And I would do the same for her.. the biggest problem we have today is laying blame on everybody but ourselves. We have to get to a point where a person can come on and feed our soul but we will never get there if the void in our soul is not filled with sonething other than a black hole..

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:38 am

Lady J

that is my jam!!!!!!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:38 am

FYI, that’s how lil mama got here

PrincessNik –

Uh…you got pregnant after using a condom and only missing ONE pill?

Yeah right…

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:39 am

hmmmmmmm it is simple…..

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:39 am

Carlito–you Italian!!! I love Italian food..wait..you Italian and from MN…and your parents own a farm…well who would have thought..come on back in here I need a veggie lasanga recipe..

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
11:40 am

the biggest problem we have today is laying blame on everybody but ourselves.
@DK

Preach bro!

Tazzee - 23 days til Mrs.

April 22nd, 2010
11:41 am

Wow – almost 350 comments and it’s not even noon. I can’t even begin to try to catch up or comment because this successful black woman is leaving work early today to get her marriage license ;-)

Have a great day all!

Simple Man!!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:42 am

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:33 am

Sounds like someone is getting luckier by the minute!!!! :0

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:42 am

Ared, negative to the condom

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:42 am

i can tell u getting it…

u generally very relaxed on the blog..no raised brow or any such bullshyyt!

Shut up melo. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
11:43 am

Two Cents- A lot of women say that but cant give up the control they are so used to exuding.. And are so busy lookin for a dude to make a mistake so they can correct him, like he’s a dog needing “Strong Correction”

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:43 am

Ared, negative to the condom

Okay. And like I said, I’m going home for lunch so I won’t be missing it.

abc

April 22nd, 2010
11:43 am

To clarify: by definition, people of European extraction are Caucasian, including Italians.

anonymousella

April 22nd, 2010
11:43 am

@dan my point is that we are focusing on black women as though we are problematic, when in reality it’s both of us. and while sherri and jacque seemed to grok what the men were saying, hill and jimi were not and did not do the same. steve (thankfully) had some sense.

keep in mind, i have followed jimi for years and dude stays wrong when it comes to gender, relationships and sexual orientation. and hill did not make himself look smart.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
11:44 am

Ladies, keep your legs close and demand that these men respect you

emack06??

u were on point untill u posted that “closing of legs” heresy/blasphemy.

They will run u outta here too,if u not careful!

:lol: :lol:

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
11:45 am

“Where is the line?”

It’s a fine line between being funny & being offensive… But a good rule of thumb is to keep the subject of the humor light-hearted.

Example:

White dudes can’t dance = who really cares = inconsequential = light-hearted = funny, so roll with it.

On the other hand:

KKK = Killed & terrorized lots of people = lots of people care a great deal = very consequential = not very funny.

I know you didn’t mean anything by it & I’m sure most everyone else here does as well, but it’s just a very sensitive reference (and understandably so).

emack06

April 22nd, 2010
11:45 am

Oh, if a man is not willing to give his life for you then he doesnt love you. God commanded us men to love our wives as Jesus loves the church. Jesus so loves the church that he gave his life for it. So must us men be willing to do for our wifes; that agape love.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:46 am

abc – I know that. Carlito is the one that makes the distinction. (Actually kinda had me scratching my head….or at least it would if I had dandruff.)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
11:46 am

I can’t even begin to try to catch up or comment because this successful black woman is leaving work early today to get her marriage license

YAAAAAAAY!!!! Congrats Tazzeeeeee :lol: :mrgreen:

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
11:47 am

Okay. And like I said, I’m going home for lunch so I won’t be missing it.

@ARed ;)

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:47 am

Pretty sure the void in my soul..would be filled with veggie lasanga if Carlito would come back here and bring me a recipe.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
11:48 am

Dude you usually on point but you read kinda bitter today….

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
11:49 am

Kym I think lito took his ball and went home…

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
11:50 am

I have to profess there are GREAT BLACK MEN OUT there!!!!!!! yep they are out there…….so I guess that is why I am close minded with dating other races bc I feel in my heart my successful balck man is out there for me…..just a personal desire……but I am open to great conversations with other races it does make me think “what if” but i am a bit timid to the thought….

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
11:50 am

@Anon

They may focused on it as a root cause. But “black women” aren’t the problem, just like “black men” aren’t the problem.

It’s the pockets of crazy in both sexes that throws somma us; and then for added measure, they leave a little of the crazy behind and causing unnecessary drama.

Relax, relate, release (since we bringing up old isht)

abc

April 22nd, 2010
11:51 am

White people can dance, they just don’t go so much for some tantric boogie. European white men are among the best players in the NBA. White people like chicken and watermelon, too.

I can’t think of any KKK jokes I’ve ever heard, except to make fun of their sheets, or cast aspersions upon their mama, uh sister, uh, …well, that’d be the same girl, I reckon. Auntie mama?

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
11:53 am

Sounds like someone is getting luckier by the minute!!!! :0

Simple Man – I know you’re new and all…and welcome…

But you can shut up too! :lol:

East Point's Own

April 22nd, 2010
11:54 am

What about the thought that many of the problems between men and women may be partially due to the way that thw working work makes us behave. The very traits that allow one to be successful in the business enviornment may be the very traits that drive a wedge in our relationships. All these people striving to get to the top and make all the money are so used to being in control and beating the competition that we forget, or don’t know how to turn those attributes off once we are at home. Everything can’t be a competition, and everyone can’t be in control.

At home somebody has to know when to say when, or else you might as well not be in a relationship if you have to always have everything your way… Now the tricky part is this… a lot of women SAY they want their man to be in charge but when they don’t get things to go thier way they show their whole and entire backside. So either say and act like you want your man to be in control of things the majority of the time… or admit to yourself that you don’t have it in you to let him take charge and go get you a dude that will let you be in charge.

And no bible verses are needed to determine who should be in control, because I can find another bible verse to counter your arguement…I’m just sayin’

http://hispointofview.com

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
11:54 am

abc — Exactly…. My point is that some stereotypes are about silly, inconsequential things & can be joked about without causing offense to most reasonable people. Other things, not so much…

steve

April 22nd, 2010
11:55 am

The stages of romantic relationships generally correspond to age. In youth we are selfish and hungry for self satisfaction. If we are lucky enough to have a stable partner we grow in harmony as we learn sharing. After about 10 – 15 yrs. we have a unique, special history and connection with our partner that is like yeast rolls that have risen at room temp and ready for the oven. I think we are now ready to inherit the gift that sets us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom…instant awareness of our partner’s needs and desires. The final stage in this relationship enterprise is the best…Actually looking forward to his or her needs so we can fill them. That is an endorphin rush that allows us to fall in love all over again every day. Knowing our partner’s unique needs from decades of commitment is a gift they give us. I think all of this takes time, maturity, forgiveness, patience, and willingness, but I promise it’s worth it. I think these dynamics cross racial, gender, ethnic, religious, or language barriers. I think they even apply to long standing homosexual relationships. In short, I think happiness in mature relationships is about the personal joy the comes from giving to your exclusive partner….the exact opposite of the way the relationship started…Remember you only really own what you can give away (fear, hate, selfishness, territory, etc)…otherwise it owns you.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
11:58 am

I’m here, and I promise if I really tried to join the KKK I would be denied. Can anyone tell me why? LOL

And for a little more clarity, for those who care to know. Italians from the North and South have different origins it is not just an economic disparity.

Here is some good reading, if you shall:

In certain places and certain times, Italians, like other Southern Europeans, have indeed been considered ‘non-white’. This was the case, for example (but not exclusively) in the U.S., during the 19th century and the early 20th century. The white elite of predominanty Northern European extraction that dominated the country wanted to monopolize power for itself, and one way to do that was to define everyone else as ‘non-white’. Since (according to the ideologies prevalent at the time) the white race was superior to all others, making it a very ‘exclusive club’ allowed them to bar access to power from Southern European immigrants. There were even immigration laws that defined which percentage of each nationality was allowed to enter the U.S. every year, based on their respective race: more Northern European immigrants were allowed in than Southern Europeans, even though in the late 19th and the early 20th century there were more people wanting to come to the U.S. from Southern Europe than Northern Europe.

The more recent evolution has been very curious, in a way. As the flow of immigration from Italy to the U.S. diminuished, and Italian immigrants became more and more integrated into the American landscape, and as immigration from Latin America became more prevalent, the new category of ‘Latino/Hispanic’ appeared. And, in spite of the obvious linguistic and cultural similarities between all Southern Europeans; in spite of the fact that the very word ‘Latino’ is derived from the name of an ancient people of Italy, Italians are not usually regarded as Latino. Madonna, an Italian-American with Italian last name, can innocently say that she ‘loves Latinos’ at a concert.

The lesson I personally draw from all this is that race concepts are fluid and culture-dependent, much more than most people realise. In the end, in our racist societies, ‘white’ is just a synonym for privileged, and ‘non-white’, or the various other terms that are employed around the world, a synonym for ‘discriminated’

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
11:58 am

Dave Chapelle’s Clayton Bigsby is one of the few things that can make me laugh at KKK jokes. And that is only because it is SO frickin’ outrageous that you *know* it’s comedy.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
11:59 am

@Carlito..all that..and still no recipe..smh!!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
12:00 pm

@EPO

Some people ain’t ready.

Jesus himself (the real version, not the lionized misquoted dude) could come back himself and few would believe him.

At a certain point, both men and women have to take a leap of faith in a relationship and trust that the person you give your heart to won’t misuse that faith. And if it does happen assess why and do better.

You can’t love with limits – SLS

(umm except for dying – emack – that’s marriage and we just talking dating right now….)

anonymousella

April 22nd, 2010
12:00 pm

@dan but the topic was “why can’t a successful black woman find a man?” not “why are successful black men …” or “why are successful black people…” feel me?

asking about black women suggests that unmarried black men are not a problem. otherwise, we’d be discussing, right?

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:01 pm

Kym, what do you want to know how to make?

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:03 pm

@East Point!

u on point homie!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
12:04 pm

@ SexyCool — RE: that Chappelle skit… That is pretty friggin’ hilarious. My favorite part is when he pulls up to the stop light beside the 2 white kids blasting the rap music…. :lol: “Did he just call us n____? Awesome!!!” :lol:

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

April 22nd, 2010
12:06 pm

socialogy 101 peeps! lol

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:06 pm

Naw, Cheese, it’s when he goes to the rally and his *handlers* tell him to keep his hood on. But then he takes it off anyway. And the reaction, complete with the dude’s head exploding, hilarity.

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
12:08 pm

@anon

I get it, and you’re right. The debate does begin from a bad proposition.

But, if Black women have a problem, then so do Black men; and vice versa. So of course the subject is going to expand from the original hypothesis. That’s to get you to watch.

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
12:09 pm

Carlito – You’re back. You are soooooooooo dramatic! LOL

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:09 pm

Oh and to the topic….broke ass black chicks aren’t exactly having great luck in relationships either.

So, again, I say – it’s not about the *success* of it all…it’s that relationships are frickin’ difficult to maintain. Add this to the fact that today, EVERYBODY has too many options. When there were fewer options….

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:12 pm

wow I just read the post again………i see said the blind man…….trust has to be there…..all of it

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:12 pm

There is this Jewish guy at work who *thought* he could make a racially insensitive comment to a Black co-worker because “Jewish people are discriminated against too”. Even made reference to the Holo…..um, yeah, let me not go *there*.

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
12:13 pm

@SC

“options” is a bit of a cop-out too.

Again, it suggests that forces beyond your control, control you.

It’s not options, it’s “informed consent”. But you I don’t know me, how can I get you to know me? (replace know with comfortable, love, respect, and self-control and you’ve covered 99% of the foolishness).

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:14 pm

Luvbug, that is me “The Situation” and I received an interesting email :) lol

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:14 pm

I think this week is not black females’ week..thats all…

they are talking about black females and herpes too,this week…

just loading up on black females……

I think they just need to give uall a break..u too WD!

:lol:

East Point's Own

April 22nd, 2010
12:16 pm

@ Dan I understand that some people are really not ready, but if you are not ready for commitment then you should not continue in a 3-5 year + relationship when you know that the other person wants to marry. If you know that marriage is not in your near future plans you should not waste your mate’s time. Having said that, I don’t think its necessarily that most of those folks are not ready for marriage, its more that they are waiting for something/someone better or they feel like they might miss something if they get married before they are 30 or whatever age in their head they feel is old enough to get married.

Also long those lines, the men who don’t want to get married until they can buy a house or until they are financially well off are just as much misguided because it would 9 times out of 10 be much easier and faster to buy a house and get financially settled if you have the RIGHT person by your side. By the time you get to where you want to be its hard to tell which women are into you or your nice house/car, etc.

http://hispointofview.com

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:16 pm

I am this way, if you joke with me I am going to joke with you. If we never joke from the initial there is no worry about being offended.

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
12:17 pm

SEXXXY Sounds like a viable solution to me! Oh, but then they’ll say they were distracted and it’s not their fault they choose wrong cuz they were mesmerized by whats tween her thighs…

INFAMOUS Alright, I know of what you speak. BUT. Whatever happened to fight for your love? Whatever age you date em… it’s been like 34, 42, 51 yrs of having to fend for herself. Why would it be automatic for her to relinquish that mentality? In my mind, you have to be willing enough to become invested in her, which means logging time disabusing her of the notion that she’s gotta steer the ship at all, nevermind doing it alone.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:18 pm

Since when did option = control.

And option can’t jump up and force you to take it. Exercising an option is still action that YOU have to take and that YOU control.

And I didn’t say that the availability of choices is THE cause. I simply see it as another factor in what makes relationship success even more difficult.

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
12:18 pm

Okay Carlito. You do know you can only use the Dear John Letter and come back once right?! I mean how else are we supposed to know when you’re really serious? You can’t just be saying bye forever all willy nilly.

Actually you waisted your one cuz you didn’t even give us five minutes to miss you after you posted your big exit. :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:21 pm

Luvbug, I here ya. LOL

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
12:22 pm

You do know you can only use the Dear John Letter and come back once right?! I mean how else are we supposed to know when you’re really serious?

Luvbug – :lol:

Why do folks even waste their time giving these dramatic swan song exits. You always come back! :lol:

We don’t need the annoucement. When it’s your time to join the blog graveyard, just go. You look so silly when you announce you’re leaving and then come back!

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
12:22 pm

Can’t everybody just lighten up, chill please?!LOL!!

What’s on tap for the weekend?

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
12:23 pm

“You look so silly when you announce you’re leaving and then come back!”

Just like Celine Dion… :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:24 pm

…stepping back in.

Did I miss anything?

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
12:25 pm

So are we done with the Black Women Ain’t Isht discussion yet? I have nothing to contribute to that topic. I will say as I’ve said before that I am, and always have been, in love with my Isis reflections, my Kemetic queens, my Cushite goddesses, the women that the Medu Neter (words of the gods) itself is unable to adequately personify.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:25 pm

Silly, guilty of that. Not caring about the charge, guilty of that also. It is not even a misdemeanor. LOL

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:26 pm

lmao I haven’t heard blog graveyard in a long minute……too funny!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:26 pm

or Whitney Houston :)

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:26 pm

EVERYBODY has too many options.

@School??

if there were too many options,this discussion wld not be with us here, today. me thinks??

:???:

There are Options but it appears,the options are not that good for most black women…is that not what we hearing from uall ladies??

And to be fair,the men are also saying uall are good enough either..the sum total of uall??

Maybe Im wrong??

But thats what i get!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm

not good enough either

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
12:28 pm

EVERYBODY has too many options

SexyCool, that’s because people just don’t care any more. Commitment and promises mean very little to many these days. You can wear the wrong kind of shoes (i.e. flipflops) and get booted for the next chick that doesn’t.

Many are just too quick to jump ship just to find that the next one comes with their share of faults also and then moving on to the next.

(Infamous, that’s just an example okay? LOL)

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
12:28 pm

So are we done with the Black Women Ain’t Shyte discussion yet? I have nothing to contribute to that topic. I will say as I’ve said before that I am, and always have been, in love with my Isis reflections, my Kemetic queens, my C-u-s-h-i-t-e goddesses, the women that the Medu Neter (words of the gods) itself is unable to adequately personify.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm

He’s back as if he never left :grin In fact I stayed gone longer.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm

I never said that the options were good ones. Just that they exist.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
12:31 pm

@ Carlito — Did you catch part 2 of that South Park episode last night? Hilarious… I shot beer through my nose over Barbara Streisand’s “stink ray” :lol:

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:32 pm

DreamsM Rocks!!!!!! :) LOL

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
12:32 pm

@Dreams I guess so..I was hoping Steve Harvey would show up and go a couple of rounds.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:33 pm

Dreams, on Cush it amazes me how his son Nimrod, who was very powerful. Name has taken on a negative connotation. All of them are direct descendants of Noah.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:33 pm

Raqi now I truly agree with EVERYTHING stated!!!! Awesome post!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:33 pm

I never said that the options were good ones

@Scool??

what did u say then..coz thats a negative statement??

24karatga

April 22nd, 2010
12:34 pm

Ok..enough already..this topic could go on until the end of time….Cant we all just get along…SMH ??!!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
12:34 pm

@Carlito..I gave up getting a recipe from you..I will see if Rachel Ray has one.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:34 pm

Swiss, yes I watched it. LOL Her singing was hilarious as well. So was finding out about Cartman’s father. :)

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:35 pm

Just that they exist.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:35 pm

That is why I love Bewitched!!!!! Samantha’s husband loves her and all her crazy and even use to the crazy to his advantage in his world!!!!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:35 pm

Kym, did you say what you wanted? I missed it.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:35 pm

There are lot of good options out there,on both sides…the eyes are not trained to see and sift properly!

Thats the problem!

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
12:36 pm

Dreams- Thanks. That was refreshing to read today.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:36 pm

@Kym…I was going to tell you Stouffers but Melo said you have to make the food if you are going to keep the man.

:grin:

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:36 pm

Legalize Polygamy!

24karatga

April 22nd, 2010
12:36 pm

Im sorry..one last thing…Is it just me or was Sherri dispaying the ABW Syndrome…She was speaking with some hostility…and Jacque…from deep within. I need to get on the prowl because I dont want to end up that way ! Three more years before 30 ! – I better get to work..according to the media

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:37 pm

on to the next one has become a sijmple theme here lately….lol

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:37 pm

Actually, I didn’t say anything about the good or the bad of the options. Just that there are too many.

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
12:38 pm

ELLA What I find funniest about the marriage dialogue is that ways we measure success will depend on your values system. My co-worker who’s maybe 10 yrs younger and in a 6-9 mo relationship with someone she’s known for yrs, but not dated just announced her engagement. Engaged two weeks ago. Getting married next month. No shot gun. I’m like WOW. 6-9 mos and I might be tentatively broaching the use of the B(oyfriend) word. Some would point to that as a success b/c she’s getting married even tho it was a whirlwind romance. I worry about the potential of a whirlwind divorce. The rate of Divorce matters to me more than the rate of Weddings.

KYM I have a good one the people usually luv if he continues to be stingy. I’m of Bronxian descent, measure by sight, and never quite make it the same way twice, tho. Hmmmm, Is it still considered a recipe then?

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:39 pm

So, Melo if we get it legalized. How many wives will Queen and the kids allow you to have? I get the feeling that it would not help you out at this point. :grin:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:39 pm

Kym, depends on the vegetables you want in it. Really, you just make your filling and keep your cooked vegetable to the side. Once you are ready to bake put them in there the same way you would “meat” and then bake it as normal for about an hour.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
12:39 pm

SexyCool, my husband has had owned 5 cars in his lifetime. All were Audi except one. He likes the Audi despite all the other options out there. He tried once going with another car and found himself back with what he likes and prefers. That’s how I have come to view how people are especially in relationships.

Some people find what they like and you cannot move them from that no matter what other options are available. Not every one out there is trying to drive every model of car going down the road. Even when the model that they prefer gives them a little trouble or needs a little tuning. They just fix the problem and keep right on going. They know what they want and they stick with it.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:40 pm

Melo said you have to make the food if you are going to keep the man.

@Proff??

now thats the truf coz if another woman makes food for me and not u my woman, i might as well be with the woman who was kind enough to make me the food!

How wld u like it Prof if another man,not ur real man was kind enough to want to go down on u but not ur real man??

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
12:40 pm

@EPO

I’m guilty of the latter – but with (what I feel) are justifiable and good reasons.

As to the former, it takes two to tango. Why would I stay with someone that doesn’t want the sames things as I from the relationship? Sheeeett, it don’t take 3-5 years to find that out.

@SC

Options = control? From whence did that eqauation come?

As stated, the availability of options or choices, is something you learn about yourself in life. Should I, shouldn’t I? Will I, won’t I? But, I expect someone over 18 to have at least a tertiary understanding of who they are, what they want, and how to achieve those things. Despite the “options” available.

I mean, we all know whether we like grape or red kool-aid. Should the decision really be that difficult?

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

In Alicia Key’s song I’m Ready it is a verse that says “we give up without even trying”…..

it is so easy to walk away…..

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

HOTLANTA…I agree 100% with you!

Why are only Black women looked down upon for wanting her equal? Women of other races either marry up (financially) or only consider a man who has what she has (education, money, etc…). But Black woman are supposed to lower their standards? That is BS! Why is this this a race issue?

NEWBIE…time waits for NO man…so why should you? You should be open to men of all races. Mr. Right could be White…Latino..Asian, Middle Eastern, etc.

“can’t think of one professional black woman who wasn’t raised by her mother to “have her own.” This advice comes from generations of black women who endured abuse and financial neglect from men who did one or multiple of the following: 1. spend the family money to take care of other women 2. create other children outside of the marriage 3. physically, emotionally, and verbally abuse his significant other 4. downright neglect to take care of the family at all. Through these types of phenomena, black mothers and grandmothers talked to their daughters and granddaughters and told them to prepare themselves professionally and financially so they wouldn’t become victims of these types of abuses. Black women have changed for the better. We’re not going back. Too many black men have not changed for the better;”

So well put I had to repeat it! Arful….so true!

Can we not put Dominican Republic in with Brazil as a Sex Capital! Thanks! :lol: Um…WHITE ENGINEERING GUY…can you please say the girl’s name that you met in Santiago? (I hope she is not related to me) :lol:

PROFESSOR…you 10:08 has me rollin’! :lol:

Hiya doin’ Mrs. Black & White…

CARLITO…I still love your sexy a$$! I like un-PC humor! :lol: Oh yeah..and Benny Hill! Now where the hell is my canoli? :lol:

For the reocrd…Carlito is TAN! :lol:

SEXYCOOL…Clayton Bixby…hot a$$ mess! he is like Uncle Rukus on Boondocks. :lol:

Since we are quoting TV shows….

“Thunder…thunder…thundercats HOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!”

“Showtime Synergy”

“By the power of Grayskull…IIII HAVVVVVEEE THE POWERRRRRRRRR!”

I watch way too much TV! :lol:

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:42 pm

Melo if we get it legalized. How many wives will Queen

@Prof??

its already legalized coz thats my culture. Its nice to have the option and not use it.

If i wanted to,i wld send her back home,then marry an afr/amerrican to live with ova here..then visit her(queen) every 6 months or so.

she dare not cook,she will see what happens!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:44 pm

How wld u like it Prof if another man,not ur real man was kind enough to want to go down on u but not ur real man??

Melo

That is a helluva comparison, but truthfully if we are at the point that he is licking my South Africa just below the navel he is something to me. I guess I am rolling with him at that point. :grin:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:46 pm

BlackMagicWoman, How are you? :) Uncle Ruckus is funny, I like the boondocks as well. I am ready for the new season. Have you seen the promo clips?

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:46 pm

@Melo,

Now do you really think an AA woman would go for that one? You going home every six months to visit your other wife and lay up and come back here like WHAM.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
12:47 pm

Put the thesaurus down and slowly walk away from the monitor….slowly and keep your hands where I can see ‘em.

Speaking of Alicia Keys, is she preggers….saw a video and she looked a lil fluffy in the midsection…

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
12:47 pm

Thank you my two and you too Carlito..I am going to give it a try..

@Prof..I have no man I am trying to keep..after this week..my friend challanged me to approach a guy and strike up a convo..but errr after this week’s blog battle..and Steve Harvey..I am going to focus on my DIY projects and enjoy my new home..I have truly felt insulted this week.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:47 pm

I guess I am rolling with him at that point.

@Proff??

there u go!

feed him in the kitchen,he feeds u upstairs in the bed….

and u be tgether forever after!

Men are easy!!!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:48 pm

Pretty….
Brown…
Eyes……

Verse:

Pretty brown eyes
You know I see you
It’s a disguise the way you treat me

You keep holding on
To your thoughts of rejection
If you’re with me you’re secured

You keep telling me
That your time is always taken
But I keep seeing you out alone

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
12:48 pm

I love Uncle Ruckus..Praise White Jesus!!!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
12:50 pm

Oh no you did not just mention Thunder Cats, BlackMagic. Blog confession: That female Thunder Cat (can’t remember her name) always gave me pre-pubescent wood. Just sayin’… :lol:

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
12:50 pm

I like Dukes of Hazords too folks….how did I forget BossHog!

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
12:50 pm

Awww DREAMS said I’m a Goddess! (That boy can sang!!!)

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
12:50 pm

You know Tom on the Boondocks is married to a white woman..Sarah..and she thinks he is lame as hell. I love that episode with Usher..

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
12:50 pm

Now do you really think an AA woman would go for that one?

@Proff??

to me, AA women are easy to maintain.

they want all the attention,the respect and the money.

As long as she cooking at home and im giving her the good and she giving me the psh..she can have me…I dont have to tell her im going to africa..i be going on bizzness trips to europe! :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
12:51 pm

Correction: It wasn’t a video it was her perfomance on Idol…maybe it was the outfit or the way is was cut or something…I’on know.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
12:51 pm

LOL @Swiss..Cheetarah..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

Here is a Clip form season 3 with Thugnificent and Will.I.AM video entitled “Dyck Riding Obama”
http://www.boondocksbootleg.com/profiles/blogs/new-season-3-clip-wiliam-feat

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

BMW

Thundercats used to be my show. LOL

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

@Kym yea this week has been hell on the BW I am ready for my weekend getaway.

@Melo I just think the cooking thing is overrated or maybe it is not a big deal for some men. I have seen some married women that did not cook and their husbands loved them to pieces and worshipped their dirty draws.

Where is serious I forgot to ask him about the cooking thingy.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
12:53 pm

Sassy – Imma always read bitter when it something you dont wanna hear or if I step on ya toes.. I dont mean too but I gotta give you the 100.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
12:55 pm

Ok, 5 pages and it’s 12:55. Too much to read, whatcha talking about now?

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
12:55 pm

The oldest joke in the book:

How come when Lion-O goes ‘thunder, thunder, thundercats ho!! Is she always the first to show up?

See, she gets bagged on and ain’t black or human.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
12:56 pm

That female Thunder Cat (can’t remember her name) always gave me pre-pubescent wood.

Swissie her name was “Cheetarah”…don’t feel bad I used to think the leader Lion-o was the shyt when I watched that cartoon.

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm

SWISS….her name is Cheetarah! I want to play her so bad in the movie! :lol:

CARLITO….I LOVE YOU! :lol: You just Boondocks’d me!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm

Wait…BMW…you watched thundercats and he-man? What are your thoughts on the “joe’s”?

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm

I like Dukes of Hazords too folks….how did I forget BossHog!

@Lady J that was the Friday night lineup if I remember correctly…Dukes of Hazards, Dallas and Falcon Crest.

@Melo alrighty than :grin: Now will Queen go back home just like that, can you really send her back she might snap on your azz you know some AA women have schooled her. :grin:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
12:58 pm

Kym, did you see when A Pimp Named Slick Back, was helping Tom get his woman back “from” Usher?

APNSB” Tom, you have to hit the b*tch”

Tom:”I am not that type, I will not hit her”

APNSB”Tom, has not hitting her helped you?”

Tom”I WILL NOT DO THAT SIR”

APNSB”We all have phobias,some cant cross bridges, some cant hit a b*tch”

Then when Tom got the nerve to hit her when he caught her with Usher and ended up slapping Usher instead of her. LOL :)

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
12:59 pm

Granddad: Hold on there, Slickback.
A Pimp Named Slickback: No, it’s A Pimp Named Slickback.
Granddad: That’s what I said. Slickback.
A Pimp Named Slickback: No, it’s “A Pimp Named Slickback.” Like A Tribe Called Quest; you say the whole thing: “A Pimp Named Slickback”!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

“How come when Lion-O goes ‘thunder, thunder, thundercats ho!! Is she always the first to show up?”

@ Dan — One of the funniest things about my 1 year as an English teacher was having the kids read through Shakespeare in class and hearing “What ho!” become “What, ho?” :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

CARLITO…I spend my lunch break in the park looking at Boondocks episodes on my Ipod and that was an episode I just watch on Tuesday! CLASSIC!

DAN….Joe’s…as in GI JOE? I LOVE that cartoon man!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

I have seen some married women that did not cook and their husbands loved them to pieces and worshipped their dirty draws

@Prof??

the men have some woman cooking for them and they proly phluckking that woman on the side.

One thing thats true in america,it is expensive to divorce so the men roll with what they got,giving u all the smokescreen, appearance of bliss with the wife.

What average men out there like to or have the money to spend on junk food??

If u cannot cook now Proff but want a man down the road, up ur game up coz i dont want u to willow in dissillussionment of singlehhood!

cooking and PSH = must haves for any woman

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

I am going to focus on my DIY projects

Kym, I am going to be taking on some projects around the house when the boy gets out of school for the summer. I may as well use him while I have him around the house. He can get a job after I am done with him. LOL

I was just saying last night I want to paint downstairs and that lead to me wanting to do some other things.

There is a bathroom downstairs basement are that is quite unattractive but it was there when I bought the house. It was used as a guest bathroom that was outside of a makeshift guest room at the time. Since then I have renovated the guest room and added a new bathroom in the room and have total built in the basement area to include a television room for my boys when their friends would come over. I left that bathroom as is so that they could use it instead of messing up the guest bathroom or having to go upstairs. I hope to get started on it by the middle of June.

I think I am going to take on washing all the windows inside and out next week. That is going to be a chore in itself.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
1:00 pm

Imma always read bitter when it something you dont wanna hear or if I step on ya toes.. I dont mean too but I gotta give you the 100.

A hit dog will holler :lol: Let the air out dude and get better…stop tryna pick me. :lol: :mrgreen:

Didn’t Carley Simon have a song like that and everybody was tryna figure out who she was talkin’ about…folks guessed left and right and never got it.

You’re so vaaaaaaiiin…I bet you think this song is about you,don’t you

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:01 pm

“SWISS….her name is Cheetarah! I want to play her so bad in the movie! “

@ BlackMagic — I have a video camera & some free time, so that can be arranged:lol:

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
1:02 pm

Boondocks episode: Attack of the Kung-Fu Killer Wolf-B*tch!

“FINISH HIM……Flawless victory…Luna wins”! That psycho-b*tch was off the chain.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
1:02 pm

Now will Queen go back home just like that, can you really send her back she might snap on your azz

@Proff

snap back is for heiffers or women who dont want a man anymore

either way,she snaps back,we aint tgether no more!

My rules are simple!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

I am going to be taking on some projects around the house when the boy gets out of school for the summer. I may as well use him while I have him around the house. He can get a job after I am done with him.

OMG!! That was us during the summer when I was growing up…my mommy would have us doing all sorts of stuff around/on/in the house. Talk about free labor….she got it for sho.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

Rock – further to your car analogy – there are also too many folks got Mercedes/BMW standards when they are on Ford Focus level.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

Grand Dad: There will be no hitting women in this house.

Everyone Else: What women, this here is a hoe

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

How about this: Everyone get some professional help to deal with all of that baggage. I went for a year….it helps

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

I profess in college in orangeburg and to this day I watch and love the Andy Griffith show and when I was little and use to help my grandma shell and snap peas we watch Gunsmoke!!!!!!!

Professor I could watch that line up right now you listed and slumber all day!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
1:03 pm

I have a video camera & some free time, so that can be arranged…

:lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:05 pm

Sass – He who throws rocks should never try and hide their hands.. And a record cant tell ya.. But you can rest assured Ol Dk will.. And do it with love..

You still my fav Trini.. I trying to see ya do that dance I like.. We aint gonna always agree but I fcuks with ya always..

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
1:06 pm

@Carlito..I have that episode on my pod..I love Riley’s little speech to him..

Riley: So this the message you want to send to the youth like myself out here trying to do the right thing..and not love these h@s huh..

What’s all this? What this right here? is this what hot on the streets? That’s what really hood. All for some white girl who left you for a sexy, flexy a$$, dancing, a$$????

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:08 pm

RAqi – For the record.. I dont have a problem with flip flops that much anymore..

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
1:08 pm

@BMW

Uh, oh.

I see you though…

@Swiss

That’s how we read it intially in the SWAT’s We had to be told how to enunciate it correctly.

And to the Boondocks fans..right on

Attack of the kung fu killer wolf….hilarious. When Huey kept trying and she was doing him…

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
1:09 pm

Melo,

You are ruling with an iron fist if she cannot snap back and say dude I am staying in the US of A.

Oh yea, I am helluva cook I just don’t cook often. I am not into cooking everyday. During the week I like the simple healthy stuff a good salad or a potato loaded on that southwestern style. I do these shrimp/pasta salads stuff like that since it is just me. Don’t get me wrong I can throwdown on the heavy stuff too. :grin:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:09 pm

BlackMagicWoman, “Catcher Freeman” that episode was funny. Did you hear what the slaves were singing?
“Lord, wont you take our black a$$es out of here(clap, clap) oh lord wont you take our black a$$es out of here, won;t you come by here Catcher and kill all these cr*ckers, Lord take our black a$$es out of here”
then the one slave with the high voice sings out in loud melody”Sing this muthaph*cka now!!” and they start over

Aaron Mcgruder wrote it, I just watch it.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:10 pm

Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened….say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind………stay focus chica!

daily vent!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:11 pm

I have TMJ and am so hungry…I am struggling to eat this sandwich now wishing I opted for the less filling plain baked potato.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:11 pm

Riley: “I can see if you lost your girl to T.I., but to a sexy flexy a$$ like Usher??”

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
1:11 pm

For the record.. I dont have a problem with flip flops that much anymore

Ms. Flip flops changed that :grin: DK and flip flops sitting in the tree K-i-s-s-i-n-g…

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
1:14 pm

Leggs are you making any smoothies to help? There are some recipes are there that are pretty filling with oatmeal and other stuff.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:14 pm

Booty butt booty butt booty butt cheeks. Booty babooty babooty booty butt cheeks.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:15 pm

What is TMJ?

Where is Slim and I Am?

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

That is funny, no more aversion to flip flops! One for the Gipper!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

Don’t get me wrong I can throwdown on the heavy stuff too

@Proff??

see, i knew u can do it…im gon work with u so i may slide a worthy contender ur way.

fist if she cannot snap back and say dude I am staying in the US of A.

Im glad she aint drank the AA women coolaid and forgotten the rules of our marriage game..at least not yet……

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

All time favorite episodes..Gangstalious!!!

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

SexyCool girl ain’t that the truth.

Mercedes don’t care who buys it but those trying to buy need to be able to afford it.

There were guys way up in the Elite that I never even wanted or attempted to date because they were just not the right fit for me. It’s not my mindset or my desired idea of a lifestyle to be with one of them. I would have been out of my league because I just can’t get with it.

I can’t afford it emotionally or mentally. It’s too much of a price to pay.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
1:16 pm

Kym yea this week has been hell on the BW I am ready for my weekend getaway.
Kym and Prof refer to my 12:28pm and then come by the Blog Bar for your special drink of the day: La Luz que Calenta Mi Alma

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:17 pm

“What is TMJ?”

An excuse not to give PSH.

Did I just say that out loud…? :lol:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:17 pm

@Prof ~ hadn’t thought about smoothies. Thanks for the thought. Getting jokes about pulverizing my food and sipping through a straw. That I know I won’t do!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:18 pm

Good one, i’m swiss! :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:18 pm

Kym, I just LOL’ed. Gangstalicious. He had Riley all messed up. :)

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:18 pm

Im glad she aint drank the AA women coolaid and forgotten the rules of our marriage game..at least not yet……

MELO!!!!! Only you melo!!!!! LMAO!

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm

Boondocks…….May 2, 2010

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm

Boondocks…….May 2, 2010

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm

It is hilarious to me and a sign of her way underappreciated talent that Regina King is the voice of Riley Freeman.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm

RAqi – For the record.. I dont have a problem with flip flops that much anymore..

Infamous, now don’t you go back to hating them when the novelty for the new girl wears off. LOL

You know how we do when we get with that new one and then six months down the line you be like “dude I didn’t know you only had 3 fingers and half a thumb”.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm

Okay, I know what PSH is and you can get that during PMS, what is TMJ?

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
1:21 pm

Lady J…..can I please have your card for misspelling Kool-Aid

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:22 pm

Regina King is the voice of Riley Freeman? I see her name on there and I always thought she was the little girls voice, it makes since now. I like the voice Charlie Murphy does on there.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:22 pm

@ Carlito — Not sure what it stands for, but it’s a condition where your jaw locks up on you…

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
1:22 pm

hadn’t thought about smoothies

Leggs, I got a good smoothie joke for you.

Go get you a good bare wax then hit up a spot. Walk up to a guy you find attractive or your man for that matter and ask him if he likes smoothies. Whether he says yes or no, ask him if he would like to taste yours.

Yeah, I know bad…

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

@Sexy she also does the voice for Huey too..

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

Oh wait, I think I told you that one already Leggs. Sorry.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

ummm bert5200 i copied and paste what melo stated honey I didn’t type it just stir yours and all will be well ok….. :)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm

Raqi – I said “That Much” Im still not ok with her wearing them abroad but when we hit up PUBLIX, it aint that big a deal.. And never when we hitting the town..

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm

True, but Riley is funnier.

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm

Lady J- diabetic…..can’t touch the stuff

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm

@Melo thanks for taking me under your wing, this should be interesting. :grin:

@Leggs if you use some oatmeal try to put it in the food process first to make it finer and I add a little milk and microwave it for about 20 seconds to keep it from being gritty.

Usually I add my ice and milk in the blender first (blend)…followed by a 1/3 cup of the oatmeal (I press the blend button a few seconds) fruit and yogurt. I like using pineapple, berries and a banana if you want to get full.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

TMJ, To Much Juice, Toe Massaging Jerry, Tooth Missing Justifiable, Tea Mint Julep, Touch My Junk?

bert5200

April 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

Lady J, I’m diabetic….can’t touch the stuff

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm

@Kym

A Pimp named Sweetback had me on that ish for weeks.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:26 pm

OK so Nene left Greg for the football player.. And she said she really loved-ed Greg and he was the man of her dreams.. Well I guess while the money was coming in..

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm

@Melo thanks for taking me under your wing, this should be interesting.

Professor – I’ve never wished more to be a fly on the wall. LOL

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm

TMD – Temporomandibular joint disorder. Layman know it as TMJ. Jaw joint misalignment making chewing difficult.

@Raqi ~ you know how corny I am so I laughed at that joke. I liked it.

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm

Sup yall….I’m sure you all are probably off topic by now. What’s hannenin?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm

Regina is the voice for Riley and Huey..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm

Regina does Huey and Riley?

Swiss, I way off.

Leggs, you have lockjaw?

TMJ, temporomandibular joint dysfunction. I am sitting here thinking of all of the blog acronyms and this one TMJ actually means something this time. Hope you get better Leggs. :)

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm

@Dan/Carlito/Swiss…Homies over H@Es..HOmies over H@es..Do the homie..do the homie!!!!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm

“A Pimp named Sweetback had me on that ish for weeks.”

Okay, hold the phone…. You can’t just throw out “a pimp named Sweetback” without providing the back story… :lol: We’re waiting…

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:29 pm

The strangest voice over ever though is Kyle from living Single.. He does the voice for the dude Kratos in the GOD OF WAR video game.. But also the best because you dont picture him doin it.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:29 pm

Hey Slim, I just asked about you.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
1:29 pm

Infamous, I have some really cute leather flipflops. They are cute. Not those Old Navy beach/shower things. LOL

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:30 pm

Ok, Prof ~ sounds interesting.

@InfamousD ~ are you talking about the “she man” NeNe from Housewives??

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
1:31 pm

Naw Kym, they had my dude in skorts.

That isht right thurr was tooo subversive… plus hilarious.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:31 pm

Kym- Do the homey. LOL

who is “A pimp named sweetback”? Say it with me now “A pimp named Slickback”

Infamous, I love God of War, I have 1 and 2 and downloaded the Demo for 3. :)

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
1:32 pm

@Swiss

It’s not a pimp named Sweetback- his name is A Pimp Named Sweetback….git it right…code 32, pimp down…

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:32 pm

@My Italian Studmuffin ~ you are too funny. Yeah, this time it actually means something. Someone on here said TMJ means Too Much Jawjacking!

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
1:34 pm

Actually, it’s a Pimp Named SLICKback.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
1:34 pm

He who throws rocks should never try and hide their hands.. And a record cant tell ya.. But you can rest assured Ol Dk will

Umm as I’ve said a hit dog will holler….loudly it seems. After reading me do you really think I would hide…really? Okay moving on……

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:35 pm

(Looks to the Judges) We will accept being called Italian Studmuffin. LOL

Leggs, you were not on your date with the new guy when it happened were you?

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
1:35 pm

CARLITO….you are NUTS!!!!! :lol:

KYM….Gangstalicious was one I watched on Monday. “Thuggin’ Love”!

“N***a you gay???” Riley is a hot mess! :lol:

“Regina King is the voice of Riley Freeman”
SEXYCOOL..I was shocked to find that out about 3 years ago.

LEGGS….what were YOOOOOOU doing to get lockjaw? :shock: :lol:
I had an asthma attack while doing that once…yeah that was a real mood killer! :lol:

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:35 pm

@ Dan — Ah, okay. Um, yeah, I had to google that one…. :lol: For a minute there I thought you were actually rolling w/ a pimp named “Sweetback” :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:36 pm

A pimp named sweetback, sounds like a gay pimp. Rielly would say “You Gay”

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
1:37 pm

Ok so remember the Boondocks episode where Riley was painting grafiti and had to take art lessons from that white guy with the afro? Does anyone else actually remember when that guy used to have a painting show on television like 25 years ago? I always ask people if they remember him, and they never do. That’s why I like that episode…’cause the real guy was just like that when he painted.

lurker

April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm

@Carlito…Why did you get locked up?

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm

“I had an asthma attack while doing that once…yeah that was a real mood killer!”

@ BlackMagic — Have you seen Miss March? Dude’s GF is epileptic & he puts on a strobe light while she’s giving him some PSH… :lol: He then stabs her in the forehead w/ a fork to get her off his wang…. :lol:

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm

Yeah, I remember him. I think he was on GPTV or PBS.

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm

@Dan..LOL he had on skorts”so you can get to your piece quickly”" and a man bag!! LMFAOOOOOO!!!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm

I’m doing a lot right now (maybe too much) I apologize for parroting the character’s name incorrectly. I should have done my own research.

Mea Culpa….now..continue on….

@Dreams

Yes, I do believe he still does the show.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm

Dreams, I remember that guy. I think he was on public broadcasting. Didn’t he die.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm

Leggs – Yep.. Thats the same nene..

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
1:41 pm

@Swiss

I would roll with a cat name A Pimp Named Slickback.

I most certainly would. For the entertainment value alone

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:41 pm

Why do people, switch to lurker status and ask questions and say things?

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
1:42 pm

Proff/DK

Last saturday at the stadia,NeNe was in front of Queen and I in line, as we went in for the Hawks game.

Boy,TV makes these heiffers look beautiful,dont it?? :lol:

I said to Queen,”thats NeNe’..she said “hw do u know??

I said ‘look under those dark shades she got,she got tough skin on her face and she rolls red blush on her pimplish cheeks like Dollar store is going outa bizzness”

Sure enough it was her :lol:

She cld have done better with some better jeans and lotion on
her long arms!

The chic she was with looked more like the celebrity than she looked…

House Hoes of Atlanta my Ass!! :lol:

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
1:42 pm

Lito – sup honey…yeah I see you just asked about me…been moving from the big office into a broom closet for that last few hours….so needless to say, not all that happy about it. (In walks co-worker asking if Slim can pass them some trash bags and paper towels)

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
1:42 pm

It’s cool, Dan. You weren’t going to get a gold star for getting it right anyway.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:43 pm

Carlito beats me! LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
1:43 pm

Dreams M- That was my man Bob Ross on the Joy of Painting..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:43 pm

The guy with the Afro was named Bob Ross, he died in 1995 :)

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:44 pm

but over 3 years of this it is nothing random about this blog per se…..it is what it is……

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:44 pm

OMG, I am in hysterics over here at you BMW. I think I remember you mentioning that a while ago. Too funny. You made my jaw hurt a little more cuz I actually LOL.

@Carlito ~ why you asking the judges for their approval now. You’ve been answering. Dance to your own beat, don’t ask nobody nuffin….:wink:

I wasn’t doing nuffin, probably why I’m locked up! I need some oil!

I’m cracking myself up!

Kym--Happy Earth Day!!

April 22nd, 2010
1:46 pm

Random Song..

Take a good look at it..Look at it now.. Might be the last time you’ll have a go round..
I’ll let you touch if you like to go down..I’ll let you go further if you take the southern route..
Don’t go to fast..don’t go to slow..you’ve got to let your body flow..
I Like’em..attentive..and I like a man in control..

Baby its yours..all yours..if you want it tonight..I’ll give you the Red Light Special..although the night..

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:47 pm

I believe there actually is a pimp in midtown named StickyBack

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
1:47 pm

Regina is the voice of Riley and Huey

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:47 pm

Lady J, if they asked under their real name I would have answered. LOL

Slim, so you are “in the closet” now? :)

Leggs, I am PC today :)

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:48 pm

Swiss, I thought there was a lady named “stickyback”

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:49 pm

Time stays long enough for anyone who will use it……a thought…..

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
1:50 pm

Dreams M- That was my man Bob Ross on the Joy of Painting..
Yeah that’s him. Where I lived he used to come on right before cartoons on satdurday. So I used to watch his show. “Now we’ll make some happy little trees in the background”. lol People never remember him…thought I was going crazy. Should have known the blog would be on it though. This is an “eclectic” azz little group though. haha

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
1:50 pm

“so you are “in the closet” now?”

I suppose so :-(

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
1:50 pm

“Swiss, I thought there was a lady named “stickyback””

I’m sure there is… just not in midtown :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
1:50 pm

LEGGS….what were YOOOOOOU doing to get lockjaw?
I had an asthma attack while doing that once…yeah that was a real mood killer!

Too funny!…an asthma attack lito? She must’ve had that THAYOW. ;)

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:50 pm

Why do people, switch to lurker status and ask questions and say things?

Too funny. So many reasons.

1. Wusses
2. Wusses who don’t want to hurt the person’s feeling by revealing who they are (all through a computer)
3. Wusses who want remain blog friends with whomever they may belittle. You know, much like two-faced people in real life.
4. Wusses who like taking jabs just for the fun of it.
5. Wusses who like being a wuss.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
1:51 pm

Does anyone else actually remember when that guy used to have a painting show on television like 25 years ago?

@ Dreams M I remember LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:51 pm

Mr. Rodgers Neighborhood.

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
1:51 pm

“Swiss, I thought there was a lady named “stickyback””

I’m sure there is… just not in midtown

LOL…LOL

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:51 pm

“…she rolls red blush on her pimplish cheeks like Dollar store is going outa bizzness

I’m crying over here!

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
1:52 pm

SWISS…no I did not see Miss March! OMG …. :lol:

LEGGS…put a bit of WD40 on that jaw hinge and go to town! :lol:

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
1:53 pm

leggs wisdom honey pure wisdom……..lololol! my Fridays will be clear in 3 weeks FYI! :)

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:54 pm

Sassy, I did not have an asthma attack. I am good on receiving DT. :) I would freak out of a woman had an asthma attack while doing that. Now choking while I pinch her nose and hold her throat is normal. That or be nice and give her a scalp massage while she is down there.

Swiss, midtown would def be a man names stickyback. LOL

Slim, what did you do. You remind me of the guy from Office Space now. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
1:54 pm

SASSY..it was me that had the asthma attack! :lol: It sucks (pun intended) to know I have to have my inhaler on deck whenever I do the do…which hasn’t been done since 2009…hasn’t been done right since….since….oh hell who knows! :lol:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
1:55 pm

@SassyMe ~ BMW had the asthma attack!

Ok, Carlito on being PC…le’s see how far that gets you.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
1:55 pm

ya’ll got me cracking up over here

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
1:55 pm

@Leggs??

make them 10!!

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
1:56 pm

Carlito – it’s funny you mentioned Office Space. We already said that’s what we all feel like now. I’m not in this broom closet alone. I’m in here with 5 other people, one of which is my District manager. I feel like I can sit at my desk, lean back in My chair and still be able to put my feet up on her desk. LMAO!

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
1:57 pm

LEGGS, LEGGS, LEGGS….Oil would not be the residue left behind, silly girl… I’m sure some nice guy will volunteer to give you a refresher, tho!

Laid Back White Guy

April 22nd, 2010
1:57 pm

Kym, I’m even north of Cartersville!! LOL

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
1:58 pm

I got in my car to head home from lunch and this daggone topic was on the radio too. Grrr….!!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
1:58 pm

Slim, well with this new information, I can not come visit you in your closet. I thought you were in there alone with garbage bags, paper towels and duct tape. :)

Leggs, I said PC not FC. I am making my own acronyms up now.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
2:00 pm

CArlito – Get used to people switching to lurker on you.. They think you can reach thru the screen and choke em..

You were way outta bounds earlier though.. And for the record anything that has to do with slavery or that whole experience is off limits.. The KKK is a sore spot forever that ish never gets a pass. Oh and the N word.. No matter how cool we are, I would still never be your N.. Your patna, Yo Homie, Yo MF but not ya N.. Yeah I know theres a double standard but double standards exist wherever you are. You yourself would qualify as a double standard.. You can be a white dude when its convienient not just an Italian.. You know.. Imma lace you up Patna..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
2:01 pm

Carlito – and Im not being mean Im just pulling your coat to some valuable info..

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
2:03 pm

BLACK MAGIC/LEGGS Luv the movie, “The Sweetest Thing” cuz it’s totally foolish and they have a scene where Selma Blair gets a lil overzealous. I think his body piercing that was the culprit.

DSP

April 22nd, 2010
2:04 pm

Fabulosity

April 22nd, 2010
8:43 am
“People who are educated do not use terms like “degreed up”.”

“Says the clown who just lambasted “educated people” for their typos on blogs (gotta love the spell-check police) yet commits the same atrosity just a few posts later. Mmmm hmmm”

Says the buffoon that can’t tell the difference between a “typo” and a “misspelled word”.
And BTW, it’s ATROCITY – not “atrosity”.

anonymousella – I was referring to others like “fabulosity”. You can “code switch”
all you want – I’ve done it before.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:04 pm

Infamous, A couple of times people switch to lurker or to some other name that I have not seen before. I don’t use the Nword, never have. And I can see how the KKK joke may have been offensive. I am not apologizing for saying it. But I won’t joke about it anymore.

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

Carlito – they stopped trusting me in the broom closet alone with all the supplies after For Real came to visit me at the job once. Boy was that a hard one to get out of… :mrgreen:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

Ok, LadyJ ~ 3 weeks and counting.

@mytwo ~ I’m just calling IT oil….you know the gushy stuff (can I say that for men?)

@ARed ~ the topic was on the radio as I went to TMJ specialist this morning, and I had to quickly turn it off too!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

@BMW

Wait….did I just read…that you had an asthma attack…during…

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

Does anyone else actually remember when that guy used to have a painting show on television like 25 years ago?

Yeah remember how he alwaysy talked in that low soothing voice while he painted? It was amazing to see him take that blank canvas and turn it into a nice portrait….he made it look so easy.

My bad lito :oops:

It sucks (pun intended) to know I have to have my inhaler on deck whenever I do the do…

I bet that really took the steam outta your sail….so you were DTing when it happened? :shock: Dude wasn’t like that til it made you cain’t breave was he?

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

anyone seen blindside and date night???? reviews please…..lol

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
2:07 pm

MY2…girl I love the movie. She got with dude who had the Prince Albert piercing. :shock: :lol:

Artful Persuasion

April 22nd, 2010
2:07 pm

Interesting dialogue going on! I truly believe that once all the offal is cleared away, black men and black women truly care about each other. I also think that we’re more possessive of each other because of our shared history. We expect more from each other, and we feel a bit more let down once we are disappointed by each other.

We are going to get the black family together. The family is the strength of the community, and the demise of our community is not an option. This won’t happen by lowering standards. By lowering standards, I do not mean adhering to a superficial list of tangible items. I mean adhering to standards that include intangibles like responsibility, honesty, and fidelity. Where those things are found, a true commitment can take place.

Keep the discussion alive!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
2:07 pm

I got in my car to head home from lunch and this daggone topic was on the radio too. Grrr….!!!!

I went to essence.com and it was plastered up there,too.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:08 pm

BlindSide

GREAT MOVIE!

lady j, usually i don’t like the movies that have so much critical acclaim, but i loved this one.
haven’t seen date night though.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
2:08 pm

“I am not apologizing for saying it. But I won’t joke about it anymore.”

That’s even funnier!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
2:08 pm

But not in a good way!

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

DAN…Good LORD….yes I did! :lol

SASSY..my ex back home is one well endowed Serbian! :lol: But I guess I was doing too good of a job because he got excited and well…blocked a chica’s airways!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

Carlito – Theres nothing wrong with apologizing for a mistake.. It doesnt show youre weak because you apologized.. It actually shows youre weak for not apologizing.. Because in truth you never want to offend your friends.. Capiche..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

Blindside, I did not go see. I do not like those feel good movies. Date Night is on my list to see/download. :)

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

and I had to quickly turn it off too

Leggs and Amazon, I actually was looking forward to watching the Nightline program last night but fell asleep before it came on. I was interested just for who was on the panel. But when the marido came in and turned off the light my lights went out. I fell asleep before I knew it and it was only about 5 minutes before the NL episode was to air.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:10 pm

Artful Persuasion you went deep!!!! good points!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

Carlito – Don’t mind the sensitive ones on here. Good grief, why are we even still talking about it?!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

thanks you too!!!!!!!!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

dag meant TWO for the skeptics! ha!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

I actually was looking forward to watching the Nightline program last night but fell asleep before it came on

:lol:

I was up, I think I was watching what the hype about Chilli’s show was about.

I checked Facebook and noticed that plenty of my black male friends were watching the Nightline special and none of my black female friends were.

I hope the brotha’s learned something.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

Infamous, I understand what you are saying once again. But I am not the type to give an empty apology. If I felt it would be sincere I have no problem doing so. But I don’t. The joke made sense in my mind, but not anyone else’s. During the aftermath, I just decided not to try and explain it and count it as a lesson learned. There was an irony to joining all 3 groups that I listed in that one entry.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:13 pm

LadyJ, I want to see Date Night. The marido and I may go see it on our next date night.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 22nd, 2010
2:13 pm

he got excited and well…blocked a chica’s airways!

:shock: Oh my!!

BlackMagicyou gone get me in trouble in here…got me laughing all loud n stuff….can barely type chile.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
2:13 pm

@ BlackMagic — Well, I’m glad you pulled through, ‘cos that one be one embarrassing way to bite the dyck — I mean dust. ;-)

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:14 pm

@ Lady J

I want to see death at a funeral, i heard it was hilarious. The newbie and I have plans to go this weekend.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:14 pm

Amazon, I wish it would not have come on so late. But oh well. From what I hear I didn’t miss anything that has not been said and misstated hundreds of times.

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

I checked Facebook and noticed that plenty of my black male friends were watching the Nightline special and none of my black female friends were.

That’s funny.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

BlackMagic — Well, I’m glad you pulled through, ‘cos that one be one embarrassing way to bite the dyck — I mean dust

reminds me of color purple

Celie: how’d he die

stepmom: on top of me

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

@Carlito??

There is only one authentic “Lurker” tho?? Female..high school diploma,”good” job,drives a benz she says. Cant remember her birfday!! :lol:

It may have been her and not any of the fake ones.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

Boy folks always sticking their nose where it dont belong..

Carlito – You still my Guy and I fcuks with ya.. And dont mind these little girls who cant ever shut up to save their lives..

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:16 pm

Princess is “Death at a funeral” the one with Chris Rock and Martin?

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:16 pm

Infamous, I just notice you threw “capiche” in there. LOL :)

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:16 pm

@Luvbug??!!

none of my black female friends were.

That’s funny.

NO..Thats Angst! :lol:

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm

@ Raqi, yes and Tracy Morgan, and Danny Glover basically an all star cast

I’m hoping it will be as funny as Welcome Home Roscoe Jenkins, which i had to see twice cause i was laughing so hard the first time i was missing stuff.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm

Boy folks always sticking their nose where it dont belong..

:lol: @ folks who still don’t get this is a public blog and not a private message.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm

On the flip side, I’ve come darn close to losing consciousness while servicing Mrs. Swiss when she clamps down on my head with those thighs… Boo’s got some strong legs, I tell ya… :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm

he got excited and well…blocked a chica’s airways!
Shyt that sucks. Things do happen though. gotta give it up to the game.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm

As it happens, Carlito, you did apologize….at 1105a.

“the humor makes sense in my mind. Sorry if I offended you.”

But I get what you’re saying.

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm

Melo – No, that’s funny.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm

It may have been her and not any of the fake ones.

Melo, I was thinking the same thing since the comment was just a simple question and not a name calling jab or something.

Why she uses that moniker I don’t know because she gets all the heat anytime someone else post crap using “lurker”.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm

Carlito – I got ya joke homie but in certain circles that might cause a few problems.. Thats all im saying.. Again.. I know what you meant thats why I didnt say anything earlier.. But you were out of line for it.. We talked like Men are supposed to do and we good. And cleared the air for those that were still struggling with it.. I hope.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:19 pm

Ladies I hope to get date night in on a date night soon! I wanna laugh my tail off! LOL

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

I hear I didn’t miss anything that has not been said and misstated hundreds of times.

Raqi – I’m sure you didn’t! Besides, you got your manz! :lol:

As I said yesterday, it was an open forum and it took place on a Friday night. It started at 6 pm and didn’t end til close to midnight (I hear). What a waste of a Friday night when the folks in the audience could have been out living and meeting folks. :lol:

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

I’m hoping it will be as funny as Welcome Home Roscoe Jenkins

Princess, yeah I know. I like that movie too. I hate when they preview a movie and show all the good parts in the previews just to reel you in but when you see the full length movie you be like is this what I wasted my money and time to see. LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

Melo, I can not tell any of the lurkers apart.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

I’ve got the power hey yeah heh
I’ve got the power
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh yeah-eah-eah-eah-eah-eah
I’ve got the power
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh yeah-eah-eah-eah-eah-eah
Gettin’ kinda heavy

It’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ kinda hectic
It’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ kinda hectic
It’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ kinda hectic
It’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ it’s gettin’ kinda hectic

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

Besides, you got your manz!

Amazon, Yep but I like Sherri Shepard as an actress and was very interested in what she had to say on the topic. And I wanted to hear what Hill Harper was inputing because I am kinda on the fence with him. LOL

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:23 pm

one well endowed Serbian! But I guess I was doing too good of a job because he got excited and well…blocked a chica’s airways!

@BMW!!

dDng,that hit me real hard and its not easy picturing u in my mind.

Right now,im holding my left cheeck with my left hand and just ruminating. :-)

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:24 pm

PK enjoy the date and the movie!!!!! happy for you chica!

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
2:24 pm

Amred – I don’t know anyone, male or female, who was going to watch it. Everybody I know, whether coupled up or not, is too busy living to sit around and watch a bunch of bitter folks beyotch!

I’d rather watch/listen to a good political discussion. Now those get my blood boiling!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:24 pm

but when you see the full length movie you be like is this what I wasted my money and time to see. LOL

@Raqi

exactly, I am known for the statement I wouldnt’ mind seeing that when it comes out on DVD LOL

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:26 pm

Roscoe Jenkins was funny I am a Martin fan for LIFE~!!!!!! Next Chris Rock!!!!!!! Great Comics! A shout out to Richard Pryor for paving the way!!!!!!!

I like Eddie Murphy too in a weird kind of way…..he’s eccentric to say the least…..

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:26 pm

Swiss, great way to die.

Infamous, I see you there.

SexyCool, cool :)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:26 pm

And I wanted to hear what Hill Harper was inputing because I am kinda on the fence with him. LOL

:lol:

I bought his book. Since I bought Steve Harvey’s I felt I should give Hill a lil love. I haven’t finished it yet. It’s a lot more complex than Steve’s and really, I am over the topic.

But I can say that I’ve heard Hill as he was making the book tour rounds and he knows he is part of the problem, which is why he wrote the book. He casted off many women for petty infractions. He did say on one radio interview that he plans to be married in the next couple of years. I don’t know how he’s doing with that goal tho.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

I am known for the statement I wouldnt’ mind seeing that when it comes out on DVD

Princess, like “Precious”. Heck I am not even going to rent nor buy that DVD. Imma wait until it comes on ABC for free. LOL

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

Kimmie I was playing with my new tow!!!! My HP Compaq Laptop!!!!! LOL my TV never came on as I listened to Alexander O’Neal’s Pandora station last night!!!!!! LOL!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:28 pm

Raqi, when Julia and I saw Hill Harper on Celebrity Jeopardy. She was surprised at how short and “different” looking he was.

Logic

April 22nd, 2010
2:29 pm

@ “A smart man WANTS a smart woman. Ask Stedman.” – Keep believing that if you want to but most guys will tell you that is not anywhere near the top of the hierachy of what a man requires from a girl. Yes a girl who is bright, articulate, etc. is a plus but no more than a plus of a girl being attractive and athletic. Guys look for compatibility and someone who allows them to be a man and most importantly feel like THE MAN around his lady regardless of physical, finacnial, or educational status. NO MAN wants to have his worth determined by the forementioned factors especially from his lady. If she is really loyal and committed to her man than she will find a way (along with him) to work out thier issues/situations/problems without making him feel less than a man or even inferior to her and anybody else for that matter!! This is what I man who wants a healthy committed relationship looks for. Please feel free to ask around and comment.

Kym--Black Single Woman Outlaw...

April 22nd, 2010
2:29 pm

Lord its like the song that never ends..

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
2:29 pm

Everybody I know, whether coupled up or not, is too busy living to sit around and watch a bunch of bitter folks beyotch!
You’re right about that. That’s why they didn’t have any real scholars on there. It’s hard for me to watch nonsense, and there’s so much of it on tv.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:29 pm

Were any people on that panel currently married?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm

d!ck ridin at its finest..

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

Logic I agree…

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

I don’t know how he’s doing with that goal tho

@Ared??

thats a pertinent qstion to ask really.

A seemingly well put together dude saying he cant or hasnt found a good AA woman to date…..not marry, but date?? and u 35+?

Pleeeeease!

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

Amazon, my sister sent me Steve Harvey’s book. When I was reading it Mase flipped thru it and said “this ain’t nothing new. You are living this everyday already”. LOL I told him to stop tooting his own horn. That’s my job. LOL

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
2:31 pm

Logic, are you a man or a woman?

(lol)

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:33 pm

That’s why they didn’t have any real scholars on there.

DreamsMat, that celebrity panel was to draw the audience. LOL

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
2:33 pm

Carlito/Raqi – Hill got CLOBBERED on Jeopardy by Doogie Houser dude. I mean, it was not even close!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:34 pm

I am going to be flipping channels, between the draft and Survivor.

Logic, nice post. The only flaw I see is where you typed that a woman who “ALLOWS” him to be a man and “FEEL” like a man. IMO a woman has nothing to do with that. She can speak to his manhood, but all of that other stuff is within a real man himself.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
2:34 pm

DreamsMat, that celebrity panel was to draw the audience. LOL
If you were verbalizing this, would there be sarcastic emphasis placed on the word “celebrity”? lol

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:35 pm

Carlito, I knew he was short. I can tell that from many movies I have seen him in. So far to me the best thing he has done to date is CSI: NY and I never watch that. LOL

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
2:36 pm

“Swiss, great way to die.”

Indeed… :-D

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:36 pm

Raqi, when Julia and I saw Hill Harper on Celebrity Jeopardy. She was surprised at how short and “different” looking he was.

He is shorter than I’d like, but he looks just like he does on TV. His intelligence makes him sexy though. I’d hit it! :lol:

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
2:37 pm

“I told him to stop tooting his own horn. That’s my job.”

Just make sure you have your inhaler handy… Oh wait, that’s BlackMagic… My bad… ;-) :lol:

Logic

April 22nd, 2010
2:37 pm

@ Kimmie – LOL im a man. Im a young professional, currently single, and not looking for but always looking out for a good relationship if that makes sense lol.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:38 pm

Amazon, my sister sent me Steve Harvey’s book. When I was reading it Mase flipped thru it and said “this ain’t nothing new. You are living this everyday already”.

:lol: That’s what I liked about the book, the simplicity. I also like how he stressed that you won’t run a good man off by asking the questions you’re supposed to ask.

Just a good reminder for folks. We ultimately settle back in our ways but nothing wrong with a reminder to keep the game tight. It’s just a runaway train now tho. :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:38 pm

kimmie, I saw him on that show. First he looked like he was about to cry, then he tried to make a mockery of it after he realized that everyone else was smarter than he was. Oddly enough, that same night In To Deep came on. The movie with he and LL Cool J in it. He had blond hair in his role, yep he is gay.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:38 pm

THE MAN around his lady regardless of physical, finacnial, or educational status.

@Logic??

compatibility=check

physical attraction=check

minimum educational requirements=check

financial consideration= no check

She may be coming from a rich fam or poor fam if her value sysyetem fits in with mine,she can read and wriote to the level im comfotable with,her physique is on point to me and her sex game is check..we on.

I dont get the financial part!??

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:39 pm

Carlito, I knew he was short. I can tell that from many movies I have seen him in. So far to me the best thing he has done to date is CSI: NY and I never watch that. LOL

I fell in love with him and my favorite white boy, Paul Walker, during this movie called “The Skulls.” I don’t think I’ve watched Hill in anything else since then. :lol: I don’t watch any of the CSI’s either.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:39 pm

LMBO DreamsMat. Those were folks that could not be scarred too badly by agreeing to do it yet known well enough to draw and audience.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

I have a friend who is obsessed with Hill Harper, she went to the Delta National Convention a couple years ago and got to meet him and have him autograph her copy of his book, that’s all she talked about for the longest time. :lol:

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm

you won’t run a good man off by asking the questions you’re supposed to ask. ………hmmmmmm a welcomed thought!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:41 pm

Why does Paul Walker have to be labeled a “white boy” LOL…..just joking

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:41 pm

Gouda!!!! (SMACK)

:lol:

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

Logic – Don’t mind me, I was just trying to stir up some mess,lol, cause i’m sick of 2 things:

#1 – This subject
#2 – Folks trying to tell folk, especially men trying to tell women, what they NEED to be doing. Whatever won’t work for you might be the cat’s meow to someone else. So everyone should just be the best ME they can BE & LIGHTEN UP!!!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

PK I am buying his book and my reservations about him are dying down but I ain’t doing the HH bandwagon per se….lol….I feel he does have something worthwhile to say…….lol

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

Why does Paul Walker have to be labeled a “white boy” LOL…..just joking

Cuz I said so!!!

He is yummy!

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:43 pm

you won’t run a good man off by asking the questions you’re supposed to ask

Let the church say Yay-men.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm

AmazonRed, LOL

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm

Lady J

don’t get me wrong i’m not on the HH bandwagon, i did enjoy that book though

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm

Why does Paul Walker have to be labeled a “white boy”

Because he is???

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm

I’m familiar with his (Hill Harper’s) persona, but even after hearing/seeing him in a few interviews, I cant make out what his personality is like. Maybe he’s a nice guy. I can’t tell.

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
2:46 pm

First he looked like he was about to cry,

Carlito, I thought it was just me!LOL!!! Poor thing!

I’m not gonna lie, I used to have a little crush on him cause of the smarts. He’s okay with me, seems like an upstanding brother.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:46 pm

Kimmie, as long folks keep buying the books and watching the specials it is going to keep right on going.

Although I wanted to watch it I find it kinda strange that the only slot they could get for the program was near midnight. LOL I guess they had to wait for all the good shows to go off so that folks would not be distracted by actual good entertainment.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:47 pm

A seemingly well put together dude saying he cant or hasnt found a good AA woman to date…..not marry, but date?? and u 35+?

I think Hill’s problem, which is something I’ve seen other black men think…is that when they get good and ready at 35+ to marry, they think they can just *snap* their fingers and find the “perfect” woman to settle down with.

My problem is that, yes, you can probably find some girl to marry you, but they one you dismissed back when you were 25 could have been the one that was really for you. Not saying you couldn’t be happy with the one you end up with tho…

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:47 pm

Because he is???

:lol:

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
2:48 pm

@Kimmie

Who better to tell a woman about a man – than a man? Your homegirl don’t know isht, about being a man; no woman does. <– bad logic

Believe me, when I have questions about women or a woman, I don't call my homeboy's, I call another woman. Who incidently, always says "ask her, I don't know."

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:48 pm

I know Pk……lol

Don’t stop for nobody
This time I’ll keep my feet on solid ground
Now I understand myself when I’m down
Like the sweet sound of hip music
There’ll always be something new
To keep the tables turning
Hey this super song
There’ll never be an ending

And the beat goes on
Just like my love everlasting
And the beat goes on
Still moving strong on and on (the beat goes on) on, …

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:48 pm

Raqi, I am giving up comedy and sticking to engineering. You missed the joke. I am just not funny. LOL

Kimmie, it was sad, I wanted him to win. When it came on I told Julia that Hill was going to crush his opponents. A few minutes later I saw the largest negative amount I have ever seen on the show. LOL I had to eat crow.

Logic

April 22nd, 2010
2:48 pm

@ Carlito, Oh I feel you. Let me rephrase that I see where that could be misinterpreted. Its not the womans JOB to make a man be a man or even feel like a man. It is the support factor that is the really major here. A man has to be a man first in order to be respected as a man. A good partner for a man is a woman who know’s, understands, and embraces that. No man wants to be in a relationship where he is his own sole support in maiting his Manhood. A supportive woman who respects and also demands him to be A MAN is being that good partner who in essense helps and allows him to evolve and reach his full potential. In know way am I saying that is her JOB but I am saying that I can see no way a man would want to stick around a woman who didnt. Men are emotional creatures just like women and we respond to our feelings just like women. More times than not the way someone makes the other feel is the most dominant factor in thier relationship. Just my thoughts though….

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

Carlito, maybe I missed the joke.

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
2:50 pm

Melo – You’ve dated a poor girl/woman before?

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
2:50 pm

But there’s a part (watching the special now) where Hill Harper gets to talking about how he and Sherri had met in a taco bell one time. Both were struggling and she “didn’t want a man without a car. [she] can ride the bus by herself.” The exchange ended with him referring to his “potential”. Hilarious.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

Carlito, how long have you and Julia been together?

Don’t get alarmed, I am not leading to anything, just asking?

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

I feel he does have something worthwhile to say
We all do. We should publish a blog book.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:52 pm

they think they can just *snap* their fingers and find the “perfect” woman to settle down with.

@Ared??

from what u have heard of him or what he says,does he have a playa record,like Harvey or does he have regrets on women he let slip by back in the day??

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:53 pm

yep dreamsM and I will purchase yours as well with a Texas Margarita on the side! HA!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:53 pm

From the outside looking in it just seems like these topics makes it seem like something is “wrong” with the AA woman. When in reality there is nothing wrong with AA women. The residual effect is, a man may see an AA woman from his impression as the right woman for him. BUT, these shows and books will make him think that he is missing her faults when in reality there is not a major fault there. So he misses out on a good woman due to the media “showing concern”

Lady J/ Kym- bring me back :)

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
2:53 pm

Melo – You’ve dated a poor girl/woman before?

@Luvbug?

All the women i ever dated except Queen came from as poor backgrounds as mine.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
2:54 pm

“…watch a bunch of bitter folks beyotch”

That is my take on it….slam dunk!

@Raqi ~ I hear Death at a Funeral is hysterical. BlindSide was a good movie. That white woman had some hudtzpah (sp?)when she went to the “hood” getting all up in that man’s face!

I have Steve Harvey’s book and have yet to crack its spine!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
2:54 pm

“We all do. We should publish a blog book.”

I’ve got dibs on being Melo’s ghost writer… I could have too much fun w/ that… :lol:

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Dreams – I think I remember you posting blogs were the worst…something about fools posting anything. LOL

You gonna be the honorary blog book screener?

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Melo – Yet she’s the one you married?

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Hey, does anyone know if Jill Scott and the good looking dude that plays her husband in “Why Did I…” are a couple in real life? I caught a glimpse of them on the Tyler Perry talk show that for some damn reason recorded on my DVR and he kept reaching over touching her hand. TP was joking about their great chemistry off screen and how well they meshed. She wasn’t saying too much but definitely wearing a happy grin. The guy however couldn’t hardly be still his chair grinning from ear to ear.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
2:56 pm

from what u have heard of him or what he says,does he have a playa record,like Harvey or does he have regrets on women he let slip by back in the day??

I don’t think he has a playa record. I think he dated one certain girl on and off for years.

Most every black man I know over 30 who isn’t married has one “that got away” which is what I find really interesting. Most women I know don’t… including myself.

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:56 pm

raqi I heard TP and Janet are dating how true is that honey???

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:57 pm

and BTW the movie was over the top to say the least…..lol

Kym--Black Single Woman Outlaw...

April 22nd, 2010
2:57 pm

Sigh..I think Jill sums this whole thing up for me..this week in one song..

Don’t feel no pity for me Cause I’m going through a couple things,
Life means change, That’s the way it goes,goes
All my life I had a constant burning A strong deep,desire
An aching ambiguous,yearning,yearning, yearning

For something better For something bigger For something wider
For something higher And lots of regrets
Cause I ain’t seem to found it yet
I’ve been searching around the world
Never knowing what to expect I get sad sometimes Yes I be mad sometimes
Cause I’m out here on the grind
Making mine And I still can’t seem to find
What I’ve been looking for Opened so many doors
For real,yo I just wanna be loved…
I just wanna be loved
Like everybody else does
I just wanna be loved
I just wanna be loved

Logic

April 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

@ Melo, the problem with those checks is if you base a relationship on those things instead of the key things that really mater FIRST than the relationship was doomed from the start. Think about it, regardless of how much money someone makes, how many degrees they have, what thier position is, etc., none of that matters if one person does not support the other or makes them feel inconsiquential. Could you really care what the other person does/is if first and foremost they negatively impact or influence you. Now not to say that as the relationship grows and develops those dont become key factors but in the beginning if people go through life with a checklist of what they dont want or already demand than they can never find out someone’s potential or who someone truly is because thier is already that mask/wall that has been placed initially. Now to each his own and if those are things that and individaul already knows is a must than so be it. I think that at the same time that person has already limited thier potential for seeking someone who may turn out compatible or not. Just my thoughts though….

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

Raqi, 4 years together then 1.2 year break up, back together for almost 2 months now. Truth be told she is the best for me. End all be all woman in my world. Before we were in a relationship we were friends for many years

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

Now that made my day Carlito too damn funny!!!!!! LMAO!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
2:59 pm

Kym loves me some JILL SCOTT!!!!! June 12th I will be all da WAY TURNT UP!!!!!!!!! LOL a mix of bad habits and living my life like it is golden chile please! LOL

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:00 pm

LadyJ, TP and Janet would make a cute couple if TP wasn’t ghey. LOL

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
3:01 pm

we are >>>>>>HERE<<<<<<<!!!!!!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:01 pm

Lady J, what did I say?

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Uh AmazonRed there’s a poopy diaper waiting on you!!! Chop, chop, get to it. LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

Micheal Jai White and that sassy lady in the TP movies used to date in real life. Now they play a couple in the TP movies.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

I am giving up comedy and sticking to engineering.
What were you thinking? You know engineers aren’t known for their humor. lol

Lady J Every drink is half off with a purchase of the book. ;-)

I’ve got dibs on being Melo’s ghost writer… I could have too much fun w/ that… You have full creative license…you’ll need it. lol

I think I remember you posting blogs were the worst…something about fools posting anything. Dang that was a long time ago. You checkin for me? ;-) I did say that, but it’s a recession and I’m sure we could all use the extra dough. Besides, I think the bunch of us are more just as intelligent as any of those panelists. I’ll tell you what…I give everyone involved the authority to be the self-proclaimed expert of their choice. lol

White Engineer Guy

April 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Hello BlackMagicWoman

Her name was Marisol (first name was really Maria I think) and lived on Calle 13 in Santiago. Had a friend named Katty and cousin Niurka.

Unfortunately, the DR does have quite a reputation from some American and Canadian guys for part-time hookers; it’s all over the internet. And gold diggers, sankies, etc.

On the other hand, a good reputation in other ways, and plenty of nice girls looking for a good husband.

Mi me encanto musica bachata y bailando con una chica Dominicana bonita. Aye, mami! :)

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
3:03 pm

your opinion and I agree sir! HA!

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Jacque Reid is kinda fine; where she be at….

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm

Cool Beans DreamsM!!!!!!!1 LOL :)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

Uh AmazonRed there’s a poopy diaper waiting on you!!! Chop, chop, get to it. LOL

I told you lady, I only do the fun stuff! No poopy diapers for me!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

lol DreamsM cool!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:05 pm

Dreams, you have a valid point. LOL

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

lol yall remember when the blog use to post 3 of the same post at a time……lol

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm


Raqi, 4 years together then 1.2 year break up, back together for almost 2 months now. Truth be told she is the best for me. End all be all woman in my world.

So when are you gonna give her the hardware?! Swiss is married, Tazzee will be in less than a month…we need another engagement here!

Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!

April 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

and with that I am headed to take my final and embrace 2 weeks of freedom from argosy university!!!!!! I will not entertain murphy’s law this evening!!!!! Until in the morning yall be easy on the 1s and 2s!!!!! LOL Lame and Corny i know!

Good night!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:08 pm

AmazonRed, I think the blog altered your post.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:09 pm

Lady J, knock it out of the park!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:09 pm

if you base a relationship on those things instead of the key things that really mater FIRST than the relationship was doomed from the start.

@Logic??

what are the Key things u refer to, that matter first? If u have them,then they wld be a check list,wont they??

I dont/didnt necesarrily have a checklist myself but i wanted someboy i cld watch a movie with,soccer etc and enjoy their company and be compatibility with.A str8 back and a reasonable height was important too..no shorties! Im 6,2 :lol:

@Luvbug??

Melo – Yet she’s the one you married?

Yes but i wasnt looking for a chick from a rich,monied or priviledged background. I was looking for smbody with a good head on her shlders,good instincts about lyfe,well spoken,good height and cld cook ( :lol: ) I never asked her about her fam in terms of the $$$ aspect. Unbeknown to me,she went outta her way to upgrade herself where she lacked coz smebody(she told me later) clued her in,”men from that region of the cntry will bump u if u cant do a, b, c) :lol:

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
3:09 pm

Dreams- LOL. Yeah, you’ve posted something similar a few times…but yeah I’m sure extra dough would make everybody’s day right about now.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:12 pm

AmazonRed, I think the blog altered your post.

I was talking to you Carlito!

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
3:12 pm

We could write a book and tour the country doing relationship panels for crazy appeaance fees.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:13 pm

A str8 back and a reasonable height was important too..no shorties! Im 6,2

Yeah! No shorties!!!

A straight back tho? WTF? :lol:

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm

I’m sure extra dough would make everybody’s day right about now

I could definitely use some right about now.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm

Lady J – Dont you eva eva eva eva eva let me hear you say turnt up again..

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm

“…but yeah I’m sure extra dough would make everybody’s day right about now.”

I will volunteer to give licking lessons as part of the book tour, as well. I’m a team player, people…

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm

AmazonRed, honestly. I was against marriage then I am for it. She knocks down all of my fears and I know I can trust her, something is different and new in this love. She looks good in my heart, my eyes on paper, family background and like I always said she loved me when I did not love myself. I know her family she knows mine. So with all of that being said, it was a big step for me to tell her I was wrong and my fears. I had to in order for us to get back together. We are only 2 months in and I am just happy, I mean really happy. Just happy, I wish I could elaborate more, but I am HAPPY! I do not want to lose her. I can see myself marrying her. I can see myself asking her this summer.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR

April 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

Lito – I do not want to lose her. I can see myself marrying her. I can see myself asking her this summer.

Hold on this might be a Bennie from the Bronx setup..

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

We are only 2 months in

Bullshat! You are 4 years and 2 months in. :lol:

No pressure tho. I know it will happen if/when the time is right. I’m glad you’re so happy!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

Those lessons will also include a full demonstration of the Belly Button Test as well, naturally…

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

Okay Melo. I’ll leave it there…oh and whatever about the height!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:20 pm

I mean I have no reason not to only good will come from it. I know she wants it.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:20 pm

Lady J, knock him up to the ceiling!

:lol: :lol:

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm

We could write a book

SexyCool, the name of my chapter in the book will be “Why He Do Dat?”

Why does he leave the empty juice bottle in the fridge?

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm

@ Carlito — DO IT, bro! Pop that question! It’s about time for another blog bachelor party anyway… ;-)

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:22 pm

Carlito, how old are you two now?

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:22 pm

Those lessons will also include a full demonstration of the Belly Button Test as well, naturally…

Go. AWAY!!! :arrow:

:lol:

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:22 pm

oh and whatever about the height!

@Luvbug??

how tall are u urself Luvbee??

(jus asking in case Queen starts acting up on the cooking??……….putting u on standby) :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

SexyCool, the name of my chapter in the book will be “Why He Do Dat?”

Why does he leave the empty juice bottle in the fridge?

:lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

Yeah, you’ve posted something similar a few times…
Ok I don’t usually do this, but…disregard all the things I said about that. lol Let’s get this money!

We could write a book and tour the country doing relationship panels for crazy appeaance fees.
kinda like Sarah Palin. $100k for every appearance. I like the way you’re thinking. You can charge a la carte for your Three Words Daily. lol

I could definitely use some right about now.
Well you need to get with this book scheme entrepreneurial endeavor then.

Steven Q. Stanley

April 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

Plenty of black hotties at my office that I would love to tap that. All of them are engaged or married though. Attractive black professional women have no problem landing men. Same goes for white, Asian, etc. If you are a fatty no one is going to want you.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

Raqi, I am 37 she is 36.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:25 pm

I have the perfect title:

What The F@#$ Do We Know?!?

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:25 pm

Those lessons will also include a full demonstration

Gouda, your chapter will come after TheMarido and Mine that offer instructions of “How to remove the panties using only your mouth”.

And before the one that details “Givin’ Him Something He Can Feel”.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:25 pm

Swiss, I probably will. She is not going anywhere. I am so real with her, we are best friends.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

I am 37 she is 36

Carlito, what are you waiting on?

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

My chapter – Patience, Grasshopper – because I should certainly be able to speak on it for as much of an exercise I have been getting in it lately.

My other chapter – Growth Opportunities – which is how I try to positively view the process of navigating past relationship bumps in the road.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

I want to write the chapter on PJ

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

(jus asking in case Queen starts acting up on the cooking??……….putting u on standby)

Now experiencing compulsive croaking…you know how to make me laugh though. I’ll give you that.

5′2

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:27 pm

Raqi, I was totally against marriage. For stupid reasons. I know, I just think it is to soon. Maybe in the month of May. LOL

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:29 pm

SexyCool, the name of the book will be “It Ain’t Easy, But It Is Surely Damn Worth It”.

Then we all tell our stories.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

Raqi – I don’t think you were here when Carlito shared his story. In esssence, he was left at the altar. That’s a hard thing to get over indeed.

Gabrielle

April 22nd, 2010
3:30 pm

I enjoyed the show. I do agree being a divorced 51 year old woman, it’s a challenge trying to find a Black Man. I have come to believe that most men really do not know what they want in a relationship and most are not ready to commit. I have dated outside my race and trust me Caucasian, Latino men et… are no different. It seems like the older you get, the harder it is to find someone. I desire a man that wants to stroke my mind before he gets the behind, work with me ; not against me and a man without a plan is not a good sign. Some of us sisters are looking for a fairy tale man. I just want to be happy, if I never find that good man, well I have my GOD.

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
3:31 pm

I liked Cheese’s title better. LOL!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:31 pm

@ Raqi — I like it… But don’t forget about my other chapter on International Relations: The World of Cl!t

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:31 pm

I would need to add an extra years worth of savings before I got married. My reserves are set for one person in a year I could have enough for two.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

LOL SexyCool. His is the sequel.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

On the MIA Luv tour??

My Melo chapter will be entitled:

Phlucking her so u leave Imprints that mark the Pudsy/Territory as Urs!

:lol: :lol:

@Luvbug??

If u come on board u will always leave the house rocking heels!

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

Gouda, it will have to follow Chapter 7: “Riding High, Licking Low”.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

Do not leave out my chapter on sucking the juice out of the panty.

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:35 pm

Carlito, you are messing it up. You’re needs a title. As disgusting as it is you can call it, “Cream of Cotton”. LOL

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

@Carlito??

see 3.30 pm Gabrielle??

thats Leggs changed to a new monikker!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

I do agree being a divorced 51 year old woman, it’s a challenge trying to find a Black Man.

Hey, you had your chance. No seconds in the marriage buffet til us singles get a turn! :lol:

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm

From croaking to passing out…too much Melo…too much indeed!!

Melo and Swiss’ chapters will have to be in the back of the book…and detachable…with a small lock and key included.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

I will volunteer to give licking lessons as part of the book tour, as well. I’m a team player, people
I’m envisioning sold out arenas nationwide.

have the perfect title:

What The F@#$ Do We Know?!?
Ha that’s perfect.

Can we also get kimmie on board to give 30 Minute Meals cooking lessons?

For Real can have a break out session on The Basics of Accountability.

Slim could distribute her dvd “The Numbers Game: An Optimization Strategy For Increasing The Maximum Likelihood of Finding a Mate”

And M dot can take us home with his stirring performance of “No More Civil Rights Jedi Mind Tricks”

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

Dont forget SexxyCool’s chapter “PSH: Doing Right!”

:lol: :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

CHAPTER 69: Melo’s Tale

“It was a murky dank nite in the steamy depths of the dark and wet mangroove swamp….”

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
3:40 pm

“PSH: Doing Right!”

CHAPTER 69

Stick a fork in me…I’m done.

Gabrielle

April 22nd, 2010
3:41 pm

You all are so immature, most of your comments have nothing to do with the topic in discussion. Oh my goodness…Grow Up.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:41 pm

BlackMagic Woman’s chapter is:

Phlucking every nationality but never losing ur AA womanhood!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
3:43 pm

Y’all stupid

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
3:43 pm

Dont you eva eva eva eva eva let me hear you say turnt up again

this made me laugh out loud

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

“BlackMagic Woman’s chapter is:

Phlucking every nationality but never losing ur AA womanhood!”

@ Melo — And don’t forget: Bringing Sexy Back… To Asthma Attacks

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

Dreams – You are going to have to assign me something about the importance of a Tonsilectomy for good DT, and maybe even a sub-chapter on Phatty Catty. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

Gabrielle The first 7 pages (700 comments) pretty much exhausted every philisophical approach to the topic. Because you’re late, you’re only seeing the evolution/divergence of the topic into other topics, some unrelated.

Gabrielle

April 22nd, 2010
3:46 pm

What’s the age of most of the people commenting to this discussion…I’m sure they are below 23. See this is the problem, Black folks do not know how to talk to each other. We all need to learn how to communicate with each other to find those good men and women. Lord help us on our journeys.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
3:48 pm

I want a chapter :(

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
3:50 pm

GABRIELLE Thanks so much for sharing…that was a good read. Regretfully, you’ve missed the cut off for truly relevant and thought provoking commentary. Typically, Tom Foolery begins promptly around 11:45 a.m (although under Blog By-Laws it’s not “acceptable” until one minute after noon.)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:51 pm

LOL @ “cream of cotton” :lol: :lol: :lol:

I’m so done at that.

Wise Diva

April 22nd, 2010
3:51 pm

Wow! Today’s discussion has been outstanding! I soo appreciate every one’s comments, good
stuff.

Shout out to my Love Squad! You rocked it :)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

Gabrielle, perhaps you should try lightening up for a moment. Kick off your shoes and relax. Perhaps some non uptight 50 year old black stallion is reading right now! :lol:

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

Parched Pdssy Chapter :lol:

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
3:53 pm

PNIK They ain’t the boss of you! What floats your boat? What would you say you’ve conducted the most hands on research for? I must ponder my area of expertise.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:53 pm

Princessnik Chapter:

Have a Baby by Me,Quit the Pill

:lol: :lol: :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
3:54 pm

Carlito…”There was an irony to joining all 3 groups that I listed in that one entry.” I understood the joke. That is why I wss offended. Life is short and phucked up! Why be sensitive over something you can not change or control. That is hw I see it!

SWISS.. “Well, I’m glad you pulled through, ‘cos that one be one embarrassing way to bite the dyck — I mean dust”

:lol: Oh shut up! You are going to hell ont he Express Jet for that one…and taking PRINCESS NIK with you!

“He is shorter than I’d like, but he looks just like he does on TV. His intelligence makes him sexy though. I’d hit it! ”

ARED…you gonna pick him up and put him on your hip and take him home? :lol:

Paul Walker is so hot I’d do him on his mama’s kitch table! :shock: Oh yeah…and Will Demps, Russel Wong & Daniel Sunjata too!

WHITE ENGINEER GUY….ok…no relation to me…to my knowledge. :lol: Tu puedes bailar a bachata Y merengue???

SWISS…I love your crazy touched in the head a$$! :lol:

MELO…”Phlucking every nationality but never losing ur AA womanhood!”

Oh dayum dude…I almost choked…again! :lol: That shyt was too funny!

“Bringing Sexy Back… To Asthma Attacks”…damn you Swiss! :lol:

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
3:54 pm

I pray to God that I am not single at 50.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
3:54 pm

You are going to have to assign me something about the importance of a Tonsilectomy for good DT, and maybe even a sub-chapter on Phatty Catty.
I was thinking the same thing. Let’s go through some trial runs before releasing to publication. ;-)

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

Have a Baby by Me,Quit the Pill

I am so gone at that Melo LOL!

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

My honorary Chapter will be “Keeping His Belly Full and His Prostate Empty”. Sold at a stand near you.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
3:56 pm

Gabrielle’s chapter:

At 51,Cobwebs,Cobwebs and Cobwebs!

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
3:58 pm

random thought

skeeeert don’t pull up a chair to my desk at 3 minutes to clock out time asking a million questions!!!

now back to the blog

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
3:58 pm

Princessnik Chapter:

Have a Baby by Me,Quit the Pill

Whoa. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Damn blog comedians.

PrincessNik

April 22nd, 2010
3:59 pm

My chapter

Finding balance between your baby and your boo

:shock:

Dan

April 22nd, 2010
3:59 pm

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:00 pm

LOL SexyCool.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:00 pm

Mytw♥cents chapter:

Come at me str8 up Playa coz I can read ur damn mind!

:lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

Raqi, Cream of Cotton. That feels good saying it.

AmazonRed, LOL did you say she had her turn? lol

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

In the Gouda remember to include coupons for “Dumb Chick Rubber Bricks” and “Buy A Clue”. You know I got to keep my business running.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

AmazonRed, LOL did you say she had her turn? lol

Yup. If you’ve been married you had your shot! Now go to the back of the line! :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

We have to get a chapter for Tazzee. I suggest “The Un-Expectant CPA”. LOL

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

Have a baby by me, Be on welfare

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:05 pm

BMW can offer her dissertation on “Lobbying to Make Single and Childless the Norm: An Effective Alternative form of Population Control”

Melo You gotta throw in “The Fundamentals and Benefits of Polygamy”

ARed you can’t get out of writing a piece on “Enjoying Life and the Ease of Attracting Men Over 6′2″ “

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

For Real’s Chapter- A Rock, A Sock, A helluva good time: How to keep the spice in the relationship going ;-)

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Leggs, Your chapter will be “Still Ain’t Paused”.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Angie’s 2 Chapters:

1.If u want my nana,just grab me,u can have it!

and 2. Hit it Raw so I can feel it Good!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:07 pm

Can there be a chapter on Slim’s CT, with a lick and sniff sticker?

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm

Nah Slim ForReal’s Chapter will be “ZZZIIIIIIIPPPPPP…Ouch”

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:09 pm

Have you heard of this one:

White robber nabbed wearing African-American ‘Hollywood’ mask
By Lindsay Goldwert
Daily News Writer

Thursday, April 22nd 2010, 2:15 PM

Hamilton County Sheriff’s OfficeDetectives say Conrad Zdzierak was initially able to elude the cops because of his disguise, an expensive silicon mask called “The Player” valued at around $650.

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2010/04/22/2010-04-22_white_crook_robbed_banks_in_expensive_africanamerican_mask.html#ixzz0lrTlvf9r

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
4:09 pm

DREAMS…”BMW can offer her dissertation on “Lobbying to Make Single and Childless the Norm: An Effective Alternative form of Population Control”

DAMN straight son! :lol:

Gabrielle

April 22nd, 2010
4:09 pm

AmazonRed, what makes you think I need a 50 year old man? I look as if I am 30 years old and I have 23 year olds that approach me. However, I desire a partner that is mature and has the wisdom that I have. I will date a younger man, starting at age 40. I’m a long way from being uptight, i just dont have patience for people that have SIN (Self Induced Nonsense).

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

Infamous: “The Scream Idontdoflipflops Machine”

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
4:12 pm

OH DAYUM….Leggs this is nuts!

Dude made an investment in his career as a robber! Can he claim that mask on his taxes? :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
4:12 pm

ARed you can’t get out of writing a piece on “Enjoying Life and the Ease of Attracting Men Over 6′2″

Aw…nice. :lol:

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:12 pm

I’d like to also include an addendum:

“Where the White Women At? — I Don’t Give a F@#$” :lol:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:12 pm

:lol: @ Raqi ~ I want another chapter, pls!

How about “Come Here Chile, I’ll feed you?”

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
4:12 pm

I will be glad to offer a chapter on 30 minute meals, Dreams!

I will need to have room for another chapter on martial arts as well! A girl can’t be too careful, know how to defend yourself just in case!LOL! My instructions will apply to men & kids too. The whole family can set it off if need be!LOL!!

Two chapters means I will get double the money!! Oh yes!!

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:13 pm

DAMN straight son!
que pasa mami! you know I got you. We’ll let abc and Melo come up with a list of people who they deem unworthy to have children, and then send them to your seminar, for a fee of course. ;-)

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
4:13 pm

AmazonRed, what makes you think I need a 50 year old man?

Insert whatever age you want, Gabrielle. I’m not going to naturally think you’re a cougar or something. Or that you were into dating Father Time.

I chose 50, cuz you said you’re 51. No more, no less.

Breathe girl

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:15 pm

Kimmie, your chapter has already been printed and sold “The Way to A Man’s Heart: Good Eating”.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

“Kimmie, your chapter has already been printed and sold “The Way to A Man’s Heart: Good Eating”.”

Followed immediately by: The Way To A Woman’s Heart: Good Eating

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
4:16 pm

MELO Even tho I tell em I got ESP, they want proof. O-tay! And you know the beautiful Angie’s gonna get you for that. But you like to be on punishment..

SLIM IV Real’s pages gon’ play Prince songs when you flip em. His section: Booty & the Backpack…

While I’m okay with his “Reciprocity IS Romantic” making it into the main body of the book, there may have to be an addendum for DAN’s “Pontificating the Panties Off Her in 2,010 Simple Steps.”

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

Gabrielle, 50 looking like you are 30? Nice and skilled. How you doin?

Leggs, I want one of those masks. I wonder if they have different styles.

No scratch and sniff sticker in Slim’s chapter?

Raqi’s, chapter has to have a picture of her feet in there. SEXY!

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

i just dont have patience for people that have SIN (Self Induced Nonsense).
ARed I know we have some philisophical difference on this, but would you agree that this “SIN” concept is highly subjective? lol Could it be that she in fact suffers from her self fabricated condition, according to others?

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm

Wow!

nine pages can seen 10 pages on the horizon.

…stepping back in.

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Hit it Raw so I can feel it Good!

:shock:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Any white man to have that mask is a racist. So what he’s hiding his face. Get a Nixon mask! Why you have to blame it on a black man!

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm

Okay, that cooking chapter is cute. Cool.

So the self-defense for the entire family chapter is all that’s left for me. What’s a good title?

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:23 pm

@Carlito ~ you really don’t want that mask!!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:24 pm

Leggs, not that mask. I want a mask of my liking but of the same quality.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:25 pm

Leggs, I want to get one of one of Julia’s fantasy actors and wear it while we……….

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:25 pm

“So the self-defense for the entire family chapter is all that’s left for me. What’s a good title?”

“How To Beat It Up, And Good”

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
4:25 pm

SWIZZIE FYI – You’s an effin’ fool! On behalf of my Swiss sistas :roll: at your obsession preference for eating chocolate pie for dessert!

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm

Prof you have to have a chapter too. “6 Figga or Bigga: 10 Tips to Upgrading Yourself to Be With a Woman Like Me” lol

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm

@Proff??

u and Sexxycool are gon have ur chapters one after the other,kinda in disagreement!….

urs first Proff:

Son!,bring a $100,000.00 Dyck!

and SexxyCool’s: Naw,baby girl a $60,000.000 dycck can hit it!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm

I do agree being a divorced 51 year old woman, it’s a challenge trying to find a Black Man.

Hey, you had your chance. No seconds in the marriage buffet til us singles get a turn! :lol:

This is ironic… after my divorce I befriended a woman in the neighborhood about 10 years my junior who had a terrible dating record, moving losers in/out of her home that usually involved the sheriff. We’ll I started dating s/o 1.5 yr after divorce, she met him and made basically the same comment above and hasn’t spoken to me since. My thoughts well damm, ok.

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm

@ my2:lol: Nothing against my people… just a personal preference, that’s all… ;-)

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm

“Where the White Women At? — I Don’t Give a F@#$”

OMG Swiss….I knew you were touched! :lol:

CARLITO….wear that mask in NY and see if you get a taxi! :lol: You would be like the skit on The Best of Eddie Murphy when he went undercover as a White man! CLASSIC!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm

ARed I know we have some philisophical difference on this, but would you agree that this “SIN” concept is highly subjective? lol Could it be that she in fact suffers from her self fabricated condition, according to others?

Absolutely. :lol:

Besides, how can you come in posting one minute, then think you know everything that’s going on in here the next? :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm

So the self-defense for the entire family chapter is all that’s left for me. What’s a good title?
“Getting Bruce Leroy on Em: Getting The Glow in Self Defense and the Bedroom”

You can have a third chapter too. “F@#k What They Think You Should Do”

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm

DreamsM and Melo Y’all know me well. :grin:

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
4:30 pm

HMMM..if I can get a Will Demps mask made for a dude when we OOOOHHHH…I would lose my mind!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:30 pm

Swiss, serious question. What is the difference in taste. LOL, I like Thai Pie :)

Raqi

April 22nd, 2010
4:31 pm

“Une Femme Aimee…Meprisent Pas Plus” and “Les Methodes Il Me Touche” those are my two. Sincerely.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
4:31 pm

We’ll I started dating s/o 1.5 yr after divorce, she met him and made basically the same comment above and hasn’t spoken to me since

:lol: I hope she doesn’t wonder why she’s single. :lol:

White Engineer Guy

April 22nd, 2010
4:33 pm

Si, amiga BlackMagicWoman, yo puedo bailar un poquito sala y merengue; solo necesito mas practicando y con mi espanol tambien!

But seriously, I wish I had spent more time with the Dominican girl.

The girls there did not have a problem with guys who were more white, etc., and some actually prefer it.

But mostly it was the laid-back personalities that were a nice change of pace. I really regret not going further with it. I plan on going back, probably this year.

Mi me gusto las senioritas latinas, y las mujeres Dominicanas son diferentes y con un estilo especial. Mi cosa favorita es una chica negra o marron con un poco color azul en los ojos.

kimmie-livin my golden life

April 22nd, 2010
4:33 pm

Dreams – Perfect!

& triple the money- love that 3rd chapter!LOL!!

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:34 pm

Besides, how can you come in posting one minute, then think you know everything that’s going on in here the next?
Yeah only 7 pages worth of comments were devoted to the topic…way too much already, by usual blog standards. lol

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:36 pm

@Carlito ~ reading is fundamental. I didn’t read the part of your sentence.

@Raqi ~ I haven’t see another since I gave you that forehead pluck. Remember how long ago that was?

Luvbug

April 22nd, 2010
4:36 pm

Yall are too funny!!!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:37 pm

@White Engineering Guy ~ how you know what I look like???? :lol: :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

DreamsM and Melo Y’all know me well.
I always study my prey target unsuspecting umm pursuit of affection. ;-)

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

Carlito “No scratch and sniff sticker in Slim’s chapter?”

There will be a scratch & sniff page every 69th page of the book. :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

Melo and DreamsM,

I want an advancement for my chapter(s) in the book. :grin:

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm

“What is the difference in taste?”

Um… well… I’ve run across all different tastes/smells & it’s not race-specific… Although…. I will say this… Actually, 2 things: From my experience, 1) black hair is less likely to fall out & get in your mouth than white (or especially Asian) hair… and 2) the black women I’ve been with have had much better hygiene in that area (on average) than the white women… That’s purely from the limited sampling that I’ve personally run across — not trying to extrapolate beyond that… :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:39 pm

Lol, so that is why you give us these top shelf dranks :wink:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:40 pm

@i’m swiss, you have me in stitches over here.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:41 pm

@DreamsM ~ why don’t you come up with a quote for the end of the day. Drop a gem to the blogettes (if you have any we haven’t already heard)!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:42 pm

Swiss, LOL. I was tried to put the spotlight on you. Well played, well played. LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:44 pm

Clean Koo, LOL

SexyCool

April 22nd, 2010
4:44 pm

Some of us have been blogging about relationships for damn near six years on this site. I would seriously say that as a whole we could be considered as much of an expert as any that currently that has a book in print at present.

And quite frankly, after the time investment alone that most of us have put into blogging, there should be *some*thing that we could get paid for out of all of this.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:46 pm

so that is why you give us these top shelf dranks

:lol: @Swiss and Proff

u stupid Proff!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:46 pm

@SexyCool ~ I thought that many times over the years. You on point!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:47 pm

This gives “read the paper” a new meaning. :)

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:47 pm

@ Leggs — Who me? What did I say…? ;-)

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:48 pm

Melo???

You still here? You and DreamsM became silent when I mentioned advancement. Proff don’t write for nothing.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:48 pm

This blog has been around for six years?

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm

Scool?

I think WD shld organise a MIA tour for real made up of MIA veterans much like the american Idol tour!

we be touring much of the south east especially.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:50 pm

Proff don’t write for nothing.

@Proff??

Dreams and I are discussing ur offer…

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:52 pm

Your adversity is the necessary precursor to your triumph. Victory only has meaning in the context of struggle.

- DreamsMaterialize

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:52 pm

@i’m swiss, the first thing I thought of on the hygiene issue was it seems white women go commando a lot thereby letting all type of moisture to accumulate between their follicles and,if not washing on a regular basis (which I can’t even imagine), can lead to stinky stink.

That whole post has me tearing up I’m laughing too hard!

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:52 pm

I think WD shld organise a MIA tour for real made up of MIA veterans much like the american Idol tour!

we be touring much of the south east especially.

Melo,

You are crazy some of these folks cannot meet up at Dugan’s without drama. So now you are going to put them on a tour bus with a potty on board…LMAO :grin:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:53 pm

Nice, DreamsM. One key…..you need to post around 4:57, 4:58 to be really at the end of the day! :wink:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:54 pm

Leggs, you post is even funnier. Any white women on this blog? LOL

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:54 pm

it seems white women go commando a lot thereby letting all type of moisture to accumulate between

@Leggs??

do u have swiss ladies in ur office by which u base the commando observation??

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
4:54 pm

Any of the ladies ever notice that DREAMS only has one shot of of DonJ while our cups runneth over? The Art of Liquored Up Lovin might be a nice Foreword to facilitate all the rest…

SWIZZIE I can’t help but thinkin’ of you havin’ a samplin buffet and charting your observations each time you come up for air. Such a humanitarian!

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
4:55 pm

You still here? You and DreamsM became silent when I mentioned advancement. Proff don’t write for nothing.
Ummmmm, have a couple of these shots and a glass or two of sangria, and then we’ll start discussing. I know how you feel about negotiating…not trying to violate any employment acts. Melo this is her professional specialty…we gotta put some extra scheming thought into this.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
4:55 pm

the first thing I thought of on the hygiene issue was it seems white women go commando a lot thereby letting all type of moisture to accumulate between their follicles

Actually, going commando is good for you, not bad. You do of course have to wipe and practice good hygene tho.

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

I am a hater, these guys will be multi millionaires tonight and still can not tie a tie. LOL

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

I Am, must have a fresh Koo.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

@Melo, yes I do. Not all are wearing a thong. And, how come these women don’t see that we can see their “lips” making permanent indentations on their pants! What an ugly sight. I’m amazed every time.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm

You are crazy some of these folks cannot meet up at Dugan’s without drama

@Proff??

drama is due to cobweb issues.

Key is to make sure during the planning phase,u partner them up based on potential compatibilty..and if any of the pairs dont sleep tgether be4 the trip,they dont make the tour!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
4:57 pm

@ Leggs — And to give the benefit of the doubt re: hygiene, it could just be some PH issues, as well… Seriously, my 1st GF in high school, had the phunk even immediately after coming out of the shower — and I KNOW it got washed, ‘cos I washed it for her… :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
4:57 pm

Melo,

Make sure the offer is good, shall I invite you and DreamsM over for a homemade meal to further my advancement?

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:58 pm

@ARed ~ I agree going commando once in a while is probably good, but only if you clean with more than just a tissue…soap and water or even wet ones are needed!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

Leggs, I like indentations.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

Actually, going commando is good for you, not bad. You do of course have to wipe and practice good hygene

@Ared??

next time we meet,im checking inside of ur knees and atop ur feet for any wet droppings!

:lol: :lol:

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

PROFESSOR Yeah, if Fulton and Cobb can bring out the worst, take these characters across state lines and all hell might break loose! But you know a Zulu’s gotta set the stage to be entertained. He ain’t slick!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@Prof?

i dont mind a bribe!

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

i’m swiss – maybe she had a chemical imbalance…funky coo

Dudes seem to love the way it taste and smell…when the balance IS right…on that note, i’m outta here.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

shall I invite you and DreamsM over for a homemade meal to further my advancement?
Together or separately? Is this a trick question? lol

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@ my2 — That’s exactly how I view it… I’m all about world peace. Or, at least sampling a piece from all corners of the world…. ;-) :lol:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@i’m swiss ~ you have to pay my next copay at the dentist office!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

Melo, that was funny. Just walking around leaving a snail trail.

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

WHITE ENGINEER GUY…Te gusta piel morena con ojos azul. Mi nana tiene ojos azul….tengo ojos marrones claros. :wink: Puedo ayudarle a practicar su salsa!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:01 pm

next time we meet,im checking inside of ur knees and atop ur feet for any wet droppings!

:?:

1) Next time? Was there a “first time?” :lol:

2) I only go commando at bedtime, not in public.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:01 pm

Because you’re making me go back before I actually need to!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

Good night everyone!

We made it to Region Finals tonight….woo hoo!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

@ARed ~ I said to myself, “you guys will never meet!” Forget about a first time!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

Alright then, goodnight everybody — it’s been fun… Time to go home & eat Mrs. Swiss’ pdussy… :-D :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
5:06 pm

…stepping out!

@ MYTWO, LOL at Fulton and Cobb…we are >>>here<<<

@DreamsM and Melo we will table this advancement until tomorrow…this sangria is extra something I cannot put my fanga on it, but it is good, tho :grin:

Have a wonderful evening gang!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:07 pm

I said to myself, “you guys will never meet!” Forget about a first time!

:lol:

I’d meet melo. But it have to be with security cameras around and lots of people!!! :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:08 pm

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:09 pm

AmazonRed, I am going to bring it up tonight to her, in a sneaky way.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:11 pm

Carlito – What are you bringing up? Marriage?

Exciting!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:14 pm

AmazonRed, just to see where her thoughts are.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:20 pm

Boy…you were with her, dumped her, and she still got back with you. She’s stood by you through all y’alls issues.

She’s willing to marry you. Besides she’s 36. If she wanted someone else, she would have gone after him!

Good luck anyway. :lol:

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