I hoped you watched ABC’s Nightline last night! I always find it fascinating how much production goes into a piece that airs. Of course, they have to edit a great deal but I think they highlighted the key points of the discussion! The debate that aired last night hit on a couple of interesting points.
I recall Hill Harper saying that 95% of professional women want the top 5% of men who they see as their counterparts. I have my oh so brilliant Love Squad on deck to answer our own face-off questions:
Is it a misconception that Atlanta women are looking for highly educated, successful men? Or is there a grain of truth to this? Considering the many single professional black women I know and meet in the city, I honestly can not think of many that only date corporate/executive, pro ball players. What do you think?
Bren Herrera, 30, Atlanta. Education: Post-Graduate. Industry: Entertainment
“I’ve seen a plethora of women that seek that prototypical man–the baller, the pro player, the actor, singer, etc… I’ve had conversations with these “tangibly” driven women. Sherri underscored this point, from the other side when she mentioned the man at Home Depot whom didn’t call her back because she was on TV–he didn’t want to deal with the things he perceived come along with the entertainment personalities. As a woman, I feel her on that. At the end of the day, I’ll subscribe to the cliché: I just want a good man. A man that I can first trust at ALL times, not just when he’s behaving well. A man that extends himself, is open to learning new things and is willing to compromise. A man that goes to God for answers and not his single boys that can potentially lead him in the wrong direction (because we all know men are just as vulnerable as women are!)
Craig T. Taylor, 34. Sandy Springs, GA. Occupation: Founder and Editorial Director of Indakno.com, LLC.
Women should not be looking for a man. That is where they fail. Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22. Just make yourself available as a woman and the right man will find you. Position is relative. I think women just generally want a “good man”. Loyal, honest, respectful, responsible, passionate, and loves God. What else can you ask for in a “good man”. If a man has these traits, it does not matter if he is making 25k or 125k. He will always be doing the BEST that he can and trying to do better. Any person that is looking for someone to match them equally is looking for a boring relationship and may as well be with themselves. It does not take two corporate executives to have a successful relationship. It takes two people who love, respect, and has an undeniable passion about each other to make it work.
Dr. Tartt responds to my Love Squad question: Do you believe there are special hurdles Atlanta professionals face in finding a partner?
Your turn to weigh in my insightful readers: Professional Atlanta singles certainly enjoy the good life, but have we lost sight of what is truly important like family, raising healthy children, and building good relationships?