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Reaction to the ‘Nightline’ debate on successful black women’s romantic woes

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Sherri Shepard (left) and VH1 star Jacque Reid represented for the ladies on ABC ‘Nightlline: Face-Off” debate, ‘Why can't a successful black woman find a man?’, It was taped earlier this month (April 2010) in Decatur, Ga (ABC/Guy D'Alema)

I hoped you watched ABC’s Nightline last night! I always find it fascinating how much production goes into a piece that airs. Of course, they have to edit a great deal but I think they highlighted the key points of the discussion!  The debate that aired last night hit on a couple of interesting points.

I recall Hill Harper saying that 95% of professional women want the top 5% of men who they see as their counterparts.  I have my oh so brilliant Love Squad on deck to answer our own face-off questions:

Is it a misconception that Atlanta women are looking for highly educated, successful men?  Or is there a grain of truth to this? Considering the many single professional black women I know and meet in the city,  I honestly can not think of many that only date corporate/executive, pro ball players. What do you think?

Bren Herrera, 30, Atlanta. Education:  Post-Graduate.  Industry: Entertainment

“I’ve seen a plethora of women that seek that prototypical man–the baller, the pro player, the actor, singer, etc… I’ve had conversations with these “tangibly” driven women.  Sherri underscored this point, from the other side when she mentioned the man at Home Depot whom didn’t call her back because she was on TV–he didn’t want to deal with the things he perceived come along with the entertainment personalities. As a woman, I feel her on that. At the end of the day, I’ll subscribe to the cliché: I just want a good man. A man that I can first trust at ALL times, not just when he’s behaving well. A man that extends himself, is open to learning new things and is willing to compromise. A man that goes to God for answers and not his single boys that can potentially lead him in the wrong direction (because we all know men are just as vulnerable as women are!)

Craig T. Taylor, 34.  Sandy Springs, GA. Occupation: Founder and Editorial Director of Indakno.com, LLC.

Women should not be looking for a man.  That is where they fail.  Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22.  Just make yourself available as a woman and the right man will find you.  Position is relative. I think women just generally want a “good man”.  Loyal, honest, respectful, responsible, passionate, and loves God.  What else can you ask for in a “good man”.  If a man has these traits, it does not matter if he is making 25k or 125k.  He will always be doing the BEST that he can and trying to do better.  Any person that is looking for someone to match them equally is looking for a boring relationship and may as well be with themselves.  It does not take two corporate executives to have a successful relationship.  It takes two people who love, respect, and has an undeniable passion about each other to make it work.

Dr. Tartt responds to my Love Squad question: Do you believe there are special hurdles Atlanta professionals face in finding a partner?

Your turn to weigh in my insightful readers: Professional Atlanta singles certainly enjoy the good life, but have we lost sight of what is truly important like family, raising healthy children, and building good relationships?

925 comments Add your comment

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
4:58 pm

@ARed ~ I agree going commando once in a while is probably good, but only if you clean with more than just a tissue…soap and water or even wet ones are needed!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

Leggs, I like indentations.

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

Actually, going commando is good for you, not bad. You do of course have to wipe and practice good hygene

@Ared??

next time we meet,im checking inside of ur knees and atop ur feet for any wet droppings!

:lol: :lol:

mytw♥cents

April 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm

PROFESSOR Yeah, if Fulton and Cobb can bring out the worst, take these characters across state lines and all hell might break loose! But you know a Zulu’s gotta set the stage to be entertained. He ain’t slick!

Melo

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@Prof?

i dont mind a bribe!

Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

i’m swiss – maybe she had a chemical imbalance…funky coo

Dudes seem to love the way it taste and smell…when the balance IS right…on that note, i’m outta here.

DreamsMaterialize

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

shall I invite you and DreamsM over for a homemade meal to further my advancement?
Together or separately? Is this a trick question? lol

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@ my2 — That’s exactly how I view it… I’m all about world peace. Or, at least sampling a piece from all corners of the world…. ;-) :lol:

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

@i’m swiss ~ you have to pay my next copay at the dentist office!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

Melo, that was funny. Just walking around leaving a snail trail.

BlackMagicWoman

April 22nd, 2010
5:00 pm

WHITE ENGINEER GUY…Te gusta piel morena con ojos azul. Mi nana tiene ojos azul….tengo ojos marrones claros. :wink: Puedo ayudarle a practicar su salsa!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:01 pm

next time we meet,im checking inside of ur knees and atop ur feet for any wet droppings!

:?:

1) Next time? Was there a “first time?” :lol:

2) I only go commando at bedtime, not in public.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:01 pm

Because you’re making me go back before I actually need to!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

Good night everyone!

We made it to Region Finals tonight….woo hoo!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

@ARed ~ I said to myself, “you guys will never meet!” Forget about a first time!

i'm swiss

April 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm

Alright then, goodnight everybody — it’s been fun… Time to go home & eat Mrs. Swiss’ pdussy… :-D :lol:

Professor

April 22nd, 2010
5:06 pm

…stepping out!

@ MYTWO, LOL at Fulton and Cobb…we are >>>here<<<

@DreamsM and Melo we will table this advancement until tomorrow…this sangria is extra something I cannot put my fanga on it, but it is good, tho :grin:

Have a wonderful evening gang!

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:07 pm

I said to myself, “you guys will never meet!” Forget about a first time!

:lol:

I’d meet melo. But it have to be with security cameras around and lots of people!!! :lol:

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:08 pm

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:09 pm

AmazonRed, I am going to bring it up tonight to her, in a sneaky way.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:11 pm

Carlito – What are you bringing up? Marriage?

Exciting!!!

Carlito

April 22nd, 2010
5:14 pm

AmazonRed, just to see where her thoughts are.

AmazonRed™

April 22nd, 2010
5:20 pm

Boy…you were with her, dumped her, and she still got back with you. She’s stood by you through all y’alls issues.

She’s willing to marry you. Besides she’s 36. If she wanted someone else, she would have gone after him!

Good luck anyway. :lol:

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