Reaction to the ‘Nightline’ debate on successful black women’s romantic woes
Sherri Shepard (left) and VH1 star Jacque Reid represented for the ladies on ABC ‘Nightlline: Face-Off” debate, ‘Why can't a successful black woman find a man?’, It was taped earlier this month (April 2010) in Decatur, Ga (ABC/Guy D'Alema)
I hoped you watched ABC’s Nightline last night! I always find it fascinating how much production goes into a piece that airs. Of course, they have to edit a great deal but I think they highlighted the key points of the discussion! The debate that aired last night hit on a couple of interesting points.
I recall Hill Harper saying that 95% of professional women want the top 5% of men who they see as their counterparts. I have my oh so brilliant Love Squad on deck to answer our own face-off questions:
Is it a misconception that Atlanta women are looking for highly educated, successful men? Or is there a grain of truth to this? Considering the many single professional black women I know and meet in the city, I honestly can not think of many that only date corporate/executive, pro ball players. What do you think?
Bren Herrera, 30, Atlanta. Education: Post-Graduate. Industry: Entertainment
“I’ve seen a plethora of women that seek that prototypical man–the baller, the pro player, the actor, singer, etc… I’ve had conversations with these “tangibly” driven women. Sherri underscored this point, from the other side when she mentioned the man at Home Depot whom didn’t call her back because she was on TV–he didn’t want to deal with the things he perceived come along with the entertainment personalities. As a woman, I feel her on that. At the end of the day, I’ll subscribe to the cliché: I just want a good man. A man that I can first trust at ALL times, not just when he’s behaving well. A man that extends himself, is open to learning new things and is willing to compromise. A man that goes to God for answers and not his single boys that can potentially lead him in the wrong direction (because we all know men are just as vulnerable as women are!)
Craig T. Taylor, 34. Sandy Springs, GA. Occupation: Founder and Editorial Director of Indakno.com, LLC.
Women should not be looking for a man. That is where they fail. Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22. Just make yourself available as a woman and the right man will find you. Position is relative. I think women just generally want a “good man”. Loyal, honest, respectful, responsible, passionate, and loves God. What else can you ask for in a “good man”. If a man has these traits, it does not matter if he is making 25k or 125k. He will always be doing the BEST that he can and trying to do better. Any person that is looking for someone to match them equally is looking for a boring relationship and may as well be with themselves. It does not take two corporate executives to have a successful relationship. It takes two people who love, respect, and has an undeniable passion about each other to make it work.
Dr. Tartt responds to my Love Squad question: Do you believe there are special hurdles Atlanta professionals face in finding a partner?
Your turn to weigh in my insightful readers: Professional Atlanta singles certainly enjoy the good life, but have we lost sight of what is truly important like family, raising healthy children, and building good relationships?
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Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:18 pm
Kym, I just LOL’ed. Gangstalicious. He had Riley all messed up.
Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!
April 22nd, 2010
1:18 pm
Im glad she aint drank the AA women coolaid and forgotten the rules of our marriage game..at least not yet……
MELO!!!!! Only you melo!!!!! LMAO!
bert5200
April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm
Boondocks…….May 2, 2010
bert5200
April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm
Boondocks…….May 2, 2010
SexyCool
April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm
It is hilarious to me and a sign of her way underappreciated talent that Regina King is the voice of Riley Freeman.
Raqi
April 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm
RAqi – For the record.. I dont have a problem with flip flops that much anymore..
Infamous, now don’t you go back to hating them when the novelty for the new girl wears off. LOL
You know how we do when we get with that new one and then six months down the line you be like “dude I didn’t know you only had 3 fingers and half a thumb”.
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm
Okay, I know what PSH is and you can get that during PMS, what is TMJ?
bert5200
April 22nd, 2010
1:21 pm
Lady J…..can I please have your card for misspelling Kool-Aid
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:22 pm
Regina King is the voice of Riley Freeman? I see her name on there and I always thought she was the little girls voice, it makes since now. I like the voice Charlie Murphy does on there.
i'm swiss
April 22nd, 2010
1:22 pm
@ Carlito — Not sure what it stands for, but it’s a condition where your jaw locks up on you…
Raqi
April 22nd, 2010
1:22 pm
hadn’t thought about smoothies
Leggs, I got a good smoothie joke for you.
Go get you a good bare wax then hit up a spot. Walk up to a guy you find attractive or your man for that matter and ask him if he likes smoothies. Whether he says yes or no, ask him if he would like to taste yours.
Yeah, I know bad…
Kym--Happy Earth Day!!
April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm
@Sexy she also does the voice for Huey too..
Raqi
April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm
Oh wait, I think I told you that one already Leggs. Sorry.
Lady J-Count your Blessings, Cut your loses, & Follow the yellow brick road!
April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm
ummm bert5200 i copied and paste what melo stated honey I didn’t type it just stir yours and all will be well ok…..
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
April 22nd, 2010
1:23 pm
Raqi – I said “That Much” Im still not ok with her wearing them abroad but when we hit up PUBLIX, it aint that big a deal.. And never when we hitting the town..
SexyCool
April 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm
True, but Riley is funnier.
bert5200
April 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm
Lady J- diabetic…..can’t touch the stuff
Professor
April 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm
@Melo thanks for taking me under your wing, this should be interesting.
@Leggs if you use some oatmeal try to put it in the food process first to make it finer and I add a little milk and microwave it for about 20 seconds to keep it from being gritty.
Usually I add my ice and milk in the blender first (blend)…followed by a 1/3 cup of the oatmeal (I press the blend button a few seconds) fruit and yogurt. I like using pineapple, berries and a banana if you want to get full.
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm
TMJ, To Much Juice, Toe Massaging Jerry, Tooth Missing Justifiable, Tea Mint Julep, Touch My Junk?
bert5200
April 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm
Lady J, I’m diabetic….can’t touch the stuff
Dan
April 22nd, 2010
1:25 pm
@Kym
A Pimp named Sweetback had me on that ish for weeks.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
April 22nd, 2010
1:26 pm
OK so Nene left Greg for the football player.. And she said she really loved-ed Greg and he was the man of her dreams.. Well I guess while the money was coming in..
Luvbug
April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm
@Melo thanks for taking me under your wing, this should be interesting.
Professor – I’ve never wished more to be a fly on the wall. LOL
Leggs
April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm
TMD – Temporomandibular joint disorder. Layman know it as TMJ. Jaw joint misalignment making chewing difficult.
@Raqi ~ you know how corny I am so I laughed at that joke. I liked it.
Nobody puts SlimCoo-Coo in a corner
April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm
Sup yall….I’m sure you all are probably off topic by now. What’s hannenin?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
April 22nd, 2010
1:27 pm
Regina is the voice for Riley and Huey..
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm
Regina does Huey and Riley?
Swiss, I way off.
Leggs, you have lockjaw?
TMJ, temporomandibular joint dysfunction. I am sitting here thinking of all of the blog acronyms and this one TMJ actually means something this time. Hope you get better Leggs.
Kym--Happy Earth Day!!
April 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm
@Dan/Carlito/Swiss…Homies over H@Es..HOmies over H@es..Do the homie..do the homie!!!!
i'm swiss
April 22nd, 2010
1:28 pm
“A Pimp named Sweetback had me on that ish for weeks.”
Okay, hold the phone…. You can’t just throw out “a pimp named Sweetback” without providing the back story…
We’re waiting…
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA THE GOD OF WAR
April 22nd, 2010
1:29 pm
The strangest voice over ever though is Kyle from living Single.. He does the voice for the dude Kratos in the GOD OF WAR video game.. But also the best because you dont picture him doin it.
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:29 pm
Hey Slim, I just asked about you.
Raqi
April 22nd, 2010
1:29 pm
Infamous, I have some really cute leather flipflops. They are cute. Not those Old Navy beach/shower things. LOL
Leggs
April 22nd, 2010
1:30 pm
Ok, Prof ~ sounds interesting.
@InfamousD ~ are you talking about the “she man” NeNe from Housewives??
Dan
April 22nd, 2010
1:31 pm
Naw Kym, they had my dude in skorts.
That isht right thurr was tooo subversive… plus hilarious.
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:31 pm
Kym- Do the homey. LOL
who is “A pimp named sweetback”? Say it with me now “A pimp named Slickback”
Infamous, I love God of War, I have 1 and 2 and downloaded the Demo for 3.
Dan
April 22nd, 2010
1:32 pm
@Swiss
It’s not a pimp named Sweetback- his name is A Pimp Named Sweetback….git it right…code 32, pimp down…
Leggs
April 22nd, 2010
1:32 pm
@My Italian Studmuffin ~ you are too funny. Yeah, this time it actually means something. Someone on here said TMJ means Too Much Jawjacking!
SexyCool
April 22nd, 2010
1:34 pm
Actually, it’s a Pimp Named SLICKback.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 22nd, 2010
1:34 pm
He who throws rocks should never try and hide their hands.. And a record cant tell ya.. But you can rest assured Ol Dk will
Umm as I’ve said a hit dog will holler….loudly it seems. After reading me do you really think I would hide…really? Okay moving on……
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:35 pm
(Looks to the Judges) We will accept being called Italian Studmuffin. LOL
Leggs, you were not on your date with the new guy when it happened were you?
BlackMagicWoman
April 22nd, 2010
1:35 pm
CARLITO….you are NUTS!!!!!
KYM….Gangstalicious was one I watched on Monday. “Thuggin’ Love”!
“N***a you gay???” Riley is a hot mess!
“Regina King is the voice of Riley Freeman”
SEXYCOOL..I was shocked to find that out about 3 years ago.
LEGGS….what were YOOOOOOU doing to get lockjaw?
I had an asthma attack while doing that once…yeah that was a real mood killer!
i'm swiss
April 22nd, 2010
1:35 pm
@ Dan — Ah, okay. Um, yeah, I had to google that one….
For a minute there I thought you were actually rolling w/ a pimp named “Sweetback” 
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:36 pm
A pimp named sweetback, sounds like a gay pimp. Rielly would say “You Gay”
DreamsMaterialize
April 22nd, 2010
1:37 pm
Ok so remember the Boondocks episode where Riley was painting grafiti and had to take art lessons from that white guy with the afro? Does anyone else actually remember when that guy used to have a painting show on television like 25 years ago? I always ask people if they remember him, and they never do. That’s why I like that episode…’cause the real guy was just like that when he painted.
lurker
April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm
@Carlito…Why did you get locked up?
i'm swiss
April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm
“I had an asthma attack while doing that once…yeah that was a real mood killer!”
@ BlackMagic — Have you seen Miss March? Dude’s GF is epileptic & he puts on a strobe light while she’s giving him some PSH…
He then stabs her in the forehead w/ a fork to get her off his wang…. 
Luvbug
April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm
Yeah, I remember him. I think he was on GPTV or PBS.
Kym--Happy Earth Day!!
April 22nd, 2010
1:39 pm
@Dan..LOL he had on skorts”so you can get to your piece quickly”" and a man bag!! LMFAOOOOOO!!!
Dan
April 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm
I’m doing a lot right now (maybe too much) I apologize for parroting the character’s name incorrectly. I should have done my own research.
Mea Culpa….now..continue on….
@Dreams
Yes, I do believe he still does the show.
Carlito
April 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm
Dreams, I remember that guy. I think he was on public broadcasting. Didn’t he die.