I don’t worship at the Church of Oprah or anything, but sometimes her shows really fascinate me. For example, yesterday she had a security expert on to talk about ways women could look for signs of potentially dangerous men. He even developed an assessment tool that can be used to determine “how much of a threat” an abusive person could be, called MOSAIC:
I can understand the need to find out this kind of thing. Especially if domestic violence is involved. It made me think about how a lot of us don’t listen to our instincts and intuition. Sometimes we are oblivious to what we project in our behavior.
In my experiences, some men don’t always know how they come across to women. There are many ways that a guy can scare a woman off when he is trying to do the opposite. Ladies, what type of behaviors do some men have that tend to scare you away? Have you ever told a guy why he torpedoed any chances of dating you because of something that really bothered you?
Guys, have you ever met a great woman and scared her off with something you did? Was it intentional? Can you tell when your behavior has been perceived in a negative way by a woman? Do you try to explain it or do you cut your losses and keep it moving?