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Scaring her off

I don’t worship at the Church of Oprah or anything, but sometimes her shows really fascinate me.  For example, yesterday she had a security expert on to talk about ways women could look for signs of potentially dangerous men.   He even developed an assessment tool that can be used to determine “how much of a threat” an abusive person could be, called MOSAIC:

I can understand the need to find out this kind of thing.  Especially if domestic violence is involved.  It made me think about how a lot of us don’t listen to our instincts and intuition.  Sometimes we are oblivious to what we project in our behavior.

In my experiences, some men don’t always know how they come across to women.  There are many ways that a guy can scare a woman off when he is trying to do the opposite.  Ladies, what type of behaviors do some men have that tend to scare you away? Have you ever told a guy why he torpedoed any chances of dating you because of something that really bothered you?

Guys, have you ever met a great woman and scared her off with something you did? Was it intentional? Can you tell when your behavior has been perceived in a negative way by a woman?  Do you try to explain it or do you cut your losses and keep it moving?

Happy Friday!

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kimmie

April 16th, 2010
3:45 pm

Melo – Me appreciating the cowardliness a little better is proof that I was never the FWB type. I am a typical softie, woman, with feelings easily hurt. Some just are not built for the casual stuff. I know I’m not.

Willie Dynamite

April 16th, 2010
3:47 pm

Ladies – Any Dude ever just pull a disappearing act on you? I mean do and say all the right things for a minute then soon as they hit it they split/ghost?

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
3:48 pm

BlackMagicWoman, I am usually the tallest person there. Atleast the tallest Italian lol Look for a big red F350 Super Duty Crew Cab with a lift kit and I am in there. They always put my truck up front because it’s BIG!!! :)

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
3:50 pm

“God told me to hit it and quit it.”

Carlito – you are wrong for that one. :lol: Slim told you to get on your horse :-D

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
3:51 pm

CARLITO…”God told me to hit it and quit it.” :lol: You are going to hell on the express jet for that one!

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
3:51 pm

Willie – Yeah, I think we all have been there if you date long enough. Two good friends are dealing with that now. That’s why I’ve always tried to get to know a guy as much as possible before going there. I have to look out for myself & my feelings.

It does hurt, but you know what? If you don’t want me, just go on then. Just don’t come crawling back down the road!

Melo

April 16th, 2010
3:51 pm

after 6 years…

melo; hey kimmie,hw u?

kimmie; hey melo,i was actually thnking about u

melo; whats up?

kimmie; I was thinking maybe we can go hang out tonite

melo; actually i had sme to tell u!

kimmie; whaaat?? u making be giggly,what(as she dances around her room)

mel; u know we be gon on for 6 yrs right?

kimme; right!

melo; im thiniking, u deserve better, a good guy to take care of u

kimmie; so what u saying?

melo; i think ur moment to shine will come,God has a plan

kimmie; sooooo ooogh?

melo; we can hang but i think i gon have to wait as well for the one for me

kimmie” but..aghhhh, i mean

melo; its ok u know God has a way all the time

kimiie; i know but hey ..aggg

melo: cmeo baby..so..u said u wanna hang out tonite?

kimmie;;aaggg..but..yeah

melo; whatchu waan do,cmeon baby,rock that skirt i boght u,its sexxy..i be there around 11.30 pm

kimmie; aaaght,ill leave the door open coz i may be in the shower,just come upstairs!

Its a wrap snf gon down! :lol: :lol:

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
3:54 pm

melo – you got that part about the door already being unlocked by the time the CF(cut friend) get’s over…that sounds about right. Gotta keep it fresh & hot off the presses when you have that type setup…at least so i’ve Heard :-D

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
3:56 pm

Melo, ixnay on the typing of dialogue. I already have to turn my head to a 45 degree angle and think hard to translate what you type normally.

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 16th, 2010
3:58 pm

WillieD women do not call letting a man hit it anything! When someone comes in and clean those pipes the maintenance man does not count as a sexual encounter!

Leggs did you say you gave notice at your work? Or are you talking about getting together for drinks this Friday?

No one should use GOD as an excuse to get some booty, that is the worst line/game if alltime!

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
3:58 pm

“LEGSS…so this chick is too dumb to realize she is the “in the meanwhile” booty? Wow! That is sad and desperate!”

Yes, that’s what I’ve been saying. While she’s telling me she’s bowing her head looking all sheepish over her eyelids like a little girl kicking rocks while talking. Trying to be all coquettish. I was watching her truly wondering if she talks like this in front of men. She looked foolish to me.

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
3:58 pm

Melo – You have lost your mind!LOL!! I bet a lot of space cadets would go for that, though. A few folks I know come to mind actually!

Not me, though. Number one, my relationship with God is a very personal one, so you don’t get anywhere with me by thinking all is okay cause you threw God in it!LOL!! I KNOW when God has a hand in something and when he doesnt! Number 2 – I’ve talked on here about regretting that I let a few guys waste a lot of my time & years without a real commitment or at least dude saying he sees a future with me. But even the former naive me would not have allowed 6 years.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
3:59 pm

I’m on a horse to hell and back.

I’m wearing a pony tail tonight.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 16th, 2010
4:01 pm

What it do people?

BMW…..I see you ready to get into a 7:45 position tonight! I have a one pack with that suffice? :wink:

I wil scare off anyone that starts acting crazy! Lurker can only phluck crazy women not date crazy women!
Mental note….Add Slimone to the list of crazies! :smile: :Lol:

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:02 pm

Carlito, I used to kinda dig dudes with pony tails! Now I go for the bald look!LOL!!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:03 pm

LOL, Bald is not for me. LOL

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
4:03 pm

@Elijah ~ gave notice on this blog this past Tuesday to see who wants to meet for drinks after work.

ARed use to always get on me for asking on a Friday afternoon like nobody has a life or previoulsy made plans. So, I put a request in 4-days early.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
4:05 pm

Where is the tall, red chick anyways?

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:08 pm

Carlito – It used to not be for me either, but SO changed all that!LOL! He’s got the right head for it. I’ve seen pictures of him with hair and I actually like him better bald.

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
4:08 pm

“Add Slimone to the list of crazies!”

LURKER – why I gotta be on the crazy list…What ever did I do?

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:09 pm

kimmie, are you drawing me into a conversation that I do not need to be in? lol

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:09 pm

Slim you are on my list. LOL

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:11 pm

See Carlito, I knew you would go there!LOL!! I am talking about his answer to a receding hairline – perfectly innocent!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:12 pm

kimmie, i just thought i was approaching homo talking about another man’s head

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:13 pm

kimmie, you know it is time for me to act up

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:14 pm

Carlito – Okay! LOL! What you & Julia got planned, anyway?

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
4:15 pm

Well, me and all my personalities are about to dip out. Gotta hurry up throw on my dukes and ride on the top of my ride showing the CT off to the city of ATL. Please try not to throw any change this time. I perfer the kind that folds. :-D

YALL HAVE A GUUUUUDDD ONE!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:17 pm

She my brother and I are all going to the Tavern for drinks and dinner then to the Havana Club. The wine and veggies have been passing since about 2 this afternoon.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
4:18 pm

Back to topic, apparently the statement he made didn’t “scare her off!”

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:18 pm

Melo – What part of Africa did you say you were from?

My next-door neighbors are from Kenya. The lady’s father passed away on Monday. He’s been sick awhile. She just went to see him last month. I’m glad she got a chance to say goodbye & was able to take her 4 year old twin boys to see him a year ago. They are really sweet people. They took one of my pound cakes to Africa a few years ago & her family liked it, so I made her another one to take.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:18 pm

Slim, keep smashing. :)

Melo

April 16th, 2010
4:19 pm

I can tell u,its gon be smoking in my crib,upstairs tonite….i gave her the info…i got the tckets…

and i left her a message;

voice mail: this is queen,sorry blah…

melo(in deep mandingo voice) hey babe,i got them,make sure u clean when i get there..its on and poppin’…i be a lil bit late ok…..cio

I lost a lot of loot the whole of today buying stuff for my trip..smetimes a bro feels if i had a baby mama on tap to fix me with $$$ bills smetimes!

anybody wanna loan me 5stacks!???

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:19 pm

Leggs, she gave it up and will again.

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:20 pm

Imma get me some wine this afternoon, Carlito, with some smoked gouda.

See all you have to do is suggest something to me, and the wheels in my head start turning!LOL!!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:20 pm

Melo, where is your trip to?

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:23 pm

kimmie, that is awesome. But it is buddha not gouda that is smoked over here. :)

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:25 pm

Carlito, you have lost your mind!LOL!!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:27 pm

kimmie, I can not lose what I never had. :) I’m on a horse

My neighbor, the cute AKA lady(whose son watered my yard) is over here also. Her and Julia hit it off :) I think Arturo has his hand in that.

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
4:28 pm

BMW…..I see you ready to get into a 7:45 position tonight! I have a one pack with that suffice?

Huh??? What does that mean?

Carlito…long hair is sexy. I like to play with it! :lol: Tell Arturo to grwo some hair for me!

Melo

April 16th, 2010
4:31 pm

Melo – What part of Africa did you say you were from

@Kimmie!!

I aint from Kenya,but im happy to inform u that in my lyfetime, ive heard 2 kenyan girlfriends.
One came to visit me xmas time when i was back home,nice chic,she luved me and was at my grandpa house during that time…i broke that lil girl’s heart.

the other one,phine tall luo chic(Luo is her tribe in kenya) girl was elegant,educated and a freaky.but very intellectual…awaesome sex game and her psh was off the meter..she toght me some things, i wont lie..she benched me, i can admit…

I got a soft spot for them kenyans..nice pple!

What were u saying again Kimmie?? :lol: oh i remember

where i am from….??

now! imagine africa was a human body,female and ur navel is where kenya is…..

now as u lick,keep coming down…starting from my navel (i mean,africa’s navel) ..all the way down…

right about down where u think u spotting some wetness, aggh some water..as u keep coming down,,,,,

u get it.as u get to south africa,u get to some ocean water,wide expanse(it aint that big,is it :evil: ??.thats where iam from!!

:lol: :lol:

Melo

April 16th, 2010
4:33 pm

Melo, where is your trip to?

@Carlito??

the world ’s most beautiful game’s world cup!

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
4:33 pm

Good God…only Melo can turn a question of geography into a sexual interlude! :shock: :lol:

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:34 pm

Melo, you are funny.

BlackMagicWoman, I will tell him. :)

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
4:35 pm

Melo, I am jealous. Take pictures!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

April 16th, 2010
4:38 pm

@Slimone….Now we all know you need to come and lie down on my coach so I can properly diagnose your crazy! :lol:

The crazy women of the MIA blog!

Slimone… able to go froggiestyle at a moment notice! :smile:

BMW….I wish 8 would tell her about that blk magic….. Well you know what I’m talking bout! :wink:

SexyCool…. Blessed with PSH powers! :smile:

Beautiful….She is good to go! Meet me in Vegas and I will show you what I am working with!:smile:

Sybil….My, My, that is some good shut your mouth! :wink:

Who did I miss! YEAHHHHHHHH

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:39 pm

Thanks, Melo, … I think!LOL!!

I thought it was S. Africa, wasn’t sure.

Yeah, I love my Kenyan neighbors to death – they really look out for me.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
4:40 pm

(some lists you just don’t want to be on)…sure wish I could have post that in a smaller font. :wink:

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
4:40 pm

LURKER… Again…WHAT? “I wish 8 would tell her about that blk magic….. Well you know what I’m talking bout!”

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
4:40 pm

Everyone have a wonderful, safe weekend!

czBrat

April 16th, 2010
4:43 pm

i see it’s freaky friday in full swing. brat is covering her eyes and singing to herself to block out the lewd convo :roll: