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Scaring her off

I don’t worship at the Church of Oprah or anything, but sometimes her shows really fascinate me.  For example, yesterday she had a security expert on to talk about ways women could look for signs of potentially dangerous men.   He even developed an assessment tool that can be used to determine “how much of a threat” an abusive person could be, called MOSAIC:

I can understand the need to find out this kind of thing.  Especially if domestic violence is involved.  It made me think about how a lot of us don’t listen to our instincts and intuition.  Sometimes we are oblivious to what we project in our behavior.

In my experiences, some men don’t always know how they come across to women.  There are many ways that a guy can scare a woman off when he is trying to do the opposite.  Ladies, what type of behaviors do some men have that tend to scare you away? Have you ever told a guy why he torpedoed any chances of dating you because of something that really bothered you?

Guys, have you ever met a great woman and scared her off with something you did? Was it intentional? Can you tell when your behavior has been perceived in a negative way by a woman?  Do you try to explain it or do you cut your losses and keep it moving?

Happy Friday!

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SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
1:58 pm

Just passed by this uberSexy dude upstairs by baggage claim. He smiled. I shrieked to myself, out loud, but real quiet.

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
1:59 pm

CARLITO….I am used to Italian Stallions! I dated a few…of of my closest girls is Italian and her family is a funny mess! Her wedding was off the chain. Let’s just say….Jesey Shore has NADA on some of the Italians I know! :lol:

Arturo would not know what to do with me! :lol:

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
2:00 pm

PHOOEY!

You cool, Raqi!

Class, there are 7 days in the week. The last work day for most Americans is FRIDAY…SassyMe, read this sentence on the blackboard….FRIDAY IS THE END OF THE WEEK AND THE LAST DAY, SO WHATCHA GONNA DO. FRIDAY IS NOT TUESDAY!!! Recite that 20x standing in the corner before returning to your seat…hell, just stand right there for the rest of the afternoon!

czBrat

April 16th, 2010
2:00 pm

hey, where’d DK go? is he on another battery-bustin’ phone call??

LOL @ SexyC. i love that we can still have those shrieking moments and still be blissfully secure in our relationships. don’t you?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
2:02 pm

Awww Leggs….

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:02 pm

czB – Yes Ma’am!!!!

Poppa Grande

April 16th, 2010
2:05 pm

Well, good for DK!

Well, for those of you planning to come over this way (Washington Park) for Freaknik. Be careful. I’ve seen more cops today than I can remember. I seen at least 8 on motorcycle. More than a few cruisers and even the APD van was sitting at the intersection of MLK and Lowery.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
2:06 pm

BlackMagicWoman, the three of us are going to The Tavern. Then to the Havana Club tonight, I think.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:07 pm

Bijoux Terner has some of the *cutest* jewelry for $10. (And I’m not even into jewelry like that.)

I’m going to have to stop going by there.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
2:08 pm

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:10 pm

Recent news reports *allege* that The Tavern is not for Negroes.

Although, I’ve never had any issues when I went in there.

But – whatdahell do they mean they ask male patrons to get up from the bar for females? For REAL!?!?!? Whey dey do dat at?

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
2:10 pm

Poppa – SCool & Melo will be there. Both will be in Daisy Dukes.

Be there or be square!

LOL!!!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
2:10 pm

Be careful. I’ve seen more cops today than I can remember.

Man they’re already talking about what streets are going to be shut down and what park folk aren’t allowed to go to…that’s crazy. What they’ve failed to mention is all of the other stuff going on this weekend and how they’re NOT actin a fool over that.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
2:10 pm

It is kind of sad, I have had them both here for almost two weeks now. After Sunday they both will be gone. :( I have gotten used to people being here. I think I am going to send for my mom and poppa next. Then we are eating good.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:11 pm

Rock – you super stoopid.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
2:16 pm

Red red wine, I love you right from the start.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:19 pm

kimmie – we gone fight. I will give anyone my whole payroll deposit for the next three weeks if they can produce a picture of me in daisies from this weekend.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
2:21 pm

Are you guys ready for a doosey….a co-worker just left my work area and told me why I’m always cold, but then said something that made my ears stand at attention. I so wanted to type why she was talking so I wouldn’t forget anything, but that would have been tacky.

Prime example of truly “hearing what he just said.”

She’s been friends for 6 years with her friend. They go out on dates, a little smooching and touching here and there, but haven’t gone all the way. She came close to giving in a few days ago but didn’t because she can’t get these words out of her head. He said to her: “I love you and I enjoy your company. I just feel that you’re not the one for and that God has someone better in store for me.”

If I could have done the exorcist move with my head I would have. What, are you kidding me. He actually said that and you’re wanting to go all the way, but feel he would walk if you did.” Makes my heart heavy when women stick around for all the wrong reasons. He has already told her he’s biding his time with her and she will be dumped as soon as God shows him the “better” woman. What’s the NY phrase I so love….ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST because I’m otta hear!!!

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:22 pm

I was downstairs laying on the bed in the guest wasting time chatting with you all and the doorbell rung. I have expecting a packet from FedEx all day. I figured the package had arrived when the bell rung. I jumped up, pulled the duvet off the bed, slipped the one the straps to my tank under one arm baring one shoulder, frizzled my hair really messy on the way up the stairs, wrapped the duvet around me with the shoulder and one leg showing and opened the door. You all should have seen the look on that dude’s face when I said frantically “hurry up man give me the thing to sign before he finishes with me”.

I so need to go back to work. Imma leave to go pick up the little one in about an hour before yall make me get into some serious trouble. LOL

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
2:25 pm

Raqi, I wonder if FedEx, or any other type of delivery man gets action on the job? Like they do in the movies.

Melo

April 16th, 2010
2:25 pm

@CzBrat.. i wasnt here when u send the invite, i guess..i aint no friend to blog pple on facebook.

somebody is trying to holla friend u on face book..u rated them ha..they wont be brave enough to confess! :lol:

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:25 pm

LMBO kimmie. Melo in daisy dukes. I ’bout to choke. Got me spitting water all over the place and coming out my nose.

And that email you sent me I forwarded it to my husband. He called me dying laughing saying he burst out laughing while on the phone with a very important client.

Lady J-Sunshine

April 16th, 2010
2:28 pm

what is poopin’ blog…..

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
2:28 pm

SCool – LOL!

Raqi – LOL!

Leggs – SMH! That he would have the nerve & the tackiness to say it & still be able to walk after I kicked him where the sun don’t shine is beyond me!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
2:28 pm

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:29 pm

Leggs, girl please. That woman just need some and he is Mr. Right Now.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:30 pm

SIX YEARS?!?!?
Kiss my grits.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
2:31 pm

I can’t stands no more…have a nice weekend y’all.

Melo

April 16th, 2010
2:32 pm

Poppa – SCool & Melo will be there. Both will be in Daisy Dukes

@Kimmie!!

I get grown folkjs freaknick on the east side at Harristons every damn time..i canty stand the urine smelling college kids freaknick.

I prefer them grown folks who know how to work their soaps,bubble baths and moisturizures! :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
2:32 pm

He has already told her he’s biding his time with her and she will be dumped as soon as God shows him the “better” woman.</em?

:shock:

And she still talks to him…..and wants to give him the cookie….AW HELLZ NAW!!!

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:34 pm

Carlito, I wouldn’t doubt if they do. Just like the milkmen and post men from way make when. I bet there are more “special deliveries” than many would imagine. LOL

I have actually heard that cops are the biggest perps when it comes to getting it while on duty. So the delivery guys are probably the same.

abc

April 16th, 2010
2:35 pm

Freaknik is ridiculous. If it isn’t obvious that NOBODY wants it here, then I don’t know what’s going to get through to people. You want Spring Break party, go to the beach or something, don’t bring it here. The history of Freaknik speaks for itself, what a tawdry tale.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
2:35 pm

Heck, we all need some but do you get some just because you need some after someone told you that! Lightbulb moment…..guess that’s my problem. I ain’t knocking the cobwebs off “just because” after someone told me that crap. You looking for someone better why trying to get to this “better for the moment coochie?” Nope!

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
2:35 pm

Carlito – I had a postman try to come on strong once a few years ago while I was out working in my front yard. I chatted with him a bit when he stopped to be nice. He kept wondering why I was working in the yard & not my man. I didn’t explain anything to him one way or the other because it was not his bizness(honey was out of town, but my dad was over). Anyway, he delivered the rest of the mail on the block and came back by my house. I had a cooler of bottled water out & he asked me for one. Took it and left, but came back AGAIN. I kept on working. He stopped and said “can I ask you something”? I said “ookaaayyy”?

He said “are ya lonely?”

I cracked up & just shook my head and went back to work!

abc

April 16th, 2010
2:37 pm

Freaknick sucks!

abc

April 16th, 2010
2:38 pm

Hm, the filter detected freaknick spelled correctly and quarantined it, I guess.

The tawdry history of Freaknick speaks for itself. NOBODY wants it here, I think that must be more than obvious by now. For a Spring Break Party, go to the beach!

Lady J-Sunshine

April 16th, 2010
2:39 pm

what is the topic leggs i can’t catch up….smh lol

Melo

April 16th, 2010
2:39 pm

after someone told me that crap

@Leggs!!??

u females dont know what u want!

u say u want honesty,u get it,u still mugg..whats the problem??

the bro has enjoyed the lady’s company to a point..thats dating..but resulting from that interraction,he realizes,it will be gross if he smashes then tells ol girl she aint the one.

Why not give props to him for putting his cards on the table.??

Now if it had been me back in the day,iIsmash then tell her my position after I wiped..uall prefer that mo??

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
2:39 pm

Leggs – You can get a FWB that can handle things and not insult you at the same time.

She should have said – “You know, you right about that, cause I’m sho nuff looking for something better too” Got up & left him with his mouth wide open.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:39 pm

Just had a police officer compliment me upstairs and ask me if I was single.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:40 pm

kimmie – Forecast for tonight: DARK

I hollered!

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:40 pm

Leggs, they have touched, they have kissed, she is primed and waiting. She don’t hear or don’t care about what he is saying, he has her wanting.

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:41 pm

I really hope no one over the age of 25 actually plan on being a part of Freak nik.

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
2:42 pm

SCool – I was rolling!

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
2:44 pm

@Lady J ~ there really isn’t a topic…most recent posts are

1. The Tavern really don’t want to serve black folk and black men have to give up their seat for the white man/woman

2. Trying to teach the 7 days of the week…one students is having a hard time understanding the Friday and Tuesday are not the same.

3. Freaknick is not welcome here anymore…it’s time is over.

4. Too many women out there dismissing what guys are straight up telling them. Seems they’re laughing it off only to find themselves crying by themselves at night!

Something like that.

abc

April 16th, 2010
2:44 pm

And the ones under 25 can kindly not jack up traffic any worse than it already is. Freaknick my foot, it ain’t welcome!

That’s a George Carlin routine from the early 60’s, Al Sleet, your hippy-dippy weatherman. Tonights forecast: dark! Continued mostly dark tonight, with widely scattered light toward morning. You can see a Canadian low on our weather map, not to be confused with a Mexican High.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
2:44 pm

I know, kimmie. GNR for real!!!

When my gf started putting this party together three months ago, she had no idea that all this freakmess was going to be going on. I kinda hate that I’ve got to go, but since she is one of my besties, I gotta support her cause. Dammittttt!!!

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
2:46 pm

@Melo ~ let me see if I can answer that honesty issue.

Nothing wrong with honesty. What is wrong is when you think you can demean me to my face and then still want to get between my legs. Honesty is cool, but don’t try to openly play me for a fool…there’s a big difference.

@Raqi ~ I understand, but something is making her not go all the way. Hell, you couldn’t even touch me after I received all of that Honesty!

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
2:47 pm

abc, I am just glad it will not be any where near me. I hate that they allowed it back here.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
2:48 pm

What human is going to wait for six years?

Raqi and kimmie, I wonder if that stuff works on some?

Now if UPS delivered like this, I would use them all of the time. :)

http://www.nexwarecorp.com/images/ups-girl.jpg

http://www.lemonzoo.com/content/P/13611-content.jpg

http://www.musicalley.com/music/artists/photos/00006939/UPS_Girl2.jpg