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Scaring her off

I don’t worship at the Church of Oprah or anything, but sometimes her shows really fascinate me.  For example, yesterday she had a security expert on to talk about ways women could look for signs of potentially dangerous men.   He even developed an assessment tool that can be used to determine “how much of a threat” an abusive person could be, called MOSAIC:

I can understand the need to find out this kind of thing.  Especially if domestic violence is involved.  It made me think about how a lot of us don’t listen to our instincts and intuition.  Sometimes we are oblivious to what we project in our behavior.

In my experiences, some men don’t always know how they come across to women.  There are many ways that a guy can scare a woman off when he is trying to do the opposite.  Ladies, what type of behaviors do some men have that tend to scare you away? Have you ever told a guy why he torpedoed any chances of dating you because of something that really bothered you?

Guys, have you ever met a great woman and scared her off with something you did? Was it intentional? Can you tell when your behavior has been perceived in a negative way by a woman?  Do you try to explain it or do you cut your losses and keep it moving?

Happy Friday!

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Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:44 pm

Scool??

I hope u get to me be4 3.00 this afternoon.

I was planning to surprise my lady with the anncement around 3.30 right be4 she goes home at 4.00 pm.

That way,all the way home,shes thinking about taking that soaking shower/bubble bath,lotioning up and fragrancing herself and staying upstairs,waiting on me this friday nite……

and im gon hang on, and on and on with Leggs and them tonite..just to build her anticipation..by the time i get there round 10.00 pm..my lady is just melting and juicing up down there! :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:45 pm

Melo – I will let dude know that I’m trying to get a response by that time.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
12:51 pm

I am right at 6′6.

Uhh huh…good for Julia…hope she knows what time it is…lol. Exotic…you think? That’s a first but that’s what’s up.

that 40 days and 40 nights is the BEST!! I am sooo excited!

I know rightMo…I feel like Pookie from New Jack City….it jus be callin me and I gotta go to it..
All of that basketball is too much.

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
12:52 pm

Last evening the marido and I were talking about getting a hammock. That’s going to be a nice addition. Lying out in the back under the moonlight on a warm spring/summer night. I am looking at some now online.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:58 pm

Sassy, it is her clock. LOL :)

Raqi, those hammocks are so comfortable, easy to fall asleep in them :)

Mo (aka Moeisha )

April 16th, 2010
1:02 pm

Sassy – the best!! LOL @ Pookie! funny!

Raqi – I love hammocks! You all should really enjoy it once the pollen is gone!

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
1:04 pm

OMG – A hammock under a shade tree in the summer. Or my favorite reclining lawn chair on my balcony with a glass of muscato.

May have to leave work early just to go lay on my balcony, blast some Chris Botti and drink a whole damn bottle by myself.

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:04 pm

Mo / Carlito, I would like to get one of the weaved ones but they don’t come as big as the regular roped kind. We need on big enough so the marido, the baby and myself can lay it together.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:05 pm

Lying out in the back under the moonlight on a warm spring/summer night.

That sounds soo nice..especially right now as I try to fight the impulse to leave work early so I can get my toes done.

So umm lito you still don’t want to share your blog chocolate with your brother ;)

Mo (aka Moeisha )

April 16th, 2010
1:07 pm

SCool – I love Chris Botti, great with some wine and a relaxing atmosphere!!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:07 pm

Come Sunday Mo I’m going to be grilling and watchin’ the games and THAT’S IT…might need to go to the gorcery store and get some fresh veggies to go with that….lol

Professor

April 16th, 2010
1:08 pm

…stepping back in.

Melo…the Hawks sent me an email yesterday about some $25 tickets. I will forward it to you.

@Lurking I totally agree with your conclusion!

I need to find some lunch

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

The only thing is after the pollen then you have deal with the mosquitoes. But yeah I can see us waking up at 4 in the morning realizing we have slept outside for the most of the night. Our neighborhood is pretty quiet so falling asleep under the stars will not be hard to come by.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

Raqi, you have me wanting a hammock now , as well. Be careful it is easy to flip out of them, even the larger ones. Are you looking for a stand alone or the kind that hooks in between trees?

Sassy, my brother is about 6′2 and his hair is nowhere near as long as mine. Other wise we look the same. He is here until tomorrow. He is more than a commit-a-phobe than I am. But he will party. LOL

Melo

April 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

@Proff!

thnx

Professor

April 16th, 2010
1:14 pm

and im gon hang on, and on and on with Leggs and them tonite..just to build her anticipation..by the time i get there round 10.00 pm..my lady is just melting and juicing up down there!

Leggs, don’t let melo hang with y’all tonight he is trying to use y’all as 4play

:mrgreen:

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:17 pm

Carlito, I have had my fair share of hammock rocking so I know how to properly enter, exit, lie down and lay in them. Yes I said lay. LOL

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
1:17 pm

Speaking of party, my gf is promoting a party downtown on the corner of Boulevard and Monroe tomorrow night. $5 cover. $5 drinks. $3 beer. Grown folks. Over 30 crowd.

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:18 pm

Leggs send me an email of that picture of Carlito.

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
1:19 pm

MELO….I will see if I can get some more for you.

CARLITO…bring your brother out….he would have lots of fun with me…I know how to party till the sun comes up! My crew and I have been know to liven up a party! BTW…. I likes ‘em tall..and exotic! :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:20 pm

He is more than a commit-a-phobe than I am. But he will party.

Shyt lito I’m not tryna join your family… I just wanted to know….never got my swirl on…thought about it but have yet to try.

czBrat

April 16th, 2010
1:22 pm

ok. i know i’m late popping in on the convo again, but yeah … s/o knows my two requirements in a home are a screened porch and a hammock.

are we trading pics?? i wanna see!!! c’mon ya’ll. give up the anonimity already :lol:

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
1:22 pm

SCool – I thought you were going to Freaknic

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:24 pm

Sassy, don’t do it girl. Them Italyurns are some deceitful lying sonnamabyches. LOL

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
1:26 pm

LOL! Who me?
Girl – I’m hoping that I can get down to the party without running into any of the Freaknic-ers or any of their traffic.
Since I’m the event photographer, I need to get there early. (Keeping my fingers crossed.)

Melo

April 16th, 2010
1:29 pm

@Czbrat??

yeah,u one of the few I dont have pics of!

ur new boy is that good that u have to be so incognito??

:lol:

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:31 pm

Raqi, I just said something very nice about you then you go say that. LOL

BlackMagicWoman and Sassy, I am trying to be nice. If he tries to sleep with you do not hold that against me. He just has a one track mind. School, Party and Sex, in no particular order. I do not know what his plans are tonight. I will see if Julia and I can just so happen to be at the same place you all are this evening. :) I can say hey these are my “Atlanta friends” and she will know exactly who you all are. She always says “Are you working or talking to your Atlanta friends?”

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
1:31 pm

@SassyMe ~ see you there.

@Melo ~ doubt I’ll be there 10:30 this evening.

@Carlito ~ my true Italian Studmuffin….I had to bite my own hand! Thanks for sharing.

@Raqi ~ you got mail!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:32 pm

Them Italyurns are some deceitful lying sonnamabyches.

:lol: :lol:

but they’re sexxy,though…..Imma go to New York and see what happens

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:34 pm

My brother said “What do they look like?” and some other stuff, that I am sure the blog will not let show.

Julia said “hell no don’t you introduce him to anyone” we all laughed

My brother is wild and just him. He is I hate to say it, fits the stereotype to spec. He is a one man circus. LOL

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
1:34 pm

I was watching Junior.Gotti on 60 minutes Sunday, thinking “Oooo, Junior got mad swagga.”
LOL!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 16th, 2010
1:36 pm

Sassy are you talking about 40 nights of 9:15 to 10:20 sex? You are something else Ms. Sassy! :smile:

czBrat

April 16th, 2010
1:38 pm

umm. Melo, he’s not new. he’s been around longer than i’ve been on the blog. i sent out an invite to meet me on fb last week, so i’m not trying to be incognothing. that reminds me, i had two friend requests from folk i didn’t recognize and deleted them before i realized they might have been fellow bloggers. sowwy :oops: feel free to re-send.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:41 pm

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:41 pm

I was watching Junior.Gotti on 60 minutes Sunday, thinking “Oooo, Junior got mad swagga.”

I saw that interview,too….whenever he winked his eye or smiled I blushed like he was talking to me. Then as I kept watching the interview that wink started looking like a nervous twitch/tic or something… :lol:

are you talking about 40 nights of 9:15 to 10:20 sex?

Eli You know good and well I’m talkin’ about the NBA playoffs…with your nasty self ;)

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
1:42 pm

BTW, Raqi, you didn’t even say Plese…..phooey!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:43 pm

He can not connect to the internet on his laptop.

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:44 pm

Carlito, I have seen a picture of you it’s only fair that I let you one of me. http://bittersweet-rose.blogspot.com/2010/04/just-chillin.html

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:44 pm

my true Italian Studmuffin….I had to bite my own hand! Thanks for sharing.

I hear you Leggs!! And yes I will see you there next week.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
1:45 pm

That would be….Please!

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
1:46 pm

Rock – you stoooooopid…

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
1:47 pm

@SassyMe ~ whatcha talking about next week….I’m talking about TONIGHT after work. I can do it next week to, but talking about TONIGHT!

That’s not nice Raqi…guess you forgot about those with toe fetishes on this blog…yous in trouble now!!!

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:48 pm

LOL SexyCool. I just sent a copy to my husband. He sent me a picture of his lips one day…gurl I tell you…

str8

April 16th, 2010
1:48 pm

Hey Wise… it’s been a while since I was up here… good to see it still going strong… had to come up here and appreciate you. Thanks for coming to the Nuru Center (www.nurucenter.org) gala last weekend and supporting. You are the best! have a great weekend!

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:48 pm

Sorry Leggs. Plese (lol) and Thank you.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:50 pm

Raqi, nice feet. :) LOL

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
1:51 pm

As my sons were growing up a scolded them all the time about putting their feet on the wall…okay imma take mine down now. LOL

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
1:52 pm

Raqi, taking pictures with her feet in the air :O

SexyCool, I see those shades FTW :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:53 pm

I’m talking about TONIGHT after work.

My bad I don’t know how I got Tuesday out of today :oops:

I’ll be long gone to the southside by 5:30. I’m sorry.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
1:55 pm

Something ain’t right…

Harpo who dis hea woman?