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Scaring her off

I don’t worship at the Church of Oprah or anything, but sometimes her shows really fascinate me.  For example, yesterday she had a security expert on to talk about ways women could look for signs of potentially dangerous men.   He even developed an assessment tool that can be used to determine “how much of a threat” an abusive person could be, called MOSAIC:

I can understand the need to find out this kind of thing.  Especially if domestic violence is involved.  It made me think about how a lot of us don’t listen to our instincts and intuition.  Sometimes we are oblivious to what we project in our behavior.

In my experiences, some men don’t always know how they come across to women.  There are many ways that a guy can scare a woman off when he is trying to do the opposite.  Ladies, what type of behaviors do some men have that tend to scare you away? Have you ever told a guy why he torpedoed any chances of dating you because of something that really bothered you?

Guys, have you ever met a great woman and scared her off with something you did? Was it intentional? Can you tell when your behavior has been perceived in a negative way by a woman?  Do you try to explain it or do you cut your losses and keep it moving?

Happy Friday!

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PrincessNik.....AKA Candy Girl

April 16th, 2010
11:46 am

“It does not look like he can bale that much hay”

now that was funny

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
11:47 am

@Carlito ~ let me go straight to the source…if you don’t mind, send me the pic pls.

PrincessNik.....AKA Candy Girl

April 16th, 2010
11:49 am

I am not talking about all muscles, just healthy

you mean just not sloppy fat right Carlito?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
11:49 am

Anybody care to meet after work at O’Charley’s off LaVista?

If you for real I work right around the corner off of Clifton road….I’m jus sayin’.

So Lito you sharin’?

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
11:49 am

“It does not look like he can bale that much hay”

I love it!!!

Carlito, sounds like my mother’s solution to everything – If we were getting out-of-shape or said we were bored, her answer was “Go outside and rake some leaves”! And yeah, we had a lot to rake!LOL!!

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
11:53 am

It is very hard to bale hay. :)

Leggs, Sassy sure on a friend level only :) , you do not have to send me naked pictures of Stacy Dash either. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR BUCK

April 16th, 2010
11:54 am

Ok just got a call to Ref a scrimage game, cash on the spot at Toby Grant between…. Wait for it.. The Scottdale Boys and The OG Kirkwood Boys.

Aint nothin.. Them cats aint gonna let me carry a pistol and I refuse to ref a game that one call could lead to my body being injured..

PrincessNik.....AKA Candy Girl

April 16th, 2010
11:54 am

DK

oh yeah, since you are done with me, guess i can go ahead and order the auburn flip flops i been wanting (j/k)

:mrgreen:

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
11:56 am

Carlito….is someone insulting you by calling you a sucubus? :shock: I would be very offended if someone thought I was that thing who should be dead under a rock somewhere! :lol:

Yeah some men think they can let themselves go and we are still supposed to be attracted to them….12 month pregnant bellies and all! EWWW! Been there..done that. Almost barfed everytime I saw it! Oh gosh I think I just barfed a bit just thinking about it. :lol: Stop lifting steaks and start lifting weights! Oh and add cardio. Just because you have big muscles….does not mean your guy looks any better! :roll:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR BUCK

April 16th, 2010
11:57 am

Nik – Yeah your last name has to be Focker. Nik Focker.. ;-)

PrincessNik.....AKA Candy Girl

April 16th, 2010
11:59 am

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:00 pm

BlackMagicWoman, I do not know enough to be offended. I have been through worse in life. So it does not bother me. :) I have my Julia, but I still do not want kids. LOL.

czBrat

April 16th, 2010
12:00 pm

HiYas!!

what have i missed?

on topic: i’m sure i scare most guys off because i don’t melt and drool just for the fact that they’ve approached me. and that suits me just fine. also, i am fiercely independent, so only the strong survive around me.

what scares me off? poor grammar and hygiene. inability to discuss anything other than what you want from me or what you’d like to do to me. UGH!

DK what a cute first date. i’m now waving pom-poms and doing high kicks for ya dude!

Leggs, don’t tempt me on the get out after work thing cuz i soooo need it. (and that’s on my way home).

fridays should not, i repeat NOT be this busy! :mad:

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:01 pm

Anybody here with a hook up on hawks game tickets this saturday?? or coupon..anything??

need 2 tickets for “my goodies” and mwa!

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:02 pm

Melo – one of my folk was saying that he can get some upper level seats for $15.

I will ask him if he can still get them if you don’t mind sitting up that high.

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:03 pm

after paying less than a thousand$$$ for a 2 way international trip costing about 6 grand 4 3, full price..full price just kinda sucks now! :lol:

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
12:04 pm

kimmie one of my friend girls brought me some flavored tortillas early last week. I made a turkey wrap yesterday with one and they are delicious. The one I had yesterday was cilantro and jalapeno. Today I am trying the spinach and garden vegetable. Have you made dishes with the flavored tortillas before?

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:05 pm

Sexxycool??
what wld be the normal retail on those…??

I guess i dont mind…

I be saying, we was there…! :lol:

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
12:06 pm

sure on a friend level only

That’s all I was talkin’ bout,too. I don’t want Julia gettin mad at me so umm if you for real gyz3@cdc.gov….don’t send me any smut..lol.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
12:07 pm

@SassyMe ~ I’m serious. I will be there after work if you like to join me, please come on through. I’m going straight after work so I’ll be there by 5:35-5:40 the latest.

@czBrat ~ you see, I need it to and that’s why I’m stopping after work. Lil leggs father is picking her up from track practice, and I’m going to do some grown folk stuff!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 16th, 2010
12:07 pm

Good Afternoon superstar bloggers!

Melo I am disappointed in you, comparing me to W8. If dated anyone of those ladies they would have been posting happy satisfied comments on MIA? I only lady at a time!

Stacey would have stated Eli cooked, cleaned and made my pipes exploded!
:smile: and he does not sweat me!

Carlito is not from w8!

I have never scared off any ladies, because I am like Infamous I take my time to get to know you!

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:07 pm

I have no idea, Melo. He just texted me last night and asked me if I wanted some tix.

I will text him and see if he still has them.

Leggs

April 16th, 2010
12:07 pm

So, pls come and join me, czBrat!

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
12:09 pm

Awww snap, they got the freaknic party mix going on…Do da A-town Drooooopppp! LOL

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:11 pm

Melo I am disappointed in you, comparing me to W8

@Elijah??

comeon Eli!

u are a very female-complimentary guy(a lil over the top may be),not an entirely bad thing and not like W8 fo sho!…i thoght i made that distinction clear.

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:15 pm

Sexxycool??

u know all the boogie tickets are gone too.i cant get any where im sit next to my goodies,shlder to shlder…

thats what u get for beeing “just a play-offs flip flopper fan”!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
12:16 pm

Awww snap, they got the freaknic party mix going on…Do da A-town Drooooopppp!

Whatcu know ’bout dat Slim…lol? They were jamming so hard this morning I just knew somebody, somewhere was goin’ YEEK!….YEEK!

Leggs…I’m there mami.

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:16 pm

Melo – he is having his person check on it now. May be a while cause they are at work.

Send me an email to my *government name* yahoo account in case I leave work early and can still contact you.

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
12:16 pm

Here’s my pinky, here’s my thumb…bankhead bounce, donkey kong!

kimmie

April 16th, 2010
12:18 pm

Raqi – Yes, I love the spinach ones! I love to use them with tuna salad or shrimp & lettuce & other veggies. Very tasty!

SlimCoco-puffs bring all the boyz 2 da yard

April 16th, 2010
12:19 pm

Sassy – I got my chair dancing going hard right now…my co-worker is like, Slim bout to get up and start shaking a lil summin summin in a min. LOL! I might have to roll my pants leg up so I can drop it one good time while no one is looking…..LOOK AT DAT GURL WIT DEM DAISY DUKES ON!

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
12:19 pm

MELO….I gave out the last of Hawks vouchers. Sorry Boobie! :sad:

ELIJAH…you crazy man! How’s it goin’? :lol:

CARLITO….you don’t want to be that ph*cktard! That is lower than low on the totem pole of all things living! :lol:

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:20 pm

All horse pictures have been sent. LOL

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:21 pm

Send me an email to my *government name* yahoo

Scool??

thanx, i will!

Now dont let TheDude see my email coz i dont want him responding to me and challenging me saying “who are u playa?”..otherwise im gon tell him str8 up,”Now look here big boy,that was my girl back in the day..Now what??” :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:23 pm

To funny, the whole story as told to me is comical and terrible. You have to be careful out there and very choosey .

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:23 pm

You nutcase.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
12:25 pm

Lito…nice.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:26 pm

Sassy, thank you :) That is my younger sister

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:28 pm

J-E-L-L-O

Sassy that is stuck in my head now. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

April 16th, 2010
12:30 pm

Ok Carlito….since you are sharing….what about me? LOL

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:31 pm

@Carlito??

do u grow pumpkimns on ur farm over there in minny??

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 16th, 2010
12:33 pm

That is my younger sister

You two look nothing alike..not saying you should look like twins but I wouldn’t have guessed you two were related…either way nice pic…how tall are you?

that is stuck in my head now.

Who doesn’t like j-e-l-l-o,right? The next time(when you’re alone of course) and the commercial comes on,don’t laugh at me…OTAY ;)

Raqi

April 16th, 2010
12:33 pm

SexyCool, you know they be looking.

I knew one night that Mase was reading my blog when he yelled to me in the bathroom “Hey babe who’s tazzee?” LOL

Melo

April 16th, 2010
12:35 pm

I gave out the last of Hawks vouchers

@BlacksMagicwirly woman! :lol:

I plan on going to more games as long as they are in the playoffs..can u get me some more hook ups,if u have access??

thanx!

my brother aint married yet(rember thim?),he still pimping and in case u change ur mind down the road..that phine zulu,u can have him… :lol:

I be honored to have u as my sis in law!

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:35 pm

I don’t think TheDude has any interest in my blog. I can’t even recall mentioning it to him. (I might have.) But I know he doesn’t read it. I keep him busy enough just texting me off FB about what I post on FB.

He’d really look at me sideways if he saw my blog, or hell, even my Twitter account.

Jeff

April 16th, 2010
12:36 pm

Discovering how a woman handles disappointment: Did she call her ex out on facebook during a fight or breakup? Does she justify say what she would do to Tiger if she were Elin? Is every man she recently met “stalking” HER (in her opinion). Does she have an “everyone’s doing me wrong” attitude? You get the picture. Basically, we’re looking to see if you’re going to go ape-sh*t crazy when any drama comes up.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:37 pm

Melo, no. Mostly livestock and grain.

Carlito

April 16th, 2010
12:40 pm

Sassy, I am right at 6′6. I look like dad, she looks like mom. I will see if I can find a family portrait. We have looks from black to white. :)

SexyCool

April 16th, 2010
12:42 pm

#Random Thought – I know God is in charge. I did get the memo that He would be handling things for me today. But, er, um, God, just for today, do you think you could send me a real person?

Mo (aka Moeisha )

April 16th, 2010
12:44 pm

Infamous – gwine on and ref that game man! LOL! Seriously though I dont blame you!

Sassy – that 40 days and 40 nights is the BEST!! I am sooo excited!

Slim – you’se a fool chica!! LOL @ you getting ya bankhead bounce on!! :smile: