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First date misadventures

A married friend of mine recently told me that I was lucky to be single and free to date around.  It made me chuckle a little because just days before, I had experienced a pretty awful dating misadventure.  It was just one of those dates where all signs pointed to “Stop. Do not past go. Go straight to hell no.”

The guy was attractive enough in the beginning, but the more he talked the less I wanted him to.  When he made a rude comment about single women worrying about the wrong ring, it was pretty much a wrap.  Apparently ladies, instead of chasing a wedding ring, we need to focus on the “ring of dirt” in our bathrooms.  

First date flops are pretty common when you are dating around.  When we discussed whether “first impressions are reliable” some of us believed that you can’t always go by snap judgments. What about when you talk, find out about one another, then go on a really awful bad date? Now what?  Do you risk a colossal waste of time on a second date?

Have you ever been on a really bad first date?  If your first impression during a first date is absolute incompatibility, would you think about delaying dismissal?

Are there ways we can improve our first date success rates?

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SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

Neighbors know my name…

Takes me back to college. My boyfriend at the time stayed in an On-campus apartment and his neighbor heard us a few times. The embarassing part was when he said something to me about it one day. Oops :oops:

DK – Only one thing is going to get a ’shriek’ out of me….G-spot :-D

@Raqi – your hotel room story brings me back to being in a dorm room. My roomie had a boyfriend that came up to visit her. They called themselves trying to wait till I went to sleep but I’m not crazy. I heard AND saw them getting it on. Folks forget your eyes eventually get adjusted to the darkness after a while. Two black sihlouettes moving & grooving in the darkness. LOL! But as youngin’s I don’t know anyone who hasn’t done it in the same room as someone else. I even recall as a kid, my parents did it while i was in the room. Ewwwww!

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:02 pm

SexyCool, TheMan’s little verbal “O” outbursts suit my fancy quite nicely. “Oh shyt” “Oh fnck” “Sweet Mutha of Heyzuz” “Damn ‘Raqi’”

Luvbug

April 15th, 2010
3:03 pm

It’s Friday already?!

Melo – smh

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:03 pm

Chanting “GREEN, GREEN, GREEN, GREEN”

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
3:04 pm

Slim – Yo Lil a$$ Id like to let you sit and spin… Hit every corner like the Dopeman on the 1st and 15th..

SexyCool

April 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

Yo Lil a$$ Id like to let you sit and spin

“you girl spinnin on my ____ just like a cd rom……all the way ternt up”

:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY NAME IS BUCK, I DRIVE A TRUCK AND I LOVE TO

April 15th, 2010
3:07 pm

See You got me F’d up all misconstrued.. I’d likes to Wrassle..

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:09 pm

it’s amazing what sounds

Like the loud humming of our old a/c unit outside den window. Dang I miss that thing. LOL Just sitting there on the couch on a warm summer night, me reading a mag or book and him reading the paper and the sound of that old unit starting up and running in that continuous hum….

I always sit on the couch sideways when reading so I will put feet on him when I start feeling all cozy and warm on the inside. LOL

lurker

April 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

Yeah I like catapulting the cooch

i feel faint again<—–that was funny

Boy reading in this mug will draw the saint out of an angel…lol

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

your hotel room story brings me back to being in a dorm room.

So when I first moved to the “A” I lived in a dorm and my then boyfriend and I just thought we were too grown to get down with company around….so we got a room. That didn’t make a bit of difference ’cause dude was puttin it DOOWN… he was workin’ it so….and I must’ve been pretty loud ’cause somebody banged on the door and yelled “HANDLE IT HOMEBOY!…HANDLE IT!. :oops:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

lurker, you are not lying, i swear i been cracking up at least the past hour with some of the comments

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

I like when i’m given instructions (not demands), i want you to….now i want …….i like when you……can you……..
get on over here girl…now turn around…slow it up

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

sassy me

i got tears in my eyes laughing at that one!

lurker

April 15th, 2010
3:12 pm

PrincessNik – LOL. I ain’t had none (lately) but just popped in about 5 minutes ago and I bout to repent…gheesh. Ya’ll don’t help folks tryna abstain.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

Boy reading in this mug will draw the saint out of an angel…

Chile did you read yesterday around this time right here? Speaking of that where’s lito T*** shot ;)

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

Alright dreams M don’t start nuthin

lurker

April 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

Noooo Sassy – I can’t do it daily. I might break…lol Seriously I’m human. The psyche is a powerful thing.

Professor

April 15th, 2010
3:15 pm

HANDLE IT HOMEBOY!…HANDLE IT!.

@sassy you got me laughing hard on that one!

@Melo…I am going to leave your transatlantic posh peter alone. You got it

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:17 pm

that should’ve been Lito with his T*** shot…

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2010
3:18 pm

Ya’ll don’t help folks tryna abstain.
Sorry about that…kinda. ;-)

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:18 pm

LOL Sassy that’s too funny.

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
3:19 pm

@SassyMe ~ I am literally choking over here. So glad I have a cup of water on my desk. Whew, girl, you are sick to even post that!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:19 pm

Dreams M

on second thought, pass me some nuvo, slide a lil closer and tell me what it is you like ;)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:20 pm

Professor/Princess dude had me sprung…I think he’s the one that got me hooked on tall brothas….really tall guys have very,very long arms. That night he had my feet in his hands and he held his arms open so ya girl was looking like 9:15…

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2010
3:20 pm

Alright dreams M don’t start nuthin
I done started it already. What you gon do? ;-)

SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

“Hit every corner like the Dopeman on the 1st and 15th..”

Mr Buck :shock:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

ya girl was looking like 9:15…

now passing out….AGAIN

lurker

April 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

Ya’ll don’t help folks tryna abstain.
Sorry about that…kinda.

Mmmm hmmm DreamsM for some reason I’m not convinced.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

Okay,okay Imma stop now….back to our regularly scheduled blogging….

Luvbug

April 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

That night he had my feet in his hands and he held his arms open so ya girl was looking like 9:15…

Note to self: will add to bucket list

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

Slim, when I was a little girl I heard something that could have been the sounds of coitus coming from the cracks of my parents bedroom door but imma keep on believing that was just the some late night television. Yep, that’s what I know and believe. LOL

SexyCool

April 15th, 2010
3:24 pm

Y’all keep me laughing.
915….
*dead – rescuscitate please*

SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
3:24 pm

When you all stay in a hotel or whatever and you end up hearing someone else getting it on…does that turn you on?

Happened when my SO & I were out of town staying in a hotel. We were getting into our groove, then all of a sudden heard the folks in the next room getting it on. It was almost as if we were having a Sex-off. LMAO! I think that’s why they now make those headboards at the hotels that aren’t attached to the bed anymore. :-D

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:26 pm

Okay yall got to stop the foolishness now, The Man just drove up and I am in no position (no pun intended LOL) to be engaging right now. So stop it!!!!

Heck I know you all to well, yall just gonna get worse. Good night you horny little creatures. LOL

Professor

April 15th, 2010
3:26 pm

9:15 Damn!

Sassy girl you just gave me a new move with a name for it.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
3:27 pm

Raqi – I’ll never forget the time my mom had a waterbed…It sounded like we were in a dayum beach house as wild as that water sound was coming from her room that night. It was almost traumatizing. But I think it’s worse when you hear your parents do it as an adult. That happened to me about 6yrs ago. I’m in the living room watching tv at around 9pm. My moms bed was on the same wall as the couch. Next thing I know I hear all this fast knocking, then my mom giggles and the knocking continues. A few minutes after that, out walks my stepdad asking me what I was watching on tv & to get something to drink. I’m thinking to myself…dayum did you even wash yo hands fore you came out here trying to talk to me after you done banged my moms out?!!! GTFOH!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:27 pm

Dreams M

where are you?

Now lookin for DreamsMaterialize in the daylight with a flashlight :shock:

Raqi

April 15th, 2010
3:28 pm

think that’s why they now make those headboards at the hotels that aren’t attached to the bed anymore

That doesn’t help either. We knocked one off of the wall once and then music in the workout room on the other side of the wall stopped. LOL

Bye yall.

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:29 pm

dayum did you even wash yo hands fore you came out here trying to talk to me after you done banged my moms out?!!! GTFOH!

i can’t breathe!! ya’ll are literally killing me

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:31 pm

imma keep on believing that was just the some late night television.

Wha had happened was they were playing leap frog. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2010
3:37 pm

Dayum what did I jus walk back into? Ya’ll can’t blame this one on Melo or Swiss. The Ladies are opening up (literally). Ha ha ha

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 15th, 2010
3:37 pm

dayum did you even wash yo hands fore you came out here trying to talk to me after you done banged my moms out?!!! GTFOH!

!!!!!!!!!!

9:15 Damn!

Luvbug/Professor that shyt’s serious ;)

It’s like the lotteryyyy…it can change your life…

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
3:40 pm

@lurker, main reason why I have to put Raqi in the corner sometimes…she’s doesn’t help at all, but she’s extremely adept at fanning the flames of horniness!!

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2010
3:41 pm

PrincessNIK put that flashlight down and stop lookin foolish. You know I ain’t hard to find. Take some nuvo while I slide a LOT little closer…from behind. ;-)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY NAME IS BUCK, I DRIVE A TRUCK AND I LOVE TO

April 15th, 2010
3:41 pm

Sassy – Yeah that 9:15 works but while in the mix close her legs and make her put her feet on your chest.. Do that for a while then roll her on her side… Do that how ever long.. Then roll her on over and hit from the back.. Never leaving the crevice.. Always keeping it in continuous motion.

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
3:42 pm

“…almost as if we were having a Sex-off.”

I AM DONE!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 15th, 2010
3:46 pm

Melo are you the blog on-line hook-up king?

Sassy have you ever thought about doing comedy? You are too funny! I have been trying to put a name on that position now I have a 9:15 now that’s what is up! :smile:

You ladies are off the chain today! :wink:
Hello Ms. Raqi! How are you and the family doing?

O.K. carry on!

Melo

April 15th, 2010
3:46 pm

which energy drink did u get yesterday PrincessNik??

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
3:47 pm

Never leaving the crevice.. Always keeping it in continuous motion

THAT’S WHATS UP!