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First date misadventures

A married friend of mine recently told me that I was lucky to be single and free to date around.  It made me chuckle a little because just days before, I had experienced a pretty awful dating misadventure.  It was just one of those dates where all signs pointed to “Stop. Do not past go. Go straight to hell no.”

The guy was attractive enough in the beginning, but the more he talked the less I wanted him to.  When he made a rude comment about single women worrying about the wrong ring, it was pretty much a wrap.  Apparently ladies, instead of chasing a wedding ring, we need to focus on the “ring of dirt” in our bathrooms.  

First date flops are pretty common when you are dating around.  When we discussed whether “first impressions are reliable” some of us believed that you can’t always go by snap judgments. What about when you talk, find out about one another, then go on a really awful bad date? Now what?  Do you risk a colossal waste of time on a second date?

Have you ever been on a really bad first date?  If your first impression during a first date is absolute incompatibility, would you think about delaying dismissal?

Are there ways we can improve our first date success rates?

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kinderbabe--29 days and counting! woohoo!

April 15th, 2010
10:16 am

@DK…lol…i can’t let you do that. i have a designated head rubber.;) i totally agree about being confident and wearing the cut and not letting it wear you. i have always been indifferent about hair since i was a teen. i grew it out for 12 years (locs) and hair to the crack of my azz…now i’m on the other side of the coin (bald). i really could care less. it’s just hair! and i STILL look good.:) hair doesn’t define my beauty.

Melo

April 15th, 2010
10:17 am

Time to settle or risk becoming a cat lady.

@Steven Q. Stanley??

:lol:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:18 am

Kinderbabe

in the background i hear India Arie “i am not my hair” :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:18 am

I keep this thang cut every Wednesday.. Me and the Dude gotta keep the cuts proper and in order.. Im rockin a short fro these days.. Just let the sides grow back in from the fade.. The back is tapered though.. I hadnt decided if Im gonna do my Maxwell fro again or grow my Locs back.. I kinda miss em..

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:21 am

I keep this thang cut every Wednesday

see ladies we aren’t the only ones with standing hair appts :lol:

kinderbabe--29 days and counting! woohoo!

April 15th, 2010
10:23 am

@princessnik…that’s right!:) you know i love that song! how are you today? any big plans for the weekend?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:23 am

Nk – Yeah I do it like that cause on the weekends I dont have The Dude he wont be walking around looking crazy..

kinderbabe--29 days and counting! woohoo!

April 15th, 2010
10:24 am

@ladyj…of course! i am SO glad that’s over too. hopefully i won’t have any more first date.;)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:25 am

News Flash.. Awwwww Sh!t Flip Flop lady is a music lover.. weve been going back and forth about Music..

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:25 am

KB, i’m soooooooooooooooo G R E A T!!!

No major plans this weekend, maybe a lil window shopping, might find more decor for the house. Speaking of which has anyone been to homegoods in buckhead? is it worth a visit?

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:27 am

Infamous I feel ya! The newbie has a standing friday trip to the barber shop, that’s his short day at the full time job, so he usually hits the shop right as its opening. He also takes his little nephew to get his hair cut, which i think is just so awesome.

Beelzebubba - Demon of the South

April 15th, 2010
10:30 am

It’s a wonderful first date day. 2 for 1 chicken biscuits at Mickey D’s you know.

kinderbabe--29 days and counting! woohoo!

April 15th, 2010
10:30 am

@PrincessNik…that’s is super!:)i feel you on the window shopping. i may do some of that too. i haven’t been to homegoods yet. they probably have some cool stuff. it would be worth the trip.

Melo

April 15th, 2010
10:31 am

He also takes his little nephew to get his hair cut, which i think is just so awesome.

@PrincessNik!!??

there is nothing really awesome or outa this world about that..taking neph to the bar shop…its a normal thing any man can do…just keep ur feet to the ground babe.

Im luving the newbee,if not trolls, left field posts today. No holds barred really!

I am a lurker! :lol: :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
10:32 am

Anyone been to Agatha’s Mystery Dinner Theater??

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:32 am

Themajor difference between men and women.. Window shopping.. Thats like Sex with no climax.. Heck I guess ya’ll used to that too..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:33 am

Slim – Yes but it was years ago.. Its ok but I dont think I’ll do it again because more than once is… Its a novelty spot fer sure..

Carlito

April 15th, 2010
10:34 am

Hello, I have nothing to ass on the topic. But I am in a great mood anyway. Talk to you all later this afternoon :)

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
10:36 am

Too dang funny, my Italian Studmuffin has a$$ on the brain!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:39 am

there is nothing really awesome or outa this world about that..taking neph to the bar shop…its a normal thing any man can do…just keep ur feet to the ground babe.

Melo, dude, my feet are on the ground and whil it is something normal that any man CAN do, doesn’t make it the NORM if you know what i mean. The thing that makes it awesome to me is that it implies that he is a family man. Honestly his nephews dad should be taking lil man to the barbershop but since apparently he does not, he decided to step in and do so.

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:40 am

DK when i say window shopping i mean, i have nothing in particular to buy but if i see something that strikes my fancy i will.

kimmie

April 15th, 2010
10:40 am

Princess – I have not been to the one in Buckhead, but the one near Northpointe is the bomb! You can find some great things for the home at wonderful low prices. Great gift items too.

I’ve not had any out-of-the-way first dates really. But if I’m unsure about a guy, I won’t accept an evening date. Lunch works out great – an hour & I have to get back to work! If it was good, we can plan our 2nd date. Me & SO’s first date was awesome. If a first date was REALLY bad, like SCool said, it would be the ONLY date. A little case of the nerves is okay & normal, but if you are completely unglued, that will be our only date. I like a confident man, we’re grown, not high schoolers on our first date ever! Yeah, you will get dropped cause I will think you are crazy! Rude – kicked to the curb. But a little stumble, okay that might be a little endearing.

Oh, Good mornting blog!

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
10:41 am

@PrincessNik ~ and that in itself is AWESOME!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:42 am

leggs

glad someone understands >>>>>>melo :roll:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:43 am

Leggs – Hello babe

kimmie

April 15th, 2010
10:43 am

Princess- Melo understands, he’s just trying to stir up trouble!LOL!!

I am the bad dater...

April 15th, 2010
10:44 am

I wanted to share that sometimes you can cause a bad date unintentionally. I asked this woman out for two months and she kept saying she was busy. Not a quitter, I kept asking and she said yes to dinner. The only thing, I had eaten a big lunch and wanted to skip dinner. I agreed to the date. We talked and laughed together. I told her that I wasn’t eating, because I ate a big lunch, but she could order whatever she liked. I thought the date was cool until my sister-in-law called and jumped on me for not eating on the first date. She said that it made me look cheap and it made her uncomfortable to eat. We all laugh at it now. I did get a chance to redeem myself by taking her on an MTV style date, where we do something crazy like becoming news reporters for CNN or take a Tae Bo class. She enjoyed that date and I did eat.

Carlito

April 15th, 2010
10:44 am

I meant to type add not ass. Although I am surprised ass was allowed to be typed and shown.

:)

Leggs, you busted me.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
10:44 am

DK – I think i’ve gone YEARSSSSSS ago too but I only remember it vaguely. (been to too many plays to remember them all over the years) Anyhoo, got to talking with my tax man yesterday and I think we are going to attempt to go. ;-) Looks like Slim is having a wee bit-o-fun these days. LOL!

Carlito – Um…you okay over there? I hope you weren’t looking at azz when you typed that post. That’s why I hate to type an email or anything whenever someone is trying to talk to me at the same time…end up typing what they are saying.

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2010
10:44 am

how he grew up in Boston and what kind of life he lives
What’s his initials?

Ok call me a sucka but Chrisette looks better bald.. It highlights her gorgeous eyes
Yeah that’s a hot look for her. I got a thing for the natural rocked right anyway though.

Professor

April 15th, 2010
10:46 am

Hola!

As for first date horrors I usually drive to mitigate the horrors.

At this point in my life I really enjoy talking on the phone and emails first. I don’t like going on first dates without the feeling of “I know this person.” For first dates I like to keep it easy…a quick cup of coffee or my favorite Rita’s Italian ice treat if it is hot.

Lady J-Lioness

April 15th, 2010
10:47 am

DreamsM lol I am scared to say don’t want him hunting me down for giving him up! LOL

Beelzebubba - Demon of the South

April 15th, 2010
10:48 am

Coffee? Bring your own container to Starbucks today.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:48 am

NIk – Yeah I see way more women in the Shop than there needs to be.. But we all make sure they can come in and drop the little fellas off and they are gonna be in good hands. At least they will get the real man experience while Momma aint sitting right there…

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
10:49 am

@InfamousD ~ hello sweetie…how’s it hanging How are things going for you? (LOL)!

Melo

April 15th, 2010
10:50 am

PrincessNik??

bottom line = u luv this man..NO qstion.! :lol:

Now,does he brush his teeth too??

thats awesome if he does! :lol:

Leggs

April 15th, 2010
10:51 am

@Professor ~ no you didn’t!!! Did you know that I’m a sucka for italian icees! You should try Cole’s Italian Ice on the corner of Memorial Drive and Candler Road…..OMG, DELICIOUS! I frequent that place so much in the summer I sometimes get a free icee just for showing up!

Beelzebubba - Demon of the South

April 15th, 2010
10:51 am

Blog hijacked by a group of bored office lady acquaintances as a vehicle to pass personal notes.

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 15th, 2010
10:52 am

Wearing a white tee to a date! Where they do dat at?

Too much expectation on a first date can set you up for a big letdown!
Go out and enjoy the date!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:52 am

awww man melo you really ran with that one, LOVE nah we still getting to know each other.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 15th, 2010
10:52 am

Slim – Dang you done scooped the tax man.. Hey hold up… Let me meet ya so you can dig this..

Lady J-Lioness

April 15th, 2010
10:54 am

Go out and enjoy the date!

@Elijah you ain’t never lied!!!!! just enjoy!!!!!!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 15th, 2010
10:54 am

if you keep a fresh line-up/cut you will always attract the ladies attention. I rock a fresh cut/lin-up every week and attention I receive from the ladies is awesome baby! :wink:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
10:55 am

Wearing a white tee to a date! Where they do dat at?

@ Elijah, you’d be surprised :roll:

DreamsMaterialize

April 15th, 2010
10:57 am

Rita’s Italian ice treat if it is hot
Man I love Italian ice, or iceys as we called ‘em where I’m from. Shoot I kinda want one now. Let’s go get one. lol

DreamsM lol I am scared to say don’t want him hunting me down for giving him up!
Now you know I wouldn’t snitch. Your secret is safe with me. ;-) I’m more curious than anything.

Anyone been to Agatha’s Mystery Dinner Theater??
Haven’t been, but was thinking of checking it out. You gon roll with me? I’m a good first date, I promise. lol

Lady J-Lioness

April 15th, 2010
10:57 am

you right again! a lil boy hair cut meaning a close cut is so damn cute on a grown man! just fresh!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 15th, 2010
10:59 am

DK – Isn’t it about time for another blog meet-n-greet anyway?…or does that sort of kill the fantasy of being behind the screen a little bit?

Lady J-Lioness

April 15th, 2010
10:59 am

dreamsM comedy is the theme today on the blog!!!! The funnies are killing me and it is early!

SexyCool

April 15th, 2010
10:59 am

I’m the committe chair for my high school reunion planning committee – I’ve been having all these high school flashbacks.

Remember when tennis skirts were all the rage?

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 15th, 2010
11:00 am

Lady J

I like the low cut ceasar with the deep wave

;) u know we had to throw in a line from a song