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Marriage is totally worth it!

My Mother came into town Sunday to attend a nursing conference in the city.  I was basically her driver/hotel concierge/hostess for the last two days and I am exhausted! I enjoyed having her around but my poor Father was clearly miserable without his wife.

Dad constantly called to hear her voice, remind her to take her medication, and any other random excuse he thought up to dial her number.  It’s endearing and sweet to see their romance continue all these years!  When I saw them light up when they reunited  (after 48 whole hours!), I got all choked up and misty. It was like a sappy The Notebook moment right there in the parking lot.

I thought, “You know? I kind of want that!”  No,  seriously! I’ve been ambivalent about marriage and commitment in the past, but watching my parents yesterday made me think that marriage is totally worth it.  I would love to have a man still stand the sight of me, let alone love me, after over 40 years of marriage!

Do you think marriage and commitment is worth all the challenges that are sure to come?

How do you think your parent’s relationship shaped your perception about love, commitment, and relationships?

What was your first memory of love and affection in your home?

367 comments Add your comment

Sunknee

April 14th, 2010
8:19 am

Thats sweet. I am one chick that has no desire or even see the benefit of being married other than for financial security and then I still dont know if I would want to do it. I would need my own room for sure. I even called a relationship once because the guy started talking marriage. He was/is a great guy & deserved better. My current has mention it before also, I hope he’s not serious :(

TiffTaff

April 14th, 2010
8:30 am

My parents got divorced when I was really young so there were no examples of a “real” couple working through a relationship in my home. For a while I was jaded on the whole marriage thing. However, more recently I have seen both of my parents struggle with loneliness and it makes me realize that I really do want a life long partner.

I want someone who is in it for the long haul. Someone who is willing to go through all of the ups and down and not give up so easily. To have a marriage that will stand the test of time takes a lot of work and let’s be honest people are just lazy. Heck my parents got lazy when it came to their marriage. I think it’s easy to get into a long-term relationship and forget that you have to work to keep it new, fresh and exciting. Who wants to be in a dull boring marriage, no one! But, is marriage worth it? HECK YEAH!!!!!

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
8:34 am

GM All!
LOL @ Sunknee. been there gurl! currently perched on the edge, looking into the abyss that is “til death do us part” but not quite ready to jump. yeah, the sweet stories are heart warming, but we all know there’s the other side, and that’s the side you have to be prepared to get through to make a marriage work. if you’ve lived many happy single years, it can be difficult to trade that in for constant companionship or even financial security. i do believe that when you meet the right person at the right time, the transition should feel more like a natural partnering than a lifetime contract with no out clause. :)

Professor

April 14th, 2010
8:49 am

Hola!

Hmmm I am a mix of Sunknee and Tiff Taff I want the freedom of being single and the security of marriage. Maybe I should just shack! j/k that would not work either.

Hey czBrat I thought about you this weekend as I played and chilled out in the park. I love the message you posted on Friday!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
8:54 am

In a word…Yep. Can’t think of anything better.

It takes something besides love though (if you have a pulse you can fall in love). It takes mutual respect and admiration…they have to genuinely like each other. I wish I had that. Give me one woman I genuinely like over a dozen for just recreation any day (is Tiger listening?) ;-)

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
8:54 am

Great story, I would be lying if I said marriage has not crossed my mind. Maybe.

Love the fact that we are going to discuss the positive side of relationships today :)

Professor

April 14th, 2010
8:56 am

@Randyt I thought you liked the lady at the drive thru?? j/k

@Carlito, I bet you pop the question to Julia within a year. :grin:

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
8:57 am

Congrats to your parents Diva!!!!!! There are good solid marriages out there and they validate that true unconditional love is real. Just thinking about both sides of my families even to the grandparents even though the years are there it wasn’t that adorable love type of relationship….It was though the long haul of whatever as divorce isn’t a major on either sides. However one of my more successful uncle is in the process of a divorce and his shame is killing him….For some reason it is all about perception with that side but we all know with each of them that everything that glitter ain’t gold….

Sure one day I would love to remarry and have someone adore me as much as I adore them and grow old together as married compainions…..I often think in my mid life I will remarry and the jumping through hoops phase for bot parties will be over one would hope…it is a thought but I am very well preparing myself that I may not ever remarry and that is ok too….I was the 1st to divorce in my family on both sides now my uncle who is 46….I felt like a burden of that taboo feeling was lifted not applauding divorce but being the 1st all the time ain’t cute! HA! LOL

My parents did the best they could under all circumstances….I don’t regret what they tried to do…..it was a rouh 25 years to show us a mom and dad in the home….I just didn’t want to continue the cycle of misery for marriage sake….Not just running at the blink of a problem but when it is not working and we weren’t trying to fix it together it was easier to do the next best thing and be awesome co-parents for the sake of our daughter….

marriage is tough and to stick it out 40 years through it all you deserve to smile and miss your mate…..40years is a long time and I applaud all successful marriages that go through the fire for the fruits on the other side…..

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:01 am

I am not sure if this is an AA culture thing but my parents are still legally married but very much so apart….I couldn’t do it…..I also told my ex I wsn’t going to be responsible for burying him if he dies…..my father stays with his current girlfriend and he dies what a messy situation as he invest his money in her home it will still fall back on my mom to be responsible for his burial or release his body to my grandma….just damn messy but it goes on all the time

I have since done a living will to be honest….

lurker

April 14th, 2010
9:02 am

I frankly don’t believe we as people in this day and time have it us to endure and stay with one love, no matter what comes or go, one love for life. I no longer REALLY believe it but I too saw it. My mom and dad was married for 54 years and 7 months until death caused the separation. What’s instilled today lack values and the resilience to stay and keep at it leaving us far removed from a time when the willingness to maintain a marriage, come hell or high waters was present. All too often we see folks making a mad dash for the door at the first sign of hills and valleys and hurdles and obstacles.

obelle

April 14th, 2010
9:07 am

I love being married-I was happy single but I have never felt as much joy in my heart as I do when I come home to my husband who smiles everytime he sees me. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years so I was able to grow up with the example of a great marriage. Being single is fun, but that gets old eventually. I am glad to have someone who is at my side-even when he gets on my nerves! I highly recommend marriage when you find the right one.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:07 am

what am I thinking I am grown now I guess as the oldest I would bury my dad it would come to me…..smh….ok enough about that…but the things that goes on in a broken marriage amazes me and what the childeren endure really affects all phases of life….

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:08 am

lurker I hate to agree but you may have some points…..

obelle I do feel there is a joy with being truly satisfied and happily married to your true love!!!! Congrats! :)

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
9:12 am

Hola Profesora

I thought about you this weekend as I played and chilled out in the park. I love the message you posted on Friday! that’s awesome! i got out and had a blast too. so much so that i was exhausted when monday morning rolled around.

k. off to play in traffic.

kinderbabe--30 days and counting! woohoo!

April 14th, 2010
9:14 am

i think that marriage is totally worth it when after all the years a relationship like your parents’ (Wise Diva) still stands. being together just to say we’re together is for the birds. my parents have that type of marriage after 37 years. they have become even less happy since “the nest” has become more empty. i’ve been goine for many years and my little sister is on her way out. poor thing, they are doing everything they can to keep her there…lol. they don’t want to lose a distraction from a marriage that has long been over.

if i get married, i want to feel relieved when my kids are gone so that i can start a new phase of my relationship w/my husband. good love makes it worth it.

lurker

April 14th, 2010
9:15 am

Lady J, you know I had to be a cynic before folks even have their coffee but……

lurker

April 14th, 2010
9:16 am

that should have read “I hate to be a cynic” not “I had….”

lurker

April 14th, 2010
9:17 am

I definitely think true love is worth all of it, the ups, downs, ins, outs, good, bad, but does it exist?

Jeff

April 14th, 2010
9:19 am

WD, if you want a relationship like that, you have to be the other half of that relationship. And it seems most women nowadays aren’t willing to do that because they see it as demeaning and subservient.

Kym

April 14th, 2010
9:19 am

Good Morning All

Ohh Wisey..that is so sweet! Yeah I have thought about the eternal dream of Happily ever after. Someone to love me for life..(shout out to Jodeci) but then I get that fear of commitment and start to itch. I told my friend just the other day that I could see myself marrying after my son is grown and gone..or maybe dating exclusively after I get a bit older..so I could have a guy I would take trips with, share a dinner with and help me get thru menopause…LMAO!

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:22 am

i know lurker!!!!! LOL

last I checked it takes 2 to make a thing go right!!!!!!!!!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
9:23 am

@ Prof

I suppose one would never have trust issues with the gal in the drive thru…but that is the only plus I can see there. She needs to take a picture of herself and look until she finds someone who compliments her teeth by having the other 16 or so. I don’t think I would start at the orthodontists office though…unless maybe ambushing a guy as he goes in.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:25 am

kb i truly understand we talked about this last night in class as we discussed counseling adults….this and retirement can send many young-old adults to there grave early…..happiness and sanity has a fine line and what I have learned in my brief years is you have to remain true to thy own self and I saw a mother you lost her soul to her failed marriage…..she is now claiming it back but it is a struggle when 25years of your life has been upside down and you throw menopause in the mix….it almost becomes a crisis….but she will survive!

Kym

April 14th, 2010
9:29 am

@RandyT..I am going to need everyone to get up off Tiger. First off he is not the first man to have affairs..he was a little sloppy admittingly..but he is not the first. Also, I have yet to see any outrage from the male population over the affair of John Edwards..this joker has gotten a pass from the media and the mainstream and he had a baby with his mistress asked his friend to claim the baby, and then lied to all of America and his dying wife. No outrage there..but Tiger gets his freak on with some a collection of skanks and all of a sudden he can’t catch a break.

Kym

April 14th, 2010
9:31 am

Now why did the blog eat my post about Tiger..I didn’t curse or anything.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:33 am

kym is elin really asking for a divorce??? rhetorical I know but is she???

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
9:35 am

Professor, maybe.

Professor

April 14th, 2010
9:38 am

@Randy…LOL

@Lurker/Lady J Hmmmm I discussed this same topic with some friends. Sometimes I wonder if the folks back then just swept stuff under the rug and dealt with there pain in silence. Many Women stayed because they could not leave (1) the husband was the breadwinner and (2) there was a taboo associated with a woman leaving her husband. I have a relative that divorced her husband after 30 years…he would fight her, had all kinds of girlfriends and everything else you could imagine. Yet some folks said that she should not have divorced him, because she had been with him all of those years.

I guess you can say I don’t think the marriages back then was all that great in comparison to marriages today… folks just stayed because that was the norm.

Kym

April 14th, 2010
9:38 am

Lady J. I don’t know if she is or not. I saw pics of her at a tennis match(she is really not that cute) and she didn’t have on her ring. I am kind of putting Elin in that group with Kobe’s wife, but anything is possible. All I know is folks need to get off Tiger.

Kym

April 14th, 2010
9:42 am

@Prof I agree with you. All families have skeletons..about how grandpa had kids on the other side of town. Uncle Ray cheated on Aunt Selma..folks just kept quiet and faked it until someone died..taking their secret drama and shame with them. I think I remember T.O. talking about how he almost dated his sister. Nothing new under the sun.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:43 am

professor they did and still do…..sure the years are in but I can spend all day with what folk put up with and remain happily married…..but I want as I will remain postive….cheating and being disrespectful goes way back and all generations are different with how they handle their business….

Professor

April 14th, 2010
9:45 am

I am not sure if this is an AA culture thing but my parents are still legally married but very much so apart…

Lady J I have seen this in other cultures as well. In fact, I remember the funeral home releasing the body to the wife…they had been separated for years, but still legally married. The wife paid to have the body released to her (her husband died out of state). So the body was released to her and she had him cremated and his live in girlfriend, kids by the girlfriend did not have a chance to say goodbye. They were swiss.

I know of another case AA where the girlfriend and separated wife had it out, but the family stepped in. The mother, sister and minister put a lid on all that mess before the wife could get started. However the wife and all her friends wore club outfits to the funeral and sat on the front row. They would not move, and the wife had her own programs printed as well…I guess you wouldn’t call them programs it was just a typed sheet of paper saying she was the wife.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:46 am

kym I heard this morning she wants a divorce…..go figure….and I am proud of kobe and vanessa for sticking it out no matter the price……on the flip side where was she going but Kobe grew up to me personally….and I don’t give a damn about that snitch shit I am talking bout personally he came into his own and stands on his own….

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:49 am

professor hot mess you know for a second I am not entertaining that foolishness for a sec….we all know our roles and she his girlfriend is more than welcome to attend the services but my mom won’t be disrespected and I will be in charge with a humble heart best believe that

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
9:51 am

I see my way of thinking has crept into the masses.. A Guy and A Girl date eternally.. She has her place and he has his.. They love each other they just dont live together.. They ARE Committed to one another, they can just go home on those days when they feel it necessary. They have wills so greedy family wont try to swoop in in the event something happens to one of them.. Yep I have thought this thru.. Throughly.. This keeps the love always fresh cause they both know they can bounce whenever they feel like it, but realize its much better to be together.. Because they choose to, not because of some piece of paper that says you have to do right or else..

Kym

April 14th, 2010
9:55 am

@Prof..I am cracking up..about the funeral..because when my son’s father died..the programs listed my son, his sister, and her mother(she was married to him at the time of death) but the way the program listed the kids, it was as if both kids came from the same mom. I was like surely these folks not trying to make this joker looked unstanding in death? My family had fits..I could careless..my only concern was helping my kid cope with the death of his father..all that other stuff foolishness.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
9:55 am

LAdy J – Yeah my cousin and I were the first two dudes to divorce in my family.. None of the girls have.. Hey we are all types of heathens but it was OK for me I was always the black sheep of the family.. He on the other hand was a deacon at the family church in which they shunned him.. Ha ha I think its funny to be shunned in the 21st century, but anyway.. I too saw a marriage that lasted for the sake of the kids.. I wasnt gonna do that either.. My parents dont even like each other most days and its actually kinda sad.. My Dad recently told me not to rush and get remarried, enjoy life and all it has to offer..

lurker

April 14th, 2010
9:56 am

Professor – I agree to some degree but I don’t think ALL people that had long marriages stayed because it was the norm. Some cases maybe but certainly not all. My mom and dad had their ups and downs but they loved each other. More importantly the really liked being in one another’s company and had no problem passing their years together. My dad was there for all of us and even to the grandkids, he did the same. My newphew forever had colic. My dad did all the rocking and sanging to sleep and administering the medicine. There was always that time they had together minus the kids, intimate but not sexual. I’m more than certain he wasn’t an angel but the values instilled in him is what he carried over into the marriage. My dad truly truly loved his kids and my mom. I believe the Lord took him first because he knew of the two which could take it better.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
9:57 am

Morning folks!!

I too luv marriage and the added joy and pain of raising our kids tgether! I couldnt imagine being divorced and my kids living with another man in my ex’s house or just being alone withoiut me to guide them thru life’s hoops while being close by. That would be an abomination for me. So yeah, I am gonna stick to it,come hell come thunder!

Ofcourse,having someone at ur beck and call,24/7 can be a pain in the butt smetimes cause moods change and there are times you need ur own complete solitude. Thats why having trusted friends is key because that way,u can spend time alone without ur other half,just enjoying urselves.
I look frward to the days when the kids will be gone and we are empty nesters. Then we can buy viagra and cialis in ample quantities,store in anywhere in the house without resorting to hiding it and relieve our youth,just wilding out! :lol: :lol:

Howdee gents and u lovely Ms sophisticates??!!

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:58 am

DK we are >>>>>here<<<<<<!!!!!!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
9:58 am

@ DK I truly understand your belief system…but (there had to be a “but” right). I think the piece of paper for some, not all, is a “reminder” that you can’t just always run away, that sometimes you need to stand and work for it. I read somewhere the rate of divorce for people who lived together is actually higher than for those who did not cohabitate. When people have a legal commitment, or a very major personal commitment, they sometimews try harder to make it work.

Example…Indian marriages I have seen that were arranged by their parents. Most of them genuinely fall heavily in love with their spouse and MAKE it work… because divorce is not really an option.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
9:59 am

melo great post!

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:01 am

lurker that makes all the difference they wanted to be there and the love was still there!!!!

Marriage does rock and there are great ones out there!!!!!

i am a believer!

sexycool

April 14th, 2010
10:04 am

Three Words Daily – Chin up, kid.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
10:04 am

Umm that was thoroughly…

sexycool

April 14th, 2010
10:06 am

Randyt – sponsor that drive thru chick for some dental treatment.

And I just cannot to *this* topic today.

Love to all of you.

sexycool

April 14th, 2010
10:06 am

Randyt – sponsor that drive thru chick for some dental treatment.

And I just cannot do *this* topic today.

Love to all of you.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:07 am

randy that is the truth I will NEVER shack again lesson learned only shacked with one married him and it was over when it started……beyond the bible shacking is just wrong in my humble opinion and it is my daily prayer my daughter won’t feel the need to shack…..

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
10:07 am

The problem with making marriages actually work is that it takes BOTH being on the same page…and that is the hard part. Both have to be committed. Both have to be willing to give more than their share. Both have to like and respect each other…even when they are kinda POed at the other. It takes work, and truthfully most people are too dayum selfish to do that…that the other should do all the giving.

Last comment…my ex wife’s definition of “giving” was to put up with me (her words). She actually thoguh that was all she had to do. NOT.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:08 am

lol sexycool!

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:08 am

The problem with making marriages actually work is that it takes BOTH being on the same page…and that is the hard part. Both have to be committed. Both have to be willing to give more than their share. Both have to like and respect each other…even when they are kinda POed at the other. It takes work, and truthfully most people are too dayum selfish to do that…that the other should do all the giving.

Amen!!!! Pass the plate! LOL

Sunknee

April 14th, 2010
10:10 am

@Proff I definely would not do the shacking if I have to live with you its going to be marriage. People think there is something wrong with me for not wanting the marriage or kids, I will do the marriage before I birth out a kid, nothing against kids, just dont want any. Good thing I could care less what people think :)

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:11 am

randy great assessment and my generation is a selfish generation…..they tried to do us a favor with what they thought their parents did them wrong but when the tide changed so did values I think….we are spoiled and selfish and wan it all it 5 seconds or less! sigh!

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:12 am

you go sunknee!!!!! do you honey!!!! :)

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:13 am

lmbao I just got an email from uptown comdedy club addressing me as Mrs……I am going for tea on that one! LMBAO!

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
10:20 am

Good morning blog crew!

That’s so sweet, Wise! I think growing up with that kind of example – parents who were not only committed to one another and the marriage, but truly in love & like with each other, is ideal! You know what a real marriage is all about and it gives you something positive to shoot for.

My parents & grandparents & several sets of aunts & uncles were married till death parted them. They had their ups & downs, but seemed to truly love each other. One uncle got divorced but has been remarried now for over 25 years. Got a few cousins that are divorced. Seems my generation can’t really stay together – I can’t think of but a few of my cousins that are still married. And yeah, I believe quite a few folks stayed married and miserable for the kids back in the day. I actually know of some women who, while they were genuinely sorry their husbands died, seemed a bit relieved too. They seemed to blossom. Sad to say, but true.

My parents despised shacking, so that was planted in my head so I’ll never shack. Until we marry, I’ll keep my separate residence.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
10:23 am

Do you think marriage and commitment is worth all the challenges that are sure to come?

It’s absolutely worth it for some/many people. I’m sure one day the divorce rate will reflect that…and I’m not being facetious. I just think some folks are still mad people (mostly women) are freer than before and the adjustment takes a few generations. The operations and reasons for marriage have changed a lot too.

I believe when all that levels out and society comes to terms with some changes, generation 2050 will be rockin it well.

Oh and everybody knows already…for me, commitment = yes…Marriage? No need to put a contract on me…my word is good. I won’t hurt you Babe :lol:

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
10:24 am

Oh…and nice story WD.

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
10:29 am

I believe when all that levels out and society comes to terms with some changes, generation 2050 will be rockin it well.

Luvbug – Excellent assessment & I agree. Not only marriage, but other dynamics in life have changed, such as roles & expectations of both women & men. All these changes are not bad, just different, and people need to adjust.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:33 am

Sexy Cool, I am with you now. LOL

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:34 am

I have come to the conclusion that some people’s role in life is to piss on anything that is remotely joyful.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
10:36 am

One interesting thing I see here in N. England that is so different from ATL is the sheer number of old people walking around the harbor holding hands and strolling. They love their dogs, their children, and their “telly”. You really do not see many divorced people over 30 around here. Touching actually (maybe they share the same set of dentures). In ATL, seven years ago the AJC estimated there were more than 350, 000 singles OVER the age of 35. Not true here for sure. Maybe different in London.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
10:37 am

@ Carlitto re: “I have come to the conclusion that some people’s role in life is to piss on anything that is remotely joyful.” I did not know you knew my ex mother-in-law!!! ;-) NNNNOOOOO KKKKIIIIDDDDIIIINNNNGGG.

Professor

April 14th, 2010
10:38 am

@Lurker…I would be a fool to think that all of those marriages back then were bad, but I do feel our views are distorted because those folks sometimes went through a silent hell.

@Lady J, I agree do not disrespect my momma with your hoochie friends.

@Kym yes they wanted him to look good! I cannot laugh too hard they did something similar in my family…making all the children appear to come from the same lady when two of the were the same age and not twins :shock: :grin: :evil:

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
10:40 am

meant to say “350,000 singles over 35 in metro Atlanta”

lurker

April 14th, 2010
10:42 am

Lady J – I too shacked…NEVER again. Just lose something IMO.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
10:43 am

I have come to the conclusion that some people’s role in life is to piss on anything that is remotely joyful.

@Carlito??

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:43 am

Randyt, that is funny LMAO

I wonder if the U.S. has the highest divorce rate? If so I wonder why. In my family I can not recall any divorces of those that are married nor do I recall any sour marriages. We all are very close, I know no marriage is immune to challenges. But each challenge does not involve infidelity. I guess it comes down to knowing who you are marrying.

lurker

April 14th, 2010
10:44 am

they tried to do us a favor with what they thought their parents did them wrong but when the tide changed so did values I think….we are spoiled and selfish and wan it all it 5 seconds or less

Yep

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:45 am

lurker you lose your soul at least I did…..not a good feeling….lol….but have it back now!!!!!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:47 am

Melo, it’s true.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
10:47 am

@ Carlitto

My ex mother-in-law could find something negative to say about everything. I see my ex-wife fairly frequently and my daughter calls me pretty much every night I am in the states with stories of how my ex has become just like her mother…and she hated the way her mother was. There is some truth to the statement that if you want to see what your blushing bride will be in the future…look at her mother. The acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree.

Professor

April 14th, 2010
10:48 am

I actually know of some women who, while they were genuinely sorry their husbands died, seemed a bit relieved too. They seemed to blossom.

Kimmie, I am thinking about this one guy after his wife died, bless his heart…he said that he did not realize how well she cared for him and he didn’t know what to do. This man could not even get his coffee right because she did everything for him, she even picked out his clothes. I thought it was cute, because he did a helluva job taking care his family, and if he would have passed first there would have been things she couldn’t have done either He remarried fairly soon, though.

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
10:51 am

I think folks definitely want instant gratification nowadays, but I don’t think that is ALWAYS bad. Life is too short to spend too much time being miserable & unhappy. I learn that the older I get. I guess I am jaded about that because I feel I wasted a lot of time trying to “make” some relationships work that were not meant to be. Especially when these were just boyfriends and not my husband.

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
10:51 am

DK i like your plan (9:51). if you can learn to live with the occasional flip-flop, i will tame my birds nest and we can live happily ever after in separate homes :lol:

on another note, interesting that my brothers are still in 30+ year marriages, but none of us girls have managed to stay married more than 10 years or so. i blame our staunch independence and ‘i want you but i don’t need you’ attitude.

lurker

April 14th, 2010
10:51 am

Talking to a coworker, broke wind..wonder if she knew. She looked at me funny for a hot sec but I just kept right on talking. Shoot, couldn’t hold it. Oh well.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
10:51 am

Kimmie – Thanks

Randy – I wonder how much that Metro Atlanta stat would change if everybody could be legally married.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:52 am

we can only speak on what we know and whie their were good timesin my home the bad ones over shadow them….I am not a negative or bitter person….I realize that their are great marriage out their and not everyone chea andcheat is not always the case for demise but I won’t hold back sharing misadventures and lessons learned from my demise and my family members…..nothing is perfect and reality is real and the truth sometimes isn’t pretty or joyful but I do know through mistakes good things will come with time….I can’t apologize for my past or what others have done and won’t apologize bc it isn’t all joyful…..

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
10:53 am

He remarried fairly soon, though.

Professor – I’ve seen that happen a lot too. Those types of men especially, are just used to being married. They wouldn’t fair well out on these mean, singles’ streets!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:54 am

Randyt, I have associates like that. I just ignore their calls, emails etc. :)

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
10:54 am

Sunknee and Brat… I am with you. I choke up at the thought of a relationship. A marriage will kill me me! :lol: I am much happier single. I once got into a “relationship” with a guy because he caught me at a vunerble time in my life and it was easy for the snake to slither his way in. (I shouldn’t insult snakes that way..they are better than him). Anyway…I was off my rocker, game and normal commom sense. So I let this demon talk me into a “relationship” and it was the most miserable time in my life. I got rid of the f*cktard and I was still in a bad situation but nonetheless…so much happier single. So I think there are people that are the marrying type. I am not! I am the loyal friend to till the end type. But settling with one dude for the rest of my life frightens me. I used to even shake when it came time to sign a year lease on an apartment. I think I fear anything that surpresses my freedom!

Melo

April 14th, 2010
10:55 am

I wonder if the U.S. has the highest divorce rate? If so I wonder why.

@Carlito??!!

Capitalism is ur answer. It is a self centered, “Me” only system and capitalism is practiced best(more pure) in USA than in any other Europen country. In Canada they have capitalism with a dose of socialism..check their health care.Same as in England with their liberal unemployement,health and housing policies,the same still in Germany.If you go to Sweden and denmark,holland,(the nordic cntries) there is even worse corruption of capitalism with attendant high taxes.
The USA is the only place for the most part where the mantra is ,’Each man for hisself( :lol: ) and God for us all”!

That percolates into the social fabric resulting in people being more self centered,caring more about themsleves and their well being than for the other person’s well being ,esp financially and quitting “early” when in a mariage because the mindset is,:

“I CAN DO BETTER BY MYSELF”

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
10:55 am

@ luvnug re “Randy – I wonder how much that Metro Atlanta stat would change if everybody could be legally married.”

The demographics of midtown would change for sure.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:56 am

Black Magic Woman, how do you really feel. LOL.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
10:57 am

all errors in love for the skeptics….

Professor

April 14th, 2010
10:57 am

Lady J,

Amen on that 10:52 I refuse to call chicken sh!t chicken salad…the truth is the truth.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
10:58 am

Melo, I think you are correct.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
11:01 am

@ BMW

My life has certainly been better single…but I still like the thought of having just “one”. After 10 years of being single, I still miss having a warm body next to me every night. At 2:00 AM on a Saturday night looking up at that ceiling fan by myself is a drag. Don’t get me wrong…have had relationships, some long, some short, but even with those, I knew that she or I would be going home sooner or later. Guess I do like marriage.

Actually the only thing I can think of worse than being married, is being single…has to be a better alternative to both ;-)

lurker

April 14th, 2010
11:02 am

lurker you lose your soul at least I did

Lady J – I can’t say “soul” per se but I dunno, something goes amissing or becomes lacking. I too felt revived or rejuvenated or reborn after some many years past that relationship but I felt like something slipped away during that time. Can’t name it but something.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:02 am

Lady J, I agree with you as well. We all have a past some more tainted than others. As long as we learn something and move forward, life is good. I learned alot from my heartbreak. She did me really wrong but do I think she is the scum of the earth forever? No I do not, I did at one point. I know for a fact people do change. I can look at myself and my past personally for that. Everything in our life happens for a reason, I think there is nobody who is totally innocent and stuff just happened to in relationships. That’s just my opinion.

Professor

April 14th, 2010
11:02 am

BlackMagicWoman,

Are you ok with committed relationships that just form and you go with the flow? Say if you are friends with a guy and you find yourself hanging out with him more and more and a relationship develops.

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
11:03 am

“I will do the marriage before I birth out a kid, nothing against kids, just dont want any. Good thing I could care less what people think”

SUNKNEE….girl…were we separated at birth??? :shock: That is how I feel. If I had to choose the lesser of 2 evils it would be marriage because at least I could get out of it. A kid…I am stuck like Chuck. I can’t send it back to Russia on a plane by itself if I changed my mind about being a mom! :lol:

On Topic: My parents are funny though….my mother came to visit me one V-Day and my dad called a million times just to talk to her. Not to mention he called me an said I took his Valentine and hung up on me! :lol: We are a twisted bunch I tell ya! He also said if she passed before him, the coffin had better be big enough for 2 because he is going too! CRAZY..I know! What about me? :lol:

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
11:03 am

Melo, I think the US culture is the real culprit. A lot of cultures in other countries value family and marriage more than we do. Families are closer, sometimes different generations even live in the same house. Marriages are arranged or at least kids of certain families are encouraged to date & marry. Religion plays more of a role too.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
11:03 am

I am truly happy for WD parents but they are in the miniority with their love and marriage……divorce is occuring more and more with all ages….I knew of a 35yr marriage that ended in divorce….we can’t ignore that fact that something is wrong with our relationships…..I am not the only one that knows this too….I wish there were more happy couples to blog about their adventures and the key to success with holding it together….wonder what their thoughts are….

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
11:04 am

Carlito totally agree!!!

TiffTaff

April 14th, 2010
11:04 am

‘we are spoiled and selfish and want it all in 5 seconds or less! sigh!’

@Lady J, you forgot to add materialistic. See many of my friends want the wedding more so than the actual marriage or the kids as trophy pieces more so than to parent (but that’s a whole other topic).

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:05 am

I enjoyed my being single and dating. I love being in a relationship now. It’s more fun, not that I felt I was not having fun single. But it is just better now. :) I am going to be moody as heck once she goes back home after being here for a week and a half.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
11:07 am

lurker I agree the whole process is just wrong and o try to marry with that baggage is a reciepe for holy hell!

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
11:08 am

TiffTaff yeah you called me out i had my wonderland wedding and that is all I was caught up in…..I am telling you me theme is be tru to thy own self and it took all of that for me to look in the mirror and to stop running from me!

great post!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:09 am

Watch the company that you keep or do not keep, they influence you. If you always watch Divorce Court, Cheaters, Jerry Springer etc and wonder why your relationship are the same. Change the channel. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
11:12 am

RANDY….I love having my bed to myself. It’s King size…nobody is snoring in my ear keeping me awake…or hogging the covers! I think I love being on Planet BMW :lol:

PROFESSOR….”Are you ok with committed relationships that just form and you go with the flow?”
Maybe….it make be a control issue. I am not sure. This phobia just gets worst as I get older. Am I going in reverse? :lol:

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
11:12 am

sometimes the biggest risk you can take is not taking a risk…..a thought

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:13 am

Lady J, I did 1 1/2 years on a 5 year sentence, convicted felon. I got out and made something of myself, finished college(while on felony probation), interned. Hired into a great job with a great salary and can roll with the best of them. I know people can change.

Lady J-there is hope & enjoying the ride!

April 14th, 2010
11:16 am

it is good to be a better pperson and to know better and do better!!!! I will shout it daily I am glad I have a second chance @ life and really believe I will remarry a person that loves me unconditionally!!!!!

Way to go Carlito!!!!!! Without our past we couldn’t be who we are today!!!! I will NEVER forget where I came from as I elevate daily!

Melo

April 14th, 2010
11:17 am

Melo, I think the US culture is the real culprit

@Kimmie??

u are right and i think money has “tainted” US culture.

Talking of family being close, I remember one time when my other young brother was still in the US,one of our other younger brothers suggested that he wld want to move to California coz he liked the seemingly free wheeling over there. My brother(the sick one who is home now) raised hell,talking about how my young bro was going to forsake all of us(fam) by going to cali.Ofcourse he was thinking in his african mentality and shackled as it were by the culture,closeness and family camaraderie he grew up knowing and experiencing!
When it comes to marriage, a lot of pple(usa) will not even care to tell their parents that they are married or they will(may),after the fact. Not in my culture!!

I cldnt fathom dating a chic,planning to marry her etc without my folks geting a feel of what kind of person she is,how she relates to my pple and whether they are comfortable with her.

It wldnt happen,as old and educated as I think am! African to the core!! :lol: :lol:

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
11:20 am

@ BMW

ahhhh, you don’t miss having some guy’s butt cheeks up against yours in the morning? ;-)

As much as I DON”T miss my ex-wife, I have to admit having that fanny to kind of “get up against” is lost in my King Size Simmons also. Don’t miss the crap, just the warmth. Unfortunately they come as a package deal, don’t they?

TiffTaff

April 14th, 2010
11:20 am

Carlito- That is on point, you can’t continually watch negative images of relationships and expect to have a positive one for yourself. Like wise you have to see people in relationships resolve conflict in a healthy manner and know that it is natural to not always see eye to eye.

I think people that haven’t seen a lot of healthy relationships (myself included) tend to shy away from jumping the broom too quickly or without a lot of deep thought and soul searching.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:20 am

I did not rape or hurt a woman. You all are safe :)

lurker

April 14th, 2010
11:22 am

Lady J, yep you’re right

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:23 am

TiffTaff, you said it better than I ever could. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
11:28 am

I got out and made something of myself, finished college(while on felony probation), interned.

^5 lito….

Downtown Heffa

April 14th, 2010
11:29 am

WD,
Wow! I’m surprised about the fact that you’re on the fence about marriage when your parents are in fact still together and loving each other after 40 years of marriage. What cause that? You have contradicted my evaluation of a woman being unsure about marriage tied to having been raised in a single parent household (mostly single mothers) or being raised in a two-parent household where the father is controlling and very dominant. I guess back to the drawing board, huh?

kinderbabe--30 days and counting! woohoo!

April 14th, 2010
11:36 am

@carlito…so proud of you!:) that’s awesome that you didn’t let one mistake slow you down.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:37 am

Sassy, I would laugh when I would date and tell that person my past. I do not hide it. Then they look down on me, because of it lol. I have no car note on either car, a low mortgage no kids and no divorces. But yet she is looking at me crazy and ignoring the calls from her “room mate” while she is on a date. She can’t stay out to late because the babysitter has to go out herself tonight. LOL Excuse me, I had an excuse somewhat to not be on par, what is your story? LOL

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
11:38 am

Carlito – You have to WANT to do better in life & I’m glad you got it together! And you & TiffTaff are right about the negetive images. They can jade you.

You have to be careful of the people you hang out with too. Those that don’t share your same values can have a negative impact on you. I remember an ex of mine. Even though his parents were married till death & from all his accounts seemed happy, he ran around with some real players. Some were married but constantly complained about their wives & were unfaithful. His single friends dogged women out. He would tell me about their escapades. It jaded him because he became a committment phobe.

Contrast that to my SO. He is widowed, but most of his friends are married and family men. Those that are single are commited to their girlfriends. I’m sure all is not perfect, but any doggy behavior is kept private. As a result, SO has a positive outlook on women & relationships.

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
11:39 am

If you always watch Divorce Court, Cheaters, Jerry Springer etc and wonder why your relationship are the same. Change the channel. Carlito i really enjoy watching Snapped. should SO be concerned??

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
11:40 am

Carlito and TiffTaff yall are both head on with your assessments!!! I had more to say but it didn’t come through but great points!

Being postive and a better person is the key!

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
11:41 am

cz – I love Snapped too!LOL!!

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
11:43 am

me to kimmie snapped and 48hrs hard evidence and 48hrs mystery….just love crime shows….have a crime degree but never worked with criminals per se…..lol…

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:44 am

kinderbabe, that was that mistake I got caught with, there were many more. But it was an eye opener and I was blessed to just do 1.5. My friend was facing some much bigger things he plead and took some of the charges I was guilty of once his case came up, I ended up going back to court and getting a reduction. We were together when caught but yet and still I was very guilty. That is my friend for life, another reason I am glad I am in the south now. I can visit him in easier. He has about 13 years to go.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:45 am

I have never seen Snapped, what is that about?

Melo

April 14th, 2010
11:45 am

He has about 13 years to go

WOW!!

@Carlito!!

happy for u bro

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:47 am

Melo, just living bro, just living. Life could be a lot worse, for sure. :)

kinderbabe--30 days and counting! woohoo!

April 14th, 2010
11:47 am

@carlito…wow! what a blessing. you used that opportunity of the sentence reduction to your advantage. i know what you mean about mistakes, i have many as well…lol. but when the consequences involve your freedom, that’s pretty huge in my eyes. changing your environment and circumstances after something like that is commendable. keep doing good things!:)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
11:47 am

I would laugh when I would date and tell that person my past. I do not hide it. Then they look down on me, because of it

That’s alright stud muffin that just means they weren’t for you nor you for them…plus had you been with one of those others that looked down on you, you and Julia wouldn’t be together right now. It all happens for a reason and you know what they say about hind-sight….

No worries mon…you’re where you’re supposed to be…but you know that ;)

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
11:50 am

kimmie you hit the nail too people have to want to change…it is a personal choice to do better and most are content with the lives they live….

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:52 am

Ok, Ok enough about me. LOL

Sassy, Julia keeps me in check. I do not know how she does it but she does. She has told me that if I do anything remotely close to what I used to do before I knew here that she would help get me out of jail and once out she would leave me. LOL. She said that before our first breakup, I think that rule still stands since we are back together.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
11:55 am

In my experience, I had my biggest naysayers when I was trying to change. My family stuck with me and pushed me. So did my ex fiance. It was my associates and so called friends that kept reminding me of my wrongs. How does the line in that Kanye West song read? “Those wrongs are the things that helped me write this song” or something like that. LOL. I am glad it happened because I would not be where I am today without it.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru at McDs here in England only has maybe 14 teeth))

April 14th, 2010
11:58 am

@ Carlitto

Great man. When someone makes it work in spite of a deck totally stacked against him, it is great…and a testament to YOU man.

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
11:59 am

or asking you all the time how did you make it…..that got on my nerves…..so glad when sseasons end and begins with folks…..i didn’t think at first i could live without certain people but i do well without them…..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
12:01 pm

CZ – Funny you should mention Flops.. Ok guess what.. Guess what all you bloggers.. I talked to a chick with flops on the other day.. She was hella sexy though and her flops were kinda dare I say it cute.. They werent the standard el cheapo walmart flops and she had on a pair of shorts that made me look past the flops.. Nothing super fitted and nasty but just right and hitting them curves very nicely… Oh dang Im having a flash back.. I’ll let ya’ll know how it went tomorrow after our coffee and Borders date..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:02 pm

Randyt, thanks :)

Lady J, exactly

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
12:03 pm

Julia keeps me in check. I do not know how she does it but she does.

That’s soo cute…sorry if I sound sappy but that is cute. That’s love right there.

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
12:03 pm

yeah LadyJ. my tv stays on ID channel. i have nothing but law enforcement in my fam, so i’ve grown up on all the crime drama and forenics stuff. seriously, SO has nothing to worry about. i’m much happier walking away than going nutso on some guy.

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
12:04 pm

Hey All,

My parents were married til death seperated them. As far as marriage for me, I am kind of in a if its meant to be state of mind. Sure there are lots of times I want that one person to curl up to at the end of the day. Like i said yesterday the ying to my yang, someone who is strong where i am weaker. I don’t have a problem doin the work to make it work.

I almost got married 7 years ago, i’m so thankful for divine intervention. Neither of us were ready, and it wouldn’t have lasted long at all.

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
12:05 pm

I’ll let ya’ll know how it went tomorrow after our coffee and Borders date..

DK – Cool!

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
12:06 pm

YAY!! DK your growth makes us proud! now make sure she has plenty of variety in her footwear repertoire.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
12:07 pm

Ok leather flip flops is as far as I go.. Nothing in flourescent colors or plastic anywhere on them.. I am not compromising on this one cause I hate to see chicks feet barely staying in those things with their toes touching the ground when the walk..

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
12:08 pm

@czBrat I thought I was the only person in america that keeps my channel on ID or WE!!!! I hate reality tv and prime time ain’t been the same since the 90s between tv1 and those two stations that is all I look @….although tv land is rockin’ Bewitched is the BOMB!!!! If I could twinkle my nose! WOOHOO!!! LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
12:11 pm

CZ – Shes a shoenista we are ready talked about it.. She said I caught her running to the store and I said usually I dont talk to chicks in flops.. She laughed and so did I.. She asked me was I serious and I said yes indeed but it was something a lil different about her.. That music came on when she walked in.. Ive been watching you, the way you move your sexy body.. I had to say something..

Melo

April 14th, 2010
12:11 pm

Nothing in flourescent colors or plastic anywhere on them

@IDK??

flourescent colors or plastic im sure,is for the beach!

U sure u saw enough of her, to like her(the sexxy lady) to remember her face and didnt just focus on the knees going down to the feet?? :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
12:16 pm

Melo – I dont like her yet.. I like what I saw but thats nothing.. I want to see what she’s working with upstairs.. She could be Halle but dumb as a box of rocks.. Oh and I looked at all of her.. Slick like but I checked her out way before she got to me.. See my vision is on point even if Im not looking directly at a person.. I saw her from the time the doors opened and that little blast of air blew her hair in her face and she cooly wiped it away with that one finger and kept it moving.. I seent her buddy you better believe that..

Melo

April 14th, 2010
12:24 pm

I want to see what she’s working with upstairs

@@IDK??

thats where its at..thats the engine right there!

hope some good wrks out!

@Luvbug??

I like what u said earlier about ur word being good.I am sure if u meet a bro u ready to commit to,letting him slip the ring on it is the easy part.

When its a natural thang,with no preconceived nor alterior financial motives in the back of the mind,nobody(male or female) has to feel runaway-bride/groom-jitters!

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
12:27 pm

DK, you reminded me of a convo i had with SO this weekend while we were out running errands. he said i caught his eye from across the store and at first he was like “mmmm”, then he realized it was me and he smiled cuz i was with him. i thought that was super sweet, but i just had to point out the initial “mmmm” for some chick he spotted across the store!!! we had a good laugh about it though.

LadyJ i too despise the reality stuff. i stick to ID when i’m alone, and together we watch a lot of natgeo, travel, food network and diy/hgtv.

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
12:32 pm

my writer’s block finally released…my final is open book, and the paper will be turned in on time….there is hope for an A out this class!!!! Thankful is the theme…..getting to the end makes me nervous though….becoming a 100% colser is my theme….never quit or give up on your goals…..my daily vent for me!

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
12:34 pm

INFAMOUS…my pool flops are plastic and bright! :lol: Now what?

Carlito….kudos for NOT being a repeat offender and getting yourself together. No one is perfect. I have a friend who has a business degree but he also has a felony charge and he can’t seem to get a good job. It’s hard for society to give second chances. I’m glad you got one.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:40 pm

BlackMagicWoman, there are systems in place to help him. The knowledge is just not out there. Most companies get incentives for hiring felons, Things such as tax breaks etc, the person is hired and the DOL pays half of his salary for the first year and taxes, the company pays the other half. After he works there in good standing for a year, the company picks up the full pay of salary. Also, there are certain states where a felony from another state does not matter. Hoepfully you will share this information with him. After four years of me not getting in any trouble after my probation ended I was able to get another weapons permit. And my initial charge involved a weapon :) Some people tend to be ashamed when they have to list their criminal history if you have one on a job application. If they want to hire you they will hire you.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:42 pm

UPS hires felons constantly and so does the federal government and the state. If you are completely done with your sentence(probation etc) those two entities can not hold it against you, it is the law.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:43 pm

NFL Fans, Brandon Marshall has been traded to the Dolphins

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:43 pm

And I do not mean “drivers” or warehouse jobs at UPS

Melo

April 14th, 2010
12:47 pm

@Carlito??
UPS??

good benefits,…..hard labor!!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
12:47 pm

BMW – well you better have a fat monkey or a nice badonkey in that swimsuit to get me to forego the plastic flops.. Sorry..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:49 pm

Melo, for some a job is a job. :)

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:57 pm

Infamous, have fun. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
1:00 pm

well you better have a fat monkey

:shock:

Well dayum….

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:03 pm

Among the top three reasons that I want to get married – but really must be certain that I am making the right choice:

I want a life partner.

Sometimes, I get tired of dealing with *life sht* by myself. Every now and then, I just need somebody to help me carry the weight of life.

(From time to time, I wonder what I would do if I had *real* problems.)

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:04 pm

DK “well you better have a fat monkey”

So…when are we going out for OUR Borders & coffee date? :-D

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
1:08 pm

sexycool I feel ya I am over making all the decisions…..it would be nice to have a constant there who doesn’t mind hearing, sharing, and wanting to be apart of your world…..it is coming….there is hope!

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:12 pm

The other two – love and sex.
:)

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:14 pm

Fat monkey’s at Borders. Buying a book will never be the same. I am going to be in there inspecting camel toes now.

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
1:15 pm

SexyC get this … we discussed the #1 thing we each look forward to in marriage. i said i want my husband to take full responsibility for filling up my car and checking the tire pressure so every day when i get up for work i can just jump in and go. SO says he wants his wife to take over all the bill paying so nothing will be paid late again. so we’ve decided those are the things we will NOT do for each other until we give in and say our ‘i do’s’.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:16 pm

Slim laughing at Carlito in his CTO uniform….at the bookstore randomly checking chicks CT’s to see if they fall within regulation measurements… :lol:

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
1:17 pm

the beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change. So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding and love. I’m living it transforming daily…..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:20 pm

Slim, are you within regs? Come here and open wide.

Lady J, that is very true.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:21 pm

The other two – love and sex.

@Scool??

u getting those 2 already NOW, I presume?

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:22 pm

Randy? Butt to butt. That would bother me. I like to spoon…minus the breath heat frizzing my hair in the back.

Willie Dynamite (Happily Happy)

April 14th, 2010
1:23 pm

Carlito – Sounds like you have a very good friend. Keep his books fat and visit often. Attaboy!!!

DK – I’m proud of you bruh. I just know in yo mind you saying ‘I betnot catch this chick in flops again’.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:24 pm

DK – LOL. I remember you posting something about a strong shoe game, but a flip flop restriction? That’s too funny. Good luck with the Flip Flop Lady.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:25 pm

Willie, when I tell you he has to worry about nothing ever. He does not, ever.

Luvbug, Butt to butt, that would be weird. LOL

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:26 pm

Melo – Funny you should mention money. The only times I’ve reconsidered marriage were when I struggled in my career…lighter load when you’re not doing it alone.

Somehow I process that contracts are for money (or goods and services rendered) and love is on the honor systems.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:28 pm

Luv – I dont like flip flops.. I rather see a chick in a nice pair of running shoes than flip flops.. I dunno flip flops are lazy shoes for me..

Im learning about the leather ones though that dont look so flimsy..

Kym

April 14th, 2010
1:30 pm

Are we stil on topic?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:30 pm

Slim – We can go anywhere you want Babe. I know you a little so you get a little more than coffee and curious george.. You already know I like slim goodies with “features” and a chunky monkey would be considered a feature..

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:30 pm

DK – I have on flipflops today. LOL!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:32 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:33 pm

Sessy – You bet not have on no flimsy a$$ glow in the dark flip flops..

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
1:35 pm

Carlito…I did not know that info. I wonder if he does. I will ask him. He has been talking about moving here. I told him don’t bother! :lol: I may move to Miami! The beach beckons!

INFAMOUS…the monkey is normal…but the badonkey is not! :lol:

I am NOT wear my good leather sandles to the pool. Flops rock for me in that case. I don’t care what happens to them. Now stop being a baby and hand me my lime green flops! :lol:

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
1:35 pm

UPS??

good benefits,…..hard labor!!

Melo – I’ve never been afraid of hard work and I like a man that will work hard too. Plus, I’d rather trade hard work for good benefits vs hard work & no benefits!

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:36 pm

Nope. Black leather.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:37 pm

DK – Well being that you aren’t a fan of flip flops, I guess I can’t wear my Old Navy dolla flops that have cat teeth marks in them either huh?

LOL @ glow in the dark flops. lolololol It’s funny because flip flops are pretty much all my cousin wears during the summer time…It’s just so convenient.

BLOG CENSUS:

Ladies, how many of you does this apply to: the second toe is longer than the big toe??

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:38 pm

BlackMagicWoman, we are moving to Florida in the next few years as well.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:39 pm

BMW – Before I get some lime flops.. You got walk barefooted first so I can see it that Badonk got the right jingle in its jam..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:41 pm

Sessy – Well I guess you aight then.. They better be nice.

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
1:41 pm

Slim Coo-Coo … Ladies, how many of you does this apply to: the second toe is longer than the big toe??

Mine are slightly shorter… I vaguely remember the second toe being longer meant you were mean?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:42 pm

Ya’ll Im still struggling with the flop thing, but I guess I see to many cute babes have fallen for the flop craze..

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:42 pm

and love is on the honor systems.

@Luvbug!

u got that right!

when u have a partner who says,’honey,its ok,we be aaight”,when ur chips are down,then u know u got real unconditional luv!

Many of us are caught up in the rat race for momney and materialism that we forsake whats really good and of real value..luv.

In sickness and health,for poor or gold…we be humping tgether baby! thats my mo……

(as long as Dianne Sawyer dont make a move on me tho……thats a lofty and very idealistic potential sin tho,in all fairness to Queen!) :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:43 pm

Slim – No ma’am no old navy cat nip flops..

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:43 pm

DK – I guess flops are lazy. They make your feet do all the work…but… I would question a woman who won’t show the toes. You don’t know what you’re getting when those stilettos or sneakers come off. :lol:

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:44 pm

LL411 – I heard it meant that the women with the long 2nd toe ruled over their men

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:44 pm

I heard that if you sweat on your nose or top lip that you were evil…at least that’s what my dad used to tell me

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:46 pm

“You don’t know what you’re getting when those stilettos or sneakers come off.”

Luvbug – Boomerang written all over it….pulling them covers back like, Heyal Naw….a baracuda done slipped in the bed with me. :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:49 pm

no old navy cat nip flops

@DK I never thought about it like that but now it makes sense. Not sure what it is about those flops but no pair left out of the closet is safe around my kitty. They look like termites got a hold of them. lol

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
1:50 pm

lmabo @ you slim!!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:50 pm

Luv – Actually Im a fan of cute shoes.. I love to see women in cute shoes. I have a major shoe fetish.. I buy shoes as often as possible.. I have bought 4 pairs of the same shoe cause I liked them so much.. Im funked up on the shoes so my babe gotta do that.. Its a requirement.. I’ll see them toes eventually flops aint the end all be all for toe showing.. My personal fave would be the strappy stilletto sandal.. Not stripperish but classic sexy styllee.. And ya dang gone straps need not be all the way up ya thigh.. Just neatly around the ankle.. Please.. And if you leaning in them thangs or your toes off the front.. Come on with the jokes..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:51 pm

What does it mean when a lady has a mustache or some hair over her lip? And why do some women refuse to shave their legs, what does that mean?

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:55 pm

and I like a man that will work hard too

@Kimmie!

u dont look to me like u the type that wld go for the hard at work in the sun type! Princessnik sounded more like thats her pref..i dont know for sho. :lol: :lol:

u sound like u prefer the corporate type.

Besides, im not sure if some rough,auto mechanic/plumber type hands will feel good on ur soft skin and butt! :lol: :lol: ull have to invest in good lotion brands coz they bound to tear ur skin eve now and then with their rough hands! :lol: :lol:

On the other hand, u defntely will be a 5 with that type of guy coz after a hard day at work,they like to eat a lot and i know u rock in the kitchen…..

hmmmmmm,so its kinda of a mixed bag there! :lol:

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:59 pm

I heard that if you sweat on your nose or top lip that you were evil

@Slimone??

I dont know about evil but the sight of a sweaty nose on a male or female makes me kinda eewwwwww! much like the salivating sides of the mouf thang! :lol: i get grossed out by seemingly “small” stuff really!

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

Slim- LOL

DK – Not the toes off the front…What about that “manicured”, lavishly designed long toe nail on the big toe (wolf claw)?

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

a lady has a mustache or some hair over her lip
@Carlito??

hair on a woman’s chin!??

anger management issues!

Run :evil:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

I like a woman who is slightly perspiring and then when the sweat beads up on her breast or her abs a little bit. That is sexy to me.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
2:03 pm

What in the world is wolf claw?

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
2:03 pm

DK you are a kutie for dressing your babes….lol too funny!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
2:05 pm

Extremely long toe nails are GROSS….and I most definitely don’t like men with long FANGA nails….makes me think of chester chester child molester or a pimp or something.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:05 pm

thick fingers on a woman……thats a NO NO….please swap them with the maintenance man! :lol:

how u gon wrap ur fingers around melo jnr, in a feminine manner and ready to come down on the prince and give him some lip service when u fingers look like they belong to the Incredible Hulks’ hand??

:lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
2:06 pm

Luv – No claws for me Babe just a nice lil french.. I dont even need all the designs.

Lady J – Naw I dont dress em.. They gotta dress themselves.. They gotta be on pernt when they get to the table or the cant sit down..

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:08 pm

baracuda done slipped in the bed with me.

@Slimone!!??

u stoopid!!

who wants to go to bed with Shaquille Oneal’s twin sister??
BIG long feet..hell naw!

:lol: :lol:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:08 pm

u dont look to me like u the type that wld go for the hard at work in the sun type! Princessnik sounded more like thats her pref..i dont know for sho.

@ Melo, i am all for a man who doesn’t mind the hard work, it doesnt necessarily have to be in the sun LOL, I don’t mind hard work so I need a man that has the same mindset.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
2:08 pm

DK meaning you just like what you like…..you do have a preference with clothes and shoes and it is cute….that is my point….lol

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
2:10 pm

Hey PrincessNik what is poppin chica!!!!???!!!

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
2:11 pm

Carlito – I think a lot of men like the sweat beads on the chest. I feel most dirty when I’m sweating it out in the gym with the ponytail, but men will sure try to sneak a peek when I lean down. What is the reasoning?

Wolf Claw?? I was thinking long toe nail when I mentioned the wolf claw. Some women sport a long, decorated toe nail on their big toe. It’s horrible!!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:12 pm

Hey Lady J,

Just trying to find some balance :)

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
2:15 pm

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:17 pm

anybody have suggestions for an energy booster?

kinderbabe--30 days and counting! woohoo!

April 14th, 2010
2:19 pm

@princessnik…five hour energy is pretty good.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:19 pm

anybody have suggestions for an energy booster?

PrincessNik??

yours or his??

If urs is that why u feelin’ the butterflies??

u going in hard today?!! for the first time?? :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
2:21 pm

Luvbug, that is very sexy and tasty. I like pony tail on each side of the head.

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
2:21 pm

Melo – Yous a nut! I just can’t take a lazy man, cause I’m not lazy. My dad worked out in the hot sun, on the railroad, to pay for med school. I’ve done yardwork, thrown newspapers, bagged groceries to make ends meet until I “made it”. I like a man that can use his hands and is not afraid to get dirty!

Now I am a finance manager and my SO is a lawyer. We’ve paid our dues, but if push came to shove, neither one of us is above going out and doing what we have to to pay those bills. We’ll hustle! Or even just stuff around the house. SO shole look good with his muscles all sweaty after working in the yard or on the house!LOL!! I can’t stand a man that’s too cute to work!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:22 pm

No, MELO LOL not that kind of energy. I just need more energy in general, to keep up with everything i have on my plate.

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
2:23 pm

I don’t do designs on nails at all. In fact, I don’t even wear color on my fingernails. And other than french tips on my toenails, I tend to keep it basic when it comes to all that.

Basic mani/pedi with no frills works fine for me.

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:23 pm

KB, i’ve tried five hour energy its pretty cool for a quick fix

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:24 pm

@ SexyC

Basic mani/pedi with no frills works fine for me

yep same here, most men i’ve discussed it with like it that way anyway, they say there is something sexy about the simplicity of it.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
2:25 pm

I don’t do designs on nails at all.<<<<<<<<<<——— me etiher and they work my nerves keep asking what design do you want….I want my spring pink and to keep it moving! LOL @ you sexycool

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
2:26 pm

SCool – My fingernails are thin & super-sensitive to most nail polish, so I just keep them trim & clean. As for my toes, I don’t do designs, but I go very bold with the color, especially in the summer! When I’ve been in the sun awhile, a bold gold/orange color or a lime neon green look great on my toes!

Getting me a pedi this evening!

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
2:27 pm

Exactly, PK.

But now I do *HATE* to break a nail. Because for some reason, mine always seem to break damn near halfway down my nail bed and it takes two months for them to grow back out to *cute* length.

Speaking of which – let me do some pre-emptive trimming *right now*.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
2:28 pm

So who does the nails with the full alphabet on them and the rhinestones? I saw a woman at the mall, whoa.

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
2:29 pm

Carlito – That sounds ghetto. And I know my abc’s so don’t need my nails to remind me!LOL!!!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:30 pm

So who does the nails with the full alphabet on them and the rhinestones? I saw a woman at the mall, whoa.

WTH!!! :shock:

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:31 pm

To be honest,ive spotted the designs on toes u speak of and I tend to see them on what i wld consider to be hoochie,ghetto type chics!

(well,u know,after u see the design,u knida scope the lady up and down to check her) :roll:

I may be wrong!

:lol: :lol:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:34 pm

I can’t stand to see a women with a long thick toenail and some intricate design on her big toe, that matches the design on her extra-long fingernails and then have on some sandals with her heel hanging off the back!

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
2:37 pm

The world is a ghetto!!!!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
2:41 pm

Basic mani/pedi with no frills works fine for me

(SLim now trying to hide her big toe flower designs)

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:42 pm

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
2:43 pm

SlimGoody – you stoopid. You make me guffaw ER’DAY!!!!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
2:44 pm

PrincessNik – I normally just do plain color or the french pedi…but when she asked I was like Ummmmmmmm, yeah sure…Let’s try it. :-D
My fingernails naturally grow long but I never put color polish on them…just a clear coat every now and then.

Women, yall ever dated a dude that was REALLY into feet & toes…I mean, REALLY REALLY into toes?

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
2:46 pm

Slim, describe really? I mean I have had a foot job before, but I don’t have a foot fetish

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:50 pm

Slim, 95% of the time its a french pedi for me, and when i was getting my nails done (acrylic overlay) i would only put color on the tips (liek a french but color instead of white) I just don’t get into a lot of color with nails.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
2:51 pm

I mean I have had a foot job before

Wha?….

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
2:53 pm

yes slim and he works @ grady…..lol he was the very 1st person I dated that love feet and toes….lol……a bit weird too….lol but men like what they like!

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:53 pm

foot job

hmmmmmm

what’s the point of this? just curious

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
2:55 pm

hmmm. kinda miss giving the foot job. we tend to sit on the same side of the table now so :(

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:55 pm

Evening time….around 7.30 pm!!

some lady staying on the south side, sitting by the edge of her bed,nail remover in hand and slowly rubbing off the zebra and anaconda nail design on her 2 Big toes, that read, ‘Guys like BJs” ,because the MIA blog said its a baaaaad bad idea!

Priceless!! :lol:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:55 pm

I don’t think i could deal with a foot fetish guy cause if his lips head towards my toes, HOUSTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM!

I need a guy that’s not grossed out by feet, but that aint trying to lick em like a chicken bone either. Touching and massaging is acceptable.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
2:56 pm

Carlito, well I dated a dude who was really into toes. I believe one of the first times we went out he asked to see what the toes looked like. He stated he likes to suck on them, rub them and things of that nature :shock: Foot job? Um, how did that turn out for you? If I were a dude, I wouldn’t want to risk the possibility of a snagged toe nail hitting up against my skin, if you know what I mean. I’m sorry, but I’m just not into feet like that

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
2:57 pm

let me rephrase that if his OPEN MOUTH heads towards my toes, kisses i can handle but saliva UNH UNHHHHH

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:04 pm

slim that guy use to do his own pedicures and he did an awesome job!!!! LOL

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:04 pm

nothing like a man doing your feet!!!!! lol

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
3:06 pm

nothing like a man doing your feet!!!!! lol

I had an ex who used to paint my toenails

he also used to grease my scalp and massage it :)

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
3:07 pm

I let a guy suck my toes once… nah, I didn’t like it.

It’s just something not quite right about that LOL :)

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:07 pm

he also used to grease my scalp and massage it

@PrincessNik??

why did u ex him?

Professor

April 14th, 2010
3:09 pm

…stepping in for a minute.

I love a good foot massage, however I am not a fan of dudes that want to slurp on my toes and ask to see my feet every five minutes. I almost kicked this one dude in the mouth we were watching a movie and he eased down off the sofa next to my feet on the floor…my silly tail still watching the movie feel something wet on my toes JUMPED. It was him straight turnoff.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
3:12 pm

As much as I like shoes Im not lickin on ya toes.. I like to see cute feet in shoes but not in my mouth.. A Monkey fer sure but not the toes.. I like pretty monkeys better than I like pretty feet..

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 14th, 2010
3:12 pm

jus watched *Want Chilli Wants*. love it! oh, and let me add . . . the b*tchh is stupid. lol. what she don’t want, i’ll take. smh at her and her must have retarded list.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:12 pm

pk those were the best along with helping me take my braids out….a caring man is a good one!

yep professor a good massage takes you to higher heights!

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:13 pm

I let a guy suck my toes once… nah, I didn’t like it.

@eghhhh

some of these practices sound like sexual liberation gon wild.

sucking female toes?? sounds more like desperate sexual bondage just so u can score! much like vagi lick or vice versa.

The only reason i lick queen( :lol: justification in in my mind) im paying homage to the birth of my kids and for her not suffocation them.

Otherwise i wldnt do it! :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:13 pm

“but men like what they like!”

Lady J – it’s funny you said that because the guy told me “Don’t knock what I like”…I just felt a little weirded out about it so I told him, it’ll have to be a work in progress. lol

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
3:13 pm

Melo we were young, we basically matured in different directions

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:14 pm

dk lmbao…. a man licking my toesis rare for me but when it happens it feels good too! LOL

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:15 pm

Side note: This convo reminds me of the time I saw that comedian Don “DC” Curry on BET and said he ain’t doin feet….even if you just washed em and dipped em in Clorox he ain’t doin it…too funny.

Okay carry on…….

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:15 pm

they do slim and as i embrace my womanhood more and more I am becoming more open to what he likes along to him satisfying my needs to….sexuality is cool…..a bit guarded sometimes but the right person can open you up

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
3:16 pm

she said Open you up

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:16 pm

Foot job, can be had under a table at dinner. Or if she is on the other side of the couch. Sometimes thru clothes sometimes without. As far as licking toes I do not set out just to like toes but if I am down there I might as well. I will lick everything else on her so why not the toes also?

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
3:17 pm

SlimCoo-Coo… because the guy told me “Don’t knock what I like”…

Now you know the nosey question is going to be asked :) What did he like?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:17 pm

DK what makes a monkey pretty?

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:17 pm

I can’t have a woman with messed up toes or feet. Melo, stop looking at Julia’s feet. LOL

Professor

April 14th, 2010
3:17 pm

I think a man polishing the toes is sexy…I like a man helping take the braids out and the greasing of the scalp.

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
3:18 pm

a bit guarded sometimes but the right person can open you up

literally :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:19 pm

PrincessNik – I went to my cousins hair dresser last Friday and she has a guy that does the shampooing…Boyyyyyy, he massaged my head so good, the hair on my arms stood up and I had chills all over. Never had a hair washing like that before…and buddy is Straight! What are the odds of that. lololol

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
3:19 pm

I think a man polishing the toes is sexy

love that scene from “something new” when Simon baker is polishing Sanaa Lathan’s toenails ahhhhh

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:19 pm

I am down there I might as well. I will lick everything else on her so why not the toes also?

Carlito…. Je t’aime… ;)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
3:20 pm

Carlito – No toe sucking for me.. And I aint sticking my tongue in her butt.. Call it what ya want but I’ll ket the scream machine take up any slack I might miss in the licking dept.. And if you want me to lick ya toes.. Nope Im just gonna throttle you with the scream machine aka The Mindbender AKA the Goliath AKA The Superman that…

kinderbabe--30 days and counting! woohoo!

April 14th, 2010
3:20 pm

you all put the hump in “humpday”…lol.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:21 pm

Melo, stop looking at Julia’s feet!

:lol: :lol:

u are a very confident man,sending Julia my way!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:23 pm

LL411 – he wanted to suck my toes. It’s been done but i felt a little awkward. But let my friends tell it, all he did was suck my fingers since I have long finger toes. LOLOL! To add to that, i’m very ticklish, so if I don’t have some sort of warning, any toe sucker may end up getting their mouth scarred up by a toenail as a reflex. :lol:

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:24 pm

but the right person can open you up

@Lady J??

say(type) that again,I like that sound coming from u! :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:25 pm

Sassy, lol :)

Infamous, I am just a freak nasty nasty freak. She gets the deluxe superdy duperdy awesome package. LOL

Melo, I sure am. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
3:25 pm

Sassy – The way it hangs a little.. The way the hair is cut (even if its a little bushy its neat bushy.. When its open the.. The lips are just right and it aint all gaping open.. Its just sitting there all nice and purdy.. I cant describe it but I know it when I see it.. Oh but most of all it smells absolutely divine.. Youo know honestly I like to look at it in the undies as opposed to out.. I like to let my imagination run wild as she stands there in boy shorts(My Favs) and just look at it.. Smush it together and tickle it.. Oh yeah.. Somebody gonna get it again today..

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:25 pm

kb it is getting hot in here!!!!! LOL

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:25 pm

romance comes in all forms and I love a romantic….

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:25 pm

DK – “I aint sticking my tongue in her butt”

But who ever really admits to ever licking a dookie chute?? :lol:

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:26 pm

melo go take a shower and a nap! Hot mess! LOL

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:27 pm

Guy’s should not be deep throating toes. Just nibble them and hit the spots inbetween them. Don’t deepthroat her fingers either, that is gay..just kiss on them and hit the spots in between them as well.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:27 pm

Slim, I will admit to licking it. Why lie?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:28 pm

Smush it together and tickle it.

!!!!!!!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:29 pm

DK – I always wanted to know what guys thought was pretty about a coodie. Guess now I know. For a while I was in denial about how phat the catty was, but there is no hiding it…especially when I get turned on. With the undies on, dude will look from across the room and immediately that My humps, my hump, my lovely lady lump..comes to mind. Yep, that’s all me! :mrgreen:

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
3:31 pm

Slim, nothing like those massaging shampoos at the hair salon!!!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:33 pm

I do not like a clean shaven woman. I like a little hair left. Also I like to eat it from the back. Or pinch those lips together and then suck on her pearl until it is showing itself then pinch a little more firmly.

I am going to get in trouble again. :)

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:33 pm

And speaking on the pubscaping, I sort of like a guy without any bush. :-D

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:33 pm

Slim, I need you to send me a CT pic, for scientific purposes only. LOL

PrincessNik.....feelin the butterflies

April 14th, 2010
3:34 pm

as she stands there in boy shorts(My Favs)

seems boyshorts are the fave with most guys why is that?

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:34 pm

For a while I was in denial about how phat the catty was

@SlimCoo-Coo??

I really dont know how some female can be in denial coz with some cooties, we can tell its pretty phat,even when they are wearing pants on.

Now imagine her and her dangly oozing stuff,after u rub ur mouf,lips and moustache softly on her labia!

Blown up like a bull frog!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:34 pm

Carlito & DK Yall gonna make me miss my tax appointment tonight and go straight to Starship. (still haven’t replaced my trustee bullet :-( )

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

carlito stop!!!!! LMBAO!!!!! bikini wax are it!!!!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

Slim, you have jumped the shark. What guy is shaving everything off? Shave the balls in the summer, very gently I might add…but the whole area heck no.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

For a while I was in denial about how phat the catty was, but there is no hiding it

Not me…as a matter of fact I….never mind cause I was really about to over share…mea culpa :oops:

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

But let my friends tell it, all he did was suck my fingers since I have long finger toes. LOLOL!

Now that’s funny!

My s/o is more turned on by me walking around in a t-shirt and panties, smelling like whatever I just cooked him for dinner. I’m always trying and run an shower and he’s like come here girl and let me eat you up!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:35 pm

rrriiiibbbiiitt :lol:

mqew

April 14th, 2010
3:36 pm

Marriage is great! It’s a job though. So just like a job, you got to make sure you want to be there, for whatever reason, but you HAVE to WANT to be there! If not, you’ll be miserable.

Also, I don’t think it’s for everyone. Just like I don’t think parenting isn’t for everyone, neither is marriage.

My thoughts…. :-)

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:37 pm

Carlito – you’ll be surprised how many dudes are going Hairless these days. I don’t know if they just get clippers happy or what but ballz definitely feel much softer w/o any hair. LOL!!!!!!! j/k bnr

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:37 pm

Wait did my last post sound ghey…I was talking bout my phat catty not Slim’s….

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:38 pm

Lady J, I am going to need you to send me a CT pic as well. You and slim do not need to have your faces in the photo. Just a CT shot, in some boy shorts, thongs or bare. In the name of science.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:38 pm

(still haven’t replaced my trustee bullet

I’ve never tried one.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:39 pm

Let me rephrase…i wasn’t in denial…i was more so embarrassed but seems like you all like da phatty

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:39 pm

Sassy I need a CT pic of yours too.

Ladies: giordano.carlito72@gmail.com

Slim, I keep my balls smoothly shaved and just trim the rest. I am cool, easy like sunday morning.

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:41 pm

carlito I ain’t sending ya jack lmao @ you…..lol….men are funny!!!! LOL

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:41 pm

Everytime I go to the bathroom to urinate I am surprised at how fat my…………..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:41 pm

Also I like to eat it from the back.

!!!!!!!!

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
3:42 pm

NOW LOOK HERE CARLITO….I am gonna need you to stop! Stop it I say! :lol: Got a sista havin’ dirty thoughts and nobody to do them with! Well there is that new guy…nah! I will consult B.O.B when I get home! :lol:

INFAMOUS….you have a desire for a Pretty Kitty! :lol:

Slim…my second toe is a bit longer and I do sweat above my top lip and nose. I guess I am one mean domineering chick! :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:42 pm

Sassy My ex’s mom called me Saturday asking me what the thing was called…She was like, what is that thing again? a Bullseye? LOL! So guess she wants to try it out too.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:42 pm

Lady J is it fat, can I see it from the back?

No new messages yet. Weak!!!!!!

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
3:42 pm

good bye!!!!!! I am laughing my ass off at how the day ended on here!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:43 pm

Sassy I need a CT pic of yours too.

There’s always room for j-e-l-l-o….

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:43 pm

BlackMagicWoman, I need a CT pic from you as well.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:43 pm

BlackMagic….you’re a natural Triple threat then..LOL!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:43 pm

Lady J, Lady J!!!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:44 pm

Triple threat? All three holes? I only like two of them :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:45 pm

what is that thing again? a Bullseye?

GURL you got folks comin over here to ckeck on me…..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:45 pm

Ever had a lady ask to shave your balls? Always answer no, to be safe. You know how a woman will do something then act like it’s a mistake.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 14th, 2010
3:45 pm

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:47 pm

She was like, what is that thing again? a Bullseye?

@Slimone??

where did she get the idea from..u?? when u were with ex…..?

did u fill up the bull’eye with some form of fake sperm to squirt ur insides when u get to high O??

:lol: :lol:

dont worry,if u dont tell me Leggs will?? :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
3:47 pm

Slim – You dont need a bullet.. You got me Babe..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:49 pm

Carlito you missed it….

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
3:49 pm

melo She’s from the islands so stuff like fake slongs, bullets etc is really nothing…yeah she got the idea from me. I’ll never forget the time when the ex was a kid, that he said he found her toy in a drawer in her room and he was all over the house playing with it. LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Of course he had no idea what it was. He was probably singing into it like it was a mic…i just hope he never put it in his mouth. :shock:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:49 pm

THANK YOU!!!!!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:50 pm

Beautiful, go ahead and send yours as well

Sassy, what did I miss?

I do not know anyone’s real name nor would I ever say but thank you to whomever sent me that email :)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
3:50 pm

Carlito – I like to Hoist that thang up on my shoulders with her pinned up against the wall… And just regular ole missionary buffetting to get to the spots that need to be touched..

Lord Velonese

April 14th, 2010
3:53 pm

“Marriage is totally worth it!”

Lies, maybe for a woman. I wouldn’t do it even if it were a law.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:55 pm

I think marriage would be worth it if females in america stop being non chalant about sex.A home is not a home without a woman!

Of all the places i have visted and lived,america is the only coountry where:

females will get with a guy,phluck him,break up and brag,”yeah, i phlucked him” then step away cooly,as they keep it moving!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:56 pm

Infamous, ahh I see you have a shaolin style. I am more of a buddhist, you know like Tiger Woods. LMAO.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
3:57 pm

Melo, can we have that part of the discussion tomorrow? I am collecting CT pics :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
3:58 pm

what did I miss?

J-e-l-l-o…..know how it wiggles n jiggles…sort of like a pitcher’s mound;)

I like to Hoist that thang up on my shoulders with her pinned up against the wall…

:shock:

Hercules…Hercules…Hercules

Melo

April 14th, 2010
3:59 pm

@Carlito!

share them(CTs) with ur boy!

in fact, i can do the full body match for u….courtesy my massive pictorial databse

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:00 pm

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
4:00 pm

great googly moogly! no idea what’s been going on in here, but just popped in to say that Angel Ramos (featured in My Style) is scrumdidlyumptious!!! :oops:

(what the he11 are ya’ll up to anyway???)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
4:02 pm

Ooooookay so ummm gotta go now….read y’all tomorrow!!!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:03 pm

Melo

April 14th, 2010
4:03 pm

he said he found her toy in a drawer in her room and he was all over the house playing with

@Slimone??

uall nasty,talking about ur parents like that! :lol:

I can never do it,except for this one time when my bro and I (caught) heard my mum and dad doing it(just the sounds) and my dad was moarning! he hehe he hehe!! :lol:

But thats a secret tween me and my bro and Now u!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
4:04 pm

LOLOLOL

I bet…next time you see that commercial I know you’re gonna laugh ;)

Adios..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
4:06 pm

You wrong Carlito..but dude looked proud as hell didn’t he?

Okay now for the last time…bye y’all.

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
4:06 pm

czB – I thought dude looked kinda geigh – pretty, but geigh. At least in the suits. In casual wear, not so much geigh-ness.

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
4:10 pm

SexyC …. apparently i have a weakness for the softer type. remember the shemar moore convo? LOL!!!!!

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
4:10 pm

CARLITO is the Italian “Melo”. Nasty…just NASTY! :shock: :lol:

INFAMOUS….you get a time out! :lol: Nasty….just NASTY!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:14 pm

BlackMagicWoman, all in the name of science. I will say though I have just seen the most beautiful woman.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:16 pm

Africa- Italian-American Connection otherwise known as the AIAC

Melo, Carlito and Infamous.

We have group rates ladies. :)

Not being able to walk for a few days is normal :)

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
4:21 pm

Africa- Italian-American Connection otherwise known as the AIAC

Melo, Carlito and Infamous.

We have group rates ladies.

Not being able to walk for a few days is normal

:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

OH Lawd…I just fainted! :lol:

Melo

April 14th, 2010
4:30 pm

@@BlackMagicWoman??

when u going for a swim??

I wanna swing by! u can leave me the GPS coordinates here!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
4:30 pm

Carlito – i hope you don’t mean we have to take all 3 of yall on at the same time. :shock:

Timeless

April 14th, 2010
4:30 pm

RandyT (@9:58). Agreed! It’s funny how people can make things work once you engrain in their minds that there is no other option. It’s when people not only know, but are actuvely encouraged by media, peers, society in general, there are options that people start to seek out those “other” options.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
4:35 pm

I hope you don’t mean we have to take all 3 of yall on at the same time

@Slimone??

cmeone Slim!!

why u talk and ask as if u have the stamina for a triple combo?? :lol: :lol:

we know u deep,but u aint got the stamina for 3 stallions and wont last long!

:lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:35 pm

Slim, it is however you want it.
3 at a time
Tag team
or one on one

Infamous, has a thing for flip flops, so do not wear them.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
4:37 pm

So who does the nails with the full alphabet on them and the rhinestones?

LOL!!!! I’m basic…same as the rest. Clear or french is enough.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
4:38 pm

melo you are so right…not going to fall for trying to prove you wrong. :lol:

Timeless

April 14th, 2010
4:38 pm

Totally agree with Melo (10:55) and kimmie (11:03). American culture emphasizes too much individualism and an I-don’t-care philosophy to an extent that is detrimental to any type of lasting relationship, romantic or otherwise.

DreamsMaterialize

April 14th, 2010
4:39 pm

stumbing in all late

Sup ya’ll. I see it’s on and crackin.

Wait did my last post sound ghey…I was talking bout my phat catty not Slim’s
It got me excited either way. ;-)

Melo

April 14th, 2010
4:40 pm

Timeless is gon hard! :lol:

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
4:46 pm

Angel Ramos (featured in My Style)

Looks ok, just not my type really. I like a man, mans!! Yeah, and the thing that came to mind was ghey.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
4:49 pm

Man, yall got me crackin up over here.

Beautiful – I saw it (Chilli’s Show) yesterday. I’m not going to hate, but I will say that my impression of her has changed a little bit.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

April 14th, 2010
4:51 pm

Well dayum I see I came in just in time to catch the fireworks!! :shock:

Ya’ll be easy, I was just popping in for a sec! lol

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:56 pm

Nothing to see here, move along. :)

DreamsMaterialize

April 14th, 2010
4:57 pm

Guess ya’ll got the bootleg “freaknik” started early. haha

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
4:58 pm

Did you all see how her facial expression changed when buddy said he eats pork? That right there was —– wack of her…what does him eating pork have to do with her or how he can treat her….that’s why she’s SINGLE

Anyway….holla at yall peeps later. I’m OUT

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
5:02 pm

im cracking myself up now. i read slim’s last post kind fast and missed the “tr” in ‘treat’. that changed the whole post!!!

ciao all!

Cupied at Rhodes Hall 2/14/2010

April 14th, 2010
6:01 pm

I am a product of a step-parent relationship. My bio mother nevered married my father but when I was 12, I moved to Atlanta with my father and my step-mother which whom raised me. I don’t refer to my step-mom as step so from this point on I will talking about her shen I say mom. I saw my mom do everything for my father. I mean she was a good ass woman and my father was a HOE… I’m a daddys girl but I ain’t no fool. My daddy cheated SEVERAL times on my mother and children outside there marriage. My mom stayed by his side for 23 yrs until she just could’t take the hurt anymore. They have been divorced for 6yrs now and my dad is still the same. Not wanting to commit and alone. My mother however, is enjoying being single. This is the first time she has dated for a long period of time.

I however just recently married. I am 28 yrs old and never in a million did I ever expect to meet my husband. This man is the most sweetestt person I have ever met in my life. Not only is he handsome, but he charming, sexy, and funny… I never thought I would get marrried and as I deal with issue from my childhood i.e like will my husband cheat as my dad, I pray and remember that my husband is not my dad. He is a good man and he deserves the benefit of the doubt. I won’t live off my parents memories for they will only cloud mine. My husband and I have a great foundations even when I PMS, and could kill him right where he stands. Its life and marriage is not easy. The whole fairy tale and ride into the sunset is for the books cuz that shit ain’t true.

staying in love is like a 9-5 job only thing is it;s 24/7… You have to stay creative because we as human get bored. But, I choose to walk this rocky path of life with my sweet husband becuz i truely believes he loves me and because he know that I got his back no matter what. It’s funny how history repeats itself. When my father met my step-mom she had two kids prior (boy n girl) and when I met my husband he has two kids (boy n girl) and they are the same age as when my dad met my step-mom. 4/6yrs. So maybe my purpose is to complete what my dad started and do it right. Just Maybe…

-Lammie

Cupied at Rhodes Hall 2/14/2010

April 14th, 2010
6:02 pm

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it's worth it

April 14th, 2010
6:04 pm

married in ‘97, struggled through infertility, law school, awful in-laws (mine) and I still wouldn’t trade him for any of the past boyfriends/etc. Get married cause you want to not cause you have to. If he passed tomorrow, I would never marry again, because when you have had the best, no one can compare. I would rather die of the proverbial broken heart. Love, in whatever form works for you, does exist. It is wonderful and trying. If you try, it is wonderful.
xo

FUGA

April 14th, 2010
8:06 pm

Unfortunately I believe that marriage is obsolete, at least in the United States. I wish I did not believe this.
There is a saying – “Most women spend their whole lives looking for Mr. Right, and get married in between”. I believe that advertising lawyers are the reason marriage is not valued the way it was when your parents were young. And I do appreciate that your parents have a great marriage. It is sweet. I hope everyone who reads this has the same kind of wonderful marriage.

George Bush

April 14th, 2010
8:07 pm

What do the lonely do at Christmas ? LOL

Victoria

April 14th, 2010
8:36 pm

My parents divorced when I was a teenager after years of not getting along. I had no role models for a good marriage, and I wasn’t even sure I wanted to get married. But as I grew up, I decided I was willing to give it a try, but only with someone who was really committed to the idea of making a solid marriage. This year, my husband and I have been married thirty years. We have a stable, loving relationship and are the best of friends. I’m here to say that it is possible!