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Marriage is totally worth it!

My Mother came into town Sunday to attend a nursing conference in the city.  I was basically her driver/hotel concierge/hostess for the last two days and I am exhausted! I enjoyed having her around but my poor Father was clearly miserable without his wife.

Dad constantly called to hear her voice, remind her to take her medication, and any other random excuse he thought up to dial her number.  It’s endearing and sweet to see their romance continue all these years!  When I saw them light up when they reunited  (after 48 whole hours!), I got all choked up and misty. It was like a sappy The Notebook moment right there in the parking lot.

I thought, “You know? I kind of want that!”  No,  seriously! I’ve been ambivalent about marriage and commitment in the past, but watching my parents yesterday made me think that marriage is totally worth it.  I would love to have a man still stand the sight of me, let alone love me, after over 40 years of marriage!

Do you think marriage and commitment is worth all the challenges that are sure to come?

How do you think your parent’s relationship shaped your perception about love, commitment, and relationships?

What was your first memory of love and affection in your home?

367 comments Add your comment

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
4:38 pm

melo you are so right…not going to fall for trying to prove you wrong. :lol:

Timeless

April 14th, 2010
4:38 pm

Totally agree with Melo (10:55) and kimmie (11:03). American culture emphasizes too much individualism and an I-don’t-care philosophy to an extent that is detrimental to any type of lasting relationship, romantic or otherwise.

DreamsMaterialize

April 14th, 2010
4:39 pm

stumbing in all late

Sup ya’ll. I see it’s on and crackin.

Wait did my last post sound ghey…I was talking bout my phat catty not Slim’s
It got me excited either way. ;-)

Melo

April 14th, 2010
4:40 pm

Timeless is gon hard! :lol:

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
4:46 pm

Angel Ramos (featured in My Style)

Looks ok, just not my type really. I like a man, mans!! Yeah, and the thing that came to mind was ghey.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
4:49 pm

Man, yall got me crackin up over here.

Beautiful – I saw it (Chilli’s Show) yesterday. I’m not going to hate, but I will say that my impression of her has changed a little bit.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

April 14th, 2010
4:51 pm

Well dayum I see I came in just in time to catch the fireworks!! :shock:

Ya’ll be easy, I was just popping in for a sec! lol

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
4:56 pm

Nothing to see here, move along. :)

DreamsMaterialize

April 14th, 2010
4:57 pm

Guess ya’ll got the bootleg “freaknik” started early. haha

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
4:58 pm

Did you all see how her facial expression changed when buddy said he eats pork? That right there was —– wack of her…what does him eating pork have to do with her or how he can treat her….that’s why she’s SINGLE

Anyway….holla at yall peeps later. I’m OUT

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
5:02 pm

im cracking myself up now. i read slim’s last post kind fast and missed the “tr” in ‘treat’. that changed the whole post!!!

ciao all!

Cupied at Rhodes Hall 2/14/2010

April 14th, 2010
6:01 pm

I am a product of a step-parent relationship. My bio mother nevered married my father but when I was 12, I moved to Atlanta with my father and my step-mother which whom raised me. I don’t refer to my step-mom as step so from this point on I will talking about her shen I say mom. I saw my mom do everything for my father. I mean she was a good ass woman and my father was a HOE… I’m a daddys girl but I ain’t no fool. My daddy cheated SEVERAL times on my mother and children outside there marriage. My mom stayed by his side for 23 yrs until she just could’t take the hurt anymore. They have been divorced for 6yrs now and my dad is still the same. Not wanting to commit and alone. My mother however, is enjoying being single. This is the first time she has dated for a long period of time.

I however just recently married. I am 28 yrs old and never in a million did I ever expect to meet my husband. This man is the most sweetestt person I have ever met in my life. Not only is he handsome, but he charming, sexy, and funny… I never thought I would get marrried and as I deal with issue from my childhood i.e like will my husband cheat as my dad, I pray and remember that my husband is not my dad. He is a good man and he deserves the benefit of the doubt. I won’t live off my parents memories for they will only cloud mine. My husband and I have a great foundations even when I PMS, and could kill him right where he stands. Its life and marriage is not easy. The whole fairy tale and ride into the sunset is for the books cuz that shit ain’t true.

staying in love is like a 9-5 job only thing is it;s 24/7… You have to stay creative because we as human get bored. But, I choose to walk this rocky path of life with my sweet husband becuz i truely believes he loves me and because he know that I got his back no matter what. It’s funny how history repeats itself. When my father met my step-mom she had two kids prior (boy n girl) and when I met my husband he has two kids (boy n girl) and they are the same age as when my dad met my step-mom. 4/6yrs. So maybe my purpose is to complete what my dad started and do it right. Just Maybe…

-Lammie

Cupied at Rhodes Hall 2/14/2010

April 14th, 2010
6:02 pm

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it's worth it

April 14th, 2010
6:04 pm

married in ‘97, struggled through infertility, law school, awful in-laws (mine) and I still wouldn’t trade him for any of the past boyfriends/etc. Get married cause you want to not cause you have to. If he passed tomorrow, I would never marry again, because when you have had the best, no one can compare. I would rather die of the proverbial broken heart. Love, in whatever form works for you, does exist. It is wonderful and trying. If you try, it is wonderful.
xo

FUGA

April 14th, 2010
8:06 pm

Unfortunately I believe that marriage is obsolete, at least in the United States. I wish I did not believe this.
There is a saying – “Most women spend their whole lives looking for Mr. Right, and get married in between”. I believe that advertising lawyers are the reason marriage is not valued the way it was when your parents were young. And I do appreciate that your parents have a great marriage. It is sweet. I hope everyone who reads this has the same kind of wonderful marriage.

George Bush

April 14th, 2010
8:07 pm

What do the lonely do at Christmas ? LOL

Victoria

April 14th, 2010
8:36 pm

My parents divorced when I was a teenager after years of not getting along. I had no role models for a good marriage, and I wasn’t even sure I wanted to get married. But as I grew up, I decided I was willing to give it a try, but only with someone who was really committed to the idea of making a solid marriage. This year, my husband and I have been married thirty years. We have a stable, loving relationship and are the best of friends. I’m here to say that it is possible!