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Marriage is totally worth it!

My Mother came into town Sunday to attend a nursing conference in the city.  I was basically her driver/hotel concierge/hostess for the last two days and I am exhausted! I enjoyed having her around but my poor Father was clearly miserable without his wife.

Dad constantly called to hear her voice, remind her to take her medication, and any other random excuse he thought up to dial her number.  It’s endearing and sweet to see their romance continue all these years!  When I saw them light up when they reunited  (after 48 whole hours!), I got all choked up and misty. It was like a sappy The Notebook moment right there in the parking lot.

I thought, “You know? I kind of want that!”  No,  seriously! I’ve been ambivalent about marriage and commitment in the past, but watching my parents yesterday made me think that marriage is totally worth it.  I would love to have a man still stand the sight of me, let alone love me, after over 40 years of marriage!

Do you think marriage and commitment is worth all the challenges that are sure to come?

How do you think your parent’s relationship shaped your perception about love, commitment, and relationships?

What was your first memory of love and affection in your home?

367 comments Add your comment

Melo

April 14th, 2010
12:47 pm

@Carlito??
UPS??

good benefits,…..hard labor!!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
12:47 pm

BMW – well you better have a fat monkey or a nice badonkey in that swimsuit to get me to forego the plastic flops.. Sorry..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:49 pm

Melo, for some a job is a job. :)

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
12:57 pm

Infamous, have fun. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 14th, 2010
1:00 pm

well you better have a fat monkey

:shock:

Well dayum….

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:03 pm

Among the top three reasons that I want to get married – but really must be certain that I am making the right choice:

I want a life partner.

Sometimes, I get tired of dealing with *life sht* by myself. Every now and then, I just need somebody to help me carry the weight of life.

(From time to time, I wonder what I would do if I had *real* problems.)

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:04 pm

DK “well you better have a fat monkey”

So…when are we going out for OUR Borders & coffee date? :-D

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
1:08 pm

sexycool I feel ya I am over making all the decisions…..it would be nice to have a constant there who doesn’t mind hearing, sharing, and wanting to be apart of your world…..it is coming….there is hope!

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:12 pm

The other two – love and sex.
:)

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:14 pm

Fat monkey’s at Borders. Buying a book will never be the same. I am going to be in there inspecting camel toes now.

czBrat

April 14th, 2010
1:15 pm

SexyC get this … we discussed the #1 thing we each look forward to in marriage. i said i want my husband to take full responsibility for filling up my car and checking the tire pressure so every day when i get up for work i can just jump in and go. SO says he wants his wife to take over all the bill paying so nothing will be paid late again. so we’ve decided those are the things we will NOT do for each other until we give in and say our ‘i do’s’.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:16 pm

Slim laughing at Carlito in his CTO uniform….at the bookstore randomly checking chicks CT’s to see if they fall within regulation measurements… :lol:

Lady J-Sunshine

April 14th, 2010
1:17 pm

the beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change. So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding and love. I’m living it transforming daily…..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:20 pm

Slim, are you within regs? Come here and open wide.

Lady J, that is very true.

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:21 pm

The other two – love and sex.

@Scool??

u getting those 2 already NOW, I presume?

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:22 pm

Randy? Butt to butt. That would bother me. I like to spoon…minus the breath heat frizzing my hair in the back.

Willie Dynamite (Happily Happy)

April 14th, 2010
1:23 pm

Carlito – Sounds like you have a very good friend. Keep his books fat and visit often. Attaboy!!!

DK – I’m proud of you bruh. I just know in yo mind you saying ‘I betnot catch this chick in flops again’.

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:24 pm

DK – LOL. I remember you posting something about a strong shoe game, but a flip flop restriction? That’s too funny. Good luck with the Flip Flop Lady.

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:25 pm

Willie, when I tell you he has to worry about nothing ever. He does not, ever.

Luvbug, Butt to butt, that would be weird. LOL

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:26 pm

Melo – Funny you should mention money. The only times I’ve reconsidered marriage were when I struggled in my career…lighter load when you’re not doing it alone.

Somehow I process that contracts are for money (or goods and services rendered) and love is on the honor systems.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:28 pm

Luv – I dont like flip flops.. I rather see a chick in a nice pair of running shoes than flip flops.. I dunno flip flops are lazy shoes for me..

Im learning about the leather ones though that dont look so flimsy..

Kym

April 14th, 2010
1:30 pm

Are we stil on topic?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:30 pm

Slim – We can go anywhere you want Babe. I know you a little so you get a little more than coffee and curious george.. You already know I like slim goodies with “features” and a chunky monkey would be considered a feature..

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:30 pm

DK – I have on flipflops today. LOL!

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:32 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:33 pm

Sessy – You bet not have on no flimsy a$$ glow in the dark flip flops..

BlackMagicWoman

April 14th, 2010
1:35 pm

Carlito…I did not know that info. I wonder if he does. I will ask him. He has been talking about moving here. I told him don’t bother! :lol: I may move to Miami! The beach beckons!

INFAMOUS…the monkey is normal…but the badonkey is not! :lol:

I am NOT wear my good leather sandles to the pool. Flops rock for me in that case. I don’t care what happens to them. Now stop being a baby and hand me my lime green flops! :lol:

kimmie

April 14th, 2010
1:35 pm

UPS??

good benefits,…..hard labor!!

Melo – I’ve never been afraid of hard work and I like a man that will work hard too. Plus, I’d rather trade hard work for good benefits vs hard work & no benefits!

SexyCool

April 14th, 2010
1:36 pm

Nope. Black leather.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:37 pm

DK – Well being that you aren’t a fan of flip flops, I guess I can’t wear my Old Navy dolla flops that have cat teeth marks in them either huh?

LOL @ glow in the dark flops. lolololol It’s funny because flip flops are pretty much all my cousin wears during the summer time…It’s just so convenient.

BLOG CENSUS:

Ladies, how many of you does this apply to: the second toe is longer than the big toe??

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:38 pm

BlackMagicWoman, we are moving to Florida in the next few years as well.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:39 pm

BMW – Before I get some lime flops.. You got walk barefooted first so I can see it that Badonk got the right jingle in its jam..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:41 pm

Sessy – Well I guess you aight then.. They better be nice.

LL411... Smiling On The Inside Too!

April 14th, 2010
1:41 pm

Slim Coo-Coo … Ladies, how many of you does this apply to: the second toe is longer than the big toe??

Mine are slightly shorter… I vaguely remember the second toe being longer meant you were mean?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:42 pm

Ya’ll Im still struggling with the flop thing, but I guess I see to many cute babes have fallen for the flop craze..

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:42 pm

and love is on the honor systems.

@Luvbug!

u got that right!

when u have a partner who says,’honey,its ok,we be aaight”,when ur chips are down,then u know u got real unconditional luv!

Many of us are caught up in the rat race for momney and materialism that we forsake whats really good and of real value..luv.

In sickness and health,for poor or gold…we be humping tgether baby! thats my mo……

(as long as Dianne Sawyer dont make a move on me tho……thats a lofty and very idealistic potential sin tho,in all fairness to Queen!) :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:43 pm

Slim – No ma’am no old navy cat nip flops..

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
1:43 pm

DK – I guess flops are lazy. They make your feet do all the work…but… I would question a woman who won’t show the toes. You don’t know what you’re getting when those stilettos or sneakers come off. :lol:

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:44 pm

LL411 – I heard it meant that the women with the long 2nd toe ruled over their men

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:44 pm

I heard that if you sweat on your nose or top lip that you were evil…at least that’s what my dad used to tell me

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:46 pm

“You don’t know what you’re getting when those stilettos or sneakers come off.”

Luvbug – Boomerang written all over it….pulling them covers back like, Heyal Naw….a baracuda done slipped in the bed with me. :lol:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 14th, 2010
1:49 pm

no old navy cat nip flops

@DK I never thought about it like that but now it makes sense. Not sure what it is about those flops but no pair left out of the closet is safe around my kitty. They look like termites got a hold of them. lol

Lady J-I love music, any kind of music

April 14th, 2010
1:50 pm

lmabo @ you slim!!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 14th, 2010
1:50 pm

Luv – Actually Im a fan of cute shoes.. I love to see women in cute shoes. I have a major shoe fetish.. I buy shoes as often as possible.. I have bought 4 pairs of the same shoe cause I liked them so much.. Im funked up on the shoes so my babe gotta do that.. Its a requirement.. I’ll see them toes eventually flops aint the end all be all for toe showing.. My personal fave would be the strappy stilletto sandal.. Not stripperish but classic sexy styllee.. And ya dang gone straps need not be all the way up ya thigh.. Just neatly around the ankle.. Please.. And if you leaning in them thangs or your toes off the front.. Come on with the jokes..

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
1:51 pm

What does it mean when a lady has a mustache or some hair over her lip? And why do some women refuse to shave their legs, what does that mean?

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:55 pm

and I like a man that will work hard too

@Kimmie!

u dont look to me like u the type that wld go for the hard at work in the sun type! Princessnik sounded more like thats her pref..i dont know for sho. :lol: :lol:

u sound like u prefer the corporate type.

Besides, im not sure if some rough,auto mechanic/plumber type hands will feel good on ur soft skin and butt! :lol: :lol: ull have to invest in good lotion brands coz they bound to tear ur skin eve now and then with their rough hands! :lol: :lol:

On the other hand, u defntely will be a 5 with that type of guy coz after a hard day at work,they like to eat a lot and i know u rock in the kitchen…..

hmmmmmm,so its kinda of a mixed bag there! :lol:

Melo

April 14th, 2010
1:59 pm

I heard that if you sweat on your nose or top lip that you were evil

@Slimone??

I dont know about evil but the sight of a sweaty nose on a male or female makes me kinda eewwwwww! much like the salivating sides of the mouf thang! :lol: i get grossed out by seemingly “small” stuff really!

Luvbug

April 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

Slim- LOL

DK – Not the toes off the front…What about that “manicured”, lavishly designed long toe nail on the big toe (wolf claw)?

Melo

April 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

a lady has a mustache or some hair over her lip
@Carlito??

hair on a woman’s chin!??

anger management issues!

Run :evil:

Carlito

April 14th, 2010
2:00 pm

I like a woman who is slightly perspiring and then when the sweat beads up on her breast or her abs a little bit. That is sexy to me.