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Nice girls finish last too?

We hear all the time that nice guys finish last, but does the same ring true for super nice girls? Do they get glanced over as well?  Yes, super nice girls are out there, men.

I find it so fascinating (and by fascinating, I mean annoying) when I am super nice to some guys, they try to take my kindness for weakness.  Then I have to show the feisty side when I am challenged.When this happens, why does this often turn the guy on more? Is it because he’s lame and should be left alone?

I don’t like acting like a witch, but I always learn a lot about a guy when I’m in one of those modes.  It’s not about that “cute when you’re mad” excuse, either.  Challenging women attract a particular type of man. The question is, would I want that kind of man for my own?

Do you think that when you date someone new, you go through a phase where you are seeing what kind of boundaries the person has?

Is it true that nice girls finish last? How do men interpret a nice girl’s behavior? Do they test her to see how nice she really is?

Ladies, do you find that being nice on the dating scene works best for you? Do you think being harsh with men is a defense tool women use as emotional protection?  Does that actually work?

Do nice girls finish last?

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Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
8:30 am

Do you think that when you date someone new, you go through a phase where you are seeing what kind of boundaries the person has? Of course….both parties are exploring each other bc in the start the butterfly feeling is there and both parties are just nicer and softer but as time moves one the real self shows…..you may get more profanity more stubborn behavior even more ain’t social gestures so yes you poke around with different ideas and see what is the pushing point to get a yay, nay, or leave me the hell alone bc I am not interested….dating is so funny and particular and compatibly is so important so beyond the giddy feeling in the start it is important to see where you stand with boundaries…..

Is it true that nice girls finish last? How do men interpret a nice girl’s behavior? Do they test her to see how nice she really is? hmmmm nice girl…..being a leo I wouldn’t consider my nice super nice….I am nice and friendly but I will question the status and with questions comes testing boundaries……honesty is so important and the real truth can hurt meaning the reality of what’s really being perused….communication is needed so with being respectful one must demand in a nice humble way to express oneself to see where it is going I think…..part of the game is a test in my opinion as to what you want how are you willing to get it and what you will and won’t do to get it…….it is what it is

Ladies, do you find that being nice on the dating scene works best for you? Do you think being harsh with men is a defense tool women use as emotional protection? Does that actually work? I just be myself….I am me I don’t bite my tongue but I am tactful….I have tone down being aggressive but I am not a push over…whatever I am doing I am doing bc I want to not bc someone has my mind and I am to nice or naive to see what is up….you only play the fool once I think…….

Good Morning to this terrific tuesday ahead!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 13th, 2010
8:53 am

Good morning

My sister and cousin were just discussing this topic this past weekend. My cousin said she was going to start not being so nice…I don’t know what it is with having to show your azz or display characteristics of a Beeyah beeyah in order to be taken seriously and not taken advantage of. Is it that same thing like women who go for bad boys? I feel like i’m a pretty laid back, nice, cool chick and that is my character…how God made me. But I can’t necessarily say it always works FOR me by being so nice.

Kym

April 13th, 2010
8:55 am

Good Morning All,
Well since I am not a guy I can explain why guys response to the Wicked witch behavior rather than Glenda the good witch but I would love to hear from a few of the gentlemen on how they interpet nice behavior. I have my own theories..that jokers(i mean) gentlemen only go as far as you let them..and maybe there is some genetic marker that only allows them to react in a positive manner after you have cuss them out from here to hell and back. But I could be wrong. Enlighten me fellows..why do the nice girls get picked over in favor of the woman who could possible maim you in your sleep?

Kym

April 13th, 2010
8:56 am

sorry that should read “can’t explain why guys”..

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:01 am

hey kym gelnda the good witch it cute…..lol back in the day I called my alter ego suzanne and she wasn’t nice at all….those days are over…lol….I have founded when I changed my ways of being down right nasty and ugly trying to make a point nothing but eveil behavior came….lol sense then glenda as you refered to has kicked in….lol suzanne is still there but it will take everything to pull her out….she is too much energy and it ain’t that serious with dating…..you either want me or you don’t….lol

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:01 am

meant is cute not “it”

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:06 am

and you are right kym that goes both ways people willonly do what you allow bottom line….nice, nasty, or ugly you are in control of you and your reaction to every action!

It is good to be a better person! EXHALE!!!!!! LOL

brother john

April 13th, 2010
9:07 am

you women need to get off your high horses and realize that it is YOUR attitude – and the extra 25 lbs you’re toting around – that drives men away not all the stuff you spend hours a day complaining about on this blog

men want sex until they want marriage

if you’re the one putting out when the marriage need kicks in, you get a ring

deal with it

miztw♥cents...if ya nasty

April 13th, 2010
9:08 am

It was a ranom thought, but I threw this thought out the other day. I was listening to and processing the actual words to Luda’s “My Chickls Bad” and it ocurred to me that dudes like to call women out, saying we all want bad boys or are all candidates for dycktimatization, but we have much evidence of them choosing the attitudinal, physically fightin’ in public and emasculating their men at home & in front of comapny types. But never acknowledge that their selection processes could possibly revamped. A sweet disposition be damned.

But when you make too much sense in life and often on here it gets no airplay so I’m glad I already know this much is true….

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:11 am

so early brother john ok then why are your smaller size chics single and complaining about the samethings and they swear they ain’t having sex well the ones I encounter…..why is weight an issue and if it is why even entertain those who are heavier…geesh…..what can you work on to be a better brother john???

Kym

April 13th, 2010
9:12 am

@LadyJ I named my alter ego..Twanda(I got it from Fried Green Tomatoes)and ever so often she appears..normally when I get sick and tired of being sick and tired. But over the past few years I have learned to pick my battles. I know I have changed because I don’t think about going upside folks heads half as much as I use to. LMAO!!! As for reacting to other folks..well they can’t get your goat if they don’t know where its tied!

kinderbabe--31 days and counting! woohoo!

April 13th, 2010
9:16 am

i’ll just be reading today. have a good one!:)

Kym

April 13th, 2010
9:16 am

Off-Topic..Let me see if I follow this..Dogwood Festival this weekend..Freaknic..possible(if the Mayor doesn’t have every street blocked off) this weekend..hmmm yeah I am not coming anywhere near downtown. Hey can someone get me a dogwood festival poster..suitable for framing of course?

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
9:17 am

Morning
I love nice girls, and all the women I’ve ever dated were nice…in the beginning. lol I’m an easy-going guy, and I like my women the same. It’s a downer to be with a women who has a negative disposition. Who you choose to date is a reflection of you and your preferrences. So, if you’re dating no-so-nice people, then it might mean that you’re projecting not-so-nice to others (despite how nice YOU think you are). Nice girls win the marathon with me. Where ya’ll at? lol

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:17 am

normally when I get sick and tired of being sick and tired. Kym you said a mouth full!!!!!!

My ex husband and as we shacked saw suzanne but in my dating world only once has suzanne reared her face and she was nothing like what my ex experienced….I truly killed her off bc she was going to kill me!!!! Those alter egos are a mess!!!!

Ok got ot say this one more time normally when I get sick and tired of being sick and tired. PREACH sistah!!!!!!

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:18 am

kb me too in a sec this won’t be an all day blog for me either….i just don’t get some folk they so quick to tell the next person what they need to do and they ish stank too!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
9:22 am

Nice “women/girls” finish first for the man that deserves her. If a woman is playing nice then goes to her natural mean when pushed, means that she is not a “nice” girl. Guys value a nice decent woman who is not beleaguered by a bad attitude. Just because she is nice does not mean she has no spine or is getting ran over. Actually it is just the opposite, she knows how to maintain with love and peace as fuel. It’s basic man and woman desires, the most simple of things are the most elegantly sophisticated. And any person who tests someone, just to see how they would react in a situation is playing games and if busted deserves to be left alone. IMO

kinderbabe--31 days and counting! woohoo!

April 13th, 2010
9:23 am

@LadyJ, i feel you. those who usually give the most advice have the most problems. lip service is easy. living and doing it is a whole ‘nother matter. i don’t pay it any mind, chile! lol

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 13th, 2010
9:24 am

Hmm, i try to be balanced, i am a nice sweet person, but i’m also stern and don’t take any mess. My ex nicknamed my alter ego LOL, he’d be like uh oh Nikki has shown up.

brother john

April 13th, 2010
9:24 am

try improving your grammar ladies

@ms_jones74

April 13th, 2010
9:25 am

Just like there is a difference between a nice guy and a simp, there is a difference between a nice girl and a doormat. There’s a book (okay there are a lot of books) along the premise of Why Men Marry B*ches that talks about a woman who can be kind hearted and generous, open and loving, but is her own woman, does not let herself get walked over and commands respect.

There are a lot of women who command (demand) respect but aren’t the kindest people. I think some translate that “fire” to the bedroom as well, so perhaps they assume that a mild mannered woman in public is also mild mannered elsewhere.

Speaking as a “good” girl, I have met great men who have plainly said that they are looking for someone worldly and more exciting. I don’t know if that’s last, or just reality. Either way, at least they were upfront.

Lady J-Charge it to the game like Visa

April 13th, 2010
9:26 am

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
9:30 am

Some interesting views this morning. Great Topic :) The defenses are up and the salvos are in the air. Brace for impact!

Kym

April 13th, 2010
9:31 am

@Carlito..we all have a limit. No one is going to keep putting up with someone else mess simply because they are nice. How many times have we all heard the story of someone consider so nice pushed to the brink of doing something so unbelievable. The pastor’s wife in Tennessee comes to mind. From all accounts the couple had the ideal marriage, kids, happy blah blah. And then..one day the police are called to the home because the wife took a shotgun and blew his head off. Everyone has a limit. Most guys I know say when they are pushed they know they have to get away..what’s that Chris Rock says, “I may not hit a woman but I will shake the *** out of her!” We all have our break point.

Chelle

April 13th, 2010
9:36 am

Morning – have a great day everyone :)

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
9:38 am

Kym, what about the stories that do not get the news coverage? You hit the nail on the head “putting up with someone’s mess” That take me back to the first sentence I typed. “Nice “women/girls” finish first for the man that deserves her”….for the man that deserves her. That man that deserves her would not be putting her in mess, he would protect and provide” I am a firm believer that a man is responsible for all of his woman’s actions and attitudes when in a relationship. Provide the right environment and you will have a peaceful relationship. Even the strongest stallions can be tamed and the most mild-mannered can turn into she-devils. Depends on the man IMO

IDK...part deuce

April 13th, 2010
9:40 am

good topic WD! I really wonder this myself too…seems some guys really like the whole ‘major attitude having, go getter no matter WHAT’ type females. I’ve seen it. Why it works…IDK. Fellas??? Do nice guys finish…last/first/at all?

mqew

April 13th, 2010
9:43 am

Ummmm Nice girl? Wow! How about regular chic. Meaning someone that knows how to handle themselves in difficult situations. One who will just walk away instead of doing something ignant like cussin, fussing, yelling, and screaming. First of all, please believe that if I’m around someone who wants/likes/does push me to those points…. I want NOTHING to do with them. I am ANTI-DRAMA so if my calm cool demeanor is boring you to the point where you think it’s necessary to test/push me, Keep It the Hell Moving!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
9:50 am

mqew, your post is the definitoion of a “nice girl” to most men :)

Are the other guys going to chime in and say do they prefer a nice girl or an attitude girl?

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 13th, 2010
9:50 am

MQEW i agree with you I am anti drama also and even in moments of being upset i’m not going to yell and scream but I am going to break it down for the other person. Now that i’m older and more comfortable with and confident in myself, i rarely have a s/o or possible s/o trying to test or push me. This is because it’s easily noticeable that i don’t put up with BS.

Peadawg

April 13th, 2010
9:53 am

I guess it depends on the guy. Personally, I like a nice girl who I can take home to Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner w/ the family. But she’s a fireball in bed. Kinda like that old rap song, a lady in the street but a freak in the bed. That’s my ideal girl.

M. (pronouced M dot)

April 13th, 2010
9:53 am

Good day.

I think there are nice girls out here but they still are women and have the ability to do women things. They can still be manipulative, play games, etc. Just dont get it twisted because she is nice. They only have one trump card and arent afraid to use it.

“Do you think that when you date someone new, you go through a phase where you are seeing what kind of boundaries the person has?”

Guys really dont do this but women love to do this. A guy just wants to know what kind of woman he is dealing with and handle her accordingly. Really, we can find all this out by just being observant and listening. Women love to test guys. Women are like kids. You have to save them from themselves. They want to see how far they can go with you, if they can flake on you, if you can talk to him any kind of way. The way guys do this is to nip any test in the bud. Sometimes women will try to see what they can get away with by saying a slick comment, being combativtive, or disrepsectful in a passive aggressive way. We just have to make sure to check any disrespect at the door and this will avoid alot of problems.

Peadawg

April 13th, 2010
9:55 am

“Are the other guys going to chime in and say do they prefer a nice girl or an attitude girl?”

It depends on who the attitude is pointed towards. Girls can still be sassy and nice at the same time.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
9:56 am

I mentioned my brother’s girlfriend yesterday. It seems as if that’s the kind of image she likes to display (being a badass) but I don’t know her enough to say that’s definitely what it is. She was telling me a story where they were at a club and my brother was walking back from the restroom and his path was blocked by a much older woman who told him, “Man, you look good!” He said thanks and kept it moving. Well, my brother’s girl asked him loudly “What she say” and he told her and she then said loudly to the old lady, “Yes he does look good and he’s my man”. Well, the older lady didn’t give a crap I guess and the next time my brother passed her blocked his path again and did the HM M MMM! To him. Brother’s girl next, comment was “Please know that I will beat a bytch ass from 0- 80 years old!”

My point, okay the 0-80 is funny, but REALLY? Ain’t no way. She had nothing but pride about that whole situation. Laughing, joking with him about next time she just gonna beat him up cause now he’s been warned yada yada yada :-|

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 13th, 2010
9:56 am

Hello all from England…but Friday Paris if the plane doesn’t go down. Can’t wait.

@WD I think all is answered in your statement: “The question is, would I want that kind of man for my own?” Different people are drawn to different women/men. Some men like the challenge of superbiotch. Some men like the meek wallflower types that they can push around (limp dykkked aholes, IMHO, but to each his own). Some like nice ladies with sophistication. One size does not fit all. So the answer is WHAT DO YOU WANT??? because he “aint” changing for you, ya dummy. He is what he is. So what do you want and be totally honest because you will be carrying that baggage for a long time perhaps…and any scars, real or emotional, that come with it.?

I personally do not like a “superwoman”. I like a woman with a strong personality and not afraid to tell me exactly what she thinks…but not with an attitude. She should have a brain, and a soft, vulnerable side. I do not like clinging vines who have never had an original thought themselves…and I certainly don’t want someone that walks ahead of me…or behind me either. I want a partner. but that is only me.

JH

April 13th, 2010
9:59 am

There aren’t any nice girls everyone has an agenda these days.

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 13th, 2010
10:00 am

I want a partner. but that is only me

@ RandyT, its not just you. I want the ying to my yang. Someone who is strong in areas where I am weaker and vice versa.

BigDaddy

April 13th, 2010
10:01 am

Bad girls really do get the Bad Guys! Amazed at how even in the 21st Century many ladies still choose athletic but educationally challenged men over fit and educated men. Look at Jesse James as a great example. I doubt anyone would mistake him for a man of liberal based education. Yet, he winds up with a terrific wife and then people actually wonder why the divorce rates are so high.

Just a stupid shallow question to begin with.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 13th, 2010
10:01 am

In discussing which type of women men prefer, I also think that women need to ask this, “which kind of gals do they “hit and run” and which do they keep”?

Might not be the same answer.

lighteyes1276

April 13th, 2010
10:02 am

I am a nice girl and I got my prince charming. Yes I was tried in previous relationships and my kindness was taken for granted. Along came someone who appreciated my kindness and a year later he is still grateful and express it everyday! Yaaaaaay to my prince charming!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
10:04 am

Morning folks!!

Nice chics dont finish last,they finish first.However..and ladies,get this..bad chics..the Trina aggressive,loud types are exciting for the young and mobile guys…..in the beginning.

After all the sexx has been enjoyed,the fun is gone and its time to settle down,ofcourse most guys,unless they are stuck because the hit it raw and produced a Rugrat,warranting mummy-bad-chic and kid combo attention,they will want to look for that nice chic to settle down with.

I would recommend any nice chic out there not be discouraged by what the smoke and mirrors suggest.Bad chics neva win!

They are good for the young horny guys esp for the adrenalin,the sexx and the partying but their attractiveness fades like some cheap jean pants.

Nice wins at last!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
10:06 am

they hit it raw

mqew

April 13th, 2010
10:07 am

Carlito – I don’t get why it’s deemed nice. To me, that’s just being a level-headed person (shrug).

PNik – Exactly!

MDot – What’s our only trump card again? And I would think that a chic is NOT “nice” if they’re being manipulative and playing games. Furthermore – you’re dating some kids dude and it sounds like you need some more dating years, cause you’re generalizing. Women are NOT kids, and women don’t need to be saved etc…. SMDHATN

IDK...part deuce

April 13th, 2010
10:11 am

thumbs up Melo

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
10:12 am

Yes, nice girls finish last…I had a convo abt this about a month ago. I asked a past boyfriend why he married the nasty bytch (now divorced) over me. He said I was too nice for him back then. WTF’ever! Don’t try to come back to me. My DNA still spells NICE.

HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO:

POPPAG
DEMI
JAMOCA….

I haven't seen one...

April 13th, 2010
10:12 am

There are no nice girls anymore, thats just the society we live in. I don’t think I’ve met a girl with values or morals in ten years. It has really been that long… All the girls now just want to go out and sleep with the biggest dirtbag they can find and then cry about it when said dirtbag proves that he is one. And thats on you ladies, so think about that.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
10:12 am

Please know that I will beat a bytch ass from 0- 80 years old!”

Mqew??

how old is ur brother and this chic??

Melo

April 13th, 2010
10:15 am

Leggs??

biatches do play a good game smetimnes and do get men in some instances…but thats the rare occassions we are talking about..as in ur example.

Nobody wants to sign on to foolishness for lyfe!

Happy brthday Demi/Jamoca/Poppa!!

Leggs,whats my birthday?? :lol:

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 13th, 2010
10:19 am

@ Leggs you did the right thing for the right reasons. What “I haven’t seen one…” said is too true…and people take home exactly what they paid for. You obviously did not lose a thing with that loser.

M. (pronouced M dot)

April 13th, 2010
10:20 am

@mqew

The only trump card that you have is your package.

When I said women are like kids, I meant in the aspect that they try to test their boundaries and to see how far they can go and what they can get away with.

Of course I am generalizing, because its a general audience. You sound like it struck a nerve. Do you see yourself in the response?

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 13th, 2010
10:20 am

Good post Melo.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 13th, 2010
10:20 am

Good morning! ♥

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
10:21 am

mqew

April 13th, 2010
10:23 am

Melo – EXACTLY! They old as hell! Or not really old, but definitely to old for THAT mess! He’s 40, so she’s probably around the same age. (I’m going to ask to Friend her on FB to see if she has her HS graduation year)

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
10:23 am

@mqew ~ I already don’t like your brother’s gf. Classless, but did laugh at the 0-80.

I have a dilemna and need help. Will wait until 12:01 before changing the topic.

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
10:28 am

Morning All!

Leggs, to echo what Randyt said, you most certainly did not “lose” a thing to that guy!

I’ve seen plenty men do themselves a grave disservice by shunning the “nice” girl for the spicy one. Then later, they are looking crazy and bent after dealing with all the spicy drama. You got EXACTLY what you asked for. Just like a lot of dudes claim they want the “natural woman” who does not wear makeup or perm her hair, but chase after the chick with 2 tons of makeup & weave on. Same when women go for the “bad boys”. We all get what we ask for.

Yes, I’ve had my kindness taken for stupidity and weakness plenty of times. I’ve had my limits tested severely by some men. These men actually helped me weed them out as the game-players they were. I am not about to change who I am – a naturally kind person. But please don’t push or underestimate me. You do so at your own expense.

How about we all strive to be BALANCED? Kind to our fellow man, but strong and confident and no pushover?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
10:30 am

Girls can still be sassy and nice at the same time.

Yes we sure can..it’s a fine line,though.

“which kind of gals do they “hit and run” and which do they keep”?…Might not be the same answer.

It might and then again it might not….every situation isn’t the same and the unfair part about it all is the generalizing,blanket statements being kicked around thus far. We can’t apply what we (dis)like to everyone else’s situation or look down our noses at what we may think is (un)acceptable, or lady like or whatever. At the end of the day it’s up to us to choose WTF we want/like or what works best for us. You’ve got some guys that do marry the jump off and there are some that marry the nice girl so it’s a mixed bag.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
10:30 am

I think of myself as a nice girl with *b!tch tendencies.*

If you keep showing me your nice guy, I will keep showing you my nice girl.

If you act an ass, the b!tch in me will show you the door and keep stepping.

Life is too short to deal with a$$holes.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
10:31 am

MDot – I just always see ignance in yours hon :-)

Your audience – women on this blog, so no, not that general.

It seems I need to repeat myself. Just get some years dude, that’s all…..

Peadawg

April 13th, 2010
10:34 am

Well said SexyCool @ 10:30.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
10:34 am

I meant in the aspect that they try to test their boundaries and to see how far they can go and what they can get away with.

And men don’t….seriously?…

Even as children we seek boundaries so why wouldn’t that also apply to a relationship…maybe the analogy was a little skewed by the use of the word kids….I’m jus’ sayin’….

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
10:35 am

Leggs – spill it. I don’t wanna wait.

And in other SCool news – the Atlanta Track Club cashed my check for the Peachtree Road Race. I AM SO IN THERE, BABY!!! Gotta get serious about my training. I plan on coming in under two hours.

Peadawg

April 13th, 2010
10:35 am

“Yes we sure can..it’s a fine line,though.”

A little sass is kinda sexy sometimes. But too much gets annoying.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
10:37 am

If you act an ass, the b!tch in me will show you the door and keep stepping….Life is too short to deal with a$$holes.

OKAY?!

Plain and simple, no need for drama just break.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
10:40 am

But too much gets annoying.

Yeah it’s definitely not for everybody….some want it but can’t handle it when they do get it and some take it in stride like it’s nothing and aren’t even phased in the least. ;)

kinderbabe--31 days and counting! woohoo!!

April 13th, 2010
10:42 am

@sexycool…congrats! i too will be there.:) this is my 2nd peachtree and i’m excited! i am participating in a 6K this weekend. i did a 5K last month and want to do maybe one or two more 5/6Ks before july. can’t wait til the pollen clears so i can get back to more outdoor runs. how will you be training for the big day?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
10:44 am

Make peace, respond to strife or make peace. That is the decision we face when we get into it with our SO. Making peace can be responding with a kind word, or it could be just leaving your SO if you can not find peace together. Don’t go to bed angry :)

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
10:50 am

kb – This is my very first PRR. I am uber-excited.

I plan on doing at least two 5k’s between now and then. Right now, I am run/walking a 5k route in my neighborhood at least two mornings a week. (I’m at about 48 minutes total route.) I am on the elliptical another two mornings. For past three or four weekends, I have either gone up Stone Mountain or around it.

I’ve got to start getting more runs in though and increase my distance. Not sure how I’m going to fit it in. My coed softball league starts tonight. And this year, I’m going to play in the women’s league on Wednesday night. Thursday and Friday are supposed to be my *real cute* days when I wear my hair styled and not *curly sue* but it looks like I’m going to have to give that up so that I can add in some more runs.

*Enough about me. LOL*

abc

April 13th, 2010
10:53 am

You get what you pay for. If you pay in niceties such as a calm demeanor, generous spirit, and kind heart, that’s what you’re likely to attract and keep. If you do it by being so-called feisty, challenging, temperamental, and generally self-absorbed, that’s what you’re likely to attract and keep.

Nice girls finish first, but to some it seems like it takes them longer to get to the finish line, since patience is a virtue nice girls must possess. Just the same, the prize they win is greater.

M. (pronouced M dot)

April 13th, 2010
10:54 am

@mqew

Take it how you want. There is no ignorance. The thing is you think dating is like it was in 1950 when you were on the dating scene. It’s a different game in 2010 and I was giving you the perspective of someone who is actually out dating not someone living through a Tyler Perry movie and Steve Harvey Rose Colored Glasses.

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
10:54 am

I think the whole definition of “nice” is subjective. It just does not mean the same to everyone. Some folks take nice as being kind & thoughtful, while to some, especially in the context of a relationship, it means doormat, pushover, boring, uncreative. Sometimes when describing a person to someone as being nice, it means you’re really trying to say they are unattractive.

A lot of times people see a man and just because he is neat & clean, has a steady job & a car & his own place, goes to church, he’s deemed “nice” or “good”. Yeah, he looks good on paper. When he doesn’t do well with the ladies, folks criticize the ladies & say “yall complain about not being able to find a good man, well you’re passing this one over, he’s right under your nose. He’s a good man, but keeps getting passed over & it’s the women’s fault. When all along, he could be an absolute monster to get along with, a ho, a functioning addict or alchoholic, a stalker, violent & mean, in poor health, or be just a plain bore. But yeah, he’s SUPPOSED to be NICE!

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
10:56 am

good post abc!

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
10:56 am

abc – I like your 10:53.

CoolShadow

April 13th, 2010
10:58 am

In trying to be a nice person, it’s a thin line that separates the zone of being thoughtful and considerate and the zone of being used as a simp and doormat. People often abuse that privilege of generosity and cross that line are then shocked when the ‘nice’ person pushes back. Folks who claim that someone is/was “too nice” are really people who had someone digging them but they weren’t digging back but tried to exploit the situation or got exposed and privileges cut. Ever notice how users like that usually will boomerang back into your life for a second chance? Sometimes folks don’t know they had til it’s gone.

Most guys I know say when they are pushed they know they have to get away..what’s that Chris Rock says, “I may not hit a woman but I will shake the *** out of her!”
Everybody’s got a flash point and you have to know yours… it could mean the difference between moving on to the next chapter or getting ready for arraignment in an orange jumpsuit.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
10:58 am

Well stated abc.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
10:59 am

Great post, abc.

“since patience is a virtue nice girls must possess”

I especially needed ^that this morning.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
10:59 am

good post CoolShadow. It is a fine line.

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:01 am

People often abuse that privilege of generosity and cross that line are then shocked when the ‘nice’ person pushes back.
AMEN Cool Shadow!!!!!

Professor

April 13th, 2010
11:01 am

Hola!

I am not going to say nice girls finish last, because I feel there is a difference in being nice and naive. Hell, I have seen some women that were wet behind the ears, and of course that makes them easier for the games, lies and hustles.

@Lady J you said it best it takes a lot to keep giving those alter egos power. At this point in my life if I have to do all of that I am going to put DNA in my phone as your name and drive off into the sunset. I refuse to act trashy day-in-day-out.

@mqew 0-80 is funny, but it is also sad as hell.

@Kimmie all that natural talk that men and women talk is a bunch of junk if you ask me. I think Marie Claire did a shoot with Jessica Simpson wearing no make-up. And, Jessica looks great! Make-up will only enhance what is there if it does that at all. I get more compliments without my make up than when I wear make-up. We hear all this natural talk, but I have seen very few natural wo/men in my lifetime…push-up bras, weaves, s-curls, cutting split ends, haircuts, parfum (you don’t really smell like that), arching eyebrows, wearing clear nail polish (your nails are not that glossy) lip balm (let the chap show), shaving legs and other parts, girdles (sp), lifting weights (your muscles would not be that big), dieting (you are not that small naturally), contacts, clothing (let the rolls show), facials to get the skin glowing, implants etc.

And you know this....MAAAN!

April 13th, 2010
11:02 am

I’m nice, very nice, until I shouldn’t be and then I’m mean….VERY mean. I think most men I know have appreciated this because its a behavior they can RELATE to. The greatest fear men have it to be considered a punk…so in the end, they don’t always respect punk-girls either. So you can be nice, but when that fool steps out of line, hit it hard and with no worries because he already KNOW he deserve it. I find that this gets me a lot of respect in all aspects of my life, not just in dating.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
11:03 am

@ abc

Your post begs to question something that puzzles me sometimes. Why do people sometimes try to jump onto every train that comes by, knowing that it willnot take them where they really want to go…i.e. the lady that “wants” the nice guy, but falls for the latest “Bobby Brown” imitation? Is it just a confidence thing, are they just afraid to wait for the right “pitch” before swinging?

kinderbabe--31 days and counting! woohoo!

April 13th, 2010
11:03 am

@sexycool…that’s great! you will really enjoy the PRR. the energy is awesome! it feels good to be out there in a crowd…it’s energizing. you are making great time on your run/walks. keep up the good work! go on the atlanta track club website when you can. they have a list of all of the upcoming 5K/10K events for the rest of the year. the one on sunday that i’m doing is called the dow-run for water. registration closes on the 15th (thursday). it is a 6K at 8:45 a.m. you still have time to sign up. there is another event in decatur that i can’t think of the name of. i know it’s on may 15th (it’s a 5K). if i here of anything else, i’ll keep you posted.

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:04 am

Everybody’s got a flash point and you have to know yours… it could mean the difference between moving on to the next chapter or getting ready for arraignment in an orange jumpsuit.

Cool Shadow you brought back memories!!!!! Boy are past makes us better people!!!! I don’t do jail for no man or relationship!!!! I have never had the pleasure of busting out windows but heard a story of spring break from a dear friend how she just got off probation…..the most of my antics back then was cussing and fussing just raising hell! Now I have learned silence is golden and not passive silence but that I am not entertaining what you are selling!

Great post Cool Shadow!

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:05 am

Thanks Professor!!!!!! I killed her dead really and buried that heifer she was becoming ruthless!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
11:05 am

“The best revenge is to live well”

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
11:08 am

Living well is the best revenge because it empowers us to take control of our lives and not allow ourselves to be controlled by the past and the hurt

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:10 am

amen randy folk are amazed when you do when they have seen you raised the roof!

mqew

April 13th, 2010
11:10 am

Mdot –

I’ll KISS —–> Keep living!

Martiqua

April 13th, 2010
11:11 am

Let’s be real here. It’s all about what the chica looks like. Ladies if you are carrying around a booty the size of the SS Concorde or if you are a buttahead, or even worse, you ain’t got the body OR the face, heck yeah, you’re gonna finish last because that’s all the dudes care about. You can have the stankest attitude but if you’re a dime piece, all is forgiven so there’s the connection: The chicas who are real fine are so spoiled and so used to the dudes stepping to them & giving them everything, yeah, of couse they’re gonna have that attitude like their shyte don’t stank so in a nutshell, that is why nice girls finish last. The chicas who don’t got the looks & have to depend on their brains & personality quickly learn they ain’t gonna get anyplace in the world of dating & romance. The dude might be willing to hit it & quit it if the woman is nothing to look at but he won’t want anything more. And I’m not being sexist, I AM a female

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
11:14 am

Any thoughts on Goodell, if he does not punish Big Ben?

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
11:14 am

I am a very nice person…sometimes too nice. I mean if you are a friend or more…I will bend over backwards to help you even if it puts me out…without even thinking about it! And I have been taken advantage of for it. Well no more Miss Nice Girl! I am in the “I just don’t get &^%$” mode now. I was always told I should not be that way. And every time I went against myself and listen to other people….I got stepped on. So now I am back to doing the stepping. But moreso I just keep to myself. I meet guys but I keep them at arms length. I just hang out with my girls and do my own thing and I seem to enjoy life a lot more. I just do NOT trust people!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
11:19 am

@Melo ~ I’ve searched and I’ve searched….I have no record of your b-day…I is so sowwwy.

Everyone has a nice side to them and everyone has a bytchy side to them. One should definitely override the other. Whichever one you present first is the one that will forever be dealt with accordingly!!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 13th, 2010
11:20 am

LOL! if you were a SUPERHERO and had a SUPERPOWER, what would be your SUPERPOWER??? mine . . . hmmmm. *giggle*

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:22 am

@Beautiful i want Bewitched powers!!!!! That is a funny show!

mqew

April 13th, 2010
11:22 am

RandyT – Living Well indeed

Leggs – Did you spill it yet?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
11:23 am

@ Martiqua

i agree that a man will not often give a butt ugly woman a second look…you have to have some chips to sit at the table. I would suggest though that men will dump a dime piece too (after the hit and get it) if she is a biotch. He will cry, and biotch, and moan about the piece he left behind but there is only so much shyte any man will take.

Written on a bathroom wall somewhere in VA…”remember, no matter how beautiful she is, there is some guy somewhere out there that is sick and tired of taking her shyte”. I try to remember that when the little head wants to drive.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
11:23 am

I would want my superpower to be a peacemaker in all situations.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 13th, 2010
11:26 am

mine is similar to yours Carlito! i would want to zap some common sense into folks!!!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
11:27 am

@mqew ~ LOL…I just looked at the clock. Guess I can spill it now. It may seem like nuttin to some of you, but it’s a first for me! Here goes:

My dilemma:

I’ve been out with this guy 3x. He’s a very nice person and says my corniness is appealing. Thumbs up to him!!! Anyway, he shared with me a medical problem he’s going through. He needs Viagra to do “the do.” Must be honest, I was surprised, but don’t think I showed it. I was taken aback because no man has ever told me he needs the “blue pill” to perform. If and when I do decide to do the do, and not saying it will be with him, I don’t want no broke dyck that needs a pill to stand at attention! I don’t know the side affects of Viagra, if any, and not sure that each time we do the do, if we do the do, he has to pop that blue pill. I’m a vibrant, older woman and don’t want to give anyone a heart attack…..blue pill, alcohol, riding him hard if I should do the do with him, makes me nervous!

Anybody here ever messed with a man that had to resort to the blue pill? Sure, I may be making a mountain out of a molehill since we aren’t even dancing between the sheets. I’m curious about this blue pill.

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:27 am

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:30 am

that lol was to beautiful…..

leggs thats a pretty interesting concept….my rolling stone granndfather used it and was part of his death that helped contributed to the stroke….so to each its own….lke any medication it reacts differently to others…

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
11:31 am

Uuuuummm….yeah…no…Didn’t expect that.

Leggs – Don’t have any experience with that.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
11:33 am

I’m cracking up over here…bet you didn’t SexyC!

abc

April 13th, 2010
11:35 am

I’d say that if that’s the way you feel about it, Leggs, then do the poor guy a favor and stop seeing him now. Having had the courage to confess such a sensitive problem, the last thing he needs is some chick talking about it in terms of being a broke dyck that she doesn’t want to have to bother with.

ED is often a temporary condition. The most common cause is depression. Actual cases of a physical cause for ED are relatively low. ED drugs are such a bonanza for pharmaceutical companies, it’s easy for men to be led to believe that they need to take it. Young men even take it as a supposed performance enhancing supplement. Pretty crazy!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
11:35 am

Halle Berry, very beautiful woman. David Justice who is happily remarried with kids. Thinks she is a crazy psycho and was happy to divorce her. LOL

Leggs, I have never taken blue pills but if the guys needs them all of the time you probably will not be happy in the long run, especially if he runs out of pills. Do those things have an immediate effect or do you have to wait for it to kick in?

What you put out is what you get back IMO, karma comes in all shapes and forms. I do not believe that anything happens randomly. So when you are ready to be the best that you can be for someone else, her comes that karma from your past sometimes. At some point the payment will be over for past discretions in life and the forward progress begins

kimmy

April 13th, 2010
11:36 am

HI,
I AM the nice girl. Always pleasant (ask anyone), giving, caring, honest, cook, clean, hard working, and dedicated to my relationship; but men always seem to take that as “she’ll always be around so I’ll just do whatever”. My relationships will then end and almost always I will get the “I’m sorry I took you for granted” sooner or later. I refuse to change who I am. I will continue to be my loving self and hope that one day I’ll meet someone who appreciates me rather than try to take advantage. Men don’t know a good think often until you are gone. My ex told me I am his “would of, could of, should of girl”. The woman he dated that looking back he didn’t realize how good he had it until he dated the mess that’s out there. Oh well!

View from 65

April 13th, 2010
11:37 am

I realize dating is not like it was. Furthermore, many people are not like others were. However, I do have a little prospective while reading these posts at age 65.

Have you read a 14 year old’s diary? Did it sound immature, naive, and just hopelessly childish? Most of these posts sound just that way from my perspective. You all are a little older, but just as naive, and just as focused on the wrong aspects of your lives. Unfortunately, the results will be just like they were for the 14 year olds. When you focus on the wrong things, you get the wrong results. What we tell 14 ear olds is that they should grow up.

Hear attend and listen, oh best beloved” : getting it right, focusing on the correct issues is worthwhile. It leads to happiness and a good life.

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
11:37 am

I would want my power to be the ability to have any thought become reality when I wanted.

Leggs
I’m not sure what to say about this. You might need a younger guy though.

Lady J-Lioness

April 13th, 2010
11:39 am

abc you are on it and Carlito I agree about karma it is real that is why I changed my ways and better results are coming!

mqew

April 13th, 2010
11:40 am

Ummmmmm Oooh I know, make him sign …. Okay I won’t finish that, but ….. I don’t know. I guess ride the bull and see how long HE can hold on :-)

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
11:40 am

LEGGS…OUCH! That is a bad situation! But I do agree that you should be honest with the dude. But also think of what his other qualities are and if the outweight the “Peter Problem”!

Just like a dude….atractiveness is key. I think a good looking guy will get away with more than an ugly guy. If you are settling because the guy is “nice” but he is “a’ight” looking, then the first thing he does you are going to send him packing. But if he is “HOTT”…you may look past things. Is it right or smart…NOPE! But it’s human nature.

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 13th, 2010
11:41 am

Kimmy

i’m sorta like you in your 11:36 i haven’t had an ex yet who didn’t try to come back once they realized the grass wasn’t greener on the other side of the fence, all they had to do was water and nuture the grass they already had.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
11:42 am

First and foremost, abc, I would never refer to it as a broke dyck to his face! That’s my phrase and mine alone. And whatever the reason for his ED, whether short term or long term, the dyck is still broke!

No, I have no intention of stringing him along simply because that’s not my style. We are forming a friendship not a sexual relationshipo right now. I was glad he was oomfortable enough with me to share that info. Just wanted to see if anybody had any dealings with the “blue pill.” Sheesh, just mentioning it makes me feel old!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
11:44 am

Oh…just remembered – my dad and some of his friends use it. (Why do I know this? LOL!)

My mom’s not complaining.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
11:44 am

DreamsM – Isn’t that like Green Lantern, with the ring as the conduit of the materialization of the imagination?

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
11:46 am

@abc ~ Ok, I’ll consider coining a new phrase.

RxDawg

April 13th, 2010
11:46 am

The written blog doesn’t make sense. But as far as the title that asks a question, here goes.

Quite simply NO. If a girl is nice, than most guys are going to like that. The opposite isn’t nearly as true. If a girl has a bad attitude and likes to show that side of herself off, then out the door she goes. Most men don’t want to make time in their life to deal with that sort of crap. This blogger states that she starts off nice and then “shows off her fiesty side when challenged”. It sounds like the nice girl part is just a charade, and that she is actually a mean girl finishing last.

Kym

April 13th, 2010
11:48 am

@Randy I agree the best revenge is to just live well. Live your best life.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
11:48 am

sexycool too damn funny for the midday!

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
11:48 am

abc, I have heard of young guys taking those things unnecessarily. Crazy is all I can say.

Leggs, follow your heart & if you are really uneasy about things going there, easy away early. Everybody just can’t deal with everything that may come their way. Think about it. If he was really someone you were into & were in love with, you would work thru whatever issues, be it that or something else. That’s the way real love works. It’s not so easy when your relationship is not even on that level yet.

Martiqua

April 13th, 2010
11:49 am

Randy, I see what you’re saying but you know, 9 times ouuta 10, the dude will go and make the same mistake with dime piece after dime piece and these chics only care about what they can get from the man and he don’t care cause all he want is someone who looks good, no matter what a byotch she is

Quiza

April 13th, 2010
11:49 am

Can you people use spellcheck and write grammatically so that someone educated may follow the topic?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
11:50 am

Leegs, since you are just working on a friendship now, would his ED be a factor in you limiting it to stay away from romance?

abc

April 13th, 2010
11:51 am

Other common causes are high blood pressure, often from being overweight, or from drinking too much; most men could lose weight, get in shape, especially through cardio exercise, and if that’s not enough control high blood pressure and cholesterol with medication, and not need ED drugs. I figure one day, I’ll need them, too. It happens to every man, sooner or later.

Certainly, a man that can’t perform sexually isn’t regarded as a man, and must be aware of the consequences of perception as reality. Insensitivity to a confessed problem in that area is, to me, more than a sign of incompatibility. It’s a good example of what people are talking about today, though: do you want a fvckstick, or a man? Can you tell the difference? Probably not; so, go get what you want instead.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
11:52 am

Leggs??

let me share with u a story.

Queen rides with this older afr/amercan lady i spoke about some weeks ago.And she talks and I get to hear the back end of the strories at nite.
Her man has had prostate cancer surgery and it does affect some men,resulting in ED.So he pops the pill to get it to attn.From what i hear,there is no big deal.If there is,its proly to the(some men) man if he has any ego problems about it. He dont have to pop it for every occurence u going to have,esp if u having them in 2 to 3 day succession. One pill will last a cpple of hrs/days depending on how the peraon reacts to the medication,their size etc.

This man clearly likes u coz no person(most) shares such intimate medical stuff with a stranger,let alone a woman hes expecting to phluck.Showes some maturity in his game.

He cld have eqaily not told u,poped the pill be4 the do,lay the pipe and u wld have left the encounter,very pleased,not knowing u were hit by Mr Viagra enhanced. :lol:

Take the disclosure as his endorsement of urself!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
11:54 am

random I just confirmed my essence trip an all girls trip….I have did this since Daytona ‘99….geesh….it is with my former bff from college and reconnected through fb of course…..and it is with her friends and I was invited….hope it goes well…I get along with folk and meet no stranger just not a in the group woman type girl…..while I have many female friends the most are male….I just know how we can be….it should go well they will be strangers for the most part just the thought of meeting the crew is hmmmm not sure but anyway I hope I get to see Erykah Badu in New Orleans bc i won’t see her in Atlanta!!!!!:( This is my 1st Essence Festival so I am looking forward to just being away for the 4th of July besides @ a family cook out this year! LOL

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
11:56 am

It’s a good example of what people are talking about today, though: do you want a fvckstick, or a man? Can you tell the difference? Probably not; so, go get what you want instead.

:shock:

Well dayum….

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
11:57 am

Can you people use spellcheck and write grammatically so that someone educated may follow the topic?

Well you’re educated ain’t you?…..follow then :)

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
11:58 am

Melo – Good insight, dude.

Every now and then. Every now and then.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
11:58 am

kimmie that was great advice too!

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
11:58 am

Kimmy- You sound kinda like me – 5+ years ago. You see, sometimes you can do TOO much, be TOO giving. I had to learn that the hard way. It’s probably your nature that you are a nurturing, giving person. You think, if I’m just my giving, sweet self, this will bring me closer to him & he will love me. I learned the hard way that this is not necessarily the case. In fact, you can bust your hump doing & giving, and he’ll thank you & go off & marry the girl who is nice, but can barely boil water. A relationship should be give & take. There are times when you may being doing more of one than the other, depending on the circumstances life can throw you, but it should all balance out over time.

Continue to be you. But don’t overdo it. You may have to hold back a little. Allow the other person to show you they don’t take you for granted. You can’t make someone love you by “nicing” them to death. Either they will love you or they won’t.

Those who’ve not “been there” won’t get this. But think about it.

abc

April 13th, 2010
12:00 pm

Not meaning to cast any aspersions. But hey, folks should go after what they want, and leave the others out. If nothing else, it saves your time, and theirs, and can spare their feelings. Everyone has them, you know, no matter what your opinion of them may be.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
12:01 pm

Kym – Okay Joel Osteen :-)

Leggs – Dare I say —-> I agree with Milo

abc – Dang dude….

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 13th, 2010
12:07 pm

@Quiza . . . yousa fool fo that! lol.

hey Lady! what a better place this would be. ;o)

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:08 pm

@abc ~ if that’s a slur to me, let me make this clear to you. I, ME, certainly know the difference between a fvckstick and a man? Main reason why I walk solo. Let’s not get it twisted, darling!

I merely put the problem out here to get feedback. I realize this is a medical problem that affects scores of men. Going forward perhaps we will have more discussion on this topic. Who knows, he may not even see me as a sexual partner and could be one reason why he shared this info with me. Right now, we talk as friends talk.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
12:08 pm

lol beautiful!

mqew lol to you too! LOL

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

April 13th, 2010
12:09 pm

@ Leggs

Viagra and Cialis and Levitra are big because they work, especially with medical conditions I took viagra and came twice without losing my stiff. It tends to work also for hours so the guy can come back for seconds, and thirds even. I’m not sure it is a good reason to kick him to the curb because men will either get old or die. If they get old, guess what goes first?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:11 pm

Off Topic:
Can anyone name the person in the lower right of this picture? :)

His basketball skills, has brought many to laughter. He was all varsity and still has game to this day.

http://www.andreaharner.com/archives/PrinceBBall.jpg

IDK...part deuce

April 13th, 2010
12:11 pm

View at 65, I applaude your comment. I’ve wondered the majority age of the bloggers because it seems most are about 40 and up but still seem…let’s just say I agree with you.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:14 pm

Quiza, you are missing a comma. :)

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:18 pm

I too have to agree with you Melo. Nice post!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
12:18 pm

Leggs I think the guy your speaking about is brave to tell you about his situation for several reasons…I admire his honesty b/c I’m sure that’s not something he’d want on channel 5 and thank goodness he didn’t wait until you two were about to seal the deal(if it ever even got to that point) before he disclosed said situation. Lastly,he sees you as the fit,fab woman that you are and does like you like that and may hope one day to know you(in the biblical sense)….he just don’t want you to kill him with it ;)

Melo

April 13th, 2010
12:20 pm

When you focus on the wrong things, you get the wrong results.

@View at 65!!

I agree with u completely.

I was telling adults the same thing at church the other day as they discussed dating for teens..13/14 etc.

I told them,why are u parents focusing ur energies on kids dating when u should be spending ur enegies on how to get the kids educated,graduating from high school and what schools to apply to etc???
U’ve got to set the tone in the home,let ur kids know what u accept and what u dont and get them busy on stuff that enhances their lives after they leave ur house..the rest will take care of itself.

Lady J

April 13th, 2010
12:20 pm

it is so nice outside!!!!!!!! something about a natrual high…….sigh!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:21 pm

@RandyT ~ thanks for sharing. Not saying it’s a deal breaker, just thinking out loud!

Ok, Melo, you’ve convinced me…he does like me, and newly found friends don’t share stuff like that…gotcha!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:24 pm

The guy in this picture is Prince, remember when Charlie Murphy did the skit about Prince beating them at basketball? In real life Prince was a varsity starter in basketball and still loves to play. He just plays in regular clothes, well regular to him. Look at all of that hair he had when he was in highschool :)

http://www.andreaharner.com/archives/PrinceBBall.jpg

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:26 pm

Ok, SassyMe!

WOW…..this blog can’t be too childish since you’re perched in Lurksville reading the comments!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:26 pm

Lady J, speaking of being high. How come no blogger told me about the Sweetwater 420(four twenty) Fest? I did not know that Atlanta held that. I will be there.

Happy early “420 day” to everyone :)

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 13th, 2010
12:26 pm

lol @ missing a comma!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
12:26 pm

Ok why this dude pull my move.. He went to pick up his lottery earnings with a mask on along with his wife..

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:28 pm

420 day festival here in Atlanta this weekend. I never knew! I will be there. Happy early “420 Day” everyone.

I am amazed that made it to the front page of the AJC. :)

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
12:28 pm

DK – I was just reading that article.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:30 pm

Sassy, are you going to the 420 Festival?

brother john

April 13th, 2010
12:30 pm

what a friggin hen party

no wonder most of you will die alone amongst piles of cat poop

Luvbug

April 13th, 2010
12:31 pm

If you can’t seem to keep the attention of bad guys, that’s probably a good sign.

I would really like to know what people consider nice.

For some, nice is a means to an end.

1.She told me she’s not interested…I will show up at her house with flowers anyway.
2.I know he’s married…I’ll be his loving confidant (some call it a “friend”).
3.I love you Babe…I bought you this phone (w/GPS…undisclosed) so that I can always have you near me.

Sometimes I think the use of the word “no” alone qualifies a woman to be considered a b!tch. Likewise, I think guys are too often unfairly ridiculed for not conforming to some “well meaning”, “wholesome” woman. He was drinking and smoking when she married him, but she is now playing Holly Hatty, trying to guilt him into being a “better person”. He doesn’t wanna change…now she’s the good girl and he’s the bad guy. IMO, that’s manipulative.

Some people don’t want to do want the pony show. Those people are often considered to be meaner than others.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
12:34 pm

Ok nice girls dont finish last. A nice girls is what we’re looking for. A babe that is nice but holds her own.

true dat yo

April 13th, 2010
12:34 pm

Nice girls don’t get std’s. Bad girls do.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
12:35 pm

Carlito enlighten me por favor…que es le festivale 420?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:35 pm

Infamous, how are you bro?

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
12:36 pm

420 – weed

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
12:36 pm

Luv – Good well excellent post

true dat yo

April 13th, 2010
12:37 pm

“Ladies, do you find that being nice on the dating scene works best for you?”

Just ask all the girls who end up pregnant or were given herpes after a first date.

Quasimodo

April 13th, 2010
12:38 pm

I’ve sworn off dating because most “nice girls”, aren’t, and those that ARE truly nice are usually married.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
12:38 pm

Carlito – Hiding out in my home with the air purifiers running.. Man I went to the Dr and its a sinus infection.. This time and the beginning of fall are the worst for me..

Quasimodo

April 13th, 2010
12:39 pm

If you get the herpes on the first “date”, that’s your own fault for giving it up on the first “date”…..

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
12:40 pm

Oooh okay didn’t know that Sexy thanks for that…..so uummm where/when is it :oops: ;)

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:40 pm

Sassy, they are having the Sweetwater 420 Fest here this weekend. 420 stands for the fourth month and twentieth day.( April, 20th)

420 is the Smoker’s Holiday :) around the world. Also groups hold marijuana awareness events on that date as well :)

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/203490/420_the_pot_smokers_holiday_and_the.html

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:42 pm

420 day. April 20th. 4 is the month 20 is the day. Smoker’s holiday worldwide :)

East Point's Own

April 13th, 2010
12:42 pm

I love women who are nice to me, the person they are dating… but I do not like women who are super nice 100% of the time all day every day, there are some situations where you should have a response that show you have a bit of fire. You have to be able to say no at the right times. I have dated women who let their friends run all over them, borrow (read: take) money without re-paying it, running errands for friends who are always too busy to help you out, friends who live with their parents but like to lounge around at your house since you live on your own, etc. At some point you have to know that your real friends expect you to say no at certain times, and if they don’t they are just using you.

But I do not at all like arguements or fights, I don’t need that, but I don’t need a woman who will not tell me when I am wrong. If you can be nice with a spine we will get along just fine.
http://hispointofview.com

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:43 pm

Herpes, that will bring a romance to a halt.

Baby, what is that bump? LOL

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
12:44 pm

SASSY & CARLITO…. :lol: I LOVE the sarcasm! Some people just take themselves it bit too serious. It’s a blog. It is meant to voice/type opinions, as well as a few side jokes. Even the most intellectual individuals can follow along. I think…..

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:45 pm

CoolShadow

April 13th, 2010
12:46 pm

Some people don’t want to do want the pony show. Those people are often considered to be meaner than others.

Other times, they’re part of a ‘been there, done that’ crowd that is overcompensating from being too nice in a former relationship where they were burned and have now become meaner for the experience.

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
12:47 pm

Infamous…I am just getting over a sinus infection. Did they give you antibiotics?

Carlito…did you ever attend Smoke Out in Washington Square park in NYC? My girls go every year! :lol:

Delia

April 13th, 2010
12:48 pm

I think Brother john is right… It seems to me that men are ready when they are ready…There is no ryhme or reason, just simply when they are ready. Otherwise, you can be beautiful, inside/out and he will not realize it. I think women put way too much thought and planning into the married,relationship thing…Much more than the men…At 35, I am working on just letting it go and having fun…Baby steps, baby steps…

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
12:50 pm

EP – Good post!

mqew

April 13th, 2010
12:50 pm

Awwwww man! I missed Unsung – Staci Lattisaw (sp?)

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:51 pm

Sassy, I have tried 3 different way to type it but it will not let me post it.

go to the first link here:
http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=sweetwater+festival+atlanta+2010&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

BlackMagicWoman, Quiza is to educated to know that she is exactly that which she is complaining about. Did we not talk about people like that last week? LOL

No I have never been to the smokout. I am real cautious about new connects in new cities.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:52 pm

Sassy, I have tried 3 different way to type it but it will not let me post it.

Just google these words; “sweet” “water” “420″ “atlanta” 2010″ all together

BlackMagicWoman, Quiza is to educated to know that she is exactly that which she is complaining about. Did we not talk about people like that last week? LOL

No I have never been to the smokout. I am real cautious about new connects in new cities.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:53 pm

Say it ain’t so, mqew! I meant to record it. Damn, it came on last night! 24 had my attention!

Professor

April 13th, 2010
12:54 pm

@Leggs,

I agree with Melo. I would continue the friendship and see where it goes. If it leads to a relationship I would not think about the pill I would just handle my business.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
12:55 pm

I would really like to know what people consider nice.

@Luvbug??

Its the age of political correctness so I guess some things need repeating!

Nice girls dont fight physically..they step and keep it moving.

Nice girls arent too loud,nor bad biatching pple

They dont commit crime….they dont get hooked-up stuff :lol:

Nice girls will pay their bills for the most part.

They dont remonstrate,they argue their situation/case with whoever, calmly,thoghtfully and without swashbuckling braggado.

They dress like a lady, to impress! and not to entice bedding or quick attention

Nice girls do not fight for attention with other girls..they impress thru calm actions and calm demeanor not thru loud actions or dressing.

They may drink but never get drunk in public,if at all or except for the very rare occassion.

Nice girls do not resort to threatening actions,verbal assaults or physical entanglements with other chics nor with men..leave that for the bad chics!
If need be,nice chics have the police authorities on their tab,but it may never be necessary.

Nice girls tithe,they dont pilfer from the tithing collection plate like bad chics do! :lol:

Nice girls dont flaunt sexx,even tho they may be the baddest bytches in bed!

(just a melo nice girl chit sheet!)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
12:55 pm

I LOVE the sarcasm! Some people just take themselves it bit too serious. It’s a blog.

That’s what’s up BlackMagic…as I stated I know I’m not for everybody…none of us are. But you made a good point sista.

^5 chica.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
12:56 pm

BMW – Antibiotics, nasonex, and a neti pot. Why? You wanna come help drain my sinuses? Hold my tissue for me?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:58 pm

Melo, that is a very good list. Sometimes when I research a club or something I view the galleries to check out the types of crowds. Julia, pointed this out to me Saturday. How come the butt is almost always facing the camera or it is a side shot? It is like the emphasis is on the booty instead of their face. Does that say something about the person posing or the person taking the picture. LOL

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm

Everyone should own a neti pot!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm

I found it stud muffin Italiana…I’ll have to see about that.

I missed Unsung – Staci Lattisaw

I missed it,too but you know it’ll be on again sometime over the weekend, that’s how they usually do it.

Let me be your angeeeeeel, let me be the one for youuuuuu

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm

INFAMOUS…you are on your own son! I only hold my snot rags! :lol:

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm

@Prof ~ definitely!

@Melo ~ I love your list!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm

The name Quiza, sounds like a nasal decongestant. Infamous, you need to take some Quiza.

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
1:00 pm

Afternoon All,

I’ll admit it, I’m a former Bytch Lover. In my younger days that was the only type I seemed interested in. Personally I looked at Nice Girls as less of a challenge (not really). Just my twisted logic and the need to fuel my Ego. I felt as though bagging a Bytch was harder. To me it really WAS all about the Chase. Knowing at some point this Bytch was gonna get broken by me was what I was after.
Thank God I grew out of that phase and Matured. Nice girls dont finish last. Nice Girls finish. The Bad girls have the mileage and the Bad Boys in the past as their future.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:01 pm

Sassy, if you come. Julia and I will both be there. :)

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:02 pm

Not one guy has said the nice girl finished last. Someone needs to tell snopes.com :)

Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)

April 13th, 2010
1:04 pm

Afternoon All!

Okay, I hate pollen and wish we could get some rain like every week til this season is over with. I am bound to my inhaler every time I walk out my front door!!

Infamous – sorry to hear about your sinuses dude, I know your pain!

mqew/Leggs/Sassy – the Unsung on Staci Lattisaw was pretty good.

Hey Lady J & Kinder – my teaching buddies!

Luvbug

April 13th, 2010
1:05 pm

Thanks DK

Unsung? Dang, I missed it to. Guess I’ll have to catch the reruns.

I didn’t know the last guy though…Sylvester.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
1:13 pm

@Mo ~ you just had to rub it in. Can’t believe I forgot all about it. I hope it comes back on real soon!!

I like this :arrow: Nice Girls finish! Slam Dunk!

Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)

April 13th, 2010
1:14 pm

Leggs – just letting you know it was a good Unsung (like most of them are). It should be on this weekend if not tonight.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
1:15 pm

I saw the end of it….. got a lil chill bumps from it. VERY NICE!!!!!!

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
1:16 pm

For those inquiring about the Sweet water 4 2 0 Festival. It has very little to do with the 4 2 0 (Smokeout) and all to do with the Sweetwater brand. Beer festival pretty much.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
1:17 pm

Mo – I didn’t know the Sylvester guy either.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
1:18 pm

Melo – Nice list, but that chick sounds perfect….. as in NOT real.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:19 pm

Yeah – that tithing thing knocked me off Melo’s list.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:20 pm

mqew, which item on the list is not real or perfect in nature? :)

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
1:21 pm

I knew of Sylvester because house music was very big in NY & NJ and he was very much known on that scene. Might Real was his biggest hit! He was the Original Boy George…just Brown! :lol:
Poor thing died of that Monster.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:21 pm

SexyCool, you are stealing from the tithes plate when it is being passed around? LOL

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
1:22 pm

I didn’t know the last guy though…Sylvester.

Me either…I did get to watch a snippet of that episode and realized that his back up singers were The Weather Girls but he called them another name I didn’ like.

lito if you and Julia go the the festival is she gonna let you partake of any veggies?

Luvbug

April 13th, 2010
1:22 pm

Melo – Well there it is…a comprehensive list (for some female). You know my statement wasn’t gender specific, so I’m due the other half sir. :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)

April 13th, 2010
1:22 pm

mqew – I had heard of Sylvester but didnt know much about ’shim’ either. I did see one video by ’shim’ on Centric recently and I watched only b/c it looked old but I was like “is that REALLY a dude dressed as a man and a woman in the same video??” :shock:

Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)

April 13th, 2010
1:24 pm

Sassy – Two Tons of Fun aka The Weather Girls…..how can you be cool with that name?!?!?!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:25 pm

LMAO!
Not stealing.
I just don’t tithe.

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
1:25 pm

Sassy/Lito – That festival is definitely less about the partaking of Veggies and moreso all about the Brew.

abc

April 13th, 2010
1:25 pm

Along with Melo’s list, as impossible as it may seem to fulfill: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs%2031&version=MSG

abc

April 13th, 2010
1:26 pm

…starting in verse 10.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:26 pm

I saw this woman slap a man in front of the Fox Grill Saturday night. She hit him once he grabbed her hand, she slapped him with the other one. He started to walk away, she then called him a “b**** made” something That did it. He started walking back towards her and flexed up and she just fell to the ground. He did not even touch her, I guess she was expecting the hit. I am sure that she was not nice, being that she hit him first. LOL

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:28 pm

abc, we DO NOT TALK about the Bible here.

J/K because I got slammed by someone for doing something like that on here. LOL

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
1:28 pm

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:31 pm

Alright Bloggers I need advice and opinion on a problem that has been presented to me. One of my sisterfriends has a problem and I need the advice of the gentlemen..ladies chime in as well..Alright here we go…

So there is a young fellow working in her office.(He is in finance, she is in IT so no conflict)..the two have been flirting back and forth for about 4 months, flirting as in laughing sharing jokes. While they work in different areas he always finds a reason to stop by and see her share convo. Now this young fellow has asked her out but she is not big on next day dates so she told him she was busy that day. So today frustration on her part has come to the boiling point. Today on one of his daily visits she smiles laughs and mentions that she is going out for lunch. He says really where you going, she says I am thinking a sandwich, he says cool I got to go out today too. And then Nothing. She was hoping he would catch a hint and ask her if he can join her..but nothing. Her side is that if you are not interesting stop coming by and chatting her up two or three times a day. I told her maybe he wants her to ask him..but I yield this case study to my fellow bloggers..what should she do..Ask him, wait for him to get a clue..or is there a door number three?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:32 pm

Sassy, from my research there will be no partaking “there” but there are a few spots that there will be. She and I have reached a compromise. If she is actually pregnant I will stop. Otherwise I have to confine it to one room in the house. This is my house but in the 5 days she has been here she has made it hers. LOL I do not mind. My brother is leaving thursday, Julia is leaving sunday. I am going to get her to try it before she leaves. I will just make her a bet that she will lose or something. :)

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:33 pm

Ah..the Proverbs 31 Woman – whatever happened to that *movement*?

I remember when all the *saved* chicks were running around talking about being a Proverbs 31 Woman. What happened? Did she go out of style?

Notice how Proverbs 31 doesn’t mention tithing?

(Entire post is tongue-in-cheek.)

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
1:33 pm

Sylvester was before his time.

@BMW ~ you got it. Love house music to this day.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
1:34 pm

Nice list, but that chick sounds perfect….. as in NOT real.

@Mqew…i wld say the ten commandments are a perfect if not an ideal, go by-list for any one..man or woman.

@Luvbug??

u asked the qstion and i gave u the ideal answer or some close to it. U wre very gender specific..”nice girl!!”

U tell me/us what wld be an ideal nice guy to u??

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
1:34 pm

That festival is definitely less about the partaking of Veggies and moreso all about the Brew.

I kinda got that impression when I read it….actually there’s a slew of festivals this weekend as well as the alleged Freaknic poppin off….should be nice.

Two Tons of Fun aka The Weather Girls…..how can you be cool with that name?!?!?!

For real right Mo?! When I heard that I cringed a little but regardless them women can sang.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:35 pm

Kym, maybe it is due to the workplace? If she wants to go just ask him and go from there.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:36 pm

Kym – she has already turned his ass down once. I’m sure he’s not getting set up to be turned down again.

And she turned him down for a *next day* date, but wants him to go to lunch with her *same* day?

Sounds like your friend could be a little bit more spontaneous. Better to have a *next day* date than to be sitting at the house by yourdamnself the next night.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
1:36 pm

sexycool you have me laughing out loud!!!!!!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:37 pm

Oh…and if she wanted him to go to lunch with her….she should have just asked him.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:40 pm

Games, don’t play them. If she wants to go ask him. A guy can only be told no so many times before he is stopping at the next office over.

Sassy, did the security guy bother you anymore?

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:40 pm

@Sexy my recommendation was for her to ask him.

Melo_Luv Doctor

April 13th, 2010
1:41 pm

dates so she told him she was busy that day

@Kym!

that above was the first “mistake” the young lady made,if she was interested but busy that day.

Sjhe shld have left the door wide ajar..like saying,’oh,not today coz im ..but how about……blah blah?”

that wld have been a wrap!

(lesson for other ladies)

Coz if u dont do that,u make it harder for guys to read u(ur min d) and we get crushed when we are rejected,so we do hesitate smetimes! :lol:

She needs to continue being friendly as be4 and hopefully,dude is still interested.But she has to wait more coz right now,he may be re-thinking his plan…

Personally, i dont advocate a chic asking him out…Its a risky move..Nice chics dont do aggresive moves! (lol)

Clearly dude was interestted..no qstion,coz he asked!

Luv Doc closes prescription book! :lol:

abc

April 13th, 2010
1:41 pm

Tithing is required by The Law, an Old Testament object, and specific to Jews. Christians, not bound to Old Testament Law, but rather described by the New Testament, are not bound to the tithe, but to giving such that one party is not excessively burdened compared to another, and to cheerful giving, ergo with a glad heart. Persistence of Churches in specifying the tithe is a fund raising tactic, motivated by the bloated semi-Christian entities that so many churches have become.

Why, if the church has a monthly operating expense of $15-20 mil, like some of the local mega-churches, it’s not that big a surprise that they’d perpetrate such a mis-reading of the Bible. Hypocrites.

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
1:42 pm

Good Afternoon blogging superstars!

I luv ladies who know how to carry themselves in a respectful manner! That is a good lady to me! think we sometimes take words and let it become the total description of a person. I will not date dramatic unneccessary loud women! I luv to have fun but foolery will not be tolerated!

BMW you need to put on your discernment cap before you take a dip in the men pool! The signs are their you choose to ignore them because he was a smooth talker and good looking!

Leggs you have some really funny stories. Just make sure the dude is in good health and if you progress to the level of headbanging sex just enjoy the ride! :smile:

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:42 pm

Kym, good advise to your friend that you gave her. Stuff does not have to be complicated. Please tell me if he says no though. :)

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
1:43 pm

I am going to get her to try it before she leaves.

Try WHAT?! Lito I have a rule when it comes to “turning people on to something new”…especially that…..DON’T DO IT. However if you do decide to try it there must be an understanding that she can only do it with YOU…that way it’ll be y’alls little secret.

but I yield this case study to my fellow bloggers..what should she do..Ask him, wait for him to get a clue..or is there a door number three?

Kym how old is this guy?…wait you did say “young fellow” in your post….maybe that’s just it. He doesn’t know how to approach her…it’s clear he likes her but you know sometimes men just don’t get it when we’re trying to be subtle….sumtimes you just gotta whack ‘em over the head with it.

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:45 pm

@Abc dang it let me get my suggestions for my friend’s dating woes before you open up this can on tithing. You know we can go all day on church stuff in here. Now the Rev is going to come out of lurksville to get you.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:45 pm

If you do not tithe financially you can tithe your time or anything that benefits the “house”. If God opened the church he will provide a way for it to stay open whether the congregation tithes or not. I love preachers who state that and do not ask for tithes. Plus your tithe means nothing if you are not doing it with a cheerful heart.

Let the mass say “Amen”

Ok time for confessional. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
1:46 pm

Kym – Tell that chick to lose the “Chilli” list.. what the heezy? She dont like next day dates she likes today dates??!! Give me her number cause she might be freaking on the first date too.. That ish sounds foolish on soo many levels.. At this point if she already turned me down then Im not asking anymore.. If she wants me to pursue she has to act like she wants to be pursued.. Im not chasing just to chase and play that game with her.. I have SDADD Short Dating Attention Deficit Disorder. She better come on in or Im gonna color her gone..

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:47 pm

Sassy, she will not do it. I know she won’t besides then I would have to share. :) She did not put in on this.

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
1:47 pm

Kym – she has already turned his ass down once. I’m sure he’s not getting set up to be turned down again.

And she turned him down for a *next day* date, but wants him to go to lunch with her *same* day?

Sounds like your friend could be a little bit more spontaneous. Better to have a *next day* date than to be sitting at the house by yourdamnself the next night.
SexyCool sorry for stealing your post, but it’s almost verbatim what I had in mind. lol

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:47 pm

Alright so that’s three ask him, one nice girls don’t act aggressively, and one for wacking him on the head.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:47 pm

abc – that’s about where I am with it. What I do give and can give, I do so gladly – whether it is to church, to charity, to friends, to family, to a stranger on the street.

And for those who believe that you cannot afford NOT to tithe – no, I know my budget and I cannot afford TO tithe.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:48 pm

Some people just make you scratch your head.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
1:49 pm

Sassy, did the security guy bother you anymore?

Carlito get out of my head!!!

This dude has emailed me twice today and I’ve yet to respond to any. WTF is dude thinking?….or is he even. Last week, on my way from the gym we walked past each other and he said NOTHING. If he really wanted to talk to me that was the right time b/c we were face to face but he said nada but will email me instead…..that’s really MOIST of him and SassaFrass don’t do moist men. I despise a weak man…if you want to know me, step to me, if not shyt kick rocks.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)

April 13th, 2010
1:50 pm

Carlito – AMEN on the 1:45

SlimCoo-Coo

April 13th, 2010
1:50 pm

Single chicks talk about not being able to meet men yet when one asks them out, they refuse because they don’t like same-day dates?….tomorrow isn’t promised.

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:51 pm

@DK ..lord..I am actually at a loss for words after your post..

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:51 pm

Nice girls do not act aggressive? Who said that? A nice girl claims what is her’s and maintains it. Bad girls switch it up. LOL

Sexy Cool does three words. I am going to start my own one word.

One word of the moment: “astro”

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
1:53 pm

Leggs – what ever happened with your friend that was dating the coach?

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
1:54 pm

Soo off topic: Anybody seen Vivica’s latest boy toy?…

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:54 pm

Mo, :) , I mean if your church is facing forclosure or the bills are not being paid. I do not think that God co-signed that loan. His credit is good from what I know. LOL You might need to check the churches loan documents.

Yes I am 420 friendly at the moment.

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
1:54 pm

it’s not that big a surprise that they’d perpetrate such a mis-reading of the Bible. Hypocrites.
Lots of misreadings being perpetrated these days. The preachers are guilty for perpetrating things they KNOW aren’t true. The members are guilty for blindly following and not finding the truth on their own.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:55 pm

Leggs, is the guy with the soft peter the guy you met at the gas station?

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:55 pm

@ABC and Sexy and Carlito..yall know ya’ll gone die and go to hell for not tithing..LMAO!!! I am joking. I visited a church just like Abc described on Sunday. It was come as you are, the pastor was in jeans, the music was great and then the pastor, said give if you like but please dont feel like you have to give because you are visiting us for Easter Sunday. The church is focused on feeding the poor, and spreading the news to the lost.(they have a ministry that goes out to Fulton Industrial and a recovery ministry for addicts.) I was truly impressed because I felt like it was just real people doing what you should really do as a Christian and as a citizen of the world.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:56 pm

Dreams, I always tell people that if they are at the same church for multiple years and are not having any personal growth. They are in the wrong church. If you have had the same problems 10 years later that you had when you got there. ummmmmmmm

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:59 pm

Kym, that is cool. There are some real congregations out there, to hear some tell it there are not.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:00 pm

Oh…and for those that do tithe, my hats off to ya’.

I just know that I would be tithing AND fasting because I would not be doing any saving, investing or eating if I were giving up nearly $400 a month to a church.

Melo_Luv Doctor

April 13th, 2010
2:00 pm

If you have had the same problems 10 years later that you had when you got there. ummmmmmmm

Halleluah..holy ghost!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:02 pm

SexyCool, you are funny. Thing is, if you tithe or not it is nobody else business except your own. I havent specifically said if I do or if I dont. Anyone who brags about it, doesnt really get it. IMO

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:03 pm

@Carlito I was impressed..they welcome all faiths..they had some folks there from Jews for Jesus.(didn’t even know there was such a thing) there were people of all colors, backgrounds..it was really refreshing.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:03 pm

Big Ben, better get suspended. Holmes got a 4 game suspension.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:05 pm

Kym, yes that is wonderful. I have been leaning more towards a non denominational church rather than my traditional catholic as of late.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:07 pm

I agree with you, Carlito.

It is only my business. Doesn’t really need a defense, but I have come up against those who have damned me to hell for *stealing from God.* And those that believe that the reason that I’m not making more money (so that I can tithe more) is because I’m not tithing.

Needless to say, I’ve attended those churches that *live by the tithe.*

At this point in my life, I’m over it. I got to survive as a *currently* single chick determined to live within my means. I have no problem standing on judgement day for that decision.

:)

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:08 pm

Carlito I love Big Ben..he is my boy..but he is not the brightest star..so yes..as much as it pains me to type this..yes he deserves to be suspended for a few games. If nothing else cause he is not the brightest damn star.

abc

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

Kym, if your friend has shown him that she likes him, she should just relax, and if the guy is going to pursue her, let him do it in his own good time. The most important initial measure of a man is if he’s man enough to even get it all started! If not, how interesting is he to your friend, really?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

Kym, very true. My convo is not about Ben per say, but the way Goodell handles things. He is harsher on minority players and now Goodell has himself in the spotlight. Why Ben is in another questionable situation with a woman and the first case is not resolved yet. I have no clue.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

kym i am so ready for some football!!!! I just keep thinking bout how warren sapp was arrested and fired i think or suspended not sure from the network regarding his domestic dispute and that chic wouldn’t leave his house…..smh @ drama and how the media views it….

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

Carlito/Kym – What grounds would you say they have to suspend Ben?

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

I don’t know if anyone watched TVOne this weekend but they had a Richard Pryor show marathon. He had this one character he did on his show this flashy preacher who was tell the tv viewers that he would see them next week but incase they died to send in their offerings now. Also, don’t make the offerings out to God, because he has a hard time cashing the checks at the bank. God don’t have ID..LMAO

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
2:12 pm

Carlito little freaky Ben is going down, I think he will get at least a 4 game suspension.

Hey remember folks you can always give your time to the church. Most churches do some excellent community work.

Kym your friend did not want to go out when he asked at a moment notice, now she hints today she is going to lunch at a moment notice! The young brotha was like naw I’m good! Just like you stated she needs to ask him to lunch!

Carlito is the Pope innocent or guilty for keeping the priests who molested the children? How do you feel about all the molesting from the catholic priest?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:13 pm

SexyCool, I am going to “make it rain” at Bible study this week. I am going to show it when the plate comes by. Just throw some benjamins all up in the air from my seat and then nod my head. They will know then…

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
2:14 pm

@Kym ~ she could have easily asked him to join her as she went out to get a sandwich. I find it strange that she’s now shaking her head wondering if he’s really interested or not. What harm is there in her asking him to join her. Did she think if she had asked she would be asking him out first?

@Elijah ~ so I’ve been told (LOL)!

@Carlito ~ yes, he is.

@SexyC ~ they’re still dating, undercover that is. She’s madly in love with this man. BUT, no one knows about the relationship. Well, I know and her daughter (22) knows. Her son doesn’t know his mother is sleeping with his coach. None of the parents know on either the boys team nor the girls track team. They go on dates very often, but when at track meets they act like parent talking with the coach. I sit next to her so I know when he calls her. As he’s on the field talking to her she’s next to me giggling and squirming. She let’s me read his text msgs of “hey sexy, I see you sitting over there.” Stuff like that. Her nose is wide open with his sexual prowess. All I can tell her is “do your thang girl.” I long ago told her to stop telling me about their sexual romps.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:14 pm

Sexy Cool, while he is preaching on Sunday. I am going to walk up to the stage during the middle of service and “make it rain” :)

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:14 pm

Willie..isn’t there some moral clause written into their contracts. Behavior clause or something. What did they get Pac-Man for?

In Ben’s case there should be a dumb clause. Year one-riding no damn helmet..last year sleeping with a old hooker and getting caught up…this year..hanging out in a backwoods trailer in the woods gropping co-eds..in the bathroom. The boy is just not bright!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:16 pm

you stoopid.

Melo_Luv Doctor

April 13th, 2010
2:17 pm

@Carlito/Kym??

as lame as Ben is, I dont think he deserves any suspensions or action from the commissioner..for what??

There is no crime in being stupid!
He has not committed a crime,civily nor criminally..so no harsh action on the nfl admin part..but he is stupid for putting himself in that crap,dealing with college kids and not adults and not being able to screen circumstances that cld potentially put him in trble.
So far,no evidence of a punishable offense.

Sexually dumb is just that,unfortuanately.

Infact,Big Ben is so sexxaully lame and dumb and incapable of getting/dating women that he cannot be punished!

Gross! :lol:

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:17 pm

pac-man is a good example and strip clubs keep him sidelined for making poor decions at those venues…..yep kym I agree Ben should get something!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:18 pm

ok melo you broke that dumb guess that is why the DA told him to grow up huh…..hmmmm

Wise Diva

April 13th, 2010
2:20 pm

sorry about that Carlito, not sure why that got caught in the spam

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:20 pm

Elijah, like I said. I am exploring non denominational churches now.

Dreams, I think if Goodell is constant, as in he doesnt care if the legal system has found you not guilty, If you bring a shadow on the league you have to pay the price. Holmes was accused of throwing a drink, most witnesses say someone else threw it. He still got four games. Adam Jones although a checkered past got into a playful wrestling match with his security and damaged a hotel room he got a year. No criminal charges there either. Big Ben, 1st accussation, Goodell did nothing. Now we have the exact same thing again. What is Goodell going to do? Ben is a major face in the NFL so his actions bring more of a shadow than say a PacMan or Holmes. I just want the guy to be consistent and not target “certain” types of people.

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
2:20 pm

Kym – I agree with everything you stated specially the Dumb clause. I dont think he should be Suspended. He does/did have two similar cases yet he has not been charged for anything.

Goodell usually steps in after Criminal proceedings have taken place. PacMan had several Criminal proceedings. Santonio got 4 games because he was at too many 4 2 0 festivals.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:24 pm

Exactly Lady J!

If Ben is so lame and incapable as his escapades suggest,he needs to ask his homies for help,get himself a low esteem chic with the right dimensions(plenty there in the philly country) and be done with it!

:lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:24 pm

I think Pac Man will be playing this year. I can not remember the team that is making him an offer. there were two but one beat the other out.

Wise Diva, I was getting frustrated. LOL

SexyCool, “get money” :)

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
2:25 pm

Kym..what church is that? That sounds like a good church>

Carlito…please don’t turn Julia into a “Vegetarian”! :shock: :lol:

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:26 pm

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:27 pm

The girl had vaginal tearing and scratches. She choose not to prosecute, why did not the state pick it up? Oh, because the DA did not thing he could win. Let it had been a 3rd string NFL player and there be some vaginal scratches. It would be a wrap. Big Ben has a god get out of jail for free card.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:28 pm

BlackMagicWoman, Julia loves “meat” LOL Spicy sausage.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
2:29 pm

@Carlito ~ if you do let Julia try “some,” please warn her about the giggles, the munchies, the redness of the eyes and perhaps even the paranoia….I was with a gf a few years back and never puffed around her. Well, lo and behold she pulled one out and started puffing. That girl scared my high away. She never stopped laughing and I thought somehting was seriously wrong with her. It made me so uneasy I told her she should never, ever take another puff if she’s around people!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:29 pm

all i have to say is strike 3 not wishing bad luck but folk don’t change…..something will humble his silly ass with time!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
2:30 pm

Hello Sassy!

How is my little island lady doing today?

Professor…..I need some one on one schooling! Can I enlist your help! :smile:

Carlito that is a tough subject regarding the Pope? Once we get past the religious aspect we can now focus on growing spiritually!

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:30 pm

BMW you have to come outside the Perimeter..but the church is called Community Bible. Here is the web address: http://www.communitybiblechurch.com/

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:31 pm

Leggs, I am a great case study for her. I just start saying what is on my mind and doing “things” :)

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:32 pm

Elijah, very tough subject indeed.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:35 pm

@Carlito??

the DA said the chic gave conflicting statements!..the dna was inconclisive altho it did show male dna presence biut it was too small to pin it to an individual.When they wqere about to do further tests,qstioned the chic further,she gave conflicting statements.

In the DNA’s almost exact words,to convict, a criminal jury requires evidence that shows ” beyond reasonable doubt” that someone is guilty.

This biacth was wish washyg! suggesting other motives.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:36 pm

In the DA’S

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:37 pm

@Carlitio..Big Ben had Ed Garland..enough said.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
2:37 pm

How is my little island lady doing today?

Heeeey Eli….you always know what to say to put a smile on my face…..MMMMMUUUUUAAAAAAHHHHHHH ;) I just gave you a chocolate kiss and I ain’t talkin’ Hershey’s either :)

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:37 pm

yep melo that was my take she wasn’t reliable at all and the articles i read was she was beyond pissy drunk….she may not know what happened if anything did it is just the feeling i guess if it did she wanted to turn him in bc after that moment that was it…..being drunk and getting raped is still not acceptable it is just was she raped or assualted

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:39 pm

I agree with the *Grow up* sentiment. Dude, you are how old? You are how famous? You make how many millions? You are still smashing drunk ass chicks in bar bathrooms?

For real?

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:41 pm

As for the Roman Catholiboys Church,yesterday, I heard a Bishop on tv say,from now on,they(the pimp church) will forward all cases of alleged sexxaul abuse to the police.

Now,thats a clear admission that they have been abusing boys/kids since inception and covering up.

What a church!???

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
2:41 pm

Ben got off cause it didnt fit.. Say it with me everyone.. If it dont fit you must acquit..

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:43 pm

dk too funny!

Lord Velonese

April 13th, 2010
2:44 pm

“Yes, super nice girls are out there, men.”
“Nice girls finish last too”

Really? I’m calling BS on that one.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:45 pm

My issue is not with the legal system on this one. Although I have seen people go away with far less evidence. I am talking on Goodell and his way of doing things, he is not balanced in his position.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:46 pm

Carlito that is it “he is not balanced in his position” I so agree and not for the obvious but really balanced he is not!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:47 pm

@DK??

I heard on radio this morning about whats going on with Nas and his baby mama Kelis….i felt mad for him,like it was me….

this system is a mfckker for real!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:48 pm

Lady J, you understand what I am saying :)

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
2:48 pm

If you have had the same problems 10 years later that you had when you got there.
abc I agree completely with this. I think this can also be applied to the neighborhoods in which these churches are located. The church has been in the neighborhood for 50 years, but the liquor store and strip club have been across the street from the church the since it opened. The neighborhood is as economically depraved as it was 50 years ago, and the people in the neighborhood aren’t any more spiritual than they were 50 years ago.

Elijah, like I said. I am exploring non denominational churches now.
Be careful looking for greener pastures. There is some amount of dirt to be found wherever you go.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
2:50 pm

Kym – Love the what that church is doing. Frankly, I don’t understand why we have these huge mega churches in Atlanta metro area and they’re not doing more….. but I digress. I’m glad some churches are doing it…

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:50 pm

kels know something we don’t I don’t know any judge if my ex made that kind of money would grant me such a settlement! Oh my! Just the thought of it! wow!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:51 pm

Dreams, I wrote both of those that you quoted. On the exploring a different religion, I have various reasons for doing that and they are all spiritual. Not because of the negative light that is being shown upon the catholic church right now.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:51 pm

meant kelis…..wow she is getting paid and for what again bc the marriage failed???? child support???? wow those are major annual salaries that some ceo’s don’t make anymore during this economy…wow I am baffeled with the results!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:53 pm

Have a baby by me. Be a millionaire.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:53 pm

How much is Kelis getting? Is her milkshake that good?

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:53 pm

sexycool you aint neva lied!

mqew

April 13th, 2010
2:54 pm

How much is Kelis suppose to be receiving from him?

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:54 pm

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:55 pm

one poster wrote this yall

does Nas even make 44K a month? lmao

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
2:57 pm

@Carlito ~ would you consider visiting a church in Conyers???

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:01 pm

Traffic is going to be everywhere this weekend.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:01 pm

Nas needs to work it out or have here offed.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:02 pm

Leggs, where is Conyers?

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
3:02 pm

carlito!!!!!!!!! lol

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:06 pm

@Carlito ~ I take that as a No….seriously, I-20 E, exit 82. There’s a fabulous, down to earth church in Conyers….Church in the Now! Very relaxing atmosphere, genuine people, very diversified congregation and Bishop is too cool for words! With CITN, you aren’t pressed to reach into your pockets, and you will walk away feeling great and no doubt will like the message!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
3:07 pm

Is her milkshake that good?

It was good enough to give her his last name….but some cat she made a sex tape with before they got married decided to show it to ERRBODY, and Nasir couldn’t/didn’t deal with it too well. I thought they made a cute couple.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:09 pm

Also, the choir is outstanding….not your typical choir. The drummer and electric guitar players are smoking!!!!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
3:09 pm

I have seen some of the broadcasts for Church in the Now. Enjoyed it.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
3:09 pm

OMG Remember that horrible song she made (besides Milkshake) Bossy! Ugggghh I hated that song!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:10 pm

Leggs, I am currently giving a Church some visits now to see it if it s for me. If not I will come to that one. I would like to make it through the current series first.

Sassy, there is a tape?

Lady J, that is a bunch of money.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:11 pm

Excuse me for not responding, I am searching google for the tape

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
3:12 pm

Kelis Milkshake is very good! Kelis made nas scream for mercy when she was riding that brotha!

DreamsMaterial once we get away from the church size, the religious aspect, the congregational judging then you can find a good old spiritual place!

I am in Favor of Ben being punished ( Bad Conduct that is detrimental to the team image) Sit him down for 6 games. Oh I hate the Steelers!

Yea Leggs where is Conyers? Is that where produce all that corn liquor?

I see we have some functioning Alcholics on the BLOG! :smile:

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:18 pm

Conyers sounds far, but really isn’t.

@Carlito ~ if it doesn’t pan out, visit CITN. Have no doubt, you like it. It’s the first church that I actually miss when I’m not there! I don’t feel like it’s an “obligation” to go every Sunday…I want to go!!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:18 pm

@Elijah ~ corn liquor in Conyers…probably!

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
3:18 pm

there is a tape?

I don’t know lito…that’s just what I had heard but something must’ve been true cause they split up not too long after that. I saw him at Visions back when it was open and…well actually my bff and I grabbed this butt we saw in a nice pair of white jeans and when he turned around it was Nasir…we were like :shock: :oops: but he took it in stride and chatted us up a lil.

blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol…..

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:23 pm

Well, if that was her in the video i just watched. She is definitely spank worthy.

mqew

April 13th, 2010
3:23 pm

Soooooo Nas has a nice ass hunh :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
3:23 pm

Aint no milkshake worth that.. Another miscarrige of justice…

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
3:27 pm

Soooooo Nas has a nice ass hunh

Uhh hunh….nice n high n tight. The funny thing is we both grabbed it at the same time w/out even thinking about it…she had the left and I the right…thoooose were the daaaaays.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
3:28 pm

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
3:30 pm

DK – I’ll Cosign that

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
3:31 pm

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:32 pm

@InfamousD ~ when I got the email this morning outlining all the money Kelis was going to receive, I immediately thought of you!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
3:33 pm

Sassy – come grab me in the biscuits and see what happens… I once got busy in a burger king bathroom.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:33 pm

I would like to try some $40k per month snatch. Just to see what it is like.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:34 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
3:35 pm

Leggs – Nas got pathetic lawyers.. Aint no way. Im not saying what OJ did was right but I understand

SlimCoo-Coo

April 13th, 2010
3:35 pm

heyyyyy, i live in Conyers….never had any corn licka out this way

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
3:36 pm

Lil Duval has been ragging her all day long on Twitter.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:37 pm

Did you see what Jim Carey said about Elin, LOL

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
3:39 pm

About her sharing a part of the blame of T’s extracurricular activities.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:41 pm

Yes, they are letting him have it. Reminded me of the blog.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
3:41 pm

Is Diddy paying thgat much for each of his kids??

I feel sorry for these celebrities getting bankrupted by their wangs!

Bad choices too!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:43 pm

Would not need condoms, just think about those payments. That would take me out of the mood.

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
3:44 pm

Tiger is under a lot of pressure so he needs that PSH on the side that he was not getting from his wife. You know you cannot choke you wife but you can choke a pornstar! :smile:

SlimOne I was reading some of your comments regarding the drinking! You are someting else! I likey! :smile:

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:44 pm

@InfamousD ~ again I agree, his lawyers did such a disservice to him.

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
3:46 pm

Nas got got. Put down with Michael Strahan.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:47 pm

@DreamsM ~ he sure did and Kelis is literally LOL!!!!!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
3:49 pm

I am amazed that if Tiger was raw dogging with all these women and not a single one of them reported they were pregnant by The Tiger. Tiger must have had the Big V.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
3:49 pm

You know you cannot choke you wife but you can choke a pornstar,get her to swallow while being deep throated at the same time!

@Elijah??

u getting nastier by the day!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
3:52 pm

Dayum its hard out here on Married dudes.

lurker

April 13th, 2010
3:52 pm

@Elijah??

u getting nastier by the day!

That was funny…I read it that way as well….funny though

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:52 pm

Elijay, Tiger was going raw with these women?

I will not comment on the choking since someone has commented on some of the things I have said on here. LOL Julia is a troll

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
3:53 pm

Elijah – Supposedly one said she got preggers twice. She miscarried one & aborted the other.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
3:54 pm

Correction – Julia is a lurker.

Trolls are the ones that show up out of nowhere and attack people and make ugly comments.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:55 pm

SexyCool, thank you. LOL

lurker

April 13th, 2010
3:56 pm

I’m the regular lurker that’s always been “lurker” can’t speak for other folks, even though tagged as trolls….even though this is a public forum. Never understand this attitude

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
3:57 pm

lurker and Melo did you guys read the e-mails Tiger sent to the pornstar? I think Tiger wanted to make some XXX movies!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
3:58 pm

Put this out there in advance…anybody want to join me for drinks afterwork on Friday?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
3:59 pm

Tiger text were GREAT

Melo

April 13th, 2010
3:59 pm

not a single one of them reported they were pregnant by The Tiger

@Elijah??

Tiger was paying for mouth-come,not V-jay come! so no preggers there!

why are u kinda confused?? :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
3:59 pm

I was watching the Masters Sunday (listening to those loud ass birds drowning out the commentators) and kept thinking, “Tiger, you a freak!” and laughing.

lurker

April 13th, 2010
3:59 pm

understood is what I meant

Elijah you’ve been a bad boy lately. Guess these married dudes and their bad decisions are getting under your skin

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:00 pm

mouth come + swallowing!

Priceless!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
4:01 pm

lurker are you the female lurker?

Carlito I find it hard to believe that Tiger was not using condoms when sexing these women. They are trying to sensationlize the story.

Kimmie well it has been 5 or 6 months and none these women who are trying to get their claim to fame has not made any comments regarding the topic!

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:01 pm

Eli, didn’t see that but at this point, all those chicken heads he was messing with, nothing is surprising…yep he’s a freak. Guess Elin wasn’t putting it down like he wanted. Being a freak though, he still would have stepped out. Her only other option was doing the “Dushawn”, bring in a friend.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:02 pm

@SexyC ~ I watached a little of the Masters wondering if he was going to be nice to the crowd and to see if his game was up to par!

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:02 pm

Eli – female

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
4:05 pm

Lady lurker I am surprised by your comments since I have not been able to blog recently. So why am I put in the bad boy category? You know I am one of the nice guys who finish first very often!

Melo you must have the inside scope on how Tiger was getting down huh?

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:09 pm

They are definetly castrating him.Or rather,he casrteated his self! :lol:

check
http://sports.yahoo.com/golf/blog/devil_ball_golf/post/Jim-Nantz-criticizes-Tiger-Woods-vocal-tantrums?urn=golf,233852

Tiger and competitiveness means foul language. When he misses a shot=foul lingo and cursing..when he misses a birdee or eagle= cursing..when he hits the rough and not the fairway =cursing.he promised to stop that,he cursed a lot sunday and lost.

If he has to get back to winning,either he goes to therapy again and do a complete make over with no cursing and no side phluckking or he reverts back to the old Tiger with sailor like cursing and u not what??..side cleansing. :lol:

I like Old Tiger better!

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:10 pm

Eli – Not in a bad way, I was kidding. Just sort of like reading someone that’s typically quiet or never makes a fuss, come out and say how they REALLY feel…more so like that. Naaah, you’re one of the “not so much fuss” blog dudes.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:10 pm

Put this out there in advance…anybody want to join me for drinks afterwork on Friday?

@Leggs??

count me(tentatively) in but where??

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
4:10 pm

ChickenHeads yep I agree. I’m disappointed in ol boy. If he gon step out like that at least let it be with some Chicks that everybody will understand and see how it could happen. He out here with less than average random ChickenHeads. C’mon Man

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
4:11 pm

I think it’s hilarious that Tiger calls himself by name when he’s cursing himself out.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:11 pm

I was told I am not a nice guy. Hoo da fudge cares. LOL

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:12 pm

How about O’Charley’s North Lake?? I welcome any suggestions.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:12 pm

Willie, maybe they were great in bed?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:14 pm

Halle Berry, Beyonce, Superhead or Kelis. diseases aside I would choose Superhead, I have seen video of what she brings to the table. She is the ugliest of the four, but it is not about the looks. LOL

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:15 pm

@My Italian Studmuffin ~ exactly…Julia thinks you’re nice and that’s all that matters!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:15 pm

O’Charley’s North Lake??
@Leggs!

do they serve nice bar food??

location wld be ideal for me tho??

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
4:15 pm

maybe, but all I’m sayimg is check the line-up. Heyal you prolly got a better starting 10 then this Dude. Shiiiiiid I’m a regular Joe and I know a good 7-8 of his I wouldnt touch as a youngsta.

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:17 pm

I guess my only disappointment lies not so much as him and his so-called “now” tarnished image because heck I don’t put anything past anybody. Not saying we’ll all do something dumb and shallow, just frankly not surprised anymore. I’m just surprised how that, no matter how many examples we see and hear, somebody will still be dumb enough to think they can do the same exact thing/crime and have a different outcome. Really, he’s got enough money to almost buy a plan if he can’t think of one but to have that much disregard for your marriage and you just screwing anything breathing is what surprises me. No discretion or anything. Just any ole chickenhead

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:19 pm

@Carlito??

I wld say Bee just coz of the moves she makes on stage,u wld think?? …i dont EVEN know why Halle Berry is on there(she looks active to u??) a flaby in bed??….but next time if u talking to me,dont bring up her name! persona nan grata here! :lol: :lol:

Superhead?? she got too much wear and tear! :lol: :lol:

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
4:19 pm

Willie I agree why mess with Chicken heads when you can pick-em! Their are so many ladies who will do whatever you need them to do if you name the right price!

Thanks lurker their no reason to get dramatic on a blog and in life. Jahovah has bless us with great life which is a good reason to make everyday a good day!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:19 pm

Leggs, she is the one who said I was not a nice guy. LOL

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:20 pm

Halle Berry, Superhead or Kelis….ummm I ain’t hating cause to each his own but this ain’t really a good lineup. Superhead might win for the most talented but can we really lay that claim to her not knowing the skills of the others.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:21 pm

Melo, maybe but not her mouth :)

If a woman is knowlngly messing with a married man she is a Chicken Head, so any woman Tiger would have messed with is a chicken head. Like they did not know who he was?

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:22 pm

Eli – easy like sunday morning…the best kinds

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:23 pm

lurker, I just pulled some names out of the air. I have seen her videos so I was going with what I know. I have not seen the others in action so why take a chance? It’s all about a “”nut” not love. So in my mind she will give me the best nut.

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
4:24 pm

My typing sucks that’s Jehovah!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:24 pm

Okay, what am I talking about. LOL Next topic please. I am sitting here rationalizing Superhead. I thought you all were my friends. You all are just going to let me stick it in her mouth. “I surrounded myself with the wrong people” – said at my media conference

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:25 pm

@Carlito ~ that was funny…you’re in trouble!

@Melo ~ I think they do…what do you consider bar food?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:26 pm

Leggs, she is just spoiled. lol

SlimCoo-Coo

April 13th, 2010
4:26 pm

“You know I am one of the nice guys who finish first very often!”

Elijah – um…i’m not sure that is a good thing. Guess you’re one of those dudes who says, “we started at the same time”…when a chick looks at you sideways with that “I know you just didn’t…” look on her face. :lol:

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:29 pm

I think they do…what do you consider bar food?

@Leggs!

wings that rock
samwenches that tilli tat the palate esp when gin and vodka is on deck,mixxing with it.
lady finger foods that enhance their sexxiness with dudes around

Any other filling foods that are well priced and taste good,jes in case u planning to go lay the pipe with the one u with! :lol:

:lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 13th, 2010
4:29 pm

Willie I agree why mess with Chicken heads when you can pick-em!
I think you all might be getting it twisted just a little. The “chicken heads” aren’t the only ones, they’re just the only ones talking because they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. The company execs and high stature chicks he was smashing ain’t talking because they have too much to lose.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:30 pm

If a woman is knowlngly messing with a married man she is a Chicken Head

@Carlito??

dont say that!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:32 pm

The company execs and high stature chicks he was smashing ain’t talking because they have too much to lose.

Yep, them too

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:33 pm

@Carlito??

I know u aint married yet but here is one lesson u need to understand:

a man must never opine derogatively on another man’s dealings with his other women!

Coz u know James brown said it…

Its a Man world! Our world..u digg??..u and I and all men here!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
4:34 pm

“Men may rule the world. But women rule the men.”

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
4:36 pm

Why are we still talking about old tired Tiger again?

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:36 pm

Men may rule the world. But women rule the men
@Scool??

I agree..

( u got delta reservations number by the way?)

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
4:36 pm

Slimone First means means in what I compete in? Work, sports, etc.
Slimone I see you are one of those quick witted sexually charged sista!

Since Superhead has outed everyone it seems like a landslide to get on T.V. and tell everyone you were banging a married man!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:36 pm

Melo, a chickenhead is a chicken head. Do you respect a woman if she disrespects your wife or main girl? I would not. Even for guys who cheat there has to be one part of him saying “You nasty heifer”. But they hit it anyway.

SexyCool, women do not know their full power and those that do usually abuse it. LOL

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:37 pm

Dagnabit, Melo, just answer the question and leave sex out. Don’t know about samwenches, but google O’Charley’s menu and take a gander for yourself. I love their shrimp and 3-cheese dip.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
4:38 pm

Google it, Melo.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:38 pm

kimmie, Tiger is not tired Elin was. Tiger has lots of energy. LOL

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:38 pm

Melo, you have fallen from grace with the ladies. LOL.

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
4:43 pm

Carlito – Yeah, well if he’d spent his loads of energy concentrating on golf, maybe he would have won the Master’s!LOL!! Plus, you prolly would have a lot of energy too if you hadn’t popped out 2 babies!

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
4:44 pm

Carlito, when did Melo every have “grace with the ladies” LOL!!

Luvbug

April 13th, 2010
4:44 pm

sneaking back in…

Carlito – Superhead can get it?

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:44 pm

Even for guys who cheat there has to be one part of him saying “You nasty heifer”.

@Carlito??

naw my boy..the heiffer part only comes out when they break up un ceremoniously or in acrimony.
So for u,the cheating man,she wont be a heiffer but to ur wife and all outsiders,yeah shes a heiffer!

Even Julia,the moment she seeing another dude and not u who causes the demise of ur relatiosnhip,may become classified as heiffer.

So heiffer is a relative and subjective term.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:46 pm

Melo, you have fallen from grace with the ladies.

Carlito??

I got one reputation in the morn and another in the afternoon with these blog ladies!

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:46 pm

Do you respect a woman if she disrespects your wife or main girl?

Are you kidding me? She’s a chicken head ONLY because she didn’t have respect for his woman. Ummmm, how about we begin with him. Is it not his choice to go alooking, a chickhead hunt? Just wow…she’s a chicken head because she didn’t respect his woman but it’s him that’s looking. Not saying all men outright hunt because some women prowl as well but let’s lay the blame to all parties invovled.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:48 pm

Google it, Melo.

@Scool??

why u like to give me the run around?? :lol:

Luvbug

April 13th, 2010
4:48 pm

Carlito, when did Melo every have “grace with the ladies”

Kimmie- Now you know Melo hypnotizes the ladies. LOL

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:50 pm

lurker, why so serious? The act of disrespect is those two messing around in the first place. I did not say he was not disrespecting his woman. I focused on the point I was trying to make. Are you looking to be upset. Here ride my horse.

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
4:50 pm

lurker, girl, you wasting your breath! Now in the case of Tiger, yeah he’s the one that took the vows & he cheated & the women knew he was married so they are wrong too.

But I cannot count the number of “ringless” married men that have hit on me! I have a good radar, though, and other ways to find out if dude is “entangled”! But it is downright ridiculous!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
4:51 pm

Melo – I don’t work for Delta. I would have to get the number the same way you can.
:p

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:51 pm

kimmie, Melo is Mack A Roni Tony.

lurker, if you do not know at the end of every day I am on here I try and get the ladies pissed or bothered. They recognize me for it and usually just laugh. Thank you for biting today :)

kimmie

April 13th, 2010
4:51 pm

Luvbug – LOL, he thinks so anyway!!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:52 pm

Is it not his choice to go alooking, a chickhead hunt?

@Lurker??

Its his choice,to answer ur qstion and/but he did not call them chicken heads! :lol:

Other pple did/do!

(dont get upset) :lol:

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:52 pm

@Carlito ~ that doesn’t sound like the same horse you’ve been riding backwards!!!!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:53 pm

404 765-5000…I use this number at least 20,000 times a month!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:54 pm

That number was for you, Melo!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:56 pm

Melo – I don’t work for Delta

@Scool??
i know that!

I know i aint Dude but if i ask for sme,a nice lady(we talking about that today arent we??), will say,ok sir,lemme check! :lol: :lol:

or u giving me ur other biaatch side u mentioned this morning?? :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:57 pm

Leggs, you have a keen eye. It is not the same horse, no look at the horse not look at me look at the horse now look at me. Yes, hung like a horse. LOL

Melo

April 13th, 2010
4:57 pm

Awe Leggs!

stepping like a lady!

Thnx! :lol:

u can tell im married/spoiled! :lol:

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
4:58 pm

eight
six
seven
five
three
oooooo…niiiiiiinnnnnne

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
4:58 pm

How did you know, Mel?

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
4:59 pm

@Carlito ~ hold out your hand so I can smack it with this ruler!!!!

lurker

April 13th, 2010
4:59 pm

Carlito, I called them chicken heads but not for the same reason as you did. You said because they disrespect a wife or main girl by knowingly sleeping with a taken man…did you hear youself say that? Main girl? So a man is entitled and nothing more the wrong? I said chicken head because if they sleep with married men, I’m sure they are mentally screwed up, as a whole. Chicken head, IMO means a certain mentality. Not because she disrepected a man’s live in lover or main girl. I’m out.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
4:59 pm

Headed out – early softball game tonight.
I’m hitting a homer!!!
yrb!!!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
5:01 pm

“Ever notice that the people who are late are often much jollier than the people who have to wait for them?”

Try to be on time and respect other people and their time!

Nitey nite!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
5:02 pm

You see, nice girls do finish last (LOL)!

Melo

April 13th, 2010
5:03 pm

Leggs!

nice girld for sho

good nite!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
5:04 pm

lurker, know that I will just say stuff to get a reaction. Thank you. I am not taking that conversation serious by any means. lol

Leggs, ciao bella

Melo

April 13th, 2010
5:04 pm

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
5:08 pm

@Melo, I said nice girls finish last!

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
5:09 pm

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
5:24 pm

You guys are too funny!