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Nice girls finish last too?

We hear all the time that nice guys finish last, but does the same ring true for super nice girls? Do they get glanced over as well?  Yes, super nice girls are out there, men.

I find it so fascinating (and by fascinating, I mean annoying) when I am super nice to some guys, they try to take my kindness for weakness.  Then I have to show the feisty side when I am challenged.When this happens, why does this often turn the guy on more? Is it because he’s lame and should be left alone?

I don’t like acting like a witch, but I always learn a lot about a guy when I’m in one of those modes.  It’s not about that “cute when you’re mad” excuse, either.  Challenging women attract a particular type of man. The question is, would I want that kind of man for my own?

Do you think that when you date someone new, you go through a phase where you are seeing what kind of boundaries the person has?

Is it true that nice girls finish last? How do men interpret a nice girl’s behavior? Do they test her to see how nice she really is?

Ladies, do you find that being nice on the dating scene works best for you? Do you think being harsh with men is a defense tool women use as emotional protection?  Does that actually work?

Do nice girls finish last?

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Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:55 pm

Leggs, is the guy with the soft peter the guy you met at the gas station?

Kym

April 13th, 2010
1:55 pm

@ABC and Sexy and Carlito..yall know ya’ll gone die and go to hell for not tithing..LMAO!!! I am joking. I visited a church just like Abc described on Sunday. It was come as you are, the pastor was in jeans, the music was great and then the pastor, said give if you like but please dont feel like you have to give because you are visiting us for Easter Sunday. The church is focused on feeding the poor, and spreading the news to the lost.(they have a ministry that goes out to Fulton Industrial and a recovery ministry for addicts.) I was truly impressed because I felt like it was just real people doing what you should really do as a Christian and as a citizen of the world.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:56 pm

Dreams, I always tell people that if they are at the same church for multiple years and are not having any personal growth. They are in the wrong church. If you have had the same problems 10 years later that you had when you got there. ummmmmmmm

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
1:59 pm

Kym, that is cool. There are some real congregations out there, to hear some tell it there are not.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:00 pm

Oh…and for those that do tithe, my hats off to ya’.

I just know that I would be tithing AND fasting because I would not be doing any saving, investing or eating if I were giving up nearly $400 a month to a church.

Melo_Luv Doctor

April 13th, 2010
2:00 pm

If you have had the same problems 10 years later that you had when you got there. ummmmmmmm

Halleluah..holy ghost!

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:02 pm

SexyCool, you are funny. Thing is, if you tithe or not it is nobody else business except your own. I havent specifically said if I do or if I dont. Anyone who brags about it, doesnt really get it. IMO

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:03 pm

@Carlito I was impressed..they welcome all faiths..they had some folks there from Jews for Jesus.(didn’t even know there was such a thing) there were people of all colors, backgrounds..it was really refreshing.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:03 pm

Big Ben, better get suspended. Holmes got a 4 game suspension.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:05 pm

Kym, yes that is wonderful. I have been leaning more towards a non denominational church rather than my traditional catholic as of late.

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:07 pm

I agree with you, Carlito.

It is only my business. Doesn’t really need a defense, but I have come up against those who have damned me to hell for *stealing from God.* And those that believe that the reason that I’m not making more money (so that I can tithe more) is because I’m not tithing.

Needless to say, I’ve attended those churches that *live by the tithe.*

At this point in my life, I’m over it. I got to survive as a *currently* single chick determined to live within my means. I have no problem standing on judgement day for that decision.

:)

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:08 pm

Carlito I love Big Ben..he is my boy..but he is not the brightest star..so yes..as much as it pains me to type this..yes he deserves to be suspended for a few games. If nothing else cause he is not the brightest damn star.

abc

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

Kym, if your friend has shown him that she likes him, she should just relax, and if the guy is going to pursue her, let him do it in his own good time. The most important initial measure of a man is if he’s man enough to even get it all started! If not, how interesting is he to your friend, really?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

Kym, very true. My convo is not about Ben per say, but the way Goodell handles things. He is harsher on minority players and now Goodell has himself in the spotlight. Why Ben is in another questionable situation with a woman and the first case is not resolved yet. I have no clue.

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

kym i am so ready for some football!!!! I just keep thinking bout how warren sapp was arrested and fired i think or suspended not sure from the network regarding his domestic dispute and that chic wouldn’t leave his house…..smh @ drama and how the media views it….

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

Carlito/Kym – What grounds would you say they have to suspend Ben?

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:11 pm

I don’t know if anyone watched TVOne this weekend but they had a Richard Pryor show marathon. He had this one character he did on his show this flashy preacher who was tell the tv viewers that he would see them next week but incase they died to send in their offerings now. Also, don’t make the offerings out to God, because he has a hard time cashing the checks at the bank. God don’t have ID..LMAO

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
2:12 pm

Carlito little freaky Ben is going down, I think he will get at least a 4 game suspension.

Hey remember folks you can always give your time to the church. Most churches do some excellent community work.

Kym your friend did not want to go out when he asked at a moment notice, now she hints today she is going to lunch at a moment notice! The young brotha was like naw I’m good! Just like you stated she needs to ask him to lunch!

Carlito is the Pope innocent or guilty for keeping the priests who molested the children? How do you feel about all the molesting from the catholic priest?

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:13 pm

SexyCool, I am going to “make it rain” at Bible study this week. I am going to show it when the plate comes by. Just throw some benjamins all up in the air from my seat and then nod my head. They will know then…

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
2:14 pm

@Kym ~ she could have easily asked him to join her as she went out to get a sandwich. I find it strange that she’s now shaking her head wondering if he’s really interested or not. What harm is there in her asking him to join her. Did she think if she had asked she would be asking him out first?

@Elijah ~ so I’ve been told (LOL)!

@Carlito ~ yes, he is.

@SexyC ~ they’re still dating, undercover that is. She’s madly in love with this man. BUT, no one knows about the relationship. Well, I know and her daughter (22) knows. Her son doesn’t know his mother is sleeping with his coach. None of the parents know on either the boys team nor the girls track team. They go on dates very often, but when at track meets they act like parent talking with the coach. I sit next to her so I know when he calls her. As he’s on the field talking to her she’s next to me giggling and squirming. She let’s me read his text msgs of “hey sexy, I see you sitting over there.” Stuff like that. Her nose is wide open with his sexual prowess. All I can tell her is “do your thang girl.” I long ago told her to stop telling me about their sexual romps.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:14 pm

Sexy Cool, while he is preaching on Sunday. I am going to walk up to the stage during the middle of service and “make it rain” :)

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:14 pm

Willie..isn’t there some moral clause written into their contracts. Behavior clause or something. What did they get Pac-Man for?

In Ben’s case there should be a dumb clause. Year one-riding no damn helmet..last year sleeping with a old hooker and getting caught up…this year..hanging out in a backwoods trailer in the woods gropping co-eds..in the bathroom. The boy is just not bright!

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:16 pm

you stoopid.

Melo_Luv Doctor

April 13th, 2010
2:17 pm

@Carlito/Kym??

as lame as Ben is, I dont think he deserves any suspensions or action from the commissioner..for what??

There is no crime in being stupid!
He has not committed a crime,civily nor criminally..so no harsh action on the nfl admin part..but he is stupid for putting himself in that crap,dealing with college kids and not adults and not being able to screen circumstances that cld potentially put him in trble.
So far,no evidence of a punishable offense.

Sexually dumb is just that,unfortuanately.

Infact,Big Ben is so sexxaully lame and dumb and incapable of getting/dating women that he cannot be punished!

Gross! :lol:

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:17 pm

pac-man is a good example and strip clubs keep him sidelined for making poor decions at those venues…..yep kym I agree Ben should get something!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:18 pm

ok melo you broke that dumb guess that is why the DA told him to grow up huh…..hmmmm

Wise Diva

April 13th, 2010
2:20 pm

sorry about that Carlito, not sure why that got caught in the spam

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:20 pm

Elijah, like I said. I am exploring non denominational churches now.

Dreams, I think if Goodell is constant, as in he doesnt care if the legal system has found you not guilty, If you bring a shadow on the league you have to pay the price. Holmes was accused of throwing a drink, most witnesses say someone else threw it. He still got four games. Adam Jones although a checkered past got into a playful wrestling match with his security and damaged a hotel room he got a year. No criminal charges there either. Big Ben, 1st accussation, Goodell did nothing. Now we have the exact same thing again. What is Goodell going to do? Ben is a major face in the NFL so his actions bring more of a shadow than say a PacMan or Holmes. I just want the guy to be consistent and not target “certain” types of people.

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2010
2:20 pm

Kym – I agree with everything you stated specially the Dumb clause. I dont think he should be Suspended. He does/did have two similar cases yet he has not been charged for anything.

Goodell usually steps in after Criminal proceedings have taken place. PacMan had several Criminal proceedings. Santonio got 4 games because he was at too many 4 2 0 festivals.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:24 pm

Exactly Lady J!

If Ben is so lame and incapable as his escapades suggest,he needs to ask his homies for help,get himself a low esteem chic with the right dimensions(plenty there in the philly country) and be done with it!

:lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:24 pm

I think Pac Man will be playing this year. I can not remember the team that is making him an offer. there were two but one beat the other out.

Wise Diva, I was getting frustrated. LOL

SexyCool, “get money” :)

BlackMagicWoman

April 13th, 2010
2:25 pm

Kym..what church is that? That sounds like a good church>

Carlito…please don’t turn Julia into a “Vegetarian”! :shock: :lol:

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:26 pm

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:27 pm

The girl had vaginal tearing and scratches. She choose not to prosecute, why did not the state pick it up? Oh, because the DA did not thing he could win. Let it had been a 3rd string NFL player and there be some vaginal scratches. It would be a wrap. Big Ben has a god get out of jail for free card.

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:28 pm

BlackMagicWoman, Julia loves “meat” LOL Spicy sausage.

Leggs

April 13th, 2010
2:29 pm

@Carlito ~ if you do let Julia try “some,” please warn her about the giggles, the munchies, the redness of the eyes and perhaps even the paranoia….I was with a gf a few years back and never puffed around her. Well, lo and behold she pulled one out and started puffing. That girl scared my high away. She never stopped laughing and I thought somehting was seriously wrong with her. It made me so uneasy I told her she should never, ever take another puff if she’s around people!

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:29 pm

all i have to say is strike 3 not wishing bad luck but folk don’t change…..something will humble his silly ass with time!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

April 13th, 2010
2:30 pm

Hello Sassy!

How is my little island lady doing today?

Professor…..I need some one on one schooling! Can I enlist your help! :smile:

Carlito that is a tough subject regarding the Pope? Once we get past the religious aspect we can now focus on growing spiritually!

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:30 pm

BMW you have to come outside the Perimeter..but the church is called Community Bible. Here is the web address: http://www.communitybiblechurch.com/

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:31 pm

Leggs, I am a great case study for her. I just start saying what is on my mind and doing “things” :)

Carlito

April 13th, 2010
2:32 pm

Elijah, very tough subject indeed.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:35 pm

@Carlito??

the DA said the chic gave conflicting statements!..the dna was inconclisive altho it did show male dna presence biut it was too small to pin it to an individual.When they wqere about to do further tests,qstioned the chic further,she gave conflicting statements.

In the DNA’s almost exact words,to convict, a criminal jury requires evidence that shows ” beyond reasonable doubt” that someone is guilty.

This biacth was wish washyg! suggesting other motives.

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:36 pm

In the DA’S

Kym

April 13th, 2010
2:37 pm

@Carlitio..Big Ben had Ed Garland..enough said.

Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)

April 13th, 2010
2:37 pm

How is my little island lady doing today?

Heeeey Eli….you always know what to say to put a smile on my face…..MMMMMUUUUUAAAAAAHHHHHHH ;) I just gave you a chocolate kiss and I ain’t talkin’ Hershey’s either :)

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:37 pm

yep melo that was my take she wasn’t reliable at all and the articles i read was she was beyond pissy drunk….she may not know what happened if anything did it is just the feeling i guess if it did she wanted to turn him in bc after that moment that was it…..being drunk and getting raped is still not acceptable it is just was she raped or assualted

SexyCool

April 13th, 2010
2:39 pm

I agree with the *Grow up* sentiment. Dude, you are how old? You are how famous? You make how many millions? You are still smashing drunk ass chicks in bar bathrooms?

For real?

Melo

April 13th, 2010
2:41 pm

As for the Roman Catholiboys Church,yesterday, I heard a Bishop on tv say,from now on,they(the pimp church) will forward all cases of alleged sexxaul abuse to the police.

Now,thats a clear admission that they have been abusing boys/kids since inception and covering up.

What a church!???

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..

April 13th, 2010
2:41 pm

Ben got off cause it didnt fit.. Say it with me everyone.. If it dont fit you must acquit..

Lady J-you can’t experiEnce success without failure!!!!!

April 13th, 2010
2:43 pm

dk too funny!