Nice girls finish last too?
We hear all the time that nice guys finish last, but does the same ring true for super nice girls? Do they get glanced over as well? Yes, super nice girls are out there, men.
I find it so fascinating (and by fascinating, I mean annoying) when I am super nice to some guys, they try to take my kindness for weakness. Then I have to show the feisty side when I am challenged.When this happens, why does this often turn the guy on more? Is it because he’s lame and should be left alone?
I don’t like acting like a witch, but I always learn a lot about a guy when I’m in one of those modes. It’s not about that “cute when you’re mad” excuse, either. Challenging women attract a particular type of man. The question is, would I want that kind of man for my own?
Do you think that when you date someone new, you go through a phase where you are seeing what kind of boundaries the person has?
Is it true that nice girls finish last? How do men interpret a nice girl’s behavior? Do they test her to see how nice she really is?
Ladies, do you find that being nice on the dating scene works best for you? Do you think being harsh with men is a defense tool women use as emotional protection? Does that actually work?
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Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:28 pm
420 day festival here in Atlanta this weekend. I never knew! I will be there. Happy early “420 Day” everyone.
I am amazed that made it to the front page of the AJC.
SexyCool
April 13th, 2010
12:28 pm
DK – I was just reading that article.
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:30 pm
Sassy, are you going to the 420 Festival?
brother john
April 13th, 2010
12:30 pm
what a friggin hen party
no wonder most of you will die alone amongst piles of cat poop
Luvbug
April 13th, 2010
12:31 pm
If you can’t seem to keep the attention of bad guys, that’s probably a good sign.
I would really like to know what people consider nice.
For some, nice is a means to an end.
1.She told me she’s not interested…I will show up at her house with flowers anyway.
2.I know he’s married…I’ll be his loving confidant (some call it a “friend”).
3.I love you Babe…I bought you this phone (w/GPS…undisclosed) so that I can always have you near me.
Sometimes I think the use of the word “no” alone qualifies a woman to be considered a b!tch. Likewise, I think guys are too often unfairly ridiculed for not conforming to some “well meaning”, “wholesome” woman. He was drinking and smoking when she married him, but she is now playing Holly Hatty, trying to guilt him into being a “better person”. He doesn’t wanna change…now she’s the good girl and he’s the bad guy. IMO, that’s manipulative.
Some people don’t want to do want the pony show. Those people are often considered to be meaner than others.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..
April 13th, 2010
12:34 pm
Ok nice girls dont finish last. A nice girls is what we’re looking for. A babe that is nice but holds her own.
true dat yo
April 13th, 2010
12:34 pm
Nice girls don’t get std’s. Bad girls do.
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 13th, 2010
12:35 pm
Carlito enlighten me por favor…que es le festivale 420?
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:35 pm
Infamous, how are you bro?
SexyCool
April 13th, 2010
12:36 pm
420 – weed
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..
April 13th, 2010
12:36 pm
Luv – Good well excellent post
true dat yo
April 13th, 2010
12:37 pm
“Ladies, do you find that being nice on the dating scene works best for you?”
Just ask all the girls who end up pregnant or were given herpes after a first date.
Quasimodo
April 13th, 2010
12:38 pm
I’ve sworn off dating because most “nice girls”, aren’t, and those that ARE truly nice are usually married.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..
April 13th, 2010
12:38 pm
Carlito – Hiding out in my home with the air purifiers running.. Man I went to the Dr and its a sinus infection.. This time and the beginning of fall are the worst for me..
Quasimodo
April 13th, 2010
12:39 pm
If you get the herpes on the first “date”, that’s your own fault for giving it up on the first “date”…..
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 13th, 2010
12:40 pm
Oooh okay didn’t know that Sexy thanks for that…..so uummm where/when is it
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:40 pm
Sassy, they are having the Sweetwater 420 Fest here this weekend. 420 stands for the fourth month and twentieth day.( April, 20th)
420 is the Smoker’s Holiday
around the world. Also groups hold marijuana awareness events on that date as well 
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/203490/420_the_pot_smokers_holiday_and_the.html
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:42 pm
420 day. April 20th. 4 is the month 20 is the day. Smoker’s holiday worldwide
East Point's Own
April 13th, 2010
12:42 pm
I love women who are nice to me, the person they are dating… but I do not like women who are super nice 100% of the time all day every day, there are some situations where you should have a response that show you have a bit of fire. You have to be able to say no at the right times. I have dated women who let their friends run all over them, borrow (read: take) money without re-paying it, running errands for friends who are always too busy to help you out, friends who live with their parents but like to lounge around at your house since you live on your own, etc. At some point you have to know that your real friends expect you to say no at certain times, and if they don’t they are just using you.
But I do not at all like arguements or fights, I don’t need that, but I don’t need a woman who will not tell me when I am wrong. If you can be nice with a spine we will get along just fine.
http://hispointofview.com
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:43 pm
Herpes, that will bring a romance to a halt.
Baby, what is that bump? LOL
BlackMagicWoman
April 13th, 2010
12:44 pm
SASSY & CARLITO….
I LOVE the sarcasm! Some people just take themselves it bit too serious. It’s a blog. It is meant to voice/type opinions, as well as a few side jokes. Even the most intellectual individuals can follow along. I think…..
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:45 pm
Sassy,
http://www.sweetwater420fest.com/
CoolShadow
April 13th, 2010
12:46 pm
Some people don’t want to do want the pony show. Those people are often considered to be meaner than others.
Other times, they’re part of a ‘been there, done that’ crowd that is overcompensating from being too nice in a former relationship where they were burned and have now become meaner for the experience.
BlackMagicWoman
April 13th, 2010
12:47 pm
Infamous…I am just getting over a sinus infection. Did they give you antibiotics?
Carlito…did you ever attend Smoke Out in Washington Square park in NYC? My girls go every year!
Delia
April 13th, 2010
12:48 pm
I think Brother john is right… It seems to me that men are ready when they are ready…There is no ryhme or reason, just simply when they are ready. Otherwise, you can be beautiful, inside/out and he will not realize it. I think women put way too much thought and planning into the married,relationship thing…Much more than the men…At 35, I am working on just letting it go and having fun…Baby steps, baby steps…
kimmie
April 13th, 2010
12:50 pm
EP – Good post!
mqew
April 13th, 2010
12:50 pm
Awwwww man! I missed Unsung – Staci Lattisaw (sp?)
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:51 pm
Sassy, I have tried 3 different way to type it but it will not let me post it.
go to the first link here:
http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=sweetwater+festival+atlanta+2010&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8
BlackMagicWoman, Quiza is to educated to know that she is exactly that which she is complaining about. Did we not talk about people like that last week? LOL
No I have never been to the smokout. I am real cautious about new connects in new cities.
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:52 pm
Sassy, I have tried 3 different way to type it but it will not let me post it.
Just google these words; “sweet” “water” “420″ “atlanta” 2010″ all together
BlackMagicWoman, Quiza is to educated to know that she is exactly that which she is complaining about. Did we not talk about people like that last week? LOL
No I have never been to the smokout. I am real cautious about new connects in new cities.
Leggs
April 13th, 2010
12:53 pm
Say it ain’t so, mqew! I meant to record it. Damn, it came on last night! 24 had my attention!
Professor
April 13th, 2010
12:54 pm
@Leggs,
I agree with Melo. I would continue the friendship and see where it goes. If it leads to a relationship I would not think about the pill I would just handle my business.
Melo
April 13th, 2010
12:55 pm
I would really like to know what people consider nice.
@Luvbug??
Its the age of political correctness so I guess some things need repeating!
Nice girls dont fight physically..they step and keep it moving.
Nice girls arent too loud,nor bad biatching pple
They dont commit crime….they dont get hooked-up stuff
Nice girls will pay their bills for the most part.
They dont remonstrate,they argue their situation/case with whoever, calmly,thoghtfully and without swashbuckling braggado.
They dress like a lady, to impress! and not to entice bedding or quick attention
Nice girls do not fight for attention with other girls..they impress thru calm actions and calm demeanor not thru loud actions or dressing.
They may drink but never get drunk in public,if at all or except for the very rare occassion.
Nice girls do not resort to threatening actions,verbal assaults or physical entanglements with other chics nor with men..leave that for the bad chics!
If need be,nice chics have the police authorities on their tab,but it may never be necessary.
Nice girls tithe,they dont pilfer from the tithing collection plate like bad chics do!
Nice girls dont flaunt sexx,even tho they may be the baddest bytches in bed!
(just a melo nice girl chit sheet!)
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 13th, 2010
12:55 pm
I LOVE the sarcasm! Some people just take themselves it bit too serious. It’s a blog.
That’s what’s up BlackMagic…as I stated I know I’m not for everybody…none of us are. But you made a good point sista.
^5 chica.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. MY SINUSES ARE..
April 13th, 2010
12:56 pm
BMW – Antibiotics, nasonex, and a neti pot. Why? You wanna come help drain my sinuses? Hold my tissue for me?
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:58 pm
Melo, that is a very good list. Sometimes when I research a club or something I view the galleries to check out the types of crowds. Julia, pointed this out to me Saturday. How come the butt is almost always facing the camera or it is a side shot? It is like the emphasis is on the booty instead of their face. Does that say something about the person posing or the person taking the picture. LOL
Leggs
April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm
Everyone should own a neti pot!
Sassy Me..Sun Kissed :-)
April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm
I found it stud muffin Italiana…I’ll have to see about that.
I missed Unsung – Staci Lattisaw
I missed it,too but you know it’ll be on again sometime over the weekend, that’s how they usually do it.
Let me be your angeeeeeel, let me be the one for youuuuuu
BlackMagicWoman
April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm
INFAMOUS…you are on your own son! I only hold my snot rags!
Leggs
April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm
@Prof ~ definitely!
@Melo ~ I love your list!
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
12:59 pm
The name Quiza, sounds like a nasal decongestant. Infamous, you need to take some Quiza.
Willie Dynamite
April 13th, 2010
1:00 pm
Afternoon All,
I’ll admit it, I’m a former Bytch Lover. In my younger days that was the only type I seemed interested in. Personally I looked at Nice Girls as less of a challenge (not really). Just my twisted logic and the need to fuel my Ego. I felt as though bagging a Bytch was harder. To me it really WAS all about the Chase. Knowing at some point this Bytch was gonna get broken by me was what I was after.
Thank God I grew out of that phase and Matured. Nice girls dont finish last. Nice Girls finish. The Bad girls have the mileage and the Bad Boys in the past as their future.
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
1:01 pm
Sassy, if you come. Julia and I will both be there.
Carlito
April 13th, 2010
1:02 pm
Not one guy has said the nice girl finished last. Someone needs to tell snopes.com
Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)
April 13th, 2010
1:04 pm
Afternoon All!
Okay, I hate pollen and wish we could get some rain like every week til this season is over with. I am bound to my inhaler every time I walk out my front door!!
Infamous – sorry to hear about your sinuses dude, I know your pain!
mqew/Leggs/Sassy – the Unsung on Staci Lattisaw was pretty good.
Hey Lady J & Kinder – my teaching buddies!
Luvbug
April 13th, 2010
1:05 pm
Thanks DK
Unsung? Dang, I missed it to. Guess I’ll have to catch the reruns.
I didn’t know the last guy though…Sylvester.
Leggs
April 13th, 2010
1:13 pm
@Mo ~ you just had to rub it in. Can’t believe I forgot all about it. I hope it comes back on real soon!!
I like this
Nice Girls finish! Slam Dunk!
Mo (aka Moeisha - I HATE pollen)
April 13th, 2010
1:14 pm
Leggs – just letting you know it was a good Unsung (like most of them are). It should be on this weekend if not tonight.
mqew
April 13th, 2010
1:15 pm
I saw the end of it….. got a lil chill bumps from it. VERY NICE!!!!!!
Willie Dynamite
April 13th, 2010
1:16 pm
For those inquiring about the Sweet water 4 2 0 Festival. It has very little to do with the 4 2 0 (Smokeout) and all to do with the Sweetwater brand. Beer festival pretty much.
mqew
April 13th, 2010
1:17 pm
Mo – I didn’t know the Sylvester guy either.