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Date Jesus

Atlanta’s own Chilli (of TLC fame) is the focus of a new dating reality show on VH1.  This is the same network that brought such shows as Tough Love, Rock of Love, and now What Chilli Wants.  Well, according to the trailer, what she wants is too much, which is why she has had problems finding the one.

I’m sure in some bizarro world of reality television, Chilli Photo: Gossip on This could actually have a problem with a dating relationship.  I’m curious enough to watch just to see if she struggled with some of the same hangups many of us had and may still have.  Finding random and nonsensical reasons not to give someone a shot.

Watching a few scenes from the show made me laugh out loud, especially when Chilli’s friend, music producer,  Missy Elliot said she should just “Date Jesus”.  Clearly she was implying that no person walking the earth could meet any criteria that is totally unrealistic.

However, for argument’s sake, if anyone could pull off having a firm grip on a dating checklist, why couldn’t she? The woman is beautiful, famous, and probably has a pretty sweet personality.  Why shouldn’t she have her bar set pretty high?

Would someone that was not in the limelight actually handle dating her with finesse and class?

I’m just wondering, is it about settling for someone you don’t want or dating Jesus? Isn’t there another door or A new option that we don’t talk about: staying unmarried?

Do you think that every single/uncoupled person who has not met the one should reconsider all of their standards? Is  waiting for  as long as it takes to find the one a selfish and unrealistic decision?

528 comments Add your comment

Kym

April 8th, 2010
3:40 pm

@RandyT Tiger is doing well..and he does not look a hot mess..he looks refreshed.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:41 pm

Randy – Be careful..The internet has ears.. I would hate for you to be snatched up talking bout her Ugly A$$ of Im over her so Im good..

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
3:44 pm

Come on, now RANDY… He ain’t no prize, himself. lol But she certainly doesn’t possess the loveliness of Lady Di.

Well it’s crazy if you expect someone to put their children second to you, as thier date and maybe mate… And even crazier if thisis the type of person you’d wanna be with for the long haul. Although, I do think the dynamic should change slightly if the two of you decide to build a family.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
3:44 pm

DK Dudes don’t look at chicks walking around with CONDONES in their purse as loosey Goosey’s??? (not counting the one I have tucked inside my checkbook – lol)

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
3:45 pm

Notcing the comments about women with children. I would prefer not to date a woman with young children (I do not want to replace a child’s father)…but at the same time have blown off ladies on line who had no children at all because I would question whether they could identify with my feelings as a parent. At the end of the day, I would never let a lady get between me and my children. I can replace a woman…not my children.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:45 pm

and Tiger’s goatee is cute! hehehehe. i think he comin’ out his shell now.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:47 pm

ya know, i heard and believe that men who have a late start on gett’n some turn into sex crazed idiots.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:48 pm

Man that woman looks like a horse in the face. ..UGGGGGGLY.

@Randyt!

I agree,God created her around 12 midnite, when he was tired and she was the only specimen left.
I think she is a homely nice person fo real tho unlike Dianne who was fake and hoe and proly better company to relate to too!

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
3:48 pm

I have met a dudes that did not disclose their kids and one even went as far as saying they really did not counts since they were teenagers and the other one was over 18.

I am not a parent, but children are a beautiful thing, and I will not date a guy that hides, denies and lies about his own flesh and blood.

@MYTWO you are so right about paying for sandwiches and salads that we can make better at home.

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
3:49 pm

FB got me spoiled. after posting i have an option to delete my sh*t! Beautiful, that is soooo not like you. :)

steps are tough. i intentionally avoided all talk of second marriage because i just didn’t want a stepdad or my kids nor did i want to step-parent someone else’s. now that kids are grown it’s a little easier to see myself re-married. however …… s/o has two older kids (no prob with that) AND a lil’ one from his second marriage :(

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:49 pm

i heard and believe that men who have a late start on gett’n some turn into sex crazed idiots.

@Beautiful!

I told u that!

:lol: :lol:

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
3:49 pm

But how would one hide offspring for an extended period of time. I remember this one dude years ago. In the span of a few wks, he went from having one lil princes to 4 he claimed and one in another state he claimed was gettin’ paternity tested. If you really wanna know you’ll do the research to find out.

BEAUTIFUL But what about the other son? You always mention Kels. Hope you’re not obviously playin’ fav-o-rites…tsk, tsk, tsk!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
3:50 pm

What amazes me about Tiger’s adventures is what kind of man can handle that many women? One at a time confuses me. I thought that ended with Wilt the Stilt and “Big” John Holmes.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:52 pm

@Brat
yea it is. you’ve never posted something and remembered who you just posted that to?

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
3:52 pm

I’m sure Melo, and I am glad he is happy but that woman is hard to look at…and thats not good.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:52 pm

foot n mouth! lol.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:52 pm

Slim – at this age all us are loosey gooseys.. I just look at it like baby girl is comfortable with herself and funks when she wants to… I dont trip on grown folk ish.. Time will tell whether she’s too much for me to deal with but in the meantime we are enjoying one another

abc

April 8th, 2010
3:54 pm

If you don’t put your spouse before your children, you’ve either got the wrong mate, or you’ve got it seriously twisted.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:55 pm

@Melo
i didn’t read that from you. no credit here bub!

@My2
i mention pumpkin all the time. ya know, i might be gett’n FB and MIA mixed up. he just got straight A’s again! whoo hoo.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:56 pm

what kind of man can handle that many women?

@Randyt??

the women know that they are his toys..so he has no pressure to see them on the regular,like u wld a regular chic u dating.
They can be moved from one location to another,courtesy of online air travel tickets purchases and be shipped into a hotel incognito.

And he has the means,money and handlers to help him do it if he wanted to.

Of all the pple who didnt know,Stevie must have known!

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
3:56 pm

nope. didn’t put my spouse before our children. yup! had the wrong mate. but i fixed that lil’ prob.

abc

April 8th, 2010
3:56 pm

I watched some highlights at espn.com. Admittedly, I’ve never watched Tiger Woods before, but to me he looks rather sulking, and exhibits a bit of the poor sportsmanship I’ve read about in the past when he hits into the 2nd cut, makes a bad chip, etc. He’s done very well to be -1 at this point, because he ain’t lookin like all that.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
3:57 pm

@ Infamous DK You have a point. It would ruin my day if MI-5 busted in and hauled me off for Camilla bashing ;-)

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
3:58 pm

I am not a parent, but children are a beautiful thing, and I will not date a guy that hides, denies and lies about his own flesh and blood.

I dated a guy that hid the fact that he had a daughter for a year. In fact, I found out thru a cousin that assumed I knew. The child was 4, so conceived before we started dating. I was furious that he didn’t tell me. He said I didn’t ask! I met him at my cousin’s wedding – my cousin married his sister. We had a family connection and I thought all was out in the open. Not so. He said the mom found out she was preggers after they broke up & she showed up on his doorstep with her when she was 2. He said he just paid child support, but had nothing to do with the child. I told him I would expect a 37 year old man to be upfront with me, regardless of the situation. I should not have had to ask. I did not look at him the same since.

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
3:58 pm

Man people treat the step children bad..
Naw I can’t go for that…don’t even like to think about it. That’s why I’m going for full physical and legal. I’ll tell you what cemented it for me. The case of that girl Shaniya Davis in North Carolina. She used to stay with her pops, and he decided to let moms have a shot at raising her. They interviewed him after they found the little girl’s body, and all dude could do while crying was say, “I should have never let her go back there.” He’ll be saying that the rest of his life. Not me though.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:58 pm

ABC – thats why im not rushing to get remarried and be put in that position

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
4:00 pm

If you don’t put your spouse before your children, you’ve either got the wrong mate, or you’ve got it seriously twisted.

@abc you raise a point that I have heard before. I’ve heard women say nothing comes before their kids, not even their spouse. While others said their spouse comes first. I am not a parent, but I would think the thing about love is this you don’t have to put them in order…hopefully. How does it work with blended families? Will you put the new wife first and your children second?

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:01 pm

*He said I didn’t ask!* whoa!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:02 pm

@Prof
God, Hubby, Kids!

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:02 pm

I’ve read about in the past when he hits into the 2nd cut, makes a bad chip, etc

@abc!

Im surprised u luv golf and have neva watched him playing?? Where have u been past 13 yrs??

Either u like a sports person or u dont,neva mind the sportsmaship or friendliness.

Phil Micklesone is a good sportsman, i think.

But I hurt the mfccker with a passion and wont watch the rest of the tv casting if hes leading.

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
4:02 pm

If you don’t put your spouse before your children, you’ve either got the wrong mate, or you’ve got it seriously twisted.
I guess I’ll stay unmarried then. I can’t fathom putting another grown person before my 7 and 4 year olds who obviously need me more.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:04 pm

abc, you are wrong on Tiger. or they are showing you the wrong highlights. Tiger is smiling waving to the crowd and doing his twirl of the club after good shots. Tipping his hat and etc. He is not doing his over the top cocky thing when he is crushing the rest of the field, I am sure it will show if he takes the lead. People want this to be like the NFL touchdown celebrations and not show any emotion? This is his realm where he competes. He does what he does to win so how can one critique his actions on how he should show emotion.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:04 pm

DK – My dad was a widower with 3 kids when he met my mom & then had me & my 2 younger brothers. There was never any mention of “step” or “half”, no difference made, we were all a family.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:06 pm

they broke up & she showed up on his doorstep with her when she was 2

@Kimmie!

I dont blame him.Mentally,he didnt have that kid in his head.

Blame it on the mother.

abc

April 8th, 2010
4:06 pm

Yes, the spouse comes first, period.

A woman who puts her children ahead of her husband either has a husband who isn’t living up to his end, or has a husband that she doesn’t appreciate, and who’s authority she undermines. That hurts her kids in the long run, as they learn to ignore and circumvent authority.

A man who puts his children ahead of his wife, whether or not she’s the children’s mother, offers her dishonor and disrespect for her role as the nurturing one, and teaches his children that they needn’t respect another for their rightful position.

In both cases, the children gain a false sense of entitlement that they carry with them into adulthood.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:06 pm

yep! when i look at my lil sis, i don’t see half.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:07 pm

If you are married your spouse is suppose to be the closet thing to you. not the kids that you made with that spouse, IMO

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
4:07 pm

@Kimmie, that is horrible! He should have told you. Not to mention I don’t care for those “paper parents” you know the ones that only send checks. A good friend of mine father was like that…he sent her mom a check every month never late, but he never cared. When she turned 18 he asked if she would have dinner with him…she was so excited feeling all grown up and stuff. Right there at the dinner table he told her that she was 18 now and his responsibility was over and the checks would end. He also told her he would not be helping with college or any spending money. The dinner was to make sure she understood…she was heartbroken about that forever….they still do not have a relationship and that was almost 20 years ago.

lurker

April 8th, 2010
4:08 pm

I thought Tiger looked rather well, considering the mishaps

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
4:08 pm

As a chick of an divorced family, it’s hard not to throw that STEP in there for a new dude around the house cause Daddy is always going to be daddy. But that didnt keep them from dishing out that speech about dropping the STEP. :lol: “You ain’t my pappy!”

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
4:09 pm

Dreams – Thats why I fought so hard for joint legal and split the time 50 50.. My biggest mistake was leaving the home or I couldve won custody.. Well letting myself be put in a position to be accused falsely of DV charges and removed from the home..

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:09 pm

I think there has to be balance between one’s kids and one’s new SO…but sometimes women (and I’m sure men have done this but I don’t know) can sort of draw a line in the sand and force me to choose. If I have to choose then the decision has alfready been made…”see ya, don’t need ya”. Don’t ever make me choose.

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
4:09 pm

There was never any mention of “step” or “half”, no difference made, we were all a family.

I hate when people say “half” people are not fractions, and families should be whole

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:10 pm

does anyone remember when i predicted Tiger being a closet freak? lmbo. gotta watch the quiet ones. i swear by this!

abc

April 8th, 2010
4:11 pm

I’d rather play golf myself than waste time watching it on TV. I’d rather play a game of slow-pitch softball or pick-up basketball than watch MLB or NBA — caveat, sometimes going to the ballpark for a baseball game, relaxing with a beer and occasionally doing the wave is a kick.

I’m just not a spectator. Tiger’s being a pouty boy about his mediocre shots, though. I wouldn’t expect the fist-pumping and acting out on good shots, and I don’t expect the cursing and throwing fits at bad shots, as per his reputation of the past; pouting on bad and tipping his hat on good is about what I figure he’d do.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:12 pm

Beautiful are not most people closet freaks?

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:12 pm

Melo – I had nothing to do with the mother so how could I blame her. I don’t even know if he was telling the truth about the situation, because as I got to know him I found out a lot of ugliness. He was a ho, a “po Tiger”. Even if you don’t have a relationship with the child, why lie, especially after a whole year of dating?

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:13 pm

i don’t think so.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:14 pm

How does one turn into a freak? Are they forced into it or is it brought of them?

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
4:15 pm

@abc–thanks!

@Slim I was reading an article on Steve Harvey and he said in his house it is Mommy or Daddy regardless of who your bio parents are. He said that is the mistake most parents make they do not want the “step” to discipline the other kids etc.