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Date Jesus

Atlanta’s own Chilli (of TLC fame) is the focus of a new dating reality show on VH1.  This is the same network that brought such shows as Tough Love, Rock of Love, and now What Chilli Wants.  Well, according to the trailer, what she wants is too much, which is why she has had problems finding the one.

I’m sure in some bizarro world of reality television, Chilli Photo: Gossip on This could actually have a problem with a dating relationship.  I’m curious enough to watch just to see if she struggled with some of the same hangups many of us had and may still have.  Finding random and nonsensical reasons not to give someone a shot.

Watching a few scenes from the show made me laugh out loud, especially when Chilli’s friend, music producer,  Missy Elliot said she should just “Date Jesus”.  Clearly she was implying that no person walking the earth could meet any criteria that is totally unrealistic.

However, for argument’s sake, if anyone could pull off having a firm grip on a dating checklist, why couldn’t she? The woman is beautiful, famous, and probably has a pretty sweet personality.  Why shouldn’t she have her bar set pretty high?

Would someone that was not in the limelight actually handle dating her with finesse and class?

I’m just wondering, is it about settling for someone you don’t want or dating Jesus? Isn’t there another door or A new option that we don’t talk about: staying unmarried?

Do you think that every single/uncoupled person who has not met the one should reconsider all of their standards? Is  waiting for  as long as it takes to find the one a selfish and unrealistic decision?

528 comments Add your comment

Raqi

April 8th, 2010
3:06 pm

DreamsMat, get up and dance with me before my husband comes back in the room. He is not in the dancing mood right now. Hurry up.

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Darling, after all
I will be the one to hold you in my arms
After all
I will be the one to hold you
I will be the one to hold you in my arms
In my arms

Listening to this music I feel like I went to sleep and woke up in the 80s.

Tazzee - 36 days til Mrs.

April 8th, 2010
3:07 pm

SCool – :lol: I thought I was gonna have to block y’all from my FB page that day.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:08 pm

@Nik
i’ve dated . . . let’s see, 4!

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 8th, 2010
3:08 pm

most females will say,’bring it on’,without blinking,and pants down!

:lol: lookin like a fool wit ya pants on the ground

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
3:08 pm

ǝsɹoɥ ɐ uo ɯɐ ı

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
3:09 pm

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
3:10 pm

PrincessNik you just made me LMAO for real with that one.

:grin:

lookin like a fool wit ya pants on the ground

Raqi

April 8th, 2010
3:11 pm

Well Mrs. Me (Tazzee) I will be in the Bahamas on Saturday morning. Princess Cays on Eleuthera island. I hear it’s a beautiful beach. White Sands.

Luvbug

April 8th, 2010
3:11 pm

LOL@Pants (panties) on the ground

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:11 pm

Dreams – Yeah and I got a son and guess what they aint competing with him but he better feel comfortable or better yet like them enough for me to keep em around. He aint going no where and the hell with the chick who cant work with us……

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 8th, 2010
3:12 pm

Well Beautiful,

we about even LOL,

I’ve found the ones with no kids, but who want kids to be great.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:13 pm

@Carlito/Raqi!

I have a panasonic too in ma bedroom.I didnt buy it. My sis in law left it behind when she was denied re-entry.

No wonder her sis is happy..yeah..porn shows on there look real but we perfect and go a step further when the tv shows are over!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:13 pm

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
3:14 pm

I had a bowl of Pops just the other night….hadn’t had them in years

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
3:14 pm

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:16 pm

@41 it’s best i date men with kids. momma ain’t hav’n no mo! even if i don’t mind if it happened by accident. *but there’s no way in heyal that’ll happen*

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
3:16 pm

Tiger Woods looks a hot mess
Tiger is 1 under after 4 holes…pretty good, considering the people ahead of him are finished or on the last few holes.

but to me it’s more refreshing to date a man with a daughter
We treat our daughters like princesses, so similar treatment will apply to the woman who we feel is worth it.

As far as a grown woman competing with a man’s daughter, that is a sick concept, but I don’t doubt it happens with a sick few.
Maybe more than a few are sick. lol I know women don’t like to be “second”, and some feel they are playing second when a daughter is in the picture. Sick, I agree, but they’re out there.

I usually keep a healthy and sweet cereal
I don’t really eat cereal anymore, but when I do I still gotta have Frosted Flakes.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:17 pm

Oh and dudes compete with children also.. It happens all the time..

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
3:17 pm

Dog, now I want some Pops!

Raqi – I love that song. I have an Al Jarreau greatest hits cd in my car, Imma listen to it on the way home. How long is your trip? I know you have some cute sundresses & sandals to wear!

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 8th, 2010
3:18 pm

Oh and dudes compete with children also.. It happens all the time

aint that the truth!!!!!!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:18 pm

FB got me spoiled. after posting i have an option to delete my sh*t!

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
3:18 pm

DK “hell with the chick who cant work with us……” Love it ^5

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:19 pm

*We treat our daughters like princesses, so similar treatment will apply to the woman who we feel is worth it.*

thanks for this.

Luvbug

April 8th, 2010
3:20 pm

Ohhh Dreams don’t eat cereal anymore. Why you being uppity? j/k

What do you eat on a no cook day? Oatmeal? Crackers?

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
3:20 pm

Dreams Oh and don’t forget some banana’s sliced up in the Frosted Flakes. Mmmm! Yall gonna make me eat breakfast for dinner tonight. lol

Tazzee - 36 days til Mrs.

April 8th, 2010
3:21 pm

Raqi – Have a great trip!!! I’m sure your beaches will be more beautiful than mine.

Woo Hoo – just got the call that my books on reserve at the library are ready! Just in time for my trip.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
3:21 pm

Sick, I agree, but they’re out there.

Dreams – I know it cause I’ve seen it in action. These women are usually the byotchy ones. I would think that would be a turnoff for men, but most of them don’t go anywhere.

DK – You right, and those type of dudes I run from.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
3:21 pm

Luvbug probably a sammich lol My mom used to call the No-Cook days as Fend for yourself day

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
3:22 pm

get up and dance with me before my husband comes back in the room.
Raqi you better stop playing with me. sounds very tempting though. ;-) Besides, you don’t know nuthin ’bout Al.

the hell with the chick who cant work with us
Alllllll day man. No way mine are going to feel uncomfortable. It’s non-negotiable.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:24 pm

*Alllllll day man. No way mine are going to feel uncomfortable. It’s non-negotiable.*

love it!

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
3:26 pm

Ohhh Dreams don’t eat cereal anymore. Why you being uppity? j/k

What do you eat on a no cook day?
Naw I love cereal, but the milk don’t do right by me no more. lol And what’s a “no cook day”?

I would think that would be a turnoff for men, but most of them don’t go anywhere.
Naw, they can go play in traffic as far as I’m concerned.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:28 pm

Its pouring out there right now.

God is being kind to the graveyard shift pple,who’re at home right now, for a change!

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:29 pm

Do any of u chics with kids hide that fact when dating?? Do u have gerlfriends who do??

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
3:31 pm

MELO You are so way off base on this one. (And yeah, women can be on the pill, but that just wards off pregnancy.) I’d venture to say most women would prefer to be out of their mind with passion when frolicking. Yet even in the throes of passion, most have an automatic sensor that will prompt her to question where’s that lil foil packet if there’s no reach over or she hasn’t spied them at a certain point. Plus, as a man, you just ain’t privy to the zillions of sexually frustrated “after all that, the fool had the nerve not to have any condoms” convos are had over Mimosas & glasses of Riesling every weekend. ;) Many would rather be left in angst than with some other evidence of the encounter. That’s why sometimes a girl’s gotta just grab a box on the go…just in case…

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 8th, 2010
3:31 pm

Do any of u chics with kids hide that fact when dating??

I don’t, cause at this age that’s just wasting time. Tell dude off top, that way he already knows if he can or is willing to deal with that. And once i’m told that’s not what you looking for then i know you not lookin for me.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:32 pm

@Melo
you haven’t met my babies, huh? you would look at them and then look at me and say WOW!

lol.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:33 pm

Man people treat the step children bad.. Its not an uncommon practice.. Ive heard horror stories about step parents and seen some mess. Thats why I stay close to my son to make sure aint no funny business goin on and remind his Mom once a month he can always come stay with me. Im just trying to stop the inevitable.. Some dude do something to my son and I end up on the news with SWAT around the house..

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 8th, 2010
3:33 pm

That’s why sometimes a girl’s gotta just grab a box on the go…just in case…

@my two
I keeps some at all times! Dudes be wantin to go bare but be lookin at a chick sideways when they end up in family court for child support!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:34 pm

i brag about my Kel every opportunity i get! :)

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:35 pm

i look at him sometimes and say *i made that!* lol.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:36 pm

Melo – thats bout as bad as a dude running round talmbout he aint got kids.. That boy of mine is my pride and joy, so I tell folks about him as much as possible..

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:36 pm

you would look at them and then look at me

@Beautiful

trust me,if im dealing wit u,it aint about ur kids.

Leave them at home! :lol:

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
3:37 pm

DREAMS I think lactose intolerance is a sign that we’re “maturing” lol… I’ve noticed this too,even on 2%, can’t eat my Cheerios like back in the day!

If you don’t feel like cooking, you can hook up a deluxe salad or gourmet sammich that you can charge $12 for. I get so tired of spendin money on takeout for stuff I can whip up even better on my own…

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
3:38 pm

Back at the B&B …Internet went down at our offices.

Watching the BBC (Tiger is big news here too)..

Love MUST be blind. The BBC just showed Prince Charles’s Camilla. Man that woman looks like a horse in the face. ..UGGGGGGLY.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
3:39 pm

My Two – Love a chick with CONDONES in the purse…

Kym

April 8th, 2010
3:39 pm

Dang it I almost forgot..in my channel surfing yesterday.. I saw where Jerry Springer is doing a new dating show on the Gameshow network called Baggage. One contestant is given the option to choose between 3 dates after each date reveals their baggage. Guess the Dude or Dudette decides if they can handle the baggage the other person has.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
3:39 pm

I do not eat fast food at all. On the slow days I usually have left overs or a home made salad and some soup Or a sandwich

Melo

April 8th, 2010
3:40 pm

thats bout as bad as a dude running round talmbout he aint got kids
DK??

U think dudes who say that are trying to ‘protect’ the value of their stock like the ladies who lie to increase their catcheability??

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
3:40 pm

@Melo
but i am my boys!!! smh. and it’s always about them. so yea, keep it step’n busta!

PrincessNik..Grinning & Glowing

April 8th, 2010
3:40 pm

catcheability

:shock: