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Date Jesus

Atlanta’s own Chilli (of TLC fame) is the focus of a new dating reality show on VH1.  This is the same network that brought such shows as Tough Love, Rock of Love, and now What Chilli Wants.  Well, according to the trailer, what she wants is too much, which is why she has had problems finding the one.

I’m sure in some bizarro world of reality television, Chilli Photo: Gossip on This could actually have a problem with a dating relationship.  I’m curious enough to watch just to see if she struggled with some of the same hangups many of us had and may still have.  Finding random and nonsensical reasons not to give someone a shot.

Watching a few scenes from the show made me laugh out loud, especially when Chilli’s friend, music producer,  Missy Elliot said she should just “Date Jesus”.  Clearly she was implying that no person walking the earth could meet any criteria that is totally unrealistic.

However, for argument’s sake, if anyone could pull off having a firm grip on a dating checklist, why couldn’t she? The woman is beautiful, famous, and probably has a pretty sweet personality.  Why shouldn’t she have her bar set pretty high?

Would someone that was not in the limelight actually handle dating her with finesse and class?

I’m just wondering, is it about settling for someone you don’t want or dating Jesus? Isn’t there another door or A new option that we don’t talk about: staying unmarried?

Do you think that every single/uncoupled person who has not met the one should reconsider all of their standards? Is  waiting for  as long as it takes to find the one a selfish and unrealistic decision?

528 comments Add your comment

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:12 pm

You don’t “need” an LED although they are nice, I do not trust the technology fully yet it is still kind of new. If the room is dark without a ton of glare on the screen go with Plasma. Basically if the room has a bunch of light or the TV is going to be facing a bright window go with an LCD anything else go with a Plasma. My largest TV is a 63 inch Plasma it is in my ManCave because I keep the lights low in there. In the bedrooms I have LCD because there is a lot of daytime light. I have a 50 Plasma in my LivingRoom but I had to move it to the other side because it was facing the window. Also the frame of the television will produce glare sometimes as well in well lit areas. If it is not bright and shiny go plasma. Also if you play alot of video games do not leave them on pause for over five minutes on a plasma. 1080p and 720p are subjective. Just depends on the brand. You can start telling the difference once you get above 50 inches. For a dvd play buy a PS3 (the new one) it plays blue ray and it upconverts everything to 1080p or buy the sony upconverting DVD player it is only around $79 at Best Buy and it does not play blue ray well but it upconverts like no other. make sure you have HDMI jacks on your new TV and DVD player or it is all useless. A nice big Plasma that is leaps and bound great is the Panasonic Viera 50′ 720. Or darn near any Samsung(they set the standard) Do not get all caught up in LG, Sony and etc. Oh yeah the best buy store brand is a great bang for the buck as well. Stay away from the all in one Flat Screens with the DVD player etc already in the unit.

(Information Overload :) )

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:13 pm

abc, nice stuff. LOL

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
12:13 pm

ABC He’s a reprobate! – I can feel your disgust thru the screen, but I’m just enjoying your use of the word. The other day somebody at work said they like sittin’ next to me cuz I speak “so lavishly” and I wonder if I sound (to them) like you do (to me.)

SLIM Does she look like you? I used to love toting my niecey around when she was a baby. She’s always looked like me eventho she’s light skinned-ed. I was mad cuz she was born like the day I got home for summer break one year. Kinda got a kick outta the crossing guarding asking if I was really away at college or did I just go away to hide the pregnancy. :p:

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:18 pm

Was it Dreams or Dig That that used to live in Florida?

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
12:23 pm

If anyone has any black in them do black people consider them black? Like Tiger?
During slavery, sharecropping, and Jim Crow eras most southern states had laws on the books to “define” the extent to which someone was black. Some states had:

“One Thirty-second Law”: If either of your great, great, great grandparents was black, then you were legally black

“One Sixteenth Law”: If either of your great, great grandparents was black, then you were legally black

“One Drop Law”: If a black person could be found anywhere in your family tree (one drop of black blood), then you were legally black

All southern states and some midwestern states eventually adopted the One Drop Rule. Georgia was a One Drop Law state. This was an attempt to maintain the “purity” of whites. Although no longer law, this classification of “blackness” still exists.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
12:23 pm

mytwo – naw, she doesn’t look like me…my sister is way lighter than I am and my niece is lighter than her. lol However, her eyes are slightly slanted and she has curly sandy brown hair that’s slowly growing in. I think she’d be the perfect Gerber baby. I was there when she was born and let’s just say, I saw more of my sister than I ever hope to see again. :oops:

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
12:30 pm

DreamsM,

We can add Plessy vs. Fuerguson to the list since Plessy was 1/8 Black and still got in trouble for sitting in the white rail car.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
12:30 pm

I saw more of my sister than I ever hope to see again

@Slim??

where was the hubby/boyfriend??

I cant stand to watch child-birth and i neva did for all my kids. The nurse,when my son was born, attempted to get me in on what they were doing,asking me to help with this and that.

I said,NO,aint my job,thats yours and proceded to close my eyes!

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
12:35 pm

Carlito- I was in Destin for about a year, but that was mostly work. I loved the area and I know that we talked about how culturally diverse Florida is. Are you and your honey still thinking of moving there?

SexyCool

April 8th, 2010
12:38 pm

Cultural diversity in Florida? Depends on where you are in the state.

There are pockets on small towns in the state that aren’t quite sure that the war has ended.

I grew up in one. I know.

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
12:39 pm

@ Dig That, how far is Destin from Atlanta? I keep saying I am going to drive down there one weekend…I haven’t been since childhood.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:39 pm

Dig That, we are going to move there, for sure :)

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:41 pm

Sexy Cool, I have discovered in going to different tracks that North Florida is not so nice unless it is a beach town. Middle Florida on down is great. What do you think, being from Florida?

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
12:42 pm

@Professor- About 6 hours. You should take a trip. It is really beautiful. I was thinking of moving there at one time. The beach is out of this world. A lot of big money there but not snootie like other places in Florida.

Willie Dynamite

April 8th, 2010
12:44 pm

SC – Agree totally with your 12:38. Don’t let the Beaches and Tourist traps fool ya.

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
12:44 pm

ahhhh, Destin! lived there for a few years (fwb actually) and it’s still a fave vaca spot.

Carlito, i hate that i still smile everytime you post that ‘i’m on a horse’ nonsense. i’ve had my fill of that guy for the week. :razz:

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
12:45 pm

melo – yeah it was definitely a sight to see thought…the punani didn’t even look real and the way the doc was stretching it out to get the head through just had me sitting like :shock: But I wouldn’t take it back for anything in the world though. If I don’t have any of my own, that’ll be my vicarious child birthing experience

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
12:47 pm

Prof
I agree. Plessy was planted as a civil disobedience strategy to test the Separate But Equal laws of Louisiana.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:48 pm

czBrat have seen the new Old Spice commercials with Terry Crews in it?

Now they are gay IMO. LOL

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
12:49 pm

I witnessed the miracle of child birth and it was a miracle indeed. Wow!!

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
12:49 pm

I grew up in Chipley, Florida. In the heart of the Pandhandle. Just south of L.A. (Lower Alabama) West of Tallahassee. North of Panama City. East of Pensacola. Smack dab in the middle of God’s country.

And when I say I was country – I do mean with a capital K. (And still am. I’ve just learned to not be ashamed of it.)

And my whole early life long – I thought white people ruled the world and had all the good sht and only let black people have some of it *sometimes*.

Exposure to the rest of the world was an amazing and beautiful and wondrous thing that I still do not take for granted.

But still, Carlito, even in middle Florida, there are pockets of Small Town America that still have not been introduced to diversity. I was just in Tavares last month. And although it is just 45 minutes from Orlando, I could have sworn I was traveling the back-back barely paved roads of the Panhandle.

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
12:51 pm

Been around for a childbirth. I’m convinced mine is not going to do *that*! Eeek!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
12:52 pm

Sexy Cool, I do not know what to say except, I am on a horse….. :)

Dig That, when calves are birthed on the farm, sometimes they would be in breach. It would take 3 grown men to pull it out. Then we would have to clear it’s lungs and nurse it to good health, those are some long nights. I would take that over seeing a child birth any day.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
12:53 pm

the punani didn’t even look real

@Scool!

and thats my greatest fear..being turned into a punani hater! :lol: :lol:

Not having it!

Melo

April 8th, 2010
12:55 pm

@SexyCool

u dont talk nor act country but ur walk is country! :lol:

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
12:55 pm

SCool – When we were in Orlando for Christmas, we stayed in some time-share condos about 20 mins or so from the Magic Kingdom. There were a few orange groves nearby and in front of one was the biggest confederate flag I have ever seen. I remarked to SO how surprised I was to see it because I though FLA was suppose to be so diverse. Ha! Yes, it definitely depends on what part of FLA.

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
12:55 pm

LOL!
I am mad at you, BootyScratcher.
LMAO!

Raqi

April 8th, 2010
12:57 pm

SexyCool, what brought you to Atlanta?

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
12:59 pm

Keeping in mind that it has been 20 years since I was in high school, in my whole school, there were 5 hispanic kids from two families and one was an exchange student from Mexico in a high school with about 500 kids in it.

The next year we had a Japanese exchange student. And with the exception of the two classmates that I had who were half Chinese, she was the first Asian person that I had ever met personally.

We had one Indian family with three kids.

And that was about it.

Everybody else was black or white. That was as diverse as we got back in those days.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
1:00 pm

And I must say that after watching child birth and I hear and we(men) often think we tear da pu$$Y up and we ain’t doing jack. The kid is the one that tore sa pu$$y up. Literally. I’m good if I never see it again.

Carlito- Now the calf birth is hardcore. That is toooo hands for me buddy.

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
1:01 pm

I was pregnant and going through a divorce and one of my set of parents had just been stationed at Fort Gillem so I came to live with them.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
1:04 pm

@School??

and the baby??

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
1:05 pm

SCool – I think I told you I went to that little elementary school around the corner from where you live now. It was about 65/35 AA then, but a lot of the swiss kids were from Fort Mac & had been all over the world.

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
1:05 pm

Gave birth prematurely.
He died.

Luvbug

April 8th, 2010
1:05 pm

the punani didn’t even look real and the way the doc was stretching it out to get the head through just had me sitting like

Slim- The description of that alone made me pass out…I’m now typing from the other side.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
1:06 pm

Dig That, once you grow up with doing it all of the time, you get used to it. Nothing like raising chickens, cows and pigs. Giving them names treating them like pets then killing them and eating them one day :) Every Christmas we would give out half a cow to each family member and a pig, both butchered in addition to regular gifts.

Raqi

April 8th, 2010
1:06 pm

in a high school with about 500 kids in it?

We had a little over 300 kids in our senior graduating class.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
1:07 pm

Dig That – I was the one with the camera doing video as well as taking still pictures…my sister said it was even hard for her to watch it and it was HER pdssy. lol But i’ll tell you this. Every time I get to the part where the head comes all the way out I just want to tear up. My cousin got had 2 kids within the same year and No they aren’t twins. LOL I was like chile, I know you didn’t wait no 6 weeks and you must know everything is still wide azz open in there!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
1:07 pm

Sexy Cool, I am sorry to hear that. You would have raised a nice young man with no room to be a punk at all.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
1:09 pm

SCool, I agree with Carlito on his 1:07

Melo

April 8th, 2010
1:10 pm

Giving them names treating them like pets then killing them and eating them one day Every Christmas we would give out half a cow to each family member and a pig, both butchered in addition to regular gifts.

@Carlito!

awesome..i remember all our cows had names too and bells on their necks so we cld be able to hear the bells find the cows when we went out to look for them at pasture.
So connected to nature.

I miss those days and I will volunteer to go out with the cows to pasture for at least 4 or so hours when i go back home.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
1:10 pm

“I’m now typing from the other side.”

@luvbug :lol: Tell my white grand pappy I said Wut up dawg! lol

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
1:10 pm

Yep. Raqi –
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
“Well I was born in a small town”
John Mellencamp

JtJ

April 8th, 2010
1:11 pm

Afternoon All,
Date Jesus- I was like WHAT!!!! When I saw the title. I agree with most that we are all evolving and changing daily, as such, our standards and should evolve likewise. I don’t believe your standards should change that much, if they are realistic from jump street, and they closely match what you bring to the table in a relationship.

I have to be honest, my standards were simple when I met JT, fresh off a divorce, I knew I couldn’t go into a relationship asking him to be “all that”, when I wasn’t. I didn’t go looking for a “specific man”, but I found one who happened to not be looking either.

@ Sexycool—Your sentiments for “The Dude” are similar to mine. JT wasn’t dark and tall, but he is on the most loving and giving people. I have ever met. Sometimes, too giving. We didn’t seek out each other, we just allowed the commonalities of our lives allow our paths to cross, we saw that we had a lot in common and there was instant attraction upon our first face-to-face meeting.

Also SexyC- I read your comment about Trey Songz and I saw a pic of him yesterday all oiled down with boxers on…someone commented and said “he looked like a greased-up Cornish hen with that lil chest”. I LMBO at that one. Someone else wrote “ Cute, but he had crabs!! Eeww. “ He’s a lil cutie, but I almost feel like a perv for thinking anymore of him. I guess because of his age.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
1:11 pm

“still wide azz open in there!”

That is putting it mildly. I was like dayum. Actually it happened so fast that I was trying to get out the room. When we brought her in I got trapped between the bed in the corner and the nurse was like too late to move now, and I was forced to watch. And I thought the worst part was watching the baby come out. Nope it is even more gross when the placenta comes out. That threw me for a loop, I thought something was wrong. The nurse looking at me like you silly fella.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
1:13 pm

SlimCoo-Coo??

was ur sis hubby present??

and uall take a video of smebody’s punani at child birth and watch it at home with the whole fam..male/femalecousins and nephews etc?? :lol:

See,this is why Osama and his crew hates us! :lol: :lol: :lol:

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
1:13 pm

Aw, shucks. Thanks, guys.
I was just sharing the story with a friend yesterday.
Looking back, it’s just one of those things that happens to you, that becomes a part of your history, shapes how you think and act and makes you who ya’ are.
Good, bad and ugly.
It is what it is.

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
1:16 pm

JtJ – Yeah. That Trey is a young’un.

Luvbug

April 8th, 2010
1:17 pm

“he looked like a greased-up Cornish hen with that lil chest”

LOL…blacked out…now I’m back on this side

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
1:19 pm

Melo, country living is a great experience. Everyone pitches in. :) Didn’t you hate it when the cows would get out?