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Date Jesus

Atlanta’s own Chilli (of TLC fame) is the focus of a new dating reality show on VH1.  This is the same network that brought such shows as Tough Love, Rock of Love, and now What Chilli Wants.  Well, according to the trailer, what she wants is too much, which is why she has had problems finding the one.

I’m sure in some bizarro world of reality television, Chilli Photo: Gossip on This could actually have a problem with a dating relationship.  I’m curious enough to watch just to see if she struggled with some of the same hangups many of us had and may still have.  Finding random and nonsensical reasons not to give someone a shot.

Watching a few scenes from the show made me laugh out loud, especially when Chilli’s friend, music producer,  Missy Elliot said she should just “Date Jesus”.  Clearly she was implying that no person walking the earth could meet any criteria that is totally unrealistic.

However, for argument’s sake, if anyone could pull off having a firm grip on a dating checklist, why couldn’t she? The woman is beautiful, famous, and probably has a pretty sweet personality.  Why shouldn’t she have her bar set pretty high?

Would someone that was not in the limelight actually handle dating her with finesse and class?

I’m just wondering, is it about settling for someone you don’t want or dating Jesus? Isn’t there another door or A new option that we don’t talk about: staying unmarried?

Do you think that every single/uncoupled person who has not met the one should reconsider all of their standards? Is  waiting for  as long as it takes to find the one a selfish and unrealistic decision?

528 comments Add your comment

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
10:28 am

Attraction is a must be4 u discuss a lot of stuff.

Otherwise u bound to cheat on him/her down the road if u not attracted.

Melo- Agree totally, that’s what I meant by “problems down the line”!

SexyCool

April 8th, 2010
10:31 am

#RandomThought – Trying to decide if I think the *verse* tatted on Trey Songz chest is sexy or extra or both.

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
10:33 am

Melo,

I will agree that attraction is a must, but I have seen some folks that were not attractive, but charming with confidence and the physical became less important. It is almost like these people can “sell” themselves without trying.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
10:34 am

Yep Melo. You said it. Attraction is above all. So that is why I never understood the list. Whether it is listed as number 1 of 50 it is still number 1. Women always say they want a “good man” but what does that really mean because there truly are a lot of them out there, but most women wouldn’t give them the time of day.

CoolShadow

April 8th, 2010
10:34 am

@SexyCool – your 10:15 was a excellent distinction between preferences and standards.

Kym

April 8th, 2010
10:35 am

kimmie I told ya’ll I made the mistake of going to Lenox Mall after 1 on a Saturday and during some kind of Awards weekend. All these jokers rolling up in rented rides and all these “Will cluck for a buck..” ladies are posted up trying to put their bids in. I kept thinking..”that prince and porshe are going to turn into a pauper and a pumpkin come Sunday afternoon..when he has to turn in that car..”

i'm swiss

April 8th, 2010
10:35 am

“Light skin (Loves me a light skin man)”

SexyCool — ‘Sup, baby? Name’s swiss. How you doin’? :lol:

SexyCool

April 8th, 2010
10:37 am

Look at TheCheese – trying to get me cut.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:38 am

Hold own swiss, I am light skin as well. You have to share. I am on a horse and my car has no pollen on it. I am clean like that :)

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
10:38 am

Professor – I agree with your 10:33, because I have found myself attracted to some guys that were not what I normally found physically beautiful, but there was something magnetic about them. But I’m not talking about them. There are some folks, be it physical or personality, you just won’t find them attractive in any way. At least not enough to create any kind of chemistry where a relationship could evolve.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
10:39 am

Speaking of Pretty vs Ugly. I am amazed that someone as ugly as Steven Tyler from Aerosmith could have a daughter as beautiful as Liv Tyler. Her mother must have been a knockout if she is the average of the two parents genes. The only thing that keeps him from being the ugliest performer is that Mick Jaggar is still around. I would add Keith Richards in to but he’s been dead (cadaver that walks) for years but his body hasn’t realized it somehow. The drugs just have somehow preserved his body.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:39 am

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:40 am

Randyt, the look alike to me. That is why I refuse to find her attractive.

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
10:40 am

whew!! busy morning already, and the blog is jumping. that should keep me awake :) i have no material requirements (cars, home, designer duds & such), but i don’t deny the physical attraction is a must. it’s not like i have a template that you MUST fit, but let’s face it … if i don’t find you appealing at first or second glance, i’m not likely to let you get close enough to dazzle me with your personality.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
10:41 am

“The drugs just have somehow preserved his body”

I have always thought the same thing. Amazing Randyt

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
10:41 am

In 2010 something about the Light skin notion causes me to blink twice and shiver.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
10:42 am

@ Carlitto

I have always found her looks to be “exotic” and “different”. Works for me ;-)

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
10:42 am

Dig – But what one deems “good” is not the same as what another deems good. You see guys and think hey, he’s a decent guy, clean & neat, not a serial killer, got a steady respectable job. He could be an absolute a-hole and hard to get along with behind closed doors. Or nice and a lady might give him a chance, but they just didn’t click, things didn’t work out.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
10:43 am

but I have seen some folks that were not attractive,

@Proff!

I wld think that was ur subjective opinion and not theirs. U know we all feel differently as regards attraction to certain pple.

I can,for example see the objective beauty of a beautiful light skinned chic,but im rarely attracted to them(light skins) Let a dark or fade-to- brown sister with jiraffe legs step on the podium and Melo starts frolicking crazy!

I Cant explain it!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:43 am

Bebe Buell, is her mother. She is not the easiest on the eyes. LOL

Kym

April 8th, 2010
10:43 am

Randy..you know if the gal has a nice personality..you could buy her a set of teeth..LMAO.

Is it Friday yet?

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:44 am

Randyt, I did not say I would not, I just would not tell anyone. LOL

I like light skin women all the way to a deep brown skin woman. Blurple women are not attractive to me.

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
10:45 am

Kym – It’s Friday for me :-D

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:46 am

Might as well be Friday for me. I am not going back to the office until Monday. :) I have some “company” coming in for the next 9 days. :) :) :) :)

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
10:49 am

Kym this gal would be butt ugly if she had 50 teeth. I flew back in yesterday and did at least see some 6’s and 7’s…most too young for me. Speaking of “13s” (re Elin aka a “10″ with a “3″ iron) how is Tiger doing so far today?

The "preaching" Professor

April 8th, 2010
10:50 am

jiraffe legs step on the podium and Melo starts frolicking crazy!

Melo,

I am going to let that one rest I don’t want you frolicking crazy!

:grin:

I will say this I think confidence and charm goes far especially when a woman is looking at a man. There is an attraction, maybe even a powerful attraction when a man walks in confidence…his swag goes up a few notches. IMO

Melo

April 8th, 2010
10:50 am

Speaking of “13s” (re Elin aka a “10″ with a “3″ iron) how is Tiger doing so far today?

@Randyt

he wont tee off untill around 1.30/45 pm

Hindu Elvis Pimp

April 8th, 2010
10:50 am

There is a lot of pollen.

SexyCool

April 8th, 2010
10:52 am

Soundtrack for today – Raheem Davaughn – “The Love and War Masterpiece”

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
10:53 am

@ Kym nice personality non-withstanding, a woman (or a man) needs to at least not hurt your eyes!!! Superficial, I admit, but as they say “beauty is skin deep, but ugly cuts to the bone”.

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
10:53 am

KYM Between the book theory and the spending rent on the rental… LOTSA dudes know that it’ll pay off cuz ain’t that many random women bothering with looking beneath the surface or the initial wine and dine. And if he was interested in a quality woman, he probably wouldn’t be leading with all that so as not to distract her with pretty shiny thangs. The idealist in me says that genuine people want to be wanted for who they are, not what they have.

DREAMS Good question and uhmm just don’t think I could hang with a Jesus clone. He’s the original Capn’ Save Em. I’m pretty content with most of my perfect imperfections and I don’t want someone tryna fix me all the time. But a few of his stellar traits – the humility, the way he shared his teachings but didn’t beat you over the head with em and of course his problem solving abilities, would have me like La La La La ♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪•*¨*•.¸¸♥ La La La La…

abc

April 8th, 2010
10:54 am

What kind of idiot would it take to touch Chilli with somebody else’s 10 foot pole? Ya kiddin! Plus, stop watching reality television, it ain’t real, and it will probably have an overall side effect of lowering your IQ!

One can be to fussy about who and what they want, and/or one can be not fussy enough. I’ve been both ways. Being lucky is worth a lot more than being good at it.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
10:54 am

Speaking of Tyler, a lot of times, 2 average-looking parents make the best looking kids. It’s like they take the best from each parent!lol In contrast, I’ve seen 2 absolutely gorgeous people make a so-so looking kid.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
10:54 am

Thanks Melo. I might try to find a pub here with the Masters on.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
10:55 am

“But what one deems “good” is not the same as what another deems good.”

Kimmie- So true. But that is why I never understand when women say there are no good men out there or they can’t find one. Ex. I can truly admit that women would always flock to me when I wasn’t worth shyt and give me their all and clearly I wasn’t relationship material. Pass 6 probably “good” guys and gather round me. These other men would probably wine them and dine them and make them feel loved and adored. I just made them feel some other things. Is it that their priorties are screwed or they are not being true to themselves.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
10:56 am

Jesus was the original Capn’ Save Em? LOL, Elvis has left the building.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
10:57 am

@Melo

I caught small bits and pieces of criticism of Tiger after they aired his Nike commercial. Did you see it?

SexyCool

April 8th, 2010
10:59 am

kimmie – “I’ve seen 2 absolutely gorgeous people make a so-so looking kid.”

Yep. Look at lot of them celebrity kids. A *lot* of them are just *precious* and a lot more of them are *Precious.*

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
11:00 am

LMAO @ SexyCool!! that was sooooo true wrong :lol: :lol: :lol:

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
11:00 am

I found it odd the way Payne sat in judgement of Tiger. Especially considering the Master’s policy on women and their late decision on minorities. Also he never addressed the other drunken philanderers, who have won and participated there, ever. I am glad that Augusta is not a part of the PGA and it is it’s own thing.

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
11:01 am

“just don’t think I could hang with a Jesus clone.”

@mytwo- Baby that is so funny. There is nobody on earF that could endure that kind of relationship. Somebody on your back ery 5 seconds counting your sins and you can’t even get none cause you spend most of your nights cuddling and repenting. LMAO!!

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
11:03 am

He really was, CARLITO. And I luv that he’ll forgive my blasphemy. Now I’m not dealing with you and ya ‘blurple’ cuz I know they don’t get like that in MN, do they?/

RANDY I may be biased cuz his group is one of my faves, but I think both of his daughters are attractive although he looks like a caricature. Mia was a very successful plus sized model.

The thing about us is that we really want to understand and quantify stuff that at the end of the day doesn’t matter. Attraction does not always make sense. Someone’s charisma and energy will have you feeling an inner pull that you can’t necessarily explain, but we’re so stuck on not knowing why we’re attracted to this person, that we don’t focus on the facts. We’re attracted! Why not just go from there?

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
11:04 am

The Masters is a private tournament ran by Augusta National, not the PGA. Does Augusta National allow minorities or women to join yet?

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
11:05 am

why focus on the negative? wouldn’t it be nice to have a man that can heal the occasional cramps, migraine, bloating and zits with a simple touch?

Melo

April 8th, 2010
11:06 am

@Dig, i havent seen it yet,read about it tho,featuring his dad

@Carlito

The Payne thing is a Masters tradition,every chairman does a State of the Golf/Masters address.

It wld have been so hypocritical to talk about everything else and not the Tiger’s scandal and its influence,esp on kids.Augusta is a kids/family friendly place

He(Tiger) is golf biggest star!

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
11:08 am

Dig – Some people have a magnetism about them. You obviously have that, even though you said at the time you were not about much. They had to get to know you to find out that about you though. In the meantime, those other guys deep down were probably not about shyt either, but they didn’t have the magnitism that you have to attract women. Some folks just got it and some don’t. I can’t explain it, but don’t put all the blame on the women. Some folks might be nice, but have no personality, no confidence, they have it written all over their faces and women can sense it. I have to be honest & say the pickings are kinda slim out here. With all the issues facing the AA community, don’t you think at least some of that might have affected the marriage pool? Even Baisden said it on his show. He was saying the same things you are saying, but he had to admit that if he wanted to introduce his sister to someone, he couldn’t think of even one guy. I’m not saying women are off the hook either, but it’s not easy.

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
11:09 am

Thanks, DIG THAT, for raising the blasphemous bar a bit higher. Do Not wanna think bout JC gettin’ it in! Talking bout penance is12 Hail Mary’s…

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
11:10 am

mytwcents, yes they get like that in MN. Jesus was gangster, he said what he had to say and walked off. When people had something to say about him, he just flipped it on them and walked off. When they asked him where he was going, he just said “about my father’s business” “Oh there ain’t know wine for the party? Watch this…”(water to wine) Jesus was the original OG. “Oh, yall are just going to kill me like this, yall can’t keep me down. I’ll be back” ( Terminator stole his line)

On a serious note, if man is to be more “Christ Like” and a woman will not date a “Jesus”. Well…….

Dig That

April 8th, 2010
11:11 am

I can dig that kimmie.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
11:12 am

Melo, just like when Tiger won the first time and the comment was made I guess the awards dinner will be fried chicken? Doesn’t that require a response?