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Date Jesus

Atlanta’s own Chilli (of TLC fame) is the focus of a new dating reality show on VH1.  This is the same network that brought such shows as Tough Love, Rock of Love, and now What Chilli Wants.  Well, according to the trailer, what she wants is too much, which is why she has had problems finding the one.

I’m sure in some bizarro world of reality television, Chilli Photo: Gossip on This could actually have a problem with a dating relationship.  I’m curious enough to watch just to see if she struggled with some of the same hangups many of us had and may still have.  Finding random and nonsensical reasons not to give someone a shot.

Watching a few scenes from the show made me laugh out loud, especially when Chilli’s friend, music producer,  Missy Elliot said she should just “Date Jesus”.  Clearly she was implying that no person walking the earth could meet any criteria that is totally unrealistic.

However, for argument’s sake, if anyone could pull off having a firm grip on a dating checklist, why couldn’t she? The woman is beautiful, famous, and probably has a pretty sweet personality.  Why shouldn’t she have her bar set pretty high?

Would someone that was not in the limelight actually handle dating her with finesse and class?

I’m just wondering, is it about settling for someone you don’t want or dating Jesus? Isn’t there another door or A new option that we don’t talk about: staying unmarried?

Do you think that every single/uncoupled person who has not met the one should reconsider all of their standards? Is  waiting for  as long as it takes to find the one a selfish and unrealistic decision?

528 comments Add your comment

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:50 pm

I sure hope she is not pregnant.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:50 pm

Dreams – I get what you are saying and agree. I’m talking about folks that have NO boundaries where their kids are involved. The kids run the house.

One of the reasons why I love my SO is because of the type of father he is. I know he would take a bullet for them if need be. But HE’S the parent, they don’t run him or the house.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:52 pm

is that her hair? prolly not. not joking . . . i don’t know one black chick who don’t wear a weave, piece, lace front, etc. ev1 in Vegas was sport’n ‘em! lol.

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
4:55 pm

i don’t know one black chick who don’t wear a weave, piece, lace front, etc
(sigh) what’s wrong with our own hair?

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:56 pm

@ abc

I see more divorced teachers on Match and eHarmony than any other profession by far. I suspect that a great number of their marriages ended because they were too blind to see what that dedication/obligation was doing to their marriages.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:57 pm

@Dreams
i asked that too, but silently.

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
5:00 pm

Ang – Most of the chicks that blog (that I know personally) don’t wear any of that.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
5:02 pm

i guess here in Cali it’s that thang to do! like an accessory. and i forgot to mention braids down the back.

Luvbug

April 8th, 2010
5:04 pm

what’s a “no cook day”?

Dreams – For me, it means when nothing hits the stove. LOL

Carlito – Salad is good…but it would take too long for me to prep everything but the green part. I’ve never made homemade soup…I skip canned b/c it usually includes a lot of sodium. I may actually start making sandwhiches again…but not with the cold cuts…maybe bake a cornish or something and slice the meat.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:06 pm

Luvbug, just keep some cheese, tomato and mushrooms at the ready it you will be eating in 5 minutes or less. Unless you are a perfectionist LOL

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
5:07 pm

Poor RANDY, put behind pets and all. Now that’s A BIT MUCH! You still have the desire to get back out there, so good for you. My2 mighta been on serious hiatus like, I reeelly gotta evaluate why his Iguana is mo’ important than me…

OK. That sounds reasonable DREAMS. Can’t imagine she’d get that far if she didn’t have their well being in mind, anyway…

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
5:07 pm

s/o is at my place making me dinner as we ’speak’. traffic on 78 better not be a b!tch today!!!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:08 pm

Here Lizard Lizard.

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
5:09 pm

BEAUTIFUL Who are your people??? I love my hair. Even when I’m fighting not to get a press. I don’t even do braids (with more than my own) that often. Just got some for the first time in like hmm 7 or 8 yrs and almost ready to switch.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
5:10 pm

cornish hen is a good idea!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:11 pm

I have to go to the airport at 830 tonight, I am going to miss survivor.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
5:11 pm

females i work with, go out with, FB classmates!

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
5:15 pm

CARLITO That’s why it must be DVRed. Gotta luv Russell.

Maybe it’s a Cali thing? Some hair trends are really regional. I think there’s a lotta Natural gals in Atlanta who will just rock it fro out, but in other cities the Natural gals stay pressed out. I’ve been missin’ my short n sassy, tho. I have Hair A.D.D. Help!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:16 pm

Russell is the MAN! Very smart.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:17 pm

My brother is here, I should send him to go get her. LOL

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
5:17 pm

makes a lot of sense! a chick rock’n a fro in Cali gon get talk’d about. lol.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
5:18 pm

you know our sh*t gotta be flow’n and silky. lol.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:19 pm

Just let your soullllll glowwwwww

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:21 pm

Tiger, looks like he is about to Birdie

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
5:22 pm

u talk’n 2 me? i’m all naturaaal. lol. thanks grandma, love and miss you!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
5:22 pm

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
5:24 pm

interesting, cuz i thought atlanta was the weave/wig/extension capital of the black world. perhaps second only to LA.

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