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Date Jesus

Atlanta’s own Chilli (of TLC fame) is the focus of a new dating reality show on VH1.  This is the same network that brought such shows as Tough Love, Rock of Love, and now What Chilli Wants.  Well, according to the trailer, what she wants is too much, which is why she has had problems finding the one.

I’m sure in some bizarro world of reality television, Chilli Photo: Gossip on This could actually have a problem with a dating relationship.  I’m curious enough to watch just to see if she struggled with some of the same hangups many of us had and may still have.  Finding random and nonsensical reasons not to give someone a shot.

Watching a few scenes from the show made me laugh out loud, especially when Chilli’s friend, music producer,  Missy Elliot said she should just “Date Jesus”.  Clearly she was implying that no person walking the earth could meet any criteria that is totally unrealistic.

However, for argument’s sake, if anyone could pull off having a firm grip on a dating checklist, why couldn’t she? The woman is beautiful, famous, and probably has a pretty sweet personality.  Why shouldn’t she have her bar set pretty high?

Would someone that was not in the limelight actually handle dating her with finesse and class?

I’m just wondering, is it about settling for someone you don’t want or dating Jesus? Isn’t there another door or A new option that we don’t talk about: staying unmarried?

Do you think that every single/uncoupled person who has not met the one should reconsider all of their standards? Is  waiting for  as long as it takes to find the one a selfish and unrealistic decision?

528 comments Add your comment

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:15 pm

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:15 pm

I had nothing to do with the mother so how could I blame her

@Kimmie!

not u but the mother caused the situation.

2 years is a long time for a man to start thinking about the actual day he had sex with u and think, :oops: sme happened that day to cause that??

I dont blame him coz any man would do that

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:16 pm

2 under par
@Carlito

isnt he even..i have the leqderboard on esp.com

must be live on espn now..will check

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:17 pm

lol @ Carlito! i’m imagining that a man should start out young so it won’t build up.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:17 pm

Professor, Mommy or Daddy regardless of who the bios are? I think that Steve is wrong. You can discipline the step etc but there is only one mom and dad. Especially if they are still active in their life. IMO But I do not have kids or married but I would imagine that is not cool

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
4:18 pm

RAndy – Yeah I think there is a balance and a good relationship it wont even be an issue..

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:18 pm

@Carlitto good point. I’ve met some that surpised the you know what out of me.

@ Beautiful one has to define for themselves what actions make one a “Closet freak”. My ex father in law sexually abused my ex-wife when she was a teen…and ruined her sexuality for life. As far as I know to his death bed never saw what he did as wrong. People don’t often see clearly when looking in the mirror…and for the record, it is a good thing the ba%tard never walked between me and the cliff edge. I’d like to see if he could fly.

Tazzee - 36 days til Mrs.

April 8th, 2010
4:19 pm

If you don’t put your spouse before your children, you’ve either got the wrong mate, or you’ve got it seriously twisted.

My fiance’ puts me first. Granted his kids are teenagers. The thing is, him putting me first will never result in his kids getting neglected. I’m the one that makes sure he does all he can to show the girls I’m not taking their Dad from them. One day his son was nutting up (one day? seems like every day) and he told his son that he was NOT going to come between us. At first I felt bad for the Teen, but after his repeated nutting up, not so much.

Kym

April 8th, 2010
4:20 pm

The term now is blended families…speaking of families Does anyone watch the show Modern Family…I love that show!!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:20 pm

LOL

Melo, yes he is 2 under. It is live on ESPN now and the masters website has it live as well on their leader board. Els is one under, I have him and TIger fighting for the win. I think Tigers eagle was the only eagle of the day so far
http://www.masters.com/en_US/index.html

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
4:20 pm

ABC That’s why I said if the date becomes the actual mate the dynamics should shift. But obviously, I don’t mean this in a man/woman on a pedestal and the kids are peons kinda way. I think that’s how some may interpret that whole thing.

BEAUTIFUL It’s always possible that ya got your social networking in a tizzy. Then again, I don’t catch every post. Let’s face it, I just wanted to harrass you so ya know I care!

KIMMIE This was an entertain MELO kinda day for me. We already know that when in doubt, and even if he ain’t, that cat’s gonna blame the one with a uterus. At least he’s consistent.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:21 pm

Melo – Whatever his feelings about the child or the mother, he’s writing a check every month. We’re getting closer, it’s been a year. Tell me what’s going on.

Plus, as I said Melo, knowing what I know now, he was probably lying about how the whole situation went down. He had surgery on his leg & lied to me about when he had it. I didn’t here from him for a few days & he had snuck off & had the surgery. Ran into his mom & she told me. The daughter & mother could have been up at the hospital for all I know! He’s a sh**head!

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA MR. THROWED

April 8th, 2010
4:21 pm

Thats why The disclaimer is always out there.. So when she feels he is more important than her child.. Then she can send him to Dads home.. We wont have that problem at my spot.. I believe in sacrifices and I can sacrifice a little time in order for him to grow up.. If I find a secial lady in that time frame then cool she will fit in the equation and Lil Buddy will be old enought to behave on his own cause he know Daddy will get at him..

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
4:22 pm

Kym – I was watching it last night after I made the decision to be a *couch potato*. I like it and The Middle. Although with The Middle, I only really like the little kid.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:22 pm

Randyt, those surprises are great :)

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:23 pm

OK..im out,,going to the break room for golf!

@Carlito..he had an eagle on #7 thats why!

this heiffer’s work will have to wait for tonite!

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
4:23 pm

Closet Freak is one of my favorite Cee-lo songs. Wanna hear it right now…

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:23 pm

mytwo – You right, I should have known!lol!

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:24 pm

kimmie, you said sh**head. Potty mouth :)

abc

April 8th, 2010
4:24 pm

Mother and Father are roles, not just biological function. If in a blended family and the parents don’t allow each other the roles, it’s just a disaster waiting to happen. When it happens in a family where they’re the biological parents of the children, it’s just a serious dysfunction. The ones who suffer from the selfish stubbornness that causes such behavior are the kids.

A teenager trying to come between you and your fiance is a case in point, Tazzee. He’d like to reinforce the power he holds over his father, that you don’t hold; he asserts that he is in a position superior to yours in that regard. It’s just bad for the teen, if allowed to persist — he learns to become a big fat jerk! Kudos to your fiance for shutting that down.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:25 pm

Carlito – I call em like I see em!lol!!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:25 pm

@ Carlitto great if you don’t start asking “who IS this person I thought I knew???” LOL

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:26 pm

that cat’s gonna blame the one with a uterus

@Mytwo!

Uall know,and it has been proven,MEN are the most important species on earth!

good nite! :lol:

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:27 pm

Randyt, the late surprises are the ones that feel good but make you wonder. Where did you learn that or why have you been holding back?

SlimCoo-Coo

April 8th, 2010
4:28 pm

Yall have a good one…i’m outta here! :-D

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
4:29 pm

this is all another example of growth and learning. i was 21 when i married and 23 when we had our daughter. i loved her more than life itself and, yes, even more than i loved my hubs. he moved down a rung on my priority ladder when she came along. NOW i have a better understanding of balance. albeit easier because my kids don’t need me as much, but still.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:29 pm

OMG, Tiger’s father in Buddha heaven must have just helped him with his last shot. Old Tiger just came out in full force.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:30 pm

@ abc I agree to an extent with your premise. I think the danger lies when either the new SO or the children are not mature enough to compromise…and as a man, it is your responsibility to draw the lines both with the kids AND the new SO. It can’t be one or the other…it has to be a relationship that builds all…with boundaries.

Melo

April 8th, 2010
4:30 pm

Oh,one more!

just watched one hole,the muthfccker is unfazed. Hes about to go 3 under…he a beast.

That slutfest cleansed his system fo sho! :lol: :lol:

Tazzee - 36 days til Mrs.

April 8th, 2010
4:30 pm

Kym – last night was the first time I watched Modern Family in its entirety and it was hilarious! I need to tape it because I’ve heard it was good, but could never catch it.

mytw♥cents

April 8th, 2010
4:31 pm

WTFeva and a good nite to you too, TIGER ZULU!!!!

INFAMOUS & DREAMS What kinda putting herself before the offspring behavior do you imagine might hinder a relationship? Cuz I’m thinkin’ a chick gettin her grown woman all ain’t tryna be pouty and competing with a child. However, if your children supercede EVERYthing and no one can tell you ANYthing when it comes to them, it seems like that would be a detriment.

abc

April 8th, 2010
4:34 pm

czBrat, almost all men experience that with the birth of their first child. They don’t just come down a notch or two in their wife’s priorities, they fall off the list altogether. I find that many times, a mother that is dissatisfied with her husband’s parental and spousal performance has helped to cause the condition herself by downgrading his importance of her own accord.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:36 pm

is that Chilli’s real hair? i don’t like it. :( i’ve seen much cuter pics of her.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:36 pm

He is under 3 now. 1,100 yards in six shots. The commentators are saying he is feeding off of the crowd. They are playing in the rain and wind as well. If Tiger gets in his mind that he can win this thing look out. I wonder when Els is going to kick into gear.

kimmie

April 8th, 2010
4:36 pm

However, if your children supercede EVERYthing and no one can tell you ANYthing when it comes to them, it seems like that would be a detriment.

My2 – Now THAT is where issues come in & I refuse to deal with folk like that & their usually bratty kids!

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:38 pm

bad hair day . . . we all have ‘em!

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:38 pm

I could tolerate being less than my children..It was being put behind pets, work, and her family that caused the major resentment…and probably several others I am forgetting.

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
4:41 pm

i feel ya, abc. and i’ve often felt badly for the ex because i know parenthood changed our relationship. fact is, he was never parent material and has admitted as much. he felt threatened by anything that meant a change to his lifestyle. of the many kids, ex’s and baby mama’s he has accumulated over the past 20 years, he puts none before himself. all i can say is i have no regret for putting our kids first. someone had to look out for their best interest. i may have risked the marriage in the process, but i’m perfectly ok with that.

abc

April 8th, 2010
4:41 pm

Yeah Randy, been there, done that, got the t-shirt — we must have gone t-shirt shopping in different stores together. It’s a common plight of spouses of teachers and lawyers, but I’m sure not exclusive to those professions; coming in last place in the family derby isn’t that rare; coming in behind the dog is a drag!

SexyCool - CountryGirl

April 8th, 2010
4:41 pm

While I respect a person’s right to feel anyway that they so desire about their kid and place them in whatever order they feel appropriate in their list of priorities, I would have an issue with someone *telling* me that I will *never* come before their kid and then them still expecting ME to give the relationship my 100%.

Carlito

April 8th, 2010
4:42 pm

Randyt, I do not understand people who treat pets better than humans. I think that person has socialization issues. Can’t show real emotions to real people but can to an animal.

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:42 pm

@Randy
i can’t imagine putting anything before my husband. pets??? that’s kwazy.

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
4:42 pm

However, if your children supercede EVERYthing and no one can tell you ANYthing when it comes to them, it seems like that would be a detriment.
It isn’t my intention to imply that my children don’t have any boundaries, but know that I won’t take any decision lightly when it involves them. Someone on the blog posted not too long ago about a wife not allowing her the step kids in the home. That’s a no-go, don’t even have to ponder that one. No woman will ever be in a position to treat my children poorly, and despite what abc says, that’s NOT a “false sense of entitlement”.

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
4:42 pm

LMAO @ Randyt!!! now THAT’s bad :lol: :lol:

Beautiful *Absolutely cannot be you.....I'm way too busy being me*

April 8th, 2010
4:44 pm

abc

April 8th, 2010
4:45 pm

I’d say that’s a case of the other person being unfit to be a candidate or participant, Dreams.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:47 pm

@ Carlitto re: “Can’t show real emotions to real people but can to an animal” This is really close actually. To this day, she, and her whole family for that matter, display a facade and if they have real feelings, can’t express them. I’m the opposite…I can’t keep my mouth shut when it comes to feelings. Strange though, I can shut off all feelings during a crisis, or certain things military. Don’t understand that.

czBrat

April 8th, 2010
4:47 pm

funny you mention her do cuz when i saw the pic i thought ‘hey! looks like my hair.’ and i’m hating it! :lol: my niece cut the layers too short on top, so now i have a lot of fullness on near the scalp but way too thin toward the ends. and my hair is long, so it’s really bugging me.

DreamsMaterialize

April 8th, 2010
4:49 pm

I’d say that’s a case of the other person being unfit to be a candidate or participant, Dreams.
Being an unfit candidate precludes her from being elected. If she has to treat children (or anyone else) badly to feel that she is first, then she can do that somewhere else, but never at the expense of mine.

Randyt (the gal in the drive thru STILL has maybe 14 teeth))

April 8th, 2010
4:50 pm

Yeah abc, teachers are the worst about that. They as so drilled to “serve” they don’t see that they cause others around them to sacrifice too…and not by choice.